My most "meta" episode yet... If your suffering about your relationship is caused by comparisons to illusions (rose-colored memories of your ex, Disney, Tiktok), then can we flip the dynamic on its head and re-invigorate the relationship by u

Overcoming sex anxiety with Shayna Hiller

Feb 26th, 2024 1h 21m

If you've ever experienced dread around making love due to the "ick," pain, anxiety, shame, or being too tired, this episode is for you! I'm excited to introduce a dear friend and mentor of mine, who is also a trained Tao Tantric Priestess, Int

Reclaiming softness in life and partnership with Jessica Fawn

Feb 19th, 2024 44m 32s

An underrated skill in the path of overcoming relationship anxiety: reclaiming softness, befriending anxiety, and learning to trust and follow glimmers of joy. This episode was so tender and beautiful it made me weepy. I am very grateful to pre

How to Build a Career in Anxiety Work with Chelsea Joy Horton

Feb 12th, 2024 54m 19s

If you've experienced profound healing and liberation from relationship anxiety, you may have felt the desire to pass this transformation on to others. If that's you, you're going to want to give this a listen and hear what it's like to be on t

Thoughts on ERP (Exposure & Response Prevention)

Jan 29th, 2024 26m 10s

Two things are true: 1) I am unqualified to speak on ERP and OCD and 2) I am sharing my thoughts about ERP for those that still want to hear them even though I am unqualified. What is ERP (Exposure & Response Prevention)? How helpful is it for

Sex and communication tips from Aunt Diane

Jan 16th, 2024 15m 5s

My beloved Aunt Diane sent me some tips and I don't gatekeep. Listen up! Join me for Both Feet In - Abridged starting January 19th: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-abridged If you need immediate support, write me a Wisio. I'll m

How to stop comparing your relationship

Jan 9th, 2024 19m 54s

Hey! I'm testing out a new mic, so bear with me. 😉 If you tend to compare your partner to other people in real life or online, this episode is for you! I used to struggle with this a lot, but these tools have become second nature to me now and

Ever wish you were in a relationship with someone else?

Dec 18th, 2023 27m 38s

So many clients of mine feel ashamed when they experience a crush while in partnership. It’s a highly charged, delicate topic! You’re not alone, and you’re not a bad partner. If you’ve experienced this, I’d like to give you some tools to naviga

May I tell you about my miscarriage?

Dec 16th, 2023 1h 7m

Trigger warning: this episode is a story. It is chock-full of triggers, pain, grief, mentions of death, blood, and gore. If you've experienced miscarriage and there are some sore spots and tenderness, I might wait until you've gotten enough sup

5 things I'd tell my younger self before entering partnership with my now-husband

Dec 13th, 2023 42m 25s

I entered my relationship "knowing" Preston was the one... but then, years in, I stopped knowing anymore! In this episode, I speak to the younger version of myself that was struggling horribly with relationship anxiety. Some of you are in this

To be free from anxiety, get comfortable with disappointment. Here's why and how.

Dec 4th, 2023 1h 2m

In this episode, I'm sharing a vulnerable story and a recent personal loss... and what it has taught me. I want to share how loss, pain, grief, and disappointment are portals to the divine... if you will let them be so. Patreon next call Dece

Want to break up with your partner right before the holidays?

Nov 13th, 2023 31m 40s

Are you feeling an intense urge to break up right before Thanksgiving or winter break? You're not alone. It's actually very common! In this episode, I outline some common reasons behind holiday break-up urges and what you can do instead. Patr

For the partners of people with relationship anxiety

Oct 24th, 2023 46m 54s

If you: -are with someone struggling with relationship anxiety/ROCD and want to do your part... -were broken up with because of someone's RA... -are struggling with RA, but want to see what your partner's "work" is... -want to look at your RA f

6 counter-cultural relationship beliefs we hold - with Chelsea Horton

Oct 16th, 2023 1h 16m

In this episode, my friend and other relationship anxiety practitioner, Chelsea Horton over at Healing Embodied, and I share our counter-cultural relationship beliefs that have served us well and brought us deep peace in our long-term partnersh

10 ways to control your partner

Oct 2nd, 2023 42m 57s

I really should have titled this, "10 ways Natalie is controlling." Ha! I hope you enjoy this episode. If you want to practice trusting your partner more, I give you 10 examples of ways to do this based on mistakes I've made. Listen to this epi

Overcoming relationship anxiety through sisterhood/brotherhood

Sep 26th, 2023 31m 47s

In this episode, I share how the lack of sisterhood/brotherhood/community can contribute to relationship anxiety and dissatisfaction, and how to cultivate it. Links: Ask me a question: https://www.wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach Evoke his Devotion

A quick way to get off the fence

Sep 11th, 2023 22m 44s

In this episode, I share a simple question that will help you ground yourself in reality, and actually move forward with life, if you're stuck on the fence over your relationship. Links: Ask me a question: https://www.wisio.com/anxiouslovecoa

Yes. In this day and age, lower your expectations

Aug 28th, 2023 46m 53s

In this episode, I talk about the curvature of expectations held in marriage/partnership over the centuries, and how in this day and age, it is beneficial, in some ways, to lower your expectations. I also address the "alpha male" and "high valu

What makes a partner "good enough" to settle down with?

Aug 21st, 2023 1h 4m

What makes a partner "good enough" to settle down with? It's common knowledge (especially if you listen to my podcast often) that "perfect" isn't a realistic standard to search for when choosing a long-term partner. While your choice of partner

How social media is turning you against your partner

Aug 15th, 2023 49m 11s

In this episode, I share how polarizing, black-and-white content on social media is pinning people against each other. I will also admit that I fell prey to this and started a fight with my husband before recording this episode. I also share wh

Overcoming relationship anxiety through IFS Therapy with Alex Bishop

Aug 1st, 2023 1h 15m

It's my pleasure to bring on Alex Bishop, a registered counsellor and IFS (Internal Family Systems) therapist, onto the podcast today. Alex has struggled with Relationship OCD/Relationship Anxiety, and disorganized attachment, and can speak dee

How to know if you’re in a toxic relationship

Jul 10th, 2023 47m 51s

I often add the disclaimer to relationship anxiety content to disregard my insight if you’re in a toxic or abusive relationship. But that begs the question for many: how does one know that the relationship they are in is toxic or abusive? In th

Can you heal from a breakup while in a relationship?

Jun 5th, 2023 36m 12s

If you’ve been preoccupied with thoughts about your ex, or are comparing your relationship to your ex, or are even grieving the un-pursued romance of a crush outside your partnership, you’re normal– and this episode is for you. In this episode,

Overcoming numbness toward your partner

May 29th, 2023 50m 54s

Whether you never got to be single because you met your partner young, you’ve been in a string of back-to-back relationships, or you’re longing for the freedom that supposedly comes with the single life, this episode is for you. Yes, you can ab