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Something that I've noticed the derails a lot of people's goals

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or attempts to form new habits.

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Is the feeling that it's pointless to even try.

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If it feels like it won't matter if you do anything, why would you try.

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So when people feel like this, they usually give up.

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And it's a pretty understandable. But what if we want to break through that barrier, then the opportunity

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here is to learn how to work with these feelings of pointlessness.

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If we can find a way to feel empowered when things feel pointless.

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A whole new range of possibilities open for up, open up for us,

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including the possibility of moving through the most difficult parts

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of a project or a habit change.

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What would it be like if you worked with the desire to give up when

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things felt hard and pointless? Let's look at how to recognize the feeling of pointlessness and then how you might

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work with it to create something new.

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So, how do we recognize feelings of pointlessness?

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It can be difficult to recognize this stumbling block.

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So let's look at some common ways.

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Uh, of what it might look like in your life.

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You missed a few days of a new habit. Maybe it's a workout meditation journaling.

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And you feel discouraged and you want to give up.

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The reason is the feeling of pointlessness. Ah, I know I'm never going to get this.

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I suck. I can't do it. You think no one is going to care.

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You want to write a book or blog for example, but you have the feeling that

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you're writing it and no one will read it. That feels pointless.

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So you might not even try. You want to sign up for something that could change your life?

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Maybe it's a new course. Maybe it's some coaching or a mastermind group, for example.

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But you think you won't actually pour yourself into it.

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So. You won't get value out of it.

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What's the point. If I'm not even going to show up for it.

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You feel overwhelmed by the huge pile of tasks, clutter email in front of you.

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And you feel like you can't tackle all of it, so you don't even start.

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It feels like too much, like something you can handle.

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So it feels pointless to even try. Every time you give your best effort, things return back to where they were.

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No matter how hard I try things just end up the same way.

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So you just give up. Or you feel like you have the same conversation with someone and

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it's just not getting anywhere. It's frustrating.

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Because you're going around in circles. It's pointless to even try with this person.

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So it's best to just exit. Fire them quit breakup.

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Ghost them. You were giving your best effort and then you got derailed by

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something out of your control. Maybe you got injured, maybe you got sick.

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Maybe it was someone else's mistakes or crisis or world events, a pandemic.

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Why even try. You feel lost in the unknown?

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It's better to stick with what, you know. Or you're so far behind with bills that it feels impossible to catch up.

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So you ignore them. You can see in all of these situations.

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That it applies to just about everything in life.

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Wanting to meditate. Date, declutter exercise.

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Get out of debt, create something meaningful.

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Build an amazing team. This feeling of pointlessness stops us on all fronts.

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But it's time to take it on. How do we do that?

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How do we work with that struggle?

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There's nothing wrong with feeling pointless, the feeling of pointlessness

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at times, it's it's human feeling. It's human nature.

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The difficulty comes when we believe it and we make it mean something.

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So my encouragement is to make it mean nothing other than it's

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just how it feels right now. That's meaningful to the extent that we can always care about how we feel.

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I feel sad, lonely, uplifted, curious, playful, angry.

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They matter, but they're not the entire world.

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Feel the feeling, give it some compassion.

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Breathe. So we have to take it head on just like we talked about in the last episode.

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Then we've got to find a way to feel more empowered.

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Missing one or two days is just an expected part of the

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process of learning and growth. Messiness is a part of life.

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Something beautiful to love and embrace.

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This coming from a perfectionist. If no one will read a single word of my writing, would there still be something

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powerful for me in the writing process?

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If I keep ending up in the same place, is there something for me to look at here?

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Something that I could learn from it? Would that make these repeated attempts valuable to me, if I learned something.

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If I keep failing to finish a course or a program.

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Is there an opportunity to shift something?

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To shift, maybe change gears to something that would be more powerful for me.

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What would it look like if I changed this pattern forever?

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Could I let myself be curious when I'm lost in the unknown.

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If I'm far behind, could I focus just on taking the next step?

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If I have a mountain of tasks. Could I love the activity of climbing that mountain.

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Could I find joy in each step.

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What would it look like to find meaning in the place that feels pointless?

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Let me know what things that you feel are hard and pointless for you right now.

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Maybe we can tackle these together.