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it is to Strawberry Letter. Thank

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you enough you subject. My mama hooked

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me up with her friend. Dear Stephen

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Shirley. I'm a forty year old black

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female and I'm an office manager

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at a small business. The owner of the

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business is an old family friend of my

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parents. He's getting pretty old and

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has had some health issues, so

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his twin brother is helping out with the day

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to day operations. This older

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gentleman is in his seventies and he's

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very sweet and pleasant. He

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comes to work overdressed daily in

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his suit and tie and cologne. He

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started bringing me lunch from home, and

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he's a great cook. He told me

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that he did most of the cooking for his wife,

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and since she's passed away, he doesn't

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have anyone to cook for. The longer

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he stays and helps out. The more he

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talks about missing his wife. He's

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been inappropriate a couple of times, telling

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me he misses holding a woman, and another

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time he told me he loves big breasts

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on a woman. I have big breasts,

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so I've started dressing more conservatively.

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On my birthday last week, he

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insisted on taking me to lunch, and

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I went. I was a little uncomfortable

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because it seemed like we were on a real date.

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I told my parents about lunch, and

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my dad told me to be aware

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of him because my mom is trying to hook

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us up. My mom was smirking

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and said he's a great man and always

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has been. She said he's kind and

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wealthy, and he's crazy about

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me. My dad rolled his eyes

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and walked away. My mom went

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on to say that the old man told them

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I was just his type, and my

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dad didn't like it, but agreed that I am

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old enough to decide what I want

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to do. I told my mom there's

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no way I'm dating their friend, and

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I'm not physically attracted to him at

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all. I told my mom to tell him

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I'm not interested. She told me

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to tell him myself. How

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can I politely tell

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this old man that I

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don't want him. Well,

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I think your mom's right. You should tell him yourself.

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That way, there could be no reason

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for any misinterpretation or any

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mistakes or any of that. He will

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get it. He will understand. And

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I got to ask you, has this ever come

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up between the two of you and conversation,

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because so far I don't think

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it has. You didn't mention in the letter that

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he wants to take it

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any further than this or anything. But

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we all, including your

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parents, we all know that

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he is very much interested in you, and

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at seventy probably

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does want to take to the next level. Since he said

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you're you're his kind of woman. He wants

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to marry you. He wants to get more serious

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with you. So to politely

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let him know. And I appreciate you said politely.

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Um, you know you don't want to crush the guy, so

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you know, to tell him you're not interested. The

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way to do it is just tell him, you

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know, tell him nicely and clearly,

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make it clean. You know, I don't want to lead

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you on. I like you,

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You're a nice guy, but

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I'm you know, I'm not interested. You

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cannot keep going out with him and keep you

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know, coming in close contact with with

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him without him thinking that you

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know, something else's might

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have a chance of going on. You

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know, uh, he might already be

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thinking that because there's no telling what your

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what your mom has told him anyway,

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because she's the one that's secretly trying

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to hook you guys up, according

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to your dad. So I think

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you know, and it's okay. If you're not

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interested, you don't have to settle. You do

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not have to settle, especially if you're not physically attracted

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to him. And that's my answer.

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So just tell him nicely, tell him nicely.

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You can get out of it. He'll understand, Steve

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hopefully. Well,

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you don't want to crush him.

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Oh he's seven.

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He'd be all right. He's had way

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more crushing news and his life stopped

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thinking. Y'all need to stop thinking that old

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people to these fragile individuals.

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Old people know how to suffer

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old people. Man, you date, they're

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good at it. He's seventy

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colored, only water fountains,

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all types of stuff. You too. I don't want

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to date you a hand. He'll

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be fine, But let me tell you a couple

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of things. Now, you farty you

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know, office manager a small business that's

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owned by older friend of your parents. Right

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now, he's getting old,

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got some health issues. So he got

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a twin brother well, which

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means his can't be that far behind.

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You know, they is twins. Now you

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know how

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much long do you think he gonna be hellified?

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But in the words of

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my daddy, any day now,

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oh wow? Uh. You know,

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the older gentleman's in his seventies. He's

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very sweet and pleasant. He comes

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to works overdressed daily in his suit

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and Tieme cologne. He ain't overdressed

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the old player. Why

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is he overdressed? He the head of the company.

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He ain't overdressed. He coming

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fire you all

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this. He

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started bringing me lunch from home. And he's

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a great cook. He told me he did most of the cooking

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for his wife. Since she passed, he doesn't

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have anybody to cook for. So you went. So

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now he coming to work dressed up and

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he aining you lunch. The

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more he talks about missing his wife, the longer

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he stayed. He's been appropriate a couple

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of times, telling me he missholding a woman, and

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another time he told me he loves big breasts

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on the woman. He loves

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yeah, inappropriate. And he says he

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loves, he loves he miss holding

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a woman. He loves big breasts on a woman. Then

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the right of the letter says, I have

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big breast. You know that.

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That's why he said it. Why do you think you're

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getting that food to

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keep him? Don't

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you think he's bringing it food down hill so

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he can watch him lean over and dip in it. That what

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I'll tell you the rest possible re

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enactment when we come back. Yeah, we

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have part we'll have part two of Steve's response

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coming up at twenty three minutes. After my mama

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hooked me up with her friend is the subject.

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We'll be back right after this. You're

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listening show,

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all right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's

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strawberry letter. The subjects my mama

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hooked me up with her friend. Well,

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your mama then hooked you up with this older gentleman

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that's a friend of theirs, that has a company, because

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you'd office manager out there, but

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he didn't got some health issues in sick, and

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his twin brothers helping out for

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the day. They of the operation. Like

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I said earlier, we don't know how much longer.

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That echo one last day. Are twins. Now you

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know, same DNA, so he's

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probably gonna have some health fissure coming up shortly.

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He's in his seventies. He's very sweet and

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pleasant. He comes in to work overdressed.

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That's because he's hitting on you. He bringed lunch

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because he missed cooking for his wife. He could cook.

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He's been inappropriate a couple of times,

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saying that he misses holding a woman

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and all he likes women with big breasts. You

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have big breasts, so you'd

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started dressing more conservatively on

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your birthday last week. He

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insisted on taking me to lunch, and I went

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I was a little uncomfortable because it seemed like we

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were on a real day. Well, what you thought it was?

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Let me take you off for my birthday? Come

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on, now, he'd have told you he liked big breass.

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Ain't you got her? He

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cook it for you? Ain't you eating

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it? He dressing

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up? Ain't you noticed it? My

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mama was smirking. It's

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I was a little uncomfortable as it seemed like we were on

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a real day. I told my parents about lunch,

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and my dad told me to beware of him because

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my mom been trying to hook us up. My

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mom was smirking, and she said he's a great man

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and he always hands being. Says he's kind

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of wealthy, and he's crazy about me. My

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dad rolled his eyes and walked away. My

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mom went on saying that the old man told them

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I was just this type, and my dad didn't

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like it, but agreed that I'm old enough

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to decide what I want to do. I

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told my mom that's no way I'm dating their friend,

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and I'm not physically attracted to him at all. I

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told my mom to tell him I'm not interested. She told

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me, telling me yourself, how can I politely

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tell this old man that I don't want him?

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Well, let's talk about a couple of things. First

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of all, why does your mama think that

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you should date this set me something?

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Your old man? I

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know why, because

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you ain't got nobody, ain't

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had nobody in a while, and ain't

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got nobody on the hook or strangth So,

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now your mama, saying I got to help

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her so she didn't, went and got

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one of her old ass friends. Now

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he's a great ass man for your

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mama,

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but not for you. Well,

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I'm just telling you now to

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daddy. He really can't say nothing because she fought

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it. But

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she ain't attracted to the dude, even

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with all his wealth. She's not attracted to

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him. Now, Yeah,

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so that's it. So Sherley, we're gonna do a reenactment.

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We're out on a date and I want you to just have a

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conversation with me. I'm the old set me old

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dude on the date and you're just trying

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to make general conversation. You're

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trying to kill keep it as bland as possible

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because you don't want me to go nowhere with it.

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But when an old man is locked in, this

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is what you get. Let's go. So

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thank you for bringing me to lunch. How

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is your day? Oh? My day? Good

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now baby girl? Um,

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let's see what's your favorite color

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that you got on right there? Um?

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What kind of car do you drive? By the way,

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I want to ask you what kind of car

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you want? Because

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girl, whatever it is you want to finished started

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driving it tomorrow. How did you

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said the keys yourself? No? Thank

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you, I have my own car. Um?

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How did you learn how to cook? I

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was sitting around one day trying to figure

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out what's it the best way to get to

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a woman's hard. I

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do all the time. Oh

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that's good. What's your pastor's name? I

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don't know. I go in there and pray for you. What

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do you know the name of the church? No,

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I'd helped me Jesus the name

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of it, because

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that's all I say from time I walk in the

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door. So do you serve on

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any boards or anything in church? I

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save you lunch every time I bring it

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in here, Donna?

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How long? How long have you been friends with

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my mom and dad? Long

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enough to get to know you. I don't really like your

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daddy. Yeah, I was gonna say he doesn't

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particularly care for you. Is there a reason for

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that? Because we just going

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really pissing him on? Did Well?

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My mom likes you. My mom thinks

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you're great. Yeah. I think your mother's

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nice too. She's a fine young maid. I think

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she's raised a real princess,

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which is what I'm after right now. So,

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um, let's see. So you

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said you're seventy aj

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number the numbook. But yeah, yeah,

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that's what some people say. I know because

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I'm forty. Um,

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I've been alive seventy long

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years. You know what I'm saying?

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Well, you know, what um have

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you? I'm Class Carter. Have

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you read any good books? Class?

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Have you read any good books lately? Seen any good

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movies lately? I

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was looking in your eyes and that just makes

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me dream all the time, So I don't really

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got to go to movies. I

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record you at work all the time. I got

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you on video. What

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all right? Well, thank you for the lunch. It was great.

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Bye. I don't want you

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bye. Oh that's how you injured?

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Yea, all

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