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This is a Triple J Podcast. Most

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people have big reactions post

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sex. Sex is a really big

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deal. Pleasure is a big deal. Orgasm is a big

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deal. Here to answer some

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of those questions that we had in the

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episode recently where we did post-nite reactions is

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sexologist Lauren French. Lauren, thank you so much

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for doing this. Completely

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fine. It is one of my favorite places to

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be. We had so

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many people have the most random, like people

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and I just came up with this term

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because we were like, oh, there's post-nite clarity.

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But then what about post-nite reactions? Because

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so much of it is just like

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physiological or like something you can't control.

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So we'll go through some of them

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because we had so many questions from

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this episode about why it happens. And

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one of the main experiences we

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found was crying after sex. How

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common is this in the work that you do

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as a sexologist? It's really

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common. The reasons behind it

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vary. Which I think is

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funny, that kind of like uncommon post-nite reactions

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that are probably actually more common than anyone

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wants to talk about. And the fact that

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that idea that most people have big reactions

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post-sex. Sex is a really big

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deal. Pleasure is a big deal. Orgasm is

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a big deal. And it is a huge

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influx of hormones in the bodies. It's overwhelming.

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And we can cry because we're really happy.

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And like we felt a huge connection.

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We felt like overwhelmed by that like

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intimacy feeling of being touched.

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And we can cry because it was

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overwhelmed in a way that like, oh,

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it brought up shame or pain or

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like negative emotions in the body. And

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while the sex or the orgasm or

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whatever we've done might've been really pleasurable,

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the post as soon as that ends, that

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all of that kind of negative self-talk

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floods back into the brain. And

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then it's like, oh, great. And now I'm crying. Yeah,

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we had someone who said that she felt

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really connected to her partner so she would cry. It was

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like so much intimacy, but then she would feel

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sad because it was over. So that she would cry

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because. it was over. Yeah we're

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just like oh no it's not still happening.

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Like crying while you're on

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a roller coaster rather than crying at the end because

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you're not on it anymore. Yeah exactly which I was

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like that's so sweet but a lot of people just

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found like it was just there was no emotional

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attachment to it it just seemed to

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come from like a purely physical response.

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Has that got to do with just like

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the hormones and the energy release then? Yeah

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so there's multiple different hormones that get released

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in the body when we have orgasms when

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we feel extreme pleasure when we're being really

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intimate with another person as well. Why it

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might be happening when we're with a partner

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not masturbating or doing something on our own

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as well. And so yeah it's

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just a flood it's like this automatic reaction. Now there's

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a couple of things that can be happening. One is

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like if we're feeling distressed about it like

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it's having a really distressing impact on our

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emotions or really feeling like we're not coping

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with the fact that there's crying after orgasm.

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You know we might be sitting in a

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space where it's a little bit more like

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a post-coital dysphoria which is what is kind

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of the more clinical term for it and

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that's probably something we need to reach out

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to a professional about to help us overcome.

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But there's nothing inherently wrong with crying after

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sex or crying after orgasm or crying you

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know it feels kind of funny but if

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we're having a beautiful moment and we get teary

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and we have a cry while we're having sex

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that doesn't mean it's bad what was

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happening is like a terrible experience it can be

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the complete opposite. Yeah how

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should you deal with that because I've

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cried during sex or after sex before

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and I'm not gonna lie like there

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was a bit of embarrassment there was a bit of

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like there was no real reason but then you're a

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little bit like oh don't comfort me because I'm fine

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but then I'm clearly not because I'm crying and then

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you can't stop crying because they keep comforting you and

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I'm like do you know what I mean?

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So like how how is the best way to deal

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with it? Yeah it's one of those

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things where someone asks you if you're fine and you're like

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yeah I am but if you keep asking me I'm not

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gonna be. I'm not gonna be literally. Yeah

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it's exactly that I think so for a

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couple of things if you know you're someone

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like if you often cry after orgasming sex

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then I would say try to have a chat

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with your partner outside of a sexual experience. So

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set it up be like hey this is something

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that tends to happen to me here's how I

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feel about it this is what I need from

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you and really set it up

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for your partner so they know what to expect

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because obviously for the partner they might be worried

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they've hurt you that you're in pain that there's

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a former response that something's gone wrong and that

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they you know they don't want to make anything

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worse. So particularly if crying is not a problem

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it's just to be like hey this is the thing that

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happens to me I have no issues with it it has nothing

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to do with you I'm not in pain and I'll let you

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know if I am and set your face up to be like

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and what I need from you in that moment is to you

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know be playful with me

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maybe and like to not actually be like oh

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my god what's wrong are you okay what can

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I do but to actually you know just use

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it at that moment of yep there are the

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tears that's almost the like oh right we've probably

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had a good time then because we're up to

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the tear part which sounds kind of

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funny like it's the wrong thing to say but it's

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not like setting them up what you

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need for your partner and then for the

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partner being really clear that if you with

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someone and they're saying hey this something happens

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to me or even if they don't know

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and it happens in the moment and you'll

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and the partner gets that embarrassed they get

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really vulnerable because it's a vulnerable experience that

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they're having even if it's automatic coming from

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nowhere as a partner

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you know trying not to over-bearingly

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change what you're doing like

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checking in and going is there anything you need because

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of course if it happens out of the way you

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do want to check that there's no pain that nothing

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terrible wrongs happens but if they

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say it's not that's okay go yep right

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amazing and then the check-in is do you

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want me to keep going because

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it's okay it's like nothing was wrong but I

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do actually want to pause versus no I do

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want you to keep going and

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actually just as in going okay well that's

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completely fine just as much as if our

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partner was maybe laughing which is like another

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really hard response yeah

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that was gonna be my next

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one so many people are and

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said that they laugh like hysterically

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wheezing after they come what

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Why does that happen? Yeah, it's

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kind of a flip. It's similar to the crying.

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It's a release in your body. There's a couple

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of other points where, you know, I'm a big

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believer in playfulness in sex and

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in any intimacy with a partner that we

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should not be afraid to laugh and to

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giggle and to like, you know, have that

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kind of a fun. It doesn't have to

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be serious, intense, smoldering gaze, throwing someone against

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a wall, like all this kind of intensity.

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And I think a lot of people think

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sex has to look like that. And so

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we end up putting on a bit of

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like a serious face, like a serious

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sex face, serious sex knives. And

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then, because we have to hold that, even when it's

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kind of funny and something, you know, someone made a

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funny noise and we get tickled on the side a

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little bit because we hold it all. It's

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like once we've all gotten, once it's like done, our

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body goes, okay, well now we can clearly laugh because

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everything, that's fucking hilarious.

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And it is. And so it is that release

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moment, the body just goes, we need to laugh. And

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so I think one, I would say, if

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you're feeling like uncomfortable with the laughing,

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or we wanna adjust it, try having

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some more playfulness during the intimacy. Like

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have a giggle during sex. You

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know, have something, you know, have kind of

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a bit of banter back and forth, have like, you

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know, just laugh at each other. Be

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like, that looks really funny. And that

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noise you made was funny. And actually let's just laugh

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because a queef sounds funny. Yeah. It's

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true. When you were describing the

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putting it on the serious face, I was

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like, that is so true. And

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if you like stood outside of your body and you

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looked over it, you just be like, what the fuck

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is happening? Why is everyone trying

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so hard to recreate porn? It's like, this

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isn't real. Yeah. And so after

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when people, like particularly couples and you know, partnerships,

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when they filmed themselves having sex, you know, as

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part of like an erotic planning speech, and they

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then watch it back, they're like, what is

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my face doing? Because

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we go into this like, like performance space.

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It's really common like to be performative during

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sex is a really common practice. But like,

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it's no wonder that at the end, it's

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just like, it's like. It's

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going to sound funny but I was a dancer for

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a really long time and you'd go on and do

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a really serious thing like a dance performance, a piece

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of drama, a piece whatever it was. You'd go backstage

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and you'd laugh because you were

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holding this serious thing for so long and you were like

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really and then you go back and you just kind of

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have a giggle. Really?

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Yeah. It's like as well when you

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laugh in awkward situations like a few in

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a row or when someone says something quite

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upsetting and you just don't know how to

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deal with it so you laugh and then

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you have to explain like oh no I'm

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yeah like it's just like I think don't

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know how to deal with the seriousness of

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something sometimes and the awkwardness. Well yeah also

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if you feel really serious emotions during it

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then if those emotions make you

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uncomfortable laughing is a response to that and

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I think people forget that orgasm is

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release in the body, crying is release,

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laughing is release. These are all similar

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physiological reactions like the release element in

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the body and so it makes sense

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that one would happen with the other.

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Hugo got in touch with us and

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he said that he used to laugh

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like wheezing laughter after orgasming with his

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ex-partner but now they've broken up he's

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had a few other random partners and

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it doesn't happen. Why do you reckon

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it was like people and I literally were like this doesn't make

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sense like why do you reckon that's

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a thing? Yeah well for Hugo I can only

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speculate to be very clear but it's one of

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those things of I would be very curious to

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know if there was an

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acceptance or allowance of playfulness in the

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relationship where the laughing was happening because

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if there wasn't I can

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understand that like it as we said that kind

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of pent up lightness, humour and

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then it's just coming out in that

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moment versus as well if someone's feeling

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uncomfortable with a partner like and

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they're feeling like they have to put on a

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lot of seriousness like they have to really perform

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in that way then once the body

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feels a release they're like oh can we just

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keep releasing and laughing is another

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way to have a longer release because

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maybe that person's feeling quite tense in

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the experience with that other person whether consciously

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or subconsciously. That's really interesting. And

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I will have to get Hugo. We'll

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have to do a follow-up with Hugo and be like,

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Hugo, tell us everything about your Rello place. Yeah,

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Hugo, sorry, we need you to come on and do a live

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therapy session because we need to unpack all of this. We need

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to unpack all of this. What happens if

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you're like on the receiving end because I think a few

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people were like, my partner started getting

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frustrated or annoyed at it because it was

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like taking out of, you know, an intimate

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moment. But like you said,

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like maybe it's just about accepting the playfulness, right?

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Yeah. I think it's a conversation if you're

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if your partner is giggling, having a laugh,

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getting you know, like, because there's joy in

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laughter. And I think if as a

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partner, if you're looking at them in that joy and

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going, this is a bad thing, then I

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would go, well, what is that joy telling you about

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you? Because if you're a

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partner and that person, your wish is lasting and

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you see that as shame to what you're doing

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or that they're laughing at you or that it's

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like a self-conscious thing, again, that's maybe something we

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as individuals need to work on. It's not really

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about our partner not being able to laugh. It's

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okay, I'm struggling for how that's making me

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feel what that's giving my brain what I'm

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drawn to in that moment, which is completely

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also fair. Like if you're with your partner

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and they laugh, which is fine, but it

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completely puts you in a headspace where

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you're self-conscious, you're feeling shame, embarrassment. Like

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it's also really common that you might

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not be wanting to be sexual post

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that moment because you're completely not

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in a headspace to do that. That's

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not necessarily the fact that your partner's behavior needs

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to change. It might be that you need to

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do some work internally on yourself. Yeah,

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like taking you out of the moment and just

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being like, oh, I feel awkward now

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or I don't want to keep going or

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making me self-conscious. Another

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one was like really random, just like muscle

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spasms or cramps in the body, like people

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having tingling. Is that what's happening there?

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Is that hormones too? It is,

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yeah. There's a couple of things. So there's a couple

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of different hormones that when they go through the body

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after an orgasm, you can have that kind of shaking,

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tensing, and even a couple of cramping. The

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other space that can be happening is

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depending on positions you're holding, depending on

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not necessarily hormone cycles, as in like

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the cycle of hormones for like people who

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menstruate and things, but there's different ways that

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they correlate that mean that your body can

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just have those kind of shutters,

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cramps, kind of just involuntary

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spasms or movements is what we kind of call

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them. Now again, they're not a problem unless they're

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a problem. And that's pretty much a lot of

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this is that it's none of this is when

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we talk about like things not being normal, normal

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is such a relative term. And

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like, unless it's causing harm, if it's causing a

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lot of long term pain, if

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it's becoming debilitating, that's the concern that might

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be a thing where actually there's an imbalance

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in a spot of hormones afterwards. And that

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needs to be addressed with a

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medical professional. But again, if it's

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not if it's just that you kind of have a

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bit of a like flopping fish on dry land kind

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of moment, then that's just how that happens. Yeah,

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like if you if you're feeling any sort of pain

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with any of this, right, like just go

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see a professional and look into that because you

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should be. Of course. Yeah. No, and

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this is someone the other day was like, so what's the

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normal amount of pain during sex? And I was like, zero,

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zero, zero. And I and it's that face it's like

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when someone says like, like how like how what's the

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normal amount of headaches I should be getting and you

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get told zero and your whole life flashes before your

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eyes. If that it

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should be there, we should not be having pain

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if we're crying or laughing because we're so uncomfortable

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because of the pain, you know, like pain is

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not a norm in sex. Mm

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hmm. Totally. And especially if like, you're

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crying because you're in pain, like that's, you

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know, who that's not that reaction. Exactly. And

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and listening when and when I've worked with

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a lot of people who have sexual pain,

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and a lot of couples and partners and

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partnerships that have dealt with sexual pain and

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a lot of the time the person who experiences that

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pain is pushing through for their

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partner. They're like, well, I've just got to push

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through because even though this sucks for me, like

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this is awful for me. It's

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better than not doing it at all. And my partner

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just needs this to happen. But if you flip it,

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if you're that person, do you want to have sex

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with someone who was only doing it and

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it's painful for them. and they're gritting their teeth, but

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it's because I just want you to do it. Like

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I don't know about you, that's not someone I want

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to have sex with. That's not an experience I want

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to be having as a partner. Absolutely not. No. No.

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Okay, lastly, Lauren, sneezing. This was

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a big one. People were like

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not only sneezing post-nutting, but they

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were sneezing when they were like

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horny or thinking about having sex

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or luxury. Yeah.

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What's going on here? This is

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my favorite one, if I'm being honest. Because

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there's such funny things

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here. So it's firstly to preface, because all

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I do is preface things, but there's

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limited research around it. One. So

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like quote me, but don't quote me. But

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the research that we do have is basically showing that

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there are some like genetic traits

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that are passed down, basically. So from your

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parents and their parents and things that get

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passed down, just like, you know. Eye

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color, all the things, the things that we learn in

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like year eight science. But the thing

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that we're starting to see is that

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there are some like involuntary reactions that

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people have that are actually passed down

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through genetics, through their parents. And the

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reason that this came about was that

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they found that some people

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sneeze when there's certain lights

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and certain lighting makes people sneeze.

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And so when they then linked that, they realized

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that some of those people were having a similar

15:21

experience of sneezing after all of awesome. And

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so they were like, oh, so this might be

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a trait like that that gets passed down from

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our parents and no one talks about it because

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no one's going to their parents at Sunday dinner

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and being like, dad, do you sneeze after you

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come? Okay, so really,

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for anyone listening who does sneeze,

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they need to get on the blower right now. Or

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at a Sunday dinner, I roast and be like, yo,

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mum and dad or whoever. Are

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you sneezing? Yeah, like, well,

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there is very limited research on this. So

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if the hookup audience does do this, then

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everyone should write in and we should do like a

15:57

research piece and like publish it because there's like, you

15:59

know, sex research is underfunded

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and underdone. But yeah, that

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seems to be what people think. Okay,

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no, we need. We need. And

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I wanna know, I wanna know if that's true

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because that's incredible if it is. I'm like, we've

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got a pretty big following on Instagram. I'm like,

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this could be a call out. We could try

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and find and get our own research done, do

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a poll. Yeah,

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do these things after coming, yes. Does your parents see

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the fact that they're coming? If you don't know, go ask

16:25

them. Lauren, you are literally the

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best person that I could have had this conversation

16:29

with. We had so many questions. We were so,

16:32

yeah, we were like so curious. It's no way

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some of these things happen. So I appreciate you

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chatting to me. This has been so informative. Always,

16:39

and I said, love being here. And just for everyone,

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remember, it's not a problem unless it's a problem. Put

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it on a T-shirt. Right? What

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is it? Sex is not meant to hurt. It's not a problem

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unless it's a problem. Ask your parents

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if they sneeze after coming. Okay, so you

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obviously

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just hurt from an accident. Sexologist

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Lauren French talking about some of the reasons

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why you might be crying or laughing or

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sneezing after sex. But there were some really

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niche ones that you DM'd us about, like

17:08

itchiness in certain spots. Like someone messaged Justin

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was like, I get a really itchy nose.

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People talking about like energy levels completely dropping

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off or like getting such high energy levels

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that you do the zoomies. So

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someone who has a bit more of

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a science background is Dr. Teresa Larkin.

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She is an associate professor at the

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University of Wollongong. So I had to jump

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on a call with her quickly to find out why.

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Some of you are getting certain reactions after

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orgasming. And here's what you have to say

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if you're someone who gets blocked ears after

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you come. It's so interesting how people have

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so many different reactions. And I

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guess to sort of talk about the diversity

17:45

of what people feel, it's all to do

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with the nervous system activation, the

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hormone, and overall, it's

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their influence on blood flow and

17:54

blood pressure. So that's an interesting

17:56

one with blocked ears because when

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we're having sex or... especially going

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through orgasms, your blood pressure

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is really increased. You know, your heart's

18:05

pumping blood further around, you know, you've

18:07

got arousal. And so

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actually, it's also then can increase blood

18:11

pressure and your ears are really

18:13

sensitive to changes in blood pressure. So I

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reckon that wants to do with changes

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in blood pressure, you know, with

18:20

the high activity of sex, especially then

18:22

orgasm, movement, your heart rates up, your

18:25

blood pressure's up. So that's probably

18:27

the main reason why people are getting them

18:29

blocked ears or any kind of ringing in

18:31

their ears or anything like that. And

18:33

also even it's interesting to think that bloody things

18:36

are better to certain areas of the brain and

18:38

not so much to the ears. So that might

18:40

even have an effect too on people's sense of

18:42

hearing and their attention to

18:44

that. It honestly, like you said, was so

18:47

diverse. There were so many really niche things,

18:49

like certain people would get itchy in just

18:51

like random places. Is that linked to the

18:53

blood and the hormones as well? I

18:56

reckon itchiness would be, but also one thing

18:58

with itchiness, depending on where it is, is

19:01

that that could just be coming from the

19:03

physical contact. So I think you

19:05

mentioned something about people having an itchy nose

19:07

as one of the examples. And

19:09

so think about when you're intimate with

19:12

someone affectionate having sex, your nose is

19:14

rubbing up against potentially lots of different

19:16

areas of someone's body and that can

19:19

just irritate our skin. You know, people's

19:21

skin is very sensitive and sensitive to

19:23

abrasion and touch and any chemicals, say

19:25

if someone's got cream on their face

19:28

or other areas of their skin. So

19:30

I wonder if the skin

19:33

reactions could also be more

19:35

localised and from touch and

19:37

physicality, but definitely other reactions to

19:39

do with the skin, maybe if someone feels

19:41

a bit of tingling or different sensations, I

19:44

would say that's absolutely also blood flow and

19:47

nerves. And if it's, say, on the

19:49

skin that's further from the centre of the body, so

19:51

maybe if it's on your feet or your legs or

19:53

something, well, the blood's been diverted

19:55

from there during sex. It's mostly in

19:57

your core, in your centre, around. your

20:00

areas of arousal. So then it

20:02

gradually returns back to all the other areas. I

20:04

mean, it's still pumping to them just less. So

20:07

that can also cause a change in sensation when

20:09

there's a change in the blood flow. What

20:11

about a change in energy? Because some people got

20:13

either like a real huge burst of energy and

20:15

they called it like the zoomies. They had to

20:17

like run around and get it out. And

20:19

then some people just were like so exhausted and they just had

20:22

to like fall asleep straight away. Is that

20:24

like hormonal? Yeah, so

20:26

funny. So during sex, obviously it's a

20:28

great way to burn energy. So we

20:31

are using a lot of energy during

20:33

that time. And you have really in

20:35

it, you have a high activation of

20:38

that sympathetic nervous system, which is the

20:40

fight or flight that gets you ready

20:42

for energy and mobilizes your energy stored.

20:45

So because it does require energy, lots

20:47

of people then afterwards, their energy dips back

20:49

down. They're like, Oh, I've just, you know,

20:52

how to work out. I'm done.

20:54

So they're thinking I'm tired. But

20:56

also you could have the reaction where

20:58

the hormones and those feel good hormones

21:01

will firstly, they can also put you into

21:04

a state of relaxation. You know, you've

21:06

got oxytocin and that's that bonding hormone,

21:08

serotonin, that's a feel good hormone

21:10

and dopamine. That's about sort of addiction and

21:12

connection. But interestingly, say

21:15

someone, for example, if they've got high serotonin release, that's

21:17

great to put them in a good mood, but that

21:19

might be an energy boost and just be that like

21:22

zing and the zing or the dopamine that's like, Oh

21:24

my God, like I feel so good. I need to

21:26

now I really need to move, you know, but in

21:28

a different way, especially if it's, you know,

21:30

described as a zoom is that's generally a person

21:32

moving on their own that might come from that

21:34

real high, the high that comes with

21:37

the hormones. It's so interesting.

21:39

It's such a good explanation. I love it. You

21:41

love it as well. And

21:43

I'm hungry with another

21:45

one, like instantly hungry.

21:48

Yep. I reckon that would come from

21:50

that real life utilizing of the energy.

21:52

So, you know, someone's expended all their

21:54

energy and suddenly like, well, you know,

21:56

I'm spent. I need to replenish the

21:59

energy that I've just use in

22:01

the same way that we could think about

22:03

that from some intense activities like you know

22:05

exercise and other things like that. So yeah

22:07

hunger would be mostly related to the

22:11

energy level and the use of the

22:13

energy but it could also be related

22:15

to the fact that blood is diverted

22:17

away from the digestive tracts during sex

22:20

and so as it's coming back then you might

22:22

be able to really feel more

22:24

any feelings of hunger. So it might be

22:26

that's why you get it in more of

22:29

an instant reaction. We had so many really

22:31

random niche things you know

22:33

the main ones that we've covered with our

22:35

sexologist Lauren French like crying and laughing was

22:37

a huge one like cramping muscles, buzzes, all

22:39

of that which I think are quite common

22:42

but yeah all these little niche ones I

22:44

was like we need to get someone like

22:46

Dr Theresa on because there's just like no

22:48

way to explain them. So that's someone who

22:50

can think outside the box and really have

22:52

a wide like try and link the science

22:55

and I guess the thing is you know that's

22:57

the wonder of individuality you know

23:00

everyone experiences sex and their post-sex

23:02

reactions differently and that might be different

23:05

on different occasions for different people part

23:07

of the fun. Totally totally it makes

23:09

it interesting. All right well

23:11

Theresa I'll let you go you go

23:13

back to parliament doing your fun science

23:15

stuff. Thank you.