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Hey , brian Wright Show Nation . Welcome

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inside the broadcast booth , brian Wright here , and welcome

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into another edition of the Brian Wright Show Just coming

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off a podcast that I did about motivation

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versus discipline and the four

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stages of psychological focus . I want to

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build on that today and we're gonna

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dive into a ten-part series . This is the part

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one around traits of people

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that are very indecisive

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and lack discipline

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, excuse me . So , last one , if you haven't listened , to

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make sure you go back and listen to it . I think it'd be a good precursor

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to diving into this ten-part series

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with part one today . But the premise

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and one of the things we talked about is how motivation

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is crap . Motivation is a noun . It's not something

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you do . It's only gonna last so long and

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it's gonna last longer in certain people

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than others , but it always putters out

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Right . It is the discipline that inevitably

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, is going to get you where you want to go

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, regardless of those are life goals , career goals

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, business goals , maybe all the above , whatever

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it may be . It is the discipline

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to make decisions around

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the things that you can control and

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be great at them , and that is much what

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the psychology talks about around focus . It

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is not about narrowing your focus , which I

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said in the last podcast is very important

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. You can't try to do 27 things

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at once . That's not gonna work either . But the

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whole psychology of focus does not focus

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around what you're focused on . It

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focuses around discipline and

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having the discipline to make the right decisions

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, to be great at what you can control

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. You want to lose weight . You cannot control

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the metabolism , you

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can't control the weight scale , but

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you absolutely can make the decision

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to have the discipline

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to do 20 push-ups

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when you get out of bed in the morning , right To

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eat healthy , to get in the gym

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five more minutes a day than you may be already

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, to get a little bit more cardio . In those

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things you have to be disciplined at and that

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is what's called having a purposeful focus

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. As it relates to the four stages

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of psychology in that podcast , one

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of the things , if you look in the

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bottom left-hand corner about the four

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quadrants of Psychology around focus

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is indecisiveness . Right

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, that indecisiveness is inevitably what

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is causing your , your

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anxiety , your fear , your

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lack of success , if you feel

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scared of failure . Whatever it is , much

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of that can be related back to being

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indecisive . So I want to dive

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into now is how you know what are

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traits of people that do lack

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the discipline of what I talked about , and

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in part one we're gonna be diving in today , and it's

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going to be procrastination . All right , we're

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gonna be diving into a lot of things around

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procrastination and how , if you are a person

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that does Procrastinate , how you

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can get over that hump . Okay , looking forward

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to a great one today . Before we get started , let's fire

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up the music .

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Welcome to the Brian Wright audio experience

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less . And now your host . He's

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international business and life coach , and

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of the most respected companies in the world

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, such as Invisalign and many others

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.

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Brian Wright , Everybody

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welcome in procrastination . What we're gonna be diving

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into today and we've all been there , we've all done

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it , you know it's just one of those things . It's much easier

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to coach you to not procrastinate , to not procrastinate

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, and it is to do it yourself . But we've

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all been there , we've all done that and I think

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some of it with maybe some people it could be

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laziness , but I am a big believer . The vast

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majority of people laziness has nothing to do

3:36

with it . You know the longer and this

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is another reason why you know having

3:41

coaches is so important is because a

3:43

lot of times the coach there is

3:45

not there to teach you things you don't already know . They're

3:48

reinforcing things that you do know and holding

3:50

you accountable to make sure that you're doing things on

3:52

a repetitive basis , having this discipline

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that I so much talk about all over the world

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. And this is a perfect example

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from a procrastination standpoint and

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we talked about last podcast the enemy of progress

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is being indecisive . There has never been a

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fast , successful , growing company with

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an indecisive , slow

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to make decisions . Leadership team

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does not exist , but yet so many

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of you out there in your small businesses are

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so indecisive . You take

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so long to make a decision , you try to

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create all kinds of you know , let's study

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this and study that , let's listen to 20 speakers

4:24

, blah , blah , blah and the next thing you know you haven't done anything

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. And whenever you do go to finally make

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a decision , you screw it up Anyway . This

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is why the quicker and faster you make decisions

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, the quicker you screw them up and the quicker

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you can overcome the screw ups , perfect

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it , and you've at perfecting it and on its

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way before the next guy down the street has even

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implemented it , because they're trying to be so perfect

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. And when procrastination keeps

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in , we've all had it . You know we have a task to do

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and somehow we find a way

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for other you know 20 other things to get

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in our way from actually doing it

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, and it's a real problem both . If

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you're wanting to to improve , let's say

4:58

, you have a relationship problem and that

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is affecting if this is the first time you've listened to me

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, I am very passionate about you

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know the , the triple threat I call them , and it's

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it's life , career in business , and

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none of those things exist on their

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own . If you have issues

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in your relationship in life , that is absolutely

5:17

going to affect you as an entrepreneur and your leadership

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abilities and the things that you are going

5:21

to accomplish . Same way employees

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out there . If you have a relationship problem

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or financial problem , that is going

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to affect your performance at work and

5:30

therefore affect your career , which therefore

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affects the quality of your life . These

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things are very intertwined and why

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we teach all three and why

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we're followed by not only business

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owners . We're also followed by just people out there

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that want to get more out of their life and career . And this

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is also why this podcast is dedicated

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to business owner entrepreneurs , their

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employees and their family members

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, because if you look at all three that I just said

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, those fit into that life . I , career

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and business parallel that we talk

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so much about it , but this procrastination let's say

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you are having a difficult

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time in your relationship

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at home boyfriend , girlfriend , husband , whatever

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spouse , whatever it is and

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you want to have a conversation with

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them , you want to confront them about how

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you are feeling and you are putting that

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off . What inevitably happens

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is it always is going to get harder

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and harder and harder for you the

6:23

longer you wait , and

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that is when the anxiety and , like

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I said a million times in this podcast , the fear

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creeps in the way and

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the fear stands in the way

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of the success you are having

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. Your life , your career , your business

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falls right in between the

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goals you want to achieve , the

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desires you want , and the

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fears that are standing in your weaknesses , that are standing

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in the way of making it happen . So

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what can we do with procrastination ? If we are

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having a conversation

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, or we need to have a conversation with

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our spouse about whatever it may be

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, is that you cannot allow

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things to stand in the way of you doing it , because it's

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going to be harder and harder for you to have that conversation

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. You must wake up tomorrow morning or

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when you come home from work after you listen to this

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podcast today . You must have that conversation

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. The quicker you have it , the less

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your anxiety will be , the less fear

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you will have . You will overcome a weakness

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of having a difficult conversation

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, because for a lot of you , difficult conversations

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are really hard . This is why leaders

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inside organizations give really crappy

7:29

employee reviews . They don't hold people

7:31

accountable the way they should , the way great leaders

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do , because they avoid the

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difficult conversation . They procrastinate

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, they put it off . 20 other things creep up

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and the next thing you know these conversations

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do not have or , excuse me , do not happen

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. Now , obviously , what

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I'm talking about is a minute

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example of thousands

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of things that we could talk about on

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the show , right , and I'm talking about the relationship

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issues , and relationship

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issues are such a business entrepreneur

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killer and they hurt people's careers

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so much . So why do we

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wait ? Why do we procrastinate ? And

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a lot of that goes back to self-discipline

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. What I talked about on the prior episode

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on this podcast , and also what I led off

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with today , is it goes back to having

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the self-discipline to

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make the decision to move

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forward and have that tough conversation

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. The self-discipline to move

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forward , making the decision to

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put your health and well-being at

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the front of the line . The

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discipline on making

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sure that you have a

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focus inside your organization

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on things that you can control

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, and not just inside your organization , also

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employees out there listening , and you want to advance your

8:46

career again in your life

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. You cannot control the type house you're

8:51

able to afford , but you sure as hell

8:53

can control the things that

8:55

will make you more money , to where you then

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can go and buy a more expensive house

9:00

, a bigger house , better location , whenever it may

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be . Again , all three

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of them are intertwined and

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if any of you are like me , it's

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funny whenever you procrastinate and

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you know you should be doing something and you put it off and

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you put it off . I think we almost

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psychologically trick ourselves into thinking

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that somehow , magically , this task is just going

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to go away , like by not doing it

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. Somehow in three weeks I'm going to wake up

9:23

and it's going to do it itself . I think that

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we all know that the task isn't going

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to go away , but I think we all trick ourselves

9:30

into thinking that if we push it off , eventually

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we just won't have to do it . I'll give you an example

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. Early on with my

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companies , there were times

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I was just scared out of my mind to open up our

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bank account and look at the cash

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flow , because there wasn't any . I'm

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sure all of you can relate out there , whether it be your personal

9:49

checking account or your business checking account , whatever

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it might be . Is that one

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of the ways I used to procrastinate all the time is

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just getting my ass in there and looking and facing

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the facts of oh crap , we're in trouble . What do

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I do ? And

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I also found out a lot of times that by procrastinating

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because I was so scared to look at the cash balance

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is that sometimes , once I finally did

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get in there , was actually pleasantly surprised

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and I spent all the you know , spent two weeks worrying

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About something that I didn't even need

10:15

to worry about , because the cash flow was actually pretty

10:17

damn good . And we

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all been the situation where , if we know the cash

10:21

is good in our account , we'd love to open up and look

10:23

at it , but if you know , we're making investments

10:26

in our brokerage account or IRA . If a lot

10:28

of you , if you're like me , I'm heavily invested

10:30

in crypto , as I do this podcast today

10:32

. The last last couple years have not been pretty

10:35

there , but when it was good man

10:37

, I love to open that thing up . But I know when it's

10:39

crashing and it's coming down , it's like , yeah , I don't

10:41

know , should I hit this ? Should I hit this app

10:43

? I use Coinbase , or should I hit this ? Open up this Coinbase

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app ? I don't know . And while you're

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doing that and you're procrastinating and you're being

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indecisive on whether or not you should do it

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, the anxiety and the fear and the

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stomach pains and all this stuff just creep

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up and up and up and

10:58

up . And again , it's not

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that we don't know that we should be

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doing these things . But it goes back

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to this four stages of psychological focus

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is , once we reach that indecision point and

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it becomes the enemy of progress . This

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is what we do as humans and it

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absolutely kills the

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forward progress in our lives , our careers

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and entrepreneurs out there , your

11:21

businesses and

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, I think , ironically enough , procrastination

11:25

. Oftentimes I think we can trick

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ourselves into thinking it's our best friend

11:30

, right like I was saying earlier about hey , if I don't

11:32

do this , maybe we'll just go away . And

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I think that's how we trick ourselves into thinking it's going to give

11:37

us some temporary relief and it may give us a

11:39

couple minutes of temporary relief . But and

11:41

you all know this , you've all been there regardless again

11:43

, whether it's a relationship problem , employees maybe you are , you

11:47

know you want to ask your boss for your leadership

11:49

team , for a raise or a

11:51

bonus or a promotion , whatever it may be , business

11:53

owners there's a thousand examples to Is

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that . You know , by putting it off right now , can

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it make us feel better and give us that instant gratification

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of relief ? Yet can . But that instant relief

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for that instant gratification , that instant feeling

12:06

of relief , it goes away very quickly and when it does , the anxiety that comes from that

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doubles and it gets worse and worse and

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this is so bad for our mental health , it's

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so bad for our physical health and

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as those things decline , our performance

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declines our performance as

12:23

being a great husband , a great father at home

12:25

, our performance from career standpoint . Employees out there , whatever it may be the value

12:27

you offer the business , it declines . Business

12:29

owners your numbers decline , your leadership

12:31

skill sets , the culture you're

12:34

able to build , those decline and

12:40

as those are all declining , and heavily

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, what's crazy is is those are the things that you actually can control Right

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. So now , all of a sudden , you have numbers

12:49

that are starting to climb . Your relationship

12:51

gets worth , your health gets worse in your life . Employees

12:54

you move further and further away from the promotion . Business

12:58

owners you move further and further away from accomplishing

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what you want is an entrepreneur for your business . That could

13:03

be more money , could be more freedom , could be a combination

13:05

of both , and

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we all know this , yet

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we still , once we reach that in decision point . And that four stages

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of psychological

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focus , remember go back and listen to the prior episode so

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you can hear me dive into these four stages

13:22

more , because they are very , very powerful

13:24

and the success you will have

13:26

or will not have in your life , career , business , journey . So

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, as we wrap up today , my challenge for

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all of you is take something in

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your life that you are procrastinating

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over , and it can be anything . It can be in your life , it can be in your career , it could be

13:40

in your business , it could be all the above . Take

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something and , right after you hear

13:47

this podcast , go and do it . Open up your bank

13:49

account , even though you're scared to look at the numbers in there . Employees , go ask for the raise

13:51

. Go have that difficult

13:54

conversation with your wife , spouse

13:56

, boyfriend , girlfriend , whatever it is . Start your workout

13:59

routine tomorrow . Put self health first . Start eating healthier . You

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know , if you're addicted to Coca Cola or

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something , throw it out when you get

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home and then have the discipline

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to say I'm never going to buy this again

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Again . That is

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backed with purposeful focus , discipline

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to make the decision to throw

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away that Coca-Cola and never buy it again

14:25

. You can control that

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. So therefore

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it fits into the description . Business

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owners , if you want to terminate an employee , god forbid

14:35

. But you've been scared to have the conversation

14:37

, do it today . Business

14:39

owners , if your culture is

14:43

suffering and you know that you aren't getting any of your strategies

14:45

implemented . Seek help with a coach

14:48

today . Employees

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, if you want to raise , go ask

14:52

your leadership team for that . Raise

14:55

today , and it

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will always be easier to do it now

14:59

than wait to make a decision

15:01

and wait this out and let the anxiety

15:04

build , because you all know how it

15:06

feels . When that anxiety builds and

15:08

that fear creeps in and it gets worse and worse

15:10

, all of this stuff that I'm trying to teach you to

15:12

do just gets put on the back burner for all the

15:14

reasons we talked about today . Get

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out there , be proactive

15:20

, be decisive

15:23

. Even if you end up failing

15:25

from making a quick decision , having

15:27

that tough conversation with the wife and maybe your

15:30

relationship gets worse first , it'll

15:33

always be better than

15:35

if you wait it out and let all these

15:37

anxieties and fears build , because it will affect you

15:39

in every way , mentally and physically . Go

15:42

grab something in your life that you're being indecisive

15:45

about , you're procrastinating

15:47

about . Knock it out today . All right , hope

15:49

everybody enjoyed part one . We're going to be on a journey

15:52

, probably for about a 10 part series

15:54

. It may not end up being a full 10 , but

15:56

we're going to try to get there all around

15:58

this psychology of focus hitting off

16:00

today around that indecision and procrastination

16:02

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16:07

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