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Welcome to the Gentleman Project

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Podcast . I'm

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Corey Moore .

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And I'm Kirk Chug . Today , to

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my right , we are joined with

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Ashton Buswell . He is

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one of the guys I grew up with

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. He moved into my

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high school when I was a junior

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and he was a sophomore with

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his brother and we were just like

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stars in our eyes because these two

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guys from the midwest super

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rock , solid athlete , performer

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, wrestler , football players were going to come

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and make our team , uh

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, state champions yeah , is

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that ? What happened ?

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he won the state championship

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when he was a senior .

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Good work I can say without

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a shadow of a doubt without

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ashton buzzwell on that high school football

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team , they would not have won the .

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I have to ask whether , even if you cut

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this out , I don't know if you want people to know your

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ages , but what year was that that you won

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the championship ?

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1999 , 99

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, so class of 2000 , but it was in the fall .

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I had some friends in 98 I think , but not

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99 that I remember okay , yeah

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, I was just a year in front of him and

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buzzwell has gone on to do

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a lot of really cool things in his life , but

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one of the things I know he's most

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proud of is the family that he's raising

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and the relationship

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and marriage that he has with his wife , lydia

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For sure . And he's

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in town from San Diego

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today . We connected about

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the podcast . The book just came

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out and I

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think he was one of my first supporters

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that went on and bought a book , nice . And

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then we connected . He says , hey , why don't we do a podcast

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while I'm in Salt Lake ? So here we

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are .

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And I said , you have famous people on

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here all the time . Now you're even more famous .

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Whatever man .

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I just want to be famous to my kids .

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Well , and you told me that you told me that

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that was one of your things . So

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tell us a little bit about you and Lydia

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, your family . Give

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us a little bit of context , what you do for a living . He's if you're in the sales industry

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, which is a huge industry . But if

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you're in the sales industry , you know

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Ashton Boswell . He is like

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a lightning bolt on stage

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. He does the Haka

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, uh , to get people motivated

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. Like this guy is full energy all

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the time .

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So when Kurt's telling me , you're basically like

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a sales legend at this point . That's what he

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told me today , so you got to

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tell me all about it .

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I think that's better than sales influencer

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, because I don't know , that's icky

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but uh but he is

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, uh . He's very well

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respected within the industry and

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has changed a lot of people's lives because of it

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, and I've always respected

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Ashton , and so

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I'm looking forward to learning from you today .

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Yeah , yeah , man , I'm blushing

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. Right now you guys can't see this . I'm blushing , but I

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I'm grateful to . That was a nice

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intro , Kurt , Thanks man , no thanks , I used to beat me

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up on the football field .

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It was mutual . It was mutual . We beat

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each other up , smash each other , that's right .

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I a little bit about me and my family , um

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, married to beautiful Lydia Buzzwell

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. Lydia Polikoff Buzzwell . She goes

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and now drop Polikoff , but , um

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, we have four daughters . So I know

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this is a gentleman podcast . I'm the only gentleman

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at the house right now and I'm not growing

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any gentlemen , I'm growing ladies . But

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I'm happy to talk through a little

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bit of the gentleman side and the lady side

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.

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Well absolutely , they go hand in hand , they go hand in hand

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. You got to raise those ladies to

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want a true gentleman . Yeah , yeah .

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Yeah , and , and , and I'm trying

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to show them what it ? Is to

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be a good man , and

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uh , so the ages that the girls

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for um 14 , 11

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, six and three , and

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uh , our three year old , three year old , just did some poopoos

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on the potty .

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So that's a big . I remember

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that now , but that is a big deal Actually . Everybody

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on the podcast is cheering for you .

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right now , everybody should be like , yes , and

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she's gonna love this one , you know so

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that's huge yeah , someday she'll listen in 15

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years she'll be like .

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I remember when dad said that on the podcast , you

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said what about what ?

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yeah , so now that they're my , they're my

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pride and joy , they , they , uh , I

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love , I love being a dad and uh , and

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being a husband and all

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of that entails . But I'm I'm the

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worker on the work side , I'm a speaker , I , I

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, I speak and present , mostly

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on sales . I'm real passionate about

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, uh , having a balanced life that I'm

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. I'm in the process of writing a book . I don't have a book

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out yet , but I'm in the process of writing a book . I

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maybe have chat GBT plug it in

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or I won't do that , but I'll have . I've

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got the framework of it and I've had it for like

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two years , but I just need to , like , sit down and take

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the time to do it . It's not , there's no

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such thing as a balanced life . That's the misnomer

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. It's about having harmony , and

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so the whole book is about having harmony in the home

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and harmony in your life not necessarily a balanced

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life and how you can be all in where

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you are , when you're there and get

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really , really effective use of your

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time and day and all that stuff .

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We love that both , cory and I are nodding our heads because

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we have talked so much about

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this . Yeah , it's important .

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It's so important yeah so , and then

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I and I um do a lot of sales training

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, so I'm I'm working on a course for brand

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new sales reps . If anybody

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wanted to look at instagram , that's probably the best place

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. Where I have most of my stuff at Ashton Boswell

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Uh , that's where a lot of my

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sales tips and things will go and just

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get some good free value there . But

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I also post on there a lot of about

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my family because I'm super passionate about

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that stuff and I want people to see you can be successful

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in business and at home and

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at and physical fitness and all of

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it . Right , you don't have to be a one-trick pony

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. You can do a lot , and

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so I'm trying to be that example for as many

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people as I can .

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You can't see Ashton's biceps from

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here , but he is probably

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in the best shape of his life , would you say .

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I've got the most muscle that I've ever had in my life . I wrestled in college and

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I was in the best shape of my life my freshman year

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of college . As far as like actual

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physical fitness . I was in incredible

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shape and I'm not quite there , but I had more

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muscle than I did then .

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So did you win a state championship in high school

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as well ?

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I won state twice , twice Yep . And then

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I won junior college nationals before

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I served admission for my church and then went

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back and wrestled at University of North Carolina oh

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wow , and I'm actually in wrestling again

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. So I got into old guy wrestling . Yeah , this

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is what I want to talk about .

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Yeah .

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One of my friends posted about it on social media

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that they were doing a master's wrestling event

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and I was like I've had some good goals the last

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couple of years , like around my physical fitness , and

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I thought what can I do to

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continue to do that ? I had a goal to do 50 pull-ups

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in a row and tendonitis

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kind of messed that up . I almost got there . I got to

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40 and then I pivoted my goal and and

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one of the years I decided to wrestle at the U S open

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and it was a neat

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experience , 40 years old , wrestling

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out there . Normally your kids don't get to see

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you wrestle . There's no like pickup wrestling . There's

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pickup basketball . If you're good at basketball you can show your kids

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hey , look , I was good at this when I was a kid , but there's

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nothing like that for wrestling , you know . And

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so it was a really neat experience to be out there two

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years ago and uh and

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wrestle . And I came real present . I wrestled

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11 matches in like 23

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, 22 hours . My brother Tyler

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that's your age was there down there with me

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. He's like , dude , if you're gonna do this , I want to come coach you . And

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he said you've done some incredible physically fit

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things in your life , but that , as a 40 year

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old , is maybe one of the most incredible

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things I've ever seen which I felt that way

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too , cause I was not in as good a shape as I needed

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to be . But anyway , two , two different times

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on the mat . I remember sitting standing

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out there and the reps had to talk about something , and

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just becoming really present to

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my little kids in the stands cheering

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for dad . It was so cool

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.

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That's awesome .

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And I was and I like got teary-eyed . I'm supposed to be

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beating people up , you know , like

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my opponent , but I like legit got teary-eyed

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at two different occasions . Like this is special

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because they don't . They don't

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get to see , they don't get to cheer me on . They're

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cheering for me . When I come home and I say I got a sale

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today , all the girls are like yay , you know , they're excited

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, but like to see

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me get in the arena and

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have a reason to cheer for dad was

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a super cool experience . And the same thing for my wife

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, right , she's a concert pianist . She can just jam

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at anything on the piano and

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we have a piano at our house . She's

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like I can , I can show you what I was good at anytime

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, but you can't really show us that with your wrestling . But I was , and so

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anyway , this year I I tore my labrum in that . That met that two

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years ago , and so I've been recovering

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and tried to bulk up a little bit and I'm

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going to do it again at the end of this month . And

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then I've I've decided I'm going to wrestle at the world championships

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. You might as well . If you're going to go big , you might as

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well go represent the United States of America Right .

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Yeah , that's amazing . Good for you

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so that's super cool . That's

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on my roadmap this year , so talk

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to us a little bit more about the harmony thing , cause

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obviously you you're have either

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figured this out or you're figuring

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it out and you're talking about writing

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in your book about it . So dive

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deeper . What does that mean to you , and how

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have you learned the harmony

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thing ?

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Yeah , and I wish I could say I came up with that

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idea first . I didn't , and nobody . People

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talk about it too , but I'm not the only one that's like , yeah

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, this is a novel idea . But the

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um , I I've , I've learned

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it and I , you know anything that you're

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good at . Anybody that's an expert in anything is

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really not all the way perfect

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at it . But they're just

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a little bit further ahead . Right , and I'm

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not perfect at harmony and I'm not even probably

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that much further . You guys may have more harmony at home

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than I do . I don't know . It's hard to judge

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that thing , right , but

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as you , as you think about it and you focus on it and you try to make it a part of you and what

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you're , what you're going for , then then things start to dial in a little bit more Right

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, and it kind of first started happening when I um

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, when Lydia and I , we

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moved into a new house three years ago and now we can exercise

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at the same time because there's enough space and our

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kids are old enough that we've got an old enough kid that we

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could both leave and go for a run or go to the gym

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, and it would be okay , you know , but when

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we had younger kids and we didn't have that

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, there was one time slot

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when the coveted

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time slot in the morning to go exercise and

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I gave it to my wife and

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at the time I thought

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it was the biggest sacrifice . I

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need to run too , I need to exercise too , I need to do

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these things , but it was on as a mom . You're

10:26

on 24 seven right ? My

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daughter came in and snuggled with my wife

10:31

last night and sometimes I get the snuggles

10:33

, but she got it last night right . But at four

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o'clock in the morning she's trying to just sleep

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, you know , but she has to be mom . And

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so what I realized

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was that if I gave her that

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prime time spot , there

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was a lot more harmony in my home . There

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was a lot more opportunity for her

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to get her

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mind off of everything not

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be responsible for kids , not be responsible

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for cooking meals , cleaning anything

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, shipping people around . She

11:06

could just go for a run or lift some weights or whatever it was . And when she

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, when I gave my wife that opportunity to

11:10

have her balance time and her alone

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time , it really recharged

11:15

her and then it let me do tons of stuff . I was at

11:17

that time , I was really trying to get the rocket ship

11:19

off the ground for my solar sales career

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and and I was spending

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extra time doing that

11:25

sometimes . Sometimes I'd wake up and go to a business

11:28

network meeting in the morning at six

11:30

or seven in the morning , seven o'clock in the morning and leave the

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house at six in the morning and I

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wouldn't get home till nine o'clock at night . So I'm not

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even seeing the kids all day and she

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has to be there . But as long as I , you

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know those days she wouldn't be able to go run , I

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would take that morning spot . But as long as I , you know those days she wouldn't be able

11:45

to go run , I would take that morning spot , but as long as I would give her those other times there

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was a lot more harmony in my house and I was like , wow , how

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else can I make sure that there's harmony

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here ? And

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a few things that have been really , really helpful for me

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with my relationship with my wife and my relationship

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with my kids is having scheduled

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date nights Again not a novel idea , but

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something

12:05

we do . I got asked to be a bishop

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at church for a little while and

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right after that happened , I was a young bishop and

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we came out into the parking lot after

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we were asked and I'm like , did that really just happen ? And

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we had gone on dates , kind

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of . But we

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made a decision in that car we

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have to go on a date every single week . I'm already

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really , really busy . I'm a national sales

12:29

director . I'm running the San Diego area . I'm

12:32

the top sales guy in our company . Um

12:34

, you know I got all these things already , but

12:37

you're the most important earthly relationship that I

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have . So we have to do this and we

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, for five years we missed maybe one

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or two times .

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That's fantastic .

12:45

And she could count on it and it was

12:48

the most important account event in my calendar and

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it wasn't . I used to kind of be a little frugal

12:52

, cheap , whatever you want to call it on

12:54

the dates and just kind of try to

12:57

do fun stuff or cheaper things . And then I was like no , this

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is an investment man , this is like the most important

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investment , the most important calendar time

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, so that that became an absolute

13:05

, non-negotiable . And then a

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mentor of mine said as often as you date

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your wife , you should date your kids . And I was like I

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go on a date with her every week . And he's like you should go on a date with

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each of your kids every week . And I was like I can't do

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that , dude , that's , that's too much . But

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I can go on a date with one of my

13:20

kids every week . So

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every week I have a daddy-daughter date and

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my girls , they just

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can't wait for that and they know they're going to have

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that time and again . At the start I was trying

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to teach them good lessons , like all right , you've got $7

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, and you can use it all today

13:36

, you can save some and we'll

13:38

do a bigger activity next month . Or

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I was trying to teach some budgeting and then finally I was like no

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man , whatever you want to do , let's

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go . I don't care , you choose

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, I'll choose who's going to choose ? Sometimes

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they choose , sometimes I choose , but

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that monthly connection

13:54

at least monthly connection has really

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helped me with having harmony with my

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kids . Another thing that's been really

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helpful is to have meaningful connections

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. So a goal that I have every day

14:05

before 10 o'clock is to have a meaningful connection

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with my God , with my physical body

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, with my mental body so

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affirmations or reading or listening to things right With my wife

14:17

and each one of my kids and my

14:19

three-year-old is now old enough that I can

14:21

communicate and talk with her , but when she was six months old

14:24

it was legit getting in her face

14:26

and locking eyes and

14:28

just being with her and

14:30

her being with me , right

14:38

, and and if I can do that before 10 , all those things before 10 AM , I've absolutely

14:40

won the day and the rest of my day . Whether I get lots of sales or don't

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get a lot of sales or have good conversations or

14:44

don't , it honestly doesn't really matter , because the most

14:46

important things I've already accomplished . But

14:50

meaningful connections too , not just a connection

14:52

. Too often with spouses and kids

14:54

it's like how's your day ? How was soccer practice ? Good , not

14:57

like how are you feeling and is anything

14:59

going wrong at school ? What's your favorite part

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of school ? What are the things that

15:04

you're missing ? Are your friends Right

15:06

? Like a meaningful interaction with somebody

15:09

, with my kids . So my most sacred hour

15:11

every day is between 6.45 and 7.45

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in the morning . I wake my kids up , I

15:16

get them breakfast

15:18

, get them ready for school , walk them to the

15:20

bus stop . I used to walk them to school and we lived

15:22

closer to the school . But that

15:25

hour in the morning , a monthly

15:27

date night with my kids and a

15:29

weekly date night with my wife and

15:31

the meaningful connections all along the way

15:33

are again , if

15:35

you calculate the amount of time that is , that's actually not

15:37

a lot of time compared to the rest of my life

15:39

, right , but if

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I can hand , if I can do those things , and then

15:44

I'm in a lot better situation . So

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I feel like I'm rambling .

15:48

No , that was all on point man

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, that was all on point and stuff

15:53

. We were going to ask you anyway . So that's

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awesome , what an amazing

15:57

, what an amazing time . And everybody

16:00

that's listening to you know I

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find myself saying , well , you know , my Everybody

16:04

that's listening to you know I find myself saying , oh , you know , my situation is

16:06

different now , or my kids aren't that age

16:09

, and it's not

16:11

so much about doing exactly what Ashton

16:13

just said . Right , it's about

16:15

the purposeful nature in which

16:17

you approach it and in

16:19

your situation , what does that look like ? Yeah , yeah

16:21

, and what hours of those days For me , my connection comes with look like yeah , yeah , and what hours

16:24

of those days . For me , my connection

16:26

comes with my kids at night when

16:28

we pray and read

16:30

scripture , right , and that's

16:33

usually when they open up . They're

16:35

tired , but mornings

16:38

mornings are different at my house than they are

16:40

at your house , and that's fine , um

16:43

, but it's . It's finding that and , dude

16:45

, when we started

16:48

doing weekly

16:50

date nights , it's not only

16:52

good for for us , because

16:54

this is something that Karen and I decided

16:56

we were going to do it's Thursday nights for us . When

17:00

somebody says , hey , we should get together and do something

17:03

, I say Thursday's , thursday's , my open night

17:05

. If you want to get together and do something , I say Thursdays , thursday's

17:07

, my open night . If you want to get together and do something with me and Karen

17:09

, we're open Thursdays , and

17:11

usually those

17:14

nights they look like every

17:16

other night , except my

17:18

kids . Now , instead of saying are

17:21

you going on a date night with mom , they say

17:23

where are you going on a date night with mom ? Yeah , say where are you

17:25

going on a date night with mom ? Totally , and they expect it

17:27

, and I hope that that's something that

17:29

in the future they say you

17:32

know what my parents

17:34

always did this . They valued their relationship

17:36

so much that

17:38

they took time away and

17:41

they did it every week and they did it consistently

17:43

. It's the example that you're setting for

17:45

your daughters . Sure , say

17:47

, your husbands need to be invested

17:49

in you . They need to do this .

17:50

Yeah , you've heard it . But

17:52

the most important thing is One

17:55

of the most important things that I can do for my daughters

17:57

is love their mom and date their

17:59

mom , like that's showing

18:01

them love and compassion . And my

18:03

kids get all . They close their eyes

18:05

when we get all gooey , and you know what I mean

18:07

, and I'm like , oh , don't kiss in front of

18:10

us , right , all that stuff that's so important . And

18:12

the date night is like it's that right

18:14

, like my parents , this is what

18:16

they did . So I expect my marriage

18:18

to also be that way . And if we're

18:20

not doing this , and why aren't we doing this and why did my parents

18:22

do it ? And and yeah

18:25

, I agree a hundred percent , that's that's

18:27

so , so important .

18:28

So you seem like you're a pretty disciplined guy You'd have

18:30

to be to do some of the things that you've told

18:32

us you've done . And I , from what ? I wasn't

18:34

a wrestler but but one

18:36

of my brother-in-law was and

18:39

he's like it's the hardest sport , corey , I'm telling you

18:41

it's the hardest , it's the most dedication

18:44

and I'm like I get it . I , I see

18:46

that . So so with wrestling

18:48

with you know the date nights

18:51

, things you told me I'm seeing discipline .

18:53

Yeah .

18:53

There's sometimes when I get off track

18:55

, like I've tried to do date nights with my kids

18:57

and then relax , and then I'll be like , no , you got to

19:00

get back in it . So do you have something in

19:02

your life where you read refocus

19:04

once a year or once a quarter

19:06

, or just to make sure , am I doing

19:08

what I said I was going to do , or do I need to realign

19:11

my priorities , because there's times and

19:13

seasons for everything ? Right , if

19:24

you're going to find harmony .

19:24

So what's your way ? I'm just kind of curious on , like , how do you keep yourself focused , disciplined

19:27

or aligned with your goals , that kind of thing ? Yeah , we do a couple of things . So my wife and I try to do a some sort of staycation or trip

19:29

, just her and I , every quarter , and

19:32

we do one big trip a year , um

19:35

, and we also want to take our kid . We take , we

19:37

do little staycations with our kids

19:39

and we'll just take them away , not very

19:41

far usually , and that

19:43

has been so . We just came back from one of those . We

19:45

went up to Yosemite , got an Airbnb . It

19:48

was far enough away . There was no activities for kids

19:50

to do . We're just hanging , right , we're just together

19:52

. But that gives us an opportunity to

19:54

like , talk about meaningful things

19:56

if we choose , about

19:59

meaningful things if we choose and sometimes we don't , sometimes it's

20:02

just we're , we're here together , we're just being together , right , um , but I want I try to

20:04

have at least one , one of those a year be around

20:06

, let's talk about where

20:08

things are at as a family , you know , in a

20:10

bigger way than just , like you know

20:12

, on sunday nights or whatever , when

20:15

we're at home , um , Um . So

20:18

I , I do that and something that's been really effective

20:20

for me the last couple

20:22

of years is around my . My whole

20:24

life is to write a letter to myself

20:27

instead of writing out

20:29

goals and in sales

20:31

, the last couple of years I've been what I've been trying

20:33

to do , uh and and

20:35

maybe it's just maybe , maybe it's not sales , maybe

20:38

it's just my trying to win at life

20:40

. If you , if we call , if you called me on

20:42

the phone , I would say how

20:44

are you doing ? I'd be like , good man , I'm winning , are you winning ? Like

20:46

that's how I answer the phone and trying to win at life

20:48

. I start to formulate

20:51

my ideas for what I'm going to do the next year around

20:53

the end of November , because a lot of

20:55

people take December really slow and

20:58

if I can start my year almost

21:00

in December , I got a headstart

21:02

on everybody right . So around

21:04

that time I'm kind of formulating what I'm going to do the

21:06

next year and then I write a letter to myself from

21:09

my future self , and

21:11

it's been a really impactful exercise . So

21:13

I write a letter to myself from myself

21:15

on the , as

21:18

if I'm writing from December 31st

21:20

2020 , this year , december

21:22

31st 2024 . And on

21:24

the plane right here this morning , I read my

21:26

letter that I wrote to myself and

21:28

in that letter I'm real descriptive on

21:30

the things that I want to have happen . And it's

21:32

not just like went on a trip to Croatia

21:35

, you know what , you know

21:37

wrestled at this , this , and that . Whatever it's like

21:39

descriptive . I'm doing this because of this

21:41

and and this is how it feels , and

21:43

I'm trying to pull in emotion and I'm trying

21:45

to be real descriptive on why

21:47

I'm doing those things .

21:48

It's like a movie of . This is

21:50

how it felt . This is what it looked like .

21:52

This is what I accomplished and

21:54

it honestly helps my discipline because

21:57

and I and I try to

21:59

, you

22:02

know , I , I , I try to create an atmosphere where it's going to be a really good

22:05

time for me to write that letter . If I'm getting

22:07

distracted , if I'm getting , you know

22:09

, I , so I need to have some alone time and

22:11

I need to kind of prep for it . Um

22:13

, but , like the last couple of times that I've

22:15

done it , it's , it's felt spiritual , like

22:20

this was like I was writing a blessing for my life , but

22:22

it's only as good as I me reading

22:24

it more and more Right and I

22:27

revisited some things and and I okay

22:29

, I'm off track here , right Of

22:31

of where I want to be , and where I want

22:33

to be is where that letter says and that letter isn't like

22:35

be a 10 billionaire , you

22:44

know like it's like actual things that I can actually do . That may be a stretch , and last

22:46

year's one , I accomplished every single thing but one , and then , and most of it was a stretch

22:49

, like last year was an awesome year for me in

22:51

that regard , and I read the

22:53

letter like almost every day for the first month and

22:56

then a couple of times throughout each

22:58

month , month , the following months and it

23:00

was cool to just kind of see how things were were

23:02

coming into play . So , um

23:05

, that's been an effective tool .

23:06

The last that's a really good one . I haven't

23:08

, I haven't heard it put quite like

23:10

that before . I like that idea a lot .

23:12

Instead , I like it better than new year's

23:15

resolutions or goals , not that you can't have goals , but it's

23:17

the same thing as a goal , but it's like written

23:19

out yeah , and

23:21

this has already been done , yeah it's

23:23

really cool .

23:24

What a cool skill that would be to

23:26

teach your kids . Are you

23:28

teaching that to your daughters ?

23:30

Yeah , I've talked to them about it . They

23:32

haven't really and it's on me right as the parent we

23:35

haven't really exercised . I've talked to him about it

23:37

, I've shown him my letter and some of it's

23:39

like even maybe too personal for me to share

23:41

, you know , with them , yeah

23:43

, and , but I've

23:46

shared . I'm sure they're part of the letter .

23:47

They're in the letter . Yeah , for sure yeah .

23:49

They're in the letter . So can

23:52

I share something ? I thought about sharing this . Yeah

24:00

, absolutely A little tangent from what we were talking about , but I was like , what can I share

24:02

that would be valuable on this podcast for people ? And I thought of three things and

24:07

so I'll just spin them out . We

24:09

can talk about them . One of the first ones that

24:11

we talked about that went along with the meaningful connections

24:13

was to listen with your eyes . I

24:16

asked a guy that I really respected After

24:19

I was just married he had 13 kids and

24:22

I and he was doing he's a

24:24

sales trainer and and he was like training

24:26

us and I said how do you have like , where do you start

24:28

having wanting to have 13 kids ? He's like Ash

24:30

, no one starts wanting to have 13 kids , right , and

24:33

he's like it just kind of happened . But as a new dad , as a

24:35

new husband , I was very curious how

24:37

his relationship was was , was , was

24:39

with his wife and I

24:41

said how do you be a good husband

24:44

? And he said , ashton , you listen with your

24:46

eyes . And that was so

24:48

crazy impactful to me because so

24:51

often we have our phones and with

24:53

our kids . If

24:57

you want to , if you want to connect with your kid listen with your eyes . Our

24:59

phones get in the way and we're talking like oh yeah , uh-huh sure , and they

25:01

know we're not paying attention . And anytime

25:03

my kids say , dad , put your phone down , I'm like

25:06

dang it , they got me . Or I'm not really

25:08

listening or paying attention . But I try

25:10

my best to listen with my eyes and I'll even

25:12

tell them . If they come into me and I'm in the middle of

25:14

something , I'll say , hey , listen , I'm in the middle of something . I'll say , hey

25:16

, listen , I'm in the middle of this . I can't listen

25:18

with my eyes right now , but if you want to talk

25:20

to me , you can . But once I'm done with this

25:22

, I'll be able to listen with my eyes . Is that okay ? And

25:25

most of the time they'll just , you know , they'll just

25:27

go for it without me like stopping , but

25:29

I I'll let them know like I can't be

25:31

as engaged with you as I want to be

25:33

. So

25:36

that was one idea . I

25:39

love that . That's great .

25:40

Yeah , and it's it's language that you're

25:42

using in your home . Yeah , that

25:45

your kids now understand the language . If you

25:48

said that to a kid that grew up outside your home , they'd be like

25:50

what are you talking about ?

25:51

You listen to your ears . Yeah , yeah , yeah

25:53

. Good job . The kids , the kids have that . So

25:55

that was one idea . Another idea was

25:59

dad growing up , when we would go

26:01

on wrestling . We'd go on trips . I grew

26:03

up in Kansas and we

26:06

would wake up at crazy early times

26:08

in the morning and drive hours to a little podunk town

26:10

in Kansas and there would be a wrestling meet there and

26:13

we'd wrestle and me and my brother

26:15

would sleep , my dad would drive and

26:17

then on the way home we

26:20

would be talking and he would say to us and

26:23

and I it's funny , tyler , that

26:25

was wrestling with me all the time he had the

26:27

same experience as me . But oftentimes I think my dad

26:29

was just talking to me , you know , like maybe

26:32

that's selfish or maybe that's just me as a kid , whatever

26:34

. Like my dad asked me this question , but he would ask us . He

26:37

would say , once we kind of talked a little

26:39

bit about some things , he'd say Ashton

26:41

, tyler , whoever was there with him , do you want to talk

26:43

about girls or do you want to talk about wrestling ? And

26:47

and when my dad asked

26:49

that question , that was his opportunity

26:52

to be like hey , let's have it , let's now have a meaningful

26:54

conversation , and

27:04

I'm going to let you choose what . What you want to do . Is it going to be about wrestling ? Sometimes it'd

27:06

be about wrestling , and then other times it'd be about girls , right , or about anything else that was going

27:09

on in my life that that I wanted to talk , talk to my dad about . So I tried to do this with

27:11

my kids and I was , I

27:13

was asking you know , some of my girls

27:15

were just I was asking them life questions

27:17

, on our dates . We'd stop and

27:19

I'd start asking them and they would respond . One kid

27:22

though I was like

27:24

hey , so how's school Like , what's going on

27:26

at school ? She , she was looking up at the stars and

27:28

she said stars . And I said

27:30

well , what , what like are you ? Are you having fun

27:32

at school ? Is thing , are things good at school ? And

27:35

she was like moon , and

27:37

she was just kept dodging the question . And

27:39

then I finally said do you , do you

27:41

want to talk about life

27:44

or the galaxy ? And she was

27:46

like the galaxy , perfect

27:48

. And so now that question has

27:50

become my question , because my girls aren't wrestling

27:52

, so I can't talk about life or or

27:54

girls , but I can talk about life for the galaxy

27:57

. And I now I've downloaded an

27:59

app on my phone that has all the

28:01

star tracker and if they say galaxy

28:03

, we go in on the galaxy , and

28:06

I've never been into telescopes , but

28:08

I'm probably going to buy one and and you

28:10

know this , this configuration over here

28:12

, and where's Mars ? Let's find Mars , and you

28:14

know what I mean . But but that's become an

28:17

avenue or a question , a question , and that's

28:19

going to be a question for everybody . That's going to be a little bit

28:21

different , but for me as

28:23

a kid , I recognized

28:25

that this is my dad wanting to have a conversation

28:27

with me . And now , hopefully

28:29

, my girls have that same recognition . Like now

28:32

, dad , because I'm asking about

28:34

school and teacher and whatever else . But like

28:36

, hey , do you want to talk about life or do you want to talk

28:38

about the galaxy ? Oh , okay , dad wants to talk

28:40

about something . Do you know what I mean ? Just

28:42

as like a little little indicator . So find

28:44

finding a way to transition

28:47

into something like that .

28:48

Yeah , well , that was , that was Keith Buswell's

28:51

gentleman project . Like , my

28:53

experience with my boys was a

28:55

right before bed let's . Let's talk

28:57

about what it means to be a gentleman for five minutes

28:59

. Yeah , right , and sometimes we talked

29:01

about what was on the board and what a gentleman was

29:04

, and sometimes we talked about other stuff they had

29:06

questions about . Yeah , and that was their

29:08

license , their avenue to have access

29:10

to me , their dad yeah , and so

29:12

that was Keith Buswell's Gentleman Project . Yeah

29:14

, I freaking love that .

29:19

We got to talk about your dad after your third point too , by the way .

29:21

Yeah , yeah , yeah , let's talk about my dad because he's well worth a great

29:23

gentleman .

29:24

Third point was kind

29:27

of back to the wrestling thing of what

29:29

are we , as dads , giving

29:31

our kids something to cheer for

29:34

, like ? Are we giving

29:36

our kids something that our kids can be like

29:38

in our corner ? Some

29:40

dads do . Some dads are all

29:42

in with their kids and they're

29:45

cheering their dad on because he's really good at hunting

29:47

or he's really good at this

29:49

thing , and they look up to their dad

29:51

about that thing , and other dads don't

29:54

. Other dads are kind of just going with the flow

29:56

, or

29:58

parents , but this is a gentleman

30:00

project . But as a dad , are we ? What

30:03

are we doing that we're ? We're

30:05

giving our kids something to cheer

30:07

about , and if we're not

30:09

doing something , then we should figure something out

30:11

. And it doesn't have to be wrestling at the

30:14

world championships right , it can be

30:16

really good fishermen , or they

30:18

tie their flies , or . Or

30:20

we love to go hunting , or we love

30:22

to go play pickleball . My dad

30:25

is a really good pickleball player , you

30:27

know , and I love cheering my dad

30:29

on and my I'll go with my dad when he plays

30:31

and I'll watch him and like , and you

30:33

and it's uh , it isn't something

30:35

, maybe necessarily that you like , like , like , hey , I want

30:37

you to cheer for me about this , but it's

30:39

more about who you are . Right

30:42

as a person are you ? Are you finding

30:44

a way that you can inspire your own kids

30:46

? And and if you're not inspiring

30:49

them like you've got to , you've got to first

30:51

find something that inspires you about

30:53

you . Inspired

30:58

by you , no one else is going to be inspired by . You got to do some things

31:00

that are a little out of the ordinary , maybe a little crazy , that that are pushing

31:02

you to be a better person , and

31:04

then they'll be inspired by that . And then , if

31:07

other people are inspired by that , too cool , but

31:09

it's mostly down to

31:11

you .

31:12

I like that a lot . And showing your

31:14

kids , inspiring your kids

31:16

I like that word and I actually haven't thought

31:18

about that before . I think there's a few places where I

31:20

probably have , but I think I don't

31:22

think it's ever been on purpose . Why

31:24

not do that on purpose ? Why not show

31:26

your kids something cool ? You

31:29

know , even talk to them about this as a

31:31

goal I have , and you're going to watch me work

31:33

towards it . Plus , you're giving yourself a bunch

31:35

of accountability if you do that with your kids

31:37

, because there's no way I'm going to tell my kids

31:39

I have a goal and not achieve it Right , like

31:41

that's big time pressure . Yeah , so

31:44

I love that . I haven't ever thought of it that way .

31:46

And even , and even if you don't make it

31:48

like just putting it out there

31:50

and showing them that you're doing something , they

31:52

know that you gave it the effort , yeah .

31:54

That actually might even be a better . A

31:56

better lesson is if you don't quite get there

31:58

Right , but they saw the effort right

32:01

, Right .

32:01

If they see you win , they're cheering you win . If

32:03

they see you lose , they're learning what

32:06

that now ? Now , what do you do when ? this

32:08

happens Because we lose a lot more than we win

32:10

in in our interactions in life , right

32:12

? So if , if dad starts

32:15

throwing things and cussing and kicking

32:17

things , like okay , I guess that's how

32:19

you're supposed to react . Or if dad

32:21

is like you know what , I'm going to get it next

32:23

time and that's all good that I lost

32:25

, because now I've got this motivation and I can learn

32:28

this and I I'm going to adjust here and tweak

32:30

this and pivot here .

32:32

Yeah , Right .

32:32

That's cool . Teach him some resilience and some grit

32:35

. And okay , my

32:43

dad , he went through some hard things and yeah , he didn't quite reach his goals .

32:45

That's okay . That makes it okay for me not to quite reach my goals , but I should set

32:47

goals because dad did . Yeah , it's good . Can I share something with you guys

32:49

? Yep , um , I guess if you were um following some of my social

32:51

media as we were launching the book , um

32:53

, you may have seen this um

32:56

that I posted in a private group . But uh

32:59

, cory , I don't think you've you've seen this . So

33:01

we were waiting for like four or five days for

33:03

the book to publish and my kids

33:05

knew , like when started

33:07

the book , that the book was coming

33:09

, that the book hadn't been released yet

33:11

. Dad was still working on the book . The

33:14

book is out there in the ether somewhere and

33:17

then we published it and we were

33:19

waiting for amazon to make it available

33:21

for purchase and as

33:23

soon as it hit , my wife posted a link in

33:25

our family chat and my

33:27

kids were like sweet congratulations

33:30

, papa , you know . And my

33:32

13 year old daughter like

33:34

this is one of the coolest texts I've ever gotten . She

33:37

said great job , I'm so proud of you . Like

33:41

I literally teared up when I read it .

33:46

Yeah , okay .

33:46

They saw . They saw that this was something

33:48

dad was going to do . He said he was going to do it . It

33:51

got done . And when she said

33:53

I'm proud of you , like that's

33:56

just so cool , so cool , so . That's just so

33:58

cool , so cool , so that's what it's about .

33:59

That's what it's all about , dude , right , and that's that's so

34:01

. That's them cheering you on right . They've been

34:03

in your corner . Dad's writing this book . He's

34:06

he can do it and to see it come to fruition . There's

34:09

not , there's not , many better texts than that text right

34:11

there , yeah

34:13

.

34:25

So , um , let's talk about your parents , because I am I don't interview many people in the

34:27

podcast that I know their parents , but I have a short story that I want to tell about your dad . He

34:30

was one of the first guys that grabbed me when I went into the custom clothing industry and he was like

34:32

here's what you need to do , here's some people you need to know

34:34

, and he

34:36

kind of mentored me a little bit , even through email

34:39

, and he kind of

34:41

mentored me a little bit , even through email . And

34:47

then he was in a leadership position in the church where my grandfather

34:49

, who passed away two years ago at the age of 91

34:52

, he had stewardship

34:54

over my grandpa and

34:56

my grandpa was really lonely and

35:00

he really , really , really , really respected

35:02

your dad and your dad would

35:04

often take the time to come and

35:06

visit with my grandpa cool and

35:09

make

35:11

sure that he knew he was seen

35:14

and not forgotten by someone

35:16

outside of his family . And

35:18

I knew this about

35:20

your dad because I knew him and it didn't surprise

35:23

me . But you've had a really

35:25

good example from your dad of

35:27

the type of man you want to become and

35:30

I in no doubt know that

35:32

that's why your family is the way

35:34

it is because you've had great leaders in your mom

35:36

and dad . But talk to

35:39

us more about some of the things that

35:41

your parents taught you , and

35:43

how are you teaching them to your kids ?

35:45

dude you're making me cry about my , get

35:47

choked up about my dad . My

35:49

parents are my heroes , without

35:51

a doubt , and

35:54

I I was just at my parents a few

35:56

weeks ago and this

35:58

I , I , um

36:00

, my wife's grandma was

36:02

like , hey , I'm gonna die sometime . If

36:05

you want some stuff , let's start putting some names on the back

36:07

of some of my things , you know . And

36:10

I said I , I went in

36:12

and at my parents house there's some

36:14

cool things , but there's this old

36:16

beat up sign that

36:21

my dad had in his office , all

36:24

grown up , and the sign

36:26

said and I saw it and I said I

36:28

want this , can I have this like

36:30

sometime , someday ? And

36:33

it's just a piece of paper with writing on it . I could write the

36:35

same thing , but it was the sign that I saw

36:37

and it said I am what I am

36:39

today because of what my parents are every

36:41

day . And I think

36:43

that was a good reminder to my dad that

36:46

he needs to be , that he

36:48

is what he is today because of his parents , and he had

36:50

good parents . But it was also a reminder

36:52

to him to be a good person all of the

36:54

time , so that your kids see you

36:57

good all of the time If

37:00

they see you bad once . I mean that tarnishes a reputation , quick

37:02

, right , or whatever they think about you or any

37:05

of that stuff . Right and

37:07

uh , I , I

37:10

saw that and I wanted that because my I

37:12

am what I am today because of what my parents are

37:14

every day and my parents

37:17

, my mom is

37:20

the most Christ-like person that I know . Absolute

37:24

heart of gold , absolute lover

37:27

of people , no

37:29

judgment , all love , will

37:31

take care of you in any way possible , and

37:34

she's already taken care of 25 people . You

37:36

know , like she had eight kids of her own and

37:39

she did a daycare business for like 30 years . And people were like how she ? She had eight kids of her own and she and she did a daycare business

37:41

for like 30 years and people were

37:43

like , how do you have eight kids and have eight other

37:45

kids at your house ? And

37:47

she was like if I just get one kid to

37:49

laugh every day , then that's that fills

37:51

my bucket . And but she was loving

37:54

up on kids all

37:56

the time and my dad

37:58

my dad's the wealthiest

38:00

person that I know , and

38:03

it's not money . I

38:06

don't know a soul that doesn't like my dad and

38:09

anybody that knows my dad loves my dad

38:11

because he's just a good man . I

38:14

didn't know he went and visited your grandpa , but that doesn't surprise

38:16

me because he would do something

38:18

like that and he probably does it all

38:20

the time and doesn't tell anybody about it sure

38:23

he does sure he does . So they

38:25

the , the um . You

38:27

know the principles that they have

38:30

taught um , a

38:32

lot of inclusivity , a lot of love

38:34

, a lot of that . That . Uh

38:36

, to be a good person I'm I'm working on a

38:38

sales course right now and I have a whole section about being a good person . I'm working

38:40

on a sales course right now and I have a whole section about being

38:43

a good human , a whole section

38:45

about humans are good and be

38:47

a good human . And my parents

38:49

totally taught me that . I

38:52

grew up in Kansas in

38:54

a country area mostly white

38:57

people . There was like two black kids in my school

38:59

and one of them was my next door neighbor and my same

39:01

age and it was so good and healthy for

39:03

me to have thomas ross be

39:05

my next door neighbor and we were

39:07

different ethnicities but

39:09

we bled the same , we laughed the same , we

39:12

liked food the same and

39:14

my mom and dad were all welcoming

39:16

all the time , no judgment ever of

39:18

anyone , color , uh

39:22

, like , uh , socioeconomic . If they had money didn't have

39:25

money , any of that stuff . It was all love all the time

39:27

, and and , uh

39:29

, they , they . So they taught

39:31

me how to be , or to

39:33

try to be , a good person all the time and

39:35

and uh , that sounds so super

39:38

basic , but it's actually

39:40

really powerful , right ? If you're walking down the street

39:42

and you see a Snickers wrapper on the side of the road , do you pick

39:44

it up ? Or do you just think , oh somebody else put that there , why'd

39:46

they put that there ? Or do you not even think about it ? A

39:49

really good human would go pick that thing up and put it

39:51

in the trash so a dog didn't get it or

39:53

didn't pollute it for somebody else . Right

39:56

, simple things like that . Right , simple things like that . Right . But doing

39:58

that over and over and over again and finding the

40:00

one , finding

40:04

somebody that would need love and care and support , and actually going out of their way

40:06

to go do something about it that's

40:11

what they taught me to do and I'm trying to teach my

40:13

kids and trying to teach other people to

40:15

do be a good

40:17

human I got called on the carpet

40:19

.

40:19

This last weekend we were . We were

40:21

down in St George and we were walking out

40:24

of a Walmart and I don't enjoy Walmart

40:26

at all but there

40:28

were carts everywhere and

40:31

my kids are going to laugh because they're

40:33

like this is going to end up on the podcast someday . It's

40:36

ending up on the podcast just the next week . But

40:43

I said you know what really like ruffles my feathers is that people can't

40:45

take three extra seconds and walk their

40:47

carts back to the place where carts go . As

40:50

I'm walking past all these carts , there's like

40:53

probably 12 of them just on the sidewalk

40:55

scattered and my 18

40:57

year old daughter goes yeah , but I'm just going to

40:59

walk past him and complain about it and

41:04

I was like you got me . I'm like

41:06

, okay , everybody grab a cart . And

41:09

I got all . I got four teenagers that are

41:11

just shaking their heads at me like , oh

41:13

God , dad , you know . But

41:16

we cleaned up that whole aisle of carts with

41:19

all the complaining and the

41:21

weeping , wailing and gnashing of teeth . We

41:24

got in and they're like this is going to go in his next

41:26

book . But my

41:29

daughter called me on the carpet so

41:32

I was trying to

41:34

teach her . At one

41:36

point I taught her don't complain

41:38

about it , fix it . And

41:40

she's like yeah , dad , you're just complaining

41:43

about it , do something about it . Yeah , all

41:45

right . So that's really good . Some

41:47

of those things stick so .

41:48

So a lesson that happened to my dad that

41:51

that uh , that

41:53

he shared with me . That stuck with me . I wasn't

41:55

even . I wasn't even a participant in the experience

41:57

, but he he said that he was listening

42:00

to a church speaker speak . They

42:02

were broadcasting something on TV

42:05

and the message was

42:07

about charity and

42:09

his mom was upstairs

42:12

with her dad and he was

42:14

sick . He was elderly and needed help

42:16

moving from the bed or needed

42:18

some sort of help . And she

42:20

yells down Keith , can you , can you come help

42:22

me with grandpa ? I need your help with grandpa . She's

42:25

like mom , I'm listening to this talk about

42:27

being a good person , like

42:29

about charity . I need to listen to this talk about

42:31

charity . And

42:33

then he's like or I should just go do

42:36

charity .

42:36

Yeah , little

42:38

things like that , just stick in your memory

42:41

.

42:41

And that's stuck in your memory and that's stuck with me forever and I've taught

42:43

that same principle to my kids and hopefully

42:45

they'll teach their kids of like hey , don't just

42:47

think about it , their eyes on it . Like , go

42:49

do it and if you've got an opportunity to think about

42:52

it , learn about it . Or do it , go do it Right

42:54

. Go go clean up the carts , Don't

42:56

just complain about it .

42:58

That's another fun story . Well

43:00

, I think you talked about how you're

43:02

teaching your kids to be good humans

43:04

and that it was kind of basic . But

43:07

man , if that's all we did as parents

43:09

, the world

43:11

would be different , yeah . You know , if

43:13

we're going to change the world , it's going to be in the home , totally

43:16

. One

43:19

home at a time , one person at a time , one generation at a time , right , so I

43:21

applaud you for making them aware that

43:24

there's a decision to be made in

43:26

everyday life if you're going to be a good person

43:29

or not .

43:29

Yeah , it's awesome Thanks and

43:32

being it with their friends , right , being at school

43:35

, all those things right

43:37

. Every interaction they have . Yeah

43:39

, we have kids over . We've started a buzz night at

43:42

our house Once a month . We'll have all

43:44

the youth in our area come for like

43:46

a hangout and just come hang out and

43:48

we play games and we do these things and

43:51

there's sometimes that some kids

43:53

are off to the side and

43:55

you as a I'm not in it . Right

43:58

, I'm in it but I'm not . But just kind of watching

44:00

the kids you can see and

44:08

it's funny . As a kid I didn't really have those perspective moments very often . I would sometimes

44:10

, but as an adult man , I'm looking at it all the time this girl right here needs some

44:12

help . Can anybody else not see

44:14

that , right ? Can somebody go over and help that

44:16

girl ? And so usually not in the moment

44:18

, cause you

44:20

know my kids would be like dad , I'm playing with

44:23

my friends , why you're trying to teach me a lesson right now , but later

44:25

, right and and and and

44:27

. Hopefully that sticks enough that they

44:29

start to see that like , hey , I

44:31

can tell that so-and-so is just kind of lonely

44:33

and no one's talking to them . Maybe

44:35

I should go and bring them with me

44:37

and come , come hang out with me and my buddies or whatever

44:40

.

44:40

Situational awareness is a muscle .

44:42

Yeah .

44:43

And you've exercised it and you've learned it

44:45

and now you can see it and recognize it . And

44:48

those kids just haven't had enough time to to

44:51

use that muscle . But being reminded

44:53

of it , my kids are . When

44:55

I die , my , my kids are going to stand

44:57

up and eulogize me and say my dad taught me situational

45:00

awareness . Amen

45:02

, okay

45:05

, at the end of the podcast Buzz we always

45:08

ask our guests

45:10

to define what they think it means to be

45:12

a gentleman . Would you do that ?

45:16

Yeah , gentleman

45:19

is a person that's all around

45:21

, good , human . A

45:25

gentleman is someone that takes care of women and

45:29

gives them the utmost respect every

45:32

time . Yeah

45:37

, a gentleman is

45:39

a lover . A gentleman is somebody that cares . It cares

45:41

for the other , for other people's souls

45:43

and other people's hearts . I

45:47

like that answer .

45:48

Thank you , yeah , amazingly

45:50

that went by so fast .

45:52

I started asking the last question and I was like no

45:54

, it's not time . But it's time it's crazy

45:56

.

45:56

You did such a great job , thanks .

45:58

Thanks , and I flew by Good . Good

46:00

, I'm glad I I hope I didn't go

46:02

off on too many rants .

46:03

That , oh no no , no

46:05

, that was great . Um , if

46:08

, if you want to follow Ashton Buswell

46:10

, you'll be a better person for it . He

46:12

might teach you some sales skills , but it'll probably

46:15

teach you more about life and sales and

46:24

in sales , and , uh , it's a blessing . When I see him on my social media feeds , I pay attention to

46:26

what he has to say because he's coming from it , from a place of love . So , if you want

46:28

to follow Ashton Buswell , are

46:30

you having , like , the blue check mark next to your

46:32

name ? Yet I just did , yeah , okay

46:34

, I was kind of kidding , but

46:36

it's real . He's

46:39

verified at Ashton Buswell

46:41

. That's right . Okay , and

46:43

if you're , if you're looking for a sales

46:46

motivator , a sales

46:48

discipline guy

46:50

, he's your man . If

46:53

you were listening to Ashton speak today

46:55

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46:57

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47:00

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47:02

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47:04

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47:31

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47:33

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47:35

, ashton Buswell , it's been

47:38

an honor . Thank you , it's been my pleasure . Thanks

47:40

.

47:40

Ashton , thank you , it's been an honor .

47:41

Thank you , it's been my pleasure . Thanks .

47:42

Ashton . Thank you , my good friend , Thanks everyone .