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Hello there friends
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both old and new. It's been a
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while since we've last visited
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Welcome to strive seek fine
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podcast, I'm your host chance
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with strive seek find podcasts
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is home to bite sized lifestyle
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advice from a fellow traveler on
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the road to a better life.
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Brought to you by longtime
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educator, writer, parent, and
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outdoor enthusiast, because our
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future is set not just through
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our choices, but our willingness
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to explore and find a better
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way. So this week, it's the
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first episode of season three.
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Admittedly, it's been a long
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time coming. I did a few bonus
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episodes in July. But other than
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that, it's been kind of dark
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around here. I sat back with
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most of this time, and followed
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a little of my own advice. I was
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present with my family, I
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traveled a little bit. The month
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of July, I was gone as much as I
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was at home, between a family
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vacation, which you will hear
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something about in the next few
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weeks to helping a friend move
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to helping a family member. It
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was go go go for a while, while
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I was doing it. When I wasn't at
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work, I was trying some new
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things, and then came back
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around to some old ones. I'm
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looking at you writing, I
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focused on getting my mind
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right, and tried to find cool
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things to do. And because this
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whole process was restorative,
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it got my creative juices
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flowing again. Which leads me to
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the first question of our new
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season. Do you still like to try
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new things? Or is it all just
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variations on what you're
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already comfortable with? And is
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it getting harder to want to try
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something new? Now let's get
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started. While you're growing
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up, there is a expectation to
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try new things, call it
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cultural, calling it eventually
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they want you to be as
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productive member of society,
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call it anything you'd like.
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Obviously, part of this is
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because everything is new to a
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child. And there is so much to
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try to learn that as we get
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older, with our broad range of
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experience, things naturally
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begin to funnel towards things
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we perceive that we are either
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good at, or at least like and we
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begin to shy away from other
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things because of the negative
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perceptions we have of them. So
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back to that expectation. As kid
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you're expected to learn and
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develop skills constantly. And
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thanks to high neuroplasticity,
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it makes learning relatively
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easy. Relatively because when
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you're going through it, it
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still feels harder than hell.
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Think back to that time in your
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life. Can you imagine being
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allowed to try something once
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and being done with it forever?
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I know what happens. But I think
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it's the exception rather than
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the rule. I mean, it's not the
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norm, to have a kid go out to
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one athletic practice and decide
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he's done with the sport
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forever. Because he can't dunk
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like LeBron right out of the
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gate. Or did not learn to read
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because she didn't recognize the
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word dog right out of the gate.
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So pack it up and figure out
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that someone will always need to
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read for you. With children. We
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would consider this behavior
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ludicrous because we expect
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learning to be an incremental
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process for kids to fail on the
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first attempt. Because we keep
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in mind that eventually you're
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going to get better, maybe not
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be great, but get better. As we
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get older, and honestly more
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insecure. It changes whether
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it's wanting to stay in our own
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lane and focus our time and
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attention on things to make us
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feel successful. Or not wanting
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to feel shame or insecurity for
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not being great at something.
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Many of us just stop trying. Or
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we quit after one attempt
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declaring to the world it isn't
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what we're good at. Either way
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as we age, we are more likely to
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start throwing up barriers to
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new experiences. closed doors on
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opportunity East and generally
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start staying in the comfort of
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the straight ahead interstate
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lane that we've created for
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ourselves. And that's a damn
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shame. There's an aphorism out
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there that comfort can make us
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all cowards. And like anyone
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else, I do like to be
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comfortable. But missed
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opportunities and closed doors,
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in my opinion, lead to real
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negative outcomes. And forgive
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me while I while I pull out my
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best, I play a doctor on TV.
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Side effects may include regret,
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regret for the chances not taken
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and the experience you missed as
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you move into a time of your
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life, where you can't try them
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for 100 different reasons. And
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possibly more importantly, in my
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mind, as we get older, we
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naturally become more rigid. And
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one of the greatest ways to
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avoid that is to continue to try
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new things to keep learning keep
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growing. Otherwise you get
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rigid, and rigid things tend to
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shatter. Either way, the cure is
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much better than the disease
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that comes out of not trying. I
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don't feel like I'm alone in
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saying that this is something
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that I need to really work at.
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Because comfort zones are all
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too appealing. I hope you'll
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join me in striving to be more
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like our kids willing to try
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learn, to fail and to get
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better. Because it's only going
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through that that we have the
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ability to drink life to the
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lease as Tennyson put it, and
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keep seeking our own best life.
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How about you? What do you
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think? As we grow older? Are we
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more likely to grow rigid? Or
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are you still excited to seek
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out new opportunities? Please
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reach out let me know your
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opinion. Either on the Facebook
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group, or my emails in the show
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notes. Well, friends, that's it
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for episode 113 of strife seek
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fine. Thanks so much for tuning
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in. If you have episodes,
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suggestions or feedback, or just
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want to chat, join in on the
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leave a review on your favorite
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hosting the show. Until next
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time, keep seeking your own
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brilliant future
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