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. Kindness
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, we see it all around us . We
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see it when someone pays for someone else's coffee
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or holds the door open for another person
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. We see it in the smallest
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of gestures , like a smile or
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a kind word . But it's different
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when we turn on the news or social media
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. Oftentimes what we
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hear about what outlets are pushing
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is the opposite of kind . Welcome
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to the Kindness Matters podcast . Our
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goal is to give you a place to relax
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, to revel in stories of people
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who have received or given kindness
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, a place to inspire and
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motivate each and every one of us to
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practice kindness every day . Hello
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and welcome to the Kindness Matters
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podcast . I am your host , mike
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Rathbun , and this podcast is
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podcast of the month On
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to today's episode . So
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a few episodes back . I
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was talking to my friend , lisa Mott-Wally , and
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she said something during that show
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that in hindsight
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I should have called her on . I
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should have made a comment on it , but I didn't
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. And it's kind of been rattling around
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in my brain ever since . She
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said , and I'm paraphrasing here
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being nice is not
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the same thing as being kind
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. And that statement
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has kind of stuck with me because
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I think a lot of
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people tend to use the
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two words interchangeably
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. Right ? Isn't that
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person nice ? Isn't that person kind ? It's
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the same thing , isn't it ? But
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apparently it's not . So
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what's the difference between being
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kind and being nice ? Aren't
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they just two peas in the same overly
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polite pod ? Well
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, let's break it down . Kindness
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is like a warm hug from
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a grandma who smells like freshly
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baked cookies . It's
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genuine , heartfelt and
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oftentimes selfless . You
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know the kind of thing that makes you feel all
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fuzzy inside . Imagine
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you're stuck in traffic , you're late for
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a meeting and someone lets you merge and
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they give you a smile in a wave . That's
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kindness . They didn't have
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to do that . They gained nothing
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from their actions , but they
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did it anyway . Bless their
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considerate little hearts . Niceness
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, on the other hand , is like a
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store-bought cupcake with
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too much frosting . It looks sweet
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, but underneath it's
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just fluff . It's polite
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, sure , but sometimes
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it's about as deep as a kiddie pool . Picture
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this You're at a party
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and your neighbor , karen , compliments
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your haircut . Now you've heard through
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the grapevine that Karen actually doesn't
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like your haircut . You
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know that she secretly
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thinks you look like a deranged poodle
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. That's niceness
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. Bless her passive-aggressive
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heart . Okay
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, so let's play a game . We'll
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call it kind or nice , and
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I'll give you scenarios and
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you decide which one it is . First
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scenario you're at work and
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you accidentally spill coffee on your
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shirt . Ugh , who hasn't been there ? Right
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? Your boss smirks
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and says well , that's
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one way to accessorize . Or
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a coworker hands you a
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tissue and says no worries
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, happens to the best of us . Okay
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, which one of those reactions
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was kind and which one was
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nice ? Time's
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up , okay , did you get it right ? The
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coworker was being kind
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, the boss was
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being nice . Okay
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, so we're going to be right back with our discussion after
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and Ray , the hosts of
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. You will
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not be sorry , or
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maybe you will be , I don't know . Trust
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me you won't be Okay
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. So here's another scenario for
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you . Picture this You're
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at the grocery store and
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you notice that the cashier is having a rough
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day . You kind of force
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a grin and say , hey
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, have a great day . Well
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, mentally calculating how many items
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you can get through the express line
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. Or you
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smile gently and ask how they're doing and
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genuinely listen which
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is kind and which is nice . Times
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up , that forced
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grin gave it away . That
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version of you is being nice . But
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the version that took the time to
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ask how the cashier was doing and
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genuinely listen to their response
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was the kind version of
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you . The
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difference between being kind and being
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nice oftentimes is
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intent . If you do
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something for someone with the expectation
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of some sort of reward , whether
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it's monetary or recognition
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of some sort , you're being nice
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, not kind . Imagine
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you see a friend struggling with a heavy box
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. Nice , you might
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say , hey , you need a hand . But
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kind , you dives in like
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a superhero Biceps
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bulging box slung over your shoulder
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before your friend can even blink
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. See the difference . One
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is a pat on the back , the
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other is a full-blown massage
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. But
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here's the rub Sometimes
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the line between being nice and
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kind gets blurrier
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than a politician's campaign promises
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. Take office parties
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, for example . Nice , you
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is the life of the party , cracking
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jokes and making everyone feel included
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. But kind you , yeah
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, kind you is the one that's
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checking on the shy intern in the corner
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, making sure the vegan co-worker
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doesn't starve and secretly
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refilling the punch bowl with sparkling
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water , because , well , let's
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be real , nobody needs that
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much eggnog . And that's
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the kicker , isn't it ? Kindness
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isn't always sunshine and rainbows
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. It can be messy
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, inconvenient and
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even downright awkward . But
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it's also where the real
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magic happens , because
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when you're not just playing the social game , you're
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actually connecting with another
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human being on a deeper level
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. You're saying I
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see you , I hear you and
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I care about what matters
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to you , and that my
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friends is worth more
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than any social media post praising
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you or monetary reward
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. Although
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we tend to say well , aren't kind
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people nice ? And nice people kind
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? That's not always
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the case . Sometimes
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a person is nice but not
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at all kind . And sometimes
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a person is kind but
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doesn't come off as very nice . Why
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is that ? Well , it's
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because nice is a social mask
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. People use it to interact
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with the world . Kindness
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, on the other hand , is an act
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of choice to pour positivity
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into someone else who needs it
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. That someone may be people
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, but you could also look at it like
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animals , a cause or
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supporting charity . Kindness
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strives to selflessly improve
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the world , and we should also
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mention that selflessly
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is a commonly misinterpreted
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word . To be selfless
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is not to
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be a martyr . Instead
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, it's to act in a way
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that considers others before
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oneself , and that
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can be something as simple as donating
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money to charity , even if you're a bit
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strapped for cash . It
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could be helping a senior citizen load their groceries
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into a car . A selfless
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act may be picking up a stray kitten that
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you spot on the side of the road , not
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coincidentally . All of these things
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are acts of selfless kindness
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. They all put the needs of
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others before your personal
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needs , but plenty of
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nice people wouldn't go out of their way for others
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. They just act nice
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and polite because
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that's what society expects of
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them . That
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will just about wrap up this week's episode
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. Friends , thank you for
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your kindness . Listening to
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this episode , I hope
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you found something you can take away and
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use in your life . We'll
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be back next week with another episode , but
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until then , be
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that person who roots for others , who
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tells a stranger they look amazing
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and encourages others to
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believe in themselves and
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their dreams . You've been listening
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to the Kindness Matters podcast and
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I am your host , mike Ratbunt
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. Have a fantastic
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week .
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