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We're busy. But. Isn't been

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one thing to acknowledge that you're busy, but

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is on purpose, the busy Woman's

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having her first book the Joy

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her podcast The Intentional Advantage as

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I'm so excited to be arrogant, have a lot of fun!

1:34

The F A lot of bond you are

1:36

on this podcast last about two years ago

1:38

so a lot is changing the world. Last

1:40

couple of years I would like to hear

1:42

your experience with what you been up to

1:44

since then are what challenges you face because

1:46

obviously we've all had our own kind of

1:48

slew of have difficulties. But what's what was

1:50

your experience like these last few years? Yeah.

1:53

There's been Wouldn't you think that are

1:55

happened in the past two years? There

1:57

have down and Ceo right? Ah yes.

2:00

Why provide came on here. You're talking about

2:02

my last book and that was not sober

2:04

as he jumps of twenty nineteen and you

2:06

know I was asked by Harper Collins to

2:08

write a second book and I sat down

2:10

in February of twenty twenty and I math

2:13

the whole thing else like I was like

2:15

yes I can totally do this. They ask

2:17

me to write a book on goal setting.

2:19

I was like oh I could talk about

2:21

will set it all day long so that's

2:23

fabulous. Made a whole outline, knocked it all

2:26

out. I had dislike amazing a plan that

2:28

I laid out for myself of how. Is

2:30

gonna write each month and how much else going

2:32

to get done so it wouldn't be any stress.

2:35

And. It march happens. I

2:38

basically all plans just like went out the

2:40

window. Because. All the sudden

2:42

I found myself home schooling my kids.

2:45

In the time have we last talked at

2:48

my son graduated high school and has headed

2:50

off to college to be at all that

2:52

happening during the pandemic, figuring out how to

2:54

shift my business. Filing. For things

2:57

like ppp getting my team on board

2:59

the lines of how we're making the

3:01

chef so lots of things happening. And

3:04

the book that place called.

3:06

For a while, just it's impossible

3:08

to even write or think about

3:10

the future. And I

3:12

see. What's really amazing is that is

3:15

a lot of times we'd be ourselves

3:17

up for procrastinating for not following through

3:19

on the play, and exactly as we've

3:21

mapped out. In for me,

3:23

it was really an amazing

3:26

experience because. While. He had

3:28

that space of not writing and

3:30

just paying attention to how I

3:32

was feeling and prophesying the pandemic

3:34

watching other people processes. And

3:37

begin to realize that this book was going

3:39

to evolve and change into something very different

3:41

than what I originally had planned. I.

3:43

Began to realize it wasn't a book

3:46

about goal setting. That, yes, goal setting

3:48

is in it. But. Goals are

3:50

not the goal. And

3:52

I think we spend a lot of our time

3:54

chasing after a goal and then we don't have

3:56

that sense of satisfaction. or we don't follow through

3:58

with it because it's not. Our goal, And

4:01

I think that's what's been really kind

4:03

of the silver lining in all of

4:05

this pandemic of heaven. Is.

4:07

It's really allowed. So many of us, including

4:09

need to really take that step back and

4:12

say wait a minute. What? Am I doing

4:14

here? Why? Am I doing this? Is

4:16

This what I want to do? And.

4:18

I know for me that's allow for a lot

4:20

of rose and that's really. How the

4:22

Book on Purpose ended up evolving,

4:24

it really began to unfold very

4:26

organically. As the world was

4:29

unfolding in Oregon league itself doing

4:31

all those things, the both began

4:33

to really take me and places

4:35

I didn't quite expect. So.

4:38

There is full said he get it but

4:40

it's about the much bigger picture. It's about

4:42

living more to your purpose than anything else.

4:45

That I think that we are. We all kind

4:47

of react the little bit differently but all had

4:49

this on the same kind of neutral and of

4:52

yes we need to see who were doing if

4:54

evolve in a new way. I thought I had

4:56

similar responses on glad the your book evolved one

4:58

with X. I feel like we all kind of

5:01

needed to to shift gears a lot of ways.

5:03

So what most within your new book now which

5:05

is called on purpose Be busy woman's guy to

5:07

extraordinary life of mean success. And

5:09

I think that wasn't school with this topic

5:11

right now have a purpose, which is that

5:14

a lot of us who in the world

5:16

pro to be specially we like to do

5:18

things intentionally or do things that are preplanned

5:20

or proactive. But. What does it

5:22

mean to you to do something on

5:24

purpose? Like what is how does purpose

5:26

drive your decision making? I

5:28

liked this question because I think that

5:30

word purpose can feel really heavy. It's

5:32

really waited for a lot of people

5:34

and sometimes they'll want to shy away

5:36

from it because they feel like it's

5:39

something that define them now and forever.

5:41

So it's it's big thing that so

5:43

daunting an overwhelming. So. When

5:45

I thought about purpose, especially in the

5:47

book, it's really about living bigger than

5:49

today. It's looking out on the

5:51

horizon and seen a future for yourself.

5:53

Connecting what we want in that future.

5:56

this big beautiful vision of what we

5:58

want our lives to look like. In

6:00

the future Connecting that you are

6:02

actions and our choices as today

6:04

because what we do today accept

6:07

future and if we're doing work

6:09

on a regular basis. That.

6:11

Gets us closer to this beautiful vision

6:13

that we have for ourselves. That's.

6:15

How we have more satisfaction mess. That's

6:18

how we feel successful. He. Was

6:20

really paying attention during the pandemic. How

6:22

feel all these people are chasing busy

6:24

and their still checking of a thousand

6:26

things off their to do less and

6:28

running around here and there and everywhere.

6:31

And. Falling into bed at night, exhausted,

6:33

overwhelmed, and then saying to themselves, ah,

6:35

I should have gotten more done. Why?

6:38

I get more done even though they were

6:40

busy all day long. And. They're doing

6:42

that in the pursuit of productivity. And

6:45

I see what it is is really

6:47

when we try our actions to something

6:49

bigger than today. When. We tie

6:51

it to being on purpose. That's when

6:53

we go to bed at night or

6:55

head is the pillow and we say

6:57

he was amazing. I wasn't it a

6:59

great I am amazing. That's. Only

7:02

really start to see. That shift and

7:04

change in our lives matter I think

7:06

is so powerful about living on purpose.

7:09

Yeah. I really like. This message is one

7:11

I think that I know I've experienced in

7:13

the past where they went to that point

7:15

about having a thousand things in your to

7:18

do lessons. Just feel tired afterwards, you don't

7:20

feel accomplished. I know I've had many of

7:22

those days and I feel like there's one

7:24

aspect that I have played in over the

7:26

years as having a more simplistic schedule. I

7:29

think that even to that degree then when

7:31

you simplify those things with the need to

7:33

be meaningful to you and like your point,

7:35

if those you are things you're doing drive

7:37

your bigger vision for yourself then. That's gonna

7:39

lead said the Satisfaction. So you're going for

7:42

an ideal for the A. For years down

7:44

the show talked about the morning routine, waking

7:46

up early to do something valuable. And.

7:49

One part of that they don't time, but

7:51

often enough is that those activities in the

7:53

morning could be tied to a bigger vision.

7:55

Like tied to your purpose at a dell.

7:57

Absolutely, You have a daily habits like that.

8:00

You're saying in order to for my purpose

8:02

to come to life I'd needs a wake

8:04

up at a do this thing that specifically

8:06

chosen action that tied to that greater vision.

8:09

Oh yeah, I do. You definitely And I think

8:11

that's the thing is it really is about that.

8:13

Intentionality rate is it's and we get caught up

8:16

in a big lead. The licenses, the small things.

8:18

It's a small things in our routine that we're

8:20

doing on a regular basis that. Eventually

8:22

Leon even think twice about because it's

8:24

just a habit we've created for ourselves

8:26

at I know for me one of

8:28

the big thing that I have started

8:31

doing that has made a huge difference

8:33

is meditation. Really making time for

8:35

meditation. So I get up in the morning.

8:37

I start with my fifteen ounces of water

8:39

because I used to think I wasn't a

8:41

morning person. That was. I was a limiting

8:43

believe that I have for a long time

8:45

that I was not a morning person. I

8:47

couldn't get up early. And. It was

8:50

really because I was dehydrated. So now I

8:52

do my sixteen ounces of water and then

8:54

I brush my teeth and then I go

8:56

straight out. And I do and education. And

8:58

I start every day. With. doing some

9:00

quiet reflection time, And. That

9:02

for me, helps me really censor myself

9:04

until rooted and ready for my game.

9:07

I think that is. Definitely

9:09

tied. She's me feeling. Calmer,

9:12

more relaxed and more focused on what it

9:14

is a in the future is having that

9:16

that space to be able to to really

9:18

look at that and how I want my

9:21

data unfold. How

9:23

is that works Views I'd for a long time

9:25

I have tried desperately to and that it's a

9:27

more often out and in this failed miserably such

9:29

as yourself like I said to bring i guess

9:31

on the show to try to be going if

9:34

you're that are experts in this and somehow as

9:36

connected so I'm always curious for you at what

9:38

what is it about meditation This allowed you to

9:40

say like this is a habit of work for

9:42

me. Well. I was on

9:45

his people for a long time. He said I couldn't

9:47

meditate. That was my things. I definitely

9:49

sad for a long long time because

9:51

my brain is always on so I

9:53

thought there's no way I can measure

9:55

the whole idea of having zero thought

9:57

His first of all, Crazy. So for

9:59

me. He he was first are recognizing

10:01

and realizing that meditation is not zero

10:03

thoughts, it's accepting the thoughts of my

10:05

com and just releasing them. So that

10:07

gave me a little bit of a

10:09

green light. like okay it's okay that

10:12

my mind is is still thinking but

10:14

what I started with was literally just

10:16

two minutes. Two minutes of meditation And

10:18

when I was doing that two minutes

10:20

of meditation I was focusing in on

10:22

my breathing so I would you breathing

10:24

techniques. For. Example I will picture

10:26

of a square. Okay so

10:28

like this where you go up and then

10:30

over and then down and across right so

10:32

as are going up I would justify in

10:35

a square and breathe in and inhale and

10:37

then I withhold as I went across for

10:39

channel five of the square and then down

10:41

the square for account of five as I

10:43

exhaled and in holding that axial as I

10:45

went across. For. Account of Five and

10:47

then back around that square. So picturing

10:50

the square. Counting. The

10:52

breath for me. Was. How

10:54

I got started and I would Sometimes you

10:56

like I'll do a triangle or I'll do

10:58

a circle. sometimes I'm just a kind of

11:00

and out that. that's how I started. Because.

11:03

It wasn't about sitting on a mountaintop

11:05

in a yoga pose. a. At.

11:07

About quiet and everything in my mind

11:10

was really about focusing in and becoming

11:12

intentional. First of all, with my breathing.

11:14

And once I felt really good with

11:17

as two minutes to three minutes. Then

11:19

I moved to five minutes. Then. I moved

11:21

to seven so it was baby stepping ice.

11:23

I think a lot of times we think

11:25

if I can't do this like amazing meditations

11:27

like thirty minutes I can't meditate. Two

11:30

minutes. One minute counts as a meditation.

11:32

You can meditate while you're in the

11:34

shower. He. Can meditate while you're

11:36

sipping your coffee and in. So

11:38

it really is to shift in

11:40

your mind set on what meditation

11:43

looks like. I see said if

11:45

you meditate. And you feel like you've

11:47

got it wrong. That's not the

11:49

point, right? There is no doing it wrong

11:51

when it comes to medication. So.

11:53

Letting go of any expectations as a million

11:55

ways you can that say. But for me,

11:57

that's how I started with that breathing checking.

12:01

I. Like a that that that's a really good one.

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It's simple and clear. Adding that, yeah, that's really helpful.

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Oh. I mean, you can do that. Why? you

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16:02

We're back to this idea of purpose and

16:05

one I think that's when I think about

16:07

been purposeful and a one thing that stands

16:09

in my way often times is just what

16:11

I'll call the business of life and just

16:13

a combat idea of a longer to do

16:16

list. I feel as though if for me

16:18

if I'm wanting to achieve more purpose I

16:20

have to have a lot more clarity on

16:22

what I'm doing every day. How do you

16:24

go about Mapi Now for some on the

16:27

what what is purpose look lights. For someone

16:29

who's saying I want to be purposeful A

16:31

county you begin up rock. Process for someone

16:33

to to map that out for them to say?

16:35

Well, here's how you can begin the process. Yes,

16:38

and he does. The great question Because honestly

16:40

when I started researching and thinking I was

16:43

writing a goal setting but I began to

16:45

notice that when people talk about goals I

16:47

didn't They don't talk about how you figure

16:49

out what your goals are or how you

16:51

were happy with your actions are and see

16:53

what happens is. I think a lot of

16:55

times people set the wrong goals minimum right.

16:57

We look last, we look right. We train

16:59

our next over the fence to see what

17:02

the grass is looking like on the other

17:04

side and we got loose. Doing

17:06

over there. I need to be doing that

17:08

or this person doing amazing. I should be

17:10

doing what they're doing And so we set

17:12

our goals. They saw what everybody else is

17:14

doing. faith so it's what. What goals do

17:17

we want to set? What goals are going

17:19

to be Some to us. So.

17:21

This is where this idea that I talk

17:23

about in the book comes into play. This

17:25

idea as Cathedral thinking. So.

17:27

I recall to see. You're thinking

17:29

because it's kind of based on

17:31

that idea as in the eleven

17:34

hundred, the twelve hundred that the

17:36

city architects, the builders, the artisans,

17:38

they would build these amazing beautiful

17:40

cathedral like the Duomo in Florence

17:42

or Notre Dame. And these

17:44

buildings were designed to last a lifetime.

17:47

Right? More Than a lifetime. Thousands of

17:49

years. With a choke hundreds of

17:51

years to build, they were so much

17:53

bigger. Than just that artisans lifetime,

17:55

they were building a legacy. So.

17:58

We all have cathedral in our. What

18:00

are the things that we want to do

18:02

that create legacy for us that that is

18:04

off into the future? So I call that

18:06

your cathedral and that's really what we're working

18:09

towards. His his big beautiful cathedral off in

18:11

the distance. That's our vision of where we

18:13

want to go and in the book. Why

18:15

do as I draw a line? It's almost

18:17

like are a little map and one side

18:20

says you are here and the other side

18:22

is your cathedral right? That's your potential.

18:24

Like you could potentially accomplish in let's

18:26

say, ten years or twenty years down

18:29

the road. So what we wanna do

18:31

if we want to back it up?

18:33

Pretty far away And twenty years, right?

18:36

So it's not or potential. What's.

18:38

Possible. What's possible in three to five

18:40

years threats to accomplish something that we

18:42

could do with three to five years

18:44

that gets us closer that cathedral that

18:47

becomes a landmark force to work towards

18:49

the that's still pretty far away. So

18:51

if we now know what our potential as and

18:54

we back to that to what's possible. What's.

18:56

Practical. What can we practically do

18:58

in like twelve to eighteen months?

19:01

That. Creates another landmark for a closer landmark

19:03

to where we are now. And.

19:05

If West was practical, and twelve eighteen months,

19:07

where do I need to prioritize to get

19:10

to that landmark when we need to do

19:12

in the next three months? the next six

19:14

months, the next nine months to get me

19:16

to that practical landmark? Those.

19:18

Priorities. Those. Are your

19:21

goals? Those are the goals that are going to

19:23

get you to that big, beautiful cathedral. So

19:25

that as you accomplish. Each one

19:28

of those goals, You know that whatever

19:30

you've done, you've gotten a step closer

19:32

to where it is. You want to

19:34

go. right? it. Each time you finish,

19:36

a goal is completed. He had that

19:38

feeling of winning, feels amazing, and it

19:40

continues. And it stretches because it's tied

19:42

to something bigger. so it's really looking

19:44

off into the future, that cathedral. And

19:46

then it's as simple as is, backing

19:48

it up and creating your own little

19:50

road map for where does you want

19:52

to go. That's really how we figure

19:54

out. What? Activities What you

19:56

know things went past we want

19:59

to accomplish. That are really high to

20:01

that digger purpose. Yeah.

20:03

I realize this concept of having the other

20:05

that smaller daily action tied to Disney a

20:07

glorious legacy down the road of I know

20:09

for me personally I have a really hard

20:11

time I guess choosing the Cathedral. Go.

20:14

I have a lot of ideas, a lot

20:16

of potential visions for who I could become

20:18

an abuser. How do you nero that that

20:20

process down? How do you say like snowball

20:22

the cathedral I could build? How do I

20:24

choose this one ago? Is there a process

20:26

to filter or what's best for someone and

20:28

as third season of Life Or a way

20:30

to nearly down. Yeah, why didn't

20:32

the first thing to do is the first

20:35

acknowledge that you cathedral may not be a

20:37

cathedral down the road like you To teach.

20:39

You can change my view. evolve and change

20:41

and shift and grow. Yeah, the same person

20:44

you are by ten years ago. Yeah, same

20:46

person you are maybe five ten months ago,

20:48

right? So it's possible for that to change.

20:50

it's just not working to get closer to

20:53

that idea. And I declare the things that

20:55

people tend to hide behind. and

20:57

uses an excuse is that they are multikine

20:59

net Why yes I too many cathedral I

21:01

am all these things i wanna do. And.

21:04

The truth is I'm like that that's

21:06

kind of a myth. Everybody is not

21:08

a passionate. The weirdest that defining ourselves

21:10

as not a passionate because literally if

21:12

you were to since the world far

21:14

and wide every corner of this earth

21:16

you would not find one person who

21:19

says one thing. just one. I only

21:21

one thing. We

21:23

all have multiple things. So.

21:25

It's really a choice of what it is

21:27

he wants to prioritize. There's lots of things

21:29

you love. There's lots of things I love.

21:31

But. We need to choose to focus in on a

21:34

couple of them. One, two, maybe

21:36

three different cathedrals, right? You may have

21:38

a Cathedral, your personal lives and a

21:40

cathedral and York's in your career or

21:42

your workplace and but really understanding which

21:44

one of those you want to focus

21:46

in the mess. And there's actually an

21:48

activity that we walk through in the

21:50

but. Where. We figure out

21:53

what are you truly passionate about? I

21:55

call it grabbing a piece of the

21:57

pie because we looked at. How

21:59

you. How does this thing that you're passionate

22:01

about? how it fits in with your powers

22:03

as your p. How. Much makes

22:05

an impact in your life and in the

22:07

lives of others. And then the he is

22:09

excitement How much excitement you really have for

22:11

this. There's a lot of things that were

22:13

really good at that we can do that

22:15

we don't really love. So we give the

22:17

score and we add a map and there's

22:19

a whole exercise me walk through. Because.

22:22

Truly everybody loves lots of things. I

22:24

love productivity and that's what I focused

22:26

my career on. but I also love

22:28

working with power tools. I love building

22:30

thing by lox, doing home renovations and

22:32

a cool or I love I love

22:34

reading to. There's lots of things that

22:36

I love outside of productivity and I

22:38

still make time for them. But. I

22:40

get the lion's share of my time to

22:42

one or two things because that's how we

22:44

move the needle. That's how we make a

22:46

difference. Of. This is

22:49

this is totally off topic way to said by

22:51

where I feel of just but inside your power

22:53

tools. And. Where I have found

22:55

to be route weirdly true of the people

22:57

who like productivity like the two of us

22:59

also build things like woodworking. Oh.

23:01

Really I have an interest that is

23:04

I got is my side thing I

23:06

do besides productivity by buildings, my garage

23:08

and. I so I built a new

23:10

piece of furniture every year for my birthday. That's

23:12

like one of the things that I love you

23:14

And yet so I intentionally set aside a whole

23:17

we can to just build for my week for

23:19

my birthday. So so funny. Must be something. I

23:21

don't know what it in as about the planning

23:23

as as yes as it has risen accomplishing eggs

23:25

are going on about like a mini golf yes

23:27

would totally as i think that the mapping out

23:29

what it is another building how to do it

23:31

is this is more of the that the same

23:33

the armory doing just like not on the computer

23:35

if it's like using my has. Ah,

23:38

Anyway, that's interested in another do with

23:40

your book about disinterested I suffer. From

23:42

that perspective back this idea of of

23:44

the the pie. I really

23:46

like this idea. Be able to narrow down what

23:49

it is we care about by making the decision.

23:51

Of. I like the you call my said an

23:53

excuse had the that's very true that be multi passionate

23:55

as as every one. Of as in

23:57

making a decision. Oftentimes most people myself included,

24:00

that's the hardest part is sane. Of all

24:02

the things I could say, yes you are

24:04

only as a yes to one thing and

24:06

then when that happens, well that's when focus

24:08

shows up right? That and you're able to

24:11

actually dig into something more deeply. So it

24:13

is that the process then like once we've

24:15

come home to the and and said we're

24:17

going this direction now Studio Son of A

24:19

align your life to have everything. Go there.

24:22

I would say every thanks I'm not

24:25

at all or nothing that kind of

24:27

percent right. Like you have other aspects,

24:29

you have other roles the plane your

24:31

life but the majority of your time

24:33

efforts, your energy your focus should go

24:35

towards whatever it is that cathedral looks

24:38

like because. Honestly, if that's

24:40

your cathedral, it's something you're excited

24:42

about. Something that you want, something

24:44

you desire. And so when we

24:46

focus our time and our energy

24:49

and activities, On that see, it gets

24:51

us closer. We're going to feel more.

24:53

Fulfillment, more satisfaction, more more successful

24:55

in and that's ultimately what we're

24:58

looking for. Owe it all Changes.

25:00

To think of any goal, any

25:02

dream, any escalation, And

25:05

I would guarantee that they are steeped

25:07

in happiness and some sort. I think

25:09

we think of happiness as the soft

25:11

thing that's like frivolous that extra. Every

25:14

goal even think every dream is teaching happiness.

25:16

Ninety one of the city to be happier

25:18

in your pants, right leg and a marathon

25:21

to be happy as you cross the finish

25:23

line. Why want to start your own business?

25:25

He can be happy as your own boss.

25:28

So. It's time to really focus

25:30

air and create a little face of the

25:33

table for happiness. because that's what might as

25:35

well as about. It's not the the struggle

25:37

and the scramble and that scrambling for thing

25:39

with met before seeing it's. Finding.

25:41

The joy and happiness and are

25:43

every days and that happens when

25:45

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25:57

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29:29

What happens when we get stuck by feel like

29:31

there are a lot of seasons of my life

29:33

where know things are moving along fine and then

29:35

at some point a real i wake up in

29:37

Maine realized I don't like where I am. I'm

29:39

not sure how had seen just like how do

29:42

we get ourselves into these to the up with

29:44

his first of all but really how do we

29:46

get out of them are to move forward. Yeah.

29:49

Well I think what happens is personal.

29:51

Our brain loves Patterns Ray Our brain.

29:53

laws, patents and patterns are really important

29:55

for our brain because patterns or what

29:57

held our brain which which that much.

30:00

If we didn't love patterns, we will

30:02

be constantly surprised by everything. Play by

30:04

the water coming out the spigot of

30:06

the shower buckets by the way, the

30:08

sudden filter through the flats of the

30:10

blinds so. Understanding that we love

30:12

patterns and as a. Good thing is

30:14

cool. But we also need

30:16

to disrupt the patterns because what happens is

30:18

our brain doesn't the autopilot and it makes

30:20

choices for as every single day it chooses

30:22

to make our heart be and mix our

30:25

eyes blink that's all those polls are hand

30:27

away from the fire If we catch it

30:29

we'll have to make those choices are brain

30:31

take silver without as even recognizing and are

30:33

realizing it. And. That's what happens to

30:35

when we had these patterns of thinking of.

30:37

This is just the way things are. or

30:39

I guess I'm not very good at Whatever

30:42

it is I think I'm not very good

30:44

at or I'm just stuck. Weeks we create

30:46

this, like grew this right for ourselves. Where

30:48

it's like this pattern and we need to

30:51

choose to disrupt the pattern. And

30:53

we can make that choice. When. We step

30:55

away from it and we recognize what

30:57

is the thinking that's going through my

30:59

brain. What is what's the thought pattern

31:01

that's repeating itself. And when we understand

31:03

that, We. Can really and. We.

31:08

Think maybe opposite of stuff is

31:10

way it is. This a magical

31:12

moments. Rainbows are shooting out the

31:14

sky. What we are. And

31:17

stuff and that's not true. The.

31:19

Opposite of stuff is option.

31:22

Taking. Action: Choosing to move

31:24

forward, Choosing to take a seat, Choosing

31:26

a tiny small itty bitty stuff. That.

31:29

Is the opposite of south and that's

31:31

how we get ourselves answer. So when

31:33

it comes to be thought patterns that

31:36

are on repeat and our brain. What

31:38

we need to do is we need to stop. And

31:41

choose to take action to counteract

31:43

it to understand where it comes

31:45

from. And. And I walk

31:47

through in the book a series of

31:49

questions Was really a few is one

31:51

question that we can ask yourself called

31:54

the fifth Why to dive into why

31:56

these thoughts are there. And am

31:58

I I love about this? Why is it

32:00

includes? how like an education that we just

32:02

talked about. It's so simple and easy to

32:05

do. You can literally do it anywhere. You.

32:07

Think about with that thought It So when

32:09

you recognize and feeling kind of ah like

32:11

emotionally you know the feeling or been set

32:14

up in your body and you're having tension,

32:16

headaches or you're getting a stomachache are you

32:18

have? You have areas of your body or

32:20

stress of that are you find yourself in

32:22

the pantry stress eating again. Instead. Of

32:24

beating yourself up Said okay, what's the thought pattern?

32:26

What's what's going through my head right now. Are

32:29

right, we have that knowledge. take some action, Why?

32:32

Do I think. That. First,

32:34

why is gonna be so shallow? Was like

32:36

a baby pool? Say it's just like the

32:38

first. The answer and it's an easy answer.

32:40

So what we're going to do is we're

32:42

going to ask why five times. We. As

32:44

the first line and then we take any of the from

32:46

the first line and we ask it again. Susan's.

32:49

The reasons. For. Same. Size.

32:51

As we keep asking want to get to

32:53

That will cause. So

32:56

for example, let's say. You're

32:58

thought pattern his arms. I'm a

33:01

failure. Rice. And you had this

33:03

thought that I'm always a failure. I'm a failure

33:05

again. Why are you a failure As a first

33:07

wife? While because I my boss did give you

33:09

promotion. Okay, Why?

33:11

Why didn't you basket you? Promotion. Well.

33:14

Because they didn't think I was my. Third,

33:17

why why don't we think you're ready? Was they

33:19

didn't think I was ready because I don't have

33:21

my advance certification. Okay, Let's ask

33:23

was the first time why don't you get you have

33:25

your advanced certification I don't want my the answer

33:27

to the case because I don't have time to work

33:30

on it. Okay, why don't you have time

33:32

to work on it? I don't have time to work on

33:34

it because the evening just seems to get away for me

33:36

and I don't have a really solid plan in place. And

33:38

I wake up in the morning and I feel like I'm

33:40

behind. Oh. Okay, it's

33:43

not you feeling like a failure is that

33:45

your evenings feel a little bit like a

33:47

mess. So now we have that root cause

33:50

we can pull it off. We can change

33:52

it, we can shift at we can do

33:54

some things we can choose one or even

33:56

to tiny actions to do in the evening

33:59

to counteract that. To. Create an

34:01

option going the opposite direction and

34:03

that's how we began to get

34:05

unstuck. I

34:07

really like this this or the series of questions

34:09

as is his hands like my three year old

34:11

daughter. Who like assignments you're asking why

34:13

over and over and my answers have to

34:16

get more creative with each generation and I

34:18

feel like bad process of displayed continually asking

34:20

that question the a confound monotonous are crazy

34:22

and first like I totally get we're going

34:25

this is it really does uncover the real

34:27

thing that's happened in the real reason why

34:29

we're stuck in some capacity as like as

34:31

if that's what we're doing our own as

34:34

is kind of questions every day or just

34:36

when we get to these moments with feel

34:38

like on some level we need to ask

34:40

why a lot more often than we are

34:43

at is this kind of that Go again

34:45

here to to understand how we think like

34:47

that's where we're headed. Oh without

34:49

question and I I think the truth is

34:52

when were three years old we ask why

34:54

a million times a day right? Why why

34:56

why why Why we go to school and

34:58

all the sun were no wonder rewarded for

35:00

asking questions. We are rewarded for answering the

35:03

words hot to start asking questions. So we

35:05

start focusing on answers and not the questions

35:07

and so we're losing our the had it

35:09

as adults. Now that we're adults were like

35:12

we don't ask questions, we just do this

35:14

because this is just the way it is

35:16

and that's a solid excuse Me are all

35:18

the time. This is just the way it is.

35:20

or this is how it's always been done. And

35:23

we have sought to ask this question is why.

35:25

And if we regularly stop and ask

35:28

why if we regularly stop and say

35:30

what is my thinking year we kick

35:32

or ownership over it and we can

35:34

start to really choose. Is. It's

35:37

funny to say, but a lot of

35:39

times we're not really choosing to choose

35:41

our brain is is taking over. Hillary

35:43

step outside of that and we take

35:45

time to reflect. Then. We can

35:47

question what's happening. Am I happy here?

35:49

Is this really what I want? Why

35:51

am I doing these things? All of

35:53

them? They're valid questions to ask ourselves

35:55

from time to time. But. Because

35:57

we have a lot going on, we don't stopped as

35:59

the. When it's not fair

36:01

of our routine, right? So for

36:03

me, I regularly stop at

36:06

least once a quarter for my business. I

36:08

do a full day of reflection of looking

36:10

back at how my business is then going.

36:12

Why are we doing these things? What do

36:14

we think? We wanted you and moving forwards?

36:16

What's that? What's the main focus here? Play

36:19

all those questions. Really powerful people tend to

36:21

do it somewhat at the end of the

36:23

year, but we should be doing or often

36:25

I think doing a little bit of reflection

36:27

at the end of each day. Is

36:30

an incredibly powerful experience. How.

36:32

Am doing justice to a quick check. And how do

36:34

I feel about my day that my too stressed out

36:36

did I put too much and I played. Why?

36:39

Did I feel like today was amazing? Let's you

36:41

more of that's. Why? I feel like

36:43

today was terrible all right now that I

36:45

know that let's not do that again and

36:47

do something else was to the opposite tomorrow.

36:50

If we stop and question. We

36:52

learned so much about ourselves. And.

36:54

Of questions are are easy to ask and

36:56

we literally can do them laying in bed.

36:59

Driving. And apart. And. He is

37:01

our. We. Can happen at all those times. Yards.

37:05

And on a weekly review for for years and

37:07

I've I've as similar questions like that. I feel

37:09

like that most people into your point of are

37:12

not asking those questions enough and if of when

37:14

we do is incredible. The answers that we get

37:16

because I for most of us we are more

37:18

aware of ourselves that we realize we just aren't

37:21

taking the time to acknowledge it and then to

37:23

act on it as like that for me has

37:25

always been the big deal that I ask the

37:27

questions but then after all that at the next

37:29

step is they will now have put on the

37:32

calendar and and do the thing that solves the

37:34

problem and it's. It's amazing when that happens

37:36

is that it's really transformative. Well.

37:38

And sometimes we don't want to ask the questions because

37:40

we don't want to you the answers semi monthly on

37:43

about his the lunch room He'd rather do than reflect

37:45

back on the things that we don't like. For the

37:47

things that didn't go our the failure of the trauma.

37:50

The to be honest with you, When.

37:52

We when we take the bandages off,

37:54

when we allow those things in our

37:56

lives. In having those things having sale,

37:58

you're having trauma have. You know,

38:00

things that have frustrated us in our past. Stumbling

38:02

blocks That doesn't make any one of us unique.

38:05

We all have them. But. When we bring

38:07

them to light and we keep the bandages off and

38:09

we allow them to get air. That's. When

38:11

they begin to heal. And truly

38:13

it's when we see. The things

38:15

that we don't like. That. We can

38:18

build a so much of we can build

38:20

so much more other what we don't like

38:22

or don't want or don't want to repeat

38:24

so much more than what we cannot. The

38:26

shiny trophies. We. Can push against regrets

38:29

and do the opposite because so often

38:31

were like what I don't even know

38:33

what I was. We. Know what

38:35

you do though, what you don't want. You know

38:37

what he don't like to start their. That's.

38:39

Regrets. Let's move that into resilience by doing

38:41

the opposite. Make a list of what the

38:44

opposite ends of what it is you don't

38:46

want. And you know in in

38:48

my life I can share example of how

38:50

I've done that. As because it

38:53

really was. It's a really powerful

38:55

experience. For for me

38:57

we. Had years ago. we had an

38:59

order of products can and so I have

39:01

a a big warehouse. Thousands of boxes are

39:04

there. And. I open up the

39:06

first class. Everything's damage something, second box,

39:08

Everything. damage that the o'clock Everything. sewage.

39:10

Hundred and fifty about every single products

39:12

was damaged. hundreds of thousands of hours

39:14

with a product in my warehouse damaged.

39:16

and of course at that moment I'm

39:18

like were sunk. What do we get

39:20

to do? I made the decision.

39:22

We are you gonna like tighten up our belts?

39:24

We're gonna, we're gonna work. Said to make it

39:26

happen because otherwise the business with gonna fail And

39:28

so I spent the next three months doing seven

39:31

days a week, twelve to fourteen hour days The

39:33

kids would get off the school bus, go straight

39:35

to the warehouse. We. Would order food and

39:37

he did on the floor of the warehouse. We would

39:39

go there on the weekends. I mean it was all

39:41

at the warehouse for months. And we got

39:43

to the into that, period, and I reflected back

39:45

how it I feel about it. And

39:48

I felt like the world's worst mom.

39:50

I mean without question world's worst mama.

39:52

My kids weren't doing anything fun at

39:54

know activities everything with focus on the

39:57

warehouse and I felt awful. Now.

39:59

i couldn't I feel awful on the world's

40:01

worst mom. I'm going to shove this under the bed and not

40:03

think about it. Or I could have just

40:05

said, well, I'm the world's worst mom. And that's just the way

40:07

it is. I guess that's just who I am then moving forward.

40:10

But instead I said, okay, you know what? I

40:12

don't want to be the world's worst mom. I hate

40:15

this feeling I have right now. How can I push

40:17

against this and do the opposite? So

40:19

I made the decision because of that season in my life

40:21

that I was going to leave work every day at 3

40:23

o'clock. I was going to work

40:25

Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday till 3 and Fridays.

40:27

I wasn't going to work at all because

40:29

I was never going back to being the

40:32

world's worst mom. I made

40:34

that decision several years ago. I run

40:36

a seven-figure business. I still leave work

40:38

every day at 3 o'clock and I

40:40

don't work on Fridays. I

40:42

would have never thought that was possible if

40:45

I hadn't had a season of regret. If I hadn't

40:47

been pushed so out of fight, like,

40:50

and being unhappy with myself. If I hadn't been

40:52

pushed to, I want to do the exact opposite

40:54

of that. I would have never even attempted

40:56

it. And here I am, now

40:58

living years later, this has been a

41:01

driving force in my life that I

41:03

don't work the hours everybody else does,

41:05

but I make an amazing amount of

41:07

money. So really,

41:09

pushing against regret is where we can grow. It's

41:11

where we can really shift into who it is

41:13

we want to be. I

41:16

just had a guest on the podcast talking

41:18

about four-day work weeks. And he said, almost

41:20

a word for word, but you just said,

41:22

which is that this idea that when we

41:25

work less, prioritize, focus, clarify what we want

41:27

and don't want, that all of a

41:29

sudden everything is going to fit. Like, the messiness

41:31

of the calendar is not messy when there's those

41:33

boundaries in place. It really establishes, like, this

41:35

is what I'm doing, this is what I'm not

41:38

doing, and here's when and why. And when those

41:40

things are in place, it's like, all of a sudden, yeah, you don't

41:42

ask the question anymore. Like, am I

41:44

going to work a 14-hour workday? The answer is already no. It's not

41:46

an option. Yeah, I love that. And my why is, I

41:48

don't want to be the world's worst

41:50

mom. Because that's how I felt. I don't want to go back to

41:52

that feeling. That regret is so

41:55

powerful for me, and it is

41:57

for so many people to use regret for good. What?

42:01

Else about the Borg to be not covered Today the will

42:03

make sure we do cover. Oh

42:05

my gosh, there's lots of things in the buck rights.

42:08

Is this this? This is an hour see.

42:10

Where the big things that that holds people back

42:12

a lot of times it's fear. There's a whole

42:14

chapter on fear. I think the other thing is

42:16

as people saying they don't have the time to

42:18

do the things they want to do. I was

42:20

the same time saying that they're gonna do there's

42:22

been some day. So. There's is interesting

42:25

push and pull, so I really.

42:27

The. Whole book is about the power of

42:30

choice. It's soothing how you want to

42:32

live your life, choosing to create, the

42:34

time, choosing to invest in. you're choosing

42:36

to release your fears. And when we

42:38

understand that those choices are there when

42:41

we start soon as the tiny little

42:43

choices, choosing not to let fear run

42:45

over us for example, All. A

42:47

sudden. More. Door start appearing. More

42:50

opportunities for landing right in front

42:52

of us. Because. Once of choices

42:54

are there more choices? x appear and then

42:56

more and more. And that's really when we

42:58

take ownership over our lives. When we take

43:01

ownership over who we are and what we

43:03

want in this world. A

43:05

love it so well said this great of our

43:07

listeners to learn more from you and doesn't get

43:10

a copy of the books so where can they

43:12

got again. Yes, Of the

43:14

best place to find me is that funny

43:16

adults in.com. You. Can find links to

43:18

my podcast their the intentional advantage. You can

43:20

also find me to my books so have

43:22

the joy of missing out. That came out

43:24

of years ago and then this new book

43:27

on purpose the Busy Woman sky to an

43:29

extraordinary life of meaning and success. You. Can

43:31

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43:33

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43:35

Books are also available anywhere. Books are

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sold, Okay, Excellent!

43:39

This is wonderful And there's so much about.

43:42

Yellow. You just said making these choices and

43:44

and to get our to move it over

43:46

those that is so I free because it

43:48

enables array move forward a powerful way over

43:50

listeners can really pull from that and learn

43:52

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43:54

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43:58

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