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Hello , today I have with me
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Lindsay Bermudez . Lindsay
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is the mother of two and the co-founder
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of Baby Ceto , an inclusive
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online community dedicated to
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connecting parents with family support
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service providers serving Northern
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Virginia . Today , lindsay
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is here to share her birth journey and
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a bit about how that inspired her to create
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Baby Ceto . Lindsay , welcome
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and thank you for joining me . Hi , kelly
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, thanks so much for having me . I'm so excited to
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hear this and I love Baby Ceto and I
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love what you're doing and I wish I'd had it when my kids were
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little .
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But thank you . I know I wish I had it too . I
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feel like I hear that a lot from moms with
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toddler or older kids who are like why wasn't this
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around before ?
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Yeah yeah , but that's why you made it .
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Yes , so hopefully we can serve all the
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new moms and growing families Exactly
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.
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Well , tell me about your birth stories
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. You have a three-year-old and a five-year-old .
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Yes . So I guess I can
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start with my five-year-olds , since she
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was my first pregnancy
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, labor , delivery , all the things . She was
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born three days early . So
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I was at home I think it was a Friday
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night I was just laying
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in bed watching TV and then all of
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a sudden I felt like maybe I was peeing
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, but I didn't know what was going on . So
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I kind of was like we're gonna stood up
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and then it was
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like a bit of a slow trickle . So I was like what's
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happening ? Am I peeing ? I don't know . So I went to
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the bathroom and then by the time I got there it was like a
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big whoosh . So my water had broken . So I
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was like , oh gosh , this is starting
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, this is happening . So I called to my husband
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my brother-in-law was over and
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they were like watching TV or something . So I was
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like where would I just scream
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to them . And so of course we're kind of like
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in panic mode because it's their first child . Call
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the doctor . Because I was like I think I
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don't know if I still wait till I have contractions
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, I don't remember . Do we just go in ? So we called
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the doctor on call line and they're like no
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, since your water broke , come in . So I
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took a quick shower , got
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my hospital bag , we
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got all packed up , we went in and then , like on
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the drive , I started feeling some contractions
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, very mild . But I was like , okay
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, yes , this is happening . Called my parents
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, texted some friends because we lived in
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Falls Church and we were driving
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to DC . So on the drives
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, started having some contractions . We got there
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, luckily , we got checked in pretty quickly
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and I had always known that I wanted
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to have an epidural . I was like I want to wait
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as long as I can , but I do want an epidural
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. So got all
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hooked up to the monitor . It was in my room
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, contractions were getting stronger and I
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was like I'm gonna wait , I'm gonna
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wait . And then finally my husband was like why just
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just get it , because they're kind of getting worse
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? And they were also like there might be a wait
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for the anesthesiologist . So like he's like , just
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do it . And I was like , okay , okay . So we asked
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for the epidural . I don't think
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it took too long , maybe like 30 minutes . And
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then the anesthesiologist was there . So
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during that time got a little nervous
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, felt a little sick . Luckily I didn't
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throw up . I thought I was going
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to with . That's like a fear of mine . I hate throwing up
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, so like , oh , I hope this doesn't happen . Got
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the epidural . It kicked in . It was great
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. Oh , I forgot to mention this but I
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did have a doula for my first birth . A
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cousin of mine had a doula . She highly recommended
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it and just because it
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was my first labor , my husband also isn't
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good with like blood and just medical
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things . So I was like I'm definitely going to need a
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support person . I also kind of get anxious
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in medical settings . It
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was really funny . We got to the hospital , got in the room
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and then my husband
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kept saying do you want me to call Amy ? And our
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doula's name was Amy , but
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I also have an aunt Amy . So
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I thought he met my aunt Amy and I'm like what
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is he talking about ? So I was like no
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, don't , like , don't call me an Amy . And
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then like later on then I was like , oh
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yes , call the . Do call doula
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Amy . So luckily she came
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, she made it , got that epidural and
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that definitely helped . I was very happy
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with the decision to get that . After it kicked
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in I could feel like it just made
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me think of like the dentist , like I could feel
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the pressure , but it didn't hurt . So they
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were tracking my contractions . And then
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my doula had her little blow up bed
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and got herself set up and was like
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, okay , we're going to be here for a while
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. This was like I don't know , probably
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like midnight at this point , and
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I just remember I was watching HGTV
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, feeling my contractions
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, and then I don't know , I guess we
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, you know , the doula was like try to rest
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. So , but I think I was just . I had so
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much adrenaline , it was just so excited
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. I was like I cannot sleep right now . How
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do people actually sleep ? So my husband
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might have slept for a while . The doula
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was like resting . And then I
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remember feeling it and they were like when it feels
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like you have to poop , let us know or something
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, or that's like a sign that it's going
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to be time to push . I was feeling more
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and more pressure . I didn't say
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anything , the duel was there , but I was like , okay , they
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came in at like 5 AM
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. They're like has anyone been in to check you
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in a while ? I was like , no , not really . So
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the nurse checked me and she was like , oh , it's time to
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push . Stuff was like what
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. So in that moment
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I think I was not ready for it to have happened
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so fast . But the duel was there . I was like , okay
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. So , as I said , a little anxious
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with medical settings and I think just being like
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you know it's go time , I think that made
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me anxious . So I started feeling a little bit
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like I was going to pass out . My doula
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had like peppermint essential oil
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and she was like use this is going
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to help . And then she was luckily communicating this
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to the nurses for me . They ended up
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like putting an oxygen mask on me
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to help . So we started pushing
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and they're monitoring
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Millie , my baby , and I guess her heart rate
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dropped . So all
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of a sudden the doctor is
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like prepping an OR . So
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I'm like what ? Luckily my doula
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is there . She's like okay , this is what's happening . The
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heart rate dropped . It's okay , they
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might have to do this but we're going to try . So
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he was like okay , we're going to try to use the vacuum
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. My doula helped coordinate and
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communicate all this to me and then
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, luckily , we did like another on the next contraction
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. We pushed , they vacuumed her . They
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also did an apesiatomy and luckily
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they got her out . So I was saved
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from having to go to emergency C-section
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but it was definitely a little scary
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. My husband was like about to pass out , so
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the doula was with me helping
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me get through the labor . My mom was
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with my husband on the other side of the room
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consoling him . But luckily , yeah
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, she came out . She was fine . She
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weighed six pounds and four
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ounces and was healthy . Of
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course I think they had to do like a bunch of extra
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tests on her since her heart rate dropped . So
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I felt like forever before I got to hold
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her . Bobby , my husband got to hold
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her first and then they finally
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gave her to me after like everything checked out and she
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was fine and I just remember like ugly crying
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and just being so happy and yeah
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, so that was the birth story
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for Millie .
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Do you remember if they told you , if
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they figured out a reason for the heart rate
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?
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to drop . I think she was just . I think they said like
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she , maybe it's because she was coming so fast
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, Like she couldn't adjust to the pressure of
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the birth canal .
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I just didn't know if there was like , sometimes the umbilical
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cord will be the cause of that .
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Yeah , I don't think . I think everything was fine with the umbilical
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cord , but that was definitely an
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unexpected like chance . I'm just glad
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it worked out .
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Yeah , and then she was crying and
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stuff and doing all this she was crying
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yeah , she was fine .
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I was like my nephew had to get
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vacuumed as well and he definitely had like cone
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head so I was a little worried she might have a spout
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, but luckily her head . I mean it was one
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vacuum suction go .
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So yeah , I think that they most
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of the time they'll try to put it on so that it's not
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like on there so firmly and
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then just guide the head while you're pushing . So
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if it's not like a I mean , ideally
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it's not a situation where they're tugging , it's like
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a guiding . And then how did
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your apesia to me heal ?
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It was fine . I don't remember having any issues . I mean
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I think that was a thing too . It
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just felt like it took forever to get like stitched
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up after , and I was also waiting to hold
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melee , so it felt like it was taking a really long time
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. But it was fine
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. I mean , I was like , am I going to have to get stitches
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removed ? But luckily it's all the dissolving
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stitches and I just
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like did my sit bath
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like regularly to make sure everything
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was healing properly .
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Yeah , they're really good at making sure everybody
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has a sit bath . And so then , how is postpartum
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for you , for your first ?
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Postpartum was fairly it
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was good . I think my main concern
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and issue that kind of made
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it difficult was breastfeeding . So I
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knew I wanted to try
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to breastfeed and do my best
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. I wasn't like it has to be this way , but
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that was my goal and it was definitely
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hard . I mean I left the
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hospital with like cuts on my nipples
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because she just like wasn't slatching well
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and it was so painful . So after
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I went home I had been
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doing prenatal yoga at Virginia
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Hospital Center so I had known about a breastfeeding
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group they had there with Susan Howard . I
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was a lactation consultant in Arlington so
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I went to one of those groups and it was super
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helpful . I got advice
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from the other moms and then also Susan
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facilitated things and also shared about
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her services . So I ended up working one-on-one
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with Susan to try and improve
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my breastfeeding situation . I was using
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nipple shields all the
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time and it just didn't seem like
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she was latching while we're getting
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enough . So Susan kind of helped me figure
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that out and we did the waits before
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and after and she did help me get my supply
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up . But then when
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Millie was like five or six weeks , she
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had blood in her stool and
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Was like crying . Of course it's the
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middle of the night right when this happens . And
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so we took her to Anova
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and we were like what is this ? So
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basically we learned she had milk
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protein intolerance and that's how it
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like manifested for her . So they at
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the hospital , they gave her some Nutramigen
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, which is hypoallergenic formula . You'd
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be fed her that . She took it fried in a bottle and
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then I tried to eliminate dairy soy
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for like two weeks after that and then breastfeed
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again , but she still
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. She had like bright green poops . So
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for any help out there , I
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mean it was just something we were Supplementing
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with formula . So I was like , oh , I know breastfed
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poops are like yellow , but maybe because
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we have a little bit of formula and there
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too , that's why the color is different . But
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luckily , at the breastfeeding group I brought that
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up and Susan was like no
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, that shouldn't be happening . So that was like our first
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clue , and I think shortly thereafter was when
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she had the blood in her stool . So we ended
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up just taking her , I stopped
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breastfeeding , we
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ended up putting her fully on the new Tramogen
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for her first year and she did great on that
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. She was the chunkiest baby ever
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and I mean it smelled
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terrible , but she was happy and
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didn't have any GI issues on the
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new tramogen . So other than
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breastfeeding , I feel like postpartum
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what went pretty smoothly . I
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have my in-laws lived close by
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, so we had their support . And
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then my parents also Lived
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with us from when Millie was
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three months until she was one
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, so not that like immediate Fourth
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trimester , but they were there too to
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support with having our new baby
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Nice .
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So then go ahead and share . Yeah , your
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second delivery and kind of how
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it's juxtaposed with your first
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. It is so different
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.
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So with Ruben I was pregnant , I kind
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of wanted to do the same Same
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thing as I did with Millie , like get in
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, get an epidural and just go through
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kind of the same motions . And Ruben , of course
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, had another idea , as babies do
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. But I it was
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like a week before he was due I went
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into labor . So I had been dilated
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like three or four centimeters for about a week
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I think . I felt some like mild Braxton
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Hicks contractions . Actually
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I did , because once , I think , we called the hospital or
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I was like we might be coming in , but then I felt
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okay , so we didn't go . But it was
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about two thirty in the morning
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I woke up to a sharp
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contraction and I was like , oh , okay , that's interesting
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. So I just kind of like laid in bed playing on
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my phone . I was like , let me see what happens . So
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probably like 10 or 15 minutes later another
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really sharp contraction . So like , oh
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, this is happening , okay . So I woke up , my
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husband got my stuff together
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I think I might have taken a quick shower again
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, thinking like , oh , this is , if I did last
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time , I'll do this again and the contraction
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started coming faster . My
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husband called my mother-in-law
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so we live in Annandale . My mother-in-law
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is in Falls Church so she was
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gonna come to our house to watch Millie
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, who was Two , just
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over two at that point while we went to the hospital
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. So again she's on
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her way . I'm having really
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sharp contractions that are coming faster
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and faster . I went to stand outside
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because I was moaning and in pain and
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I couldn't even control it and I was like I'm gonna wake up
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Millie and let me go outside . My husband
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calls our arm , call doctor , gets
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ahold of him and then is like what do
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we do ? She's in labor because we're in Annandale
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. I was supposed to deliver again in Sibley and
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it's in DC . And the
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doctor's like well , first thing doctor
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says to my husband is that your other
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child screaming in the back ? And
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he's like no , that's my wife . So then the doctor's
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like if you have to go somewhere else , you have to go somewhere
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else . So luckily our you live like a mile
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down the road from an over fare fax . So
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get everything packed up , get in the car
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. It's like three , 12
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. At this point I think we looked at the time
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because I remember as we're pulling out of the driveway we
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call Bobby's mom . She still wasn't at our house
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. But I was like we got to go because I kept , I
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was screaming , I was like he's coming
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and I could just feel the pressure
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coming down , like I know what this feeling
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is . And he is about to come out . So
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my husband obviously very frazzled and and
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then calls his mom as
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we're leaving . He's like we gotta go
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, we gotta go , we're leaving . She's like , okay , I'm almost
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there . So we literally left Millie
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in the house , like just locked her in the house
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, left Before his mom had
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even arrived . We're going down
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the road and my husband's like what do I do
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? What do I do ? I'm like just get to the hospital
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. So we pull in . He
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pulls into , like the ambulance bay
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and then of course I'm like this is not where you'll
14:44
get . But he
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pulls in and it was so great that he did
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because they like see us nurses come
14:51
running out . He's like my wife's in labor
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. So they come up to
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the side of the car I'm still screaming , he's coming
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out and they're like okay , okay , they get
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me on a stretcher and they start
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rolling me up . So then I guess a
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security guy says to my husband like I'll
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take your car a , park it , no worries . And
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they tell him like wait here . A
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nurse comes to get him . As they're feeling
15:12
me , they had to take me up to a different floor
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and we live being somewhere else . And a nurse comes
15:16
and is like are you dad ? He's like , yeah , you're like
15:19
we got a run . So apparently they run
15:21
with him through the hospital While
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they're carting me down the hallway . They're like how many weeks
15:26
are you ? I mean , they have like none of my information
15:28
, so they don't know what we get
15:30
into the room . I'm screaming , I'm
15:32
in like incredible pain and
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of course I'm like I want an up and down
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. And they're like , oh no
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, I can't do an up and down at this point
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, so sorry . And so of course I
15:44
was like this is my worst nightmare . It's happening
15:46
, no pain medication . So
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luckily the like nurses and the team were
15:51
great . They get my husband up there and of course
15:53
my husband tells the nurse like I'm not good with blood
15:55
. So she walks him
15:57
with his back to me around the
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room and then till he's like
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next to my head . Then she turns him around
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and then one of the other nurses looks at him
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and she's like someone , get this guy some some
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orange juice . She's like , sir , you cannot pass out . We
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don't treat dads here , we only treat moms
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. So they
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get him orange juice and I had been asking for water
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the whole time . I just remember my mouth was so
16:20
dry and I was like I just want to swallow
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, like can I please get some water ? And I
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don't even remember maybe they got me some
16:26
before I delivered . But so
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the contractions are coming hard there . The nurses
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are like holding my legs , bobby's , up by
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my head , and they're like you have to push
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on the next contraction and I was like I
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can't , I can't , but somehow
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I did it and I think it was probably
16:42
like a couple rounds
16:44
of pushing , like couple contractions
16:47
and pushing , and then he came out and it was super
16:49
painful but it happened and
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I was just glad that
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it was over so fast . So we
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had left our house at 312 and
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he was born at 333 . So
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it was super fast . So I'm glad my
17:02
husband went in the ambulance bag because
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if not , if we went into like the ER entrance , I
17:06
probably would have like delivered on the floor of like
17:08
checking in . So my God , it
17:11
was very lucky . So that was a very
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different situation with Ruben
17:16
being born . But he was fine . He was seven
17:18
pounds , 10 ounces , cried
17:20
right away , no issue . So like that was cool
17:22
. Because when they took him out they like put
17:24
him on my chest , like with the umbilical cords
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, the little attach I didn't have last time . So
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that was . That was a nice different experience
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.
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Yeah , he was like ready to go . He's like I got this
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mom , don't worry about it .
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Wow . So yeah , it was like literally an hour from
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my first contraction till he was born
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.
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So sometimes I ask people this I
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have certain descriptors , because people always
17:44
ask me what it feels like when
17:46
you feel that pressure or when some people
17:48
ask me at what point do I recommend the epidural
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? So what does it feel like when I recommend the
17:52
epidural , but you've actually done it without
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an epidural ? Do you have any descriptors for that
17:57
pain or is it just your brain just checked out and
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when the contractions first started
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it felt like really bad , almost GI
18:03
pain .
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Like I was going to have diarrhea that kind of pain . So
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I was actually on the toilet before we left but I was like
18:09
, oh , this is just birth , this is not like
18:11
anything else happening , and then just
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turned up to a hundred . I guess
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, from there and then , like delivery
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pain . I just can't
18:20
think of what to compare . Yeah , just
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really , just like primal Sharp , and
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I don't know if I would have survived
18:27
if it wasn't so fast but , I'm
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grateful for that , yeah .
18:30
I feel like . So when I'm trying to tell people
18:32
when to get the epidural , I usually say
18:35
we've all had diarrhea or not just
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diarrhea , like specifically very intense food poisoning
18:39
pain , yeah . So if you get to that point
18:41
where you're like , oh my gosh , I'm going to birth an alien
18:43
, maybe that
18:46
might be a good time to really consider
18:49
the epidural if you don't have one already . The
18:51
other thing is the pain that most people
18:53
find intolerable is
18:55
when the pressure feels like if you've
18:57
ever stubbed your toe or had somebody
18:59
run over your toe with a heavy object
19:01
. That's the kind of pain that I they
19:04
say pressure , but really
19:06
it's like that deep bone pain almost
19:08
, Because what it is is your baby's head pushing
19:11
on your pelvic bones and
19:14
the soft tissue in between . So
19:16
that's what I mean . Yes , you can get through it without
19:18
pain medication and
19:20
theoretically , if everything's
19:22
going well , it's not pain that
19:25
signals a pathophysiological process
19:27
. It's a natural process . It's
19:29
not injury necessarily
19:31
. So that's where , like some of those classes
19:34
like hypnobirthing and mindset
19:36
classes , come in , where it's just like , if you
19:38
think about the fact that this is not a
19:41
pathophysiological process , it's not indicating
19:43
that something is wrong .
21:28
It's natural physiology . It's
21:31
not even food poisoning Like food poisoning is
21:33
more unnatural than
21:37
the birthing process . So if that
21:39
, if you can wrap your mind around that , then all that
21:41
pressure and however you
21:43
have to visualize it technically
21:45
is normal . So if you can flip that switch
21:47
in your head and think , oh , this is a natural
21:50
process , as I can get through that , then
21:52
you might be a person that can plan
21:54
for a natural birth . Now , you did not have a
21:56
choice .
21:58
No , and that's the thing I'm like . Oh man
22:00
, I wish I had not , that I can't
22:02
expect how it's going to go , but I was like I wish I had taken
22:04
some class to be more prepared for
22:07
natural childbirth
22:09
or childbirth without medication
22:11
and if I ever get pregnant
22:13
again , which the plan right now is not- to but
22:16
it shouldn't ever happen . I think I would have
22:18
to do that or I'm going to have to live outside
22:20
of the hospital for like the last two weeks of
22:22
my pregnancy .
22:24
Yeah , or both , probably both , or just have
22:26
somebody that can come to your house and catch your baby
22:28
.
22:29
You know , you could also call an ambulance .
22:31
That's another option . Sometimes
22:35
we forget that .
22:37
Yes .
22:38
That's so crazy For your postpartum
22:40
experience . What was that like ?
22:42
It was the postpartum , I think was even
22:44
better with Ruben , and I don't know if that's because
22:47
I didn't have the apesiatomy
22:49
or what , but I felt like I
22:51
healed more quickly . So
22:54
he was born October 24th and
22:56
I remember like a week later was
22:58
Halloween and I was like out
23:01
at our neighbor's house with
23:03
my daughter Not that I was like out long
23:05
, but I was up and around and doing
23:07
things , being social . So as far as recovery
23:10
, I feel like it was it was better and I don't know
23:12
if that's just generally how it goes with like
23:14
a more natural tear , but they definitely
23:16
had to like stitch me up after . So that was interesting
23:18
too , because I had to get medicated Novocaine
23:21
at that point and I was like
23:23
, oh , this is different , but that was good
23:25
. And then with him , I tried
23:27
to have him breastfeed at the hospital
23:30
and didn't latch well
23:32
, had another cut and like bruise on my
23:34
nipple at the hospital and I was just like you know what
23:36
, I'm not doing this , I'm not going to do it . So
23:39
I was like you just ripped out of my body
23:41
like a bat out of hell and you know
23:43
what I'm just I'm not going to breastfeed you . And it
23:45
was like so freeing to me in that moment
23:47
to be like , no , I'm just going to feed
23:49
him formula or I'll pump and feed him
23:52
from a bottle , but he's going to be fine . And
23:54
I'm just doing that for myself , just knowing
23:56
how hard breastfeeding was the first
23:58
time and that that was really the
24:00
emotional downside for me was breastfeeding
24:03
. That's when I was crying or just feeling
24:05
like I was a bad mom . It was all related to the
24:07
breastfeeding aspect . So I just decided
24:09
, nope , I'm not going to do this . I did pump for
24:12
maybe like three weeks and I didn't get
24:14
a lot . My supply was not great , just like the
24:16
time before . But he got some breast
24:18
milk to start and then
24:20
, yeah , we just did formula .
24:22
Did you have to do the new Tremogen again or did
24:24
he have any issues ? We did
24:26
.
24:27
We had tons of GI issues with him too
24:29
. He was really gassy and then he
24:32
also did have some blood in his stool . We went
24:34
through like six or seven different
24:36
kinds of formula with him , just trying
24:38
all these different things . It didn't really
24:40
work or it didn't help the gassiness
24:43
that he was experiencing . So we
24:45
did like gentlies
24:47
and a few others that
24:50
were specifically for gas
24:52
. Then we tried new Tremogen
24:55
. That didn't really help . We were seeing a pediatric
24:57
GI so he recommended that
24:59
we tried . What did he say ? Oh
25:01
, we also tried new Tremogen , like in the
25:04
liquid form , like the pre-prepped
25:06
kind . He was like try that . So there's something
25:08
about different formulations of
25:10
the dry versus the liquid form
25:12
. Tried everything we actually . And
25:14
then he was having silent reflux . So
25:17
he would take an ounce or
25:19
two of milk and then reflux
25:22
Like we wouldn't hear anything or
25:24
like it wouldn't come out , but then he would just start
25:26
crying and he would refuse to take any more from
25:28
the bottle . So we
25:30
got all the way up to EllaCare , which
25:32
is prescription formula . They
25:35
have to like specifically order it and send
25:37
it to your house . And then
25:39
we tried that and that made the reflux
25:41
worse . He was on medication
25:43
, a protein , a PPI
25:45
I'm going to forget what that stands for . Proton pump inhibitor
25:48
yes , thank you , he
25:50
was on one of those . Didn't really seem to help
25:52
. And then a friend of mine , her daughter
25:54
, had been on soy formula and
25:57
she was like , just try soy . The doctors
25:59
, the patricians , were saying don't do soy , because
26:02
a certain percentage of kids who
26:04
have milk protein intolerance also have soy
26:06
protein intolerance . But it just got so bad
26:08
I felt so that
26:10
was a point that I felt really low as mom
26:12
, cause I was like all my baby has to do
26:15
right now is eat and grow and
26:17
he can't even do that . And we're we're trying everything
26:19
and we're not finding the solution . So I was just
26:21
kind of like nothing can be worse than it is right
26:23
now . So we tried soy
26:25
and it was like a switch flip
26:27
. He was great . We took him
26:29
off the PPI , he was fine
26:32
, didn't sound reflux , and so he was on soy
26:34
formula for his whole first year
26:36
or from like three months . It
26:38
took us a while to get there , but from three months till
26:41
one he was on soy formula
26:43
.
26:43
Do they still have the milk protein
26:45
allergy ?
26:46
So we tried Millie's good . She drinks 2%
26:48
milk . Now she had no problem transitioning when
26:50
she was one . Ruben , we tried to
26:52
transition to whole milk when
26:55
he was one , but then he was getting constipated
26:57
. So we did soy
26:59
milk for a little while and then our patrician
27:01
recommended oh , milk , so that's what he's
27:03
drinking now . So after
27:05
I had Ruben so if he
27:08
had his milk protein issues , he also
27:10
wasn't sleeping well , which
27:12
was probably related . But
27:15
about when he was like two months we were still
27:17
lucky to get a three hour stretch
27:19
of sleep . That was a long time and
27:21
we had Millie who was two and we were
27:24
losing our minds a little bit so we
27:26
wanted to try to hire a night nurse for a
27:28
few nights to try and regain some sanity
27:30
. So of course , you're in
27:32
the newborn haze and you were on
27:34
Google just like night nurse Ann
27:36
and Dale help us . And it just
27:39
felt weird to be looking for
27:41
that position on Google , like the
27:43
big wide internet , because that person's
27:45
in your home with your newborn while
27:47
you're sleeping . Nothing vulnerable about
27:49
that ? No , not at all , not intimate
27:52
or anything . So , yeah , I was like this feels
27:54
strange to be finding this person on Google , so
27:56
I just kind of wondered why there wasn't a place parents
27:59
could go and know the providers
28:01
were local and trusted
28:04
.
28:04
Yes .
28:05
And you know that someone another
28:07
family has used and had a positive experience
28:10
with . Because I feel like as parents and moms
28:12
, if another mom says to you , oh
28:14
I used this nanny , like you're going
28:16
to work with your neighbors to set them up with your
28:18
nanny , our nanny is great , I feel like as a
28:20
parent that's like all you need to take
28:23
that first step at least to engage
28:25
with that provider and be like let me check them
28:27
out , so kind of having that built in
28:29
to the providers we have and built
28:31
into that network . So I just kind of wondered why that wasn't
28:33
there . And then another
28:35
part of our website is the service
28:38
registry . So for parents
28:40
who are expecting , they can register for
28:42
services like a night nurse
28:44
or a doula or a lactation consultant
28:47
. And that part of the
28:49
business kind of came from a previous experience
28:51
. So a year before
28:53
my husband and I got engaged and then a month
28:56
later bought our first home . So
28:58
while we were registering
29:00
for our wedding , registering for like China
29:03
, which I was like I don't really care about really nice
29:05
plates , like I'd rather have someone
29:07
like a home cleaning service , can someone
29:09
come and help us clean our home once a month
29:12
. So I was like how do I register for that
29:14
? And at that time I just wasn't aware of any
29:16
avenue to do that no-transcript
29:20
. Back then that was 2015
29:23
, I think I was like , oh , I had an idea
29:25
I was going to call it carefree registry
29:27
, where you could register for services for
29:29
all different things . But then
29:31
of course , life happens , we got married . I
29:34
was pregnant like three months later . Then
29:37
I didn't do anything with it . So kind of marrying
29:40
those two ideas of that
29:42
trusted directory and then also
29:45
a way to register for services .
29:47
Nice . I really love that idea Again
29:50
. Wish I'd had it when
29:53
I needed it .
29:54
I wish I had the registry because I'm like
29:56
I would have registered for all these services , like
29:58
chiropractic care I mean
30:00
, in so many things I didn't learn about either until
30:03
building Baby Cito . I didn't
30:05
know , right yeah .
30:08
Well , and I think that is a huge thing that I love , because honestly
30:10
, I mean , with my daughter I was in New
30:12
York and I was just kind of in no man's land . I
30:14
had a couple of friends that had had babies recently
30:16
and they were like , oh , reach out to these people
30:19
. And I did , and it was good , but
30:21
I could have used a lot more support . And then so when
30:23
I got here , it took me like a year
30:25
to get in with the
30:27
moms group that I'm in now . That , I feel
30:29
like , is where I've gotten most of my referrals
30:32
, but still it's piecemeal
30:34
, because if someone is out there talking
30:36
about something , then that's how I
30:38
learned that it exists , whereas if I had
30:40
one place to go where you could see what
30:42
all the service providers are and what all the
30:44
categories are , then I
30:47
feel like I would have probably been a little
30:49
bit more receptive to taking advantage
30:51
of that , or at least known that it was there and known that
30:53
it was an option , so that if I even get to
30:55
that point that I need it , then I know who to
30:57
reach out to , especially like with lactation
31:00
and stuff . I mean , again , I'm a nurse
31:02
, so I had friends that were able to
31:04
text me , so
31:07
like I would be texting the lactation consultants
31:09
that I work with , but also they
31:12
would slowly start saying , hey , if you
31:14
wanted this additional help or if you
31:16
wanted to do the weigh-ins or anything like that , you could
31:18
probably go to an Arlington lactation
31:20
was definitely one that they would recommend
31:23
. So it was just very , very
31:25
disorganized . The way that I
31:27
was able to finally start
31:29
having a support system that I built
31:31
around me and I feel like most moms feel
31:33
the same way- yeah , totally , and I feel
31:35
like , especially in this area
31:37
, it's a little more transient , so people
31:40
don't necessarily have their family and
31:42
friend networks close by .
31:44
And , yeah , if you haven't found that moms group yet
31:46
, or like I was the first one of
31:48
my friends in this area to have a
31:50
kid , so it's not like my closest
31:53
friends had gone through these experiences
31:55
and could give me some advice , so
31:57
, yeah , being able to have that in one place . We also
31:59
have a free service guide
32:02
, so for people who are expecting , they can download
32:04
and it kind of walks them through what services
32:06
they might want to take advantage of and when . It
32:09
also has a glossary so you can like see
32:11
the definition of what different things are
32:13
. But , yeah , education is a big piece of it
32:16
. I was a teacher in FCPS
32:18
for 10 years , so I think that's just part of
32:20
my core and who I am
32:22
, but helping educate parents
32:24
so that they know what's out there Should
32:27
you run into an issue or need support . Just
32:29
helping parents navigate that more
32:31
easily and knowing that there is support you can
32:33
get , especially if you know ahead of
32:35
time , it's more helpful .
32:37
Yeah , definitely . I love the registry . I'm
32:40
kind of stuck on that very envious , because
32:44
, honestly , how many ones do you need ?
32:46
Well , I think that's a thing and one of our dream
32:48
visions is that we will
32:50
help in the future kind of shift
32:53
the culture of gift giving , especially
32:55
for baby showers , so that my dream
32:57
vision is that everyone has a registry for things
32:59
because , especially with your first , you need things for sure
33:01
, but that you also have a registry for
33:03
services , because you don't need 30
33:06
, zero to three month size onesies
33:08
it's going to be fine , you can wash them
33:10
and you do need a lactation consultant
33:13
or a babysitter or
33:15
a night nurse , someone who's going to give you the support
33:17
to help you maintain your sanity and kind of
33:20
navigate that really emotional
33:22
and challenging postpartum period
33:24
.
33:24
Yeah , or therapy . That was another big one
33:26
. It was insurance didn't cover that . If you're
33:29
not sleeping . I mean , I guess if you have to choose
33:31
between therapy and sleep , I know you're going to choose , but
33:33
sometimes having somebody to talk to
33:35
is a good thing .
33:36
Yes , yeah , we have that . That's like
33:38
. One of our categories is mental health
33:41
. That's something that I definitely
33:43
want to encourage all moms to check
33:45
out , all birthing people to check out , and then also
33:47
let them inform their partners that it's
33:49
there , just in case you get to that
33:51
point . I think if you're in a place where you're
33:53
experiencing any postpartum
33:55
depression or anxiety or mood disorder
33:58
, it's harder to
34:00
help yourself and find the help you need
34:02
. So if you and
34:04
or your partner know , oh , there's this resource
34:06
and I can go find one , even better
34:08
if you can kind of like find it before and be like
34:10
, oh , if this happens , this
34:13
person accepts my insurance or is close
34:15
by or offers virtual care , so
34:17
I can just kind of connect with them and set
34:19
something up . That's amazing .
34:21
Well , Lindsay , was there anything else that we didn't cover that you
34:23
wanted to share ?
34:24
No , I don't think so . I mean , I think , just
34:26
want to make sure all
34:28
birthing persons parents know
34:31
that we are here to help
34:33
. Baby Cito is here to help . We are just
34:35
in Northern Virginia right now as far as the providers
34:38
but the service registry anyone anywhere
34:40
can use , because you can create your own
34:42
services to add , and we just
34:44
want to encourage people to reach out to us if
34:47
they need any support , and we'd be happy
34:49
to help help families find
34:51
what they need , whether that's a doula , a lactation
34:53
console and , like we've been talking about , or even something
34:55
like a soccer focused
34:58
summer camp . We can help with that
35:00
as well , because the services you need
35:02
don't stop when your kids won . They
35:04
just change .
35:04
Yeah , absolutely , and it's babycitoco
35:08
co . Yes , all right . Well
35:10
, thank you so much for joining me . I'm really
35:12
excited for this episode and
35:14
I love the . I love
35:16
Baby Cito , I love the events . I'm just
35:18
excited to be able to be a part of it
35:20
.
35:20
Great . I'm so happy to have you as part of
35:22
it too , and thank you for having me on Kelly
35:24
.
35:25
Thank you
35:27
.
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