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Hey, this is Jeff Sanders and welcome

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to the 5am Miracle Podcast, episode number

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454. Your

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set point is the problem. How

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to change your default behaviors. Good

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morning and welcome to the 5am

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Miracle. I am Jeff Sanders and

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this is the podcast dedicated to

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dominating your day before breakfast. My

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goal is to help you bounce out

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of bed with enthusiasm, create powerful, lifelong

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habits and of course, tackle your grandest

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goals with extraordinary energy. And yes, today

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I've had a lot of caffeine so

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we're going to have a lot of

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energy in the episode this week. And

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speaking of this episode, I

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will break down what a set point is, how

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to change your set point and

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what that means for the future

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of your ambitious goals. Let's

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get to it. Do

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we rise to the occasion when

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it matters most? This

1:05

is an important question and the actual

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answer is no. It's

1:10

a common misconception that we rise

1:12

to the occasion when we are

1:14

under stress or challenged to be

1:16

our best. But what

1:18

actually happens is that we fall to

1:20

the level of our training, our

1:23

habits and our default behaviors.

1:26

In other words, we act in accordance

1:28

with our set point. Now

1:30

a popular quotation on this topic comes

1:32

from the Greek lyrical poet, Arcilochus.

1:36

I just butchered that

1:38

name. But anyway, what the quotation

1:40

says is we don't rise to

1:42

the level of our expectations. And

1:44

we fall to the level of our training.

1:48

So what's happening here is that we

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have moments of stress, moments where we

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are challenged, moments in life where we

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have to be our best. And

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we think, we assume that we are

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pulling. pulling from these reserves of our

2:01

best selves to then act in these

2:04

moments when things are difficult. And

2:06

to a certain degree that can be

2:08

true, but what's actually happening, you kind

2:10

of pulling from those reserves or rising

2:12

to the occasion is actually

2:15

you pulling from your training,

2:17

your default habits in those

2:19

moments. So is it possible

2:21

for you to actually be better than ever

2:23

when you're under stress? Of course.

2:26

But where does that come from? Where

2:28

does that best self originate? And

2:30

the answer is what you've trained to

2:32

do in those moments. Your

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training, your set point is the thing

2:37

that determines not only your

2:39

daily habits and your success day to day,

2:42

but your success in those moments

2:44

of stress. So this

2:46

week we're going to dig into how those

2:48

set points play a pivotal role in your

2:50

life, in your business, in your daily habits,

2:53

and of course in those moments of stress

2:55

when you really want to be your best.

2:58

So your set point is potentially a

3:01

problem or it's potentially an

3:03

opportunity to improve how you perform each and

3:05

every day. And of course, once again, in

3:07

those moments where you need to be

3:09

your best. So we're going

3:11

to focus on this idea of a set point

3:13

being a thing you can control and how

3:17

when you change your default behaviors, the

3:19

entirety of your life and business will

3:21

get better. So

3:23

first let's begin with what a set point

3:25

actually is. Now according to Google,

3:28

which is a great place to begin, a set

3:30

point is actually more specifically targeted towards

3:33

weight and body temperature. That's probably the

3:35

most common way to think about it.

3:38

So according to Google, a set point

3:40

is a theory that states everyone's body

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has a genetically determined range of weight

3:44

and temperature that their body will try

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to maintain to stay at optimal health.

3:50

So in that sense, a set point

3:52

is about this general range that your

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body tends to go back to, a

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homeostasis, an equilibrium. Your body is trying

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to maintain. this sense of harmony

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at these ideal weights and body temperatures so

4:03

you can be your best. When

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it comes to set points in regards to

4:08

personal growth or in regards to daily habits,

4:11

the same thing tends to be true. We

4:13

tend to kind of fluctuate around a

4:16

certain norm, a certain set of this

4:18

is how my life operates, this is

4:20

who I am in these moments. And

4:23

whether it's under stress or whether it's an

4:25

easy day, whether you're in a new location

4:27

or you're just at home hanging with a

4:29

family, you're going to tend to

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operate in the same kind of general habits

4:33

and rhythms as you have in the past.

4:36

The question becomes, if you

4:38

want to grow, if you want to improve, if

4:40

you want your life to be better than it's

4:43

ever been, well then we're

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not going to just change something like

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getting another degree in school or starting

4:49

a business or running a marathon, these

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bigger kind of fluctuation points that sound

4:53

nice on paper, the

4:55

way to change your life is

4:58

you change your everyday experience and

5:00

your habits are everything. Your set

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point that determines how you operate

5:04

all the time, that's

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the thing to focus on and when

5:08

it improves, everything improves.

5:12

So it may sound obvious then if

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your set point is the thing that

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determines your success in your everyday experience,

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well then if your set point is

5:20

too low, that could be a big

5:22

problem. If your average set

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point is too low, if your normal

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is not what you want, if your

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habits are actually destructive to you over

5:31

time or if your training

5:33

lacks specificity, meaning that you are not

5:35

prepared for the real world scenarios you

5:37

are going to face, you

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are therefore going to default to a

5:41

lower set of standards than you intended.

5:44

But your set point, this thing that

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is your habits, your norm, when it

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is too low, when your

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day to day experience is not what

5:52

you want, well then that's an opportunity. Yes

5:55

it could be a problem but it's an opportunity

5:57

to improve. So our goal

5:59

here is to create a new reality.

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A reality for you that has a lot

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of room for great improvement. A reality that

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says that your normal state of being is

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the best it could possibly be. As

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opposed to one that when it's graphed

6:14

out over time, kind of stays the

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same or even declines, we would

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rather see a norm that

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is gradually increasing to be better.

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And that's the intention here. It's not

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immediate success. It's not some big fluctuation

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point that says I did one big

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thing. Hurrah, there it is. No,

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that's too easy. In fact,

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we're looking for something that's actually way more

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challenging on face value, which

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is to change who you are every day. That's

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a much more difficult challenge than

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a single success point. But

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I would argue that is actually the best

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fight to have, the best goal to pursue,

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the best personal growth ambition

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to focus on is

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to change and improve who you are

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each and every day. Let's

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now look at how default behaviors

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actually work. We can use the

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example here of a soldier. Soldiers

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tend to be the kinds of people

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we think of who have these great

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skills and great training, and that when

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they are presented with a great military

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challenge, they can rise to the occasion

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because they've trained for those moments. Well,

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when a challenge presents itself, your

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training is going to determine your

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response, your reaction to the stimulus

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that's taking place. And

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typically, we're going to see the three

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main responses, which would be fight, flight,

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or freeze. So to fight, of

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course, you engage with your current skills. You

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dig in and you say, I'm going to take this

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thing head on. For flight,

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you would run away. You would

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procrastinate, avoid. You would

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try to find any way to not

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engage because your skills are preventing you

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from winning this battle. You

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believe that fleeing is the smartest choice,

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which could be the smartest choice. artist's

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choice or could just be your default

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response that actually isn't the best. And

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finally, the last response could be to

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freeze, which means you cannot cope with

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what's happening. You just simply have

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the deer in the headlights response and your

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body doesn't know what to do. Your

8:16

mind doesn't have the training to handle because

8:18

it's just too much at once. So

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our goal is to figure out

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how can we have the best

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possible default behaviors when life happens

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to us. And not every

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single stressful moment requires us to fight.

8:32

Sometimes the best thing is to run away. Other

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times it is to be a little more intelligent

8:37

and find the best response. But we're

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trying to figure out how do

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we change ourselves internally so

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that we are prepared for those moments. Because

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most of life is fairly predictable.

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Most extreme examples aren't actually

8:51

that extreme. We tend to

8:53

face the same battles over and over

8:55

again. And so our goal

8:58

is to make sure we have the

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skills available for those typical common everyday

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occurrences. Now knowing that

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your set points will dictate your response.

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That means that your current skills determine

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how you respond to that challenge. And

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skills are interesting because those can

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be learned. They can be changed

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and improved. You do not

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have to stay the same person you are

9:20

today because you can get better, which

9:23

is exciting. That's the opportunity here. Skills

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give you the ability to improve

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that response time. To improve the

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response itself. Now

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your worst habits may reveal themselves

9:34

when you are pushed and challenged

9:36

and tested. Which is also

9:39

encouraging. Because then it tells

9:41

you, here are my worst habits. Here's

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how I potentially failed in this moment.

9:45

Which means now I have more clarity

9:47

on what to improve and what skills

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to then go gain to get better

9:51

over time. Now

9:53

knowing that you can change your set points

9:56

and therefore change your default behavior. That

9:58

gives you the opportunity to ask those. questions of what

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can I do now? What

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actions can I take to improve? What

10:05

skills can I gain now? You probably

10:07

already know the kinds of challenges you

10:09

face on a daily basis, the kinds

10:11

of rhythms and habits that take place,

10:13

and you probably already know there are

10:15

opportunities in my life here and

10:17

now that can be changed, that

10:19

can be improved. The goal

10:21

is to identify those in a specific

10:24

way and have a specific plan to

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tackle them. And then over

10:28

time your set point will get

10:30

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now that we've acknowledged that set points

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can be improved, they can be changed.

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The Author: the question is how of

12:48

what he pointed due to actually get

12:50

these things to be better. How does

12:52

your day to day life actually improve?

12:55

Will of focus on the how

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we begin with the best. The

13:00

most obvious example which is training.

13:02

It is practicing the new skills

13:04

you need to improve or time

13:06

and the best perspective or philosophy.

13:08

The way to approach training ultimately

13:10

years through identity. When. You change

13:13

how you view yourself. You're going to

13:15

change yourself to someone who is in

13:17

training all the time around. The Eerie:

13:19

You want to improve. And

13:21

the best place I think to begin

13:23

with identity or the titles you used

13:25

to define yourself. You are

13:27

in athlete as an example

13:29

or a chef or a

13:32

Ceo, entrepreneur, marathon runner, authors,

13:34

speaker, spouse, son, daughter. You

13:36

are changing the way you

13:38

view yourself by changing the

13:40

titles you associate with who

13:42

you are and how you

13:44

operate. titles have a lot

13:46

of power and their tie directly

13:48

to who you are is how

13:50

you view yourself and then those

13:52

titles that identity that specific vision

13:55

of who you want to be

13:57

can then determine the types of

13:59

skills you to bring into your life

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the types of training that you will engage

14:03

in. And so

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the way that I tend to view this

14:08

is I identify first a problem or opportunity

14:10

that I want to pursue. There's some area

14:12

of my life or business that needs an

14:14

adjustment. So then you

14:16

take that challenge and say, well,

14:18

what identity, what title would best

14:20

associate me with the solution that

14:22

I want? And

14:24

once you identify that, you can

14:27

then create the training schedule associated

14:29

with that title and

14:31

that solution. To be

14:33

more specific, let's use an example of someone

14:35

who is an athlete. Let's say

14:37

your goal is to lose weight. Your goal is to

14:39

be healthier. So in that

14:41

example, let's imagine that someone who wants

14:43

to improve their health would then set

14:45

the solution as a major physical fitness

14:47

event. Like let's use a triathlon, a

14:50

good one there. Well, if your

14:52

goal is to complete a triathlon, you

14:54

would then have to change your identity

14:56

to a triathlete. That becomes

14:58

your title. Well, as a

15:01

triathlete, what would I do? How

15:03

would I live my life differently than

15:05

someone who is not a triathlete? And

15:08

that then determines your training schedule because

15:11

you immediately go from someone who says,

15:13

well, I wasn't this person before. I'm

15:16

going to adopt this new title

15:18

now and then adopt a

15:21

lifestyle, a training schedule that fits

15:23

with this new identity. And

15:25

that's when you begin to set milestones

15:28

and individual goals. You measure your progress

15:30

over time. You change your calendar to

15:32

adapt to the new version of you

15:34

that you're going to be taking very

15:37

seriously because you're changing who you are

15:40

based upon your title, your identity,

15:42

your daily habits, and the goals you are

15:44

pursuing. All of these

15:47

things are connected around your new

15:49

vision. So if you

15:51

want to change your default behaviors, you want to change your

15:53

set point. All of that

15:55

is predicated on the idea that you're going

15:57

somewhere. All of this is based on your own.

16:00

you specifically targeting the growth

16:02

you want. You're not going

16:04

to get better generically. Your

16:06

default behaviors will not improve

16:08

arbitrarily. These are going somewhere

16:10

specific and that specific direction

16:12

you're going is based on the goals

16:14

you set, which then of course

16:17

change your identity, change your title, change your

16:19

habits, change your calendar. They're

16:21

all connected to where you are

16:23

going. So the underlying

16:25

message here, maybe the overlying umbrella message

16:28

here, is that your

16:30

set point, your default behaviors all

16:32

improve when you choose where

16:34

you are going and specifically

16:37

what you want. With

16:39

that in mind, everything else

16:42

tends to flow very logically

16:44

from that specific direction. Now

16:49

what's also interesting is that throughout this

16:51

process, as you change your identity, as

16:53

you change your title, as your habits

16:55

begin to improve, one thing

16:57

that you'll notice is that you'll tend

16:59

to begin to ask these kinds of

17:01

questions like, what would a triathlete do

17:03

in this scenario? What would a CEO

17:05

of the company do in this situation?

17:08

Because what's happening is that your regular

17:10

self, the you of an everyday scenario,

17:13

thinks in a certain way, makes

17:15

certain choices. But when you

17:17

change who that person is, when

17:19

you change that title, change that

17:22

identity, you're changing your mind, you're

17:24

changing the questions you tend to

17:26

ask, which then leads you

17:28

to making different choices. We

17:30

all have the same amount of time every day, but

17:33

we're all making different choices with that

17:35

time. So the only way for you

17:37

to get where you are to where you want to

17:40

be is different decisions.

17:42

And as those choices change, based upon the direction

17:44

you want to go, the results

17:47

will follow. You will then see

17:49

those fruits of that labor

17:52

that will come about because you decided

17:54

to do something different than you did

17:56

before. That process

17:59

of making different different choices. Number

18:01

one, that's what change is. You're

18:03

different than before, but it's

18:06

also going to butt you up against

18:08

some really difficult choices. You're going to

18:10

have to struggle here. Now, you

18:13

don't have to struggle, but you will. Struggle

18:15

is baked into this process. Set

18:18

points don't get better easily. Now,

18:21

I love the perspective of making this process

18:23

simple and easy, but I'll be

18:25

the first to tell you that changing who you are

18:27

at the core is one of the

18:29

most difficult things you could ever do. There

18:32

are many theories out there that say you

18:34

can't do this, that your default core self

18:36

is unchangeable. I do not

18:39

believe in that. I absolutely believe you can

18:41

change who you are. I know

18:43

that because I've done that. That's

18:45

been my personal growth pursuit for

18:47

decades now. I've seen it.

18:49

I've lived it. Of course, those I've worked

18:51

with have seen that as well. You have

18:53

seen that in yourself as well, I'm sure.

18:56

Before we go any further, just pause for

18:59

a second and acknowledge that change is not

19:01

only possible, but it is

19:03

for you that that improvement is

19:05

the direction you're headed and

19:07

that challenge is a good thing. The

19:09

struggle is a good thing and that

19:11

that process, the opportunities that come about

19:14

from this will make you

19:16

a better person in the midst of

19:18

those obstacles. Of course,

19:20

along that same process, when you

19:22

are training through these more difficult

19:24

challenges, you are improving your default

19:26

response. Yes, that's the goal, but

19:28

you're also getting better at turning

19:30

down temptations. You're getting better at

19:33

saying yes to adventures. You're improving

19:35

how you seek out opportunities to

19:37

improve more often because you're looking

19:39

for them. What's happening here

19:41

is a complete mindset shift that

19:43

goes from someone who says potentially,

19:46

I'm a victim. I'm struggling. Faith is

19:48

hard to someone who says, here's what

19:50

I want. Here's where I'm going. Here's

19:52

what's possible for me. Here's where I

19:54

can go. And I'm super excited to

19:57

go down these new paths. That's

19:59

a. Massive change. From.

20:01

Someone who is struggling to someone who

20:03

is succeeding. The. Difference here is

20:06

how you view yourself and how

20:08

you view the opportunity. To.

20:10

Make that shift from where you are

20:12

to where you can be. No.

20:15

The Op's is also true when

20:17

you're not training. when you're not

20:19

pursuing a bigger goal, your default

20:21

response will decline over time. You.

20:23

Will accept those temptations and those

20:26

distractions. You were then not prepared

20:28

to say yes to new challenges

20:30

and you actually declined opportunities in

20:32

order to pursue something easier. Because.

20:35

It's more familiar. This.

20:37

May sound very common to a lot

20:39

of us that when you're not in

20:42

that moment of training, You. Take

20:44

the easy path, you take the easy.

20:46

Yes, The couch looks comfortable. The ice

20:48

cream in the fridge looks appealing. But

20:51

when you're training, when you're actually

20:53

getting better, you have a different

20:56

response. those same scenarios, a different

20:58

healthier, and better response, And that's

21:00

where we're going. Fast

21:11

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second major way to change your default

22:31

response to change your set points, of

22:33

course, is to change your daily habits.

22:36

When I just focused on before

22:38

this aspect of trains, aspect of

22:40

identity shift, that's the

22:42

high level, very important first step.

22:45

But when all that is done well,

22:47

it very easily, it very quickly moves

22:50

to changing how you respond every day.

22:53

Because what you do ultimately every day, that's

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the thing that defines who you are. Your

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habits are your life. Your habits are

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your future success. Your habits will easily

23:02

predict where you will be and how

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long it will take to get there.

23:07

The only question about where will I be a

23:09

year from now, a second so easily be answered

23:11

with what have you done in the last 12

23:14

months. You're gonna do the exact

23:16

same thing in the next 12 months. It's so

23:18

easy to predict. And the only thing

23:20

that will change that is you

23:22

deciding to change that. Prediction

23:24

of the future is a very logical

23:26

thing because we know who we have

23:28

been. And we know that

23:31

those things don't tend to change unless

23:33

some major force outside of us changes

23:35

our path, which does happen. But

23:37

most often, we just stay

23:39

in the same path because we are

23:41

not interested in change. Becoming

23:43

the kind of person who can predict their

23:45

future in a better way to see growth

23:48

over time says I can see growth in

23:50

my past. I can see that a year

23:52

ago, I was worse off than I am

23:54

today, which means I got better, which

23:56

means a year from now, I'll be better than I

23:58

am today. So

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on this journey to change our

24:03

default behaviors, to improve our set

24:05

points over time, we have

24:07

covered identity shifts and the titles that come

24:09

with that, the training of new skills to

24:11

of course get better at those things we

24:13

want to practice each and every day, and

24:15

the daily habits that we need to make

24:18

sure that we are better every day in

24:20

regards to those things that we do over

24:22

and over again. There's more

24:24

to it than that though, especially when it

24:26

comes to the knowledge and the consumption of

24:28

new material. In other words, what

24:31

comes in is what comes out. We

24:33

all know that watching television, or mindless

24:35

TV in fact, will only really give

24:38

us more knowledge of entertainment, which doesn't

24:40

actually help us improve much. As

24:43

opposed to reading great books, going

24:45

to conferences, having great mentorships and

24:47

mastermind groups, and intentionally pursuing personal

24:49

growth so we can be better

24:52

at anything and everything that we

24:54

can choose. What

24:56

all this really says is, you

24:58

become what you think about. This

25:01

is a topic I've covered in detail

25:03

in this podcast before, but it fits

25:05

really well with this conversation. Your

25:08

thoughts will determine your actions. Your

25:11

thoughts will determine your set points.

25:13

They will determine your default actions

25:15

in every scenario. Ultimately,

25:18

your thoughts are your most important

25:20

habits. What you think is

25:22

the foundation of what you do. When

25:25

you change your thoughts, you change your actions,

25:27

you change your habits, you change your results,

25:29

and then over time, that changes your set

25:31

points. It changes your

25:33

default response to the scenarios you're

25:36

going to experience over and

25:38

over and over again. To

25:40

go back to this idea of what comes in is

25:42

what comes out, when you change

25:44

what you consume, you block yourself

25:46

from social media, you turn off the

25:48

TV, you pick up a book, you

25:50

talk to a smart mentor, you learn

25:52

a new skill, you take a course,

25:55

you watch a great YouTube series on

25:57

something you've never seen before. targeting

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here are areas of my life that I'm

26:02

letting things in that don't work and then

26:04

shifting that to something that actually does work

26:06

for you so that what comes out of

26:09

your life what you think about what you

26:11

do is difference and better

26:13

because you are different and better because

26:15

what you consumed is different

26:17

and better. Your

26:20

input sources really

26:22

matter. Every single time you pick

26:24

up your phone to look at Facebook or

26:26

you turn on the TV to watch Netflix

26:28

whatever the thing is you tend to default

26:30

to do what if that

26:32

default response was different? What

26:34

if you didn't do the things that aren't

26:37

serving you instead you did something that does?

26:40

What comes in is what comes out? So

26:42

figure out in your life where you are doing

26:45

things that aren't providing the results you want and

26:48

make that pivot. And

26:50

finally on this path to change our

26:52

set points we want to build boundaries.

26:55

Set points are guided by your

26:57

boundaries. If you let yourself get

27:00

off the path you will. If

27:02

you have no guardrails in place

27:04

you will be tempted, distracted, and

27:06

off course. Not having

27:09

boundaries opens the door to your

27:11

set point getting worse over time.

27:13

Your default behaviors will decline if

27:15

there's nothing to hold them in

27:17

place. As opposed to

27:19

having boundaries where you keep yourself

27:22

focused on growth, where you prevent

27:24

distraction in an intentional way. The

27:27

goal of boundaries which I've covered before in the show is

27:30

to ensure that you stay where you are

27:33

and you improve. The goal is

27:35

to prevent decline to make sure we're not

27:37

going to go backwards. We don't

27:39

want that. That's not helpful. So

27:42

in your pursuit of better default

27:44

behaviors, better set points, better habits,

27:46

better results. Identify

27:48

those areas where things tend to slip,

27:51

where procrastination tends to show up, where you

27:53

tend to not do the thing you said

27:55

you would do and figure

27:57

out where a boundary could help keep you up.

28:00

on track to hold you accountable to

28:02

what you said you would do to

28:04

what you said you wanted from your

28:06

life. It's one thing to

28:08

acknowledge a vision, a dream, a fantasy.

28:10

It's a completely different way of life

28:13

to actively pursue those things. Everyone

28:16

has fantasies. Everyone has dreams. Everyone

28:18

has goals. But very few

28:20

people are taking the steps to actually go

28:22

get those things they want. Become

28:25

that person. Have those boundaries

28:28

to keep you on track to pursue that

28:30

long term. That's it.

28:32

That's the whole process to guarantee

28:34

that what you said you would

28:36

do will actually potentially happen because

28:39

you have stopped yourself from not doing it.

28:41

You've prevented the worst case scenario. So

28:45

to sum this whole thing up, I know I've covered a

28:47

lot this week. I threw a lot at you. I

28:50

apologize the episode this week was a bit

28:52

more intense than usual. But

28:54

I'm extremely excited about this concept of

28:57

step points. Default

28:59

behaviors, daily habits, these concepts that

29:01

are based around our ability to

29:03

change and improve is at the

29:05

core of what personal growth is.

29:08

The core of personal development, the essence

29:11

of what it means to be better

29:13

tomorrow than we are today is

29:15

based in all of this content. So

29:18

if you want change, if you want bigger

29:20

goals, if you want to improve, you have

29:22

the chance to do so today. You

29:24

have the chance to change who you are

29:26

in the future and to not be the

29:28

same person you were yesterday. And

29:31

that's exciting. That's extremely, extremely

29:33

exciting because that means

29:35

the opportunities exist to make tomorrow an

29:38

awesome day. And the

29:40

work for that begins now. So

29:42

I'm excited to hear your feedback and episode

29:44

this week. If you want to email me

29:46

personally, go right ahead. Jeff at

29:48

jeffsanders.com is my email address. I will happily

29:50

discuss this with you. If you

29:52

have questions about this topic or trying to figure

29:55

out what your next path in life might be,

29:57

go ahead and email me. I'd love to

29:59

hear from you. And

30:07

for the action step this week, give

30:10

yourself a new title. One

30:12

of the things that I have found to

30:14

be the most helpful over time, especially in

30:16

regards to changing my habits and changing my

30:19

results and improving my own step points, is

30:21

to change who I am as a person and

30:23

the titles that I use that go with that.

30:26

So give yourself a goal and give

30:28

yourself a title that fits what that

30:31

goal embodies. Be someone new

30:33

and have that change occur

30:35

right now. jeffsanders.com/454 is

30:38

the place to go if the

30:40

episode notes. And of course, subscribe

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30:51

all I've got for you here on the 5am Miracle Podcast

30:53

this week. Until next time, you

30:55

have the power to change your life and

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the fun begins bright and early.