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Hey everybody , welcome to the Herd Fit Podcast
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with Dr Sam Rhee and myself , Coach
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David Silverson . His podcast is
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aimed at helping anyone and everyone looking
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to enhance their healthy lifestyle through fitness
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, nutrition and , most importantly
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, mindset . Alright
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, welcome back to the Herd Fit Podcast . I'm Coach David
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Silverson . I'm here with my co-host , dr and Coach
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Sam Rhee . We have a very
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special guest today . Here across at Bison
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, we have a lot
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of talent , a lot
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of stories that others may not know about
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. One of the more interesting
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talents and one of the more interesting
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people that I think I've ever met at Bison
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in almost 10 years now is
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the man sitting right in between Sam and I , rafi
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Silver . What ?
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is up the most interesting . Wow
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, that's an honor Now .
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Rafi , I just want to make sure . Are you comfortable being on camera
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and talking to him like a ?
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I'll be honest , I'm more nervous now than
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I have been in class .
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Why am I asking him that ? If you don't know who Rafi
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is ? Rafi , you probably have seen
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him before . He's an actor . He's been
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onRafi . Give me a run of shows that you've
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been on that you know people have watched .
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Pretty much . If you watch CBS
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, you'll have seen me at some point in your life
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. Ncis yeah
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, I was on NCIS , but first I was on NCIS
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LA . I was a terrorist . On that . I
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got drowned by LL Cool
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J . I died a lot on TV for
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a while . There I
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was on elementary . I was on NCIS
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for a while I did . Madame Secretary
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, there's
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going to be an episode of Evil coming out whenever
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the next season wraps
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and that's on CBS as well . Another
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show called Fall Out , which is going to be on Amazon
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, which that comes
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out April 12th . I'm going to
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put that episode of mine because it's all top secret
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, but yeah , there's that . And also
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, you probably have heard me , I
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was the voice of Bud Light for five years
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, wow , yeah . So
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I was on the Super Bowl . I did all the . I
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rode the dilly dilly train pretty much
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, which is pretty awesome . The same .
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Is pretty cool being next to an A-lister like Radio
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.
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You know , when my daughter , sasha found out that he
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was Kasim from NCIS , she
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freaked out . It
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was like a three or four episode or multi-episode
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arc where you're dating one of the primary
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characters . I forgot her name Agent
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Bishop . Yeah , agent Bishop , the blonde one . I
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remember watching it at the time , never
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connected it . Then Sasha did
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and she was like , oh my God , he was the best People
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loved you in that character
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. It was that was very cool
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.
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You want to hear a quick story of Bud NCIS ? Absolutely Okay . So
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Bud NCIS just cast as a guest star in season
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12 and I was there
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. You know , when you're doing a guest star , you're
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there for eight or 10
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days . An episode shoots for 10
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days and I think I was there every
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single day and most of my scenes were with
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Emily , who played Agent Bishop , and
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with Mark Harmon , who's also like the
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show runner of the show and as
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well as the lead . And
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there was one scene , one scene I got
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to have where it was . You
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really get to drop in as an actor . Most
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of the time as a guest star , it's like my line
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okay , send it to the lead . But
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there was one scene where I really
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got to just talk to her and
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I was talking to Carly , my wife , and she was like
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you know , if you play this right , you
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can add the subtext that
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there's chemistry between the two of you . I
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hadn't watched the show so I didn't know her character
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was married , but I
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played the scene that way . Mark
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Harmon watched me do that
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scene and
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that was it . I felt really good about
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it . The episode airs the
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nighted airs . I get a untitled
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call on my unknown call
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on my phone , so I don't pick it up . I
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get a message from Mark Harmon on
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my phone being like you were great on the show
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, we're going to bring you back . It's like
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fantastic . I
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know nothing about that . A
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year later , nothing happens
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. A whole season goes . I'm like all right , well , that's
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Hollywood . But then all of a sudden they
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call me back and they're like you're going to play
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the boyfriend . I show up on
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the set and I say what happened ? They were like
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well , you had
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such a good chemistry with Emily
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that they wanted to make you the boyfriend
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. They had the husband . They
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added a storyline where the husband , you know
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, had a , had a affair
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or something like that , and then came back
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and so was like the power of the subtext
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in the acting . That was pretty cool . Wow , that's
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a really cool story Very cool .
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You would have an awesome tell all book at some
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point . Oh God , you should think about it .
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You know , I just realized this is live and I just told that story
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. Hopefully
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you're not watching .
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So the reason we're bringing
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in Rafi on today , it does directly
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relate to some
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of the stuff he just talked about . And here
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we are in the reset challenge we're entering your week to . And
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Rafi actually approached me about
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bringing mindfulness to bison
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, to crossfitters , right and really exclusively
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to bison . And
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we talked about , you know , my
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performance and trying to find different ways to
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improve myself . And then
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we started relating it to the gym what can we
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do to help the gym out ? And this has really been spurred
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on by Rafi the idea
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of trying to train the mind for
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crossfitters and , in particular , bison
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. And at
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first , you know , I'll admit that
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I have a little bit of an internal eye roll to it
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because I'm not a meditating
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type , I'm not
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that deep of a thinker . When it goes into a dark
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room and , you know , put my hands
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up in the air and hum and hope that the
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life's answers come my way . And
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then , the more I talked about it , rafi
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started to pick up on this pretty quickly that
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I was intrigued Once he started saying
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we spend all this time
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training our bodies . How
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often do you actually spend , how much time do you actually
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spend training your mind ? And
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part of this podcast
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was teach about mindset . So it actually
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made me look at myself in the mirror and
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say is am I being a hypocrite
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by saying , hey , we should be focusing on
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mindset and we do talk about it a lot , but
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are you actually training it ? Do
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you have the tools to train it ? Do you know what to do when
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you train it ? So long
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story short . To wrap that up , it is a part
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of it's an option to be a part of the
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reset challenge here in 2024 for CrossFit
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Bison , and Rafi has really taken
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this task on very serious . He's
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actually teaching a course at Columbia
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. Is it this spring ? I keep forgetting . Yeah
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, I started actually next week , awesome . So
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this is something Rafi is really passionate about
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sharing with others , and
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I think it's going to be really important for us all
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to dial in right now and focus in
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on what he's saying , why
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he's saying it and how it can help you . That's
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really where I want everyone's perspective to be right now
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, because , if you do pay attention , there's
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an element maybe multiple elements to this that
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can help you and your pursuit of fitness
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and health period . It's that
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simple , sam . I
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always like to get your opinion on stuff . That is different
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. This is different . You know , you've been here for a
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long time . We've never even touched this
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on this level . All
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right , I mean , I have talked about mindset a lot , but
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where does your mind go
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immediately and be honest about this when we started
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adding mindfulness training to the reset
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challenge ?
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I thought that this was perfect for CrossFit athletes
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, because we are sort of
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80D go , go , go , go fast
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as you can . Everything has to
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move quickly and there's
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not a whole lot of you know
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long thought or drawn
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out thought . That goes into our
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endeavors and in
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the sport , and I think
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most CrossFitters , when they start to get
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deeper into it , they realize it's
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not just physical ability , but it's
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the mental part that really drives
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us , whether it's satisfaction in our workouts
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, whether it's thinking about our workouts , whether
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it helps us feel better and
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work on our mindset by working
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out , and we start turning
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towards our brains , and I
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know I tried different things
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as well . Yoga was one that I think , with breathing
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and mindfulness , is one
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way of approaching it . I
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know top athletes . I never saw
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someone be so mindful
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as JJ McCarthy , the championship
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winning quarterback for the Michigan
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Wolverines this past year . He
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, uh , you could see him . They would
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feature him sitting
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being mindful before a game at
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the goal post and just being
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and just engaging in
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that same practice , and I think you'll see
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a lot of top athletes also do that , and so
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this is something that has come on really
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strong in a lot of different sports and I was really
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looking forward to seeing what
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Rafi has to offer . I don't know a
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whole lot about mindfulness myself , and so I
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was really interested in learning more , Rafi
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.
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what is mindfulness ?
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Well , we actually had a debate in our
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training about it , but this is what we came
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to . Mindfulness can be described
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as learning to bring our attention
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to the present moment by simply
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seeing what arises , without bias
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or judgment . That's
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what mindfulness is . It's not
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a lot
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of misconceptions about mindfulness . Is that it's
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therapy , it's that it's mental health
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, it's that it's woo-woo
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or whatever you want to call it . What
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I just said is exactly what mindfulness
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is . It's paying attention to
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how we work and right now
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that's it . And
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so you could imagine , if you take
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it step one , step two , step three , how
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that could help in performance , how that could help
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an athlete . Because what
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we're trying to do as George Mumford
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says , who wrote the Mindful Athlete , mindful
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Athlete we're trying to cultivate the
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zone right . The more
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consistently we can get into the zone
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, the better we're gonna be as
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performers . And so we
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can experience the zone , sometimes randomly
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, all of a sudden , and we
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start to dissect like how did we get there
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? Was it what I ate ? Was it you
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know ? Something that happened in my personal life
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before , and we try and mentally
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pinpoint it , but we didn't realize
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, like there's so much more , there's
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so much more complexity to it . And
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so sitting there and doing a mindfulness
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practice every single day allows
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us to try and unpack
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what it is that sets
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us up to succeed . And
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so the quarterback from Michigan
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, or LeBron or Michael Jordan
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, or any of these people that meditate , the
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reason they're doing it every day is
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to just stop , center
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, see where they're at right
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there , reconnect to their intention
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and move forward .
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Great , I love that answer . I'm probably
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gonna replay that a few times once this episode
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goes live . Why do you believe in it ?
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Well , it's interesting that
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Sam started this , because my
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connection to mindfulness and my connection
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to fitness literally
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go hand in hand . It
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started when my father
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passed away and I
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was depressed . I
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had a lot of grief , and how
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long ago was that ? I think it was maybe
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four years ago . Okay , it was COVID
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time Got it , and I was
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in a rut like pretty bad , and
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I didn't
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really know how to get out of it . I'm gonna
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give a shout out to one of my , to my best
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friend , max Ozinski , another actor
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. He plays Zava on Ted
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Lasso . He was filming a
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show , one of the
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Walking Dead spinoffs , and I
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went down to Richmond to go visit him . He
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was really close with my dad as well . This
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was maybe two weeks after and
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we just had a nice cry . We talked about it
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and Max
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had been eating macros
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for three years . He looks like a superhero
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. He's like 5% body fat . He
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even looked more ridiculous during
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that time because he had to like take his shirt
12:25
off on on camera and
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he was like Rafi , just just
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exercise . I was like what
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do you mean ? I do exercise , kind
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of . He was like no , not swim . He's
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like you need to commit to this . You
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need to start eating macros
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, you need to actually start lifting
12:43
heavyweight . And he was like I have
12:45
this trainer that was a
12:48
trainer for the movie Jurassic Park that
12:50
his wife was in and he was
12:52
like he's in London but he'll FaceTime train you . And
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so Carly and I my wife this was
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kind of still during COVID which helped
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with the macros because we can control our food we
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did it together and in
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six months of lifting heavyweights and
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eating macros at a deficit , I lost 40
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pounds and
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pounds . Yeah , I lost 40 pounds and I
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got really , really strong and
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it was something I could
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focus on . It was something that I could put my energy into . And
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, slowly but surely , what I started to
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see in the gym as we could all relate
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to progress , not
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just like shedding weight , but I was doing pull ups , weighted pull ups , I
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was deadlifting , I was squatting
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, I was building up my body but building up my confidence
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. And
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then eventually it got to the point where I
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looked really good for my career and I took
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some photos . And then I had these photos
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. I was staring at them and
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I didn't know what to do with them . Everyone's
13:58
like put them on Instagram , you know , showcase how you look and
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I couldn't do it . I just felt so vain and
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I started to investigate , like what
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, why was it that I was doing
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this ? And yeah , okay , I was doing it because I was
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like battling my grief , but
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I didn't feel fulfilled at
14:18
all and I didn't know what to do . So
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I kind of press pause on the macros . At that moment I was like , all right , I
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got the photos in the can , that's great , but I really need
14:27
to investigate this . And
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so I was drawn to . I had
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been meditating a little bit but I was like I need a real change . So
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I signed up for this seven day
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silent meditation retreat
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that focused on a particular
14:48
meditation technique called loving kindness meta in the Buddhist terms and
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I was going to spend seven days sending
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loving kindness towards myself and towards
14:56
others basically sending myself to love
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prison . And
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four days of doing that I lost my
15:04
mind . I kept wishing for COVID so they could
15:07
kick me out . I'm
15:09
not kidding . I really
15:11
was standing there in beautiful California doing
15:13
the mantra of loving kindness , which
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is may I be happy , may
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I be healthy , may I be safe
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, may I be safe , may
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I be at ease . And one day
15:27
I just out of my mind
15:29
. I said , may I have COVID so
15:32
I could escape this place ? And
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I stopped in that moment , four days
15:36
of paying attention , and
15:39
I just looked at myself and was like you just
15:41
wished for COVID . You've been avoiding this thing
15:43
for two years . There's so
15:45
much complication . I just wished for COVID
15:47
so I could escape beautiful California and
15:50
just myself , literally
15:52
just my own mind . And
15:55
in that moment there was like a
15:57
weight lifted off my shoulders , like
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a lot of my grief , just like poured
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out of me . And I realized
16:04
the importance of meditation and
16:07
how , if I didn't have exercise
16:09
, it couldn't have built
16:12
up the strength for me to
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be able to face my mind . And
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so I really connect
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the two together .
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First of all , I can't believe your friends was Zava , because
16:25
that is a great character from Ted Lasso . He
16:28
was the superstar soccer player
16:30
that they bring in in the last season .
16:33
I tried to get him to drop in here the last time he visited
16:35
. He'll be back in two weeks . He said
16:37
hell , no , because
16:40
the workouts that they do , and that I did
16:42
have zero cardio involved . And
16:45
he , just like I would read my pretty
16:47
fast .
16:48
Yeah , he looks like a specimen . How
16:51
did you bring CrossFit into that
16:53
into your life then , once
16:55
you got to that point ?
16:57
So I knew that
17:00
just lifting heavy weight and
17:02
not doing anything cardiovascular
17:05
was fine
17:07
for , you know , vanity
17:09
sake , and I was strong and you
17:11
are working your heart . But it didn't
17:14
feel like enough and so
17:16
I started searching for different workouts
17:19
or different exercises . And
17:21
I had dropped in here once because
17:24
I'm friends with Dave Boke , mo
17:26
Boke , michelle and
17:29
Dan Fruciano , and they were talking
17:31
about bison all the time and I
17:33
felt left out and
17:36
so they called me CrossFit Curious
17:38
and so I just did
17:40
one of the Wednesdays I think Terry was the coach
17:43
and I came in and I'll
17:45
never forget it was like the wall balls and toast
17:47
to bar and some sort of running
17:49
and I was like , oh , I could
17:51
do this , I'm strong , I've been like doing 60
17:53
pounds off my belt pull ups and
17:56
I got destroyed . I
17:59
got capped out on the workout , like
18:02
badly , and I looked over at
18:04
the board and I saw Dave Boke had finished
18:06
it in like 15 minutes
18:08
and the cap was 24 . I was like what
18:11
, how is that even ? How
18:13
is that even actually physically possible
18:15
? I was like I need to figure this out if I
18:17
want to ever step back into this gym and
18:21
I was kind of afraid , to
18:23
be honest to come back . But
18:25
last year my
18:28
mother-in-law bought me a
18:30
10 pack to bison for
18:32
Christmas and I was like , all right
18:34
, well , let me
18:36
give these 10 classes a shot
18:38
. And I came in and
18:41
I started to really give it a chance
18:44
and there was a lot of
18:46
energy going on here because I think we had just
18:48
signed up for you
18:50
got the open announcement . As I'm staring at
18:52
this poster and everything , I was
18:54
like , wow , this is a community , everybody
18:56
loves each other . I was like I
18:59
think I could fit in here and I
19:01
pretty much drank the Kool-Aid because it
19:04
really exemplifies
19:06
everything that I was going for . It's
19:08
a mental test every
19:10
single day and it's a community
19:13
which really
19:15
is important to me . I
19:17
mean , in Tibetan Buddhism maybe
19:21
you'll see there's three bows
19:23
right when you walk into a shrine
19:25
hall . The first bow is towards
19:28
your teacher , the second bow is
19:30
towards the teachings and the third
19:32
bow is to the community , and
19:35
that really matters to me , and
19:37
so this place really exemplifies
19:39
that to me .
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Performance you
19:44
are . Your career is performing . Yeah , camera
19:47
, lot of pressure , crossfit , whether
19:49
, no matter what . You're here for a
19:52
career , to screw . It's a performance every day , right
19:54
, and some are . That's why they're
19:56
here Scores , whiteboard weights , reps
19:59
. Others are here for help , but you're still
20:01
performing and you're still putting what you did
20:03
on a whiteboard . That's your name
20:05
for the whole world . Well , the bison world to see
20:07
. Can you
20:09
give me a couple similarities , because
20:12
you are one of very few that performs
20:14
for a living and then you're also a member
20:16
here . Some of the similarities between
20:18
the two performance related and
20:21
then where the mind helps or hurts in
20:23
that regard .
20:25
Well , I'm , you
20:27
know , here's a . Here's a quick little joke about
20:30
it is that I'm
20:32
trying to teach my eight year old son how
20:34
to fail and how to
20:36
fail gloriously , and how failure
20:38
is in fact the best
20:41
way to improve , because
20:43
if you put everything out there and
20:46
you don't succeed
20:48
or you don't match your
20:50
expectations , it gives
20:52
you the most amount of information
20:54
. And so he
20:57
had . He was having trouble failing one
20:59
time and my wife , who
21:02
is quick witted , she was
21:04
like oh , don't worry about it , daddy fails
21:06
for a living . And
21:09
it's true , I
21:11
literally put myself out there daily
21:14
, I'm auditioning daily , and
21:17
there's so much that's out of my control
21:19
. What people tell me I'm
21:21
not tall enough , I'm too tall , I'm
21:24
not good looking enough , he's too good
21:26
looking . I mean , it's literally the most ridiculous
21:29
reasons why you get or don't get a
21:31
job . And
21:33
so you , I , started to build
21:35
up that idea that failure
21:38
, or being exposed when
21:40
you give it everything that you've got
21:42
, is actually the only place you can
21:44
learn . And the fact
21:46
that we hold each other accountable here on
21:49
the whiteboard is exactly
21:51
that . If you're telling
21:53
the truth and you're doing all your reps and doing
21:55
everything that's
21:57
for you to say I did my
21:59
pit . I can be proud of that number , no
22:02
matter what it looks like next to somebody else
22:04
, because it represents everything
22:07
I got and there's a place where
22:09
I can grow , like that workout I told
22:11
you about . I got capped out
22:13
and a couple of days
22:16
ago I just did finish the workout with a 20
22:18
pound wall ball and I
22:20
scaled it in the open last year and
22:23
I can't believe that I've made it that far
22:25
. It doesn't feel like I did , but I was chipping
22:28
away . I was giving everything I
22:30
got in every workout , sometimes
22:32
to the point where you're like , oh my God , I might
22:34
die , but
22:37
I kind of crave that feeling
22:39
because I know there's a chance to
22:41
grow . So , if we're just looking at
22:43
it in terms of performance , that's
22:46
what I try and do with every audition
22:48
. I try and pay attention to
22:50
what I can control , being as
22:52
authentic as I possibly can be
22:54
every single time , because
22:57
if I do that and I don't
22:59
get the job , I can sleep
23:01
at night , and it's
23:03
always those times and that's where
23:05
mindfulness comes in for me where I'm
23:07
looking for some sort of validation
23:10
on my audition Is this
23:12
good , did you like this ? Where I know
23:14
I didn't give my all and
23:18
that's tough to look in the mirror and say
23:20
that to yourself . I
23:22
like to tell my students it's like being a
23:24
magician , where you like do
23:26
a trick and you're hoping everybody buys
23:28
it . That , to me
23:31
, is inauthentic . I'd rather
23:33
see somebody be true
23:35
, be real , have a moment really
23:37
happen on camera or on stage
23:39
and then live with that and
23:41
move forward . And that's kind of what people
23:43
do here at this gym , absolutely , and
23:46
that's inspiring to me . So
23:48
it's not like , oh , I'm not doing
23:51
my , I'm not reaching my potential
23:53
on the whiteboard or in my workout
23:56
because I'm not beating this person
23:58
or that person . It's quite
24:00
literally like I'm doing everything
24:02
I possibly can to grow and
24:04
trying to do this new skill
24:06
or anything like that , and the
24:08
progress is incremental and so
24:11
they really do align If
24:13
you look at like your performance
24:15
as maximizing
24:18
your own potential , because
24:20
I'm never gonna make the games , nor do
24:22
I have aspiration to make the games , but
24:24
I have the most aspiration to get as
24:26
far as I possibly can in my
24:28
own body , in my own mind
24:31
, so then I can relay
24:33
it to others . Hey , pay attention to this , I made
24:35
that same mistake . Or pay attention
24:38
to this and that's why I teach acting and
24:40
hopefully , you know , we'll be continuing
24:42
to teach mindfulness , that's
24:44
really authentic .
24:46
I think that really I
24:48
relate to that very strongly . I never really
24:50
thought about acting as
24:53
not being judged by others , cause
24:55
that's what I always thought . That would be Like you'd go
24:57
to an audition and you'd be very worried about what
24:59
other people , like the casting director
25:02
and the people in charge , would think
25:04
. But if you walk in as an actor and
25:06
you give your best performance , then
25:09
that's what counts
25:11
and that's the same thing as an athlete in CrossFit
25:13
when you come in , if you
25:15
are really bummed because you didn't beat you
25:18
know Jim by five seconds
25:20
, and that's how
25:22
you judge your own performance as opposed to . I
25:24
mean , of course you want to measure yourself against
25:27
someone , but you have to take away
25:29
the fact that you gave it your real effort
25:31
and you should be proud of that . That's
25:33
what you should be taking away from a
25:35
lot of things in life . Honestly , if
25:38
you look at what other people
25:40
are doing or if how
25:42
they judge you and that's a hard
25:44
thing for older
25:46
adults as well as young adults I mean I see
25:48
that both in my kids and in myself
25:51
all the time fighting that , that
25:53
urge to base
25:55
my satisfaction and happiness on
25:57
what other people are judging
25:59
me by .
26:00
And you know what's interesting about that I was . You
26:02
know I like to meditate before I do anything
26:05
like any type of performance , or you
26:07
know , before I came here , I sat for 20 minutes
26:09
and the thing that kept popping
26:12
up in my mind was
26:14
in Buddhism , there's this thing called the Brahma
26:16
Vihars , which are the four immeasurables
26:18
. The first one is
26:21
compassion . Well , the immeasurables
26:23
mean that no matter where you're at in your life
26:25
, whether you're dying , whether you're
26:28
just born , the well
26:30
cannot run dry . It's infinite
26:32
. So we could tap into any four of these
26:34
things at any time . The first one is compassion
26:37
. The second one is loving
26:39
kindness , which was that retreat that
26:41
I talked about . One of the another
26:43
one is equanimity , which is balance
26:46
. But the one that kept coming
26:48
back to me is appreciation
26:51
for others , appreciative
26:54
joy , and
26:56
if we really consider that , like actually
26:59
hoping that somebody
27:01
else is joyful , that
27:03
somebody else succeeds , like
27:07
that well will
27:09
not run dry . And if you
27:11
practice that , like hoping
27:14
that the person next to you in
27:16
your box does the best
27:18
that they can , you
27:20
like I know this sounds
27:22
really soft and woo-woo , but
27:25
it actually can be
27:27
the engine that drives you Absolutely
27:30
, and for me , that has become my
27:32
why and going back to like whether
27:34
this mindfulness stuff works or not
27:36
. I , you know , I'm
27:38
glad we talked about Max and Zava because
27:41
I had been spending
27:43
all this time sending him appreciative
27:45
joy , and he's another actor
27:48
too . We compete and I mean
27:50
we don't compete for the same roles , but we
27:52
compete . His success I
27:54
measure myself versus his success . We
27:57
left school together . We lived together
27:59
. He was doing better than me . You
28:01
know we've had times where we flip flop , but
28:04
I remember sitting there and he sent me his
28:06
audition tape for Zava and
28:08
when I watched it I burst
28:10
into tears of joy looking
28:13
at this audition tape and I was like he
28:16
just did the best he could and this
28:18
is so good , I
28:20
was so proud of him
28:22
. And then I stopped in that moment and was like , oh
28:25
my God , this stuff , this stuff is working
28:27
. I felt good that . I felt
28:29
good for him and I didn't think about myself
28:31
like , oh well , you're not gonna be
28:33
on Apple TV . It was like , no
28:36
, I want the people I love to succeed
28:38
and if I tapped into that
28:40
as my engine , I was like , wow
28:42
, that could really push me
28:45
forward . You know , a lot of
28:47
time we and I did I
28:49
attacked my workouts out of rage , out
28:51
of anger . My dad died . Screw
28:54
this , I'm gonna lift up that barbell . You
28:58
know F this Like why
29:00
did he die ? Why did he die so young
29:02
? You know I'm getting emotional and
29:05
that's
29:10
not sustainable . Let's just put it that way
29:12
. I started turning the
29:15
point of view going
29:17
to the other side of the coin , which was
29:19
like may everybody in this gym
29:21
, may everybody in my competition , do
29:24
the best that they possibly can
29:26
, because they are , just like me
29:28
, working their butt off trying
29:30
to succeed . They have dreams and
29:33
I want them to succeed too , because that pushes
29:35
me to be better .
29:38
I mean , I don't think we could have better words said
29:40
this time of year , sam right Very
29:42
far for our gym , the
29:44
emotion behind it and the sense of togetherness
29:47
that we have with what's coming up . You know it's
29:49
probably the biggest month of our calendar
29:51
as a gym the open . You
29:54
know there's a lot of modelfulness that
29:56
revolves around failing and how to respond
29:58
to failure . Can you touch on
30:00
, have you ever thought about this perspective of
30:02
the modelfulness that you need to have when you're
30:04
succeeding ? Do
30:07
you go down the path of when
30:10
I hit that barometer that I've
30:12
been reaching for ? What's next ? How
30:14
do I cope with success in a mindful kind of way ?
30:17
Well , it's interesting If you listen
30:20
to any famous actor , or
30:22
you know , I was just watching a documentary about
30:25
Sylvester Stallone , called Sly
30:27
, and he talks about how it's
30:29
really lonely on the top
30:32
of the mountain , the mountain
30:34
top that he had been going
30:36
and going and going to the top of the mountain
30:38
, and he got there and you're like
30:40
, well , what's next ? Right
30:42
, and if we're classifying that
30:44
as quote , unquote , success , you
30:48
can recognize that as being empty
30:50
and by saying it cannot
30:53
be about these superfluous
30:56
goals that we have , that
30:58
it has to be more , that it's
31:00
endless , right , that it's immeasurable
31:03
. And so , yes
31:05
, we could have goals , absolutely
31:07
, there's no doubt . We can put it in front of us , go
31:10
for that target . We could have a target on a workout
31:12
, we could do it . But when that happens
31:15
, we have to have the same
31:17
kind of equanimity , balance
31:19
that we have when things don't work
31:22
out as we do . When they do . That
31:26
it's just recognizing . That's another occurrence
31:28
that feels
31:30
good in this moment . But
31:33
that moment will change . And
31:35
if you start to not chase the
31:37
highs and
31:39
not , then the lows won't come
31:41
as much and then everything kind
31:43
of like is like Bruce Lee , like
31:45
water You're just flowing through
31:48
and that's why he
31:50
says that it's just like you can , in
31:52
that moment , flow and
31:54
then it's on to the next . What's
31:57
the next moment ? And that's what
31:59
mindfulness training is . Mindfulness
32:02
is paying attention to the present
32:04
moment by simply seeing what arises
32:06
, without bias or judgment . Literally
32:09
to the next , to the next .
32:11
So you're listening to Rafi , right now , you
32:14
don't have a pulse . If you're not intrigued by this
32:16
right now , it's really . It's
32:18
just opening up a lot of different doors
32:20
right now for a lot of people . So
32:23
, rafi , I'm intrigued . I
32:25
want to participate in this mindfulness training . Where
32:28
do I start ?
32:32
Well , you start by doing
32:35
it by listening to the 10 minutes
32:37
that I recorded for all of you at Bison
32:39
. But if you're not at Bison
32:41
or you're not listening
32:44
to the recording or anything like that , there
32:46
are so many resources out there that
32:48
teach mindfulness . I
32:51
would suggest making sure that the
32:53
mindfulness training that
32:55
you're going to get
32:57
comes from the
33:00
Buddhist lineage , because
33:02
there's and I'm not to
33:04
discredit any of the breath work or
33:06
any of these other things that are
33:08
out there , but the
33:10
specific mindfulness that
33:13
people are talking about , that they're studying , comes
33:16
from that lineage , and yoga is included
33:18
in that . That's mindful movement
33:21
, and so I would search mindfulness
33:25
taught by the
33:27
Insight Meditation Society or
33:30
John Kabat-Zen or
33:33
the Tibet House or any of these
33:35
places , or come
33:38
to me or any other certified
33:40
mindfulness instructor to learn from
33:43
the lineage of Buddhism mindfulness
33:46
. Buddhism can be touchy
33:51
because it's a quote , unquote religion , but
33:53
what we're doing you're not devoting
33:56
to the religion . Buddhism is non-theistic
33:58
, it's secular . It's the
34:00
practice of mindfulness that's in
34:02
the foundation of Buddhism . So
34:05
you're not going to become a Buddhist by practicing mindfulness
34:08
. In fact , I'm not a Buddhist , and
34:10
so mindfulness
34:12
you can really just listen to me right now . It's
34:15
three simple steps and you can do
34:17
this on your own . You have to make
34:19
sure you find a seat that's
34:21
comfortable , upright
34:23
, but not uptight . Stop
34:26
pausing that position . Step two
34:28
pay attention to your breath . Don't
34:31
control it , and when your mind
34:34
wanders , label it , thinking
34:36
, notice it and come back to the breath
34:38
. That's it . Let's
34:40
repeat Do that every single
34:43
day and you will start to see some
34:46
sort of benefits of paying attention
34:48
.
34:49
What do you think about all of these apps
34:51
that are available that purport
34:54
to help with mindfulness , or how
34:56
does this relate to meditation itself ?
34:59
I think there's a lot of great apps
35:01
out there Headspace
35:03
, calm , 10% , happier
35:05
, waking Up . They all say the same
35:07
thing , and so find who
35:10
speaks to you . But
35:13
what I'm referring to , if you
35:15
hear something similar to what I'm
35:17
saying , which is paying attention to
35:19
the breath and coming back , then you know you're
35:21
doing mindfulness training on whatever
35:24
app that you're on . I think they're all beneficial
35:26
.
35:27
And Howard Stern always talks about transcendental
35:29
meditation . How does that relate ? Is that adjacent
35:32
? Is that the same thing ?
35:33
to you . That's adjacent , that's a different thing
35:35
. That's extremely helpful . A lot
35:37
of celebrities and a lot of famous people do that
35:39
. Transcendental meditation
35:41
is a mantra that you're constantly
35:43
saying to send you into
35:46
a little bit of a trance , but
35:48
it's not paying
35:51
attention , which is the difference . Like
35:54
, transcendental meditation might be relaxing
35:56
and it might clear the mind , but
35:58
what ? Mindfulness can actually be quite
36:01
frustrating because it's very
36:03
active . You're
36:05
allowing things to present themselves
36:08
, but you're alert . And
36:10
I know we're sitting there with our eyes closed
36:12
, but you're very alert
36:14
. In fact , your head is
36:16
constantly spinning
36:18
.
36:20
Is this something that someone needs to plan
36:22
out morning , night , x . Amount of
36:24
time it's
36:26
for the reset challenge ? It's 10 minutes , but
36:28
thinking beyond just the reset challenge
36:31
, would you be putting a cap on
36:33
how long you need to really get the most out
36:35
of this ?
36:36
Well , the studies are showing that
36:39
20 minutes a day is
36:41
the recommended
36:44
dose . I guess you can say that's
36:46
where they've been doing the studies that anything
36:49
before 20 minutes is
36:52
helpful , but it really doesn't give
36:54
the same benefit , and
36:57
that's a lot . It's
36:59
hard to sit for 20 minutes a day and
37:01
find 20 minutes a day , but
37:04
, just like any other habit
37:06
that you want to that you're really
37:08
interested in developing , you
37:10
got to sacrifice something else , and
37:12
for me personally it was social media . I
37:15
recognized after one of my retreats
37:19
that social media was eating
37:21
up a lot of my time . And
37:23
they said on the retreat they're like all this great
37:25
stuff that you're feeling , or negative stuff , if you
37:27
want to continue , if you
37:29
, you have to practice and you got to make
37:31
time for it , and so something's
37:34
gotta go , something's gotta give or
37:36
you need to change your perspective on what
37:38
time is . And so I
37:41
dedicate 20 minutes , no
37:43
matter what . 365
37:46
, sometimes more , but
37:49
not 365 , sometimes
37:51
more than 20 minutes a day to
37:53
meditating . I
37:56
it's non-negotiable for me . It
37:59
is something that I will do if
38:01
I have to wake up at four am , because I gotta
38:03
work out here at five and then I gotta go to set
38:05
for the rest of the day . I
38:08
will do that to meditate . It's
38:10
my job . I treat it like it's my job
38:12
and I treat working out like
38:14
it's my job too , because quite literally
38:16
, it is .
38:19
In terms of pushing the needle . You
38:21
know I'm only about I
38:23
don't know about 10 days into it and
38:25
you know Rafi checks around me How's
38:28
it going and I'm very honest with my answers
38:30
about it . And I
38:32
think I just wanna give a little experience of
38:34
what I've been going through with the week because
38:37
I think others , based on who I
38:39
talk to I talk to a few people about the mindfulness . I've
38:41
heard this a couple times too that
38:43
one of my struggles being a rookie at this
38:45
is I do like
38:48
the quietness , I like that . I'm making
38:50
myself do it . It makes me feel like I'm being disciplined
38:52
. But I have so many thoughts
38:54
racing through my head while I'm doing it and
38:56
instead of me being present
38:58
with myself , I'm trying to think about all the problems
39:00
. You know . Put out this fire , put out that fire . I got
39:03
water in my basement , my son is sick , my
39:05
body hurts . We're changing
39:07
up the schedule . This person's out next week . We gotta find
39:09
like that is what enters my mind during
39:11
this mindfulness training , where I'm trying to solve problems
39:13
rather than looking
39:16
at it from the mindfulness perspective . And I know it's
39:18
this like CrossFit . It's not something you click
39:20
your fingers and you're there Like I'm not gonna be on
39:22
Rafi's level . I'm not going to be able to
39:24
RX this right away . You
39:27
know what ? Can you tell someone like me
39:29
and others that feel
39:32
like , all right , maybe I'm just not cut out for this ? What's
39:34
your response ?
39:36
My response is that you're wrong . You are cut
39:38
out for this . Every single
39:40
person is . And I
39:43
had been thinking about this coming on this podcast
39:45
and I was like , oh , you know what if they start talking
39:47
about the downsides ? And I was like there's actually
39:49
no downside
39:51
except you lost
39:53
10 minutes of your day Quite
39:56
, literally no downside . So
39:58
whatever downside that comes up in your
40:00
mind self-generated
40:03
, right , completely . And
40:05
so what I would say to you and to
40:07
others that are feeling that way ? You're
40:10
not alone . Every single person feels
40:12
that way , even the monks on the hill
40:14
, they're still feeling
40:17
that way . There is doubt . It's the
40:19
human condition . Am I doing
40:21
this right ? Chasing
40:23
a feeling ? Because you may get
40:25
there , you may have a state of bliss and be
40:27
like that's it . I wanna
40:29
go for that again . I wanna go for
40:31
that feeling Every time
40:34
you notice that
40:36
you're being frustrated or you have plans or
40:40
you've got something to do . That's
40:42
a moment of mindfulness . You're doing it
40:44
right . I saw someone in the gym the
40:46
other day . It's like I can't just I can't stop thinking
40:48
. I'm like , well , are you noticing that
40:51
? And she said , yeah , I said you're doing
40:53
it . I know that's frustrating
40:55
to hear , but the more and more
40:58
you recognize that that's how
41:00
you operate , dave , and maybe others
41:02
and probably all of us the
41:06
more you're in control of it . That
41:09
when it pops up , oh my God , I'm planning
41:11
, I'm clinging to the
41:13
fact that I have all this stuff I
41:16
need to do Then you start to
41:18
see that's my habit we
41:20
were talking about this earlier that before
41:22
you started doing mindfulness , that was happening
41:25
too . The only difference is
41:27
now you're paying attention to it and
41:29
so you're now in control
41:31
, like if we're talking about this as training , you're
41:34
now in control of the fact that you
41:36
are thinking that way , because
41:38
now you have recognized it the
41:41
Wizard of Oz , the curtain has been pulled . You're
41:43
like that is how I work , that's
41:45
who I am , that's
41:48
been conditioned into me by
41:50
my own need to survive , which
41:52
is the human condition . And the more
41:55
and more you notice that , you
41:57
start to see the things that are in your way
41:59
and you start to clear the cobwebs , because
42:01
the things that are in your way , you've
42:04
put them there , I've
42:06
put them there , we've all put them there . And
42:08
so maybe , if we look at that
42:10
with a little bit of compassion , we can be like all
42:13
right , well , I don't need that
42:15
anymore . I don't need that
42:17
anymore . And I'm not talking about physical
42:19
things like Instagram or whatever although
42:22
getting rid of some of that stuff could help
42:24
but I'm talking about psychological
42:26
stuff , which is , man , I don't really
42:28
need to create that narrative
42:31
about myself Like
42:33
that was serving me in college or
42:35
that was serving me as a young adult
42:38
, but I don't need
42:40
that anymore .
42:41
That is true . I see a lot of people with preconceptions
42:44
about themselves that I think hold
42:46
them back in terms of their capabilities
42:48
, and me , too , I know that . What
42:51
do you think about people who say , okay , I'm gonna do this
42:53
, I'm gonna have a glass of wine or
42:55
two before I start my mindfulness , or
42:58
a little edible might help me
43:00
a lot with this . Is that something that is
43:02
helpful ? Not helpful .
43:05
I would say not helpful just because we're
43:07
trying to have a clear mind . Not
43:10
that I don't participate in any
43:12
of those things or haven't
43:14
before , but I think what a
43:17
lot of people who are seekers , who are trying
43:19
to get something fixed inside of their mind
43:21
or know they need something fixed , they're
43:24
attracted to drugs or they're attracted
43:26
to a stimulant because it
43:28
does unlock a part of consciousness
43:31
that they can't tap into normally
43:33
. But the reason why I gravitated
43:36
towards mindfulness is because I
43:38
wanted a tool that I
43:40
could use at any time , anywhere , that
43:43
I knew how I got
43:45
there . And so if you
43:48
take an edible or anything like that , not
43:50
that you can't meditate under
43:53
the influence , it's just not
43:55
the actual clarity that you
43:57
could have in your everyday life , because
43:59
you're not gonna take an edible and then go do
44:01
a wad . I mean you might , but
44:03
right , you know it's
44:05
not gonna be the best idea . So
44:08
it's like don't do it while you're meditating
44:10
, because we're trying to train the mind . You
44:13
know , if we're doing it for performance , we're
44:15
trying to do the same thing here
44:19
and there , right , Stimulant
44:21
free .
44:23
Rafi , this was awesome . Man Sam
44:26
, do you have any closing thoughts on mindfulness
44:28
, what it can do for us as people , us as
44:30
crossfitters right , we don't wanna just think about crossfit
44:33
perspective , but
44:35
any combination of the two .
44:36
I think it's probably one of the hardest things
44:39
for people to challenge . I know the
44:41
farther along I go in it , I realize
44:43
, as Rafi said , breaking down
44:45
the things that are preconceived in my mind
44:47
so hard , I
44:49
recognize that I'm starting to recognize them
44:51
but actually sort of facing them . They're
44:54
crutches that I have relied on
44:56
for so long in terms of getting , like
44:58
Rafi said , getting by through so many situations
45:00
and I don't
45:02
know if I have
45:04
the you know strength
45:07
to do that some days and I
45:09
think for all of us . If you
45:12
know , I actually came into reset
45:14
, not planning on doing it , but after talking to
45:16
you today , I'm gonna start . I'm
45:19
gonna start today and
45:21
One subscriber . I got
45:23
two right here and
45:26
I'm going to start with the
45:28
scaled version and see where
45:31
that takes me . I don't think I'm gonna like a lot
45:33
of what I see . Like Dave said , there's you
45:35
know , I feel like that's going to start . That's
45:38
going to be the tough start for me , but
45:40
let me stick through it , through reset and
45:42
I'll see what happens with that .
45:45
Yeah , echo that , that it's
45:47
definitely not something that I would naturally do on
45:49
myself , and this part of what we preach here at
45:51
reset is trying something new that could
45:53
help you know , help you in the long run . And
45:56
one thing Rafi said to me
45:58
as I was starting this is like you really have to lean
46:00
into who you are , you know , not run away from
46:02
it . And I think that's one
46:04
of the most important things that we
46:06
all need to know if
46:08
we're trying to pursue betterment of anything , whether
46:11
it be physical , mental , emotional , combination
46:13
of the three . You really have to truly lean into
46:15
who you are , be present with who you are , know who you
46:17
are , and not run away from it
46:19
. Because , just
46:21
like anyone that would come into the gym looking
46:24
for a new fitness program , I would never look at
46:26
them and say , hey , you're a little too old to
46:28
start here , you're a little too out of shape
46:30
to start here . I would never say that
46:32
to anyone because I truly don't believe it
46:34
and
46:37
it would be foolish of me to say , hey , I'm a little
46:39
too experienced in life , I'm too old , I have
46:41
too much going on , I am not good enough
46:44
mentally to take this
46:46
on . So I'm really glad that
46:48
I'm leaning into it . I'm glad that Rafi's a resource
46:50
. I'm glad that he's putting himself out there , very grateful
46:52
and I know others are as well and I'm
46:54
really looking forward to where this brings me and
46:56
others who would have thought that a professional
46:58
actor as our guest would have been the realist person
47:01
on our podcast .
47:02
Yeah , Well , you
47:04
know , there's a lot of misconceptions about acting
47:06
too , and I think that
47:08
that's one of the things that you
47:11
know . People don't really think about that If
47:13
an actor is , you know , being
47:15
a magician , if we're trying to fake it , then
47:18
you're not gonna feel it . Our job
47:20
is not to lie . It's to reveal
47:22
the human condition authentically , so
47:25
it could help you . That's why I got into
47:27
it to begin with .
47:29
I have a feeling we're gonna see Rafi on here again , sam Hope
47:31
. So Thank you guys . I'll see you
47:35
next week . Thank you everybody for taking the time out of your
47:37
day to listen to the Herdfit podcast
47:39
. Be on the lookout for next week's episode
47:41
.
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