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Welcome to this week's episode. I'm telling you right

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now, watch this till the end. I don't know

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what we're going to talk about yet, but

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I know that the last time you were here, it was

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one of our most powerful shows. Yeah, so

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good. You're such a good interviewer though.

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That makes a difference. Alexi, welcome

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to the show. Thank you. So

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listen, I want to get right into it. You know, you

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and Preston were just at our

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inner circle relationship intensive. Yeah. You

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helped me and everybody there really

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move through some energy. You know,

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in 30 seconds or less, why do

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you think they should listen to this thing till the very end?

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Well, you know, everybody wants change, right?

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If you're listening to this podcast, you want

0:46

change. And oftentimes we don't realize the thing

0:48

that we want to change isn't changing because

0:50

our body is in the way. And

0:53

so we're wherever we go on this journey

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of our conversation, you better believe

0:57

I'm going to bring the body, the nervous

0:59

system, somatics and what it

1:02

means to actually build a body to hold the

1:04

life you desire and the life you want, because

1:06

that is the fundamental piece that's missing. And I

1:08

and I want to add to that. I want

1:10

to say that the work that we did was so

1:12

powerful. You know, if

1:15

you follow us on Instagram, you'll you'll see and

1:17

maybe the team could put up some B roll

1:19

of when this was happening, but we did a

1:21

workshop where we were all hugging. Yeah. And we

1:24

were practicing the dynamic of giving a

1:26

hug versus receiving a hug. That's

1:28

right. And I, I realized

1:30

in myself, my God, after all the

1:32

work I've done, I still have a difficult

1:34

time receiving. Yeah, isn't

1:37

it wild? It's like you can do all the things you can

1:39

know all the things you can study all the stuff. And this,

1:41

this was my journey, too. I was probably about 15 years

1:44

into personal development as a student.

1:47

And recognizing that I really had a

1:49

lot of guards against intimacy that I

1:51

couldn't figure out. Like I knew, but

1:54

I couldn't let it go. And it

1:56

was because my body wasn't conditioned to

1:58

open in intimate. space. It couldn't

2:00

receive because it was afraid to. It

2:03

was pattern to close. So I

2:06

love that you actually got to play with the

2:08

with a group of people. It was really awesome

2:10

to see that. But this is why nervous system

2:12

work is so foundational to everything that we do.

2:16

Because if we don't train our body to open

2:18

when it's conditioned and pattern to close and collapse,

2:21

we're going to get the pattern because the

2:23

body's always going to pick the path of

2:25

least resistance, which is our patterns and our

2:27

conditions, which for most of us is built

2:30

in before the age of seven, which

2:32

is crazy. Because we don't even know

2:34

what's happening. We don't in the biological imperative like,

2:37

hey, we got to form our nervous system. We

2:39

were in this environment, wherever

2:41

you're born into whatever I'm born into,

2:44

we're born into an environment that we

2:46

can't control. That environment is set up

2:48

in a particular way that our system

2:50

goes, how do I find safety here?

2:52

Okay, I got to be out of the way or, okay,

2:55

I need to learn how to deal with chaos,

2:57

or I need to be a pleaser, I need

2:59

to lean in and make sure everybody else is

3:01

good. And we learn and condition our form of

3:03

safety, even if it's painful for us as adults.

3:06

That's why we keep doing the same stuff.

3:09

And it's what leads us to not

3:13

being able to receive financial abundance

3:15

that not being able to be in

3:17

a beautiful, loving relationship, not

3:19

be and as a result, we're talking about the

3:21

body, like, not live healthy,

3:24

long lives that that our bodies

3:26

are so tight. As a society,

3:28

we're so we're like walking around like

3:30

this. And we wonder why

3:32

we can't receive financial abundance, because there's

3:34

no life force, there's no give and

3:36

flow from our body, the ebb and

3:38

flow, the tides of our system and

3:41

our energy has to have an open

3:43

channel to move. And most of

3:45

us are holding on so tight and we don't

3:47

even know it. I mean, that was me for

3:49

over a decade. I had no idea, no idea.

3:51

I was teaching this work. I had no

3:54

idea how tight and closed I was until

3:56

I knew. And I knew and I'm like, Oh, Everybody's

4:00

got to learn. I got it. I gotta I gotta

4:02

learn this I gotta master this and then I got

4:04

to teach this because this is This is it. So,

4:07

you know before we came on we

4:09

were talking to Jen about moving and

4:11

all the things. Yeah, and You

4:14

know, I couldn't help but remember that the last

4:16

time you were on the show You

4:18

had told me like straight up look pressin

4:21

and I have to decide if this is

4:23

something we want to stay in I

4:25

vividly remember that. Yeah, because I remember it

4:28

the maturity of it like

4:30

the unattachment of it and like and it takes

4:33

a deep deep level of work to like Understand

4:36

that you know, we don't own anyone

4:38

that and we're not attached to anyone

4:40

everything just is. Yeah Yeah, even if

4:43

we have kids and businesses and all

4:45

the things together. That's right. That's right

4:48

And then to see where you guys

4:50

are at and to see that you

4:52

not only said it but I felt

4:54

it in your energies to see

4:57

you working together at the Intensive.

4:59

Yeah, it was like wow. You guys are

5:01

at a deeper level than ever before so

5:03

I want to know about that first Let's

5:05

start there. How did that all happen?

5:08

well, the last time we chatted we were at a

5:11

very critical point in our marriage where We

5:14

were very transparently looking at like hey Do we

5:16

want to opt in for another 10 years of

5:19

this, right? We have a lot

5:21

that we're kind of enmeshed in together with

5:23

our work and our kids obviously Um,

5:25

but this gets to be a conscious choice and it

5:28

didn't feel like we were choosing each other at that

5:30

time So we took 90 days

5:32

and we said, okay We're just we're

5:34

not going to make any hard or fast decisions

5:36

Like let's you go to the dojo and like

5:38

work on yourself. I'm going to go to the

5:40

dojo work on myself Let's

5:43

see what happens Leave it

5:45

up to god, right? And in

5:47

those 90 days like I feel like we didn't even make

5:50

it 30 and we're like, oh, yeah We're doing this, you

5:52

know, it's just so clear I

5:54

went so Deep into

5:56

my own work as a feminine

5:59

woman And for me,

6:01

again, I've kind of skated the surface of

6:03

this work from a very intellectual standpoint. I

6:05

understood it. I had done

6:07

a lot of courses with like the big names out there and

6:09

I knew a lot. But

6:12

things weren't changing in my body. There was

6:14

still a resistance to receding. There was still

6:16

a resistance to allowing my man to lead.

6:18

There was still a resistance to softening

6:22

and resting and like being in beauty and

6:24

being in flow and being in my body.

6:26

There was still resistance to it and I

6:28

couldn't quite figure it out until I started

6:31

coupling everything I know about the nervous system

6:33

with everything I know about somatics in the body with

6:36

everything I was learning about the feminine. I'm like, they

6:39

inherently play together. Right? So

6:42

I started building my own practices. I was going through kind

6:44

of like a dark night of the soul alongside

6:46

one of my girlfriends who was going through

6:48

a similar one. And we started getting very

6:50

intentional about the work we were doing. It

6:53

was lighting me up in a way that

6:56

Preston was like, wow,

6:58

like I don't know what's happening,

7:01

but holy shit. And

7:03

I could feel it. And I didn't

7:05

do it for him. And I think that was the

7:07

most important part is I really did it because I

7:09

didn't like the woman I had become in the process

7:11

of our marriage. It was like, this

7:14

isn't me. What didn't you like about her? She

7:17

was so serious. She

7:19

was tired all the time. She

7:22

always focused out. Always. I

7:24

mean, it was everybody else's needs before hers.

7:27

It was working until

7:30

I couldn't work anymore. It was

7:32

this constant state of what

7:34

I now call survival. Right? My

7:37

system never felt safe to land in

7:39

my body, to be in the lived

7:41

experience of my life through my body.

7:44

So I was constantly like creating more

7:46

and making more money and successful, like

7:49

full type A, full overachiever, like to

7:51

the team, like boss, babe. Yes.

7:54

But not someone that felt free in my body.

7:56

And it's so funny. Like I was having this

7:58

conversation with my friends. And I

8:02

feel like I'm a woman now who

8:04

looks at my life that I created three years

8:06

ago and before. And the life

8:08

I created back then I created in search

8:10

of freedom. It's like, oh, I'll build

8:12

this business because this will make me free. I'll

8:15

travel here because then I'll feel free. And

8:17

I built this whole life around what I

8:19

thought would conditionally bring me

8:21

freedom. Now I'm

8:23

a woman that lives in my body that knows that I

8:25

am free. Like I've liberated

8:27

myself. And so now I'm looking at

8:29

all these things I created from this false idea of what's going

8:32

to give me freedom. I'm like, I don't even want that anymore.

8:34

So now everything's changing, which is cool.

8:36

And also a little crazy. Yeah.

8:40

I'm like, oh, okay. I have to undo a lot.

8:43

But the path and the life I'm living now

8:45

is so deeply aligned that it's

8:48

just incredible. And so that inspired Preston.

8:51

It allowed him to show up in different ways without

8:53

me doing any work, without me trying to change him

8:55

without like, I just took all the pressure off like,

8:57

hey, you need to just change. You need

9:00

to do this. Why aren't you blah, blah, you know, the laundry list. And

9:04

he just felt free to actually like, choose

9:07

himself and say, you know,

9:09

what type of man do I want to be like,

9:11

I want to show up for this woman now because

9:13

of how you're showing up is inspiring the masculine in

9:15

me to lead and to contain and to hold

9:18

in a new way that he's never had

9:20

to. And so, you

9:22

know, we probably didn't have the space

9:24

for it. No, yeah, at all. Because I

9:27

wouldn't allow it. I didn't trust it. I

9:29

didn't trust his leadership. And it wasn't because

9:31

of how he left. I couldn't trust anybody's

9:33

leadership. Yeah, I couldn't. Why? Because

9:35

when I trust in my caregivers at a young age,

9:37

they led me down paths that didn't work. Yeah.

9:41

Right. And so again, until we

9:43

know what our system is set up for

9:45

and conditioned towards, we don't actually know how

9:47

we're resisting the exact thing we're complaining about.

9:50

Like, I was like, why isn't my man leading? Well,

9:53

I'm not letting him. There's no room. You

9:56

don't trust it. I build trust and

9:58

containment and safety within my own. intermasculine

10:01

for me to really go, oh,

10:03

okay, I've got me. And

10:06

now that I can trust myself, I

10:08

can open up and surrender myself

10:10

to be led by anybody else. What

10:12

does that feel like? Because you know, Alexi,

10:16

the more and more that we do this work, the

10:18

more and more that we can literally see in the

10:21

world, you know, the issues that are affecting

10:23

us all because it's

10:26

just reflecting back to us where

10:28

we once were. So one

10:30

of the things that I see is like, you

10:33

know, most women today want to

10:36

blame most of

10:38

their issues on men. Yeah. Yeah. Right. Which

10:40

listen, I get it. Yeah, I get it.

10:42

And yet I also understand

10:44

that if you take that a little bit

10:47

deeper, what you don't realize is happening is

10:49

that you are blaming your the man that's

10:51

in front of you for everything

10:53

that your dad or your

10:56

brothers were or weren't for you.

10:58

That's right. And until you go

11:00

backwards to heal that, whatever

11:02

man is in front of you, you're always

11:05

going to have your guard up. Yeah,

11:07

because you're living from the space

11:09

of hurt. Yeah, you're living from fear

11:11

instead of your true feminine,

11:13

which is love, openness and

11:16

allowing. Totally. And it's what's even

11:18

deeper, like the deeper cut that like really

11:20

messed me up. It's like, he's a reflection

11:22

of how I'm not leaving myself. That's

11:25

right. Like, I'm not willing to hold myself

11:27

in my full emotional expression, because I'm too

11:29

busy. I don't have time for that. I'm

11:31

not trying to make it how try to

11:33

defend that. Right. Right. And it's like, how

11:36

could I possibly ask somebody to do something

11:38

for me that I'm unwilling to do for

11:40

myself? It's so unfair. And, you

11:43

know, he had his whole version of that as well,

11:45

that we were both projecting onto each other. But

11:47

all I can talk about and take responsibility

11:50

for is my side. And wow, is there

11:52

so much responsibility I had to take. And

11:54

when I started to do that, you're right.

11:57

When you say that women are like, men,

11:59

oh, well, us and they messed up and we

12:01

need apologies. It's like we're almost like hungry for

12:04

reparations. Right? You can I say

12:06

as you said reparations, I thought of like, I

12:08

thought of like slaves. Yeah, that's how we

12:10

like we feel like we have been oppressed for

12:13

so long and rightfully so. For so

12:15

many reasons. Yes. Right. And and nothing

12:18

changes or heals with more shame.

12:21

Nothing. Right. And this was

12:23

something I really had to get because

12:25

I was on the top of that

12:27

horse of like, screw the patriarchy, like

12:29

just so angry. Really? Yeah, I can't

12:31

even picture you. Yeah. Because I felt,

12:34

you know, I do a lot of

12:36

nonprofit work, I've been doing it for decades. And

12:38

I see what happens in the dark

12:40

underworld and underbelly. And I work a

12:42

lot in, you know, with children who

12:45

have been sex trafficked and all the

12:47

things. So I have a lot of

12:49

evidence of why men are screwing up

12:51

the world. Right. And

12:53

again, the evidence is there. However,

12:56

where we can take responsibility as women, and

12:58

one thing that changed for me fundamentally, and

13:00

how I view Preston, I was so angry

13:02

at him for a long time for like,

13:05

you're not pulling your weight and like around the house

13:07

and like, we're both making money like this isn't, I

13:10

can't be like CEO of the home and CEO of these

13:12

businesses and CEO, you know, like, I need

13:14

a break, right. But when

13:16

I really started to heal my own inner

13:18

masculine, I could really find devotion for his

13:21

masculine again, because I was devoted to my

13:23

own. And I could see

13:25

that like, while I was doing all this pleasing

13:27

to try and be a good woman and fit

13:29

into society standards of superwoman of

13:31

all the things, right, I could

13:33

also see that my husband was trying to please me

13:36

and be a good man, right, like he

13:38

was working his ass off and showing up in so

13:40

many ways and sending over backwards and

13:42

getting up with the kids and doing his best

13:44

and changing diapers and like, okay,

13:47

like I can take him off the

13:50

chair of the villain, and I can

13:52

stop being the victim. And let's start like

13:54

actually playing Wii. Like how do

13:56

we want to play? And that's the conversation that

13:58

changed everything is like, what's happening? What kind of

14:00

man do you want to be? Because real talk, I had this

14:02

thought in my head when I was thinking

14:04

about leaving. Right? When I was like,

14:06

wow, maybe. So you were literally thinking about leaving. Yeah. Oh

14:09

yeah. And I have this thought, like I remember I was in

14:11

Mexico with my girlfriends and P and I had

14:13

just gotten into it and like things weren't good. Right. And

14:16

I had this thought of like, oh man, when I entered the

14:18

dating scene again, like here's the time I'm going to be like,

14:20

I'm going to be this bad. And

14:22

I had all these like fantasies of like how

14:24

dope I was going to be as a woman. Right.

14:28

I thought to myself, why don't I just be

14:30

her right now? Wow. Like, why don't

14:32

I like, why am I not bringing that version of

14:34

me to my husband? And

14:36

that's when I said like, I don't like the woman

14:38

I've become. I'm like, he's not even getting my fullness.

14:41

I'm not getting my fullness. Like screw him for a second.

14:43

Let's talk about heat. Like I'm

14:46

not getting my fullness. I

14:48

want to be this woman regardless of whoever is in

14:50

my life, whether it's him or somebody else. I

14:52

want to be the woman that looks at my life

14:55

and go, I am so grateful for who I am

14:57

and how I live. Like, yes, more

14:59

please. Lexi, when

15:02

you said it was, I got

15:04

emotional when you said I wasn't

15:07

acknowledging how he shows up for

15:09

me. I wasn't acknowledging how hard he

15:12

works, how he takes care of the

15:14

kids, how he, you know, it's like I

15:16

saw myself in that because

15:18

so often this was a hurdle that Jen and

15:20

I had to cross as well. Yeah. And

15:23

I was like, I'm not putting heads over, you know,

15:25

and to be fair, like I wanted more of her.

15:27

She wanted more of me because that's just

15:29

what we want, right? Humans, we want more.

15:32

Right. And then, you know, as

15:35

you said that I just remembered in where

15:37

she finally let go of like

15:40

her defense and she started to see

15:42

me for who I am and for

15:45

what I do for the relationship. And then, and

15:47

then on my end, I don't

15:49

know which one happened first, but I remember like I

15:51

used to like bitch and moan about her

15:53

leaving her jacket everywhere and you know,

15:55

whatever it is. And then, yeah,

15:57

the little things that are really insignificant.

16:00

but they build such a big like

16:02

divide. Yes. Where I was able to

16:04

say, you know what, I love her.

16:06

Yeah. Why don't I just pick up the

16:08

damn jacket? I hate generosity. Yeah, because she's

16:10

been working all day with the baby and

16:12

feeding her and like, while I'm in here

16:14

doing this, she's out there doing that. That's

16:16

right. So yeah, maybe she left the jacket

16:18

behind. Yeah. And maybe she's gonna leave it

16:20

behind a thousand times more. That's right. But

16:22

I see who she is and what kind

16:25

of a mother she is. So I'm gonna

16:27

do my best to support her. Yeah.

16:30

And no longer be critical of her. That

16:32

generosity of like, I'm gonna go above

16:34

and beyond because I love you, even

16:37

if I'm triggered, even if it bothers me,

16:39

like I'm like a Virgo. So stuff on

16:41

the floor and not in their place bothers

16:43

me. I also have four kids. So I've

16:45

had to soften that a little bit. Right?

16:48

But that's probably why you had the

16:50

four kids to do that. Soften. That's

16:52

part of my karma. Thank you. That's

16:55

right. But you know, it really is

16:57

like being generous with our energy and

16:59

our love and our, our

17:02

grace for our partners. And you

17:04

know, I think about certain stats. And again,

17:06

I was like the woman on the soapbox,

17:08

like many to pull their part in

17:10

the home and they do right. A lot

17:12

still needs to change. Absolutely. It's not equal.

17:15

It's never going to be equal, but it's

17:17

going to be an oscillation of responsibilities. Right?

17:19

Depending on what season you're in. But

17:22

we have to look at the stats. Like men

17:25

are committing suicide more than women. Right?

17:27

Men are dying of heart attacks more

17:29

than women. Why? It's because their version

17:32

of pleasing, their version

17:34

of bending over backwards is going so

17:36

hard and stressing out so much to

17:38

try and hold the family, even

17:40

despite how they may not be showing up in

17:42

other ways. We have to start acknowledging

17:44

that too. Right? And

17:46

I think that game of the war

17:49

on the masculine really has to stop.

17:51

And I didn't recognize my own war

17:53

with the masculine until I healed the

17:56

war within myself. Within my own

17:58

inner masculine of like. Constantly

18:00

like shaming myself or how hard I was

18:02

working and how that address like I'm not

18:05

feminine enough. That's the war on the masculine

18:07

That's right, right And so again, we don't

18:09

heal anything with shame we heal

18:11

it with love and acceptance That's the only way

18:13

to heal is to really welcome it in and

18:16

go. Okay, you're here. Let's look at

18:18

this Do you find I know what the

18:20

answer is? But I you know, I really

18:22

want our audience to hear

18:24

what you're about to say But do you because

18:26

this is what I talk about is like the

18:28

more and more you return to your heart The

18:30

more and more that life just flows It

18:33

just gets easy. That's right. Like

18:35

you really don't work anymore. It's

18:37

just it's just you right, right

18:40

So so do you find that ever since

18:42

you guys cleared this stuff up? There's

18:44

more love there's more passion There's more money

18:46

and there's more time. Oh my god Just

18:49

we have hit like our

18:51

manifestation game I told you about the housing

18:54

man If I like we manifested two of

18:56

our dream cars like just it's been so

18:58

on point and so crazy Our

19:00

love is so expanded and so deep our passion

19:02

is We're working

19:04

way less like less efforting and like

19:07

pushing and proving like that's gone. It's just

19:09

like dropped in here We are this

19:12

is it. Here's what we have to share take

19:14

it or leave it. Take it or leave off

19:16

Just feel so good. There's a resonance to it

19:18

And I don't know if you follow any of

19:20

heart math stuff like the heart math

19:22

Institute. Oh, you'll love it You'll totally nerd out on

19:25

it so it's basically an institute that study

19:27

is the power of the heart and How

19:29

the heart is basically the second brain and we

19:32

can map our coherence and we can map our

19:34

field from three feet out of

19:36

our body in all ways from our heart and so

19:39

when we do studies of the heart and

19:41

we're tapping into these higher frequencies of love

19:43

and acceptance and grace and compassion our Field

19:46

actually expands and we can scientifically

19:48

measure it which is really cool

19:51

Right and that's that feeling when we feel if

19:53

you've ever done, you know psychedelics or plant medicine

19:55

or Molly or whatever it

19:57

is MDMA you have that experience

20:00

of like, expanded reality, everything

20:02

expands, you're like, I feel like I'm

20:04

a part of everything. I'm touching everything.

20:06

Everything is me and I am it.

20:08

Yeah, that can happen without all

20:11

of the substances when we tap into the

20:13

power of the heart. So it's

20:15

really powerful. It's impossible for you to

20:17

have a successful relationship with another human

20:20

being or a partner if you don't

20:22

have a successful relationship with yourself. And

20:25

what we as human beings don't

20:27

realize is that we are deeply

20:29

disconnected. We're

20:32

disconnected from Mother Earth, we're disconnected

20:34

from peace, we're disconnected from love.

20:37

What we do at Awaken is

20:39

we curate different exercises

20:41

to help you reconnect first to

20:43

yourself. And then the beautiful

20:45

process of reconnecting to everybody begins.

20:48

And that's why Awaken is so

20:50

powerful. You'll do more in three

20:52

days at Awaken that you would

20:54

do 30 years anywhere else. I

20:59

was so stuck. Now I

21:01

feel peace. Awaken has

21:03

been the best thing we have done for

21:05

our marriage. I'm in here, I realized

21:07

that the answers were inside of me

21:10

all the time. Head on

21:12

over to dannymorell.com backslash Awaken

21:14

now to get your tickets

21:17

today. I'm going to share that

21:19

I don't think I've ever shared this before. But I

21:21

can vividly remember there was a moment in my

21:23

journey where my heart

21:25

started to open. I felt the

21:28

physical sensation of my heart chakra

21:30

opening. That's different. That was like

21:32

a warmth. Yeah. An expansion like that.

21:35

But I remember there was a moment,

21:37

I don't remember what happened. But I

21:39

remember, and you might be able to explain this, my

21:41

heart, something happened to it where it

21:44

felt like a kaleidoscope. Like

21:48

a whole bunch of like, parts

21:50

of a puzzle coming back together. Yeah.

21:54

And I'm sharing that because, you

21:56

know, if you're out there listening, like,

21:59

you know, that's the beauty of psychedelics.

22:01

It is. Is you experience things

22:03

that you just can't? I

22:07

say it's a possibility opener. It

22:10

just opens all possibilities. That's right.

22:12

Yeah, yeah, yeah. That's really cool.

22:14

So I want to know what

22:16

you mentioned the word somatics. Yes.

22:18

So if people are listening for the first

22:21

time, they hear that word. What

22:23

does that mean? So soma in Greek

22:25

basically means the body. So somatic is working

22:27

with the body, study of the body, we

22:31

cannot exclude the body from this work

22:33

of personal development. It is a large

22:35

part of our person, right? All

22:37

of the signals that happen in our body are

22:40

informing the brain, right? Most people

22:42

think, Oh, my tell my brain what to

22:44

do mindset and LP all the things, then

22:47

that will inform the body to act in

22:49

a particular way. That's about 20%. Right? 80%

22:51

of our signals come from the

22:56

body and inform the brain. So

22:58

if you have a nervous system that closes

23:01

an intimacy, if you have a nervous system

23:03

that felt safe and chaos, because

23:05

that's what your home environment was, you

23:08

have a nervous system that learns that

23:10

performing and being useful and the star

23:12

and at the top is how you

23:14

receive love. Great, that is what's going

23:16

to inform every single thing you do.

23:19

And so we cannot be outside

23:22

of how our nervous system is

23:24

moving the body, the animal, the

23:26

human animal, and it

23:28

informs our identity, which informs our thoughts,

23:30

which informs our beliefs, and our feelings,

23:32

our behaviors and our actions and essentially

23:35

our results. And so until we get

23:37

to the foundational root of the system

23:39

that's controlling the person, we

23:41

don't change much, kind of have

23:43

these surface level changes. And we start to realize, Oh,

23:46

I'm cycling the same thing. Attracting

23:48

the same guys. Oh, here I am. I got

23:51

the money. And then it all goes away again,

23:53

right? We cycle these same issues. And we don't

23:55

really know why we asked like, am

23:57

I sabotaging myself? Like, And

24:00

the truth is that your system is trying to keep

24:02

you safe. And it's doing what

24:04

it knows how to do best. And this is

24:06

why I always tell people, I sound like a

24:08

broken record sometimes, but like get to awaken. Because

24:11

it's one of two options. It's either you're

24:14

going to do some sort of somatic work,

24:16

which at awaken it's like the breath

24:19

work. Which is amazing. They're releasing.

24:21

Yes. The body is releasing all of

24:24

this. And opening. And opening. Yes. So

24:26

good. attracted

24:29

$100,000. How did I do this? This

24:31

is not me. No. It's you. You

24:34

did the work. That's right. That's

24:37

right. Or you sit with psychedelics. Yeah. Yeah.

24:40

And people have a hard time, not everybody,

24:42

but some people have a hard time with that.

24:44

And they're, they immediately defend. Yeah.

24:47

They're like, no, but it can't be. But what you're saying

24:49

is it's like the

24:51

foundation of what it is that is

24:53

actually happening. That. It's your

24:55

body is changing. It's letting go. It's releasing. It's

24:58

realizing and ceremony when you're literally throwing

25:00

up. Purging. You're purging, you're getting rid

25:03

of it and you feel like a

25:05

brand new human being because that energy

25:07

is literally gone. That's right. And a

25:10

lot of people don't know how

25:12

much their body stores. And

25:14

so there's a book, a very famous book called The

25:16

Body Keeps the Score. That's right. And

25:19

it's all about how our bodies actually store

25:21

trauma in our system, in our

25:23

field. So trauma is not just capital

25:25

T trauma where it's like war or abuse or neglect.

25:30

Obviously those are traumas, but there's emotional

25:32

trauma, not feeling safe to express. That

25:34

is a very deep emotional trauma. There's

25:37

sexual trauma, right? We know very

25:39

widely about sexual trauma. There's a trauma of

25:41

just being a human being on this planet.

25:44

COVID is a trauma. Yeah. Right.

25:46

Where it's like our whole world, as we knew it was

25:49

taken from us and we had to figure out how to

25:51

exist safely in a world that feels

25:53

very unsafe and uncertain. So our

25:55

bodies are constantly dealing with how do I

25:57

process this trauma? And if you're not clearing

26:00

the channel and your body through somatic

26:02

work and nervous system work, psychedelic, comes

26:04

our workshop. That's what we do there

26:07

as well without psychedelics. But if you're

26:09

not clearing it, you're essentially storing and

26:11

your body becomes very dense, becomes

26:14

very dense. That density

26:16

now is moving through the world and we're

26:18

going, why is this showing up in my

26:20

relationship? I don't understand. I'm saying all the

26:23

right things. I'm using nonviolent communication. I'm blah,

26:25

blah, blah. You know, I'm using a model

26:27

therapy. Your body, the

26:29

density of your body can be felt. So

26:31

my animal can feel your animal right now.

26:33

And we're reading each other, whether we're doing

26:36

it consciously or not, we're not. We're doing

26:38

it unconsciously, right? Neuroception. My

26:40

body is going, is this animal safe? And

26:43

I'm going to answer that question based on your

26:45

density and my density. Right? The

26:47

more dense of a body you have, the less safe I'm

26:49

going to feel because I don't feel your openness. I

26:52

feel your clothes. Your clothes could feel like

26:55

this to me. Yeah. Right? Yeah. The more open

26:57

I am and receptive I am, the more people it's

26:59

like that person that walks in a room and you're

27:01

like, who is that? They're just open.

27:04

There's, there's, you can feel their life force.

27:06

You can feel their aliveness moving, right?

27:08

If a dense body doesn't have the current

27:11

of life flowing through, it feels heavy. So

27:13

this is what you're, you're explaining so much. So this

27:15

is why I like, for example, you know,

27:18

day one of awaken, right?

27:20

It's like, you know,

27:23

it as a speaker, it takes

27:25

me a little bit of then by day

27:27

three, they're all like hugging each other. That's

27:30

what, okay, I get this. Yeah, because they're,

27:32

they're coming in from a dense body. Right?

27:34

Right. And they're, they're, do I trust this

27:36

animal yet? Right. They're feeling into even if

27:39

they listen to the podcast, now it's human

27:41

to human. This is beyond our cognitive ability.

27:43

Right. Our bodies are now playing. It's the

27:46

same thing. Like you can meet somebody, I

27:48

have a friend who's single and she's like swiping all the

27:50

time on all the apps, and then she meets them in person

27:52

and it's a no. Right. And that's

27:54

your body going like, nope, my animal doesn't

27:56

trust this animal. Right. And so the more

27:59

work we do when we put ourselves

28:01

in scenarios and do breath work and put

28:03

ourselves in really challenging scenarios for our nervous

28:05

system and we anchor in

28:07

safety and open that creates deeper

28:09

opening in ourselves the more we clear

28:12

out the channel and purge the stuckness

28:14

in our body the trauma in our

28:16

body the more open we become the

28:18

more available we become this is

28:21

how we recondition our systems as adults

28:23

right we cannot change what happened to us

28:25

in our past but the good news is

28:28

you can recondition your system to a new

28:30

set point of safety in your nervous system

28:32

I want to bring up a sensitive

28:34

issue because it's like the message

28:37

is I'm like seeing it

28:39

I'm seeing what you're saying and how

28:42

it plays out in the real world

28:44

yeah so very often and

28:46

again I don't you know I want

28:48

to allow you as a little I want to

28:50

ask you as a listener right now to just

28:53

allow what's about to come up to just come

28:55

up don't mope allow

28:58

yourself to just maybe

29:01

not judge it and

29:03

just receive it and play with it

29:05

yeah often I'll

29:09

see someone that

29:11

is largely overweight

29:14

and what I have come

29:16

to realize is that often

29:18

and like 99

29:21

out of a hundred times if I dig

29:23

deep enough there is

29:25

some trauma that they experience when

29:27

they were a little boy or a little

29:29

girl that the body has been holding

29:32

on to oh yeah and then

29:34

oftentimes it is a protection mechanism

29:37

for people to not pay attention and look at the

29:39

body if the body was a place that was unsafe

29:41

yeah so a lot of I mean we we do

29:43

it we do a lot of trauma work as well

29:45

and we see this often you

29:48

know it's like we become disassociated in

29:50

a moment where our body is being

29:52

violated yeah right and this happened to

29:54

me I had a sexual violation as

29:56

well we disassociate and then oftentimes

29:58

we never come back in and inhabit the

30:00

body because it's too much. Like I don't want

30:02

to feel what happened. I don't want to go

30:05

there. It's dangerous. It caused too much attention. Look,

30:07

look at the disaster caused in my family or

30:09

with this person. And so we just kind

30:11

of stay here and we hover. Some

30:14

people deal with that with exercise

30:16

addiction. That's right. So

30:18

some people, the really fit people often

30:20

have a lot of body trauma too because

30:23

that's their way of like, if I can

30:25

build this shield, I am

30:27

good. No one can hurt me. No one can

30:29

hurt me, right? I will build the fortress. I'm

30:31

in control of it. It's the same thing we

30:33

see it with a lot of sex workers. Sex

30:36

workers often have some

30:38

sort of sexual trauma in their youth and they'll

30:40

say, I'm going to take my power back. If

30:43

you're going to use my body, I'm going to be in control of

30:45

it. Same thing with the

30:47

exercise addiction. It's the same pattern, right? Oh, well,

30:49

if you're going to harm my body, well, at

30:51

least I'm going to be in control of my

30:53

body. Some people go the opposite way, right? Some

30:55

people have sexual trauma, they go the opposite way.

30:57

Ah, I'm just, I'm not a sexual person. Or

30:59

like, I do it for my husband, but I

31:01

don't want to. It feels uncomfortable, right? And we

31:03

kind of disassociate like this and pull back. The

31:06

person who disassociates from their body in

31:08

a health way will often just put

31:11

on weight and stack on pounds in order

31:13

to build a barrier of safety to go,

31:15

hey, don't look at me this way. I'm

31:18

not a sexual object. I'm not this person.

31:20

Like, I'm just in this body, please don't

31:22

pay attention. Like, right? And so

31:25

it all makes sense, right? And this is why

31:27

I have so much compassion for everybody because everybody's

31:29

going through something. Everybody's

31:32

been through something. And we never know why

31:34

people make the decisions that they do. They

31:36

often make them because it makes sense to

31:38

their system. And so we

31:40

can have compassion for people in that

31:42

way because we make decisions out of

31:45

what feels safest for us to stay

31:47

alive. And like, that's

31:49

our human imperative is to stay

31:51

alive and survive. Yeah, I'm

31:53

thinking, you know, in that

31:56

example, I was thinking of,

31:58

you know, often... the

32:00

women we work with, they'll say

32:02

something like, I just realized that

32:04

I was sexually abused. And that's

32:06

why I've been putting on weight to

32:09

keep men away from me. But

32:11

in the same

32:13

note, I'm picturing and

32:15

envisioning so many men who

32:18

suffer from like, you know,

32:20

dependency on steroids and having

32:22

overly big muscles that

32:27

like nine times out of 10, and when you

32:29

ask something happened, they were

32:31

abandoned by their mother, they were

32:34

sexually abused, something happened. And

32:36

it's we as human beings

32:38

really don't understand how our

32:41

body truly is showing what

32:43

is happening on the inner world. That's right.

32:45

And it's so funny, it's that, you know,

32:47

we say the body doesn't lie in our

32:50

work. So we have a lot of people, we

32:52

work with a lot of coaches and people who are practitioners, they

32:54

come into our workshop because they keep hearing about it and they're

32:56

like, let me see, right? And they

32:58

come in and they can say all the right things,

33:00

but we're just reading the body. We're like, well, you

33:02

have a closure here, this is collapsed here, this is

33:05

trying, it's struggling and wants to move and you're not

33:07

allowing it. And so we're just reading the body. And

33:09

it's funny, we do a lot of work

33:11

in Australia, a lot. And have you ever

33:13

been to Australia? No, but I know there's a

33:15

lot of people out there that have been,

33:17

yeah. Yes, so Australia is amazing. I love Australia,

33:19

it's like one of my favorite places. They

33:22

have a very strong like macho culture, like the

33:24

men are like really big and built and buff.

33:27

And nine times out of 10, a lot

33:29

of the men that we work with have had some

33:31

sexual trauma. And they

33:34

build this like castle of

33:36

an exterior fortress. Right,

33:38

like you cannot get in here. And the

33:40

body itself is so rigid that

33:42

there's no opening and allowance of life force to

33:45

move through even though it looks good, even

33:47

though it's like, ooh, spoon, this is the perfect

33:49

kind of man body that we want. Our

33:52

animal can feel that body and go,

33:54

something's missing, like it doesn't feel online.

33:57

I'm now thinking of even the

33:59

woman. with you know like like

34:02

the whole Instagram model look at me woman

34:04

type of body you know

34:06

when when the woman is constantly needing

34:09

to show yeah and utilize

34:12

the body yeah for attention yeah there's

34:14

something there as well totally and this

34:16

is like the fine line right because

34:19

we can't we cannot ever know someone's

34:21

intention for sure right like I could

34:23

post and I have I have like

34:25

navigated my own judgments around all of this I have

34:27

a lot yeah I have a lot right and I

34:30

used to model and I used to be in that

34:32

world so I get it

34:34

but I had a story of like

34:36

anybody who's like on Instagram showing certain

34:38

things I'm like thirst trap you know

34:40

like yeah all my judgments but again

34:42

when I come into my heart my

34:44

compassion everybody is moving and operating from

34:46

what feels safest right to them right

34:48

and so maybe getting this level of

34:50

attention is how they are feeling safe

34:52

in their validation of self maybe they're

34:55

not even doing it for anyone else maybe they

34:57

just want to validate their own damn selves and

34:59

look how fucking awesome sexy I am yeah yes

35:01

sister you know it's like I have

35:05

comes with such a humble understanding that we

35:07

can never know yeah we can never not

35:09

work with thousands of people all over the

35:11

world from so many different walks of life

35:13

and so many different backgrounds and traumas and

35:15

we just can never know is

35:19

there something to be said with

35:22

rigidity and the body and

35:24

the more flexible you are the

35:27

more that the body is able

35:29

to like flow because

35:31

this leads me to like yoga yeah

35:34

yeah simple things like can you touch

35:36

your toes yeah yeah because when

35:38

you're a baby you can't Salina can

35:40

grab her foot and put it in her mouth

35:42

yeah that's because nothing's happened yeah that's basically right

35:44

yeah she hasn't been like jacked up or whatever

35:46

the case may be yeah but like is there

35:48

something to be said to the the

35:52

least likely you are to be able to

35:54

touch your toes which be true

35:56

story before I started my work and my

35:58

spiritual journey I couldn't My Tell I

36:01

You know yet? and like now. I'm

36:03

like legitimately noticing this right now at

36:05

this moment. You. Know, even if I

36:08

haven't done yoga in a month, I could see.

36:10

It. As I can either get very close

36:12

or go all the way down the is or

36:14

southern to be said for there is or isn't,

36:17

there isn't right Because again there's people who are

36:19

yogi that come in and work with us and

36:21

they've got a lot like a very dense body

36:23

might. they can be very flexible. But.

36:26

They're very disconnected right? and we have a

36:28

lot of people who are like work out

36:30

people, exercise health nutrition, people in the comments

36:32

and the like. I'm some in touch with

36:34

my body but they're not. Yeah right they're

36:36

they're They're utilizing the body objectifying the body

36:38

but they're not actually and deep relation with

36:40

the body right? And.

36:43

With. A more you comments relation with

36:45

the body even if it's us to

36:47

act exercise stretching. any of that the

36:50

more you're opening the channels of energy.

36:52

So yes yes, And it's a

36:54

pens. The Night. So I think I

36:56

always think it's a beautiful practice where human

36:58

beings that are meant to move. Were.

37:01

Meant to move. We are now traditionally

37:03

spending ninety percent of our time like

37:05

they're sitting sitting in chairs were is

37:07

a power source of our energy from

37:09

here. To. Yeah yeah and we

37:12

are literally collapsing at our hit.

37:14

Ray. And then we're stuck here. were

37:16

collapsing and are red. Switches are solar plexus

37:19

by our center point of our animal is

37:21

just above a groin. And Sas

37:23

crunched when we set it. he go

37:25

to any indigenous cultures how do they

37:27

said? have you ever seen any indigenous?

37:29

Tests are men and women. All.

37:31

That they squat. Why?

37:34

Keep their power center fully open

37:36

and available. That's. How are meant

37:38

to sit? Said. Why we're meant to

37:40

burst. That's how are meant to

37:42

You know like sit in cook, they squat

37:44

a squat new work on the floor like

37:47

that is how we are meant to move

37:49

in our bodies and we have become so

37:51

dignified. That. We've cut ourselves off

37:53

from the very life force that most

37:55

of us are seeking. While the Us

37:57

pile wilde say we get so much.

38:00

There yet we screw us out

38:02

than the processor is zero. Usher:

38:04

Absolutely. Masculine. Feminine

38:06

enters. My.

38:08

Favorites are ever going to say that a lead

38:10

you and when he lay your ip Yeah unless

38:12

well first of all I want to say like

38:14

I love this topic so much. Something I work

38:17

with a lot of women on in my program

38:19

The Muse. And we have to

38:21

start off by saying. That.

38:24

Masculine. And feminine energy our

38:26

internal and all of us. and.

38:29

A lot of people are now using

38:31

polarity conversations to. Shame. And

38:33

blame their partners. You're not feminine

38:35

enough. You're not masculine enough. I'm

38:37

not them and not. I'm not masculine

38:39

up. With. Same A Blame our partners.

38:42

We seem and blame ourselves and we forget that

38:44

while these energies are part of each and every

38:46

human. There's. Also, humans that

38:48

were working with like when I'm working with

38:50

my husband in this arena. Yes,

38:53

I'm working with his masculine energy, but I'm working with

38:55

a man called Trust. The new has a history and

38:57

a pass. And he's a human. And

38:59

so often we want to relegated to like. Well

39:01

if he was his masculine then I would do

39:04

this. Maybe right like

39:06

that's has work to do on his own.

39:08

My. Family's my work to do on my

39:10

own and we're still very much dealing

39:12

with real humans and still trying to

39:14

figure that out Some let's not like.

39:17

Fully. Only play in the philosophical

39:19

of the to. And. Let's land

39:21

and like this. as a human that's very

39:23

complex and very gray. It's not like a

39:25

light right and so the idea of masculine

39:27

feminine which I love is very back away.

39:30

In Site Mask and as

39:32

as Feminists Mass Killing Containment

39:34

Yes. Supposed to contain and

39:36

inspire the feminine radiance to

39:38

come online and fully surrender.

39:40

Yes. Okay, but now dealing with

39:42

a human who astronomers. I'm. Telling

39:44

for the body, that's dance. And. Dealing

39:47

with up positions imposters be taken

39:49

and relationship over ten years. Both.

39:52

Eyes. A little more complex than that as Mr.

39:54

right and you know I know I know you seats

39:56

as work as well. It's. So

39:58

gray. Has its ups, depends on the woman and the

40:00

man. Some men

40:02

have a more feminine core, some women

40:04

have a more masculine core. Okay, so how does

40:07

that woman find her feminine? And

40:09

the answer is you have to find the expression

40:12

of your core essence that works for you.

40:15

Because again, we live in this world that

40:17

so wants to objectify everything. And

40:20

I think I know for myself, for a

40:22

very long time, I punish myself for not

40:24

being feminine enough because I'm a type A,

40:26

go get her ambitious, always been that way

40:28

since I was a kid. It's not something

40:30

that I learned, right? And

40:34

I made myself wrong and thought, oh, if

40:36

I'm in my feminine, it has to look

40:38

like this. I don't work as hard. I

40:40

don't do this. I dress this way. I

40:42

talk this way. I float around in fields

40:45

of daisies or whatever the idea is, right?

40:48

But that is just another objectification of who

40:50

I think I should be. And

40:53

men the same, like men have a really high

40:55

standard these days. And the spiritual community of women

40:57

is like, you're not in your masculine. You

41:00

don't contain me. And it's like, well, it's

41:02

a little more complex than that. You know? So

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41:56

So interesting you mentioned that.

42:00

I would say that at my core,

42:03

I think I'm more feminine. Yeah, I think

42:05

Preston is too. Yeah, like he's

42:07

very open and available and artistic

42:09

and creative and yeah,

42:12

you know, and the thing

42:14

is, you know, we say as women, Oh, I want my man

42:16

to contain me. It's like, do you want that all the time?

42:19

Probably not. Yeah, you know, like oftentimes we

42:21

want to dance. Like I don't

42:23

think a man always wants a woman who's

42:25

fully in her feminine all the time. Like

42:27

you might want some inspiration and some love

42:30

and some ambition and drive. And again, we're

42:32

human. You know, it's one of

42:34

the things I love about Jen. It's

42:36

like when I'm going through, like when I have

42:38

a problem to solve and I don't necessarily know

42:40

how to solve it myself. Yeah, I'll like tee

42:42

it up to her and she was like, well,

42:44

baby, haven't you thought about ABCD, FGH,

42:46

I'm like, yes,

42:49

yes. And like we could

42:51

say, okay, that's her and her full power,

42:53

right? Which to me is her feminine fully

42:55

online and her masculine fully online. She

42:58

is integrated in her wholeness and

43:00

her expression as a woman. Yeah.

43:03

Right. And vice versa. Like there's

43:05

moments when Preston's so in his power. And to

43:07

me, it's he's integrated in his feminine and

43:10

his masculine. And it's like that I just

43:12

want someone who's in alignment with them, with

43:14

them. Yeah, whatever that look, whatever that looks

43:16

like, however that presents. And I think that's

43:18

why the journey is so nuanced for each

43:20

human is we have to be

43:23

willing to have the humility to look at ourselves

43:25

and go, well, how do I actually present? Like

43:27

who am I at my core? And

43:29

then what type of man do I want to be?

43:31

What type of woman do I want to be? And

43:33

for me, like the stretch of the woman I wanted

43:35

to become, she was more in her body. She was

43:37

more in her joy. She was more present. She was

43:39

more alive. She was more inspired and artistic and creative

43:41

because I've always been her. But I

43:43

put her on the shelf because I didn't value that because

43:46

society doesn't value that society wants a hardworking boss,

43:48

babe, entrepreneur that's crushing it. And you know, six,

43:51

seven figure businesses. And so I was like, cool,

43:53

that's what I'm going to do to get love

43:55

and validation. Great. And

43:57

it worked until it didn't. Yeah. when

44:00

it doesn't, you start to search for

44:02

answers. And my answer came, go

44:04

back in the body back in the money. Yeah. It's

44:07

so interesting how all of this, like

44:09

reflects on what we choose to do.

44:11

Yeah, for a living. You

44:14

know, yeah, because you know, because

44:17

when I was in, you know, an unhealthy

44:20

balance with myself, I

44:24

can honestly say my feminine was like, here I

44:26

am saying to you, I think

44:28

like my core, like it's, it's,

44:30

it's mostly feminine. Yeah. Right.

44:33

Yeah. And yet here I am

44:35

saying to you that and yet when I

44:37

was like, you know, the real estate broker,

44:39

my feminine was completely shut off. Right.

44:42

100% shut off. Right. Because I was living in survival

44:44

paradigm, make the money, you know, get the

44:47

things so forth and so on. And

44:49

in a very masculine driven shadow.

44:51

Yeah. Oh yeah. Yeah. Shadow. 100%. Yeah. And then

44:56

like I'm sitting here realizing that in

44:59

truth, when everything really started to

45:01

take off for me is

45:03

when I returned to the essence of who

45:05

I am. You

45:08

know, even I'll say this

45:10

much, Alexi, I

45:12

just came off true

45:14

story. I'm going to say this right now. I've been

45:16

dealing like I

45:19

always thought I didn't have issues with money,

45:22

but I'm starting to realize I have some

45:24

pretty big, big damage issues with money. Yeah.

45:26

I'm getting all fucked up right here. Yeah.

45:28

That's juicy. That's juicy. Yeah. And I'm going

45:30

to bring this up as a, hopefully this, this

45:33

helps, you know, us in this conversation, but hopefully

45:35

it helps you as well. It's

45:37

like, I've always made a lot of money.

45:39

Yeah. It's never been a problem making a

45:41

lot of money, but if I'm

45:43

honest, I know my capacity is

45:46

to probably earn 10

45:49

times more in half

45:51

of the effort. You and

45:53

I, you and I, this is the conversation

45:55

I'm in right now. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Like

45:57

it's huge. It's big because I know, listen,

45:59

I'm See, even saying this sometimes,

46:01

like I would have this story, I'll tell

46:03

you like, I know, I

46:06

am a million dollar a week kind of guy. Yeah,

46:08

yeah. Without stress,

46:10

yeah, helping humanity, helping

46:12

humanity heal and awaken, you know, working

46:15

20 hours a week or less, I

46:17

know I'm that. Yeah. And

46:19

yet, what I realized is

46:21

I've been keeping myself from

46:24

the fullness of who I am. Because

46:27

something inside of me, the story inside

46:29

of me has been saying like, like,

46:31

you know, there's two groups of people out

46:33

there. It's like the people who like, step

46:35

up to limitations and they overcome them.

46:37

Yeah. Or the people who step up

46:40

to limitations and back down. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I'm

46:42

the kind of guy that sets up to limitations

46:45

and I just fucking don't, I don't see them.

46:47

Right? That's right. That's right. But I've been listening

46:49

to the group of people

46:51

that step up to limitations and like, back

46:54

down. Interesting. Okay, so what's the core

46:56

story that's under that for you? So I'll

46:58

tell you what it is. It's like, you

47:01

know, awaken. Yeah. Right. Yeah. It's like,

47:03

it's this beautiful thing that transforms human

47:05

life. Yeah, yeah, yeah. For three days.

47:07

Yeah. I used to charge 395 bucks

47:11

for it. Right. Yeah. It costs me

47:13

395 bucks per person,

47:15

right? Just to put on the damn event. Right.

47:17

Right. And then I was trying to like, sell

47:19

people into a program or whatever they case may

47:22

be, you know, and then I decided to like,

47:24

take it to like 700 bucks.

47:26

Because inside of me, I was like, whoa, you

47:28

don't want to charge too much because what if people don't come

47:30

with it? And

47:33

the value that this event offers to

47:36

people. It's life changing. It's life changing.

47:38

You can't put a price on it. You can't put

47:40

a price on it. I have someone at the, at

47:42

the intensive, yeah, who pays us 30,000 bucks to be

47:45

in inner circle. Yeah. I know what's, I know what

47:47

I, he literally was like, I was having this argument

47:49

with my wife about paying $30,000 for this course. And

47:53

like, and I helped them like recon and I go, this

47:55

will tell me now what's it worth? He goes, this

47:57

is personal. Like what? What

48:00

is it worth to get your life back? Pliceless.

48:03

And yet, I, in my scarcity

48:05

mindset, whose story has been limiting myself

48:08

and limiting humanity by listening to the

48:10

people who write us on Instagram saying,

48:12

$777, I know you have to make

48:14

a living. No,

48:18

it has nothing to do with that. If you

48:20

flip it, if you choose to flip it, this

48:22

could be medicine for you. Well, let's get real,

48:24

right? Because I love that you're bringing this in

48:26

because it's something that P and I have had

48:28

to deal with too. We

48:31

root for the underdog. P and I are both like, underdog.

48:34

I'll give my shirt to the damn underdog. We

48:36

like our friends with all the homeless people in

48:38

our old neighborhood in Venice. They're just like underdog,

48:40

right? And we surprised all of

48:42

our stuff that way because we want everyone to have

48:44

it. And the interesting

48:46

thing is the people who are complaining about the

48:48

price of that have an iPhone. How

48:51

much does an iPhone cost? It's so great because I always

48:53

want to say, how much did you do the damn iPhone?

48:55

How much is your computer? That's right. When's the last time

48:57

you shopped on Amazon? What was the price of that? It's

49:00

not about what something costs. It's how much

49:02

you value that thing. That's right. And the

49:04

truth is a lot of people who are

49:06

stuck in their victim complaining about why life

49:08

isn't working. They don't value change enough. It's

49:10

why they're in the same place. You know

49:12

what they really don't value? Themselves. That's right.

49:14

It all goes back to you. That's right.

49:17

And I just want to like for any

49:19

of Danny's listeners that complain about your prices,

49:21

you put on this amazing podcast for

49:24

free. No, not for free

49:26

for negative. That's right. Well, that's what I was going

49:28

to say. You pay for equipment. You

49:31

pay for hosting. You pay for your researching

49:33

your time, your energy on clients. It costs

49:35

money to make this happen. It costs your

49:38

energy. It costs time away from your kids,

49:40

from your wife, from your other businesses that

49:42

do make money. It is a high cost

49:44

to do free content. And we live

49:46

in a world that we're so in a data with free

49:48

content that we don't forget. We forget

49:50

that people spend time, energy, effort,

49:53

love, intensity, research on this. And

49:56

this is free. And this is fucking

49:58

magical. So we have... to

50:00

again really get with all the

50:02

free content that there is out there. To me, this

50:04

is speaking for myself and I know this is for all

50:06

the clients that I've worked with. I'm sure you can say

50:08

the same. The minute I put my money down with

50:10

somebody, I get real

50:12

responsible for the work I'm about to do because

50:15

now there's a cost. That's right. And I'm not

50:17

going to waste my money. And so when I

50:19

pay my coach and I signed that check and

50:21

send the bill out for 40 grand for six

50:23

months, no problem. Let's fucking go. Why? Because I

50:26

know I'm going to get my money. Happily because

50:28

I know. And then when I'm not going to

50:30

say, when I

50:32

am over here tripping on the fact that someone,

50:35

which by the way we decided we're raising

50:37

the prices of the event. Yeah, you should.

50:39

Because it's just these hotels, the AV. I

50:41

mean the hotels alone. It's insane what they

50:43

want to charge. It's insane. Like we, I

50:45

mean 50% of our

50:47

cost is hotel. I know. Yeah. I know.

50:50

Yeah. And so when

50:52

I'm on this journey, I'm literally about to,

50:55

I'm going to go on a journey myself here pretty soon.

50:57

Cause I know underneath it, there's some things

50:59

that I have to clear up. Yeah. But

51:01

the dream that I have for

51:04

humanity is like to help usher

51:06

in the healing of humanity. Right.

51:09

That's going to take money.

51:11

Yeah. It's just the way it

51:13

is in this world. And I realized

51:15

that like by falling into like

51:17

this energy of trying to

51:19

please not poor people, but

51:21

a poor spirit, that's

51:24

what for energy. That's right. I'm

51:26

actually stopping myself from

51:29

like the healing centers that I want to

51:31

pop on all over the world. It's

51:34

me. And you're robbing them

51:36

from the opportunity of choosing how

51:38

much they actually were like value

51:40

their worth. That's right. I actually

51:42

value my life and

51:46

three days and however much you're

51:48

going to charge more than I value upgrading my

51:50

phone. That's right. I

51:53

mean, let's be real. Yeah. Right. Let's be real.

51:55

And the truth is, you know, I always hear

51:57

the pushback on this. Again, I'm in the nonprofit.

52:00

The pushback on this is like, but Mother Teresa

52:02

in Gandhi did it without money.

52:05

Not true. Mother Teresa was funded

52:07

by some of the wealthiest people in

52:09

the world to do what she did.

52:11

Gandhi saying, do your research. Those people

52:13

needed money to travel the world

52:15

and support and to show up in their heart

52:18

and to give in service of love. All their

52:20

needs were taken care of. By

52:22

the wealthiest people in the world. So while

52:24

we hate on capitalism, we also need it.

52:27

We also need it. We

52:29

want to change the world. Like, you know,

52:31

say we want to fight the system. Well,

52:34

let's let's play the game. I

52:37

believe in a better world. Alexia, that's the choice

52:39

you have. Yeah, it's either you

52:41

can choose to fight the system, be

52:43

mad at the rich, hate, you

52:46

know, whoever it is that you hate because

52:48

they have what you secretly desire that you that

52:50

you wish you had, which in all true and

52:52

naturality is not even the money. You know what

52:54

it is? The freedom to

52:56

become the fullness of who you are

52:58

when it comes to the frequency of

53:00

money. Right. And

53:03

now let's talk about this, right? People really want they

53:05

think they want the cars, the house, the jewelry, the

53:07

clothes, the whatever. Go get it and find

53:09

out that that's all. Find out. And we have

53:11

the luxury of knowing that's right. We've made the money. We've

53:13

gotten the things and we're like, oh, this isn't it. That's

53:15

right. Now, if you don't have the luxury

53:17

of knowing that here from two people who have that

53:19

what you actually want and what you're actually

53:21

chasing is your soul wants to be fucking

53:24

liberated. It's right. It

53:26

wants to be free. It wants to like

53:28

fully express and create and live and experience

53:30

this life that we have. And

53:32

you can do that right now. Now I'm

53:34

going to circle it all back. This

53:37

is why events like yours and

53:39

mine yours are fucking priceless. Pressless

53:41

because you get that in

53:44

the three days. That's

53:46

why I call it 30 years of

53:48

therapy in like three days, three days.

53:50

And it's like, we are people leave

53:52

our events. I'm sure it's the same with you. And

53:54

they go, I don't even want the same things because

53:56

I'm a different human that

53:59

now gets That's it. I am liberated

54:01

in myself. And because I'm liberated here,

54:03

I don't need all those things. I

54:05

can still get them because why not? Why not play the game?

54:07

It's available to all of us. So let's let's

54:10

go. But I show

54:12

up differently. And then the grasping on

54:14

all those things goes away because you realize

54:16

you're the source. You're it. You're

54:19

it. That's right. And

54:21

to me, like, how much do I have to pay for that?

54:24

Okay. Done deal. Sure. Done

54:27

deal. Take my money. Take it.

54:30

That's the most interesting. Yesterday we were in

54:32

Houston and this beautiful bellman, he

54:35

was like the wonderful, the most wonderful guy

54:37

and he was just so friendly. And he,

54:39

you know, he brought up our

54:42

bags and he cared for Selena. This

54:44

beautiful smile on his face, you know,

54:47

very humble. And like I would tip him

54:49

every time. And it was it was interesting because

54:51

I tipped him when he walked in the room and then

54:53

like I saw him in front of the car after he

54:55

put everything when I was like, fuck here, just take my

54:58

money. Take my money because

55:00

he was so beautiful. Because who you be,

55:02

that's right. So inspiring that I can't help

55:04

but pour and can help it. That

55:06

is what the world. God universe source is

55:08

constantly saying who's available for me to pour

55:10

into them. That's right. And most people

55:12

are like, I'm so busy being busy on all

55:14

the wrong thing. I'm not available because I'm so

55:17

busy being busy focused on who

55:19

I think I should be versus I'm available because

55:21

I am who I am. And I'm so locked

55:23

in. I'm so anchored in myself as

55:25

a source of my safety and freedom. Like,

55:29

let's go. I'm here

55:31

to receive. Casper,

55:37

this is a good one. Yeah. How

55:39

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55:41

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56:10

they're two weekends We really suggest you do

56:12

both but you can do level one and

56:15

then come back and do level two later But

56:17

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got Australia in October. We've got

56:21

Austin again in January We try and do it once a quarter.

56:24

I might come yeah come and it's it's such

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57:03

it's all about integration of who you

57:05

are in your unique expression. Like there's

57:08

no prescriptive formula for anything. I love

57:10

it Yeah, thank you so much for being

57:12

here. You're welcome. We're gonna go check

57:14

out you guys are coming to beauty. Let's

57:17

go Yeah, yeah, so we're you know, we

57:19

love our house, but we don't love how

57:21

far away it is from Austin Yeah,

57:23

and we happen to like again We manifested

57:25

like literally manifested the house that we drew

57:27

that we were gonna build We

57:30

manifested it like that and it's got

57:32

land and a creek and hills and

57:34

trees. Okay, so close to Austin It's

57:36

the best we're gonna come By

57:39

thanks for being here. Of course. Oh, I hope

57:41

you guys enjoyed this one. This one was wonderful.

57:43

It was medicine for me I'm sure it's gonna

57:45

be medicine for you We'll

57:47

see you next week on another episode of the higher self

57:50

Hey friends this week we're gonna do something new you've

57:52

been asking so many questions That

57:55

we're going to start answering them on

57:57

a weekly basis. So here's this week's

57:59

question For this week's

58:01

question, Danny, we have Ieva from

58:04

Lithuania asking, I'm

58:06

a single mom building a business from scratch.

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The thing is that I'm sick and tired

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of living in scarcity, of

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being surrounded by poor people and not having

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money to live based on my standards. In

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three years, I want to become a

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multimillionaire and create the dream life for

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me and my daughter. What I

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realized is that to do so, I have

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to relocate and be surrounded by truly rich,

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wealthy and successful people who know how to

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get where I want. I have

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big dreams and a vision, so I want to ask

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for your help. Where do I start and

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how do I get where I want? Thank you. I

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would say, number one, what a beautiful,

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I feel her energy and I feel

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how serious she is about what

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she wants to create in the world. Listen,

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I would say step number one, like

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forget about needing to move and just

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start exactly where you are right now.

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Step number two would be, I think this

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podcast, for example, taught a lot about some

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of the work that you have to do

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on your energy, on your body, to

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release any sort of barriers

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between you and what it is that you want

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to accomplish, have or receive in life. Step

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number three would be to get clear. And

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what I've always taught people is what worked for

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me when it comes to money,

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for example, like you could want to make, let's say

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a million bucks a year. But

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understand that in order to make that million bucks

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a year, what we tend to

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do in our minds is we tend to get

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into a space where we put our goals

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so out of reach for what we believe

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based off of who we are right now,

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that we put it so out of reach

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that we can do what we want. And

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that it feels impossible to ever get there.

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And so what I would say is like, take that

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goal and break it down

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into bite sizes, right? Maybe

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it's not a million in three years, maybe it's

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a million in 10 years. wrong

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with that, you know, if you

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really think about it, there's so many human beings

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that go 10 years without ever achieving that. And

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I would say, you know, if

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you are stuck at an income of like 50,000 bucks

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a year, for example, and you've

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never made a hundred thousand dollars in a year,

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then I would say that there's a limiting belief in a

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story around what it would mean for you to

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make that. And I would say number one,

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let's make that your target. And

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then number two, I would say write the

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statement every single day, 25 times a day,

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I earn $100,000 a year or more, whatever

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your number is. Normally, what I teach

1:00:38

people to do is take the most

1:00:41

amount of money that they've ever made in

1:00:43

their life and multiply it in one year

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and multiply it by three. And

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then when they do that, what happens

1:00:49

is it unlocks this thing called the

1:00:52

reticular activating sensor in your brain to

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start getting comfortable with that new

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number. And it'll feel weird, it'll

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feel a little bit different, but it'll

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soon enough become normal. And the

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reason why most people struggle with

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money is because their normal is

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struggle. Once you create

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a new normal inside your mind,

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your heart, your body, your soul,

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then the steps to take will

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manifest themselves. So I

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would say before I were to give you like

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what to do, the only thing that

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I would tell you to do right now is

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to change what your normal is,

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write that statement down every single

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day, and then go

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after that number, whatever your number

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is that would make you

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feel possibly a little bit uncomfortable, a

1:01:38

little bit nervous. And yet you know

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that if you work hard and you

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focus on it, you can actually make it

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happen. That's the number you want to go

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after. Because if you keep thinking about

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a number that is too big, that

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it feels unrealistic, your ego will continue

1:01:52

to find ways to make sure that

1:01:54

you never achieve it, because deep within

1:01:56

your heart and soul you feel it's

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unachievable. Thank you for your question.

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1:02:03

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1:02:05

answered live, we do this every

1:02:07

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1:02:10

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