Join your hosts Katherine and Shelbi in making space to discuss friendship breakups and coming to terms with long-standing friendships that don't serve you.

Friendship Breakups and, Dare We Say, Divorces

Platonic relationships can be just as intense to navigate as romantic ones

Two things can be true at once, with friendship breakups being devastating but also freeing you from a relationship that doesn’t serve you

Sometimes a silent line is drawn in the sand to close a friendship, particularly when your personal capacity changes and you don’t feel you’re being supported

Debating the “chop”, a direct communication that someone is out of your life, versus recognizing apparent signs that the friendship is over

Trusting Your Gut vs. Making Room for Evolution

It’s important to reconcile caring for someone and honoring your history together with holding yourself to a standard and demonstrating self respect

Friendships are some of the longest standing relationships we’ll have in our lives but we also have to assess when change is necessary (and when someone is capable of it)

Loving, caring friends should be given grace, but not everyone deserves unconditional love and consideration

Lingering at a Standstill

Questioning if someone should be in your life and where you go from here when something is off and hasn’t been addressed or resolved

Standstills can feel heavily quiet, with lack of communication, gaslighting, and operating in separate realities and on different narratives

Some people may take the easier way out if they hold more power in relation to societal norms, which can result in them not making an effort to try to repair it and not showing up authentically (even if this isn’t indicative of how they feel)

It can be hard to balance addressing a situation and letting people off the hook because you have bigger fish to fry, but this leaves people open to access your life through social media without interacting with you and for grievances to add up

Question of the Week:

Have you ever gone through a friendship breakup or standstill? What tools and language did you feel you had or didn’t have to help you navigate, and how did this impact you and your friend?

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