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Hey, this is Andy and Samantha and
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welcome to stuff I've never told you production of iHeart
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Radio. Okay,
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y'all, we're back with part two of Women
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and Romance and where you kind of us that
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before. So we're talking movies,
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video games, and music and we kind
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of just h oh, it's a
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lot. It's a lot in here, so if
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you want to, you don't have to. You can also
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check out part one where we already looked
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into novels and fan fiction
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as well, and it definitely had a lot in there
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about all of that. And so moving
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right along, I want to name off some famous
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lines and see if you know what
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movie they are from.
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Okay, okay, and these
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are all epic romance
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movies. But
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I don't have an experience in this field, so I'm
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a lot of emotions. I try to
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find very broad, very famous
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one. So I feel you should
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because I pulled the one off about Casablanca
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and to have or have not, which is put your lips together
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and blow. I picked that office. I didn't think
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you would know what that movie was. So first
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line, frankly, my dear, I don't
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give a damn gone at the wind. There
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you goes one second one No
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one puts baby in the corner. I
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don't know, really,
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I've never known where that was from. Okay,
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well that is dirty dancing, okay, alright,
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alright, which has minio remakes. I
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feel like I'm gonna have to make you watch some of it at the
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very at least. And then there's I'll Never let
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Go Jack, I'll Never let Go
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Titanic, which I have not seen. She
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pushed them off the thing essentially, um,
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so you know, and then this
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line as you with
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differences pro yes, yes,
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and then you complete me
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Jerry McGuire there go. So okay,
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okay, okay, four out of five ain't
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bad. I'm very surprised that you
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didn't know Jerry dance saying, although I'm not gonna
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lie, that was the one. I was like, you may not know
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this one because it is an eighties
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movie and you didn't
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do too much with eighties romance. I'm sure
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no, I did not, which, by the
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way, so have you seen any of those movies
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I've seen Jerry McGuire and Gone with
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the WIMPs. Yes, okay, you've never seen
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Princess Bride. Yeah, I've seen Princess
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Okay, Okay, that was shocking. That would
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have been shocking. But yeah, so that's
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our introduction. I'm very impressed with what
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you did. Yeah, let's talk about
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movies. Yes, so, when
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it comes to movies, romance is one of the
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most popular genres and
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there are tons and tons
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and tons, just so many of them. But first, as
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we like to do, let's do some definitions. Romance
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film is a genre where the plot revolves
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around the love between two main characters
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as they endured the highs and lows
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of love. They are love
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stories that focus on passion, emotion, and romantic
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involvement of the main protagonists,
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and they have common themes like love at first
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sight, obsessive, tragic, sexual,
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passionate, and so many other types
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of love. Right, and the first
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romance film was called The may Are
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When Kiss or sometimes known as The Kiss,
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and it was made in eighteen ninety six. It
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was an eighteen second film that showed two
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actors kissing, and yeah, you guessed
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that it caused quite a stir, to
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the point it got skating reviews as well as
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the fact of the Roman chart publicly denounced
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this film, and even when it was being screened,
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police would be called to shut it down eight
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seconds
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second. Oh no.
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And also something to note, the first discovered solid
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black romance movie was created in eighteen eight
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called Something Good, and the first discovered
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queer film was made in nineteen nineteen called
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That Different from the Others, and it was based
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around too gay men falling in
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love. It apparently is a tragedy, not
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surprising, you know. Let's
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talk about the sub genres there are within
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romance. So there are several subgenres,
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and before we take a deep dive into specific
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movies, we wanted to break some of them down,
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including the epic romance,
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and it can be traced back to good old literature
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or historical romance novels, books like Gone
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with the Wind, which you already talked about, which
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is considered still one of the most popular romance movies
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out there, and many of Jane Austin books
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like Pride and Prejudice or Emma that continue
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to be remade over and over and over
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again. Yep. There's also romantic
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drama. Now, this is one of the
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two main subgenres, and these
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are usually big budget movies like Titanic,
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which we are going to discuss a little bit more later,
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and include classics like Casa Blanca. These
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movies are more complex and look at the depth
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of the ups and downs of relationships, whether it's
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death, infidelity, even love
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triangle. There's a lot
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of love there are. And
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then you have the romantic comedy. Now, this
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would be the other main sub genre
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within romance. The rom com
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is the combination of loveless laughter that makes
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the genre so popular. And of course we kind
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of talked a bit about some of these movies before
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when we talked about movies like Sleepless in Seattle
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and even Sex in the City, which, by the way, maybe
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more of a chick flick, which we'll talk a bit more
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about as well. And there's a twenty year period
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referred to as the era of romantic
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comedy, which is from nine ten,
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which those movies kind of fit in that timeframe.
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Um, And it was during this time you had movies like
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You've Got mel While You Were Sleeping and
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many many more. That's funny. I didn't
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know that that was an era. But my dad, who loved
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movies, like love, love, love movies, he
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would get me like any holiday, you'd get me a movie.
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And for a while he was getting me all these
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like rom coms and some of them might never
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even like toward the plastic thing.
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That's fair. That's fair. So chick
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flicks. Yes, this is a more modern
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sub genre than the others, and it's more of a
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tag to romantic comedies, maybe a sub
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subgenre, if you will. This is specified
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as more of a quote niche of romance
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films and it specifically marketed
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more towards women. Are maybe created
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by women or starring women, and combines
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comedy, drama and romance, right,
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And that's a nicer version of what
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we're talking about when we say chick flick,
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just so you know. Um. And then there's paranormal
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romance, and here we're talking about movies
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like Twilights and its entire series,
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which by the way, are all on one
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list of some of the highest grossing romance
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movies in history. But the subgenre
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is a hybrid of source that combines supernatural
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fantasy with romance. So
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we talked a bit about in our part one
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of why women like romance? But why do women
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love these movies? Is it the
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relationships? Are maybe the meat cutes? And
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what are some of the problems and reasons that romance
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is not as accepted as
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genre outside of just the
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hope that it can give us and finding
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that true love. There may be neurological
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reason romantic movies are liked, according
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to one group of neuroscientists at Princeton
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University, as someone sees
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the story and that story resonates or impacts
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them, levels of oxytocin go
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up, and when the story is told, well, the oxytocin
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is released into the bloodstream and makes your brain
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react as if we are actually experiencing
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these stories. It's as if you're all falling
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in love yourself. So
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sweet, and with romantic comedies
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we see arguments for both negative and positive
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of rom coms. Many say that it undermines
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women in different ways. Historically, rom
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coms were known to be lagging and diversity
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focused on the sist hetero relationships that
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often make women to be the unattainable ideals,
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specifically for the male gaze of course, kind
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of like the pixie manic girl, that
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kind of trope that there are definitely a
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lot of problematic themes and all of romance,
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whether we're talking about the stalkership session
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or raky meetings. Yeah, I said
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that, and they're definitely tropes that should be immediately
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thrown out the window. We're looking at you, sixteen
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candles. But
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it can also be argued that being able to enjoy something
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without over analyzing it can be worthwhile,
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especially through a trumpatizing
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pandemic. It's a nice distraction from
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what could be a bad day. As Arabel
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Saccardi wrote in her article in l watching
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a good rom com is like going on a fun first
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date with yourself. It makes you excited
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and curious about this puddle of feelings inside
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of you. I thought that was a sweet way of putting
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it. But as
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one article states, there's often misrepresentations,
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specifically in wrong comms which women are always
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the underlying vying for the attention of supervisors
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or men and roles of authority. The teacher, the CEO
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of the boss are women who are seeking to have
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it all, including the perfect guy,
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and not being fulfilled without them. Right.
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But also the conversation of the overall
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mass consumption of the expectation of what
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women are supposed to be, are supposed to look
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like is a huge conversation. I
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mean, in what world is Anne Hathaway
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or any apparently as she likes to be called,
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I know, right, in
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what world is she the dowdy girl turned princess.
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I mean her curly hair too straight made
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her a princess or beautiful, I guess,
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or Drew Barrymore, the lonely nerd that
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no one wants and no one wants to kiss
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like and never been kissed. Come on, But what
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happens when we start unconsciously comparing
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ourselves to these doughty celebrity
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characters as the same article stags quote. We
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consciously and unconsciously internalize
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these cultural norms, evaluating ourselves
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and others in comparison to them,
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usually without conscious awareness. We grow
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trying to emulate whatever culture seems to
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be most valuable, because we all want to be
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desired, loved, and wanted. Yeah,
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and that's something else I've been thinking about lately, is
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I feel like we don't have this conversation as much anymore. But
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a while back, there was a big conversation about, like, are we
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teaching young people and young
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girls specifically a very unrealistic
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level of love and like what love looks
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like? And you're not, I mean, there's certain aspects you're
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just not going to show the boring days, right,
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But but having those expectations
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of this only this is love
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and if only they got a print to carriage and
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do this and this and this, you know, be
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shy but open and vulnerable. You
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know. Actually, one other article that I read, which
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was review about romantic realism versus
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ideal and fantasy, it actually
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doesn't have a lot of correlation. They say that
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just kind of like what we talked about with the novels. The
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realization is it is fantasy and
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we want to escape, and this is a part of the escapism
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that kind of comes into it. And so there's not even
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though we have concerns and we we do have
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obvious obsessions and or
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loves and drives and pushes. For
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the most part, people
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know teenagers too, that it is
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not reality, although it
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doesn't mean we're not trying for it. Yeah,
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and I find that really interesting, I because I
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haven't really heard that side of it before, that it's escapism.
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And when you said that, it totally made sense to me. And like, of
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course, like we sort of know it's
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generally not how life's been a word, but that's
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why I like this exactly. But
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Okay, have all of these
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thoughts and concerns we've been discussing
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also place to shame factor in enjoying
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these romance movies. There are so many
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articles talking about healthy and unhealthy concepts
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of romance and what is being depicted versus
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reality. But I guess we would
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also say that a part of the argument is the
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need to dismiss the success of these movies
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as being frivolous or
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yeah like later named as chick flicks
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due to the fact that women enjoy them
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and many are targeted to women, and
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of course, in our society,
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that means it doesn't have any value.
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And by the way, the term chick flick originally
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meant a sexually explicit film, but
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in nineteen eighty nine it was used
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to describe the movie Still Magnolia's which
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have you ever seen that? Have you talked about this? It's
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very sad and due to the fact that it featured
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predominantly an all female cast
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as well as the fact the majority of the audience
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was female. And then it was used to reference
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Thelma and Louise and Fried Green Tomatoes
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and what do these two movies have in common?
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Strong female leads, and
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the term eventually included all in any
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movie that had the female lead or influence.
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Movies like Wild with Reese Witherspoon
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or lust stories like While You Were Sleeping. They all
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somehow got swept into the category of chick
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flick, which is not only dismissive but
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demeaning in the mirror. Over simplification
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of so many different and strong movies,
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it's often to dismiss this credibility
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of being a compelling film,
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right, And yeah, it does go in hands
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with the fact that women cannot be taken
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seriously as a leading protagonist, and
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that women aren't funny,
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or that if it is geared towards women,
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it's not a serious
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contender. We sort of talked about that with the comparisons
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between Sex and the City and The Sopranos,
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So how could any movie that has
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both of these things be taken
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seriously? And though it has not been seen
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as a big money maker recently,
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it still holds large viewership
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and interest. Like if you just hit the newest
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series Bridgerton, which is a historical
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romance that is the most watched series
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on Netflix. It has problematic
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issues which we will address, but that aside,
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it sends to show romance is
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far from dead and as we know,
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and it's created by men, it's legitimate and
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when created by women. It's cute.
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It's just cute, Okay. So let's talk
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a little bit about some of these movies. The
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classic historical romance Titanic.
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There's so much we can say to the plot of
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the film. A rich girl,
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a poor boy, a very obvious disaster,
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and a giant diamond that she throws back into the
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ocean for the love of God. Wa
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take that thing, girl. Though it was one of the highest
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grossing movies at the time, which made one
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point eight billion dollars then,
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I believe around that time, and then an
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overall two point nineteen billion
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dollars as of and
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it aren't forty Academy Award nominations
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with eleven actual wins, including
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Best Picture. One thing to know that James
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Cameron obviously is the director and
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creator of this movie, so it maybe more
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as we were saying, credited as
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a success because it was directed and created
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by a man, of course, and also there
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is tragedy in there which makes it taken
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a little seriously right, And
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it was number one in the box office for fifteen
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straight weeks. It was a huge
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success. But it's definitely a love hate
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film. It pilled to so many
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whether it was young teenagers wanted
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into romance. It a little bit of Leo
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or the pure joy or judgment of historians
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with what's happened with the Titanic
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or those who came to see the morbid results of an impending
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tragedy. People love it right, and
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word of mouth helped spread its success for
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the fifteen weeks at State at number one.
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Definitely, this is one of the movies I went to see
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at the theaters, not realizing I was
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going to come out ugly, crying and being
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depressed for the next three days. I
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am ashamed to admit that I at
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the time, I was a very contrarian
14:52
kid. So if everybody likes something that I
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didn't like, it like they really annoying
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trait that I had, and everybody likes
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Leonard decap you and I refused to
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get in on it. And to this day, I haven't
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seen Titanic. And my ex boyfriend,
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who loved this movie, tried to get me to watch. It
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was really late, and like within the first ten
15:10
minutes I was like, kind of I wouldn't
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say bored, but just I'm tired, and he was
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like, you have to be awake to appreciate this, So
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he turned it off, and I've never seen it since.
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I would never make you watch this movie. Honestly,
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I've only seen it once, but it definitely
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I remember it, maybe
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because of all the means, but you know, I mean, yeah, it's certainly
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it seeped into our cultural psyche where even
15:32
though I haven't seen it, I know like five
15:35
or six big moments in it. Like I know about
15:37
it. I mean, I still argue to the point, why couldn't
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Jack just get it on the damn door? Maybe Jack
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was a ghost and we're speaking
15:43
of let's talk about the Twilight suck.
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So yeah, we did talk about this a little bit when we talked about
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novels and fan fiction too,
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because it was Hermione Jaco
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fan fiction I remember. But Twilight
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has definitely definitely made an impact.
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According to one screen rent article,
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Eclipse, New Moon, Breaking, Dawn's
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Parts, Want and To all take up
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a slot in their top highest grossing
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romance films of all time. So
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what is their appeal? Well,
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you've got vampires and where wolves and love
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triangles, all of it. Oh
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my, there's a lot of back and forth when
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it comes to the love hate of this series.
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But the appeal begins with the
16:23
book and its ability to tap into a young
16:26
girl's desire to be fiercely
16:28
wanted. What girl doesn't
16:30
want to be the one that changes someone's
16:32
behavior, or be someone's obsession. And
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yes, taken into the context of every day,
16:38
real life, this is really creepy and disturbing.
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We've talked about that before, but
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here it is a safe space to see your characters
16:46
that you're so attached to come to life,
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go through all this turmoil, and eventually
16:50
get that that happy ending. And
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this was meant for young girls, teenage
16:55
girls, girls who were just learning about romance
16:57
and their own feelings and desires. And
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he was the specific book, this specific
17:01
series that allowed them to question and even dig deeper
17:04
to what their desires might be. And
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even more so, they have superpowers.
17:10
There's an element of fantasy that you wished
17:12
existed, infused with love,
17:15
oh love. And it was
17:17
for the lack of better words, emo, Yeah,
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so many teenage tragedies, dramas,
17:22
and inner conflicts. As a hormonal teenager,
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I think this speaks to them. There's a lot of complicated
17:27
emotions and trying to decipher them
17:29
is painful. And here are these characters who leaned
17:31
into that, but it's
17:34
problematic too. Yes, and we can all agree a dude
17:36
coming into your room without permission to watch you
17:38
sleep is not okay and virginal
17:40
conversation, but it doesn't mean it's
17:42
not entertaining, right And obviously
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the author, Stephanie Meyer, is hoping for
17:47
a still loyal fan base as she
17:49
is set to release Midnight's Son, so we'll
17:51
see if it still has that draw. By
17:54
the way, um, I actually read the late copy
17:56
of this probably like I don't know,
17:58
ten years ago. I
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don't think it may have. Look
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my job was really boring, and I was like, what.
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I definitely got into this as a twenty year old, and
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it was really fun to look through people's
18:11
reaction from back then because I think the anniversary
18:13
was the tenor anniversary happened
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then and people came back and talked
18:18
about what the pill was or what the what they didn't
18:20
like about it, And there was one twenty
18:22
something she says she was twenty years old, which she was introduced
18:24
to it, and the appeal of it was that it
18:27
was such a fantasy, such an easy read
18:29
that you truly could escape and
18:31
knowing that this was not me Obviously
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I was not a teenager at the time, so it wasn't necessarily
18:36
made for me, but it was nice
18:38
to think of, huh man,
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that would have been nice as a teenager, you know what
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I mean. So I think there's definitely appeal
18:45
to that. It'll be interesting if Midnight Sun
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actually takes off. And let's
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talk about the series Britain,
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which any has been waiting for I think
18:55
quite excitingly, which
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according to Netflix, had more than eighty two million
19:00
accounts that watched Bridget in the first
19:02
month. And apparently the
19:05
numbers could be little skewed because the way they
19:07
counted is if you watch four or four
19:09
minutes, they count, so
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I don't know how correct these numbers
19:15
are, but it can't be denied as popular.
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It is very popular. We've seen the quizzes, what
19:20
you've seen the comments, and there's gonna be a season two
19:22
and people are quite excited about it. So
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for those of you who don't know specifically, you any
19:27
a quick rundown without spoilers, maybe
19:29
a few minor ones, okay. This
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is a historical series based on books
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written by Julia Quinn and produced
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by Shonda Rhymes, part of the Shonda Land
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Productions. It is set during the Regency
19:41
era, following the lives of the Bridgetain
19:44
family, and we're quickly introduced
19:46
to the two main characters, Stephane Bridgerton,
19:48
who is the diamond of the
19:50
season, which is during the marriage
19:53
season when they're all courting courting season, and
19:55
the new Duke of Hastings after his father's
19:57
death. Simon Bassett for a quick
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description, Jane Austin style
20:02
of romance with sex. Lots
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of very coordinated and unrealistic
20:06
sex. That's what I've
20:08
heard about it. The show is narrated
20:11
by a gossip writer who calls herself Lady whistle
20:13
Down, who publishes the town's gossip, and
20:15
it's actually voiced by Julie Andrews. Of
20:18
course, we followed the main protagonists
20:20
in their road to love falling for each other,
20:23
which begins with some harsh words exchange
20:25
to rouse and attract men
20:27
and then to push away women from
20:29
the Duke, who has no desire to be married.
20:32
His whole narrative is pretty much about
20:34
his awful relationship with his father who was
20:36
a badman, and wanting to en that lineage
20:39
just despite him. So along
20:42
the way we get to meet the entire Britain
20:44
family and their different storylines, which
20:46
by the way, apparently is how the series goes,
20:49
including the sister Eloise, who wishes
20:51
not to be married or become those
20:53
girls who spend their time looking for a husband, but
20:55
desires to go to the university and
20:57
be independent. So she's kind of that Jane
20:59
aust And character that you think of as the
21:01
lead. But what makes the serious difference
21:04
is the diversity that is within the entire
21:06
story. The most powerful person in society
21:09
is the Queen, Queen Charlotte, a black woman. In
21:11
this diversity is a part of storyline is
21:13
talked about between the black characters,
21:15
but there's a definite back and forth on how it's
21:17
being received from the audience
21:20
or for the people who are watching it. Some have praised
21:22
it, as we know this type of representation has
21:24
not been seen in shows and movies
21:26
like these. At the same time, it's kind of dismissive
21:29
of the issues that were present during this time, and
21:31
also it does seem like the fact that
21:33
the black characters are the ones that have to grappled
21:35
through this and have this conversation, and the white characters
21:38
are like, yeah, I just need
21:40
to stress you're poor, you know
21:42
what I mean, which is still bad this year, you don't get me wrong.
21:44
But it's definitely something that is intersectional
21:46
for many of the communities and characters
21:49
inside of that story. So there's a big
21:51
back and forth. Yeah, and it seems that
21:53
the diversity is seen
21:56
as one of the appeals of the show, as well as
21:58
the beautiful sets and the costumes and
22:00
yes and yes. By
22:02
the way, it makes me want to speak as if I too was
22:05
coming out and about to attend the ball, though
22:07
I believe I would now be counted as a spinister. Still
22:10
a ball, Yeah, the
22:12
would I not? If I'm loud in society
22:17
up and
22:20
to say these movies and shows have a lasting
22:22
impact is an understatement. But as
22:24
we see that the level of popularity
22:26
of romantic movies seem to be dwindling,
22:28
and seemed to have dwindled seeing the success of shows
22:30
like Britain, and now adjusting to a
22:33
new way of seeing movies because we're
22:35
not a theater anymore, we're streaming. I
22:37
do wonder if we will see an increase and interest
22:39
in romantic movies on a wider scale. We
22:41
know that why novels have been flipped
22:43
a lot into movies recently and are some
22:46
of the higher viewing movies on Netflix
22:48
as well. Whether it's To All the Boys that I've
22:50
Ever Loved, which has a great Asian
22:52
protagonist, like all of these things, and it's
22:54
bringing up a new era of romantic
22:56
movies. Yeah, it'll be interesting to see, especially in
22:58
the wake of, as you say, traumatizing
23:01
pandemic, what we'll get created and what people
23:03
will want. Oh yeah, yeah, we'll
23:05
see. And I did want to honorably honorable
23:07
mention of The Bachelor. I know a lot of people like it, and
23:09
that is an interesting aspect of
23:12
like romance and courtship and
23:14
why do people love that because it's
23:16
so popular and there's tons of podcasts specifically
23:19
about The Bachelor, So
23:21
maybe a future episode perhaps and fifty Shades
23:23
of Gray and the panic around that whole
23:25
thing, which I remember being in the airport
23:28
and there was a CNN report
23:31
and they were like, what are we gonna do about all
23:33
these soccer moms reading. I
23:36
mean, there's a conversation about the way
23:38
sex and the way it's portrayed does
23:41
appeal. Again, we didn't really get
23:43
into the whole conversation of sex
23:45
within brigtain and how I said it as
23:47
unrealistic, but it's still quite enjoyable.
23:51
But that also can lean to the conversation about how it's
23:53
filmed, in which we have talked about doing this as
23:55
episode as well, and how it looks
23:57
like to be a part of these scenes. But I
24:00
do have to ask you. I went to a site
24:02
because I wanted to see who were the most loved
24:06
characters, specifically male characters
24:08
and like any of the genres, any of
24:10
the shows. Do you know, can you name
24:12
the top five of what all
24:15
of all movies? Yes, I
24:17
just wanted to know, like specifically, like they would
24:20
give up their relationship for these characters.
24:23
I just want to know. Oh no, if you know them?
24:26
Um
24:28
no, no, well actually
24:31
the top five, four of them are
24:33
m c U characters and one of them
24:36
is a supernatural character. Yeah.
24:40
The top one was Thor and number
24:42
two was Dean Winchester. Yeah.
24:45
I thought it was really interesting. So it's one of these
24:47
sites that you can go on and they do the up votes and
24:50
there's like thousands and thousands and thousands of people
24:52
going on there. Yeah. I was very
24:54
surprised by that. I am as well, or
24:56
it's not who I would go for it, but you know, good arms,
25:00
lots of good things coming on. I understand, well,
25:04
he was chubby. I feel
25:06
like the personality is so key to me
25:08
that yeah. Yeah. Anyway,
25:11
we have a lot of other video game based
25:13
stuff to talk about, but
25:15
first we're gonna fause for a quick break for word from
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25:33
yes we have we have to talk about video games.
25:35
While romance is not the center of most video games
25:38
I play, it does usually have a
25:40
decent role, and sometimes a very significant
25:42
one. In my experience, the playable character
25:44
is usually a male and the romantic interest is
25:46
a hot woman who, while capable,
25:49
also probably serves as the damsel in distress.
25:51
And you can see our Princess Peach slash Princess
25:53
Told School episode for one of the most iconic
25:56
examples on that, and quite possibly
25:58
dies to kick start the mail revenge plotline.
26:01
While there are amazing female
26:03
characters and some of these narratives, that doesn't
26:05
change the fact that by nature, most
26:07
of the protagonists are playable characters
26:10
being male. Because of that, it
26:12
means that the romance in most of these games
26:14
is seen through a male lens. On
26:16
the other hand, there are plenty of games where your choices
26:19
impact who you end up with. Depending
26:21
on the game, there can be a diverse pool of candidates,
26:24
and there are games that are romance
26:26
games, like straight romance games where you get like heart
26:29
points. I don't know any of those,
26:31
so I'm not going to be discussing
26:34
them, but I will try to highlight bigger
26:36
examples from games that I have not
26:38
played. So let's get
26:40
into it. One of the reasons that we wanted to
26:42
talk about video games specifically that I was
26:44
like, you know what, we need to talk about this with this romance.
26:46
Joseph Gordon Levitt, who was recently
26:48
on Hot Ones, one of my favorite shows, was
26:51
talking about the impact of the
26:53
Internet, the impact of things like YouTube
26:55
and other forms of viewing
26:58
and storytelling. He's scifically
27:00
said that he thought the new wave
27:02
of storytelling would come specifically
27:04
from video games and RPGs,
27:07
And so I thought that interesting because that is a big
27:09
conversation. As I witnessed you and
27:12
my partner getting real into
27:15
the Last of Us and him loving Whicher
27:18
and now Cyberpunk like it's
27:20
something that I have watched, and then we know many
27:22
a listeners and many of gamers they
27:24
fall in love or really really
27:27
feel empathy towards
27:29
these characters, and it is it kind of like,
27:31
Wow, it's creating a whole new form of entertainment
27:34
and a whole new way of fighting
27:36
the romance genre within these things.
27:38
And one of those things is choose your own
27:41
I feel like that might be one that would be of My Alley, which
27:43
is a subset of romance games which is either
27:45
a point based or open world system
27:47
in which our actions ultimately influenced
27:49
who you end up with romantically or don't
27:52
or don't which I kind of asked people
27:54
repeatedly, why do you do this is a
27:56
video game? I don't understand. But
27:59
as we talked about, if this is a storytelling
28:01
and this is a new format of storytelling and then it is
28:03
more involved because this is an RPG, then
28:05
that makes sense. And so we're
28:08
gonna do some spoilers for some of these games. Yeah,
28:10
I know, I feel like I've really I
28:12
really mess up where I forget that not everybody
28:15
let's play these games as much as I have. But
28:17
yeah, it is interesting to see like HBO is going to
28:20
make the Last of Us and which are on Netflix
28:22
like we are seeing them. For so long video
28:24
game movies have been looked down on, but
28:26
which, by the way, the Witcher was the
28:29
highest view before. Ah.
28:33
Alright, So one of my favorite games of all
28:36
time is Final Fantasy seven, and
28:38
it's so complicated. But the brief, briefest
28:40
thing. This is part of a long running role
28:43
playing series that are based in fantasy worlds
28:45
and usually involve you try
28:47
to save the world. They're not normally connected to each
28:50
other, they're kind of standalones. So in
28:52
Final Fantasy seven and
28:54
the recently released remake
28:56
that I put in quotes, the main playable character
28:59
is Cloud and remember, Samantha, how you helped
29:01
me get him on Super Splash Brothers. Yeah,
29:03
I was very confused about what we were doing, but we did
29:05
it. We did it. So Codd is a no
29:07
nonsense mercenary doesn't talk a lot. Throughout
29:09
the game, you have multiple opportunities
29:12
to influence who you, as
29:14
the main character Cloud, end up with
29:16
romantically or have romantic situations
29:18
with the two main characters in the running
29:20
our Clouds childhood friend Tifa,
29:23
who is a scrappy fighter and a member of an environmental
29:25
organization trying to save the world and
29:28
aress slash ereth this English
29:30
mistranslation, who is a kind flower
29:33
woman who is also an ancient
29:35
world power connected to the plant which
29:37
is dying. Tifa is dressed very provocatively,
29:39
like really big boobs, like the animators
29:42
went wild in the original with
29:44
the boobs. Also, the first person I
29:46
ever went to Dragon con as I did
29:48
not have the boobs
29:50
was the the appeal No, I
29:53
just like Tifa. Also,
29:56
her costume was really easy. I'll be I'll be real real
29:58
with you. It's basically just to a crop top
30:00
and short shorts. All right, then, Okay.
30:04
While Airis is in shades of pink and
30:06
red um, she's more innocent in her
30:08
betrayal. I would say Aires is
30:10
the easiest to end up with, Like, if
30:12
you aren't actively trying to end up with someone
30:14
else, you'll probably get her.
30:17
And that's part of the tragedy of her dying
30:19
spoiler alert. And and that's a very
30:22
dramatic storyline. I cried and cried.
30:24
I will never forget that moment. But outside
30:26
of them, you can also end up with you fee you as this
30:28
flighty thief or Barrett, who
30:31
is a gruff, crass, big dude
30:33
with guns for arms, and these
30:35
romantic point opportunities occurred a few key
30:37
points. One is one of the big
30:39
ones that's near the beginning of the game, when you,
30:42
as Cloud are trying to sneak into this real sketchy
30:44
guy's house, the Dawn who
30:46
chooses women to spend the night with him,
30:48
so you're trying to get him to choose you. So
30:50
you essentially have to dress as a woman, You get address made,
30:52
to get your hair done, all that, and based on dialogue
30:55
choices you pick and other choices you make
30:57
that influences your future romantic
31:00
aspects, and later you
31:02
choose someone for a date. Same thing. I
31:04
will say the Barrett option is treated as
31:06
a joke because he is a man, but he's
31:08
also a really gruff man that, as the player, I think
31:10
you're meant to assume would be really embarrassed
31:13
to be thought of as gay. It's just
31:15
the vibe, I guy. I haven't played the original a long time,
31:18
but I do seem to remember some homophomic
31:20
jokes in there, like making fun of Cloud dress
31:22
as a woman, but also laughing at perceived
31:24
gay characters expenses. I
31:26
had to remake there's less of that going on, but I
31:29
thought it was worth mentioning. It's
31:31
safe to say the romance between
31:33
Eric, who is the total opposite of Cloud, makes
31:36
him see beauty in the world again. All that, and
31:38
Cloud is the one that
31:40
the game is guiding you too, and it
31:42
is more memorable and sad. I suppose
31:45
it's another example of killing a love interest to jump
31:47
start the main male character's story.
31:50
And she does spend much of the game apparel, but she definitely
31:52
has a story of her own, and she doesn't die untild
31:54
midway through a very long game. Okay,
31:58
it's the second disc of three discs. Is gonna
32:00
think it's at the end of the second
32:03
Okay, so there's one also
32:06
the Mass Effect series, which is one of my favorite
32:08
series, and I know people hated the ending,
32:10
don't add me. We're focusing
32:12
on the main three games here. So the way these
32:14
games work is that a choice you
32:16
make in the first game can impact
32:19
who dies in the third one. I let
32:21
me tell you, I didn't know that when I first started playing,
32:23
and I made some reckless decisions and I got very angry
32:25
about it. So when you start out, you get
32:27
designed your character. You can choose
32:29
male female. How they look, etcetera. The
32:32
default is male, but I played as the female version
32:34
of the main character, Shepherd or fem Shep
32:36
as she's called. And throughout
32:38
the games you can have multiple partners, and you can
32:41
have flings, you can have long term relationships.
32:43
I played through every romance
32:45
possible with aliens, both
32:47
female and male and non gendered
32:49
or monogendered. I do think there
32:52
is one clear heteronormative front runner
32:54
in every game, but they
32:57
were always the least interesting in my opinion. I
32:59
liked Gary, who is sort of reptilian
33:02
male alien, or ely
33:04
Are, who is a blue female alien or
33:06
mono gendered alien. And I've told Amath,
33:09
but there's a scene in the second
33:11
game where you have to go to a doctor
33:13
to talk about how to have sex with an alien
33:16
and he recommended blue.
33:18
Is great. That's good in general in
33:21
general, But yes, you pursue these relationships
33:24
primarily through dialogue options.
33:26
Who you choose to go on missions with you, you you talked
33:28
to you, and how often things like that? Right, And in
33:30
the first game you only had a handful
33:32
of choices, which is probably why you
33:34
made such a bad choice. Well,
33:37
I punched this reporter in the face and for some
33:39
reason that really impacts
33:41
something in the third game, to the point I
33:43
went to the coding and changed.
33:47
Okay, okay, But by
33:49
the third game, Dude Shepherd had nine choices
33:51
and film Shep had seven. Why less
33:53
well a little bit of conservatives
33:56
freaking out actually okay, so
33:59
yeah, and the second one cut
34:01
the same sex sex scene and a romance
34:03
option because apparently, Yeah, the Fox
34:05
News freaked out about it and really
34:08
hammered at it and said no, this is bad. And the headline
34:10
on the talk show which Chira and about it was sex
34:13
box. Yeahs,
34:15
I see the fun and this is something to know. Most
34:18
of the romance culminate in actual cut
34:20
scenes, and some with sex, others without.
34:23
Yeah. So essentially there's actually
34:25
a video that you watch where they have sex
34:28
if, which is rare in
34:30
in this world of video
34:33
game romance that I dabbled in. Not in I
34:37
will definitely ask questions of like why,
34:39
But I mean, it's it's rare in terms of like you
34:41
could end up with seven different people and pretty much everyone
34:43
would have a sex scene. But
34:46
moving on to Oxen Tree,
34:48
which is a game I've talked about before. I absolutely
34:51
adore it, but in terms of the romance
34:53
of this game. You play as a female high schooler,
34:55
and depending on the choices you make in dialogue
34:58
bubbles, you can influence who ends
35:00
up together and who you end up with or
35:02
don't end up with, and you can really mess up
35:04
relationships. You can really mess up relationships,
35:07
um because you get hints on who
35:09
like like likes each other, and
35:11
you can push them towards each other or push them
35:13
away from each other and purposely
35:16
mess with their relationships. And because you're
35:18
playing is sort of a quirky outsider, while
35:20
the other two girls in the group are kind
35:23
of eight girls or cool girls, and one of them you
35:25
have a real acts to grind with. Will
35:27
say you can choose to be a vengeful
35:30
god or benevolent matchmaker. I guess
35:32
that is what I'm saying. And
35:35
then there are some that aren't so much choose your
35:37
own, but they're kind of iconic video game
35:40
romance storyline examples,
35:43
and one of them is another favorite of
35:45
mine, Final Fantasy ten. At
35:48
the heart of this is a romance between
35:50
the Grand seminar Una and her
35:52
guardian Titus, which I know is
35:54
like the English way to pronounce it, but that's just how
35:56
I pronounce it. Throughout the game, you watch their
35:58
relationship grow from first meeting to tightest
36:01
coaxing laughter out of Una and this really long,
36:03
awkward laughing scene, but it's sweet stopping
36:06
her from marrying this gross guy named
36:08
Seymour to like a really
36:10
tame but beautiful sex scene.
36:12
I'm not sure they really had sex, but it had that vibe.
36:16
Samantha to
36:18
realizing that their love was doomed.
36:21
Uh yeah, oh no. Being the
36:23
Grand Summinar means that you know will die, and
36:26
Titus has been protecting her so that she can survive.
36:28
To die in this ritual, which he did not realize.
36:31
Titus is determined to break the cycle, but
36:33
in doing so, he
36:35
sacrifices himself. Slash realizes
36:37
he's a dream. It's very complicated. The
36:40
music of their romance is beautiful too.
36:42
But okay, so Final Fantacy Tin,
36:45
you lose Titus, they're torn apart.
36:48
Let's talk about Final Fantasy Tin too,
36:51
which at the time was
36:53
a really dramatic departure from all other
36:55
Final Fantasy games. It was trying so
36:58
hard to be cool. I really want to do a episode
37:00
on it because there's so much I could say. But
37:02
for this episode's purposes. Una
37:05
is the main character along with two other women,
37:07
and she joined up with these women to search for any trace
37:10
of her lost love Titus. The
37:12
fighting of Mechanic is outfit based
37:14
Amantha. Uh.
37:17
And there's a huge concert that
37:19
you all have to sing at, of course, so you gotta
37:22
like practice dance moves and singing. But
37:24
I wanted to include it because it does feel like Una
37:26
is in the wake of lost love and she's trying
37:29
to figure out to move on or not move on. And
37:31
if you do everything just right in the game, you
37:33
can get a cut scene at the end of her reuniting
37:35
with Titus, so it's up for debate
37:37
whether he's real, are still
37:40
a dream? And did I do this? Oh?
37:42
Yes? Do I have
37:44
the song they sing at the concert my music library?
37:46
Uh huh, I shure you. It's
37:49
been a long time since I played this game, but
37:51
I still remember thinking, well, at least in
37:53
the first one, You and I was pretty badass.
37:55
She did fit in the role of the healer
37:57
and sort of a softer attack
38:00
person, and she did more protection spells, but
38:02
she was also the summiner, and she
38:04
wore feminine clothes but not to revealing ones which
38:06
did change intend to when the clothing
38:09
was much more revealing. But there were all also
38:11
a million costumes to choose from,
38:13
each with their own set of powers and
38:15
abilities. Some of them are quite quite
38:17
silly and others culturally insensitive. So
38:21
there's that's not that's not surprising. God,
38:25
I want to talk about that game so much, but
38:27
no, We're going to talk about Kingdom Hearts now,
38:30
which is a series where you play mostly as
38:32
Sora, a young male. You probably,
38:34
even if you haven't played this game or heard of it,
38:36
you've seen the videos of trying to explain Kingdom
38:38
Hearts because it is very complicated. But
38:41
in the game, you can visit all kinds of Disney
38:43
worlds, like you can visit Beauty and the Beasts
38:46
of Frozen, Rapunzel, her Achilles. You
38:48
can run into characters from all sorts of Disney
38:50
and later Square Enix titles like Final
38:53
Fantasy. I was really hoping to see Star
38:55
Wars and Marvel show up after Disney botham
38:57
but alas in the first
38:59
game, you have your young love story
39:02
between Kirene and Sore, and they're kind of like
39:04
childhood sweethearts in love forever.
39:06
As soon as they met and after Kyrie
39:08
is captured at the beginning of the game, along
39:11
with six other princesses to be used
39:13
for their hearts to kick start bad
39:15
stuff. You spend much of the game trying to save
39:17
her, and in the end she swear to kind of saves
39:20
you, I guess, by giving you her
39:22
heart. Ar it's your
39:24
heart, but it's been living inside of her, so
39:27
you can bring her back. Complicated.
39:29
I always thought it was a little weird how little time these
39:31
two characters spent together throughout the series,
39:34
and yet they are still head over heels
39:36
in love with each other, although
39:39
there is like melancholy and longing
39:41
hanging over their relationship, and with some hintings she might
39:43
be interested in their best friend, Riku,
39:45
who is a dude. Oh no, oh
39:48
no, so a silent hill
39:50
to which we discuss in Our
39:52
Women in Survival Horror episode. I'm
39:55
going to mention it again because this is something
39:57
else that we see a lot when it comes to women in romance
39:59
and video games. This is also a point
40:02
based system, but ultimately, you as
40:04
the mail PC, have to confront
40:06
your wife and the fact that you killed
40:08
her, and depending all the choices you
40:10
make, she's the monster you have to overcome,
40:13
and you might end up with a really one dimensional,
40:15
sexy, annoying version of her. Yeah.
40:19
Of course, something else we talked about in
40:21
the Women in Survival Horror episode and I've talked
40:23
about a lot is Yes the last of Us two.
40:25
So briefly, these
40:28
games are essentially movies that you play so
40:30
you don't have choices and who you end up
40:32
with. In the DLC of the first game, which is downloadable
40:34
content, uh, you play as fourteen
40:37
year old Ellie and you see the budding romance
40:39
between her and her best friend Riley,
40:41
and also her realizing or maybe coming into
40:43
the fact that she is queer. Of
40:46
course, it ends tragically when Ellie
40:48
and Riley are bitten by zombies and they agree to lose
40:50
their minds together, but as Riley
40:53
becomes a zombie, Ellie learned she is immune.
40:56
In the second one, Ellie forms a relationship with Dina,
40:58
who is at the very least bisexual, and we see
41:00
the strengths and pitfalls of their relationship.
41:03
They settle with a child, and they have a chance that
41:06
a happy life about as happy as you're gonna get
41:08
in this world. But Ellie
41:10
chooses a chance at revenge over
41:12
her new family, and it's really painful
41:15
as a player because you're like, no, Ellie,
41:17
you get be appy. I don't do this, but you have
41:19
to play it because it's how video games work. When
41:22
Ellie returns home, Dina and their son are no longer
41:24
there, and this relationship is
41:26
really new and revolutionary in terms of representation
41:29
in video games. On the other hand,
41:31
you have Abbey and we see their eyes and fall.
41:35
One of our listeners is playing this right now and
41:37
she it's fun. I'm getting her update,
41:39
so I'm like, ah, so much you have to go through.
41:43
Yeah. We see the rise and fall of her relationship
41:46
with Owen and her choosing revenge of her
41:48
happiness time and time again, eventually
41:50
leading to Owen's death just as Abby has
41:52
decided to go with him and pursue a hopeful future
41:55
with the Fireflies. And also there's an anal sex
41:57
scene between them that
41:59
knows all sucks. I
42:01
mean, we watched it, didn't you pretty
42:05
We can discuss this later. That
42:08
is a real big detail. I didn't realize I was
42:10
there. I'm not gonna lie. I kind
42:12
of slipped in and out of that one. Another
42:15
game, fun
42:18
intended Gone Home and this is
42:20
a game where you return home after being deployed
42:22
for a while and you find the house empty.
42:24
Oh no. Using notes and recordings,
42:26
you piece together what happened and it was really
42:28
cool. Is At first it plays like a haunted house game,
42:31
but as you play, you'll learn your younger sister
42:33
has fallen for a young woman, and because she felt unaccepted
42:36
by her religious family, she ran away with
42:38
her. And it's a bittersweet coming
42:40
out story of young love love.
42:43
Yeah, and then some recommendations
42:45
I got when I was researching women romance
42:47
and video games that I have not played, but I thought
42:49
i'd mentioned which or three Yes, Wild
42:52
Hunts a game that
42:54
I owned but have yet to play. So depending
42:56
on the choices you make, you can end up with tris your
42:58
long time go to or a blast
43:00
from the past sorceress, Unifer or
43:03
lose both are choose to go it alone. I
43:05
suppose from what I understand there's
43:07
a lot of potential female partners from main
43:09
character Gerald and I. I can't remember
43:12
if this is the one that has like all the
43:14
weird sex in it if
43:16
I remember correctly, and I don't remember
43:18
correctly often, UM, just
43:20
go ahead put that caveat out there. When I was
43:22
watching my partner play it, he
43:24
would pick the sex scenes and all of that, and I
43:26
was like, why, what's happening, and
43:29
there was a lot, Yeah, that's a
43:32
lot. Well,
43:34
this whole old versus new romance, like
43:36
the person from your past and the new one, plus
43:39
the lighter versus darker dynamics seems pretty
43:41
common in video games and I'd say a lot of romantic
43:44
entertainment. It also shows up in Far
43:46
Cry three, when the protagonist Jason
43:48
has torn between his old the Liza, who
43:50
he needs to save, and his new love, the darker
43:53
Citra, who is a precess on the island. He
43:55
gets some roomed on. I haven't played this game,
43:57
so I can't speak to the trails of these women. Acording
44:00
to the summaries I read, you do have to face Eliza
44:02
in a dream, maybe as a
44:04
monster. And again there's the sort of
44:06
threat of women holding men back in
44:08
these romance stories. But there
44:11
may have also been magic going on through
44:13
Citra, who sounds like she plays the role of the
44:15
seductress. And it also sounds
44:17
like case of women being played against women in
44:19
the classic triangle that we're seeing pop up
44:21
again. And again that's the male character. You have
44:24
multiple women to choose from. You gotta
44:26
make your choice. In the game's end, Citra
44:28
dies for Jason, but if you allied
44:31
with her, the two have ritualistic sex
44:33
after Jason killed Liza, but then Citra
44:35
kills Jason, telling him their child will
44:38
leave the tribe to glory. Women
44:40
are out to seduce you, take your sperm, and kill you. Is
44:42
that romance? I don't think obviously.
44:49
What is not a problem? And then
44:51
we can talk about the Uncharted series.
44:53
Drake and Elina has been a lot of these
44:55
games saving each other, which is nice,
44:57
but both are competent and capable on their own.
45:00
Lena becomes an international investigative
45:02
journalists and they have a relatively quote
45:04
normal relationship for a video game.
45:07
So I'm interested to see what that
45:09
would be. Florence a game about the ups
45:11
and downs of a relationship where you piece together
45:14
dialogue bubbles. Yeah, by the way, those confuse
45:16
me because I'm like, wait, you have to choose one or the other.
45:18
What's happening, what's happening? What's happening?
45:21
And then there's a Star Do Valley, which
45:23
is a game all about romance.
45:26
You have the option to build friendships or relationships
45:28
get married, but none of these
45:30
is permanent, and you can be rejected and
45:33
marriages can fall apart like real life,
45:35
talking, running errands, asking a character
45:38
to dance are all ways you can build up these
45:40
relationships that kind of sounds like red Dead
45:42
Redemption that my partner really likes.
45:44
I've been watching him play that too, which
45:47
always root for the animal to eat him. Apparently
45:49
that's not good. But
45:54
there's also Dragon Age Inquisition,
45:56
which is kind of a fantasy version of mass effect
45:59
mechanics are sam Are Apparently
46:01
playing as a female elf gives you the most choices
46:03
of partners at eleven compared to human
46:05
females five, although some relationships
46:08
in this game have been called out for queer bating or
46:11
racism. Also SIMS for you
46:13
can control the pace of your romance and who you
46:15
romance, pregnancies, all kinds of things.
46:18
I like the SIMS memes that make no
46:20
fun. Then there's Catherine, an adult
46:22
puzzle game where you play Vincent, who has
46:24
torn between committing to his long time
46:26
girlfriend Katherine and the mysterious woman
46:29
he had an affair with. Catherine.
46:33
Yeah, okay um, and after his longtime
46:36
girlfriend leaves him, he realizes, see
46:38
Katherine is a succubus obviously.
46:41
Um, and the endings you can get are sounds
46:44
like very They're very interesting.
46:47
And this kind of reminds me of the new phone
46:49
games that I've been seeing, which are romantic
46:51
story phone games puzzle games
46:54
that you have to create this romance,
46:56
and that they all seem to be, you know, having affairs
46:59
or be laughed or all these things
47:01
that I find that very interesting. As it's become more
47:04
and more popular or at least advertised a
47:06
lot. I don't know what my phone is trying to tell me because I've
47:08
never played those games, but okay, um,
47:11
and then there's a waylanders a newish
47:13
RPG way you can explore all kinds of
47:15
relationships and depths of relationships,
47:18
pan sexual and players plays non binary
47:21
or trans which is pretty freaking cool.
47:23
Yeah, I'm interested to check that one out. So
47:26
that's been kind of rollin through
47:29
video games. But we didn't want to talk about some music.
47:31
Music. Yeah, but first we
47:34
have one more break for words work sponsor,
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and we're back, Thank you, sponsor. Let's
47:51
talk about boy bands. Bands.
47:54
So, boy bands make so
47:57
much money, according to Jason King,
47:59
a music journal US at MPR. A boy band
48:01
entails quote members that are usually
48:03
in their late teens early twenties. Their
48:05
material appeals to teen and preteen girls.
48:08
There's usually a manager who puts the group together,
48:10
as opposed to it arising organically. I will say
48:12
there's a lot of debate actually about that. The
48:14
term first appeared in the nineteen eighties as
48:16
part of the gendered marketing of that
48:18
time, especially to younger
48:21
folks, and generally the term comes
48:23
with some stigma and assumption of
48:25
lesser for all the reasons
48:27
we've been talking about, like with rom coms
48:29
and chick flicks. Also, BTS, for instance,
48:32
doesn't fit the description we just read, which
48:34
is sparked some debate about how non anglophone
48:37
boy bands are different. Right.
48:39
Oh, and by the way, BTS had such
48:41
a huge impact in the government of
48:44
South Korea that they changed a law
48:47
that which actually has a young mel
48:50
Korean citizens to be a part of the army, and they
48:53
pushed the age requirement back specifically
48:55
for BTS, saying that they were doing
48:57
so well for being an ambassadors
49:00
their country. I found that fascinating
49:02
because that rule, that law has been in
49:04
place for a long time. Oh
49:07
yeah, that's the power of the boy band
49:09
indeed, And from Heidi Samuelson
49:12
at Media, she says, quote, what about
49:14
the Temptations the Ramans in Blink one eight
49:16
two? Are they boy bands? No?
49:19
Probably not, because adults and boys listen
49:21
to them too, so obviously
49:23
not. Yeah, that's a great
49:25
article, by the way, I had to recommend it. So
49:28
we talked about boy bands a bit in our Fangirl
49:30
episode about how women
49:32
and girls were the first to love the Beatles, often
49:34
considered the first boy band and Elvis,
49:37
but they were dismissed, as were these
49:39
artists themselves, until male critics and
49:41
male audiences gave credience to
49:43
their music, and suddenly the music not only
49:45
had value, but it's like I discovered this and it's so
49:47
good, and like ladies are ruining it
49:49
for me. The girl and women fans were
49:52
routinely mocked, and that continues
49:54
to be the case. And we used this cote
49:56
from Harry Styles in our fan Girl episode. But I love it so
49:58
much I want to put it in here again. Who's
50:01
to say that young girls who like pop music short
50:03
per popular right have worse musical taste than
50:05
a thirty year old hipster guy. That's not up
50:07
to you to say. Music is something that's always
50:10
changing. There's no goal post. Young girls
50:12
like the Beatles. You're gonna tell me they're not serious.
50:14
How can you say young girls don't get it? There are
50:16
a future doctor's lawyers, mother's presidents.
50:19
They kind of keep the world going. Teenage
50:21
girl fans, they don't why if they like
50:23
you, they're there. They don't act too cool.
50:26
They like you and they tell you, which sick as
50:28
well as the fact they will back you andrush
50:32
you. Yes they will.
50:34
We talked so too. But
50:37
let's back up a bit and ask the question why
50:39
do girls and women love boy bands?
50:42
Because no matter the era, there's
50:44
a boy band and legions of women and girls
50:46
propping them up. The Beatles, Manudo
50:49
Jackson, five Backstreet Boys, and Sink
50:51
One Direction at BTS, which by the
50:53
way, is the number one boy band in the world in twenty
50:56
In twenty nineteen, they became the first band
50:58
since the Beatles to have a three MS at
51:00
number one on the US pop charts
51:02
in the same year. And the abuse
51:04
that can happen within these boy band worlds
51:06
is a whole separate episode that we should talk about.
51:09
As well as the fact that bands like this, you see
51:11
a lot of court cases coming
51:13
back to talking about how they've been misrepresented
51:16
or how they've their money's gone because
51:18
the management, Oh, sneaky,
51:20
that's one way of putting it, like
51:23
underhanded and sneaky and took a lot
51:26
away from them. Yes.
51:28
Yes, One reason that these
51:30
boy bands have such popularity is something
51:32
that we've been talking about. It's a safe way for
51:34
young girls and women to explore their sexuality
51:36
and build identity. And
51:38
yeah, listen to the lyrics. You're telling you you're
51:40
perfect, you're amazing, you're beautiful, all these
51:43
lovely things. Yes, very heteronormative
51:45
lyrics generally, but it's nice to imagine
51:48
that a the lyrics are about
51:50
you, and be that some
51:53
sort of romanticized man who
51:55
would be so open with his emotions
51:58
with you exist and that you could be with
52:00
them. According to Maria Sherman,
52:02
author of Larger Than Life, a History of boy bands
52:04
from in k O t B two
52:06
BTS, the history shows
52:08
that young women have been interested in the sensitive
52:10
sweetie a very long time.
52:13
Boy Bands can pump out signals almost
52:15
unparalleled, and the members are usually not
52:18
bad to look at and synchronized
52:20
dancing. It's almost an extension
52:22
of the escapist fantasy that we talked about
52:24
in part one of these episodes,
52:26
but also on this one. For a minute, you can
52:28
believe the song is about you and that you could end
52:30
up with the band member or find someone
52:33
like him. And I know I've said this before, but what
52:35
pad which is a fan fiction like really popular
52:38
mobile fan fiction app. I
52:40
think of the fan fiction on there's
52:42
about one direction. I think
52:44
it's at Yeah, that's a lot. By
52:46
the way, I love a man who can move. Hey
52:50
sexy. But Nick Carter, a
52:52
member of back Street Boys, said quote, people
52:54
love boy bands because you can relate to at least
52:57
one member. Boy Bands give people
52:59
the right to be to choose her their favorites are and
53:01
who they can relate to. Everyone can find
53:03
someone that they can call their own. Uh.
53:05
And you've got the types, the bad boy, the show one,
53:08
etcetera. There's also competitive
53:10
aspects to that between bands, with
53:12
the members of the bands standing if you
53:14
will so much standing Yeah
53:17
and yes. And
53:20
Samantha was an instinct girl and I
53:22
was a Backstreet Boys girl, and
53:24
I just had to put in here. Backstreet
53:26
Boys is the most successful boy band
53:28
of all time with over one million
53:31
records worldwide, as I
53:33
think, but you know that because
53:36
they produced a lot more records because justin
53:39
Timberlake never came back. That's right, Backstreet
53:42
Boys. I think they did a cruise
53:44
ship so they
53:46
needed money. They kept coming back and I'm sure
53:48
the rest of in Sync would have loved that,
53:50
but Timberlake did not need them apparently,
53:53
So that be
53:55
part of the argument is actually
53:57
boys was still producing music
53:59
up until old not too long ago. Of course, maybe
54:02
not so much now that we found out one of them may be a Q
54:04
and On supporter, but hey, that's
54:06
your being in the world of boy bands,
54:10
and nostalgia is a big part of this too, Like
54:13
you know, when whatever in the same factory Bley song
54:15
comes on and car you're into
54:17
it. And I did have a lot of fun looking at old pictures
54:19
from fans at different time periods, and I love
54:22
asking my mom about the Beatles and Elvis that
54:24
she was such a huge fan. Oh my mom was a huge
54:26
fan of the Monkeys. Oh yeah, yeah,
54:29
comes up on the list as well. But
54:32
we had to come back and talk about the appeal of love songs
54:34
and ballads for women. What
54:36
is it about love songs that appeal to women and
54:38
why do we connect with them? So? According
54:41
to one study done by professor in France,
54:43
it says that it may have improved one's mood
54:46
and made them more receptive to a possible
54:48
romance, and two it may make
54:50
them more likely to be agreeable and feeling
54:52
more generous and likelier to say yes.
54:55
For his study, he had a group of women listening to music
54:58
and having positive interactions with each other, then
55:00
being approached by an average looking man
55:03
who asked for their number and at least gave
55:05
them their number, And then had a group that didn't listen to the music
55:07
and only twenty seven point nine percent gave
55:10
them the number. Right, So I thought it was interesting
55:12
because he decided, hey, maybe this can
55:14
affect whether or not they'll say yes
55:16
to a date. And it did. It
55:18
kind of did affect it. But of course
55:20
nothing has truly been verified and we would
55:22
need to have further research into
55:25
it. It's hard to deny that music makes you feel
55:27
things. I mean, even when you think about like the romantic mixtape
55:29
or mood music for dates or
55:32
having sex, like it's just sort
55:34
of a thing. It does. Mixtape, the
55:36
infamous mixtape I Made You a mixtape, I
55:38
made you a mix CD. How romantic?
55:41
You know me? How romantic?
55:43
So it's estimated that over one million
55:46
love songs have been recorded in very
55:48
different variations, everything from
55:50
new love to break up songs to songs of
55:52
devotion. But that what makes them special.
55:55
You have a singer songwriters like Taylor Swift
55:57
who has made a career in her storytelling.
56:00
In songwriting, teens and adults feel
56:02
a connection. She speaks their feelings
56:04
and as she stays in her own songs, these are confessionals,
56:07
which allows for connection with the fan.
56:09
And that's what it's about, having a song that makes
56:11
the listener feel heard or understood
56:13
because that's how they felt, or that's
56:16
how they want to feel, or that's what they see. And
56:18
whether it's the honesty of heartbreak and
56:20
and this dude being a jerk, or
56:22
the honesty of finding someone you're like, why can't
56:25
it be me? Which I still have a
56:27
hard time believing that Taylor Swift isn't the number
56:29
one girl and plays herself as the
56:31
number two girl in her songs. Whatever we
56:35
can all relern and
56:39
music is therapeutic, whether it's upbeat, songs
56:41
to get you motivated, or sad songs that allow you
56:43
to mourn or at least tears, and
56:45
in fact, researchers said sad songs
56:48
quote induce the biochemical response and
56:50
empathetic listeners triggering at beneficial
56:52
hormones. And yes, actually
56:55
my fan fiction, my very tragic, absolutely
56:58
devastating fan fiction. I made a playlist for it,
57:00
and it is so sad. It is so sad,
57:03
but I love it. Yeah, I think definitely
57:05
when I was dabbling in writing, a song
57:07
might inspire me to get
57:10
into that mode. Specific emo
57:12
bands like Death Camp for Cutie makes you
57:14
have the storytelling things things a decembrists.
57:17
They do this where they tell
57:19
a story within their songs and you feel this,
57:21
you feel this emotion and you start connecting with yes,
57:24
I have a story for that. So I definitely think we
57:26
see that and we know that there's a connection
57:28
in movies and soundtracks and what that brings
57:31
out, what the emotions bring out. I
57:33
mean, I've discovered a many artists
57:35
through soundtracks, and I bought
57:37
soundtracks like Nobody's Business because
57:40
I expressed so much more so
57:43
what I could have said out loud. And I think for women
57:46
is a drive because you get it. It is that open
57:48
vulnerability that oftentimes we
57:51
don't see in reality. So therefore
57:53
maybe these men who are crooning towards
57:56
to us, it shows their vulnerability
57:58
and you just feel so spatial. Yeah,
58:01
yeah, like you're really seeing their
58:04
sensitive side. It can only open
58:06
up to you. Even though everyone's listening to this
58:10
so clearly, there's so many different
58:13
and I want to come back and explore, like
58:15
so many of the things we've talked about in this very
58:18
broad Hard to Wrestle episode,
58:20
it was a massive topic. We saw a lot of common
58:23
threads and tropes, and we can see women
58:25
aren't a monolith when it comes to romance
58:27
and what people like and what they want to see and hear
58:29
and play whatever. It is a me to write
58:32
very briefly, we did have like our quiz results
58:35
because you sent me to quizs what
58:37
britin family? Would you know? What family
58:39
would you be in Bridgtain? Who would you end up
58:41
within Bridgtain? And who would you be in Twilight?
58:44
Yeah? So I got the Brigtain family
58:47
is the want of family. I'd end up in Benedict
58:49
Britain is going to ask for my hand in marriage.
58:52
And I got Bella Swan, which I want to read.
58:54
The description is from The Guardian. When
58:56
you're not getting yourself in dangerous situations,
58:59
you often find your up in the middle of fights
59:01
between the various people who love you. Make
59:03
sure your dad approves though you're still his
59:05
baby. Which you've
59:07
ever seen this, right, I've never seen
59:09
Britain Our Twilight. I've never read in Twilight.
59:12
I think I know generally well it goes down, but
59:14
yeah, the father character is very protective of
59:17
Bella in this as well. But
59:20
yeah, I actually got the same results all of them,
59:22
so I find that funny. Mainstream
59:24
and we are very mainstream, apparently
59:26
because I also got bit of Dick and I love it. To explain
59:29
to me why it's like, here you got I
59:32
don't know who that is. So I was like middle
59:34
son, who is an artist,
59:37
Okay, sure, he's
59:39
kind of a part of the plot that has a little bit
59:41
of queer baiting, which has been a kind of conversation
59:43
within it. So it's interesting. But yeah,
59:46
there you go, quizzes. You gotta love it. I
59:48
was like, I'm gonna send you ten thousand quizzes and then I stopped
59:50
at three. So you're well, it's really funny because I'm always
59:52
like I don't just like, what character would you be in Britain?
59:55
And I'm like, I don't know. I like the name of this one.
59:57
Oh there's so many Twilight, Like how much
59:59
do you know? And I was like, there's no way absending this to her,
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she would lose her mind. Yes,
1:00:05
it's so competitive. Well,
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there you go. That's wraps up
1:00:09
our two parter look at
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Women in Romance. Oh no,
1:00:14
perhaps we'll come back and revisit some of these things,
1:00:16
but in the meantime, send
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you, Christinea, and thanks to
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