Are you married? Do you want to be married? When you get married, or when you got married, did you or do you expect perfection? Fighting is normal for everyone. To struggle is normal. Having anxiety, and stress is normal. You can be ok, with being ok. Never give up on your spouse, even if they want to give up on you. It takes two people giving 100 percent, to really make a marriage work. It is not 50-50 it is 100-100. Never forget that.