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Welcome to the Kelly Roadshow, the place

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for no fluff. Easy to implement

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twenty minute or less business

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and leadership lessons to help you

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build a sustainable business that scales.

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Lead with integrity and create

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a lasting legacy. I'm

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Kelly Roach, former NFL cheerleader

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in Fortune five executive, turn

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to eight figure entrepreneur. Let's

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get started.

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Welcome back. This is the Kelly Roadshow,

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and as always, I'm extremely great

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fall for you allowing me

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to be with you in

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this moment to share some

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things that I believe will truly

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support you in transforming your

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life into a match

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for your one percent vision.

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As you all know, twenty twenty three

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is the year here on the Kelly Roadshow

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of helping you to not

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only design your one person life,

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but to step into actually living it.

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And so we're gonna keep coming back to

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these themes of the habits,

1:06

the beliefs, the decisions, the success

1:09

principal, the mindset of

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the one percent. You

1:15

belong in the one percent and not

1:17

just are you on your way

1:20

to becoming a multimillionaire and having

1:22

more money in the bank than you could ever

1:24

need to live on for the rest of your life, but

1:26

access far above and beyond

1:28

that. But you're on your way

1:31

as a one percenter to

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designing holistically a

1:36

life that represents your deepest

1:38

desires, in intimacy,

1:41

in spirituality, friendship,

1:44

the quality of your work, experience,

1:47

your labor of love, the

1:49

difference that you're making in the world, all of these

1:51

things. And we're gonna keep coming

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back to this over and over again because I am here

1:55

as your mentor to remind you

1:58

and to allow you to take

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these couple moments each week

2:02

to dig back inside your

2:04

heart and your soul in your mind and remind

2:06

yourself of why you're here,

2:10

of what you're moving towards. Of

2:12

the incredible beauty that

2:14

you are capable of.

2:17

And I absolutely cannot wait

2:19

to watch you and listen to you

2:21

and hear from you over the course of this

2:23

year as you transform. So

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there are five things. That

2:28

you will have to let go of

2:31

in order to clean the one percent

2:33

life that is waiting for you. Everything

2:37

that we want to be, do, and

2:39

have will always require

2:43

a transformation from us first.

2:46

And we always lead

2:48

the way with what we

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think and what we believe. What we

2:53

think and what we believe then translates into

2:55

what we do. And then what we do is what determines

2:57

our life. So let's talk

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about these five things. Let's really get into

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it. And let's talk about the five things that

3:03

you're going to need to let

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go of, release, let die

3:07

in your life in order to claim

3:10

the one percent version of

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you and your life as your masterpiece.

3:16

The first one, is your

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story about why you can't

3:20

have it all. Each

3:22

of us, as we're transforming

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into creating the one percent life that

3:27

we want and that we desire are

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going to have many steps

3:31

along the way and many points

3:33

in that process. Where we have

3:36

self doubt, shame

3:38

about past failures, stories

3:41

and excuses about why

3:43

it's not working for us. There

3:45

are many times where we

3:47

are just about ready to retreat, give

3:50

up. Set a lower

3:53

goal for ourselves because

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as we face these incredible obstacles

3:58

and challenges and setbacks that are all part

4:00

of life. Right? They're

4:02

all a part of life. As these things

4:04

come up, we develop a

4:06

story. You're living a story right

4:09

now. The results that you have

4:11

in your life today are

4:13

a result of the story that you've

4:15

had about your life up

4:17

until this point. So

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I want you to reflect now on the

4:21

elements of your life that are reflecting

4:24

your one percent living that are reflecting

4:27

your biggest ambitions, goals, dreams,

4:30

desires. And

4:32

I want you to look at the areas of your life where

4:34

you're maybe not yet experiencing. That

4:37

one percent living. Right?

4:40

We tend to have the areas that we're really

4:42

strong and then we have some areas that we need to

4:44

clean up. But the

4:46

biggest thing that has to

4:48

die in order for you to

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reincarnate alive

4:53

into the one percent version of yourself

4:55

is that whatever story

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you have been telling yourself about

4:59

your one percent life, whatever

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story you've had up until

5:03

this very moment today where you've

5:05

listened to this particular

5:08

podcast. You need a new story.

5:10

You need a better story. If you

5:12

want a better life, you have to tell yourself

5:14

a better story. If you

5:16

want to elevate everything about

5:19

how you feel when you wake up in the morning,

5:21

you need a new story. And

5:23

so I wanna challenge you today

5:25

to let the stories that you have

5:27

had about your one percent life up

5:30

until this very moment, let

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them die here today, bury

5:34

them, bury them deep, let them

5:36

go. Because those

5:38

stories were only relevant

5:40

for you in the point

5:42

in your evolution that you

5:44

were at that time, in

5:46

that moment. And you're

5:48

not that person anymore. You

5:50

are not that person anymore. You

5:52

are a new, better,

5:55

wiser, more evolved,

5:57

more experienced version of

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yourself today. You have

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to write a new story when

6:03

you're ready to create a new outcome. So

6:05

the old story has to die today,

6:08

and that goes hand in hand.

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With number two. You

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have to let go of the excuses. No

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one is coming to save you. There

6:17

is no one besides the

6:19

person that you see looking in the mirror

6:21

that is going to be able to save you.

6:24

Your excuses do nothing

6:27

but prevent you from

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experiencing what you want to

6:31

in life. And you

6:33

can have stories why

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you can't do it, you can have excuses,

6:38

why once again you broke your promise to

6:40

yourself, you can have excuses, why

6:43

it's not possible for you, you can have skews

6:45

is why you didn't do the thing that you needed

6:47

to do to get the result that you want to get,

6:49

or you can have results. If

6:52

you're committed to building a

6:54

life that you wake up excited to

6:57

experience and live and

6:59

that you want to wake up with more

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money in the bank than you could ever spend,

7:03

investments that are bringing you a return,

7:06

a really incredible beautiful

7:08

amazing relationship with someone that you

7:10

love, unshakable and breakable

7:12

bonds with your children or your grandchildren,

7:14

your nieces, your nephews, whoever matters to

7:16

you. Work

7:19

that works magic and

7:21

miracles in the world, I could

7:23

go on and on and on. You wanna

7:25

be fit? You wanna have high

7:27

levels of energy, you wanna

7:29

have acuity and sharpness in your

7:31

mind, all possible, all available.

7:34

The excuses gotta go. The

7:36

excuses as to why you still are

7:38

putting the junk food in your mouth and

7:40

still not getting out side and getting

7:42

sunshine and exercise every day,

7:44

and the excuses about why you don't have time

7:46

to make the doctor's appointments and take care of

7:48

yourself and do the prevention that you need to do

7:50

in order to live the one percent life that you want

7:52

to live. Everybody

7:55

can have excuses, but you

7:57

can't have excuses and have a one

7:59

percent life. There's no

8:01

one that's gonna save you. There's no

8:03

amount of accountability that can come

8:05

outside of you, that can make you

8:07

crave, change enough to

8:10

drop the excuses that you have allowed

8:12

in your life. It doesn't matter

8:14

in what area it's in that have

8:16

held you back from creating a

8:18

life that you want. And it's only

8:20

when you change your mindset about

8:23

what you will no longer tolerate

8:28

that it will no longer be perpetuated. So

8:31

I want you to think now, like, what are the

8:33

areas of your life that you really

8:35

want to create positive

8:37

change in. Okay? What are

8:39

the areas of your life that you really want

8:41

to create positive

8:43

change in? Okay? And

8:45

when you're clear on that, the next

8:47

question you have to ask yourself is, what

8:49

are the excuses that you've been making?

8:53

That have prevented you from getting

8:55

the result that you want. It's

8:57

as simple as that. It's not that you don't know

8:59

what to do. I promise you what to

9:01

do. I promise if you apply

9:03

yourself fully with

9:05

zero stories and zero excuses, you

9:07

would start to see results immediately. We

9:10

are all capable. We all

9:12

have the key already inside

9:14

of us. We already

9:16

have the capability and possibility.

9:18

Abundance is the natural state.

9:21

You are abundant. Abundance

9:23

is available for you. Abundance

9:26

is designed for you. You are designed

9:28

for abundance. But

9:31

excuses and stories steal that

9:33

abundance from you. And they will

9:35

get you to a place where you're operating out of

9:37

scarcity. And you're operating out of scarcity

9:39

because you built yourself a jail cell.

9:41

With two walls of stories

9:43

and two walls of excuses, and

9:46

now you're stuck. So when

9:48

you trash those stories and

9:50

trash those excuses and

9:53

realize that no one can do this

9:55

for you, no one can be your hero, and

9:57

you decide that what you are

9:59

going to tolerate is only going

10:01

to be something that perpetuates

10:03

the one percent life that you

10:05

crave, you're gonna start acting really,

10:07

really different. And

10:09

that leads us right into number three.

10:12

And number three is

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your toxic vices. We

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all have them. We all have

10:18

them. What is the toxic

10:20

vice that's keeping you in

10:22

your warm little comfortable

10:25

bubble that feels so so good that you

10:27

just don't want to get out of, that

10:30

warm little bubble of comfort

10:32

is the thing that's stealing your greatness.

10:35

It's the thing that is preventing

10:37

you from creating the change

10:39

that you need to change that you need

10:41

to to step into in

10:43

order to create the outcome that

10:45

you want to experience. That

10:48

toxic vice that keeps you

10:50

comfortable, whatever

10:52

it is, is the

10:54

thing that you're going to have

10:56

to let die so that you can

10:58

replace it, upgrade

11:00

it, and fill that space on your

11:02

beautiful canvas of this

11:04

masterpiece that you're building of your life,

11:06

you have to be able to

11:08

replace that part of your masterpiece.

11:10

With something productive,

11:14

something positive, something that

11:16

adds something quality

11:18

to your masterpiece of your life.

11:21

Right? Now, you might say,

11:23

but part of my one percent life

11:26

is having these things in it. Okay.

11:30

Well, you have to ask yourself

11:32

if if that is true. Right? If

11:34

that thing enhances

11:37

your life, enhances

11:39

your life, and part of your vision

11:41

for your one percent life and

11:43

it also does not

11:45

hinder your ability

11:48

to live the peak of your

11:50

life. Okay. Let's

11:52

explore that. Let's dig really deep

11:54

into that. Let's examine if that's

11:56

actually true. If that's the

11:58

case? Great. Okay?

12:00

But chances are, it's a

12:02

toxic ice because it's toxic.

12:05

Right? And it looks different for

12:07

everyone. Sometimes it's

12:09

coping behaviors and coping mechanisms.

12:12

Right? Some your toxic vice might be that when you get

12:14

stressed out, you pick a fight with your spouse.

12:17

Your toxic vice might be that

12:19

when you get really exhausted and,

12:22

you know, you really

12:24

need to exercise and

12:26

and put some protein in your body that you do the

12:28

exact opposite because it it gives you

12:30

that immediate comfort. Right, that

12:33

comfort food. So it

12:35

looks different for everyone, but those

12:37

toxic vices that you know

12:39

are not a part of your one

12:41

percent life, trade them up.

12:44

One of the best things

12:46

that I learned from

12:48

JJ version a really long time

12:50

ago about health and wellness

12:52

was that instead of

12:54

trying to deprive yourself, trade

12:56

up the habit. Right? So

12:58

if you're a soda drinker, switch

13:00

over to seltzer. Right? If

13:02

you like to snack, instead

13:05

of not snacking. Change

13:07

what you're snagging on. Right? To make

13:09

it something that's actually fuel for your body

13:11

instead of toxic for your body. So

13:13

trade those toxic vices

13:15

up and find a

13:17

a place and a

13:19

way to upgrade those

13:21

habits in order to

13:23

achieve the outcome that

13:25

matches your one percent life.

13:27

Your one percent life can't happen

13:29

until your identity and your

13:31

self identity matches

13:33

that person that's in the centerpiece

13:35

of that story of that

13:37

life. So you have to be

13:39

really, really honest with yourself to say, do

13:41

these things belong in it? Is

13:43

this a part of that? And by

13:45

the way, a lot of these toxicases

13:47

are things that maybe no

13:49

one knows that you do but

13:51

you, you know? And so

13:53

again, there's no

13:55

hero outside of you that can come in and fix

13:57

any of this. This is the

13:59

deep work. This is the deep

14:01

reflection, the awareness, the

14:03

going into your heart and your mind and

14:05

your soul. And getting honest with

14:07

yourself on a level that maybe you haven't

14:09

before in order to

14:11

achieve an outcome that you haven't

14:13

before. Okay? Number

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four, and this is a toffee,

14:18

but it it has to happen. People

14:21

that no longer your future,

14:24

have to go. You are

14:26

going to find the more

14:28

success you have the

14:30

more that people want to

14:32

leach onto that success. They

14:34

wanna take from that success.

14:36

They wanna benefit from that

14:38

success. They want the

14:40

outcome of that success, but they don't

14:42

necessarily wanna be a part of

14:44

the process of what it

14:46

takes to achieve that

14:48

success. There's gonna be

14:50

lots of people along your journey.

14:52

Some people that are more

14:54

invested in you staying where you were

14:56

and staying. Who you are, then

14:58

who you're becoming, because who

15:00

you're becoming makes them really

15:03

uncomfortable. The level of

15:05

success that you're having is gonna trigger

15:07

the crap out of a lot of people in your

15:09

life. There are gonna be people that you

15:11

got yourself into relationships with that

15:13

are only in that relationship to take

15:15

from you. And the moment

15:17

that you realize that you're being

15:19

taken from, stolen from, taken

15:21

advantage of, you

15:23

need to set boundaries, cut

15:26

off the leech, cut off

15:28

access, put up

15:30

boundaries. And what's gonna happen? People are

15:32

gonna get angry, and they're gonna rip

15:34

you down, and they're gonna talk about you, and

15:36

they're gonna gossip about you, and they're gonna try

15:38

to hurt you. Publicly, privately.

15:40

They're gonna do whatever they can to get back

15:42

at you because they are angry, because

15:44

they were getting a free ride with

15:46

you. And

15:48

now you're taking that away. But

15:51

in order to create a one percent

15:53

life, you have to surround yourself

15:55

with people that want the best for

15:57

you. Believe in you,

16:00

are elevating with you,

16:02

are seeking also to evolve

16:05

and become and

16:07

strive to become a better version of

16:09

themselves. You guys surround

16:11

yourself with people that are doing the wraps.

16:13

You have to surround yourself with people that you're inspired

16:15

to be around. If you're the

16:17

most inspiring person in your circle, you got a

16:20

big, big problem. If you're the

16:22

wealthiest person in your circle, you got a

16:24

big problem. Right?

16:27

I love giving. I

16:29

love philanthropy. Some of

16:31

my most proud moments

16:35

and accomplishments since

16:37

becoming a business owner have

16:39

been donating to charity water,

16:41

donating to veterans funds, supporting

16:43

initiatives with mental health, donating

16:46

Christmas you know, toys and and money for, you

16:48

know, families that don't have what

16:50

they need. Full length of

16:52

pee is amazing. Charity

16:55

is one of the most fulfilling things.

16:58

But many times, you are

17:00

indirectly allowing

17:02

others to both take advantage

17:04

of you and

17:07

not requiring them to stand

17:09

on their own two feet

17:12

and to do what they need to

17:14

do in order to

17:16

get their life in order.

17:18

So when you think about your one percent

17:20

life, you need to think about the people that are going

17:22

to be a match for that. And you need to

17:24

be thinking about the toxic people

17:27

that are in your life right now that no longer belong

17:29

there, that you have let to make

17:31

you feel bad, that you have let to take

17:33

advantage of you. That you have let to

17:35

trigger you, that you have let to

17:39

really challenge your

17:41

ability to believe in yourself.

17:43

Because they're always questioning and

17:46

criticizing and having something to say about

17:48

what you're doing. And oh,

17:50

by the way, people

17:52

that you may have gotten

17:54

in business with or

17:56

in business relationships with or

18:00

collaborations with or been

18:02

colleagues with in a coaching program or

18:04

whatever the case. If they're no longer

18:06

good for you, If

18:08

a colleague that you converse with frequently

18:10

does not leave you

18:13

inspired to be your best, If

18:15

you're trash talking, if you're

18:17

feeding into drama, if you're

18:19

having toxic conversations talking

18:21

about other people, that

18:23

relationship must end. Because

18:25

every moment that you

18:27

are spending with someone that

18:29

circles the drain and brings

18:31

you down into that place of living below the line instead

18:33

of above the line, that is not a

18:35

healthy relationship. And that

18:38

relationship either needs to be reframed

18:41

or it needs to

18:43

be redistributed, or it needs to go away

18:46

completely. Right? But if you find

18:48

yourself talking to a peer, talking

18:50

to a colleague, talking to a friend.

18:52

And it always seems to

18:54

end in some type of

18:56

conversation about negativity, drama,

18:58

issues, you know, whatever and you leave

19:00

and it just fires you up and you feel negative

19:02

when you're done. That is

19:04

a huge sign. That

19:07

that relationship is not supporting you and

19:09

going to the next level. You need

19:11

to be interacting with people that

19:13

challenge you inspire you,

19:15

that uplift you, that you can turn to,

19:17

that you can be honest with, that you

19:19

can be open with, that you can go to when

19:21

you need help, but not people

19:23

that are gonna feed into you playing small.

19:26

Not people that are gonna feed into you being

19:28

toxic. Not people that

19:30

are gonna allow you

19:32

to tell stories and make

19:34

excuses. Those are the people that need to

19:36

go on the person.

19:38

On the one percent way, on your path to building

19:40

your one percent life. And the

19:43

final and most important thing

19:45

that you're going to have to let go of is your willingness to

19:47

break promises to yourself.

19:49

This was one of the absolute

19:52

hardest things that I ever

19:54

learned. One of the hardest things that

19:56

I ever ever ever learned is that

19:59

if I don't keep the promises that I

20:01

make to myself, My

20:03

life will never reflect my

20:06

dreams. It doesn't matter what level of

20:08

external accomplishment you

20:10

have matter how much money you make,

20:12

it doesn't matter how many marathons you've

20:14

run, it doesn't matter how many awards you have

20:16

hanging on your wall, the degrees that you have

20:19

of that matters if at the end of the

20:21

day, you don't

20:23

keep your promises to yourself.

20:26

We do this all the time. We

20:28

make a promise to ourselves. And

20:31

then we immediately start renegotiating

20:33

because we fall back into habits. We fall back into

20:35

guilt, or we fall back into obligation, or we

20:37

fall back into the trap of whatever

20:39

our small minded thinking was

20:42

you know, matched up with that earlier version

20:44

of ourselves. It happens all

20:46

the time. Learning

20:49

how to make promises to

20:51

yourself and keep them will

20:55

be the catalyst that

20:57

absolutely take

20:59

something that could have taken you a decade

21:02

and makes it possible in

21:04

a handful of years. Maybe

21:06

even a singular year. You will

21:08

be blown away. If you

21:10

spend a year, if you spend this

21:13

year, keeping your promises to

21:15

yourself, you are going to be

21:17

blown away at what

21:19

is possible for you, and I can't wait to see

21:21

that transformation happen. We're gonna continue

21:23

this conversation about the one

21:25

percent way and how to design your one

21:27

percent life, but I wanna give you a

21:29

gift of eight free

21:31

download of the very first book

21:33

that I wrote, the unstoppable

21:36

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21:38

did a revamp

21:40

and an update to it. I added new

21:42

materials, I extended it. And

21:45

this is really truly the nine

21:47

principles for unlimited success

21:49

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21:51

I reread the book recently, and

21:53

I was like, holy crap. I'm so

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blown away. I'm so excited.

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It got me back into the heart

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