At least one in five pregnancies result in miscarriage. But even though pregnancy loss is so common, beyond turning to google, there are not many places in which one can openly discuss their experiences. When I first launched the gender agenda my main priority was to provide a forum in which we could talk about gendered issues that are not usually openly discussed Fertility and miscarriage are one of the defining experiences for women and men as they move towards parenting. Yet it’s so invisble. In many ethnic communities, the imperative to reproduce and build a family can be even greater than the broader community. This adds but another layer of pressure in the pregnancy stakes. But still, the experience of pregnancy loss can be even more lonely in these communities. Our guest lost two pregnancies, and though she has gone on to have four healthy children, her experiences of miscarriage have been formative. She admits that she rarely speaks about her miscarriage. But she hopes that opening up about her pregnancy loss, can serve to raise awareness about the issue, and perhaps provide some useful insights for those who have faced similar experiences, or for those who wish to support others facing pregnancy loss.