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Have you ever experienced heartbreak in your

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life? Have you ever experienced

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pain so deep that

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it hurts? And quite frankly, you have

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a hard time letting go of it. Well, that's what

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this episode is going to be all about.

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I think this is going to be one

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for the ages. We've got the author of

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Eat, Pray, and Fuck My Life, Gabrielle

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Stone, and a beautiful

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journey called

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Fuck Off, I'm Healing. You

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know, you got to keep it real with

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them. You know, I like that. So Gabrielle,

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in 30 seconds, why should they listen? You

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know, I have been a person

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in this life who has gone through

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the trauma, the heartbreak, and I

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have gotten to the other side of it all. There

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is a beautiful light at the end of the

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tunnel. And I promise it is worth getting there.

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You just have to hold on. It's

1:00

so interesting you said that I just had

1:02

our Q&A with our audience, our

1:04

community, and awaken you. And

1:07

there was this beautiful woman there that I

1:10

shared that exact message with probably 20 minutes

1:12

ago. I love it. So I think this

1:14

is going to be a beautiful conversation. I love it.

1:16

Let's do it. So talk to me. What happened?

1:21

God, that's such a loaded question. So

1:24

I guess we'll start with the condensed

1:26

version of what the book is about.

1:28

I was married for almost two years,

1:31

found out my husband was having an affair with

1:33

a 19-year-old for six months, filed

1:35

for divorce, left. And shortly after

1:37

that, I met a man who

1:40

was a pretty well-known actor

1:42

in Hollywood, fell madly in love with each other,

1:44

had this like, whirlwind romance of

1:46

meet my family, I'm going to have babies with

1:48

this person like we're done. And

1:51

he invited me on a month-long trip to Italy with

1:53

him. 48 hours before

1:55

we were getting on the plane, he told me he

1:57

needed to go by himself and broke up with me.

2:00

And I was absolutely devastated. This

2:02

man broke my heart like my ex-husband

2:04

never could have done. Oh my God, I feel

2:06

that. Oh, it was like the worst

2:09

of the worst, height of the honeymoon just like

2:11

rub pulled out from under me. And I had a

2:13

decision to make, and that was either stay at home

2:15

heartbroken or go travel Europe for a

2:17

month by myself. So I took a

2:20

backpack and I did six countries over the span

2:22

of a month, and I wrote my book about

2:24

it. Okay, hold on. You

2:26

see, this is power. This

2:28

is what power looks like, and

2:30

this is what transmuting pain into

2:32

healing looks like. And

2:35

this is what I believe we're all here

2:37

to do on this journey of life. So-

2:39

I completely agree. So take me

2:41

back for a second. Take

2:44

me back to the marriage. A

2:48

lot of our listeners, I'd

2:50

say 75% of our audience is women. And

2:54

a lot of them ask us about

2:56

this, infidelity, this type

2:58

of, these

3:00

types of questions. And I've

3:02

been on the opposite side of it. I was

3:05

the one that had the affair, right? So I

3:07

wanna hear from your perspective, like

3:10

what was that like? What

3:12

did it feel like when it happened? And

3:15

how did you get past it? How long did

3:17

it take? That's a lot. So

3:19

for me personally, in

3:21

my marriage, I had been really unhappy

3:23

for seven, eight months.

3:27

We were in therapy and I was doing

3:30

everything I could to get back to a

3:32

place of happiness. And I couldn't understand why

3:34

it wasn't working, why I was doing all of the

3:37

things and why he was doing none of the things.

3:39

Obviously when the affair came to light, it all started

3:41

to make sense, but because

3:44

of the unhappiness I had been feeling, I

3:47

don't feel like I was really in love with

3:50

my husband at the time. I

3:52

loved him as a person, but

3:55

I wasn't in love. So when I

3:58

found out about the affair, and everything came to

4:01

light, it was more

4:03

of being betrayed and

4:05

that like heartbreak and rage that

4:07

I felt, but I wasn't

4:10

heartbroken. I wasn't like, oh,

4:13

this is devastating to my heart because

4:15

I wasn't fully in love in

4:17

that way. The

4:20

relationship after was the

4:22

one that, you know, wreaked havoc on

4:24

my heart, but

4:26

through my healing journey,

4:29

I've come to see that when

4:33

I fell in love with the guy

4:35

after, that was when I started

4:39

to put some of the pieces together that I

4:41

didn't realize were happening in my marriage. So

4:44

let me get this straight. He cheated

4:46

on you with a 19 year old. Yes,

4:49

and multiple other women. Once the book came

4:51

out that reached out to me. So

4:53

this guy was all along,

4:57

behaving in this fashion. Could

4:59

that have been why you were

5:01

unhappy all along and weren't

5:04

in love? I think so, but this

5:07

is, we're going to have to go back a little bit

5:09

further to get into this, the

5:11

deepness of this answer. So I lost my

5:14

dad pretty dramatically when I was six years

5:16

old, walked in and found him dead on

5:18

the floor from a heart attack. That

5:21

was my first experience of when

5:24

I love someone, they leave. And

5:26

really for me personally, when I love

5:28

a man, they leave. And

5:31

at the core of when I love

5:33

someone, they leave is fear of abandonment.

5:35

So that became my story of like,

5:38

Gabrielle has to work through fear of abandonment

5:40

in his life. I then lost my

5:42

high school sweetheart in a car accident when I was 18.

5:45

So that kind of reopened that wound and

5:48

was like, Oh, again, when I love someone,

5:50

they leave when I love a man, he

5:52

dies or leaves fear of abandonment.

5:55

That's really deep. Yeah, that was

5:57

where it all began. So unconsciously,

6:01

I was now walking through this

6:03

world, attracting people that

6:05

were gonna abandon me. That's

6:08

right. Like, my life is a blueprint

6:10

to it. So I attracted my ex-husband, who

6:12

would abandon me in one of the most heinous ways

6:14

possible. And the universe was like, okay, Gabrielle,

6:17

are we ready to go heal this shit? And I was like,

6:19

no, no, I'm good. I'm gonna go over here. Yes. That's

6:22

what happens. Completely. That's what

6:24

happens. Attracted the next man who, I mean, it's

6:26

almost funny when you look at it, abandoned me

6:28

two days before we were getting on this, like,

6:30

grand adventure that he invited me on. The universe

6:32

was like, okay, are we ready to go heal

6:34

this now? But do you know why that happened?

6:36

I know you know now, but it happened because

6:39

the universe was trying to send you all along

6:41

the key to the healing, but you just wouldn't

6:43

listen. And this is a message for

6:45

all of you. It's like, you

6:47

can look back, I know you're gonna share this, but

6:49

you can look back on your past and,

6:51

like, hold on to the hurt and

6:53

the pain and the hatred. Or

6:56

you can try to understand that I think what

6:58

Gabrielle is trying to tell you is what I've been trying to

7:00

tell you all along. There's something within

7:03

you that hasn't been healed

7:05

yet that is causing you

7:07

to unconsciously attract the

7:09

circumstances that you face in your life. So

7:13

I was attracting all of these men

7:15

that were playing out that abandonment fear

7:17

in me. So my brain

7:19

consciously was like, see, see, they

7:22

abandon you, they abandon you. And it

7:24

wasn't until I got sent on this

7:26

crazy journey across the world by myself

7:28

to go learn how to be by

7:30

myself and heal myself

7:33

that I was then able to attract people

7:35

that wouldn't abandon me because I had to

7:38

go heal that abandonment fear. So

7:40

when people write into my show or, you

7:42

know, readers from my book, they'll

7:44

message me and they're like, why am I

7:46

always getting cheated on? Why am I

7:48

always attracting the narcissist? Why am I always ending up

7:50

with the assholes? And it's like, is

7:53

that your fault? Do you

7:55

deserve that? No, of course not. But there is

7:57

something within you if there is a pattern in

7:59

your life. in any capacity, whether

8:01

it's the men you're

8:03

dating, like the financial situations you're

8:06

in, whatever you're

8:08

experiencing a pattern in, you are subconsciously

8:10

attracting that in some way. So

8:12

until you go and fix and heal whatever

8:14

that is, you're gonna attract the assholes, you're

8:16

gonna attract the narcissists, you're gonna keep getting

8:18

cheated on. Again, not that

8:21

you're deserving of this, but you have to like

8:23

point the finger back at yourself and be like,

8:25

okay, what is this trying to wake up at

8:27

me to go heal

8:29

so that I can attract

8:31

better? Well, Gabrielle, it just

8:33

goes back to like, frequency

8:36

attracts frequency, like attracts like,

8:38

energy attracts energy. And

8:41

this is the beautiful part of the

8:43

healing journey is when you finally realize

8:45

that, right? When you

8:47

finally realize that then you get to

8:49

take ownership, which is

8:52

hard for victim energy to do,

8:54

creator energy says, hang on. If

8:58

this keeps happening to me, it's

9:00

because there's something in me that maybe I

9:02

don't realize it by the way, but

9:04

something in me keeps calling this into

9:06

my life. Yeah, absolutely.

9:08

And I think God bless

9:10

my mom for teaching me at

9:13

a really early age, the difference between

9:16

being a victim and letting

9:19

it define you and

9:22

making something that you've been through just part

9:24

of your journey that you can then move

9:27

forward from. It's impossible for

9:29

you to have a successful relationship with

9:31

another human being or a partner if

9:34

you don't have a successful relationship with

9:36

yourself. And what we

9:38

as human beings realize is that

9:40

we are deeply disconnected. We're

9:45

disconnected from mother earth. We're disconnected

9:47

from peace. We're disconnected from love.

9:49

What we do at Awaken is

9:51

we curate different exercises

9:53

to help you reconnect first to

9:55

yourself and then the beautiful

9:58

process of reconnecting to. Everybody

10:00

begins and that's why Awaken is so

10:02

powerful. You'll do more in three days

10:04

at Awaken than you would do 30

10:07

years anywhere else. I

10:11

was so stuck and now I

10:14

feel peace. Awaken has done

10:16

the best thing we have done for marriage.

10:18

Coming here, I realized that the

10:20

answers were inside of me all

10:22

the time. Head on

10:24

over to dannymorell.com backslash

10:27

Awaken now to get your

10:29

tickets today. I wanna go into

10:31

that trip. Yeah. And

10:33

I wanna go into, okay, you

10:35

felt the pain and the heartbreak. And

10:39

it's so interesting, I have to comment because

10:41

this is what came to me. It's so

10:44

interesting that the universe had to

10:46

make it a

10:48

ridiculously famous person. Probably

10:52

the dream board guy for you to

10:54

feel like, okay,

10:56

time out, something is obviously not right.

10:58

Yeah. So take

11:01

me back to those moments where you

11:03

decided I'm going on a trip and I'll

11:05

tell you why this is important. So

11:07

many people in our audience are afraid

11:09

to travel. They're afraid to do things on

11:11

their own. We invite them

11:14

to events and in their mind, they

11:16

can't even see themselves going

11:18

places on their own. I think that's a

11:20

big issue. Yeah. Well, for me,

11:23

I was struggling with the fear of abandonment. So of course

11:25

this situation that happened would

11:27

be like, okay, so we're going to make

11:30

her go across the world to be

11:33

alone, like in the biggest way. I

11:35

had never done a solo trip before. I

11:38

had heard about hostels. I

11:41

was like, there's a movie, people get brutally murdered

11:43

in it. What do you mean I'm gonna go

11:45

stay in hostels? Like it was not my

11:48

thing, but I got on

11:50

the plane. I was like, okay, we're gonna

11:52

do it. I'm

11:54

a big believer in everything happens for a

11:56

reason. This was like to a T, like

11:58

you couldn't argue. this is what was

12:00

going on in my life. And I

12:04

really quickly discovered on this trip

12:07

how much I love being by myself.

12:11

It allowed me to meet myself in an

12:13

entirely different way than I ever have before.

12:16

So often when we're, quote,

12:19

by ourselves, we're scrolling on

12:21

TikTok or watching Netflix or like we

12:23

have 50 different things

12:25

that are making us not really just

12:27

with ourselves. And

12:29

solo travel is one of the best ways

12:31

that you can get out of your

12:34

comfort zone and rediscover so many things

12:36

about yourself. And the

12:38

biggest gift that I got from this trip, although

12:41

there were so many, was

12:43

that I'm never really abandoned because I'll

12:45

never abandon myself. And that

12:47

was huge for me. That's right.

12:49

What was that moment like and how did that

12:52

moment come to realization? It

12:55

came gradually. It wasn't a,

12:58

all of a sudden it clicked and

13:01

made sense. It was the culmination

13:04

of losing my father,

13:07

losing my high school sweetheart, being

13:09

cheated on in my marriage, having

13:12

this man essentially

13:14

kind of love bomb me and then

13:16

bounce right before this

13:18

trip and still standing

13:21

there in my power on this trip being

13:23

like, oh, I fucking

13:25

did it. I'm here and I'm

13:28

living and I've survived everything up

13:30

until this point because

13:33

I'm here with myself. So

13:35

then it became getting

13:38

into a new relationship. It

13:41

was, yeah, they might die.

13:43

Yeah, they might leave. Yeah, they might

13:45

cheat or lie, but I'm

13:47

always gonna be okay because I'm here

13:49

with myself. It might suck. It

13:51

might be hard. It might be heartbreaking, but

13:54

I'm always gonna be okay because I have

13:56

myself. I'm curious, where

13:58

did you go on the trip? So I

14:00

started in London and

14:03

then I went to Amsterdam, Paris. I'm

14:07

trying to think of the order

14:09

Barcelona, Mykonos, Rome, and Sicily. Have

14:13

you ever looked into ancestry and have

14:15

you ever potentially seen where your lineage

14:17

is from? I have

14:19

not and I would be interested

14:22

to see if any of those line up. Can

14:24

I tell you why? Yes. Because

14:26

our stories are parallel. And

14:31

I feel that often what

14:33

has to happen is we have to

14:35

go back to our land and

14:37

go back to where we're from and

14:40

when we're on that land codes unlock.

14:43

Interesting. Spirits, our

14:46

angels, our ancestors. I

14:48

can vividly remember what happened to me

14:50

was through a psychic reading my mother

14:52

came to me and drew a map

14:54

like this and said you have to

14:57

go here and you're going to start

14:59

from here and you're going to work your way up

15:01

like this. I was asking the

15:03

psychic like what is that? I don't know. I

15:05

don't know. And when we looked at the map,

15:07

it was the tip of South America going

15:10

up in through Costa Rica, that

15:12

little portion of land. I

15:14

did a trip just like this and on one

15:17

portion of my trip, I took a

15:19

horseback ride to

15:21

the top of a mountain and

15:23

I literally felt my ancestors come

15:25

behind me. And

15:28

I'm curious to see if. Yeah, I would

15:31

be interested too. And I

15:33

think, especially in

15:35

the spiritual space, I feel like

15:37

sometimes there's this toxic

15:39

positivity of everything happens for a reason. And

15:43

I wholeheartedly believe that everything happens for a reason,

15:45

but not in the way where you're just like,

15:48

yeah, it's fine. Everything else is written. No, you

15:50

have to go through the shit. You have

15:52

to really experience it. You have to heal it. You

15:54

have to look for the lessons. Then

15:56

everything happens for a reason. That's right. I was

15:59

meant. to go on this

16:01

trip. I was meant to heal all of the

16:03

parts within myself that I healed, that I had

16:05

been carrying with me since I was a little

16:07

girl. And I was meant to write this

16:09

book the same

16:11

way that when I came back from the trip

16:13

and I shopped it to all these publishers, they

16:15

were all like, I think it's a

16:17

little too racy or I don't think there's a

16:19

big enough audience. I don't

16:21

know. And I got all these no's and I

16:24

ended up self-publishing it, cut

16:27

to it going massively viral on TikTok and

16:29

changing my entire life and being read by

16:31

women and men around

16:33

the world. I

16:35

wouldn't have had that same experience if one

16:37

of the big publishers would

16:39

have taken that for me, taken a bunch of the

16:42

royalties from it. Like it's all

16:44

really supposed to

16:46

happen the way it is if you are honoring

16:49

the journey and walking the walk. That's

16:52

right. Absolutely. I have

16:55

to add one more thing to the trip that

16:57

I feel like I want to share. It's like

16:59

your lesson on your trip was I'm never alone.

17:02

Or I can never be abandoned because I

17:04

won't abandon myself. My lesson

17:06

at that time was I was so attached to

17:08

like my home. And

17:12

my ex-wife and the kids were about to move here

17:14

to Austin and I had just built my dream home

17:17

and I was so attached to it. And what I learned

17:19

on the last on the trip was home is where I

17:21

am. There was a big lesson. I love

17:23

that. I want to circle back to when you

17:26

had asked me before about

17:28

the being in love with my

17:30

ex-husband and we went into

17:33

the abandonment. So I

17:35

had this really powerful discovery

17:37

when I fell in love with

17:39

the man after. And

17:42

I was like, why did I

17:44

get married? Why

17:47

did I go through with that if I wasn't

17:49

fully in love with

17:51

my ex-husband? And when

17:53

I finally put it all together, it was like,

17:55

well, Gabrielle, you loved your dad and he died

17:57

and you loved your high school sweetheart and he

17:59

died. So you married someone

18:01

that you weren't fully in love with because

18:03

it was safe. Subconsciously,

18:07

deeply subconscious. Obviously, I wasn't walking down

18:09

the aisle going, you're safe because I'm

18:11

not really in love with you. But to

18:13

realize like the little girl

18:16

in me was protecting myself going,

18:18

well, if I don't really

18:20

fully love him, then he won't die on me

18:23

and he'll be safe. Or if he does, it

18:25

won't really matter to me. Right. I

18:27

was so iconic to like call him safe with

18:30

how things played out. But it

18:33

was such a big aha moment for me

18:36

in how deep what

18:38

I had still been carrying from

18:41

the loss of my father and the loss of my

18:43

boyfriend. That really was

18:46

screaming at me to be healed in

18:48

a bigger way. So

18:51

now you come back from the trip.

18:55

And number one, you start writing a book. Well,

18:57

I started writing the book the first day on

18:59

the trip. I wrote three fourths of it

19:02

by hand in my journal. Wow.

19:04

On that trip. It like very much

19:07

channeled through me because I've written

19:09

multiple books now and I can tell you they

19:11

don't come that fast. No, no, because I'm writing one

19:13

right now. It's not, I find it very

19:15

easy to do this. Yeah. Doing

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how did dating, relationships, men,

20:14

how did all of that

20:16

change once you

20:19

healed that story? That's

20:21

a really good question. When

20:24

I came back from Europe, I

20:26

was in probably one of the biggest

20:28

depressions I had been in in my

20:30

life because all of this stuff

20:32

had been happening and then I went on this trip and

20:34

I was meeting all these people and I came home

20:37

and I stepped off the carousel and everything

20:40

just stopped. And it was like, oh, okay,

20:42

right, I'm 28, I'm living back

20:44

at my mom's house and I'm

20:46

getting a divorce. That's where we're

20:48

at. And so it really took

20:51

a minute for me to pull myself out

20:53

of that depression. And it

20:57

was interesting because I had done so

21:00

much healing on the trip, even though

21:02

I was feeling depressed, my energy

21:04

was attracting men at

21:06

this point. I remember coming back being

21:08

like, I'm so not healed.

21:10

I'm still heartbroken. I'm still in love with my

21:13

ex and people were like, hi, I'd like to

21:15

enter my name in the hat. And I was

21:17

like, guys, I am so fucked up.

21:19

Nobody wants to pick into

21:22

this show right now.

21:24

And once I released the first

21:26

book, everybody, my readers that

21:28

were reading was like, okay, but what happened after

21:30

Europe? We need to know what happened.

21:33

So I wrote a sequel while

21:35

I was kind of living through

21:37

it. And in that

21:39

sequel is the story of

21:41

how I attracted my now husband,

21:44

who all my readers call my unicorn.

21:47

And he's amazing

21:49

and wonderful. And we just welcomed

21:52

a really adorable

21:54

baby boy seven and a

21:56

half months ago. And so that book

22:00

is kind of me

22:02

finishing the healing that I started

22:04

on the trip and seeing how I

22:07

was able to attract someone who would never abandon

22:09

me. So I have to

22:11

ask, why is he a unicorn? And

22:13

how did that whole how did it all happen? It's

22:17

it's really wild. So we had actually

22:19

met like 10 years prior on

22:21

a film shoot, we were acting opposite

22:23

each other. And we had kept in

22:26

touch over the years. I obviously

22:29

went and got married, he got married, he

22:31

had a child, I got divorced, he got divorced.

22:34

And when I came back from Europe, we ran

22:36

into each other like randomly at a bar. And

22:39

our stories are

22:41

so oddly parallel.

22:43

I obviously lost my dad when

22:45

I was six walked in and found him.

22:47

He lost his mom when he was 14 and

22:50

was the one that found her. So we

22:52

have a oddly

22:54

similar trauma in that experience,

22:58

that we've been able to, you know,

23:00

relationships are such good mirrors, yeah,

23:02

come together to heal so much of

23:04

that. He's also 15 years older

23:07

than me. So I just like we copy

23:10

paste. We so I've had to rectify a lot of leftover

23:12

subconscious not

23:21

subconscious, they're very conscious fears of,

23:23

you know, losing him, like

23:26

I'm gonna lose my dad. There's a lot of

23:28

triggers that that I had

23:30

to work through to because he's older.

23:32

Yeah. I remember for for Jen,

23:34

that was like, wait a minute, when I'm

23:36

80, you're going to be 100. Right. And I'm like,

23:38

yeah, don't worry, I'm going to get to 120. And then we'll both

23:40

go together.

23:43

Yeah, yeah. It's, it's scary,

23:45

especially when you've lost a

23:47

male figure in that, you

23:49

know, capacity, but Gabrielle

23:51

also beautiful because like the message I just

23:54

got was like, it's

23:57

like in order for you to really be.

24:00

Open to love you had to go into

24:02

that fear again. Yeah, like I

24:06

Hope you guys are getting this cuz like yeah, it's

24:09

all very like Obvious

24:11

when you're looking at it when you're looking at it,

24:13

right? It's like that's what I saw I saw but

24:15

of course he was gonna be older because she It's

24:18

it's like the universe brought you face to face

24:20

with it's either you're going to live in fear

24:23

Which you have every right to do you did I

24:26

do so do you if you're out there listening or?

24:29

Here's your shot. Yeah, but you're gonna have to let go

24:31

of that story And I know it's

24:33

gonna be scary that I know it's gonna take courage,

24:35

but this is the guy Yeah, that is here to

24:37

help you do that. I remember saying to my mom

24:39

powerful man I remember saying to my mom when we

24:42

were kind of back and forth on if we were

24:44

gonna be together or not And I was

24:46

like, I'm just terrified that he's gonna die and she looked at

24:48

me and she was like Gabrielle

24:50

you could get hit by a bus tomorrow. Yeah,

24:52

you're gonna not Spend 30 40 50

24:55

60 years of happiness because of this fear

24:58

that is completely unfounded. Yeah,

25:00

like Yeah, it's

25:02

like yeah The craziest part about my

25:04

relationship with him is that when he

25:06

came into my life He had

25:09

a daughter that was the same age. I was when I

25:11

lost my dad Gabrielle

25:13

I know the universe really went because

25:16

I'm we're not gonna let her ignore

25:18

this. I'm telling you it's like It's

25:21

like me with my divorce and my

25:24

my story with

25:26

my ex-wife and my affair

25:29

is mirror

25:31

copy paste Three

25:34

boys. It was myself and three brothers. My

25:37

dad had it was I had the affair Mirror

25:39

copy and paste we left New

25:41

York to California when I was 13 Basically,

25:44

they left to Austin when my

25:46

oldest was 13 Yeah, and

25:49

and and what I saw it as Was

25:52

like I had a choice. I could

25:55

choose to do what my dad did which

25:57

was stay out of our lives, right? I

26:01

could choose to heal the masculine energy

26:03

or start the process of healing the

26:05

masculine energy in my Family

26:08

in my entire lineage by

26:10

saying like I don't care if I

26:12

just built the dream house Like I'm going I'm

26:15

going for my kids. Yeah, you know and I

26:17

I sacrificed it all because when I got here

26:19

like I Had to give

26:21

up that image of the beautiful home and all

26:23

of that, but I didn't care It was yeah

26:25

my boys. Yeah, you know no I totally

26:27

get that and sometimes the messages

26:30

and the lessons come wrapped in a

26:32

completely different Box than you were

26:34

expecting like if you ever told me you

26:36

are going to meet someone that's 15 years older than

26:38

you He'll have a daughter from a previous marriage

26:40

like I would have been like Okay.

26:43

No, no, that's not how we're

26:45

gonna do this. Um, but it it

26:48

was exactly what I needed and he is the

26:51

perfect person for me,

26:53

but I would have

26:56

never attracted him if I

26:58

would it have gone through

27:00

all of the stuff and done the work

27:02

and Not sat in the victimness

27:04

of okay I'm just gonna stay home and be

27:06

sad and cry and not go on this trip

27:09

because it's scary. I Went

27:11

and I did the work and I looked for the

27:13

lessons like the more you can look in Your

27:16

life and in your experience like you're a

27:18

detective and be like, okay, this sucks and

27:20

it hurts and it's shitty But where are

27:22

the lessons? That's right, then it gives it

27:24

purpose and it's like, okay At least I'm

27:26

going through it for something. That's right, and

27:29

I would do it ten times over to end up

27:31

where I'm at now Absolutely. So

27:33

there's a lot of people out there

27:36

that they hear you and I'm

27:39

gonna tell you how powerful fear is fear

27:41

is so powerful that I feel like

27:44

I Feel this connection with

27:46

you and I feel like me

27:48

and you are literally saying here. Yeah here

27:50

it is Here on a

27:52

silver platter is is

27:54

how you need to look at things what you need to do

27:56

And I feel like fear is

27:58

so fucking powerful, Gabri The other their price still

28:01

sitting there like. But. But what what

28:03

about me bahadur why do it yeah but could

28:05

be to see are literally and i made my

28:07

head as cause fear has as walking around like

28:09

them zombies. But. We don't understand

28:11

how powerful we really aren't. We don't understand

28:14

how powerful life is and will understand that

28:16

life is trying to give us the very

28:18

medicine that we need to see ourselves. Yes,

28:21

So for those people that are out there

28:23

like what, Step One. And

28:25

well, it's interesting that you say that. I.

28:28

Get the majority of my

28:30

readers. An eye open every day.

28:32

And that I got because this book is

28:34

so personal. When. They go on this journey

28:36

with me. Every. One of my

28:38

readers are like. I didn't

28:40

pick this up because it felt like a self

28:43

help book because it's. It's. A

28:45

self help book at it's core,

28:47

but it's because you're reading about

28:49

me going through these experiences and

28:51

then he your relating to them.

28:53

It's not like. You're. Sitting

28:56

down to. Read. This

28:58

is how to six your life and like

29:00

heal yourself. And it's written like a Netflix

29:02

story and you feel like you're sitting down

29:04

and having a glass of wine with me

29:06

and like. Going on this Europe trip

29:09

and. But the things that

29:11

I come to and realized in the

29:13

book on this journey. Than

29:15

are like. Oh and people are

29:17

having is like massive realizations eyes they're

29:19

reading. I have this thing that I

29:21

write about that I think you'll love

29:23

in it called the Thought Onion. And

29:26

it's kind of my way of. Looking.

29:28

At our thoughts in a very

29:30

simplistic way to get to what's

29:33

at the subconscious level. See.

29:35

Look at it like an onion

29:37

and the first initial thought you

29:39

have. Is. Your superficial thought.

29:41

And. That's like. Your. Knee jerk reaction

29:44

like what's your conscious mind thinking?

29:46

It's usually judge he it's usually

29:48

like very superficial. You're like okay.

29:51

What's. underneath that nuts the authentic thought

29:53

were you can look at it and

29:55

say okay this is the out spot

29:57

that is causing that superficial thought this

29:59

is the emotion I'm having that's causing

30:01

that initial reaction in the first place.

30:04

And then you look underneath that and it's the

30:06

subconscious thought. And when you can get

30:08

to the subconscious thought, that's where the real like

30:11

meat and potatoes is where you're like, Oh, this

30:13

is the trauma it stems from. This is

30:15

the experience that I'm triggered by. And when

30:17

you can get to that root of it,

30:20

you can then change your thought

30:22

patterns to have different thoughts or reactions in

30:24

the future. And it's a really easy step

30:26

by step way. And again, I'm not teaching

30:28

them this in the book. I'm just like,

30:31

this is what I'm going to do because I'm having

30:33

a shitty reaction right now. And I don't really want

30:36

to have it anymore. Let's find out what the hell

30:38

it's about. So they're reading my

30:41

healing journey and getting the healing from

30:43

it, but it doesn't feel so in

30:45

your face. So to answer your question,

30:48

I think that helps take some

30:50

of the fear away because you're really just

30:52

reading to be entertained, but you're also

30:54

getting all the lessons from it. I

30:56

love it. I heard so much in that. And

30:58

I I'm going to be honest

31:00

with you about something. I, um, like

31:03

I told you before we started filming, I'm in the process

31:05

of writing a book. The book is

31:07

here. The first edit, the first draft is

31:09

here. But

31:11

what I don't like about it, it's like,

31:13

I, I

31:15

hired somebody to help me write

31:18

it. She's wonderful, but

31:20

it just doesn't feel like my story or

31:22

my words. So I'm now, like

31:25

the format it's there is 35 chapters, but

31:27

now I'm having to like go back in to

31:30

like make it me. And

31:33

I love that you just said that cause

31:35

it was encouragement for me. It's like just,

31:37

which is, which is, I think it's what

31:39

I do on social media. I just, I

31:42

just share my story with people and people

31:44

really resonate. That's what people love because they're

31:46

able to connect with you and

31:49

your journey, not

31:52

the one, two, three steps of

31:54

how to fix yourself. Yeah. Cause that's where the

31:56

fear is when everybody's like, this is how you

31:58

fix yourself. You're like, okay, but. There's a lot

32:00

of shit in that closet. I'm not sure I'm ready to

32:02

go there. But the work that you and

32:04

I do, it's like, okay, we'll come into my closet. Look

32:07

through my stuff. That's right. Heel from

32:09

that. That's absolutely true. So

32:11

how do people get the book? So the

32:14

book, because I self-published, is exclusively on Amazon.

32:16

It's called Eat, Pray, FML, which obviously stands

32:18

for Fuck My Life. It's a satirical play

32:20

on the classic Eat, Pray, Love. I can

32:22

assure you that is not the book you

32:25

will be getting if you pick this up.

32:28

You can also get them signed by

32:30

me on the website, which is eatprayfml.com,

32:32

and the sequel, which is everything that

32:34

happened after the trip, is called

32:36

The Ridiculous Misadventures of a Single Girl. I

32:39

love that. That's good for you. And

32:42

how do people find out more about you? I'm

32:44

on Instagram, at Gabrielle

32:46

Stone, and TikTok, at

32:48

Gabrielle underscore Stone, and

32:51

eatprayfml.com is all the stuff.

32:53

And you've done an episode of my podcast, SML

32:55

Talk, very shoot

32:57

the shit therapy with- We

33:01

had fun on that episode. With some F-bombs on it.

33:03

How do people watch that episode, by the

33:06

way? You can just search SML Talk with

33:08

Jani Morel. And it'll come up. Beautiful.

33:10

Yeah, it's a good one. We had fun. We

33:13

did have fun. Thanks

33:15

for being here. Thank you for having me. Yeah, and that's this

33:17

week's episode of The Higher Self. Go get

33:19

the books. Like,

33:21

I love that you use the F-bombs. Thank

33:23

you. Because even there's

33:26

something, there's healing in like our attachment

33:28

to words. You

33:30

know, like, why do you always have to drop a

33:32

F-bomb? Well, why does it matter? Right? Why does

33:34

it bother you? Yeah, feel it. Go, go in

33:36

there. I love it. We'll

33:39

see you next week on another Person of the Higher

33:41

Self. Hey friends, this week,

33:43

we're gonna do something new. You've been asking so

33:45

many questions that we're

33:47

going to start answering them on a

33:49

weekly basis. So here's this week's question.

33:52

I'm in a relationship with a person that I care and

33:54

love. He loves me, takes care of me like nobody does.

33:56

Our sexual life has been a disaster. I

33:58

don't feel complete without that. He got

34:01

my husband important. A Hershey. So

34:03

much to end the relationship To the know he loves

34:05

me. I don't want to hurt him. He

34:07

says everything. But I

34:09

know this is a lot both. But.

34:12

There is a chance I might be wrong. He

34:14

always has been wrong. I reject because I have

34:16

to deal with my energies. In this case, Is

34:19

there any hope that we can be terrestrial?

34:21

love? My. Answer

34:23

is what do you want. You.

34:26

Gotta get clear on what you want. Because.

34:30

Your heart, your soul, your

34:32

journey has attracted this confusion

34:34

into your life for a

34:36

reason. It. Sounds like

34:38

you are easily persuaded by words.

34:40

It sounds like he says the

34:43

right things, but the actions are

34:45

different. And quite frankly, if

34:47

you don't have a great sexual

34:49

life is because you're not connected.

34:52

It's because there's this connection. Because.

34:54

There's times in a relationship where may

34:56

be you don't have the time where

34:58

the energy or whatever to have sex.

35:00

But. That doesn't bother you or doesn't

35:03

make you feel disconnected Because sex

35:05

is the pinnacle. Of the connection. But.

35:07

Real connection happens in life. Real.

35:10

Connection happens out here with your partner.

35:13

Until my challenge to use to ask yourself.

35:16

What do you want? What?

35:18

Do you want to feel like in

35:20

a relationship? What do you want to

35:22

feel like in partnership? With another human

35:25

being. Because.

35:28

The truth is the clear were you get

35:30

on what you once. Then. You

35:32

will understand what you will no longer

35:35

accept. And. Then you will

35:37

be able to communicate that through

35:39

your power source with the universe.

35:41

First an with your current partner.

35:44

And. Then he or she has

35:46

the opportunity to also decide

35:48

what they want. And

35:50

if they want what you want, they'll

35:52

be willing to work for it. they'll

35:55

be willing to dissolve some of the

35:57

parts of them that keeping them from

36:00

connecting with you, but

36:02

not by their words, by their

36:04

actions. Thank you for your question.

36:07

We're going to be doing this every single week

36:09

and yet if you want your questions answered

36:11

live we do this every

36:13

week on Thursday afternoons inside

36:15

of Awaken You. So

36:17

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36:19

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