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This is The Eds with Eddie Judge
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and Edwin Aroyavi.
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The husbands know best a too
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cheese production.
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All right, So because it's wedding season,
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it's time to talk
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a little bit about what the guys think about,
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you know, weddings and anniversaries. And
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you know, we talked about my televice proposal
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and wedding experience with my wife
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on TV, which is an amazing
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experience. And we touched a little bit about you
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getting married in Paris. But I'd
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like to learn a little bit more about your
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journey to Paris and did
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you ask John for permission to get married
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for her hand? And how
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did you propose to her? And what was tell
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me all about the wedding in Paris. That sounds like an
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amazing experience. Yeah, But the funny
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thing is I was always afraid of getting married.
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That was actually one of my biggest fears.
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And it was because at
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least sixty or seventy percent of my friends
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that got married were getting a divorce, right,
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and I was just trying to.
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In my head, maybe I'd get
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married at like forty five or something
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like that. Anyway, Teddy and I get
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pretty serious, and you
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know, the talk comes up of should
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we get married, should we not? And
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I remember thinking to myself at
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the time. I told Teddy,
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I'm like, look, I do want
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to get married, but like I
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take care of my entire family, like I've been taking
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care of my family since I was
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fifteen. I'm like, what if
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you wake up five years from
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now and you
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don't want to be married to me? Like now, I got to give
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you half my stuff, And
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I said, I don't have John Mellencamp money
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yet. And you know, John could
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afford to get divorced for three, three
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four different times. I'm like, I can't
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if I get divorced one time, I'm losing
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half my stuff. I got to take care of my mom. Blah blah blah.
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So she's like, I
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don't care about your money, and I'm like, all
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right, answer, And
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so that put me a little more at peace, and
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she's just like, don't touch my money. It's like, mho,
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we got we got a deal. But
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I was still freaking out, and I remember going
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back and forth and finally I
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told her, look, I can't marry. I'm just I
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can't. And you
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know, I remember it was a tough night that
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night because she cried. I cried,
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I'm just like I can't do it. And
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the next day I'm driving and
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I thought to myself, what am I so scared
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of? Like I've always been
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sort of a risk taker, and
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why am I so afraid on this? And
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I already know I want to marry her? Like what am I trying
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to? Why am I waiting? And
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there was this start in my head though that was like,
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Okay, well maybe if I buy the rank,
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I could buy myself some time and
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you know, maybe we'll get married two
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years after. But
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screw it, I'm by the ranks. I went, I bought
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the ring and
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I called John and
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I just basically said, hey, John, I want to marry your daughter
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and I think she's the best thing that's ever
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happened to me, and I'm
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going to take care of her and you got
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my word that I'm
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going to be the best husband possible. And
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he was he was like, yeah,
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you know, I if that's what you guys
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want to do. I fully supported, and
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then I ended up proposing to her. I
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bought her a nice, I think Gucci jacket,
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and I put the ring in the jacket
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and I proposed in front of my entire
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family when we were living out in Woodland
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Hills. It's a special moment.
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But then then we don't have a date. Right
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in my head, I'm thinking the date's going to be two years
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later, right, And that buys me a little time
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again because I'm just it was a me thing.
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It wasn't a Teddy thing.
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I was just scared, right.
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And then of course we go around
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and you know, everybody's congratulating
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us on the engagement, but
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what do you think? The first question is when
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you get engaged, when's doa any
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and our answer was we don't know.
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So then Teddy's like, you
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know, I feel really stupid that we don't have
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a date. I'm like, oh, here
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we go, so we still don't have
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a date. Anyway. Six months later, we're
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about to her dad's
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going on a tour in Europe,
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and Teddy's like, you
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know what, why don't we get married in Paris.
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My dad's going to be touring, it's fourth
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to July is going to be in Paris. We can
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just get married fourth to July. And
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then my dream was always if I
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ever did have a wedding, I'd have
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it. I'd have what do you call
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those weddings when you fly out and
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get away wedding and where,
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yeah, where, It's just a few of us,
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and I don't have to worry about who I invited,
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who I didn't invite. I just kind of wanted
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to do it quick. You have twenty close
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people. And that's exactly
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what ended up happening. And we took off to Paris,
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but two weeks prior
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to leaving. I mean, this is how freaked
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out I was. I
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wake up in the middle of the night and
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I can't move my entire left
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side of my body, like
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I'm thinking I'm having it and I'm probably in one of the best
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shapes in my life. And
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it must have been at least a minute to two minutes.
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I couldn't move the entire left side of my body,
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and I felt like I was having a heart attack. And
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I remember saying, like, God, don't let me go out like this.
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And I'm trying to wake up Teddy, but I can't talk.
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It's just it's weird. I
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can't move, so I go
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to the hospital. I spent the entire
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day in that hospital. I
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had to wear a heart monitor for
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an entire week just to find out
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what was wrong. With my heart because my whole left arm
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went numb. Well it was eight
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days. So I did that for an entire
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week, and it turns
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out I had a panic attack. I've
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never I've never
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had that in my life, and
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I've dealt with a lot of stressful situations.
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By the way, that's never ever
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happened to me, and God will it will never happen
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to me again. But that's how freaked out
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I was. And Teddy's
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like, maybe we shouldn't fled, Like, no, we're going to get married.
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So then cut to we're
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in Paris and we're having
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a great time. We're
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about to get married, and
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you know the part, I can't make
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this up. I put this on everything. I
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had, put my alarm back then I used
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to wake up at six am. Well six am is two
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pm in Paris, right,
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so we're about to get married. We walk out and
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the eye blah blah blah. It's really nice. We were
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on top of some roof at some hotel
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and so we're looking the Eiffel Tower. So
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we took these beautiful pictures. I
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got to fly out my family, so my
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siblings, my mom came out. They'd never been Europe,
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so it was just perfect right. And
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who organized it all? I mean Eddy
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ed he found someone in Paris and they did
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just a great job just organizing
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the entire thing. It's funny
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my mom, who doesn't speak Spanish,
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I mean doesn't speak English. My mama doesn't speak
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a lick of English, is hanging
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out with Meg Ryan and they're talking. My
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sister's like hanging out with her. I remember, I remember we used
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to watch your movies and like, oh, shoot, now my mom's
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talking to Meg Ryan. I'm like, that's that's
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pretty cool, right. Anyway,
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you know the part when you're getting married and they say,
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if anybody of Jack's or whatever
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that's whatever that phrase is, I
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kid you not. As he's saying that,
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myles, I'm about to start crying,
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and I'm like, I did not want to cry at my
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wedding, but I'm feeling I'm like,
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damn, I'm gonna start crying like crazy right now.
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And he says, does anybody of Jack
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blah blah blah. My alarm
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goes off and
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in my head, I'm thinking, is this guy
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telling me not to get married? So
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there's this picture of Teddy and I and
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we're just dying of like, we
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just started immediately laughing because
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when my alarm went off, John's
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like, you gotta be shitting mate,
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We just started laughing. Anyway,
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we end up getting married and
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we had a blast. My family
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had a blast. Some of the best pictures we've ever taken
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were there and it's a special moment.
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How many people were there?
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Twenty of us, so it was Teddy's
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immediate family and then it was
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my immediate family, so there's probably eighteen
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twenty people there. And then
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our honeymoon was basically going around with
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John all over Europe while he was touring.
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How long was that?
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It's probably a good ten day. So when
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we went to Germany, we went to Milan,
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we went to Florin,
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we went to England. Where
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else should we go? We went to a bunch of places
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where he was touring. It was cool because everywhere
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we went we got the red carpet treatment.
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So wow, what is
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awesome experience? Yeah,
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yep, but.
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Art monitor and my alarm went off,
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and it's worked out so
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far. It's gonna be fifteenth. This will be our
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fifteenth year together and
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it's thirteen
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years married in our
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anniversaries fourth of July, so
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it's kind of hard to forget that one. Yeah.
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Yeah, So you get to celebrate for the July
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and your anniversary every year.
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And then her birthday is on the first, so
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you got the first and the fourth.
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Oh my gosh.
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So I kind of get away with
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just an entire weekend whether and just you
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know, yeah, and it's
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fireworks every year. It's fir Secret
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year. Exactly. That's fantastic.
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That's gonna be a hard one not to forget, you know, it's
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for the July, come on, yeah,
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exactly, and it's Independence
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Day.
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I can't believe how fast it goes, though.
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How long have you guys been together?
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By the way, we have been together thirteen
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years married, ten And I
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always whenever somebody asked me that
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questions, I always realized that these
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last not just ten years
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married, but that the whole thirteen years have
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gone by so freaking fast,
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like almost like I feel
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like I just met her last year and we're still
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just trying to figure out, you know, what are
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we going to do with our life together? Right, But
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there's been so much that's happened, and
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I think big part of it is
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because she's been on TV for so long.
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Yeah, we've lived this crazy
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world wind of life where we're walking
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red carpets, we're attending, you know, high
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level events, we're invited to these
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great VIP experiences, you
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know, traveling. I was traveling
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a lot when I first met her, and I
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just take her on my trips to you
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know, Brazil, Europe,
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anywhere in the world that I could go, I would take
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her with me. And I think that's one
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of the things that we missed mostly
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about, you know, since since
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COVID and COVID shutting down
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the world, we missed traveling that much like we used
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to. But that's that
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was one of the things that just made our life. Just
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our relationships just go by so fast.
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You know, how long were you guys together before
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you decided to ask her
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to marry you?
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Three years? Three years?
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So, like I said, we met and
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it was probably about a month after
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she left her ex
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and moved down on Rome that we started dating.
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And it was fun. It was just never never
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thought I would be marrying her, you
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know. It was just such a chemistry
11:58
between us and easy talking
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and and just time
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spent together was so nice and relaxing,
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and everything
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just kind of made sense when we took
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it's little by little, one step at a time where
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she moved out, she stabilized
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her herself, and then she stabilized
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her kids, you know, going through the whole divorce.
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It's just it was a nightmare, right,
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And she lived on her own for a couple of years.
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I think before we started talking
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about marriage, and if
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you remember, we were talking about just having a little
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beach wedding with a few people, and then
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producers found out and we ended up having this giant,
12:36
enormous wedding, which
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I don't regret at all. It was an incredible wedding.
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But then she moved
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in, and you know, well before she
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moved in, she her
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her son, her oldest son, had a pitbull named
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Bronx that you know, needed a home
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because he was moving into an apartment. And I had
12:54
just bought this house here in Ladera,
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and you know, being single and living
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in this and I decked it out with you
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know, darkwood floors and you know, the
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brand new house. So I was all really proud of
13:06
it. Nothing was out of place, and I was
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real anal at the time. And she says,
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hey, have a dog. Can you have a dog, because
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you know we're going to need a dog for Spencer. When when
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he moves in with us, you know, or moves into
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the house, I'm like, okay, but he's
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going to be an outdoor dog. He's not going
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to be inside. And sure enough,
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it took about a week before I fell in love
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with the dog, and I think I slept with
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them one time, and I'm like,
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yeah, no, I can't sleep with the dog.
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Forget it.
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You know, I love you, but you're gonna have to sleep downstairs
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or in your cage. And he ended
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up ruling the house and ruining my floors
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and ruining the backyard. But
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he brought so much love and so much
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stability to the family, particularly
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because he was he
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became basically Spencer's dog. He
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slept with Spencer the entire time
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that he was with us, and he was just
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an amazing dog. But that was probably
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our biggest connection with between
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me and the kids, was that dog, right,
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that dog that just you know, brought us together
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and made us a family. It
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was a it was a smooth
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but rough transition because the divorce
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was just an ugly divorce. The guy was
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really using the kids to try
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to get to Tamra and he
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didn't give a shit about their mental health
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or you know what the effects were going to be on
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them. So it
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was really hard on the kids because of that. Otherwise,
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you know, it could have been easy. He could have
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gone his way. She obviously was happy in
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her relationship, and the kids would have been great and
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they would have got it. But it was such an ugly
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public divorce that I
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really didn't even see. We both
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didn't really see ourselves getting married because
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it was such an ugly public divorce. You
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know, it just didn't really makes sense
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to do that. And that's probably the biggest
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reasons why we wanted to just have a small
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little wedding without announcing
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it to the world. You know, our lives are already
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on a platform and everything is
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out there that she does, and she doesn't hold
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back, as you know, she just puts it all
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out there, and I'm like, there's got
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to be some sort of you know, privacy
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here.
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By the way, did you guys do uh prenup
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or no prenup?
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We did not do a prenup. You know, it
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just it didn't make any sense, and
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I think from our generation
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it didn't. It was it was
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a negative connotation to have a prenup.
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Right. It was like, well, if you don't trust me, I don't trust
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you. And it was one of those things like plus,
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I mean, I didn't have a lot. I had a house,
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I had a career, and you know I had money in the bank,
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but I didn't have I wasn't wealthy, so
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it didn't matter to me. And of course she
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was on a show and she's on
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her way to making a lot of money. But
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she said, no, I don't. I don't think this is something
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that applies to us. So, yeah,
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you know, we had a prenup.
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I was going to ask you that, you know. So that
15:54
was the whole That was the whole conversation. That's that's when
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I go, all right, I'm in. And I said, look, if we do
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a prenup, we're good. And
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I won't get any of your money. You know, whatever
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John leaves you, you don't touch any of my money.
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And but the funny part is, you know, now we've been
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married over ten years. She always reminds
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me that, I guess after you've been married
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for ten years that preenam
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goes away. And
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it's so funny because the prenum was a very aggressive
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one and like
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just freaked out. But it also, I
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guess, showed me that she didn't really
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care about it. And obviously she's got her own
16:29
money, right, so she doesn't really care. But that
16:32
was kind of a big deal for me that she would. And
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yeah, she reminds me all the time. You know, it's it's
16:38
over ten years. I could take all your shit if
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I want, so, she
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likes to remind me. It's a
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California law, which I haven't even checked
16:48
it, but apparently it is. So yeah,
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that thing went by.
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By from my understanding, and
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I don't know how the prenums work.
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I assumed it was kind of an iron clad
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log like, hey, this is I keep
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what I have at the time of the marriage,
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and you keep what you have at the time of our marriage.
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And then you add in some things like if you
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know.
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You forgot you were you were in law before.
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Yeah, so if you inherit, you know, money
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from your family you added
17:14
into the prenup that you get to keep it. And
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obviously I don't know if you had any inheritance
17:19
coming to you, but whatever you had
17:21
at the time is going to be yours
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when you got married. And that's like I said, I all
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I had was a house in a you know, a
17:29
bank account and a job. So
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I was doing very well and it just didn't make any
17:33
sense that a prenup
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would protect us or protect her
17:38
from from what you know, But
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for you, I guess you know. What
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I learned in this whole divorce
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thing is if you are together
17:47
without a prenup or even a
17:49
wedding for ten years in California,
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it's like being married. So you don't even need
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to get married. You don't need a certificate, you don't even
17:56
need any of that. All your assets are
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subject to you know, to a
18:00
divorce.
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So oh, I don't know that you might as well be getting
18:04
married if you've been together for ten years, right,
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right.
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And I have a friend who got married in
18:09
Miami or in Florida, and
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he had a bunch of assets and everything, and I
18:14
was happy to be at the wedding and everything. He was super
18:17
happy, and I think he got divorced a year later, and
18:20
ever since then he continued to build companies,
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you know, make a lot of money.
18:25
And he had he had
18:27
a relationship with the girl, but he wasn't going
18:29
to marry her, and he made it clearly
18:32
and understanding with her that we're not going to ever
18:34
get married. So like, I get
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it. I get it. You know, once you get screwed like
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that, and you work your ass off so hard, right
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you know, you know, I mean I don't know what the laws
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are.
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And well, that's what I never understood
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is that if whether
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it's the husband or the wife, right, let's
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say it's the it's the wife in this case,
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right, Yeah, she wakes up one
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day three years later and she just tells you,
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I don't love you anymore and I'm out and
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maybe I found a new dude. Right,
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Yeah, she can take half your stuff
19:05
even though she's the one that's leaving exactly.
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And this is California. This is like, that's what's
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crazy thing.
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And I've always felt even if it's the other way, right, like, if
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I decide to leave, yeah, and it's
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I'm choosing to leave, then why,
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it's like a double whammy. It's like an
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insult to injury. You're going to leave
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you and I'm still taking half your shit.
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Yeah, So I mean it
19:26
happens. It happens a lot. I
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think you were saying sixty percent of marriages and then
19:31
divorce, and I truly believe that number is accurate,
19:33
especially in California. You know, there's
19:35
so much distraction and so much entitlement.
19:38
And I
19:40
don't know how these guys do it
19:42
that have a ton of money and
19:45
date these young women and marry them,
19:47
you know what I mean, Like, why are you getting married?
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Well, there must be some sort of really
19:52
ironclad bring
19:54
up that you know, if we get married, you're not
19:57
You might get X, Y and Z, but you're not going
19:59
to get at all, you know. And these guys
20:01
that are wealthy and you know, live that life and
20:04
don't care about life or money or anything
20:06
or love. They end up
20:08
getting divorced or and lose a little
20:10
bit of money. But I don't know how they continue
20:13
to do that. They get married over and over and over. I mean
20:15
there's been some celebrities that get married like
20:17
seven times. And you know, these movie
20:19
stars celebrities, they have a lot of money. So
20:22
how do they do They could afford,
20:24
like you said, they can afford to right, it's just got so much
20:26
money.
20:26
It's like, all, I get divorced three four times,
20:28
no matter.
20:29
Yeah, But to really
20:33
pinpoint the purpose behind marriage, you know,
20:36
I was always afraid
20:38
because it is a big deal.
20:40
It is a big commitment. It's almost like
20:42
the very first time I ever had a
20:45
not had to, but expressed to a
20:47
woman that I love you. You know, it's like, that's
20:49
that's so meaningful to me. I don't know if
20:51
I could just say it, you know, because
20:53
I don't know what love is. I was so young,
20:56
right, I don't know what impressed
20:59
me, impressed upon me, or who impressed
21:01
upon me to value
21:03
that so much that I just didn't want to give it
21:05
away. Right, I'm just not going to say I love you
21:07
just because maybe it's a family trait. I
21:09
don't know. I really valued
21:12
that. And then it came to, you know,
21:14
getting married as well. It's like I don't want to just
21:16
get married.
21:17
Yeah, By the way, what's your love language?
21:20
Words of affirmation and actions,
21:23
you know when when you know, not necessarily
21:25
gifts, but little things here and there.
21:28
I mean, Tara's really good about doing for me little
21:30
things here and there. When she makes me dinner, sometimes
21:33
she's doing it for me. She's not just making dinner
21:35
just to make dinner, you know what I mean. She asked me what I want.
21:38
She's real, she just really pays real attention
21:40
to what I like, what I don't like, and
21:42
she makes sure that you know it's going to be an enjoyable
21:44
dinner as opposed to oh yeah hungry,
21:46
Okay, well let's get door dash.
21:48
Jenny used to cook for me all the time before
21:51
we got married, and once we got married,
21:53
cooking was over. I
22:06
know that you said that. I
22:08
think it was on the show that you wanted a small
22:11
wedding, but then I think the
22:14
show found out that you were going to have a wedding,
22:16
so they offered to pay for it, and
22:18
then you made it, I think, a pretty
22:20
big wedding. So do you ever
22:22
think back of like what a small wedding
22:24
would look like for you?
22:27
I don't, and people
22:30
have asked me that many times, only because
22:34
I just I had such an amazing
22:36
experience with the wedding that was
22:39
produced and the way it all happened
22:42
when it was I think I told you when I was
22:44
presented to me, I was like, I don't want
22:46
to do this on TV. You know, based
22:48
on my experience with the Bravo Real
22:51
Housewife show, it's very toxic.
22:53
I don't want any drama, and
22:55
this is supposed to be a very special
22:57
thing for me.
22:58
Yeah, you got all the girls there, right, and.
23:00
Then all the girls there and all that. But it turned
23:02
out to be very well produced
23:05
and very little drama. Most of the drama
23:07
had to do with, you know, I want this
23:09
and she wants that, you know, and don't
23:13
spend too much money on the wedding, and okay,
23:15
let's not talk about the budget, you know. So it's
23:18
like, all right, those things really
23:20
are not important. I mean, I just didn't
23:22
want a
23:25
girl fighting at her wedding or throwing you
23:27
know, the table or some stupid like that just
23:29
to get ratings right, nor to
23:31
get attention. But
23:33
the way it all turned out, the
23:36
way it was all edited and produced and filmed,
23:38
and and the way the
23:42
wedding planner handled it all, she
23:44
really paid attention to what Tamra
23:46
was saying. She really understood
23:50
my desires on it. I mean, at
23:52
the time, for example, it was a little bit
23:54
of a pointer. At
23:56
the time, I was very much addicted to gummy
23:59
bears. Gummy bears were my vice and that's
24:01
what I love the most. And the wedding planner somehow
24:03
ended up getting gummy
24:06
bears all over the wedding hall and
24:08
these two or three i think five
24:11
pound gummy bears the size of a small
24:13
baby.
24:13
Right.
24:14
I'd never seen a gummy bear so big, and
24:17
so that was you know, I just one one
24:19
way to my heart and to impress
24:21
me, and another. You know, I was a
24:24
big road cyclist at the time. I
24:26
used to ride my bike everywhere, and
24:29
the wedding planner ended up finding
24:31
an old road bike and
24:34
hanging it from the rafters where we got
24:36
married and putting flowers and everything and painting
24:38
it so it matches. And I'm like,
24:40
wow, you know, you really thought
24:42
about all the things that bring you
24:44
know, happiness and value to me to
24:47
make this a real
24:50
wedding, a real experience, versus,
24:53
Oh, we're going to hire the most expensive chefs.
24:55
We're gonna hire the most expensive this. We're gonna
24:57
you know, have the Gucci this and you know
24:59
the pro of that, and
25:01
we're going to make it the most amazing wedding for TV.
25:04
You know that probably would
25:07
have been boring for me
25:09
and so fake and
25:11
empty that I probably would have wanted
25:14
a small wedding afterwards, you know, like
25:17
that's kind of what I was expecting. Also, like, hey,
25:19
let's just do a TV wedding for whatever
25:21
that is. Let's just get through it
25:23
and after that, and that was our plan. After
25:26
that, we'll have a small, little wedding, a real wedding
25:28
quote unquote, and call
25:30
it a day. But the wedding was so incredibly
25:33
put together, so real, so magical
25:35
that I don't regret anything
25:38
about it. And I'm you
25:40
know, the only way I would do
25:42
another small wedding is that maybe
25:44
we renew our valves.
25:47
But we've seen how that goes on on the show.
25:49
You know, people renew their vows and shit hits the
25:51
fan. Maybe we
25:53
should do it together and we
25:55
all we do it together. It's been thirteen
25:58
years. That would be awesome, like
26:00
a destination renew destination renewal.
26:02
Right, but that's pretty cool that you
26:05
got all these like special moments. Obviously
26:07
have your bathtub moment that you I'll always remember
26:09
on your whatever. I think it was the first date or
26:11
whatever. But what I mean, how magical
26:14
is that that you can go back and look at your wedding. I wish
26:16
I could go back and look at my Paris
26:19
wedding. I could look at pictures, but I
26:21
don't have like a video like you guys do. And
26:24
I mean that's that's the benefit of doing it through
26:26
the show, right they I mean when
26:28
I was on the show, that's what I liked
26:30
about it. I was like, Oh, I'm going to get all this footage with my kids,
26:33
and I'm going to be able to look back at that footage.
26:35
It's gonna be pretty cool.
26:36
So one of the one of the things I remember
26:39
having a decision on what the wedding was
26:43
because it was produced by a
26:45
production company. I'm
26:48
not going to have access to the footage. I'm not going to have access
26:50
to the photos, right, and if
26:53
I do, it's going to be whatever they want to give me. So
26:55
I ended up hiring a videographer
26:57
and a photographer. The photographer was a really close
27:00
friend of ours. She does weddings. She was
27:02
amazing, and she had connections
27:04
with a videographer who did a great job. So
27:07
the video that I watch
27:09
every year is the video that was produced for
27:12
us by this videographer, privately
27:14
videographer, and it
27:17
was so well done. I
27:19
think I watch it every year because
27:21
it brings lears to me. It
27:23
brings me back to that moment and
27:27
it's real.
27:28
Right.
27:28
I've watched our actual three part
27:31
series that Brable produced maybe
27:33
twice, and
27:36
it's not the same. It's not the same
27:38
as watching just this one clip
27:40
that I have on my phone that I can watch. It's like
27:42
an eight minute clip and I just watch
27:44
it every year and it just reminds me, and I think
27:47
subconsciously the reason
27:49
I watch it is because I
27:52
think one of the things I've experienced
27:54
in life is you kind
27:57
of take things you have for granted generally,
28:00
right, whether it's materialistic stuff
28:02
or relationships or even yourself,
28:05
your talents, your skills, and your abilities,
28:07
right, you kind of take them for granted. And
28:09
I know that if
28:12
it's out of sight, out of mind, they kind
28:14
of lose attention. And that's
28:17
happened with friendships, that's happened with
28:19
you know, even companies that I've had employees,
28:22
and all relationships in general. So
28:25
with this, I feel
28:27
like, if I don't bring
28:29
this to mine every year and remind
28:32
me how incredibly magical
28:34
that moment was, I might I might
28:36
lose it. I might lose that love,
28:39
I might lose I might start
28:41
taking it for granted, and I might lose that
28:43
magic I have with her. So maybe
28:45
that's talking to me subconsciously and
28:47
why I do it. But yeah, every
28:49
time I watch it, I do getteried,
28:52
and that was seriously. I was at
28:54
my visiting my grandmother just a
28:56
few days ago, and she's
28:59
kind of going, you know, she's going to be ninety nine years
29:01
old this year, so she's kind of having Alzheimer's
29:03
and in the conversations we have
29:05
are kind of like, oh, wait, did
29:07
you do you live in Mexico, Like,
29:10
well, no, I don't
29:12
live in Mexico. I'm about twenty five minutes away. So
29:15
I spent some time showing her some
29:17
videos of my new dog and you know, my
29:19
life. And then I came across the wedding video
29:22
and I'm like, oh, watch this, and
29:24
she was in the wedding. She was in the video,
29:26
and it just made
29:28
it that more magical to have
29:31
this content where
29:34
she was a big part of the wedding. She walked
29:36
down the aisle with me, she was
29:38
in the video. I watched her and
29:41
the impact was, you know, I
29:44
don't know when I'm going to lose her, but it's
29:46
not too long from now. So I
29:49
have her here, and I have my wife, and I have this
29:51
magic moment that's going to live with me for the rest
29:53
of my life. So there's so many
29:56
impactful reasons why I watched
29:58
that video, and I think that's why I get taridite,
30:00
because every time I watch it, I get taite.
30:03
Have you ever forgot your anniversary?
30:07
No, it's it's it's
30:09
kind of hard because you know, I have this
30:11
video reminds me it's on my calendar, and
30:14
I don't want to be that guy that forgets
30:16
it.
30:18
It's it's again very important
30:21
to me for the longevity of
30:23
our wedding, you know, of our marriage, of our
30:25
of our life together. This is this was
30:27
a big important part
30:30
in our life and I never want to forget it.
30:40
What about gifts? Does do gifts get you
30:42
nervous?
30:42
Like?
30:43
What do I get it this year? Like you
30:45
got to keep continuing to level
30:47
up? Or what it was?
30:49
It's like yes and
30:51
no, yes, because of
30:54
the social pressures. You know, it's
30:57
up there with this whole you gotta spend
30:59
thirty percent of your anial salary onto
31:01
a wedding. Shit, that was you know.
31:03
What I know now is that it was a marketing
31:06
scheme that was designed by the jewelry
31:08
company, the jewelry industry that convinced
31:11
guys to do that.
31:13
I'm glad I didn't fall for it. Because the times
31:15
I've given Teddy some really nice anniversary
31:18
presents, I'm like, all right, that's your anniversary,
31:21
that's your birthday, and
31:23
that's Christmas and that's
31:25
Valentine's everything. Ask
31:28
me for another present. I
31:30
go in there with my negotiation skills. Yeah.
31:33
The other thing is my
31:35
wife.
31:36
And this is one of the other reasons I love her
31:38
so much is that she is not high maintenance. She
31:41
personally won't spend stupid
31:43
money on herself. Like I'm the one that buys
31:46
her the two thousand dollars pair of shoes.
31:48
She won't do it, you know. And even
31:51
though she probably won't do
31:53
it, I went
31:55
out and bought her the six thousand dollars
31:58
stupid gold bracelet that go on her wrist
32:00
that locks down on Cardier. That's what it is,
32:02
Cardia. You know, she has these
32:04
things that she likes and
32:07
it's not it's not she doesn't
32:09
have an expensive habit of spending,
32:12
right, So even if I got her, I
32:14
mean, one year, I took a picture of
32:16
our wedding and had it not
32:19
laminated but printed on
32:21
this aluminum piece and hung
32:23
in our bedroom to remind her, Hey,
32:25
this is who we were, this is what happened that day,
32:28
and that was her anniversary present. You know. I
32:30
think it cost me like one hundred and fifty bucks
32:32
and that was it, you know, and she was super happy.
32:34
It's very sentimental because I put some thought into
32:37
it. And those are the
32:39
kind of gifts I like, by the way, Yeah, yeah,
32:41
because we get to see it.
32:42
Yeah, you could buy like for me,
32:45
like I could buy my own present if I want it, right,
32:47
But like those things I would never do for myself,
32:50
right, but they mean so much to me, right
32:52
if you took the time to like get
32:54
all these pictures together and maybe
32:57
took me down memory road, because it's something
32:59
that I normally want to do for myself.
33:00
So I like the kind of gifts that
33:03
I normally wouldn't do for myself,
33:06
right, Versus like clothes, I go
33:08
buy clothes if I want some, and I'm
33:11
very picky with clothes, so I want to buy my own clothes,
33:13
not yet what you bring me, and I'm like, oh damn,
33:15
I'm never going to wear this thing.
33:16
Right, So is that
33:18
kind of how your relationship is now where
33:21
you guys really don't buy each other presence.
33:23
It's just like I just had a birthday, right, yeah,
33:26
and you're gonna have a birthday soon.
33:27
So next week. Yeah,
33:30
but.
33:31
You know, I didn't want to do anything. I didn't want to go
33:33
anywhere. We ended up going to Big Beer, having a nice
33:36
just get away. I had a nice Italian
33:39
dinner. I even had dessert and
33:41
tried to, you know, kind of celebrate it. And
33:44
I think somebody asked, what did
33:46
you get for your birthday? I'm like, well, I don't
33:48
know what I want. You know, I kind of want a new Harley.
33:51
I don't know that I want to spend the money on a new Harley
33:53
because I already have a nice Harley. So it's
33:56
like I don't really want to buy myself
33:58
something expensive. I don't really know, So I
34:00
ended up getting nothing. Yeah,
34:03
you know, it's okay, though, It's okay, like
34:05
you I could just go get anything pretty much anything
34:07
I want, but yep, it's
34:10
just Stu.
34:12
Yeah no, And I think, uh, I think when
34:14
its like with me, I hate
34:17
the reason I hate Valentines and
34:19
I'm probably the worst at Valentine's. I
34:21
wish I could be a little more romantic during
34:23
Valentine's but I hate
34:25
someone telling me that I have to buy a
34:27
present or that I have to be romantic,
34:30
which is what Valentine's is. Like, I
34:32
want to buy a present because I feel
34:34
like it, not because it's Valentine's and
34:36
I'm pressured by
34:39
you know, someone who decided to make
34:41
that a commercial day so you can go spend a bunch of
34:43
money. I am so right there
34:45
me For me, it's hard to do it,
34:47
like I just like. But
34:50
but then randomly I'll come home and
34:52
I'll just get her a kick ass gift, you
34:55
know. Yeah, those are the gifts
34:57
I like because I'm like I wanted to. I
34:59
didn't have the pressure of it's
35:01
Valentines and it's this day,
35:03
so I got to get you a present, right, Anniversary
35:07
a little different, you got to sort of do something.
35:09
But my favorite, my favorite one now is now
35:11
I just tell Teddy, hey, I'm gonna take a shop
35:14
and let's go let her choose something,
35:16
and yeah, you can choose it for sometimes
35:18
and I just I like
35:21
seeing the joy that she gets
35:23
to pick out what she wants versus before
35:26
she was like you pick it out, And I
35:28
picked stuff out and I think she liked
35:30
it. But I actually like when I take
35:32
her and she could actually pick exactly what
35:34
she wants, what'd you do for
35:37
your tenth year anniversary?
35:40
That's an interesting question. I was just thinking about that
35:42
the other day. I don't really I
35:45
have a bad time memorizing the
35:47
years. I
35:49
know. I bought her an expensive freaking ring
35:51
that was one of those that's a two
35:53
year present for you, Teddy,
35:57
it's not an anniversary. That's a two
35:59
year present for you. Lasted
36:01
about six months. That's funny,
36:05
but it's funny. Now I have to, like, seriously, I
36:08
have to. It's almost like got to keep
36:10
count, because the other day she was like, you
36:12
didn't buy me anything for Valentine's
36:15
And then she said something like, oh, last Mother's
36:18
Day. Because Mother's Day's coming out. She
36:20
had me thinking that I didn't buy anything.
36:22
I'm like, did I not buy something for Mother's Day?
36:25
And then sure enough I go home and I saw
36:28
I remembered the shoes and
36:30
the glasses that I bought her, and
36:32
we were in Vegas. Now granted
36:35
I bought it early, so I bought
36:37
it. I think we were in Vegas April twenty eighth of
36:39
last year, and I specifically
36:42
said, all right, this is your Mother's Day
36:44
gift. I'm buying it early. And
36:48
then, of course for Mother's Day, I took her
36:50
to dinner or lunch or wherever we went, and
36:53
she's like, you didn't get me anything for Mother's Day. And
36:55
I remember. I'm like, man, damn, I don't get anything on Mother's
36:57
Day. And then luckily I remembered because
36:59
we were with another couple and they're like, yeah, I remember
37:02
you were. Because we're going back and forth. Did
37:04
I get her a present? Did I not? I'm like, dude, I
37:06
know I got you a present. And
37:08
then finally the other couple's like, yeah, we were in Vegas.
37:11
Remember you bought her this, this, this, And I'm like,
37:13
yes, it was just April twenty eighth. And
37:16
I get so excited that I
37:18
want to give the gift right away. Yeah
37:21
right, versus let's wait another ten days from
37:23
other's day, right. Yeah. So anyway,
37:25
that's the next one I got coming. I gotta figure
37:27
out what I'm getting from Mother's Day.
37:31
So much pressure. I know, in a
37:33
perfect world, don't get me anything.
37:36
I will get you anything. We'll call it a day. Yeah,
37:38
one least thing we got to worry about.
37:40
Yeah, but I.
37:42
It doesn't work that way.
37:42
Here's another reason why we're so much alike, because
37:45
when you were talking about you know, you can
37:47
buyer anything anytime. I
37:49
just learned that concept.
37:52
I was shopping for I
37:54
think Christmas or something like that, and
37:57
I found a gift. I
37:59
was shopping and I saw this really cute jacket
38:01
that I thought all my wife would love it, and
38:04
I bought the jacket. I saved
38:06
it in the garage and a bag, you
38:08
know, and I said, I'm going to give it to her for Valentine's
38:11
Day, And the whole time I wanted to give it
38:13
to her, like I just, I just I don't need to.
38:15
Valentine's get so excited.
38:16
Yeah, you gets so excited because I really think she'd
38:19
look cute on it. And I
38:21
felt really proud that I did
38:23
this because I saw something that reminded
38:25
me of her that would look super cute on her. And
38:29
sure enough, you know, I was dying and Valentine's
38:33
came and I gave her the gift and I was super
38:35
excited, like, Okay, I think I could do it this
38:37
way because when it comes to thinking,
38:41
okay, Mother's Days next week and back,
38:44
when am I going to get I haven't thought about it, and
38:46
you know, I got to go rush out and get something
38:48
and as stressful, and then you
38:51
might get something that's stupid and she'll
38:53
be mad.
38:53
At you if you exactly.
38:56
I don't want her to be mad at me exactly.
38:59
Hey have you looked at some of the reviews
39:02
that we've had on our podcast? I
39:04
have not. I need to do a better job of that. I'll
39:07
read a couple and then we'll move on because I.
39:09
Hope they're good. Or should we just
39:11
read the bad ones? There are no bad
39:13
ones. There's no bad ones bad ones.
39:16
Thank you guys for now leaving negative ones.
39:18
And you know what we want the truth. You know, the
39:20
truth won't kill us. So
39:24
this first review is from C Sanders excellent
39:27
podcast, The Eds. We're
39:29
both well spoken, wonderful introduction, looking
39:32
forward to listening all the time. The ladies, Tamer
39:34
and Teddy should be very proud of their
39:36
husbands. The boys did a phenomenal job.
39:39
Pretty cool, right, Yeah, that's pretty cool. Here's
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another one bad for some first timers.
39:44
You two truly are better halves lol.
39:48
I know. Really enjoyed
39:50
the podcast, appreciated the honesty and humbleness.
39:53
Edwin's story is worth sharing everywhere, being
39:55
an example that no matter where you come from
39:58
or what you've gone through are not defined.
40:01
You are not defined by those circumstances.
40:03
Totally on your side.
40:05
Super cool. I love that.
40:06
Yeah, I'm going to read one more just just a call
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today and we'll end with this
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great swing at the first pitch.
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Great first show.
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I really enjoyed listening to both of your stories
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from your early childhoods. You came across
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very interesting and comfortable, which gave you,
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which gave your first podcast a real sense
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of ease. Bravo, no
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pun intended. I look forward
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to learning more about you both, and you
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are taking a life your
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take on life and all it has
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to offer. Congrats on an excellent show.
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So very cool.
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I don't know how you feel about that, but I feel pretty
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good. You know, I didn't know what's good start. Yeah,
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I got better, I think, yeah, we
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could only get better from here. And another
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thing, you know, you guys that are listening
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to us, tell us what you want to once to
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talk about. You know what you want to hear from us, and if
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there's anything you know, nothing's off the table.
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Were willing to talk about anything except
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politics and religion? Yes, awesome,
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great talking to you, bud I
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hope.
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Uh.
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Likewise, yeah, I hope you're doing well and
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we'll talk soon.
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