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One of the most common complaints from women

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the world over is that they want to be in their

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feminine energy, but they are in a situation

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that makes it impossible

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to do so. For example, they don't

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have any man in their life providing a masculine container,

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or they're in a relationship with a man who has flipped the polarity

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dynamics in the relationship, or they're

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unsafe or in a high-pressure

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environment, or they were traumatized

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or even masculinized as a child, so

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they can't seem to get out of their own masculine

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shield,

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or they may be in a career that absolutely

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requires masculine characteristics. Seeing

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as how this is such a hard and a painful

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experience for women, today

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I'm going to share with you a simple

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hack for getting into your feminine

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energy

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no matter what situation you

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may find yourself in.

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Once upon a time I did a video that

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was titled What Every Man Needs to Know About

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Women. In that video I explained

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that while fear is something that everyone experiences,

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fear plays a different role in the lives of

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men and women. For most women fear

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is a baseline experience of her life, whether

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she is consciously aware of that or not. Women

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respond differently to fear than men do, and

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when a woman is either unsafe or perceives herself

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to be, what tends to happen is that she responds

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to that by putting up a masculine

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shield. She will begin armoring.

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There are some characteristics of feminine

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energy that are very hard to bring

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forward in these kinds of scenarios.

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Things like softness, gentleness,

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sensitivity, kindness,

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tenderness, supportiveness, openness,

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expression of emotions, expression

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in general, receptivity and

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nurturing.

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In most unsafe or high pressure situations,

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these traits make you vulnerable.

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And so they get hidden deep beneath a masculine

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shield. Essentially a woman

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brings forth masculine qualities, including

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shadow masculine qualities. to keep

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herself safe. Things like

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warrior energy, strength,

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assertiveness, bravery, hyper

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responsibility, initiation, driver

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success, action, independence,

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leadership, aggression, hardness

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or even harshness, dominance

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and even control. Another

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way of looking at this is that she brings forth

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protector behaviors that keep her safer.

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But this is not a state that is conducive to

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health in the feminine

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system. This armoring pulls

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a woman out of alignment. And if it's maintained

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over

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long periods of time, it causes sickness

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in her mental body, emotional body and

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physical body. It causes her to suffer

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on all levels. It's

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worth mentioning that the women who you will see

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bring forth traits like softness,

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openness, receptivity and nurturing, when

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they feel unsafe, grew up

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and or are currently in very specific

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environments. Ones in which she

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is safer when she exhibits those traits.

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For example, she may have grown up in a

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society where females were punished for any kind

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of empowered behavior and who were only

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safe and whose needs were only met when

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they behaved in weak

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ways that were not a threat to the men around them. Or

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for example, a woman might be super nurturing

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and

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affectionate with a man when she feels unsafe,

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as a way of controlling his behavior in

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whatever way she wants to control

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it. So things go her way. Or

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a woman might behave in soft

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and receptive ways because she's learned

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that this is what will motivate someone to

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step up and protect her. We

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have the tendency when we think of protector

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personalities to only think of

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masculine protectors.

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The reality

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is a person is going to put forth whatever

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specific traits kept them safe. Or

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whatever specific traits they think will

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keep them safe. Whether that trait

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is more feminine

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or more masculine.

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But all that being said, it is far

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more common that it is the masculine

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traits that a person will bring forth in the face of the

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person. the place of the unsafety that they encounter

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here on Earth. It's

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obvious, right? And most especially in human

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society, because our current society

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that we live in is made by men for

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men. Where

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a great many feminine traits function

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best is within a masculine container.

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To conceptualize masculine containment,

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imagine that in a relationship, a man is a

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clamshell and a woman is like a pearl

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inside that clamshell. This masculine

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clamshell is creating a safe nourishing

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space in which the female can exist or

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occur. It enables a woman to be soft,

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open, receptive,

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and also to grow. If you imagine

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removing that masculine

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shell, the female immediately contracts,

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goes rigid, and into a state of defense. It's

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a coping mechanism rather than a natural feel-good

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state of being. She's forced to compensate

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for that lack of masculine shell

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by becoming masculine herself, and

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this causes a flip in polarity. To

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understand more about this, you can watch my video titled,

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Containment, What a Woman Needs from a

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Man in a Relationship. In

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a tribal setting, which is the social structure

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that is natural for our species, there are many

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men who are providing this containment

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for each woman. And so it would be

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rare for a woman to find herself in a position where

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she lacked containment completely. Alas,

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since our species became agrarian, there

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has been progressively less and less and less containment

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for women. And in today's modern world,

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it is an absolute

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crisis. Today, whether

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we're men or women, we are desperately

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under-resourced.

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We're also not made for the ever-present stressors

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that cause us to feel unsafe today for

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extended periods of time. In other

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words, we may have been biologically designed to

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be able to deal with the stress of being chased by a predator,

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or a fight breaking out, or what have you, but

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not being stuck in a distressing relationship

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pattern day after day after

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day, or the chronic presence of cyberbullying,

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or workplace stress from 9 to 5. And

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this has led to a modern reality where so

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many women around the world are in

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a chronic state of unsafe.

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and as a result, are becoming

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increasingly more and more

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masculinized. The ideal

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situation is that every woman can find

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a life and relationships in which she feels safe.

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This will naturally bring forth these cherished

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qualities, feminine qualities, including

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those that are on the vulnerability spectrum. But

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the reality of today is that many women

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are not in this situation and are desperately

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in pain because they want to be in their feminine

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energy, but they feel like they can't because

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they're not in a situation that is conducive to it.

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And this feels like a very powerless

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space to be, because being able to be in

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your feminine essence feels like it's totally

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dependent on the external world and on other

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people. And let's be honest, they

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seem to be doing their absolute best to make

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it impossible. But today

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I want to offer you a hack for being in your feminine

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energy, something that is not dependent

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on you being in a safe situation or on

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you having a man's providing containment. The

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hack is this, there are many traits

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that are feminine that do not depend on

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being in a safe situation or

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on having masculine containment.

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Therefore, instead of trying to bring forth

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the feminine traits that fall on the vulnerable spectrum

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for you, bring forth the ones that don't.

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Softness might be something that you

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can't bring forth, but flexibility

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on the other hand is a quality of the feminine and

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is something that you can embody no matter how safe

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or unsafe you happen to be, because

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it's a feminine quality that can keep you safer

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in general in a lot of situations. Or

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for example, your body, which is currently

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armored, might feel like solid steel.

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You may not be able to bring forth openness or

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receptivity,

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but water is

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an element of the feminine.

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I need you to remember that there is nothing weak

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about water. Just look at what water

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can do on this Earth. And so you can focus

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on bringing forth the many qualities of water and

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practicing your body as water rather

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than steel. Or for example,

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you may not be able to bring forth nurturing

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energy or being... but offering your

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intuition and wisdom might be something

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that causes you no pain to bring forth no matter the

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situation you find yourself in. Or

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for example, you may not be able to bring forth the quality

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of caretaking, but devotion

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or dedication is something that

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is not dependent on being in a safe

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environment or on having containment.

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Or for example, you may not be able to go with

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the flow of how you feel, but

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you may be able to do a spontaneous movement exercise,

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or you might not be able to bring forth

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cooperation and collaboration, but you may

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be able to bring forth effective verbalization

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and communication, or you may not be able to

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bring forth sensitivity, but you can

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bring forth creativity. That

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there is a femininity hack. Look for

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what aspect of femininity you feel

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like you can't bring forth in general in your life

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and look for periods of time, settings,

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and or situations where you might be able to

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and even more than that, look for aspects

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of femininity that you can bring forward,

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even if there is no man in your life providing containment

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and even when you are in a high pressure or

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unsafe situation and intentionally

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do so. I'm going to say it again. There

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are feminine qualities

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that are in no way vulnerable and

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are in no way weak

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and leaning into these qualities will

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help you to be in your feminine essence. No

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matter what situation you find

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yourself in. Have

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a good week.