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Hey there , welcome back . I'm

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Karen Hall , your host of

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the Hero Within podcast . I'm

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passionate about sharing inspiring

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true stories of unsung heroes

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who've overcome some of life's most challenging

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adversities . Come along with me

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and learn how you too can

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find hope and healing to return

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to love . How

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are you doing ?

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I'm just so happy . I'm just I'm

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so happy to be here with you and finally

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get a chance to sit down and talk with you and

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be in the space , and I'm

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just like , I'm just happy .

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Oh , I'm so happy to be with you too . It's

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been a long time . We've been trying to coordinate and get

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together .

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Oh , I know it's been a long time , but here we

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are and we're just going to fill this space

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with just so much warmth

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and just energy , and just I just know

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it .

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You're so kind and you're so beautiful

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. You're just beaming , I feel

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it .

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I'm just wonderful . I just there really aren't

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any words for it . I'm just wonderful .

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Oh , that just makes me so happy . It's just

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such a celebration , I know

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, I know , simone , tell us

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about you , introduce yourself and

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tell us about you .

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Okay , let's see . First of all , I am

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Simone Fairchild . I

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am an actress , screenwriter

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. I'm going to be directing , coming

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up here soon . I'm also a producer . I've

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started on the path of singing

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as well , and

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I was born into a martial arts family

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, so I'm now a master

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of Tian Shan Pai , which is Northern

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Shaolin Kung Fu . So I've been doing

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it since I was three and a half , and I'm also a

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mom to the most amazing nine year old little

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boy that there is on the

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planet . That's so awesome . I'm

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also the CEO and founder of

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I On DV . That's

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my nonprofit . It is the movement to

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eradicate domestic violence . I

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am a survivor of domestic

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abuse , but now a thriver

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and let me show you guys my shirt . This is thrivers

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, thriver , post-abuse

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and boy has that taken

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seven years for me to become

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a thriver . And it has taken

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seven years of consistent

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growth , both emotionally

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and spiritually . Those two things were absolutely

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tied together the entire time , and whether it

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was scary , dark , unknown

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, no matter what it was , I had to keep going

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. My mission is to

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help people learn

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how to thrive again , and

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, for the most part , human beings have gotten away

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from knowing what it feels like

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, what it is , what it looks like to thrive

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. So that's my mission on the planet

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to do that through my nonprofit and

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then through my platform

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as an artist and creator . Oh , and

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I'm also a mom to the most amazing

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nine year old little boy that there is on

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the planet . So this

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is one part that I'm actually dealing with in

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my spiritual program now . I was

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molested as a child . I was young I

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think I was six , but I know it ended

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when I was nine and

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that was never dealt with . It was never

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unpacked . So I'm unpacking

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and dealing with all that right now and

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because I've done so much

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other spiritual work and

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clearing out everything else , I'm

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starting from a really good place in

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dealing with that .

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Yeah , so I was going to ask you tell

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me about your spiritual journey .

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As an adult , I felt that my

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spiritual journey began

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hand in hand with trying

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to heal from the domestic abuse , and

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I call it me chasing after God

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, like my hair was on fire , like I literally

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couldn't get enough . At the time

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I was a member of a church called Rocky

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Peak and that's in I think

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it's Chatsworth , california , and

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let me tell you that place God is definitely

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there . God's spirit is in the

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trees , in every brick , in every

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drop of concrete , in every person

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. And I remember

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the day that they announced baptisms

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. You would have

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thought I was surged with energy . I'm like , oh my

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gosh , I gotta get back . Oh my gosh , oh my gosh , oh my gosh

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. And I would look up from my

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study and I would have spent

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three hours working on

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that study , having no idea where that

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time went . I was just so engrossed

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and I was going back and

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back further , identifying the

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times in my life where

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whoa , that must have been God

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that helped me through that . There's no

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way , especially through the molestation , for instance

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. I was really young . How

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did I get through that ? With

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no help , no support , no

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, nothing , being so young

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.

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Tell me more about that . When you looked back , and

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what were the things that you saw , about

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how God was with you , because that's such a

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joyous feeling and you

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can see , oh , he was there with

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me had to have been when I was

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going through my growth as an adult .

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You start to understand what

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is within you and what

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your emotions start to mean , and as you're

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going back in your life and you're unpacking

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everything , you start to notice

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. When you're recalling

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certain instances , I remember having

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this emotion or this feeling , and now that

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I know what this feeling means , I know

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that he must have been there . And

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so there were certain qualities that I had when

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I was a kid . I was always very quiet

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, I always stood in the background . I really never

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said much of anything . I was basically

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raised to be seen and not heard

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, like pretty much women in

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general . But I was also

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very strong and very resilient

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and I think part of that was

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just , naturally , who I was

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and am , but also , naturally

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, what came from the whole martial arts and

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the discipline of that and the aspects certain

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aspects of martial arts . But there

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were certain qualities that I had with

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other people . So I always befriended

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other kids who were

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either being bullied or needed

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friends or needed support or wanted love

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or whatever . And when I look

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back I was like where did I get

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that from ? How did I know

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to do that ? Why was I compelled to

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reach out to other kids and bring them home , like

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my dad always said that I would always

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bring stray cats home , meaning

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I would always bring the kids home who

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needed a family , needed love

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or being bullied and stuff . And so , given

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the type of kid that I was , being

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so quiet and so naturally withdrawn

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and whatnot , where did I

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have that strength , where

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was that superhero quality to reach

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out and protect other people ? And

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that was 100% the God

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within me . And now I have learned

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how to grow that spark

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within me and let that flow

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without . I'm

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really learning to be able to

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let what is within

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be without . And that can be scary , given

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the type of world that we live in that's not

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really tolerant of emotion

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and especially women being

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strong and showing

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our emotion and really fully being

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who we are . It's ooh

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, it can be kind of rough , but I'm

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not staying in that cage anymore and

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I don't really care what anybody else says

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about it , what anybody else feels about it . If

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they don't like it , they can change the channel . But if you want

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to show up for it , I'm here for it and

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I'll show you how to do it yourself . Yeah

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, so that's how

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it started and that's how it's grown . I just

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love how you just own it so

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, so strong within you . And

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when you discover it , you have this

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feeling and there really aren't

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any words in

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language to describe how powerful

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it is . You just have to show it . You know

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how , sometimes , like you

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hear in Hollywood . But you'll hear certain people say

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, yeah , she's got that it quality or

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he's got that it quality . This is

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exactly what it

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is . The only way you can describe it is

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she's got it . There's not really a sentence

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, but you see it . When

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they're in your presence , like you feel it

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when you're in their presence , it's that spark

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that they're letting , they're being so brave

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to let out and let

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show and let fuel whatever

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their work is , whatever they're speaking

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of or speaking from , or being , or

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living or doing . That's their inner

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spark that they're allowing to let flow

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and it's just like the feeling is just

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there are no words

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.

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there are no words to me

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it's being aligned and it's

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being aligned with this God given

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purpose . And to . First of all , I

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know you've probably heard this quote , but the

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most important day in our life is I

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think it's when we were born . And the second most important

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day is when we figure out why and

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I think that's what you're saying is that

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you have figured out why and you

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have figured out how to use these

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God-given gifts that you have and

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that burning feeling inside you that

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, even as a child , you are reaching out

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to help other people and to nurture

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them . And it's pretty amazing because when

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you felt like you didn't get that , to

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be able to have that , like you said , where

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did it come from ? It had to have come from

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God .

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Yep , yep , man , purpose

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is something else and we're all born with it . But

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you only know what that purpose is If

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you look within , the hero

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within . If you find that hero

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within , that is

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your purpose and you keep your

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eye on that ball . You put that hero on

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that horizon , whether that horizon is

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10 feet away or 10,000

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miles away , wherever you feel

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comfortable , you put that purpose

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on that horizon and

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you keep your eye on that ball and

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God will help you get to

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that horizon every single

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time . Is that purpose , boy ? Yeah

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, purpose , and

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that purpose too . You keep that purpose

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in mind , you keep that purpose in your heart

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and your soul and you are aligned with it and

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you literally will call in

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your energy , will call in Every

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tool , every person

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, everything that you need

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in order to accomplish that

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purpose . Because we need to

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remember that God is living through each and

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every one of us . He can't be

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here to be a podcaster

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. He can't be here to be an actress

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. He can't be here to be like an architect

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. He can't be here to do that . So he has to live

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through all of us . So he will certainly

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give us , whatever it is that we

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need to live , our greatest selves

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that hero within , because he's

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going to be up there having a party . If each

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and every one of us is doing what we

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are meant to do , so it will behoove

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us to listen to that purpose , because

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it's going to make us the happiest we

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could be , and it's also going to make God

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just as happy as he can possibly be too

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.

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It's so true . It's so true because

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when I feel like I am doing what

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I was meant to do , it reminds me

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of being his hands down here , and

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when I'm in pain and somebody comes and comforts

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me , I feel like they're God's hands to

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help me in my life , and I feel like we

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have that within us , too

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, to do the same thing , and I feel the same

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way that he's celebrating when we

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do that .

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Yeah , and when

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someone comes to you when you're in

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pain and they love on you and they support

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you , that is that unconditional

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oh , I'm getting goosebumps . Do you get those goosebumps

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? Yes , but yes , I'm getting goosebumps . That

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is that unconditional love

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that we all have within us , that

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God is giving you to give to that person

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, because each and every one of us were

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hardwired for love . Like each and every one of us

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, no matter who we are , how old

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we are , what our culture is , we

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all need that love

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, to give it and to receive it when

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people are in need of it , and you can give that to

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them . That is God . That's

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nothing but God .

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Absolutely , and it's

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been interesting in my life when there

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are times when I haven't felt loving towards

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somebody and maybe they've done something

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or there's been some kind of a conflict and

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I've asked God please

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give me your love , please let your

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love flow through me , because I'm

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not feeling it right now . And

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he does every single time

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. He softens my heart and he gives

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me his love and that , to me

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, is the most incredible miracle

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.

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Yeah , yeah , yeah

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, I see that a lot . This

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is what comes to mind when you mention something like that

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. So you have a scenario where

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someone has been taken

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in the case of a murder or something and

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then you hear about the mom of the child

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whose life was taken and

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that mom says I

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forgive this person . And

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this mom is just in tears and

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she absolutely forgives this person

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. And this person is now crying because

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he or she feels the love from

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this person that he took

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something so great from . That

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to me is like the most ultimate

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show of unconditional love is when that

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can happen , because that woman

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, that mom , has , honestly

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, every human right in the world to hate

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that person's guts , but she

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found it within herself to

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forgive that person and love

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this person and let them go

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in whatever way God deems

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necessary . And I get

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that . I get it Like that's

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huge , oh absolutely .

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I think that , like when you talk about the

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gospel and living like the Savior

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, would that's the ultimate test

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right there . And have you had

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experiences in your life where you've had to

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forgive ?

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Yes , yes , yes

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, one really big one . So

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my abuser , it's

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been a seven year challenge

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. It's been a seven year thing , or actually

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longer , and I had never

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hated him . I've never really hated anyone

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. I don't see the point in hating someone because

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, really , that energy that you're creating

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within yourself , that is within you , so

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that person isn't feeling that hate , you're

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feeling that hate and that's just creating more hate in

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your life . So what is the point ? But

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I never saw the point in hating

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him , because what he

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really needed was love . He's

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not , he's not able to create

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love the way we are

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meant to and really , in his very

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unhealthy way , he was trying to go about

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getting love and giving love . He

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just doesn't know how , and I've

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had to forgive him and

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, realistically , in situations like that , what

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you have to do first and foremost is to forgive yourself

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, because , of course , there are going

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to be times where you feel guilty

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. You feel like you might have caused

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it . What did I do to cause this ? And blah

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, blah , blah , blah , blah . But you didn't cause

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anything . You were just being yourself . I was just

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being who I was meant to be and

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just so happened . Someone was not

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healthy and he

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needed love , so he needed

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to be forgiven and , to be

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honest with you , he has given me two

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of the most important

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things that I will ever have in my life and

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one of them is my introduction to God

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. Like , really truly my

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introduction to God , because if I didn't have the experience

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with him then I wouldn't have

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been running after God , like I say , with

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my hair on fire Because I needed

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to understand . I

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am equal parts left , right and right

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brain , so I really needed

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to understand why something

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so horrific happened to me , when

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really all I've done in the world is

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try to make it so that other people

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feel loved since like birth

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, like why did

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this happen ? I have to understand and in

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doing that , I had to understand him

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and who he was . And

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in my quest for God and

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understanding him and going through my healing

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, I understand

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who he is , why

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he is the way that he is , how he came

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to be the way that he is , and

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I get it as unhealthy as it is . I

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understand and I

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wish that I could give him

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the love that he needs , but

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he's just not in a

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space soul wise

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in order to be able to receive

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it and give

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it back out into the into world in

16:34

a healthy way . So in order for

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me to forgive him , in

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order for me to love him , I have to do it from afar

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.

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That's such a powerful thought , though , to understand

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that he didn't

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know how to show love . He didn't

16:48

know how . That just wasn't in his capability

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. And when you can understand

16:53

that someone is not able to love , it

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is easier . You're able to love

16:58

, but he's not at that same level

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. He doesn't have that same understanding

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or that same capability . And

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so , when you said , what he needs

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is love , I can forgive him

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and I can send him on his way , and

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that is such a powerful thing

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to then allow him

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and God to work it out and you to

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just send him loving thoughts and hope

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that his life goes better or whatever

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. What a gift . And what's so

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ironic through the process is

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that forgiveness is not just a

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gift for them , but it's such a powerful

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gift for ourself . You were free

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, you liberated yourself from the

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torment and the pain by

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forgiving . It's such a beautiful

17:41

irony .

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Yeah , and it lets yourself

17:45

off the hook . And

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the only way that you can get to the point where

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you can let yourself off the hook is

17:51

to allow yourself to go through the scary

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process of healing . And

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healing is scary because you really just don't

17:59

know what you're going to find when you look

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within . And

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that's another place where ooh , getting goosebumps

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, yep , there they are . That's

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another place where your relationship

18:11

with God comes in , because you're in

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the space , you're in the within , and

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the within is dark because you just can't

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see in there and you can't see what's

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in the dark . So

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the only anchor that you really have

18:24

in there is God . So every

18:26

time you open the door in that dark

18:28

room , god is there with you , his

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spirit is there with you and his spirit is there within

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you . Healing and , oh

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man , I just I can't give enough props

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to God . I just can't .

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I know and like even when I was saying about

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forgiving , I believe that the

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only way that I am able to forgive

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is because God gives me that

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forgiveness . It's not natural

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, like you said , that woman whose child

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had been murdered , she would have every right to hate

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the murderer's guts , and so it's

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not a natural way , but

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with God he enables us

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and that , to me , is

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so joyous because I can feel

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that when it happens , I know it's

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not me , I know that it's Him , it's

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not me . When I can feel God

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enabling me to do whatever it is

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to forgive , to love , to

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use my gift , to put it out in the world , to

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go through that scary thing . It's

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always such a joyous experience

19:26

for me because I know it's not me . I

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am nobody as far as the

19:31

world view , but I'm

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somebody important to God and he

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uses me to do things

19:38

whatever it is , to reach out to somebody , like you

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said , who's hurting , and when

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he inspires me to do something

19:44

, and then I see that

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it was God . Thank you , lord , thank

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you for telling me and giving

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me that nudge to reach out to someone

19:54

, because I didn't know . Personally

19:56

, I had no knowledge of the situation , and

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so I think that you felt that

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nudge . Ever since you've been a child

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, you have felt the Lord moving through

20:05

you to bless other people . Well

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, this is so fascinating with your healing

20:10

journey because I

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can see that God is

20:14

opening you to even more

20:17

ability to give . Because

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as you remove whatever is in that dark

20:21

corner , that dust , that mold

20:24

that's growing over there , then the light

20:26

shines and you have more to

20:28

give .

20:29

And it makes you wonder too , like you're

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sitting here in your skin and

20:34

when you become aware

20:36

that God is using you as a vessel

20:38

and you understand

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the vastness of all

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God is . He's created

20:44

universe on top of universes

20:47

, on top of universes that we don't even know

20:49

about , and he's

20:51

going to use little on me , like how am

20:53

I going to fit all of that in

20:55

here ? And then , really , at the same

20:58

point , I'm just like do I have

21:00

the capacity to be

21:02

able to harness all of that

21:04

? And that really worried me for a while

21:06

, I would say for a little while . It hindered

21:09

what I call my glow up and it scared

21:11

me . I'm like how

21:13

I understand what he wants me to

21:15

do ? He wants me to

21:17

impact the world through the

21:19

gifts that he's given me . Okay , wonderful , got

21:22

that part , that makes sense . But

21:24

he wants to use me as a vessel . Like

21:26

all of his energy has got to come down through me and

21:28

I've got to give it to everybody . What

21:31

I'm like , how do I eat what

21:33

he's bringing me out now ? But

21:35

now that I understand

21:37

it goes back to saying that he doesn't

21:39

give you more than you can handle , right

21:42

? So he's given

21:44

me the gift of acting . He's

21:46

given me the gift of writing , he's

21:48

given me the boss-like nature of

21:51

directing which I never thought

21:53

I was going to do , and producing

21:56

and now singing , and the

21:58

mission of healing trauma . And

22:00

who knows what else there's going to be

22:02

for the next 50 , 60

22:04

, 70 years , who knows ? But I

22:07

now understand how

22:10

he moves to

22:12

use me as a vessel . I don't

22:14

have to be his size . If

22:16

he didn't want to use human beings as

22:19

vessels , we wouldn't exist . So

22:21

we're all here to be used as a

22:23

vessel individually . And

22:25

when I get the confirmation

22:28

that I am being

22:30

used , especially in the moment , like , I'll

22:32

get up and talking about the goosebumps and stuff

22:34

, or there'll be synchronicities in

22:36

certain instances or , for instance

22:38

, he'll bring a person into my

22:41

space , like you mentioned , and

22:43

it's through the conversation or after the conversation

22:46

I'll get the confirmation oh

22:49

, I got it , got it , got it , thanks

22:51

, okay . So

22:54

it is the greatest feeling in

22:56

the world to know that you're being

22:58

used by God as

23:00

a vessel . And I'm just like I

23:03

imagine , like when I grow . I have this

23:05

list of things that

23:07

, like , I meditate on almost every day

23:09

, and one of them

23:11

is I'm one stage

23:14

at the Oscars , accepting my Oscar

23:16

for my film . And , of

23:18

course , I am falling all over my words

23:21

, I'm crying , I can't breathe , but

23:23

I stop and I just look

23:25

at everybody , being

23:27

aware that they're just

23:29

like me . They all

23:32

have souls , they all have that spark . They're

23:34

all beautiful in and of themselves

23:36

and I just sit and I look at them and

23:40

I'm just like . I am so grateful

23:42

for each and every one of you . I

23:44

am so grateful that each and every one of

23:46

you have had the courage to live

23:48

your greatest self . I

23:52

can see through all of you , your soul

23:54

, your goodness , your brightness , your spark

23:56

, and you all are

23:58

beautiful , beautiful

24:00

. And I'm not talking about your gowns . I don't care

24:02

if you're wearing Oscar de la Renta , I don't care

24:05

who you're wearing , I don't care who did your makeup

24:07

. I don't care about any of that I'm talking about

24:09

. I am looking at each and every one of

24:11

your souls and you are so beautiful

24:13

. I just want to say thank you for

24:15

being yourselves and having

24:17

the courage to be yourselves , because

24:20

there's so much that you are doing

24:22

for each and every one of us and it just

24:24

. I think that people

24:26

are just . They don't know how beautiful

24:28

they are and , given

24:31

how the world is , it's made people so

24:33

scared to be who they are . Please

24:35

, if you need to latch on to somebody else and

24:37

they latch on to you , that's the whole point . Human

24:40

beings are communal . Latch

24:42

on to someone so you can

24:44

help them and they can help you . Look

24:46

inward and have

24:50

that courage to unpack and heal

24:52

and let that glow up happen

24:54

. Glow up , glow up

24:56

. People have such beauty within

24:59

them and the beauty just doesn't even

25:01

describe it . And

25:04

just allow yourself to feel that

25:06

glow up and feel that energy and

25:09

you just start having dance

25:12

parties just out of nowhere , just by yourself in your

25:14

room , just like today . My son thought

25:16

I was nuts , like I woke him up this morning and

25:19

I'm having a dance party just out of nowhere

25:21

. They have it four times before we

25:23

left for me to take him to school . I'm just like

25:25

what is going on ? I'm

25:27

just having dance parties Just in the kitchen , just having a

25:29

dance party , no music's on , but that's the

25:31

glow up and

25:33

I realized we're going to spend this entire conversation

25:35

talking about God . Yep

25:38

.

25:38

Great Because my hair is on fire . Chasing after him too

25:41

, still .

25:42

Like it doesn't ever go away . It's

25:44

like the more you heal yourself

25:47

and the more you look inward and the more

25:49

you want to know . And because

25:51

he's omnipotent , which

25:54

means there's no end to

25:56

him , which means there's no end

25:58

to you getting to know who he

26:00

is and who he is in you . So

26:03

our hair is going to be on fire until

26:05

we get to be in .

26:06

What's so amazing is when you're talking about

26:08

how big he is and what he

26:10

wants us to do is so big . And

26:13

so we get yes , okay , he wants us to use our gift

26:15

, but then how and how am I going to do

26:17

this ? And I remember when I've

26:19

had those feelings like I need to do this

26:21

thing , I need to use my gift in this way , and

26:23

I thought , but I don't know how . And

26:26

the answer always comes you don't

26:28

have to know how . I

26:30

am the . I am the how . I am the way

26:32

maker . I will make the way for you . All

26:35

you need to do is just step

26:37

out into the dark and use your faith

26:39

and I will guide you . And when you

26:41

said he doesn't give us things

26:43

that we can't handle , I always think

26:45

when I'm in a situation , I think wait , but this

26:48

is too much , this is too hard for me

26:50

to handle . You gave me something that's too

26:52

hard . He always says it's not too hard

26:54

with me . Yeah , just

26:56

keep . Keep reaching out

26:58

for me , hold my hand , I'm with you and

27:01

together we can do this hard thing

27:03

. And that

27:05

has always brought me so much joy . Because when

27:08

I , like you said , when you feel him

27:10

with you and you feel him helping

27:12

you . It . It

27:14

is such a comfort . And then when

27:16

I'm not aligned with him , ooh , it

27:18

just feels lonely and I

27:21

feel a bit lost and I'm like

27:23

, ooh , gotta get back there , gotta get back aligned again

27:25

. I rely on him to show

27:27

me the way . When I think of him as the way maker

27:29

, that is also

27:31

such a comfort , because so many times

27:33

I do feel like I'm in the dark just trying

27:36

to figure something out . It's

27:38

a mystery , I don't know how to do that thing

27:40

. And he just says

27:42

just trust me . Just trust and

27:44

keep stepping forward , one little step

27:46

at a time , and I will shine the light and show

27:48

you the next step . That's all you need to know .

27:50

Exactly , exactly . What

27:53

I'm finding is that sometimes , in fact a lot of the times

27:55

, when you're in a space where

27:58

it's too much , that

28:00

so much is flying at you also

28:02

during that time and you feel overwhelmed

28:04

, and I find that

28:07

the saying be still

28:09

in that time

28:11

, be still and

28:14

allow yourself to just be in

28:16

the moment . And sometimes it might

28:18

take a day . You just might need to take a day and

28:20

just decompress and

28:22

just allow yourself to sit in the quiet

28:24

. Or it might take just 10 minutes sitting in the car . Just

28:27

be still in the moment and allow

28:30

all of the extraneous noise

28:32

to fall away , and

28:34

he'll give it to you and then he'll pop into your brain oh

28:36

, okay , awesome , you'll

28:39

get the direction and then

28:41

you will step out and

28:44

your foot will land on him . Yeah

28:46

, and he'll give you the tools to give you the direction

28:48

and just keep it moving . That's right

28:51

.

28:51

So tell me how is he guiding you right

28:53

now ? Thank

29:00

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