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Welcome to Stuff Mom Never Told
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You from how stupp Works dot com.
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Hello, and welcome to the podcast. I'm Kristen
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and I'm Caroline, and today we're talking
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to a lady whom we hugely
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admire and have sided so many
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times on stuff Mom Never Told You. Yes,
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I'm super excited for you guys to
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hear our conversation with rad
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lady journalist and podcaster and friedman
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Um. Kristen reached
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out to Anne when we were on our way
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out to California earlier this year
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on the off chance that we might be able to chat,
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and she said yes, And it was one of those things where
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you kind of like do a little happy
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dance, even if it's just in your brain.
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Uh, we're in the gifts that you send each
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other in excitement, right exactly.
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Uh, you know, usually involving
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like champagne or Oprah or something.
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Um to really illustrate the true depth
1:01
of our excitement. Um. But we're
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such a fan of Ants because she is
1:06
such a fantastic writer, and that
1:08
would be enough in and of itself, but
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she really tackles a lot of
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fascinating and fantastic issues
1:16
around women and gender
1:18
and feminism and she's really sort of
1:20
a critical voice in today's
1:22
media. Yeah. I mean, and we've got
1:24
to talk about Call your Girlfriend, her
1:27
fantastic podcast that she co hosts
1:29
with Amnatu. So, um,
1:31
they talk about pop
1:33
culture, politics, feminism,
1:36
this weekend, menstruation stuff.
1:38
I ever told you fans, if you're not already fans
1:40
of Call your Girlfriend, you will
1:43
be and you should be. Yeah,
1:45
And when you hear the conversation,
1:49
I hope it feels like you're in the room with us
1:51
having some lady chat, because I
1:53
know when I really listened to the interview, that's how
1:55
it felt to me. And I was there the first time.
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Um, but we sort of in our
2:00
in our talk with and we sort of give a glimpse
2:02
into what it's like
2:05
to be women whose voices are
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public, whether that means fielding
2:11
uh, responses from listeners
2:13
that are on the positive or the negative end of the spectrum,
2:15
or just grappling with that whole lady
2:17
voice issue, you know, don't apologize,
2:20
don't say sorry, also stay away from vocal
2:22
fry and like, oh, just talking
2:24
about the whole rule book for women's
2:26
voices. And since she's full time freelance,
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we also wanted to talk to her about
2:31
her as a business and a brand
2:34
and the issue of self promotion, because
2:36
this is something that also gets really gendered
2:39
really quickly, and something that women
2:42
might not feel as comfortable
2:45
doing. Um but it's so crucial
2:48
to the way a lot of our
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digital media businesses work
2:53
these days. Um And. Speaking
2:55
of which, for people who aren't
2:57
familiar with an Freedman, let's
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talk a little bit about who she is,
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because she doesn't give like a full
3:04
bio she is and
3:06
Caroline, I felt like such a creeper the
3:09
other night when I was putting
3:12
together you know, this bio that we were about
3:14
to share, and was googling her
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and ended up on her Wikipedia page.
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Um and and felt like a huge
3:22
stalker. Also because reading
3:25
the Wikipedia page, I
3:27
was a little flummix that
3:30
it left out certain things that
3:32
I particularly enjoy about her work, like
3:34
lady swagger that she talks about,
3:36
like shine theory. All of these like cornerstones
3:39
to me of a Freedman's
3:42
work. I was like, who who wrote this Wikipedia
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page? Also, in its description
3:47
um of her as a feminist, it says
3:49
that like n. Freeman has publicly
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identified in speeches as
3:53
a feminist, is very stilted. I'm
3:56
very suspicious of whoever wrote her Wikipedia
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page. But let's give a better or introduction
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than than that Wikipedia page of who who
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Anne is? In not her words.
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Well, uh, she is a
4:09
fellow j school grad yeah,
4:12
and is an Iowa native. She studied
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journalism at the University of Missouri Columbia
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before becoming an editor at Feminist
4:19
NG, which is another resource
4:22
that you and I have sided quite a bit on the podcast.
4:24
Yeah. Then she was in d C working
4:27
as a deputy editor at The American
4:29
Prospect and then hopped over to
4:31
become the executive editor of Good
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Magazine, which, Uh,
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that whole thing went down in flames,
4:39
not because of Anne, but because of some shoddy
4:42
leadership. And I highly recommend
4:44
that you listen to her interview on the She
4:46
Does podcast because she talks
4:49
more about that experience and how it
4:52
fired her up. And she used that
4:54
really negative experience for her and the other editorial
4:57
staffers who were laid off as something really
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amazing. Um, And ever since
5:01
then, she's been building her
5:04
freelance lady empire.
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And let's talk about what what this
5:08
empire consists of. We've got
5:11
her pie chart. She's the mistress
5:13
of gifts. She's a podcast or
5:15
extraordinaire. Can we explain her
5:17
pie charts briefly for those who haven't
5:19
seen our tumbler, Yes,
5:22
please do so. I love her pie
5:24
charts. They're hilarious. I have frequently
5:27
posted them to our sminty tumbler
5:29
Kristen Um. Basically, she takes
5:31
like a current event or just something she's thinking about
5:33
and breaks it down. For instance, she has
5:35
one what are we doing on this airplane?
5:40
Trying to open a third bag of pretzels
5:43
in the least noisy and humiliating way possible,
5:46
crying at a Pixar movie. Just things like that. And
5:48
she's so funny and so
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smart, and I have such a lady crush on her.
5:53
And honestly, the day we met her, she was wearing the most
5:55
fantastic lipstick and I
5:58
just so badly wanted to ask her what kind of lipstick
6:00
it was, but we had just met. I
6:02
didn't know if it would be weird. We were talking about
6:04
feminism, which of course you can talk about
6:07
lipstick and a conversation about feminism, but Caroline,
6:09
I was right there with you. It was this
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incredible bold shade
6:14
of not read yeah
6:16
instead of just asking her about it directly, we're
6:18
now talking about it on a podcast.
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Well here, let me do it and make a non creepy
6:23
transition from the pie charts.
6:25
We can just hop right over cool our
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our lipstick admiration
6:31
and mentioned that if
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you want to see her pie charts every week,
6:36
become a premium subscriber
6:39
to her newsletter,
6:41
The Ann Friedman Weekly, which I also highly
6:44
recommend. I mean seriously, ants,
6:47
ants got at all? And that's why we were both excited,
6:50
also a little nervous slash naushs to
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talk to her in this airbnb
6:55
that we had rented in Silver Lake, which
6:57
was smaller than we thought it was going to
6:59
be and also under construction.
7:02
So thank you for being a good sport and
7:05
and taking the time to talk to us, because obviously
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she's a busy woman and it was just a
7:09
delight to pick her brain.
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So is it time for us to share
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our convo with Anne? Yeah, I'm like
7:17
steel clapping with excitement. Let's roll
7:19
it and the two thinks that we started
7:22
with a question that we have shamelessly
7:24
borrowed from another fabulous podcast you should
7:26
listen to, called Another round Um
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host Heaven and Tracy always asked their guests
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what do you do and why? So we
7:35
asked and and this is what she had
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to say.
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Both of those things have changed a lot
7:44
over the years. So right at this second,
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what do I do? So? I write things
7:50
and I report things. So I asked
7:52
questions and I try to answer questions,
7:55
UM. And I also have this podcast,
7:58
not this particular podcast, a different podcast
8:01
UM where I think I usually
8:05
UM, A lot of the things I work on come from
8:07
some point of conflict or confusion
8:09
within myself. It's like kind of selfish
8:11
where I'm like, I don't know if I feel about that, or I
8:13
don't know what we should do about that, UM,
8:16
or things that friends expressed to me. They
8:18
start from a pretty personal place. UM.
8:21
But I also think I have some broader
8:23
goals and what I do, which is UM.
8:26
One of them is just kind of saying, like, you're not crazy.
8:28
The system is really rigged UM.
8:31
Maybe not totally against you, but like set
8:33
up in a certain way and trying to illuminate some
8:36
of our inherited But
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yeah, so I tried to I ask questions and I answer
8:41
questions, and I talk about questions. That's kind of how
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I think about it. Right now, I
8:45
have to ask and I know you've answered
8:47
this in your fa ques on your website, but I
8:49
have to ask you about lady swagger and
8:52
where it came from, and what is behind
8:54
the lady swagger ethos and how can how
8:57
can other ladies get some lady swagger? I
8:59
think it's an inherent trait and
9:01
in most people have identified ladies. I'll
9:03
just say that, UM, I don't
9:05
know, it's not a real thing. It's kind of a made
9:07
up thing, I guess I UM. I wrote
9:11
several years ago, like probably a little more than five
9:13
years ago, there were a series of articles
9:16
that were about men doing cool stuff
9:18
in media. There was there was there
9:20
were some about like dudes who had started out
9:22
as bloggers growing up and getting cool jobs.
9:24
And then there were some about prestigious
9:26
magazines that all had young male editors
9:29
they referred to douditors. Um.
9:32
And it just it just seemed like at the time this was
9:34
this was two thousand ten,
9:36
two thousand eleven, that there was just
9:38
this like spate of trend coverage
9:41
of like men are doing things. Men they
9:43
got it going on like in media. It was
9:45
really annoying. So I wrote, I
9:48
wrote some parody articles that were sort
9:50
of, you know, mocking that
9:53
micro trend, but also highlighting work
9:55
that women were doing. And one of the um
9:58
one of the articles about men who contained line where
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they described one of these duditors as having a
10:02
kind of low maintenance swagger and
10:05
or something like that. And so and I when I flipped,
10:07
when I reversed the genders to write the parody.
10:10
I wrote it as low maintenance lady swagger
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to describe a woman. I can't remember
10:14
if it was me or another woman I was writing about. UM,
10:18
I don't really know how it like how it sort of became.
10:20
And then I used it as the tagline on
10:22
my tumbler for a long time and then UM,
10:26
I don't know. And then and then when it became and I
10:28
incorporated last year, um,
10:31
and there was this question of like, you know, am
10:33
I just an Friedman Ink
10:35
or whatever? And or do I want a different name?
10:38
It's like I kind of would like a credit card this says
10:40
lady swagger, So
10:43
I have that. I did that. UM.
10:45
I consulted a lawyer friend and I was like, is there any
10:47
reason why I shouldn't have this as my escort
10:51
name? She goes, well, you'll probably
10:53
only use it in tax dealings with the U. S. Government.
10:55
So if you could stand up in court and have the US government
10:57
address he was Lady Swagger, Inc. And I was like in I
11:00
was going out with the paperwork before she was done,
11:02
like just after her advice had filled the g chat
11:04
windows, like typing it on her. So yeah,
11:07
that's a very long answer to say that. I kind of,
11:09
Um, it was not born of like me
11:11
inventing a term. It was a response to something.
11:14
But the the term to
11:16
me just kind of means that, like, you are confident,
11:18
but you're not, like, guess what, I'm so confident, Like
11:21
you know, you don't have to talk about it, and you don't have to like
11:23
make other women feel like they're less put
11:26
together than you to sort of be aware
11:28
that you have it going on. I guess
11:30
because of how I see it now, you said,
11:33
um at the beginning of your answer, like
11:35
people who identify as ladies,
11:38
Like, how would you define a lady? Especially
11:40
these days? I think it's like if you if you identify
11:43
with that term, it's great. I mean I know plenty of women
11:45
who, like some of whom identify
11:48
on the more butsch end of the spectrum who
11:50
would be like, I'm definitely a woman, but I don't call
11:52
myself a lady. Um. I think it
11:54
sort of has like a fami identity connotation.
11:57
Um, I also use that identify us, so
11:59
it's clear that I'm talking about
12:02
any person who might identify that way.
12:05
Um. Yeah, I don't know. Yeah,
12:07
if there's like a lady, I don't know a lady
12:10
ETOs because we've talked. We did a whole podcast
12:12
Hey ladies, like kind of the reclamation
12:14
of the term and how um for second
12:16
way feminists, they were like yeah,
12:20
yeah, and then it just made something different because
12:22
a lot of people woman sounds like their moms,
12:25
and girl is too young? Is
12:28
clinical? Yeah, females clinical or you're
12:30
talking about like horses or dogs or something,
12:33
and yeah, ladies seems to be not
12:36
not quite ironic because
12:38
people really do embrace it, but almost like
12:40
yeah, it's just it's a it's a like almost
12:42
a term of endearment for my my lady
12:45
friends. Yeah, I mean I use it. It's it Actually
12:47
I like to use it as a modifier instead
12:49
of females, so instead of like female swag
12:52
or whatever. But I my grandma always has
12:54
gals she's like, how those gals are running around with? And
12:56
I'm like, which girls have run around with a lot of girls? Um?
12:58
I like gals a lot too, as as
13:00
sort of something that doesn't feel quite so formal
13:03
as to say woman. I also like women.
13:05
I don't know, I don't really, I don't just remain My
13:08
mom is you know, she doesn't want me
13:10
to say, but she's in her late sixties and she
13:12
calls herself and all of her friends girls. You
13:15
know, why doesn't she want you to say? I
13:17
think it's like, I don't know, she's obviously like
13:19
your she's she's she's I don't
13:21
know. It's hard to deny you've been around a certain number
13:23
of decades and you have a children, right, Like
13:25
why why does it matter if you're like fifty
13:28
nine or sixty four or
13:30
like, yeah, I don't know. It could be the
13:32
South Georgia thing, you know. Yeah,
13:34
I didn't know how old my mom was
13:36
until um I was a
13:39
teenager because I finally
13:41
like snuck into her purse and
13:43
looked at her. She wouldn't tell you so
13:45
much. She wouldn't tell me at least
13:48
even still, and even still, she's really
13:50
weird now it's passed along to grandkids.
13:53
Where she turned seventy
13:56
last year and she was like, do not
13:58
tell your nieces and nephew is it's like
14:00
what you looked great for seventy
14:03
should be pumped. That's crazy.
14:06
I would say that, oh, you know, kids are san notorious
14:08
for judging you. But my niece actually put
14:11
me through the ring or questioning me as to why I did not
14:13
have children? How old are you? What job
14:16
do you have? And why don't you have children? I
14:18
was like, you are seven? Do
14:20
were you? Like, let's have a conversation. Why are you
14:22
interested in I have children? Do you have children?
14:25
Did she ask him about the job? First? She
14:28
asked if I was in school? She asked him I had
14:30
a job, and then she's
14:32
just like going through the life stages. You know, Yeah,
14:37
she knew I wasn't married, although I think
14:39
she finds it problematic that I'm
14:41
at this stage and I do have a job,
14:44
but I'm not married yet. She's identity. That's
14:46
basically the cover of dozens of like Newsweek
14:49
millennial trend stories. You know, she's just really
14:51
summed it up there with the confusion. Yeah,
14:56
well, you're a real model for her. She's
14:59
gonna get to she's gonna get to an age where she has a
15:01
job and doesn't have kids and be like, oh, yeah, it's
15:05
so weird. It's weird for other reasons,
15:07
but not that sure. Yeah, apparently
15:09
my my nephews were worried about me for
15:11
a really long time before I
15:13
got engaged. Just my sister informed me. It
15:16
was like, cool, how are they?
15:18
They were like ten, But yeah,
15:21
this is treasure wow
15:24
from children. But back to you,
15:26
and I've never had
15:28
a child questioned my empty womb. It's
15:32
like it makes you want to like, who
15:35
where are they absorbing like these messages?
15:37
I mean everywhere, that's true. But
15:40
yeah, so away
15:42
from away from our empty wounds. We
15:46
didn't want to ask you about the aspect of self
15:48
promotion as like, you know, Lady
15:50
swagger ink um
15:53
kind of how how you approach
15:55
that and your feelings around it. You know, you wrote
15:58
the piece in New Republic about self
16:00
branding and how kind of
16:02
like awkward and bizarre that is. Yeah,
16:05
I don't really know. I mean, I guess part of it
16:07
is, um that if
16:09
I write something that I'm proud of, I want people
16:12
to read it. It's on a basic level of like
16:14
I worked hard for this in the same way, UM,
16:17
in the same way I am interested in like hearing about
16:19
my friend's work and supporting it
16:21
when I can. UM,
16:24
I don't really have I swear
16:26
to God honestly, like a negative flip side of
16:28
that, where I'm like, oh, Caroline
16:31
is my friend, but she hasn't shared any of
16:33
the last five articles that you know. I don't
16:35
really keep tabs on it that way, but I guess
16:37
I tend to think that people who
16:40
I know will want to know when I'm proud of
16:42
something that I've done. So that's like on a basic
16:44
level. UM. I also think
16:46
that as a freelancer, if you are
16:48
not talking about the work that you're doing,
16:51
it makes it harder to get more work. So
16:54
you know, there is I guess you
16:56
can call it self promotion, but part
16:58
of it is also because
17:01
my work is scattered across so many different outlets,
17:04
I'm sort of the one place you can get at all. It's
17:06
like, you know that if I want an editor
17:08
to know what I'm all about and to assign me great
17:10
work, I want them to be able
17:12
to come to a website where I've cataloged all
17:15
of it or come to my Twitter feed and see what I'm thinking
17:17
about lately, and um,
17:19
and that's that's different than just me
17:21
fire hosing what I've made out into the world.
17:23
It's also me you
17:25
know, tweeting about things I'm thinking about, or
17:28
or using using my
17:31
website to high highlight other work that I'm doing.
17:33
And so I don't know. I guess
17:35
I think of it as like just being
17:38
a part of public spaces on the Internet.
17:40
And some of that is sharing what I've made, and some of that's sharing
17:42
what other people have made, and some of that is a lot of
17:44
that is consuming what other people have made.
17:47
It's not I don't know, and and um,
17:49
some of the more concrete questions
17:51
about that that I wrote about in the article for The
17:53
New Republic, which um
17:56
are which sort of get into details of how
17:58
you talk about yourself. You
18:00
know, it's stuff that is like, oh, okay, if
18:02
I incorporate as Lady Swagger, am I going to
18:04
make it an email address and make it a public thing or
18:06
is it just in the documents in hidden way? And
18:09
you know the answer to that is like, I think it's fun. So
18:11
it's you know, semi public. I guess
18:13
it's like I I bought the domain for sure, because like, don't
18:16
ever create a corporation and don't buy the domain name.
18:18
There's anything. My friend a Mina has taught
18:20
me, always buy the domain always.
18:23
UM, So yeah, I don't know. It gets
18:25
a little thornier when you start to think about questions
18:27
of like what what am
18:30
Who am I as a brand versus who am
18:32
I as a human? You're sitting in the room with um,
18:34
and frankly I don't usually go that far
18:36
down that path. It's but but on
18:39
questions of pure promotion, I think usually
18:41
people are overthinking it or being super weird if
18:43
they think it's only promotion. It's like usually
18:45
just being on social media and in
18:48
a holistic way. So it sounds
18:50
like there's not much conflict for you
18:52
between the line of authenticity
18:55
and the fakeer of just being like, oh, I'm
18:57
just like almost like a used car sales and just like
18:59
throwing my work out there. I don't ever
19:01
feel like that. And if I write things that I'm not that
19:03
excited about, I don't push them very hard
19:05
or I don't share them. You know, they're sort of the easy,
19:08
like whatever publication I write it
19:10
for, we'll tweet it and then I can just retweet it and go
19:12
about my day. I don't really make an extra effort
19:14
to put it out into the world.
19:17
I mean, I there are definitely things
19:19
that I mean, I'm not like, Okay, time to get back
19:21
on the self promotion treadmill, like every more you
19:23
know it's it doesn't it doesn't feel it
19:25
doesn't feel like that. And also I like,
19:28
you know, I my my column this week, for example,
19:31
UM is something I've been thinking about writing for
19:33
a long time, and so when I finally wrote
19:35
it, I'm interested in hearing what other
19:38
people are saying about it. And there there have been a couple
19:40
of points where I'm just like, oh, I wish I could go back
19:42
and revise and include these like three great
19:44
things that people said about it. And you know, I wouldn't
19:46
have that feedback if I were not, you
19:49
know, pushing it up into the world. I
19:51
mean, yes, like the New York magazine
19:53
does some of that, but if I were not interacting with the people who
19:55
were talking about it, I would miss out on this whole dimension
19:57
of the topic. So it's the topic I
20:00
wrote about, this idea of UM
20:02
finding yourself in a in a role at work,
20:05
whether it's because it's part of your explicit job
20:07
description, or whether it's because
20:09
that's just kind of like where you end up falling
20:11
in the office ecosystem of being the
20:13
person who always says no to everything. So
20:15
like you're in a meeting and someone's like, yeah, it wouldn't it be
20:18
great if we just like set up a carnival
20:20
outside and started selling tickets to that,
20:22
and that's how we plugged our budget deficit. And
20:24
you know, you're the one who's like, well, I don't know if you're owned
20:26
for that, and like you know, like you find
20:29
yourself, you know, because of kind
20:32
of yeah, but I don't, I don't know. It's sort
20:34
of about how like, um, how that
20:36
role is sort of invisible administrative
20:39
work that often gets assigned to women
20:42
in part because of, um,
20:44
the actual roles they tend to occupy, but also
20:46
sometimes because like you know,
20:48
you could be sitting That definitely happened to me where I've
20:50
been the only woman in a room with a lot of
20:52
men who are presumably coequal
20:54
to me in terms of the office or
20:57
chart, but I'm the one taking notes
20:59
from the meeting. And then when when you're the one taking notes
21:01
a friend of mine pointing this out. You know, you're
21:04
the one who's like, oh, this doesn't head up or
21:07
or whatever. And so you're the one who's sort of like, hey,
21:09
hey, guys, actually this is brilliant idea that
21:11
you're all really excited about. Right now, it's
21:13
not gonna work for this reason. And then it's just want
21:15
want anyway. So um and that can be
21:17
kind of exhausting saying saying no a
21:20
lot. There Historically a lot of ways
21:22
women are forced or have been expected
21:25
to say no in like the sexual realm, or
21:27
like moderating what they're supposed to be eating,
21:29
or like, you know, like just think about everything a woman's magazine
21:31
has ever told you about anything like classically. Um
21:35
and and I was just talking about how that happens
21:37
at work, and so yeah, and so there
21:39
there have been comments for women who are
21:43
you know, have found themselves in that role. Someone said,
21:45
yeah, it's like Wendy and the Lost Boys, you
21:47
know, all over again. I was like, I don't even think to mention Peter
21:50
Pan and the Lost Boys. You're so right, like Peter
21:52
Pan is like obviously a trope of young
21:54
male Brooklyn Nights. But I hadn't really
21:56
thought about, Like yeah, it's like totally Wendy and the
21:58
Lost Boys. So just like little gems
22:00
like that where I'm like, okay, well, I
22:02
mean I might not revisit this topic next week,
22:04
but if I ever do revisit it, that's just like the
22:07
perfect little metaphor so
22:10
that, yeah, I mean,
22:12
how can how
22:15
or should like how can women escape those sort
22:17
of office expectations like can
22:20
they? Should they? Okay, well, here's
22:22
something else someone said to me, which I did not even
22:24
think to include in the article. Is like numbers,
22:27
you know, if there are if there are
22:29
more than, um,
22:31
you know, one woman in that meeting, chances
22:33
are that there's not
22:35
one person always expected to take notes, and that the
22:37
person is always you because you're the woman. You know. Diversity
22:40
is something that can can help with us a little bit.
22:42
Um. I also think that like the way
22:45
um right now, a
22:47
lot of roles are
22:49
assigned in the office um due to
22:51
just like ingrain sexism,
22:54
men have a lot more freedom to be like, you know,
22:56
I have the year of the CEO, like let me
22:58
hit you with this crazy idea or whatever.
23:00
You know. I mean, like a lot of the way networks work
23:02
right now, disadvantage women, um,
23:05
and so having stronger
23:07
networks of women first of all, like women
23:10
truly supporting each other at work, um,
23:12
but also just having in sheer
23:14
numbers, more women in leadership roles. I mean,
23:16
the one of the points that I made here is like, yeah, yeah,
23:19
we know that like of you
23:21
know, secretarial and administrative assistant
23:23
positions them or women that's
23:25
like Department of Women,
23:28
that's Department of Labor Statistics. That's not
23:31
like feminist, like you
23:33
know, whatever perception. But but one of the
23:35
things about this being the no woman is that
23:37
they're frequently higher on in
23:40
sort of a leadership role, which is something that I experienced.
23:42
I was like, oh, yeah, I'm not the secretary, but I'm still
23:44
the one. And so I
23:46
don't even remember what the question was and why
23:48
I was talking about the distinction, but I do think
23:50
that there's something about diversity and strengthen
23:52
numbers and just general women's advancement
23:55
helping to make this less
23:57
of a phenomenon. Yeah, I was a question
24:00
of like women resisting that
24:02
role doing it, but it's an important
24:05
role. I mean, that's what I couldn't decide either. You know, it's
24:07
obviously a valuable role, like we don't
24:09
want to set up a card val outside like that would
24:11
be a waste of our budget, like we couldn't get the
24:13
permits whatever. You know what I mean, It's like someone has
24:15
to be the one to say it, and ultimately those rules
24:17
are really valuable. It's just a question
24:20
of do you feel like you
24:22
know it always false to you to be the one
24:24
to call that out. I mean, it's tough. I don't I don't have
24:27
the answer. Do you feel comfortable saying
24:29
guys, this is not gonna work? And do other
24:31
people respect you for it? And if they don't,
24:33
is it because of your gender or is it just because
24:36
they just want to put up a freaking card vrole? Or
24:38
do you say, guys, this is not going to work because you
24:40
know you're going to be stuck like cleaning
24:42
up after it when it doesn't. You know what I mean?
24:45
I think that that was something that I
24:47
ran up against um in my
24:49
last job, is that I had I had bosses
24:51
who would be like, yeah, it wouldn't it be awesome? And
24:53
then yeah, go make it happen, and I
24:55
was my my choices were tell
24:58
them in the moment, no, it can't happen. For
25:00
these really you know, not fun
25:03
reasons, or you
25:05
know, try to make it happen on air, quoting you can't
25:07
see me on the podcast, try to make it happen
25:09
and then fail through action and then be like, well,
25:11
you know, either way, I'm wasting my time and it's annoying
25:14
and I don't know. I mean, I think that the fundamental
25:16
problem is probably just the male ego, and like we're
25:18
all working to solve that every day. So women
25:21
are working very hard to solve some that are also
25:23
working. Some men are also working absolutely
25:26
Like I think we just send up the podcast. But
25:28
speaking of women in the office and
25:31
also at large, UM, we wanted to talk to you
25:33
about this whole concept of the female voice
25:35
because you have been interviewed
25:37
a lot and talked a lot about this
25:39
whole trend of
25:42
women being policed for their speech
25:44
of um, you know, stop saying
25:47
sorry, stop saying just you know, the whole
25:49
um. Google extension that will
25:51
empower your email and
25:54
curious to know your thoughts on that because
25:56
that's also something that you've talked about on the podcast
25:58
too. Yeah, we get a lot of
26:00
mail from people who say,
26:04
you know, I take you so much more seriously, if you didn't say
26:06
like every third word. Do you guys
26:08
get that mail too? Not
26:10
as much, but um we'll
26:12
we'll get it with what you used
26:14
to get. She used to get letters
26:17
like right when I came on the podcast using
26:19
the word like of course um uh. Used
26:22
to get letters from people saying you've got to stop saying
26:24
if you will. Oh yeah. It was the weirdest
26:26
thing because that's not even a traditional but
26:28
we do. We do get dinged for
26:31
like minus um
26:34
as I went through like um
26:37
just like an exercise and almost masochism,
26:40
and went to some a bunch of iTunes
26:42
comments and I don't do
26:44
that. Don't do that. It's for the purpose
26:47
of an essay I was writing, and so
26:49
I was looking at them from like I
26:51
wanted the very worst, and a
26:53
lot of them were complaining about
26:56
these these accents, fake
26:58
accents that I will slip into okay
27:00
for the records. Great voices, and
27:02
I as her cred as love then and her friend in
27:05
life. I love her voices. Yeah, so
27:07
that but that's like that's my um
27:09
my life. But it's long anyway,
27:12
short answer, real long. Yes, we get
27:15
our voices right, So my
27:17
view on all kinds of verbal
27:19
ticks, whether they're used by men or women, is
27:21
that it's great to pay attention to how you talk and
27:23
why. And I think sometimes when
27:26
I'm nervous, I use more of them. I mean, I'm a
27:28
human being. We all tend to do that, and
27:30
so it can be nice to be aware of that
27:32
is a thing. Oh I'm saying like a lot. Maybe
27:34
it means I'm nervous right now or you know, and just
27:37
self on a level of self awareness. I don't
27:39
think it's bad to think about the filler
27:41
words you use and the way to speak. UM.
27:44
What I do have a problem with is the
27:46
implication that if women just strip
27:48
certain phrases or certain constructions
27:51
or certain words from their emails, that they will magically
27:54
be taken more seriously um
27:56
for the content of what they're saying, And
27:59
that I think is really misguided. It's like
28:01
it's sort of like saying every
28:04
woman has done the thing where you're like, I would not wear that
28:06
to the office, or I would not wear that to a professional
28:08
event. You know, everybody judges, um,
28:11
but you know, and where when would
28:13
you argue that, Like if you were dressed in a certain way,
28:15
you shouldn't be heard or you shouldn't be taken
28:17
to you know what I mean, there's sort of and so I think that the
28:20
same thing kind of applies, Like think about
28:22
you know, how you are perceived for how you're talking,
28:24
Like consider it. Maybe you don't
28:27
want to use the same um little
28:29
verbal crutch that you that you tend
28:31
to fall into just for clarity of communication.
28:34
But you know what, like you get nervous, you also
28:36
want to express yourself authentically the way you talk
28:38
to your friends. And I think that a lot of
28:40
the advice on this front is
28:43
sort of adding to a long list of women
28:45
that if things women are already asked to consider
28:48
when they present themselves to the world. And
28:51
it would probably be a lot better if we were all just
28:53
a little calmer about that, and people
28:56
who are on the listening end of it mediated
28:58
their own biases about what it says about
29:00
the intelligence of women who are speaking. So
29:02
the speaker maybe focus on confidence
29:05
and feeling comfortable, yeah, or just take
29:07
a breath in a pause. I mean, I think, um,
29:10
I definitely
29:12
say like quite a bit. I say it more
29:15
often when I'm trying to figure out exactly how I
29:17
feel about something. Or what I want to say about it,
29:19
um, And so for me, it's,
29:21
oh, yeah, maybe I should just slow down a little. I'm
29:23
a fairly fast talker. Maybe I should just pause
29:26
right now instead of trying to like ramble
29:29
through it um. Which doesn't mean that I don't
29:31
think you should take me seriously. If if I decided
29:33
to say like a bunch of times instead, I
29:35
don't know. That's yeah. So if you're if you're if
29:37
you're the speaker, maybe just notice
29:40
when you're doing it and decide
29:42
if it really is a problem or if it's someone else's problem.
29:44
Chances are it someone else's problem. And if you're
29:46
a listener, um, get
29:48
over it. Yeah I was. I was
29:50
fist pumping in my bathroom
29:52
when I was listening to Call Your
29:54
Girlfriend episode. When you all read
29:57
the letter from the
29:59
Australian Femine, it's basically saying like, I
30:01
love you guys even more if or
30:03
you're undercutting your authority
30:05
with all of the verbal um
30:07
ad libs and Amina like
30:10
having none of it. And I
30:12
was like, she's saying everything that I wish
30:14
to care like could say sometimes
30:16
because and it was great to hear because
30:19
yeah, well it's really it's actually really difficult
30:22
because you know, for example, I don't
30:24
think that that one listener, I mean
30:26
she's a stand in for a lot of mail that we get,
30:29
And so I do feel bad sometimes. Or people will
30:31
tweet things at us that will just make us. I
30:33
rate, like you know where where where
30:36
you don't really want to lay
30:39
into one person because I understand
30:41
that you are one person you don't deserve.
30:43
We have a bigger platform than you do, like in this situation,
30:46
her sending us a letter and us calling it out on
30:48
the air like we're the big fish, right. But
30:51
um, when it becomes a pattern, or when
30:53
you know, when it's sort of a perfect distillation
30:55
of a lot of the mail you get or a lot of the things
30:58
people imply about would
31:00
make your podcast better, Um,
31:02
that's when it just it does
31:04
hit a little bit of a tipping point sometimes. So
31:07
I would also encourage people to just
31:09
think about how you must sound, whoever you
31:11
are, male or female, old or young, how
31:13
you must sound talking to your friends. And
31:16
you shouldn't necessarily expect like
31:19
NPR style PBS
31:21
delivery just
31:24
because it's a podcast.
31:26
Well, and I think that people I mean to be
31:28
totally honest The thing that has
31:31
made our podcast well received
31:34
is the fact that it is conversational in a real
31:36
way. It's not like, hey, sister, how
31:38
is it going? Like you know what I mean, there's
31:40
not it's obviously we just talked to each other the way
31:43
we talked to each other, and so you know, um,
31:45
and this is what I'm sort of getting at. Yeah, it makes sense
31:48
to think about how
31:50
we're using words, because we do want to express
31:52
ourselves clearly on the podcast, but not at
31:54
the expense of the conversational
31:56
tone that makes it great, an authenticity and how
31:58
you actually would want to each other. Yeah.
32:00
Absolutely. And the truth is, I don't think
32:03
women sound stupid when they say like, so
32:06
I don't feel bad about saying it. Yeah,
32:09
And I mean truth is, I've heard
32:11
plenty of guys say it. This is not completely
32:14
It's not as if like is the sole providence
32:16
of women. Women just exist in the world of
32:18
like. Yeah.
32:20
And I interviewed a bunch of linguists for the article
32:22
that I wrote about this, and they were saying that,
32:25
yeah, men have just as many like
32:27
ticks, used just as many filler words
32:29
as women tend to. It is honestly
32:31
only advice levied at women that
32:34
that is, it's like this false hope
32:36
for being taken more seriously, if you can only stop
32:38
saying like if you could only like, you know, wear
32:40
a shirt that was slightly higher cut or whatever,
32:43
if you could only like, you know, drink
32:45
with the dudes that you know, whatever. I don't know what
32:47
it is like whatever dumb thing that people say is
32:49
not sexism that is keeping women down
32:52
there, you know, it's just like another one on
32:54
the laundry list. Yeah, well,
32:56
speaking of calling your girlfriend to take it back
32:58
a couple of steps. Um,
33:00
we had read that it sort of started
33:03
a little bit on a lark at the suggestion
33:05
of your producer and you and I mean it also
33:07
wanting to like experiment with audio
33:09
formats, and so I was kind of wondering why why
33:12
you even wanted to experiment to begin with. Um,
33:15
I don't know, we're both we both just I
33:17
mean, this is gonna sound this is so, this is so cheesy.
33:20
We're both like trying new things. But
33:22
for real though, so our our producer, Gina
33:25
is is really brilliant, and
33:27
at a certain point, when a smart person
33:29
who is really skilled in a certain area says,
33:31
I think you guys would be good at this, and I want to work
33:33
with you. You have to be a fool to
33:36
just keep saying no um.
33:38
And so I think once we decided what we wanted
33:40
to call it, then it was over. We kind of we kind
33:42
of sort of talked about it for a while, and she she
33:44
poked us about it and suggested suggested
33:47
it for a while. But when we decided
33:49
that we wanted to call it that, and we were like, oh yeah, and then it could
33:51
just be a call between us. We wouldn't even have to like, you
33:53
know, set it up, set up a format.
33:55
We could just call each other. That's when we're
33:58
like, okay, we can actually do this. Well,
34:00
what have you guys? I'm really interested to know what
34:03
you guys have learned about each other, maybe
34:06
that you wouldn't have figured out if you guys
34:08
were just having a drink somewhere or a cup of coffee
34:10
somewhere, Like you specifically uncovered
34:12
something about your friend because you have
34:15
to have these conversations in this particular format.
34:18
Yeah, it's weird. It's it's actually it's
34:20
not that it's deepened our friendship because
34:23
if you listen, we don't really get personal
34:25
I mean, we are, we are personable, but you know,
34:27
we don't really talk about you don't
34:29
really know who each of us is sleeping with or
34:32
like whether what's going on in terms of like
34:34
are we happy, are we sad? Is it a tough time? Is
34:36
it a fun time for us? You know that that stuff is
34:38
like only really the surface level
34:40
personal details make it out. So I wouldn't
34:42
say that, like, um,
34:45
the content of what we talk about has
34:48
led us to know each other better. I do
34:50
think that the thing is, and I'm
34:52
sure you guys have experienced this too, is we're
34:54
business partners now, you know, I mean
34:56
we definitely it is. It is. It
34:59
is you know, financially speaking, not really
35:01
business yet, but in terms of you know,
35:03
we we have a regular thing
35:05
that we're committed to doing together, and they're like increasing
35:08
amounts of responsibility to have to
35:10
to do with that. And so I think
35:12
that I'm learning about both Amina
35:15
and Gina as like coworkers, and you know what, they're
35:17
great coworkers. If everyone I've
35:19
ever worked with was as great a coworker as they
35:21
are, we are like you know, our Google
35:24
Dot game is like so tight and
35:26
and you know, and we are all really
35:29
on top of it. I think that I've done a lot of passion
35:31
side projects where it can be hard to
35:33
wrangle everyone involved, and
35:36
um, and we're just like, we're there. If we
35:38
make a meeting, we're there. If someone says that they're
35:40
going to follow up on something, of
35:43
the time, they follow up on it and make it happen.
35:45
And so I think that a lot of what I've learned is just
35:47
this this not so much as
35:50
a friend, but like this whole other dimension
35:52
of people who I already really liked and respected,
35:55
and that's been cool. I'm wondering, um,
35:57
since you all here from so many air
36:00
quotes, baby feminists, if
36:02
there are um certain
36:04
themes to the questions and quandaries
36:08
that they ask you all, or just like
36:10
topics that especially resume, A
36:12
lot of them are based on things
36:15
that we've already talked about on the show,
36:17
So you know, it'll be someone has a workplace
36:19
dilemma or um,
36:21
you know, we get questions about friendship
36:23
a lot. I had a falling out with a friend of mine,
36:26
or we're not as close as we used to be, or I just moved
36:28
somewhere. How do I make new friends? A lot of a
36:30
lot of them kind of deal with friendship as
36:32
a topic. But there's there's a strain.
36:35
There's sort of a strain of the questions we get that are
36:37
just like Ann and Amina fix my life, like
36:40
like a'm very like like own network
36:42
show, Time of Time situation
36:45
um where no, we get a lot and
36:47
and um that are like I
36:49
can sort of give you the outlines, like, hey
36:52
Anna, Amina, I've been listening to the show for a while.
36:54
It seems weird to write you this email, but you know,
36:56
like there's always a bunch of caveats and then
36:58
it's like I'm nice tew
37:01
three definitely in that age range.
37:04
Um, what am I supposed to do with my life?
37:06
Like, you know, I don't know who I'm supposed to be dating?
37:09
Men kind of suck. Am I even supposed to be dating? Then?
37:11
What should my major b? I don't feel passionate about anything,
37:13
but I have so much to give the world. But I am passionate,
37:16
you know. I mean they're kind of like this everything
37:19
question um, and
37:21
we we try. You know, I'm trying to remember right
37:23
now we answered one of them and I can't
37:25
remember if if it was like a microphone
37:28
malfunction and we lost the answer or if it
37:30
was too long and it ended up getting cut
37:32
and we'll end up appearing in a future episode,
37:34
but we took one of them.
37:37
Um. And you know, interestingly, that's like a lot
37:39
of the mail from young
37:41
women that I get to my personal account
37:43
as well. It's just kind of this general everything
37:46
seems to suck? What do I do? And I'm just
37:48
like, yeah, everything just sucks when you're at age, Like I always
37:50
just right, like, it just sucks to be to
37:53
be that age. It's really hard.
37:55
It's like everything is up in the air and you have no money
37:57
and you know, it's it's really hard
37:59
to like, there's the older
38:01
you get, the more the more the steps behind you
38:04
start to look like they were a dedicated path, you
38:06
know. And and
38:08
you know, when when you haven't had that many steps
38:10
to put behind you yet, it can be hard to sort of look back
38:12
and be like, okay, like maybe now I can look forward
38:14
based on where I've been. UM. So I
38:16
just tried to sort of send that um
38:20
and uh. And I also try to
38:22
describe, like, you know, let
38:24
me tell you about the disaster show
38:26
that was my life when I was twenty two. You know what
38:28
I mean just like which is which is not to say
38:30
which is which is only a reminder that um
38:34
it's yeah, it's it's
38:36
easy to see this stuff in
38:39
in retrospect, not so much at
38:41
the time. Yeah, so I don't know that's that's
38:43
like a theme that is real.
38:45
Yeah. We get a lot of really great
38:48
feedback from listeners whenever we share
38:50
our screw up the
38:53
things that we struggled with now or
38:55
when we were younger, because a lot of people just love to
38:57
hear like, oh, it's so important. People
39:00
that like I listened to my ear earbuds
39:02
that I think are like so important because I have a podcast,
39:04
Like oh, they struggled with that too. They
39:06
have pimples too, or they like didn't know what they wanted
39:09
to major. I have this weird patch of dry skin from
39:11
my eyebrows right now that I'm just like, am I molting?
39:13
Like what is going on? I shouldn't have winter skin.
39:15
It's it doesn't even get cold. Yeah, exactly. Not
39:18
perfect. We can be back from people because
39:20
I think that people
39:23
are so refreshed and pleasantly
39:25
surprised when they are presented with authenticity,
39:28
and I think that our feedback shows that
39:30
and I mean that makes me curious,
39:32
like, what, what do you guys get
39:35
super responses too? Is there something that you talk
39:37
about in particular or a tone or a theme
39:39
or overarching topic that people
39:42
just super respond to. Yeah, I think
39:44
that, Well, we get we get lots
39:46
of mail from people that basically thanks us
39:48
for talking about electoral politics
39:50
and the Kardashians or like, you know, essentially
39:53
recognizing that, um
39:55
that women slash
39:58
people can be interested in all
40:00
these variety of things at once. UM,
40:03
So that that's sort of one thing. UM.
40:05
Personal stories definitely get get emails.
40:08
UM when we when we talk about we were
40:10
talking about anything medical, people totally
40:13
want to tell us well, here's what I'm putting in my vagama
40:15
or that's not what my doctor told me or
40:18
whatever. You know, like there's the medical stuff.
40:20
And in part because we are openly
40:22
and SENDI deliberately kind of ignorant, we're
40:24
like, let me ask Google m D what this
40:27
problem is or whatever. You know, doctors
40:29
write us and they're like, UM, but
40:34
and then and then sometimes like um,
40:36
you know, there will be there will be a
40:38
segment that UM
40:41
that speaks to something that's happening
40:43
in the news in a slightly more nuanced
40:45
way, or because we can approach it conversationally.
40:47
We had the journalist Rebecca Traster on
40:50
who's a friend and whose personal friend of both of ours, and
40:52
it's awesome. Um. She
40:55
talked a little bit about like Hillary
40:58
and Bernie and like her conflicting
41:00
feelings about both of those, like camps
41:03
and um. And we got mail from
41:05
a lot of people who were like, oh, yeah, like that
41:07
I support insert Bernie or insert
41:10
Hillary or whoever, and that put it in a new light
41:12
for me. We got an email from a friend of ours who
41:14
works in politics and is like a
41:17
hardcore Hillary hater who
41:19
was like, you really made me rethink not how
41:22
I feel about her, but how I respond to her publicly,
41:24
and like how what the narrative is and like
41:27
that was really cool. Um. So sometimes
41:29
it is like about the more sort of substantive serious
41:31
stuff, not so much the personal anecdotes.
41:34
Um. But yeah, there's really a range and
41:36
and mostly it's like, you know, we'll mention
41:38
something like a weird aside and someone will be like, I'm
41:41
also from that part of iowan have a mole on
41:43
the right blood sheet or whatever, you know what I
41:45
mean. Like people, people are really looking to identify
41:48
with like whatever you know, which
41:50
is cool, which is really cool. It's like you know when
41:52
when you when you stack up all of like my
41:55
life experience in demographic details and all
41:57
of Amina's like that. We actually probably overlap
41:59
with a lot of women, so you can imagine the mail
42:02
we get like that. Well,
42:10
Caroline, that seems like the perfect
42:13
transition point back into the stuff
42:15
I never told you studio for our
42:17
listener mail. But of course first we
42:19
want to thank An again so much
42:22
for talking to us and even
42:24
though she wasn't there, Amina,
42:26
thank you too. Thank you for making call
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your girlfriend with and Friedman.
42:31
Um. Y'all need to go right now
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to call your girlfriend dot com and or
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and Friedman dot com and get
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on these ladies radars or get these
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ladies on your radar, or I mean if you can get
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on their radar, then that's amazing too. Call
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everyone, all of your girlfriend on
42:48
all the radars, listen to the podcasts. And
42:52
I know that there are a lot of call your girlfriend
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and and fans listening, So
42:57
send us yell fan mail on
43:00
step at house Stuffworks dot com is our email
43:02
address. You can also tweet us at mom stub podcasts
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or messages on Facebook. And we've got a couple
43:07
of messages to share with you when we come right
43:09
back from a quick right, Hey,
43:15
Caroline, you know what time it is? What time?
43:17
Is that time for me to brag about my
43:19
personal website that I built with square
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Space? Oh good, I hear it was
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really easy. It was so easy,
43:26
Caroline, not even kidding. I don't
43:29
know how to code beyond very basic
43:31
HTML skills, and that was totally
43:34
fine because square space offers
43:36
so many intuitive tools
43:38
and beautiful designs for you
43:40
to choose from that my personal
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website, Christ and Conqueror dot com looks like
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maybe I hired someone or maybe I'm
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just really good at building websites. Nice.
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I love a good illusion me too.
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So to get in on the square space action
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listeners, because really, who doesn't need a website
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you get a free domain. That's perfect.
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What more can I want? Nothing, Caroline,
44:11
except maybe ten percent off your
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first order at squarespace by using
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the code mom stuff. And
44:17
now back to the show. Well,
44:22
I have a letter here from Myra. It is a bit of
44:24
a correction from our disability and
44:27
Sexuality episode. Myras says,
44:29
just a quick note. I also tweeted as I
44:31
was listening to your disability podcast about
44:33
a common but potentially serious error.
44:36
Learning disabilities and mental disabilities
44:38
are conflated in your podcast. That's
44:41
not a fair thing to do, and those who have learning
44:43
disabilities may well catch it and
44:45
WinCE. Learning disabilities
44:47
never involve lower or slower intelligence
44:50
or brain damage. People with learning disabilities
44:52
can be geniuses and can often be expected
44:54
to work to the same standards as non disabled
44:57
people in much more complicated tasks
44:59
than people with many mental disabilities.
45:02
I have great respect for people with Down syndrome,
45:04
for instance, and accommodating these people matters
45:07
to me, but they are not in the same category
45:09
of disability as someone with a d D or dyslexia
45:12
or Asperger syndrome, or my own learning
45:14
disability, and to imply so demeans
45:16
the potential and flexibility of what I or
45:18
anyone else with a learning disability can, with
45:21
proper accommodation, be expected to do.
45:23
Many people and even scholars, make these errors,
45:26
so it's understandable, but please take note
45:28
that the wrong language and causes problems
45:30
for people in the same way that conflating
45:32
physical and mental disabilities does.
45:35
Thanks and I love that you're dealing with this topic.
45:38
And thank you Myra. We appreciate it well.
45:40
I've got a letter here from Maya about
45:42
our episode on Anita Hill,
45:45
and she writes, thank you so much for your episodes
45:47
on the llegal history of sexual harassment and the
45:49
legal battle of Anita Hill. Her
45:52
usual. I enjoyed learning all the information
45:54
you brought to the podcast. This week, However,
45:57
I reached a new level of shocked
45:59
at how much I know about what I
46:01
didn't know As a black female
46:03
graduate student at the University of Oklahoma.
46:05
I was flabbergasted to find out
46:08
I had never heard the name Anita Hill.
46:10
It appears as legal war was great wage
46:12
at the perfect place and time to
46:15
get left out of the majority of the national
46:17
conversation on equality in the workplace.
46:19
It was long enough ago for many to stop talking
46:22
about it, but still too recent to be in
46:24
our history books. That being said,
46:26
I don't think any textbook publishing company
46:28
has the brass to include such a controversial
46:31
conversation about a current Supreme
46:33
Court judge. Though I can't wait
46:35
to see Carrie Washington take on this powerful
46:37
role, I can't help but wonder who
46:39
else have we forgotten? I can't
46:41
wait to call others into this conversation because now
46:44
that I know better, I need to do better.
46:47
Well, thank you so much, Maya, and
46:49
we are really excited to watch Gary Washington's
46:51
confirmation as well, hitting
46:54
HBO very soon. And
46:56
with that, dear listeners, you know where to email
46:58
us Mom Stuff at House of works dot com. Is
47:01
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