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Good morning, my friend. Dr. Lee Warren here with you, and it is time for some self-brain surgery.
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It is Wild Card Wednesday, and yesterday I brought you back an old episode about
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a character from my book, Hope is the First Dose, who had a problem where he
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couldn't stop seeing the massive thing that was happening to him.
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And today I'm going to give you a second character from the book,
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Hope is the First Dose, because a lot of people are writing in on the prayer
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wall and sending us prayer requests and telling us about how they feel stuck.
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And sometimes your life can just pile a bunch of stuff on you and you can be stuck.
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You don't know what to do. You don't know how to move forward. And sometimes after trauma or tragedy or these massive things happen,
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we can get stuck in a grief cycle or rumination cycle or fear or anxiety or
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worry can pile up and we just don't know how to move forward.
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And there's a story in the book about a woman named Tina Tisdale who got stuck
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and it had a tragic outcome for her. And I don't want that to happen to you.
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So this is a story about what to do when you feel stuck, some of the ways that
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we can get stuck and some ways that we can get unstuck using a treatment plan
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for changing our minds and changing our life.
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So without further ado, here's a story from Hope is the First Dose.
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I think it's gonna help you. I had a strong urge this morning that somebody needed to hear this.
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So if that was you, send us an email, lee at drleewarren.com.
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Let us know that you were benefited by this episode. Share it with a friend
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if you think it'll help somebody. We're praying for you. We'll be back tomorrow with Theology Thursday.
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I'm going to go to the operating room this morning. Lisa and I have a lot of
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cool things going on that we'll be sharing with you soon.
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And just praying for you. Don't forget the prayer wall, w1mb.com slash prayer. Let's get after it.
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Hey, are you ready to change your life? If the answer is yes, there's only one rule.
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You have to change your mind first. And my friend, there's a place where the
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neuroscience of how your mind works smashes together with faith and everything.
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Starts to make sense. Are you ready to change your life?
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This is the place, Self-Brain Surgery School. I'm Dr.
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Lee Warren, and this is where we go deep into how we're wired,
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take control of our thinking, and find real hope.
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This is where we learn to become healthier, feel better, and be happier.
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This is where we leave the past behind and transform our minds.
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This is where we start today. Are you ready? This is your podcast.
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This is your place. This is your time, my friend. Let's get after it.
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Music.
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But today, I'm going to do the second in a series of talking about some of the
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characters and themes from the book. And today, there's a lady named Tina Tisdale that we're going to talk about.
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A couple of weeks ago, we did an episode called Anthony Walker is Hammered.
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And there's a guy in the book named Anthony Walker who got hit in the head with a hammer.
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And it cost him the ability to move his face on one side.
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And he couldn't close his eye. When you can't close your eye,
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then your cornea will dry out. And you eventually will lose vision because you can't stop looking.
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And we talked about how we do that in our lives sometimes. We can't stop looking
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at the things that are hurting us.
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And eventually that just focus and unrelenting gaze will cause the loss of the
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ability to see anything else. And that's Anthony's story.
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Well, today Tina's story is similar but very different in a couple of different ways.
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And we're going to get into that in a minute. I just want to remind you that
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you can't change your life until you change your mind.
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And we're going to do that. Today, though, we're going to finish the episode after the outro.
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I'm going to give you a little music just to spend a minute.
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To think about if you can't learn to look away from a problem and look on to
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something else, something bigger, something more hopeful, something more helpful,
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then you're going to have a problem like Anthony did, like Tina did.
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And so I'm going to give you an Alan Jackson song. It's an old hymn,
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Turn Your Eyes on Jesus, and Alan Jackson did an incredible version of it.
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It's just stunning, and it would be a great way to just worship and think a
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little bit about some of the things that we might need to look away from and
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look towards if we're going to learn finally how to start today.
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I first met her in the emergency department, and my friend John had called me to come down and see her.
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And Tina had had a brain tumor a couple of years before, a benign brain tumor called meningioma.
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And the cool thing about meningioma is if you're going to have a brain tumor,
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it's a great one to have often because if we can remove it, then you're usually cured.
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It doesn't require chemotherapy. It doesn't require radiation.
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It doesn't always recur, and it doesn't usually cost people their lives.
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And so meningioma, if you have to have a brain tumor, is a good kind to have
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because potentially it's curable. So Tina had had this surgery a couple of years before I met her.
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And she came to the emergency department one day with a complaint that she thought
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she could feel her tumor growing back. She felt a strange sensation in her head, some discomfort.
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And she just was convinced that her tumor was growing back.
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And we went under extensive workup. We did MRI scans, and I reviewed her records,
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and we did all kinds of testing, and I spent hours with the radiologist looking
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and looking and looking, trying to see if there was something going on,
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comparing it to previous studies and all of that.
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And at the end of the day, the fact was she was really cured of her disease. There was no tumor left.
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There was nothing in her head that was any type of danger to her. The tumor was gone.
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And you would think you'd be excited about that, right? But she had something
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called post-craniotomy syndrome, and that's not terribly common,
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but some people after brain surgery, they just never quite feel right.
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They have a sensation from their incision inside their head,
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and they feel kind of headachy, and they just don't ever kind of feel back to normal.
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But most people are able to sort of account for the fact that they're not dying
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of brain cancer or that their tumor's gone, and they're able to sort of move
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on with the idea that, yeah, I've got some residual symptoms.
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Symptoms, but I've got a cure for my underlying problem.
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And that's okay for most people. But for Tina, it became this life altering thing.
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She was convinced that there was something wrong and she couldn't stop thinking about it.
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And it became the entire defining thing of her life that she was just absolutely
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convinced that all the doctors were missing something that was going to hurt her.
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And that thing became the defining focus of every moment of her life.
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It just, It almost destroyed her marriage. It kept her from being productive. It kept her from moving on in her life.
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All she could think about was this idea that there was something wrong inside her head.
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And this is ironic because the problem was all in her head, as we say metaphorically,
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which means that there wasn't a real problem.
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There wasn't a physical tumor that was causing those symptoms.
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But she was convinced that there was something wrong in her head.
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So she spent the rest of her life being convinced that she was dying of something
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that she wasn't dying of. And ultimately in frustration because she was so stressed out and so convinced
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that everything was wrong and so focused on this problem that nobody else could
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figure out, she took her own life. This is tragic, right? It's devastating because all of us can look at this and
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say, Tina, you're cured. You should be grateful. You should be happy. Your problems are actually solved.
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And yeah, you've got this leftover issue, but you're cured, right?
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And her husband couldn't understand. It was causing stress in their marriage.
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It was like, you want to be sick more than you want to be well.
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And I counseled him, Rick, no, it's not that. She's just really convinced that
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there's something wrong. It's not that she wants to be sick. She just can't stop. She can't accept the
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fact that you can have life, but you also have to have pain because in her mind,
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she believed that if she was cured,
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the pain would be gone and she could not accept the and. We talked about that before.
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Like if you're focused on the but, like I was okay, but I got a tumor and now
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I have pain and I'm not okay anymore and I can never be okay again,
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then that becomes the beginning point of a downward spiral that will lead into
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you having a life that's not abundant because it's defined by something that you can't control,
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that's unpleasant to you, that defines you outside of who you really are.
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But if you can learn to pivot, like Anthony did when he got the ability to close
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his eye back when his face was fixed and he could squeeze his eye shut again,
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he could stop looking at the pain and start looking at other stuff and smile
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when he felt like it. But Tina couldn't learn the and.
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We had to learn it after we lost Mitch because it was a real problem.
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It was a crossroads for me. Like I'm a happy guy, but I lost my son, and now I can't be happy anymore.
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Or it could be a thing and not the thing.
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I was a happy guy. I lost my son. I was really sad. I'll always be sad,
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but I have many other things to live for.
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And I can therefore find a way back to hope again. So you could find the and
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in place of all those buts, right?
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Tina couldn't find it and it cost her her life.
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Listen, there's going to be some situations in your life, friend,
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that you can't get rid of. You just have to say, God is telling me in this particular instance that I can't have that.
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There's a thing that I want that I can't have.
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And so in order to find abundant life again, like Jesus promised you,
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he came here for you to do in John 10.10, in order for you to have abundant
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life, you're going to have to accept that there are some things that you can't have.
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There are some prayers that won't be answered the way you want them to.
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Timothy Keller, I think it's him. I'm going to quote this, and it may or may not be Keller.
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So if you know who said this quote and it's not Keller, then please correct
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me. Comment on the episode and I'll fix it. I think it was Timothy Keller. It says, God answers our prayers either by giving
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us what we want or by giving us what we would want if we knew everything that he knows.
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That'll sink in in a minute. He'll either give you what you're asking for,
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or he'll give you what you would ask for if you were as informed about your life as he is.
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So for some reason, sometimes God finds it better to not answer what we're asking
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him for in the way that we think would make us happy, because he knows more than we do.
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And this reminds me of Paul in 2 Corinthians 12.
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When Paul begs God to remove something. thing.
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He says this 12, seven, second Corinthians 12, seven.
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So to keep me from becoming conceited because of the surpassing greatness of
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the revelations, a thorn was given me in the flesh, a messenger of Satan to
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harass me, to keep me from being conceited.
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Three times I pleaded with the Lord about this, that it should leave me.
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But he said to me, my grace is sufficient for you for my power is made perfect in weakness.
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So listen, Paul, the apostle Paul, the guy who wrote Quote, two-thirds of the
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New Testament had to accept pain as an ongoing part of his life.
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He had to accept whatever the thorn in the flesh was. He had to accept the and.
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Yes, I have this incredible life and God is allowing me to write the New Testament
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and I've been saved by grace and I've been transformed and he even gave me a
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new name and I had to live with the thorn in the flesh.
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And he learned how to do that by embracing the fact that he could look at something
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bigger, Jesus and his unchanging promises and the hope of eternal life and the
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hope of a resurrected body and all those things that go along with the faith that we have.
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He could look at that and focus on it. He could turn his eyes upon Jesus and
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look away from the problem and towards the provider.
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That's one of those Christian platitudes that sounds crazy, but it's really true. True.
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If you have been given one of these things like Tina Tisdale's post-craniotomy
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syndrome, like my grandfather's phantom limb syndrome that punished him for
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his whole life after he had his leg amputated, he never stopped feeling pain
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in his foot, even though the foot wasn't there anymore.
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Phantom limb and post-craniotomy syndrome and all these things are reminders
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of the fact that we're immortal bodies and we have some things that we can't fix.
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We have some pain. I've got lots of patients with diabetic peripheral neuropathy
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and they're burning and tingling and their feet and hands, and they always will.
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And they have to learn to live with that. It's just an ongoing part of life.
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So listen, friend, if you want to become healthier, feel better and be happier,
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if you wanna learn how to have an abundant life from John 10,
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10, in spite of the hard life of John 16, 33,
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you're going to have to learn to accept some thorns, to accept some pains, to accept some ands,
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because there's some things you just can't have. And one thing you can't always have is a perfect answer, in your opinion,
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to the things that you're praying about. But you can know that your Father, your Creator, is giving you the perfect answer
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that He would give you if you knew everything that He knows about what you're really asking.
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He's there. He's always working on your behalf.
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If you can turn your eyes from the problem towards Him, that'll help you change
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your mind and it'll help you change your life. Tina Tilsdale died because she.
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Was drowning in the butt. I was okay, but I got a brain tumor, and now I have pain, and I'm sure it's
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coming back, and nobody can figure it out, and I'm going to die of this thing,
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and all these doctors are idiots, and my husband doesn't understand,
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and my life is just ruined, and I'm just going to take myself out. That's what she did.
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And she could have instead pivoted to the end.
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She could have said, I had this beautiful life, and I've got a family and a
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husband who loves me, and I had this problem, and it turned out not to be cancer,
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and the surgeons were able to cure me of it, and I've got some residual pain,
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and it reminds me of the fact that I've been given this life again,
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and I've got to learn how to process that pain and hold on to everything else that I still have.
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She didn't understand. She couldn't accept the and, and she couldn't accept
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the my grace is sufficient for you, but you can.
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Friend, you can change your mind, and you can change your life.
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You can learn to turn your eyes away from the problem and towards the provider.
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Or you can turn your eyes on Jesus, you can change your mind and learn how to
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make your brain work on your behalf, even when it hurts.
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And my friend, the best news of all is that you can start today.
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Music.
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Music.
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Hey, thanks for listening.
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The Dr. Lee Warren Podcast is brought to you by my brand new book,
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tragedy, and other massive things. It's available everywhere books are sold. And I narrated the audio books.
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Hey, the theme music for the show is Get Up by my friend Tommy Walker,
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around the world. I'm Dr. Lee Warren, and I'll talk to you soon. Remember, friend, you can't change your
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life until you change your mind. And the good news is you can start today.
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