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There. I want to talk to you about
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what to do when you hate selling.
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Because I know that you probably feel like selling is
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not your favorite thing and you wouldn't be alone.
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So let's talk about why you don't like selling.
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Because when I look at all the reasons why
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people aren't growing their business fear of selling, fear
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of being spammy, fear of action, you're worried about
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somebody saying something horrible to you.
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You don't want to be pushy, you
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don't want to look like a pest. You don't like it when people are
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really spammy and salesy with you.
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So there are loads of reasons why you and lots
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of us struggle with the idea of selling because we
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seem to have this idea that selling is like something
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that's really horrible, that's done to you.
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And where, when old vacuum cleaner salesman used to put
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the foot in the front door and not let you
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close the door, there seems to be this absolute fear
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that selling is going to be a really bad thing.
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And heaven forbid somebody thinks of you as salesy.
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And yet we are sold to every day, all the time.
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The things that you're scared of, the bit of
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selling that you're scared of is when you've seen people doing it badly, you don't like the pushy
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people, you don't like the spammy people, you don't
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like the people who make you feel like uncomfortable.
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That's what you don't want to be. And that's brilliant.
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I applaud you. I'm glad you don't want to be like that because you don't have to be.
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But like I said, the truth is that you're being sold to all the time.
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You just don't realize it. So every time you are on social media and you see
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a picture of something that you like, you're being sold to.
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Every time you scroll your feed and you
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see a testimonial and you think, oh gosh, that sounds like me, you're being sold to.
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Every time you walk past a shop and you look
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at the messages on the shop windows and the stuff in the shop windows, you're being sold to.
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Every time you read an email for a business, even if
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it's not a sales email, you are being sold to.
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Because what they are doing by putting their stuff
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out where you can see it, by being visible
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either in real life on the high street or
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in your inbox or on your social media feed,
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what these businesses are doing, businesses just like yours,
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is they're helping you to see what they sell.
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They are helping you to see how they do
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business and they're just putting themselves out there so
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that you can see whether they're a good fit.
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You don't need to be overtly salesy to get sales.
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Selling is part of everyday life.
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And let me just reframe this whole selling thing.
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What I believe absolutely, and I use this a lot,
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is that selling is helping when you help somebody to
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see whether they are a good fit for you.
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That is selling. Selling is helping and helping is selling.
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Okay, think about it.
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Why do you buy when you are scrolling your feed,
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when you are searching on Google, when you're walking down
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a town high street, why do you buy it's?
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Usually either because, you know, you want to buy
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something like I need a new handbag or I
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need something for the dog or I need whatever.
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So you've got a little mental shopping list and you
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go looking for it either in person or online.
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Or you see something when you're out or online and
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you think, actually I wasn't looking for that, but that looks really nice, I'm going to get it.
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That will do for this or going to treat myself.
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So either way you will see something
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and you decide that you want it. And either way, what you're actually looking for is
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not for somebody to come out and kind of grab you by the lapels and go buy this.
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That's not going to work. It's never worked.
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It might have worked for vacuum cleaner salesmen in the 1920s or something, but
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even then they weren't very popular. But that's not what works.
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You know that you don't buy from people like that.
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What you're actually looking for when you are buying something is to be helped.
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Because what you need to know is, is it right for me?
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Is it what I'm looking for? You're looking for information.
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You are looking for recommendations and reviews.
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You're looking for descriptions and examples
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and maybe measurements and maybe suggestions.
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You're looking to find the right option for you and to
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make sure that you buy the right product or service.
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Right? That's what we do when we're buying something.
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Whether it's something we're already looking for or we
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just happen to see something and think, oh, let me go and have a look at that.
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We're trying to see whether it's right for us.
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And none of those businesses that we see when we're out
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and about or we are scrolling our feeds, they're not spamming
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us and putting their foot in our front door.
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They're just being findable.
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They're showing up where you are looking.
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They're being helpful. They're giving you information so that
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you can make a decision. They're making it easy for you to
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buy and you can do that.
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Selling is just helping. It's about being findable and giving people enough
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information for them to be able to buy.
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Helping is all you're doing and
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you're selling without overtly selling.
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So that thing that you're scared of, of being
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seen as a pest or a spammer or being
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rejected, all of those things, they don't come into
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it when you're selling, it's a different vibe altogether.
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So when you share a photo of a
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product that you're working on or something that you've just finished, then you're helping people see
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it and accidentally you're selling it.
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So I often will scroll social media and I
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will see something that appears in my feed and
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they might say, oh, look what I've just finished.
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And there might be no sales message.
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They're just sharing something they've done. And I'll go, oh, that looks really nice.
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Let me find out more. So I will click through to their Facebook page or
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their Insta, I will click through the links and maybe
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go to their website or their Etsy shop and I
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will do my own little bit of research because they've
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shown me something and I like it. And they're being helpful by giving
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me links to go and follow. So whenever you share a photo of a product
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that you stock or that you've made, you are
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helping me see whether it's right for me.
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Whenever you share a review or a
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testimonial, what you're doing is helping.
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It's not selling. You're accidentally selling without selling.
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You're sharing helpful information because
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by sharing reviews and testimonials,
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you're saying, look, this works.
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People love it. This is what other people think about it.
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So I can tell you but I sell it. So I'm biased, but this is
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what my customers say about it.
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So it's third party. It's what we call social proof.
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So you're helping people make a decision as
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to whether it's right for them or not.
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So you're selling because you're making it easy to buy.
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Whenever you answer a customer inquiry by text
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or by email or on messenger, you are
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helping people make the decision to buy.
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So you're selling, but you're helping in the process.
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When you share examples of how people are using
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your products and services, you're helping people make a
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decision as to whether or not to buy.
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So you're selling without being salesy because you're helping.
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Do you see how this is going? And here's another one.
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When you make yourself referable by becoming well
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known for something, you are selling by being
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easily referable without even having to be salesy.
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So when I was looking at when I've been helping some
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of my clients in my training course, we were working on
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this with some of them, and I had a lady who
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we decided that her referral phrase, I guess we're going to
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call it, is, I help new build.
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So new build owners turn their blank
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garden into a piece of their holiday.
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So what she does is she works with new build owners
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and they get like a patch of grass and some paving
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slabs and she can help them turn it into a little
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piece of Greece or a little piece of Spain or whatever.
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That's one of the things she does. I've got another client who helps
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nervous riders of a certain age. So she's dealing with people maybe my age to
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get over their fears and enjoy riding again.
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And she helps people become more confident with riding.
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I've got another lady who helps menopausal,
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women, menopausal, business owners with brain fog,
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it's a very specific thing. So, you'll know, if you've had
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menopause brain fog oh my goodness. And you're trying to run a business.
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So she helps women with menopausal brain fog to
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set up systems to help them run their business,
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even when they're having a bad day. Do you see how these are really easy to refer?
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You will know if that's right for you or one of your friends and family, won't you?
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So that's another way that you can sell without selling, because you're helping.
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You're making people go and go, oh, actually,
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I know that's what my sister needs. So everything that you do online and offline,
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when you're talking about your business or you're
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representing your business, is helping and selling.
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It's showing people who you are and what
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you do so they can make a decision and see whether you are right for them.
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So don't think about selling as being spammy.
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It doesn't work anyway. Don't think about selling as being
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these pushy, high pressure sales tactics.
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They don't work on you, they're not
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going to work on anybody else. Of course you're not going to do that.
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Instead, you need to talk about your business
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all the time with passion and excitement.
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Because when you talk about things that you're doing with passion and excitement, it's infectious.
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Enthusiasm is infectious.
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And people love the idea that
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you love what you're doing. They love to see what you're up to
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and you build a relationship with them. You turn from being this stranger on the Internet
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to being this amazing business owner who sells fantastic
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services or creates or sells beautiful products.
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And by talking about what you do, by sharing what you
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do, you are helping people to make a decision to buy.
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It's the same with when they're googling the
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words that you put on your website, you're not there going buy buy buy!
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You're giving people enough information to be
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able to make a decision to buy.
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And remember, just to reframe this.
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Selling is not a dirty word. Selling is what businesses do.
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If you're making things or providing services and not
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selling, then you're not a business, you're a charity,
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or you're just a really nice person who's giving things away because you've got so much money you
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don't know what to do with, and you're doing it out of the goodness of your heart.
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Every business has to make a profit. That's what makes them a business
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as opposed to an expensive hobby.
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So selling is what businesses do.
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But it doesn't have to be bad selling. It doesn't have to be
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spammy, horrible, uncomfortable selling.
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It is just helping. And remember that your buyers, your audience,
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they're expecting you to sell stuff.
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They're expecting you to give them an idea
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of what they sell, of what you sell, and they're expecting you to tell them the
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price and they're expecting you to help them.
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So if they say, Is this right for me? They're expecting you to help them say yes or no.
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It's right for me. Or it's not that's selling.
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It doesn't have to be horrible. It doesn't have to be the thing that makes you
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come out in hives or hide behind the sofa.
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It doesn't have to be any of those things. Selling is helping.
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It's actually just you sharing what you love.
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Helping people make a choice and giving people
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the right people a chance to buy.
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That's all it is. You can do that.
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