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Today, we're talking about feeling good.

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Feeling good is an inside job.

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I believe we all just want to feel good

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about ourselves, our relationships, our

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lives, our time, and our work.

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And there are plenty of

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opportunities to not feel good. There

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are so many demands on us each and every day

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that push and pull on our

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minds, hearts, and bodies.

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We are influenced by energy. And energy,

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to me, equates to what we take in

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process, hold on to

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respond, to, react to, and

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even choose. People,

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tasks, chores, our environment,

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and even the sun and the moon affect us.

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Anything we do also affects us

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and others, especially if we don't feel good about

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it or don't feel good while doing

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it. For example, think

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about somebody. Maybe a loved one,

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maybe your mom or dad, brother, their friend.

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They invited you to go to this

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event, and you just know

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you don't want to do it. But for some reason, you say

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yes, and then it doesn't feel good. You resist

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it. You're thinking about it all up until the

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event because you didn't want to say no

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or didn't want to hurt their feelings. This

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is just one example of how

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we, make choices

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or do things or take actions

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that don't feel good that we carry forward, and then

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we store that negative or not feel good

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feeling in our bodies. The sad thing is, we've been taught

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that feeling good originates outside of

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ourselves, outside of our bodies, and outside of our

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minds. I call it the blame

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game. This mindset has been used

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for centuries to manipulate, control,

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and coerce humans into

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seeing and believing that there's something

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inherently wrong with them

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or with something in their body

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or really

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anything. it's a focus or a

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mindset of something's wrong versus a

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focus and a mindset of something's

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right. Then what happens is we

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go looking for solution after solution after

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solution, only to find thousands of dollars

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later and years of time

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invested that we've not

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resolved the issue for the long term or for the good,

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or we've created other issues that now

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need to be solved. It's a chain reaction,

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and it feels like it's a never

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ending process. All of this results

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in confusion, feeling weak, having

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doubts, and a continual cycle, as I said

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before, of seeking solutions, only

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to find that the solutions don't result in a

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sustained feeling good about

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ourselves, our lives, our work,

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or our relationships. I have to

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say a day or even frankly, a couple of minutes

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or hour does not go by without me hearing

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a marketer or advertiser or

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message promoting a product as

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the best this or that for x or

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y. Telling others what is best or

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right or correct is rampant in our

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society. It's rampant in

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politics, religion, anywhere organizations exist.

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And where humans congregate over

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time, humans start believing what they see without

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fact checking. Heck, we now live in a

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world where alternative facts are propagating

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as propaganda as well, and people are starting

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to believe it. Even I have,

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succumbed to sharing information

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that I found was cute but completely fake.

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We can thank social media for propagating,

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alternative facts and alternative things that just aren't

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real or true. For an example, just look at the

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weight loss and supplement industry for starters.

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How many years have those industries existed?

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Has it really solved, let's say, obesity

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or health issues for humanity as a whole?

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I say no. And I think it's because we're not

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looking at things holistically. We are looking at

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them like bandaids. We're looking at them

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to solve a one specific

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siloed issue and

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not looking at the impacts holistically

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and finding holistic solutions.

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And, also, it seems as though I've see the same types of

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messages I saw 30 years ago. It just

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has a new wrapper around it. And now

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even the reviews on products we used to count on

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ever since the advent of the Internet have been

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potentially faked. So I've certainly

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fallen prey to these two industries. I've also

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been what I call a lab experiment my entire life due to

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having allergies and severe asthma. I've been

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told to try this, do that, get tested for

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this. The advice from even well meaning people

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is constant. It is never

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ending. So I'm going to

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circle back. We all just want to feel

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good, and, so what we do is we get

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bandaids, temporary fixes, so that we can feel

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good for a bit. Now, that's not your fault

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either. The markets in society have

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propagated images for us to instantly feel

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good by doing x, y or z with

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whatever's ailing you in any given moment. There's

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also suggestion as to, what

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may be ailing you, which then gets

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imprinted in your mind as

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something that needs to get solved. And then the next time

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you have that situation happen,

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you immediately reach out for that solution.

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It's stored in memory. If

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you've got a slight headache, take a pill and it'll go

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away. That's just one example of social

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programming without really taking a

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look at what's going on in our bodies. What is

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this headache about? is it caused

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by signs of a stressful situation? Is

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it caused by being anxious about something?

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Is it caused by avoiding

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something? Our bodies have

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responses, and each one of these responses

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has a message for us. But we're

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so fearful of not feeling good that we

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medicate with things like retail therapy, a, quick

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fix, over the counter remedies,

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food, drink, or anything else to

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just feel good in that moment.

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But it's never enough food, for

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example. We just want more,

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more and more and more and more.

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If that happens to be our therapy.

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Instant fixes are what we've been conditioned to do.

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We've been programmed and taught to do it. And the

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instant fixes I have learned are marketed

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based on preying on, tapping

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into, and taking full coercive

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advantage of fear.

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Once you understand that you've been manipulated into

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believing that solutions exist outside of

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yourself, that you have to rely

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on the advice of, really anyone

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and everyone that you deem

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trustworthy, that,

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has promoted themselves or have promoted themselves

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as trustworthy, and

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that you cannot make choices for yourself in those professional

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arenas, you will stop, take

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heed, honor yourself, honor your

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time, and honor your

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pocketbook. The answer is in the

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wisdom and energy in your body.

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Energy flows through nine

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areas in your body. And as it

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flows, there is wisdom, and there

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are messages for you that are innate,

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that you already have within you.

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And it's simple to learn how to hear

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it and how to listen to it. So I

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invite you, if this is something that resonates for

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you or something you just want to learn or know a little bit more

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about, and you want to know how your energy

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moves through your body, how to interpret, understand

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and listen to it. Because your body is

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unique. There's no other one exactly

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like it. And all of these solutions that have been

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promoted and marketed are a one

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size fits all, based on a sample set

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and based on testing with a sample

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set and coming up with generalizations, you are

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unique. Your genius and your energy

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and brilliance is unique. So if you want to

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learn about your unique energy

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blueprint, I want you to go to lovingyourdesign.com and sign up

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to get your energy blueprint.

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So I have a question for you. Are you truly connected

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with and listening to the wisdom of your body?

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Or have you done what I did for many

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years? What the establishments have

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taught for centuries? You see, I only used my

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left brain for everything. Making

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decisions, watching, having

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fun, engaging within

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my relationships. It was mostly left

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brain focused. So I did that for many years,

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listening to everything outside of myself and using my left

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brain to analyze, judge, compare, blame,

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criticize and more. And that

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resulted in an inability for me to make a choice.

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And that was

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followed by relying on external influences

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to help make decisions for me. In addition to

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that, relationships became very difficult.

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Communicating became very difficult

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because the left brain is

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magical and amazing at what it does

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well. And it's not

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here for empathy, for

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collaboration, for connection, for emotional well

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being, for connecting with the body. It's there

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to process that information and help

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us, use that

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analytical and, logical

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and reasoning. But it does that, and it needs

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to do that in collaboration with the rest of your body.

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So when did I recognize this? I

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actually have had two near death experiences. That

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really was my wake up call. I heard a voice

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say, listen. And then I heard the

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voice say, go back. And that was

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right before my eyes opened. I

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became aware. Aware I was

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away. Huh? And then I became aware.

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As I was laying there in the hospital bed in ICU,

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I realized I just wanted to feel good. And I

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wanted to feel good in a sustainable, long term

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way. Don't you? And then I asked

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myself, how does one feel

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good in a sustainable way? What does that look

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like? And for me, it really started with

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not following the crowd. I had

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to really disconnect,

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not physically, but disconnect from all

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of the energy and social programming, from

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family, from, community,

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from tradition, from

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ethnicity, from the

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places I grew up, and just really seek

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inside me what I'm about, what feels

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good to me. And then I started my experiment of

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tracking day to day what felt good. You

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can certainly listen and learn from the

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crowd, but you must check in with your body

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and see if that advice or product or service is in

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alignment with your energy and radar. You

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can also partner with the energy of the moon. The

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moon, whether you believe it or not, through

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my tracking, I have found that there is a

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connection with the phases of the moon,

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and what's happening to me and with me

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energetically. And so when you start tracking it,

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you might see a pattern. You may not. I'm not saying

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it's truth, I'm just saying that there seems to

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be patterns and a connection. If you

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want to know more about how to track, you can

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go to relationshipsouperpowertracker.com

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and learn more. There another way that

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you can, start to

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really listen and learn about what feels

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good and what doesn't internally, inside, from

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within, is for you to

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assess the words you choose

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to think and say. Let me say that

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again. You can assess and

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evaluate the words you choose and

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to think and say. So I'm going to give you

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an example. I hear the word solutions all

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the time. All the time. So I started

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unpacking that word and I really wanted to understand, what does

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it mean? I was astounded

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to find that all it is is a

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process towards solving something. It's

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not about solving it for any sort of permanency.

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Unfortunately, it's temporary and it may

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not be holistic. And so I shifted

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from the word solution and I use this in my

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practice, with my clients, in my business, and

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in my own life, to desired results. What is the desired

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outcome instead of the word solution?

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And it's up to you to determine what time box to put

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around any solution or desired result you want

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in your life. For example,

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around word choices. I no

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longer prescribe to or use the word

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healing or healer. I believe each of

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us has it within us to

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be in a state of healed.

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Healed is the state of having completion,

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being whole, being complete, and feeling

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good. More often than not, the

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state of being healed is a state of feeling

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complete. It's of completion. And when

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we take on the mindset of healed,

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we're no longer in this continuous cycle of

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seeking for healing. Healed is the state

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of having completion and feeling good

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consistently. So sure, we can move on to the

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next thing that needs our focus, love and attention,

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but we no longer have to keep returning to the same

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place repeatedly over our

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lifetime. I realized that feeling good does not

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originate from any solution being pitched to

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me. It also does not originate from outside

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my own freedom, power, joy,

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understanding, or even my choices. I

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realized I have the power to choose. No

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one else can choose for me

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unless I allow it. So your health,

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well being and feeling good about yourself, your life,

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your work, your relationships is yours to

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own holistically and fully.

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No one else controls or owns

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that. You have the power

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to choose what's best for you. That

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is your divine gift. And a divine

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gift we each have a gift to and for

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humanity. Power and control is rampant

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today, but it's dominating power and

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control over the individual,

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person, community.

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It is time for you to reclaim your power.

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Stop listening to the mainstream and learn

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how to listen to your body's wisdom and make

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choices from your grounded,

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centered, feelgood place.

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If you find that you're confused, doubtful,

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uncertain, or not feeling good,

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it's time to just wait. It's

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okay for you to tell whomever I'm not ready to choose right now. I need to

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just sit with it, spend some time and if I

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get a solid, yes, I will reach out to you.

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If there's a deadline, don't feel pressured

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by that deadline. It'll come around again.

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And if it doesn't, it's not for you.

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At this time and this moment. My message

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today is all about you feeling good.

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I care deeply about you and it's

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time for you to feel good about yourself, your life, your,

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work, your time and your relationships.

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It's time for you to be the person who

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chooses, not the one who has choices

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made for them. Choose

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what feels good, not what does not

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I know you know. I know

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you have deep wisdom. I know you

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are a genius and an expert in

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all things you and I know

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you can unplug from the controlling forces that are

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consciously or unconsciously

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dominant in your life. I know

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you have the power and freedom to choose.

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I invite you to feel good.