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Thank you nephew. Subject why is my

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mom sharing my daddy? Dear

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Stephen Shirley. I'm thirty three years old

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and I moved back to my hometown two

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months ago. My dad is ill and

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my mother is doing the best she can to take

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care of him. At least that's what

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she told me. I kicked right in and

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started taking Daddy to the doctor and to

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get his medication. When I couldn't

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do it because of work, Daddy had another

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woman taking him, and I thought she was some kind

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of nurse or assistant that his insurance

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provided. My mom said it was just

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a lady that my dad. Well.

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One day Dad called me and asked me could

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I drop him off at a restaurant and he

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would get a ride home. I took him

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and walked him inside. He

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met with the lady that I thought was his home

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health nurse. He said it was her birthday,

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so I told her happy birthday. I

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called Mama and asked if she

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was going to join them. I didn't care

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if I was being messy by alerting my mom

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that my dad was having dinner with the woman. Mama

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said it's a special occasion

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for her, so she was allowing my dad

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to spend some time with her alone.

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I went by my mom and dad's house to wait

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for Dad with her. He got home three

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hours later and he had a milkshake. He

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said they went for a birthday treat. My

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mom had already gone to bed, so I asked

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him if the woman is a nurse or his girlfriend.

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He said she's a little bit of both, and

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he said to talk to my mom about it. The

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next morning, Mama told me that

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she lets Dad entertain himself in that

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way because he's sick. My dad

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isn't terminally ill, so why

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is my mom allowing this? She

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seems so sad about it. Should I confront

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my daddy about cheating on my mom.

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Look, these are your parents, and

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you can ask them. It's nothing wrong

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with that. But you

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talk to them already and they both gave

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you their answers. The woman is a

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nurse and a girlfriend to your dad, and

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your mom lets him

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see her because he's sick, And as weird

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as it sounds, that's what they told

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you. Obviously, your mom and dad have some

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sort of crazy arrangement going on here.

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Your dad also told you to ask your

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mom, which meant that your mom is

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well aware of what's going on in this situation.

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This is not a secret between them. You

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can ask her if this is making

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her sad, why is she allowing your dad

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to see this other woman? But again, she

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told you because he's sick, she

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knows what he's doing. She didn't even stay up

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and wait for him to get back. She was in bed

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before he got home from his date with the other

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woman. So is she really sad

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about it like you say? And

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your dad might not be that's sick either, not

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if he has the energy to have a wife and

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a side chick. You said he's not

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terminally ill, so this just must

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be something they've decided to do. I

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know you care about what's going on with your

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parents. But as strange as it is, it's

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their business. And don't be shocked if you do confront

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them that they may or may not give you what

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you want. But yeah, this is crazy,

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Steve, ain't no secrets.

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Why is my mom sharing my daddy?

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Well, you Shanny, So

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let's just get into it. You're

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thirty three. You

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to move back to your hometown a couple

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months ago. Your

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dad is ill. Now, y'all ain't saying what he

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got, So I just

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come up with something on my own. Lay, don't

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My mother's doing the best she can to take

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care of him, at least

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that's what she's saying. So you jumped in and helped

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out taking Daddy to the doctor to get his medicine.

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And when I couldn't do it because of work,

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Daddy had another woman taken

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him, and I thought she was some kind

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of nurse or assistant that

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his insurance provided. Well,

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it ain't that the nice cove up he

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got, y'all thinking or you thinking it's

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potentially a nurse that the insurance

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has provided. My

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mom said it was just a lady that my

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daddy know, which

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means your mother is aware of this. Well,

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one day daddy called me in to ask if I

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could drop him off at a restaurant and

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he would get a ride home. Now,

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I'm assuming since

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you came into town and you done jumped in the

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kicky and to take to get his medicine take him to the

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doctor, that you do it when your

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mama came. I'm

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assuming maybe your mama is

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at work with the car.

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See, because I thank your daddy and mama got

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a car. But I think mama got the

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car. She's overwhelmed

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with going to work and taking him places. So

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now you done jumped in and kicked in. So

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this one day he asked you if you could call

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you and ask you if you drop him off at the restaurant,

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he'll get a ride home. This

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is hustling too hard for me. All

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he getting to ride home, got

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a lift app or uber app. But

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he fixed all that because he got this woman.

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So I took him and walked him inside.

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He didn't ask you for that. All

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he did was so how sick is

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he? Where? You got to walk him inside? But

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you took your nose. He ass in that to walk

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him inside this restaurant because

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you wanted to know what was going on.

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He met with the lady that I thought

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was his home hell care, and she is.

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That's what she is. She

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is the home healthcare

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provided. Yes,

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he said it was her birthday, so I told her

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happy birthday. Oh now

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the mama, no, the daddy know. Now

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you done join in talking about happy birthday.

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So now yo, you involved too, now

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cause you at the birthday party. I

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called mama and asked if she was gonna join him.

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And I don't care if I was being messy by a learning

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my mom and my dad was having dinner with the woman.

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When we come back, I'm gonna tell you the rest

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of them, and it ain't gonna be that shocking.

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We'll have part two of your response coming up

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at twenty three minutes after the hour.

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Today's Strawberry letter subject why is my

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mom sharing my daddy? Right after

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this, you're listening hard

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Morning Show. All right, Steve, come on,

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let's recap today's Strawberry letter, the subject

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why is my mom sharing my daddy?

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First of all, this ain't your business, but since

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you want to make it yours, it's

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time for you to have a grown folk. Come

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to Jesus. Now

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your daddy's sick. You to

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move back home. You started helping out,

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taking it to the doctor, getting his medicine. Obviously,

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your mama is still working. Or

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and your mama and they got one car, and your

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mama stay in the car. So now

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when she can't do it, you got

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to do it. And then sometimes

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you got to go to work yourself. And

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so then he had another lady come

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by. You thought this lady was

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the home care health provider.

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The mama know about the lady. The daddy't

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know about the lady. And now you know about

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the lady. So his mama

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was at work and couldn't take him somewhere.

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So your daddy called

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you and asked you if you could drop him off at a restaurant

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and he would get a ride home. Or you're living

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nosey ass. Take him down to the restaurant. You

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walk inside. Now

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if is he is he is, I don't know

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what his sickness is, but he didn't

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need walking inside. But

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you took it in there. And now the lady

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was there, you thought was the nurse. So

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then he said that

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it was her birthday, so I told her

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happy birthday. So now you done joined in and you

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participating in it. The Mama

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know he knew it. So then you went home

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with your little messy self and called Mama and

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asked if she was gonna join him. I

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didn't care if I was being messy by alerting

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my mom that my dad was having dinner with the woman.

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Mama said it was a special occasion

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for her, so she was

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allowing my dad to spend some time

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with her alone. I

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be there. I

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have got to get me a sickness.

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What a work of this

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gotta be right up your ass, boy,

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it's finna be. This is one

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glorious occasion. She

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told you that it's a special occasion, so

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she was allowing my dad's spend some time with her

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lung. I went by mom and Dad's

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house to wait for my daddy with her. He

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got home some three hours later,

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and he had a milkshake. He

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said. They went for a birthday treat. I

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know that's right, And the milkshake

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was just to cover who's

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sure, guy hot in here swinging by steak and shake.

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Girl, let me get that chocolate shirt going.

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So he walked in the house, swirled in the cup.

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They went by for a birthday treat. Now

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they got to be old, so

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now Rupe, you're sitting in the house with Ruby.

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He done just left Estale down

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at the motor end to swing by the steak and

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shake. Now you, Jocelyn,

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you sitting in the house with Ruby and

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a stalon. Just tighten your daddy

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up with a special birthday treat

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and he come back in with a milkshake to

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cover for it. Three hours.

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There's plenty of time. And

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then so I asked him if the woman

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is a nurse or his girlfriend. He

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said she a little bit of

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both, and

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he said, go talk to your mama about it. So

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now the next morning, Mama told me that she lets

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dad entertain himself in

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that way because he's sick.

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We got two sick ass dudes on the show

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right here. We

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got one that's clear and

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we got one that's surviving. So

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now fellas see, y'all ain't

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been using y'all illness system right,

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y'all could have had you an in home

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nurse care provider PROD.

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Boh boy, boy, Now, Tommy,

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I know your wife. You ain't gonna be

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able to sell that one. So you sit

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your ass down to be quiet.

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Junior, You show better

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not say that so

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y'all can take y'allself out of the little

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we sick two categories. It's

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too late for me. I know better than this.

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Right here, My

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dad isn't terminally ill? So

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why is my mom allowing this? She seems

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so sad about it? Should I confront

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my daddy about cheating? No, Mama, what

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are you gonna confront him?

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For?

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Everybody know, yo,

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Mama said, because your daddy

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is sick, she allows this. Now,

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your daddy is not terminally ill, So

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what do your daddy?

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Well, let's talk about your

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daddy had diabetes, he got

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sugar. People with sugar need a lot of other

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sugar. So

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maybe maybe it's that right there, Maybe

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your daddy got a like a heart murmur.

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Maybe your daddy uh

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oh, here we go. Maybe

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your daddy been with your mama so long

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that your mama that got tired of your daddy and

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she don't service your daddy no more. And

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because he's sick, she really don't feel

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like it. So she done gave him permission

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go get service where he want to, because

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I done lost my desire for it. So

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I told your daddy, And then your daddy came

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in here and told me whatever time he got

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left, he won't enjoy hisself. So

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your daddy got a little girlfriend and I ain't going

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nowhere, but I ain't servicing him and she do.

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All right, Steve.

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You can confront your daddy if you want to,

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But your daddy told you going in and ask your

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