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You know, we all know yesterday was thanksgiving.

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Many of us are, really having

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a hard time. Many of us are laid off,

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me, present company included. Some

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of us are wondering how we're going to make ends meet. Some of

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us believe we're just going to be fine and it's all going to

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work out. Many of us have. All actually, I

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would assert that every one of us has landed on our feet,

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regardless of what life throws at us, because

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life happens, and it's

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not always feel good, but

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we can choose to feel good about whatever

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it is that's happening, right? So

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I could be angry, I could be mad, I could

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be negative. I could think negatively about being

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laid off. And the way it happened, it was a very

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dishonouring way. The way it

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happened, it was sudden, it was unexpected. It was a

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surprise. It was a little bit of a shock.

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but I didn't allow myself to

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feel bad because it's not about me.

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one of the things that I've learned is if you don't

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get any

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feedback, any information, when

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things go sour,

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then you have nothing to go on. You have nothing

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to improve upon. There's nothing that you can beat

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yourself up about. So

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as you're going through things, we make up all

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kinds of things in the brain because we love an

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analyzing. We love, that critical

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thinking. But at the end of the day, you don't have any

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facts about it. So

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how do we shift out of that mindset and

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that left brained

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conditioning that we all have? We

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all, unfortunately or fortunately, have it

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and release and allow our

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bodies, to

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honor us and to respect us. And one way to

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do that is through this notion of thankfulness

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on steroids. So

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I'm going to actually share with you and read to

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you read posts that I shared in my

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And for those of you who don't know me, I'm Dr. Dar.

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I am the feel good alchemist. And I'm all about

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feeling good with yourself, your life,

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your work, and your relationships. And that is

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my mission for every woman on

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this planet to feel

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good. And when you don't, I

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am here to support you. I am also here to support

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you in maintaining your feel good vibe

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every day. So

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yesterday was Thanksgiving. We all know that. And

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as I was contemplating this notion of, giving thanks

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and expressing thanks and feeling thanks,

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I realized that thankfulness is

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very much a habit. It's just a thing that we

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have to do. Right. Thank you. You're welcome.

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it's kind of dismissive, and it

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didn't feel very honoring or respectful

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of myself and others. Yes, it's a

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good thing. Yes, it feels good to receive it, but it's

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not sustainable. And here's what I've learned about

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it. Giving thanks.

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somehow we've been disconnected from the value,

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from value and appreciation and

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thankfulness and gratitude is really about placing

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value on something, whether it's high or

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low or somewhere in between. And it's also

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about appreciating

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something or someone, including

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yourself. So I just wanted to

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say that I have a special

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message for you this Thanksgiving weekend. Are

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you ready? You see, I don't

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think you or I hear that

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you are an amazing, incredible, brilliant

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person. Enough. I want you to know that you are brilliant,

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amazing, incredible. I

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want you to know that every thought, feeling,

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action, and emotion that you have

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is incredible. I know that you are doing and being your

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best. Even when you don't think or

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feel as though you are, you are,

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bringing your best in any given moment.

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So that brings me to appreciation. Did you

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know that appreciation is a higher

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vibration and frequency than gratitude

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or thankfulness? appreciation is a form of

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mindfulness that allows you to shed all of your

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filters, all of your biases,

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and peel back anything that's in the

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way of you truly just observing

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and valuing someone or

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something, including yourself. When you look in that mirror,

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I want you to appreciate,

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however. Yeah.

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When you start appreciating, in order to

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start appreciating, we do. We express

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thankfulness, and we start having an attitude of

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gratitude. And we have gratitude journals. But I've

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noticed with my clients over the last two

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decades, feeling grateful or

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thankful is. Feeling thankful

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starts with the small things. And for them to stretch

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into gratitude has been really difficult for

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them. But when I talk about the language of

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appreciation, they make quantum leaps.

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Like, they just feel it, sense

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it, because appreciation is about

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value, and they can

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relate to value.

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So when you look at something or someone

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and appreciate it, that's really

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about your value and the value that

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you are placing on that item or that

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person. So you see, valuing

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something equates to appreciating

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it. And when you value

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something or someone, you

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appreciate it. And then when

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you appreciate it,

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it appreciates, the value

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goes up. And when the value

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goes up, your feel good

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vibe goes up, it

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expands, it

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radiates outward, and we all

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need more feel good in our

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lives, our work, our

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relationships, and on this planet. When you

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appreciate it, it appreciates and it increases

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in value. So in other words,

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when you appreciate the value of

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people and things in your life, including

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your money, it appreciates,

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it builds in value. And then

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after some time of being in this,

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lovely, warm pool of a

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loving appreciation of everything,

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more miraculously comes your way.

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I don't know how. I really don't.

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It doesn't matter how we've been

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trained that we have to work so hard in order to

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receive, and that's just not true. We just have to

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appreciate. So my

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invitation to you is for you to play with appreciation

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today and tomorrow and every day going

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forward. I invite you to feel the

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feels of appreciating something or

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someone highly valuating

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it. This goes with the food that

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you're preparing, the food that you're eating, the

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water that you drink, the bed that

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you sleep in, the chair that you sit in,

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observing the surroundings around you.

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And right now, I think,

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definitely your money and

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your well being and your health and yourself.

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These are incredible times. Sorry, I've got

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to blow my nose. These are incredible times.

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And we are really being called to change

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our own energy so that we can

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attract that which we desire and

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deserve, divinely deserve, as

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women to us. And we get to

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choose what we plug ourselves into.

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So my invitation is

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for you to shift your

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eyes in your mindset to

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appreciate. When you see a penny

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on the ground, maybe it's the only penny

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you have. Look at it.

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Appreciate it. Maybe clean it.

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Notice it. Notice the beauty of

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it. Notice the shine on it. Notice the woman

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on it or the man on it.

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as you're paying your bills,

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appreciate it.

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There's so many of us just talk about,

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oh, I hate paying bills.

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I invite you to appreciate sending that

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money out because you're assisting the

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economy and you received

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something of value when you're paying that bill. Maybe it's your Netflix

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bill. Maybe it's your electric

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bill. I've got this beautiful,

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radiant light around me right now.

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I want you to shift to this appreciative

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energy. It's going to take some practice, but

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I know you can do it. Also, as you're

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doing this, most importantly, appreciate

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yourself and value yourself

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highly. No one

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and no thing can be higher

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in value than yourself. No one or nothing

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can be higher in value than yourself.

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Certainly you can put yourself on equal footing,

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and you can certainly put yourself higher.

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But never lower.

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Never lower. When you get up in the morning and you get

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in front of that mirror, appreciate. Find something to appreciate about

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yourself. This morning

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I trimmed my hair. I wanted it to be

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shorter, and I was just noticing how

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curly, how unique

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my hair is. I was noticing the grays

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coming in and

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just loving how the light hits

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it. Find something to appreciate. And

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when you find yourself criticizing,

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it's not really your criticism of

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yourself. It's what you've been taught to

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do. And so as you

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practice appreciating yourself

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and all of it around

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you, things shift.

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They really do. They start shifting

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and your life starts

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working for you instead of against you.

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So here's my appreciation of

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and for you. For

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you. I appreciate

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all of you. Every little bit of

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you and every big bit of you.

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Your quirks, your uniqueness,

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your history, your past, your

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present, and all of who you are.

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I appreciate you being here

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now, and I appreciate our

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connection. I appreciate your

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life, your heart, your

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body, your mind and your

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soul. I appreciate all the

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blessings that are on the way to you and

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your loved ones. I appreciate everyone

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who has been kind to you in your life,

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past, present, and those

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who are going to be as you go forward into

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your future. I appreciate all of

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those who have appreciated you and truly

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loved you and continue to do

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so. I appreciate you

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honoring yourself. I appreciate

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you respecting yourself. I also appreciate all

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who have wronged you, hurt

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you, criticized you

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in any way

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so that you could learn what feels good and

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does not feel good. So that you could

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make feel good choices by honoring yourself and respecting yourself

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and making feel good choices going forward.

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And I appreciate the power that

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you have to choose to choose what feels good.

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I appreciate you on this day after

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thanksgiving and beyond. And may you

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have fun. Feel free,

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be empowered, thrive,

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and be loved today by yourself

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and those around you, today

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and all days.