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Hi, Chris Felton here. Welcome

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to my podcast where I hope to inspire

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you to walk in your royal identity in

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Christ and experience God's goodness in every

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area of your life. I hope you enjoy this

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Now holy spirit, we thank you for what you're doing

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all over the world. Thank you for

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writing a passage. And

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and we pray, Lord, that you would have helped

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the speaker today. and

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help the congregation in Jesus name.

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Amen. I

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I had an experience to yesterday,

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Friday actually, I had an experience. We

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do I do this thing called cultural catalysts,

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and what I do is interview leaders who

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are affecting culture. We

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actually do all the interviews on

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one day. We do four interviews in one day, and

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then we release them once a week. So we

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were doing that last Friday. And

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the very first person that was interviewing

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was a is a guy named Jamie

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Winship. And I have

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my team was like, well, you've met him in DC.

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I actually didn't remember until

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we sat down in front of one another in

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the interview. Actually, he was on he was on a Zoom

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interview. And I was talking

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to him and and Jamie has

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written a book called Living Fearless, and

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he has a ministry called

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the identity method, but

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really interesting guy. And he started talking

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about so, you know, I was saying, So

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tell us a little bit a little bit about you

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and about your ministry, about your

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business. And he started sharing

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the story that for two decades, he was a

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police officer. and he

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was he said I was doing a lot more

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per serving and protecting than being

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a peace officer. And he said, I

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started to just really grieve at

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what I was doing for a job. I want

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to serve people, but I don't wanna just

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stop people from hurting one another.

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I will actually want to

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solve the root issues of culture.

1:59

So we started asking asking the Holy Spirit.

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This is, I guess, a couple years into his job.

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He started asking Holy Spirit Holy Spirit

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will you show me how to x secure

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the root issues why there's violence

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and crime and all these different things. And so

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he started having these encounters with

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the Lord while he was pleasing,

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like, on the job. And so he

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would meet these people and that would be in a crisis.

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Maybe they'd be you know, a

2:25

violence issue or whatever. And he asked

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holy spirit, like, what's the real root cause

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here? And then he began to

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pray into or try to, you

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know, put that the solution into

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that root cause. And anyway, he won several

2:38

awards. Him and his partner won

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several awards for actually

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stopping the root issues of crime.

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And he started working with gangs and all

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his deals a crazy story. And

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I I wish I could tell it well, but you you can get

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it on cultural catalysts. think it's gonna be released in

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a couple weeks. And as he's

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talking, he he said when he

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what happened was, is that he

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was about to retire or quit

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the police department. I forget how that went.

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But someone from the CIA

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heard about all the awards this guy

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has won. And so he

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started looking into Jamie's

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file to see how

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he was solving these crimes because he had

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solved so many crimes and won so many

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awards. And so he said and

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so anyway, this this head of the CIA actually

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met with him and said, hey, I

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I'd like to know how you're solving these crimes we're

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really interested in you coming to work for us.

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And the guy said, I've been looking through

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your file for a few months, and

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I've been studying your cases. And

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he said, well, Just he

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said, well, you're you're probably not gonna

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like the answer I have. And

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the guy said, you know, basically, I'll like any

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answer you have that works. He

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said, okay. We'll pick one of those

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case files, and I'll tell you how I've figured

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it out. So the guy

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pulls one of his case files and reads the file

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that's story. And he goes, well, the

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way I saw that one is, I asked the holy spirit

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what the problem was. Guys, like,

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And I learned that this

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was an identity crisis, and that's

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why this why that actually happened, you have to hear the

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store. He did a lot better job. You're talking

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about the actual root problem was this identity

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crisis. And when he solved that, that actual

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gang thing just dissolved. So

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anyway, so the guy the guy

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anyway, the CIA ends up hiring

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him to help with

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terrorism. And

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he actually gets in he gets in the

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terrorist groups and he teaches

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them about their identity and

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they get they leave the terrorist

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group. It's a

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true story.

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So he worked for them for a long time, and

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then he decided to leave and start his

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own business ministry. It's actually a a for

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profit business, and he works with

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schools. And it works with

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lots of public things. But he one thing he does

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is he works for schools and, you

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know, to around bullying

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and violence and all of that. and we had, you

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know, just had this nineteen

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children shot. So we were interacting with that

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before the we actually went online.

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And I was like, well, you know, how would you handle

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this? And He was telling me some stories. So I said,

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so he said, when we get on the show, can you

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tell that story again? And he was just

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he just did a seminar a year ago

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in this public school that went

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from K to eighth grade. And

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there was lots of violence in the school

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And so they had him in, and he did a seminar,

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which is about two hours long, he said, public

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seminar with the teachers and the

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school, and was like three hundred and sixty eight

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people involved. And the principal got

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so rocked by his presentation

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that he took him aside after the

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presentation. And he said, hey, we have this

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young, the seventh seventh grader in

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our school, and the seventh grader

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has already been marked as a shooter. We

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know that he will eventually shoot kids

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He is he's violent.

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He's his his father's imprisoned. His

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mother died when he I think he was eight.

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And he is he we there's

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we can't do anything with him. We spend him

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constantly, and we don't know what to do

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with him, and we know that he will eventually

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come back and probably shoot

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kids because of some of the things he said. Would

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you meet with him? Sure. I'd love to meet with

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him. So he sits with this young kid

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who the principal says, I have him in my

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office and he never talks. He

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sits there and just doesn't

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talk. And he's

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being raised by his grandfather, and

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his grandfather says, I can't get him to talk. He

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just lives in his room. So he

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sits down with him and he starts, you know, talking

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to his kid, this young

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man. And again, the kid doesn't talk.

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And finally, he said to the kid,

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who are you? Who are you?

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Like, what is your identity? And the kid goes

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invisible.

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Invisible.

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My identity is, I'm invisible.

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So he said, I want you to close your eyes,

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and I want you to tell me what love

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says you are. Right?

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It's the secular school. What does

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love say you are? The king closes

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his eyes and then two seconds

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says, love says, I'm a musical

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genius.

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Love

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says I'm a musical genius. Well,

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the short story is is that

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Jamie gets buys

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him a guitar, goes

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to see his grandfather who

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he learns all what I just

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said, hey, I don't know. The kid lives in his

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room, won't talk. We

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have no relationship. He said, well,

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love told him he's a musical genius. His

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grandfather was shocked. So I've never seen him do

7:43

anything with music. But the grandfather

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said, you bought him a guitar

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I'll get him guitar lessons. They

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buy him guitar. They get him guitar lessons,

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and that's this is now a year later,

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he's at eighth grade right now. He's won several

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achievement awards. He's written

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several songs.

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He's on the principal's best

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behaviorist.

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Because love said, you're musical

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genius. You're not

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invisible. You're a

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musical genius. Is

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that a good word? And

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III wanna talk about the

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identity crisis in

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culture -- Yes. -- that

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I believe that we are in a massive

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identity crisis in culture

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that's rooted in thoughtlessness.

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Now let me be clear before

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I start. I've shared most of this message

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or part of this message before I

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believe in motherhood. Help

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me. I wrote

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a book on

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empowering women called

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destined to win. k?

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So I'd like to I'd like to suggest that

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no one can preach

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a balanced one message. k?

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If you look at my life, it's very balanced.

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But if you're gonna think that that this

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message is not going to be balanced. Don't

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send me nasty emails. Send

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them to Dan. That's Dan fairly

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at.

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I want

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to talk about the crisis of

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identity in our culture. And

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I wanted to give you some statistics that

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I've given you before, but

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talk through some solutions

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as we move towards the end

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of the message. I just

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finished a book called Uprising, and

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it's about the most farthest generation in

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the history of the world. It will be out

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in a couple more months. So these

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statistics are coming from my

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team doing statistical

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studies in almost always

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American culture. I've quoted

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some of these before, but I wanna add a couple

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more. In nineteen fifty, less than

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five percent of all children were born out of

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wedlock in America. It's

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about four point two percent

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In nineteen fifty, four point two

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percent of all Americans were born out of

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wedlock. But by

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twenty seventeen, that

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had ballooned seventeen

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hundred percent until

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in twenty seventeen, fifty

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one percent of all Americans were born

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out of wedlock. What happens

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when you take fathers out of a home? I

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want to talk a little bit about that and remember

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I believe very much in motherhood. There's

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a story that I found a few years

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ago called the elephant story about

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Kruger National Park in

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South Africa in which

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they proactively help to

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breed the African elephant

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who was becoming extinct. And

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they did such a great job

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breeding this African elephant,

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that elephant began to take over

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Kruger Park. They're like, what are we

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gonna do with all these elephants? You know? Kinda

10:52

hard to ship them somewhere. And

10:54

so they decided that they would actually

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transport them to AAA

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park near them and another south

11:02

African Park. It had no African elephants.

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And so they used these great big

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helicopters that you've seen them. They they

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lift logs with them in transport

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logs. They used a

11:13

helicopter like that and they built harnesses

11:15

for the elephants and they transferred

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many of the African elephants

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to this other South African park. And

11:23

all seemed to be well, except for

11:25

within a few months, the

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white endangered hippopotamus.

11:29

The white and and hippopotamus is also

11:31

endangered, which was they

11:33

were trying to breed in this other

11:35

park suddenly we're start they started

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dying. And it

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became really, really serious. They were dying

11:41

everywhere and they couldn't figure out what

11:43

was killing him. First thought they were poachers

11:45

because they would poachers would poach

11:47

for their their horn, but the

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horns were were intact. And

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so they put up cameras around the

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park, especially where the

11:56

herds the where where the white

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Renostrious Kurds hung

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out. And what he found was

12:03

that the young elephants

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The young new

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elephants that they had imported into

12:10

the new park, the young elephants

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were actually gorting they

12:15

white hippopotamus and killing

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them. Now the part of the story I didn't

12:19

tell you is when they were transporting

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the elephants, to the

12:23

new park, when they tried to transport

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the bull elephants, the male

12:29

mature bull elephants to the other

12:31

park, the harnesses were breaking.

12:34

They said, well, it's alright. We have enough

12:36

male elephants, young male elephants still grow

12:38

to be older bulls. And

12:40

so they didn't the mature

12:42

bull elephants didn't get transported.

12:44

So they began to

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study this this new

12:49

dynamic and they and they what they

12:51

realize is like the hippopotamus

12:53

and elephant have lived together for hundreds of

12:55

years. They are not natural enemies. they

12:57

had never actually seen elephants

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killing rhinostasis. So they

13:02

said, well, what are we gonna do about this? like, what

13:04

is the difference between every other

13:06

environment and this environment? Did I say it. Right? You

13:08

gotta say

13:08

it with Ryan, I'm sorry. To get hit close.

13:11

to stay with Ryan. Did I say

13:13

hippos? Yes. It's

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rhino officers.

13:28

White Brian ostracist is what it

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is. And it's

13:35

it's not

13:35

barbituates either.

13:39

So they asked

13:42

themselves what is the

13:44

difference? And the only thing they can think

13:46

of is that They're

13:48

white. I'm sorry. The white. Not the white.

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The elephants. The African

13:53

elephant mature Bowl

13:55

African elephant did not get

13:57

imported into the new port.

13:59

So they made new horses and

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flew several and introduce

14:04

several new male

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Can you help me now? Elephants

14:11

into the new park. And

14:13

what happened immediately is

14:15

that the killing stopped.

14:17

I'll read you this

14:20

portion of their report. To test the

14:22

theory, the Rangers constructed larger,

14:24

stronger harnesses and then flew some of

14:26

the older bull elephants

14:28

left at Kroger within weeks the bizarre

14:30

violent behavior of the juvenile elephants stop

14:32

completely. The older

14:34

elephants let let them know

14:36

that their behavior was not elephant

14:38

like at all. In a short

14:41

time, the younger elephants were

14:43

following the older elephant the older

14:45

more dominant bulls around while

14:47

learning how to be elephants. It's

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a crazy story And

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my question and our question is

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this, what happens when you remove

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fathers from culture?

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Now, I have some more statistics I wanna read

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you, and these statistics are

15:04

from twenty twelve to

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twenty seventeen. When I

15:08

wrote the book uprising, I

15:10

had my team go, in fact, the publisher said,

15:12

hey, all these statistics are like ten years

15:14

old. Can you get newer statistics?

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said, yeah. So I have my my team. I

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said, can you guys go out and do some research and get

15:20

newer statistics on all of these things?

15:22

Well, guess what? There are no new

15:24

statistics. Do you know why?

15:27

Because the LGBTQ has

15:31

one of their agenda items is the

15:33

deconstruction of the family and

15:36

they are proposing that men

15:38

and women are the same and

15:40

therefore you could have two mummies and two

15:42

daddies So certainly, you don't want

15:44

government keeping track of

15:46

the fatherless issues, letting

15:48

people know that when you take fathers out of

15:50

the home, It's not the same as taking a mother out of

15:52

the home because there's different

15:54

side effects of each. And

15:57

I'd like to propose you that moms

15:59

and dads men and women are not the same.

16:07

they are equally powerful but they

16:09

are distinctly different. Let me say that one

16:11

more time. They are equally

16:13

powerful but they are distinctly different.

16:17

when God was in Genesis one when God

16:19

was looking for a helper

16:21

suitable for Adam. He said, I will

16:23

create a helper suitable for

16:25

Adam. First of all, the word helper does not mean

16:28

slave or servant. It's actually

16:30

used thirteen sixteen times in

16:32

the Old Testament, the the Hebrew

16:34

word, three times for woman and

16:36

thirteen times for god. So

16:38

if you think that your wife is

16:41

a is a helper, just

16:43

remember so is god. And

16:48

and wait wait. No clapping yet.

16:51

I'm on a roll. I haven't made a mistake in at

16:54

least eight minutes. And

16:57

the word suitable, I will make a

16:59

helper suitable for Adam.

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the word civil means opposite up or corresponding

17:04

to. I'm pointing out

17:06

that men and women are equally powerful, but

17:08

they are distinctly different. And

17:10

let me tell you, when your when where

17:13

your wife says, you need to get touch your

17:15

feminine side, I'd like to point out you don't

17:17

have one. Man, you

17:19

don't have a feminism side. Remember when

17:21

Adam when when God took

17:27

And I am trying.

17:29

Still trying to figure out to

17:31

write an office or the hip epidermis.

17:35

When God took when God

17:37

put Adam to sleep and took the rib out

17:39

of his side and made a woman, and Adam woke

17:41

up, he said, This is my flesh of

17:43

my flesh, bone of my bone. Listen to this,

17:45

she shall be called woman for she

17:48

was taken out of the man. Where

17:50

was the woman in the beginning? In

17:52

the man? But how many know when

17:54

God put out of the

17:56

sleep, he took the woman out of

17:58

the man. Hatter

17:59

wakes

17:59

up and he goes,

18:02

whoa, man. So

18:07

old very old

18:09

joke. Very old. The

18:11

fact that you laugh at it means you either

18:13

humor me or you've never heard it

18:16

before. But when Adam wakes up, he

18:18

sees what he sees in front of him that

18:20

what once was in him.

18:22

Now, this is the truth. He sees

18:24

in front of him that

18:26

was once within him and he begins to

18:29

prophesy to it. He says your bone

18:31

of my bone, flesh my flesh, you shall

18:33

be called woman for you

18:35

will take it out of the man. For

18:37

this cause, a man shall leave his

18:39

father mother and join to his

18:41

wife and the two shall become one.

18:43

Why? Because the one became two. I

18:45

mean, no, God never counts a woman

18:47

in a crowd again. There was five thousand

18:49

men. There was three thousand men. There was two thousand

18:51

men. Does God not value women? No. God

18:53

says the two or one.

18:54

In

18:56

the Greek, there is no word

18:58

for

18:58

what there is no word for

19:01

woman or man. There's

19:02

one word for woman and there's one

19:05

word for woman and husband and

19:07

one word

19:07

for wife and

19:10

woman. Did

19:11

I say right? In

19:14

my mind,

19:14

I did. The

19:17

Greek word for man is

19:20

also so the Greek word for husband. The Greek

19:22

word

19:22

for woman is also the Greek word

19:24

for wife. Because the Greeks figured,

19:27

you should be If you're a

19:29

woman, your wife. So

19:32

and all the single people said, I

19:34

hate this sermon. Just

19:38

pointed out.

19:39

I said all

19:42

that to say that we are not

19:44

keeping statistics on

19:46

homelessness anymore because

19:48

we are trying we are

19:50

trying to deconstruct the family

19:53

and make it normal to have

19:55

two mommies or two daddies because

19:57

according to culture, they're interchangeable.

19:59

And I would say, I'd

20:01

like to say, technically, that's

20:04

bull crap. Technically speaking.

20:11

Okay. Let's move on. Let

20:14

me give you a few more statistics.

20:16

These are seven to

20:18

ten years old because of the issues

20:20

I've talked to you about. Ninety percent

20:22

of all American inmates are

20:25

men, not women. Seventy

20:27

five percent of all inmates grew up without

20:29

a father. sixty

20:31

three percent of all

20:34

youth suicides are from far less

20:36

homes. That's sixty

20:38

three no. That's I'm sorry. That's five times

20:40

the national average. Ninety

20:43

percent of all homeless and runaway

20:45

children are from fatherless homes. That's thirty two

20:47

times, the average. Eighty five percent of all

20:50

children who show behavior disorders.

20:52

They're talking about shootings and all this kind

20:54

of crazy stuff. come from far less homes.

20:56

That's twenty times the national

20:58

average. That's coming from the center of

21:00

disease control. percent

21:02

of all rapists come from fatherless homes,

21:04

fourteen times the average. Seventy one

21:06

percent of all high school dropouts come from

21:08

fatherless homes, nine times the average. Go try

21:10

to find eight doses statistics. Now, if you

21:12

can, I'd love for you to send them to me because

21:14

we couldn't find them anywhere. They don't keep

21:16

those statistics anymore. They don't want you to

21:18

know what's really happening.

21:20

Fawlessness is

21:24

driving violence through lost identity

21:27

and disconnection. Honey know, when

21:29

Cain lost connection with God, he murdered Abel.

21:32

Disconnection with fathers. Disconnection

21:34

with the heavenly father. creates

21:36

a new identity. Let me give you six side effects of

21:39

thoughtlessness. Number one,

21:41

when men men men

21:43

are being feminized because mothers, because mothers

21:46

without fathers are raising them. Now let me say

21:48

this. I feel compelled

21:50

to say this over and over I'm not mister

21:52

instead. You need a mom and a dad.

21:54

And both are absolutely

21:58

necessary. Are you with me? You need a mom and

21:59

a dad. but

22:00

listen, we don't we don't have a motherless

22:03

culture right now. We have a fatherless culture.

22:05

We're actually the most fatherless culture

22:07

in the history of the world in

22:09

which our fathers are alive but not present.

22:11

With statistically, we are the

22:13

most fatherless generation in the history

22:15

of the world when our in in

22:18

the history of the world, in which our fathers are

22:20

alive, but not present, not

22:22

home. We have been

22:24

more flawless For example, in

22:26

history, right after the Civil War, six

22:28

hundred and eighty seven thousand

22:30

mostly men died. And our

22:32

population of America was about

22:34

fifty million So there was more

22:36

falseness right after the civil war than there

22:38

is now, but our fathers were dead.

22:40

This is the first time in history when our

22:42

fathers are alive, but they're

22:44

not home. you with me? Yes.

22:46

So what what is the side

22:48

effects of thoughtlessness? Men are

22:50

being feminized because mothers

22:52

without fathers are raising them. The gender can fusion

22:54

of a man being raised only by a woman

22:56

is helping to perpetuate homosexuality

22:58

and transgenderism. Men are

23:00

being trained out of their ability

23:03

to provide promote and protect. As a matter of fact,

23:05

some of the the distinctions

23:07

that are are being made is

23:10

that Massculinity is actually a

23:12

dysfunction. Isn't it funny

23:14

that transgenderism is normal, but masculinity

23:16

is a dysfunction? Abortion

23:19

is a major side effect of

23:21

homelessness because women are being impregnated by

23:24

men but not fathers.

23:26

And I'd propose that

23:29

what's perpetuating abortion and

23:31

the sin of abortion is not motherhood.

23:34

It's fatherlessness. You

23:36

can help me because I'm

23:39

nervous. You

23:41

can imagine. I

23:43

refuse to be silent.

23:52

The absence

23:59

yeah

23:59

of fatherhood is

24:02

creating behavioral tolerance and

24:05

lack of discipline. Finish

24:07

this sentence for me. wait

24:09

till your your father

24:11

gets home. I've done that in five countries and

24:15

spontaneously everybody knows that mom says, wait till

24:17

your father gets home. What

24:19

is your father gonna kill you? What's

24:21

your father gonna do? I'm pointing out that

24:23

we know instinctively that

24:26

fathers lead discipline. Do

24:28

mothers discipline? Of course, they do. And

24:30

in fact, in fathers homes, mothers take

24:32

on the role of dis of the disciplined

24:34

terrarium, but Well, that was almost as bad

24:36

as We

24:38

won't try it

24:39

again because it could get worse.

24:42

I'm mouthwash. But my point is

24:44

is that fathers lead in

24:46

the area of discipline. Yes. They're not

24:48

the only ones who discipline, but

24:50

they lead that. what happens when you take fathers out of the home?

24:52

I'm gonna tell you that when fathers leave

24:55

the home, men do not

24:57

boys do not know what to do with their

24:59

aggression.

25:01

and their aggression that's supposed to be pointed to

25:03

provide, promote, and protect, turns

25:05

to violence. Wait. I can prove to

25:07

you does. I'm proving to you statistically that

25:10

it does. that our prisons are full

25:12

of men who've done violent

25:14

acts. It's not that masculinity is

25:16

bad. It's what happens when you don't have the

25:18

boy elephants at home teaching

25:20

the young man, it's a metaphor. What

25:22

to do with this aggression?

25:25

Abushing is good when it's

25:27

under the Guys of the

25:29

discipline of the Lord and a fatherhood.

25:31

But when you take aggression and you let it

25:33

fly, how many understand? You

25:35

end up with unspeakable culture,

25:37

which we have, kids shooting

25:39

kids now. I mean, what do you

25:42

what do you I

25:44

don't I'm I'm I'm

25:46

gonna take us the wrong way if I'm not careful.

25:48

But when kids when a

25:50

eight year old shoots little

25:53

kids, I understand

25:54

it's all dysfunctional, but

25:56

when you're shooting little kids, what

25:58

have those kids done to you?

26:01

talking about we're at the Pinnacle and

26:04

the and the the answer isn't

26:06

just gun control or

26:08

listen, I don't make anybody mad. I have a

26:10

wife who shoots guns. She

26:14

hunts. She's a bad

26:16

woman. She

26:18

fishes. She has the best book. She rides

26:23

horses. Someone breaks into our

26:25

house, I wake her, my honey.

26:30

I'll call

26:30

the police, go check that out, see what's

26:32

going on down

26:33

there.

26:36

I

26:36

don't have a strong opinion about

26:38

the the gun control thing. And

26:41

listen, I'm not saying there should be or shouldn't be. I'm

26:43

saying, I I really don't.

26:45

but I'm telling you that stopping

26:48

kids, killing kids by just taking away

26:50

weapons is not the answer.

26:52

And if you think it is, you don't know what

26:54

you're talking about. Stopping

26:57

abortion by just making it illegal

26:59

is not the answer. Listen.

27:01

I personally this I know

27:03

I'll take hits for this. I personally want abortion

27:05

to be illegal, but I am aware that

27:07

that is not the answer. when I

27:10

have to make a law to keep

27:12

moms from killing their own children. I'd say

27:14

there's something else wrong.

27:15

If the only reason

27:17

I don't kill Kathy is because

27:19

it's illegal, I'd say our marriage needs help.

27:24

No. Can we stop being

27:26

stupid and actually look at there's,

27:29

hey, because someone needs to say, I don't

27:31

think that's just that they don't have

27:33

a weapon.

27:35

Our society is

27:37

sick and we are creating

27:40

the destruction and the

27:42

deconstruction of the family on

27:44

purpose in the school

27:46

system and everywhere else. And what we do is

27:48

stand up in hopes we can vote for the right

27:50

person. I'm like, we, the

27:52

church, Jesus Christ is the

27:54

answer.

28:01

Number

28:03

three,

28:05

the

28:05

side effects of homelessness.

28:09

Men lack confidence in their ability to lead

28:11

and provide for a family because it's never been

28:13

modeled for them. Therefore, they

28:15

delay or reject marriage relationships.

28:17

I'd like to point out that the government's idea of fixing this

28:19

is to fund, file

28:21

those families. And I don't

28:23

know how you don't fund them because that's a

28:26

very complicated issue, but that's not the answer.

28:28

Giving people money so you can have more children who

28:30

don't have a dad is not the

28:32

answer. Right. Right.

28:35

And by the

28:39

way, why do you think socialism is growing? Well, if

28:41

you've been raised by Uncle Sam, do you sort of

28:43

think he's supposed to take care of you?

28:45

The rest your life. Number

28:48

four, men invite boys

28:50

into manhood through the rite of passage, and we

28:52

are not gonna describe what that

28:54

is. The rite of

28:56

passage is the process in which men acknowledge

28:58

that a boy has become a man. Without

29:00

the rite of passage, boys struggle

29:03

growing up as they grow old. Now

29:05

women have a naturally built in

29:07

kind of ride a passage in that they when

29:09

they start their menstrual cycle,

29:12

women come in and notice,

29:14

or if you will, or help the girl

29:16

who's now acknowledged as a woman. She

29:18

has some menstrual soap. She could

29:20

she can actually give birth to a baby. Although she

29:22

may be twelve, thirteen, fourteen years older,

29:25

younger than that, my point is, is that she's

29:27

acknowledged as a woman because

29:29

their menstrual cycle has

29:31

has a built in, if you will, write a

29:33

passage. But men don't

29:36

have that. Many cultures

29:38

have a rite of passage built into

29:40

them. Jewish culture does.

29:51

We're good. We're moving on. Number

29:54

five, flawless men relate to

29:56

women as mothers and sisters, but

29:58

not as wives and lovers.

30:01

because they've never observed how a husband

30:03

relates to a wife. Consequently,

30:06

they don't pursue lovers.

30:08

They pursue mothers. someone who

30:10

will care for them, not a person who can't provide, protect,

30:13

and promote. Yes. If I've

30:15

never seen my father, love my mother,

30:17

I don't know to interact in a

30:19

romantic way, but I I only

30:21

thing I have is my mom taking care of

30:23

me or my sister. I relate to

30:25

every woman as a sister or a mom

30:27

because I've never seen them be lovers.

30:29

So I have no training on

30:31

how to have a lover because all I've

30:33

had is a mother.

30:38

Number six, in flawless cultures,

30:40

in flawless society's authenticity

30:43

is redefined as being true to

30:45

your feelings. Instead

30:47

of being true to your purpose,

30:51

I am what I feel. how

30:53

do you know you're a boy when you're

30:56

actually a girl? I feel I

30:58

am. And feelings

31:01

now are more important. than

31:03

facts.

31:05

I'd like

31:07

to share a

31:09

few things that fathers teach

31:12

sons. it's Number one, how to

31:14

conquer their fears and not

31:16

negotiate with their enemies. Not

31:19

how to conquer the thing you're afraid of,

31:21

how to conquer your fears.

31:23

I don't shoot up

31:26

schools because I'm afraid of kids or because I'm angry with them,

31:28

I learned how to conquer my fears.

31:31

Number two, provide for

31:33

their family. how do what

31:35

do fathers teach their sons? How to provide

31:37

for a family? This role gives me a

31:39

purpose, meaning and identity. I don't

31:41

mean that women provide for their family, this

31:43

is not gonna be a balanced message. Right.

31:47

When the sheet came down

31:49

in a vision, in a trance, in

31:51

acts chapter ten to

31:53

Peter. You remember this? And he saw

31:55

unclean animals. And what did he

31:57

heal? Here. Heel. What

31:59

did he hear? He did not hear eat.

32:01

He heard kill and eat.

32:04

Anyway, Kelly

32:08

is the part of the ecosystem of manhood

32:10

because they are tasked with providing substance

32:12

for their families. But in a feminized world,

32:14

I like this as kind of funny. in a

32:16

civilized provision is Trump by compassion, and

32:19

vegetarianism is the outcome.

32:21

It's a little joke.

32:24

Just Trying to be a little just get you

32:26

a little funny.

32:28

Number three, what do

32:31

fathers teach sons Father's

32:33

teach men to compete for the

32:36

prize, fight for the promises, and

32:38

build for the future. This is how men

32:40

learned how to fight for and

32:42

aggressively pursue the woman of their

32:44

dreams. Have you ever read Solace

32:46

Solomon? Yes. Song

32:48

Solomon has basically three characters:

32:50

The wife, the husband, and

32:52

Aquire. I've always thought in

32:54

my marriage is missing a choir

32:59

because I think that my marriage

33:01

would be so much more romantic if

33:03

at certain seasons. People

33:06

There were singers singing, I know

33:08

you're up there somewhere. Somewhere.

33:12

Or ain't no mountain high enough.

33:14

You know, I just We've

33:16

been we've been missing that in our marriage. We've

33:19

been trying to introduce it

33:22

through Alexa. There's

33:25

a little

33:29

truth there. We won't tell a family

33:31

story though. In

33:33

Psalm of Solomon, the

33:36

wife speaks, and then the husband speaks,

33:38

and then the choir sings. Let me

33:40

read you one short passage of

33:43

the wife. speaking about her husband. She

33:45

says, listen, my

33:47

beloved. Behold, he's coming,

33:50

climbing on the mountains, leaping on

33:52

the hills, My beloved is like a

33:54

gazelle, like a young stag.

33:56

Behold, he's standing behind the wall, he's

33:58

looking through the windows, he's peering through the

33:59

lattice. She describes her

34:02

husband As a foreseer -- Right.

34:04

-- he he he

34:06

runs over the mountains. He jumps over freaking

34:10

walls. He's

34:10

looking through the lattice. He's

34:13

he's the pursuing she was

34:15

born to be adored and

34:18

pursued and he was born to be the procurer.

34:20

Are you with me?

34:22

A woman playing hard

34:25

to get shouldn't aspire the masculine need to win,

34:27

to compete for their prize,

34:30

to climb the castle wall. But

34:32

in a feminineized world, a woman has to

34:34

put a

34:36

ladder down against the castle wall followed by his safety rope and then

34:38

wait at the bottom to show him the

34:40

way up. I

34:45

can't even

34:48

tell you how many men over the

34:50

last twenty four years in our

34:52

school ministry

34:54

come to a school that has

34:56

sixty percent women, beautiful women

34:58

from all over the world. I

35:02

mean, Just pick one. This is like fishing at the

35:04

hatchree.

35:09

and women come up perpetually and they ask, is

35:11

it alright for me to pursue a man? I'm like,

35:13

yeah, Jesus said, be

35:15

fishers of men.

35:18

fathers

35:22

help others discover

35:24

their identity. Listen

35:27

again, I know mothers do too. The fathers lead the

35:29

way. They lead the

35:31

charge in helping

35:34

to discover your identity. When children are really little and

35:36

we got a bunch of them now, I got

35:39

grandkids everywhere. They're like, ants.

35:42

What's that?

35:44

What's that?

35:46

What's

35:47

that that? What's

35:49

that? and they

35:51

get a little older and

35:53

you're like, oh, finally, they're like,

35:55

why? Why? Why is

35:58

there air?

36:02

Why? the y why.

36:06

But when they

36:09

hit puberty, they ask

36:11

who am

36:12

I? And

36:16

listen, we're in

36:18

a society that thinks that

36:20

you learn who you are

36:23

through education And so we send you off to

36:26

university, college, someplace. Like,

36:28

certainly if you learn enough,

36:30

you will know who you are. Yeah. And we people with several degrees.

36:33

By the way, nothing wrong with degrees. It's

36:35

just that when you're looking

36:38

for identity, through

36:40

education and instead of through

36:44

family, you end up getting degrees

36:46

in which you don't even

36:48

wanna work. You end up a hundred fifty, two hundred thousand

36:50

dollar college debt, and you

36:52

still are like, I don't know who I am. Who's

36:54

gonna tell me? Your

36:56

daddy was supposed to help you

36:58

figure out who you are. If you raise up

37:00

a child in the way

37:02

they should go, not if you

37:04

raise them up to be Christians, the way

37:06

they should go. How many understand

37:08

that your daddy is responsible.

37:10

So as your mama, your daddy is

37:12

primary responsible. to say, I see

37:14

who you are and let's create a whole

37:16

culture to get

37:18

you there.

37:21

One

37:25

more.

37:26

Father's leave a legacy.

37:28

and promote the well-being of their tribe. I mean, no, it's not all about you.

37:31

We got a we got we got

37:33

a whole generation. And by the way,

37:35

this is yeah. Maybe

37:38

I shouldn't say it that way. We got so many people running around

37:40

thinking life is about them. It's all about

37:43

me. It's it ends it

37:45

starts, it ends with me. And

37:47

we now we live in isolation.

37:50

I work online. I

37:52

go to church online. God bless you. You're

37:54

on church right now. We God bless you.

37:56

Thank you. I mean, I

37:58

don't have to leave the

38:00

house. I have a virtual family. I

38:02

have a virtual pastor. I have a

38:04

virtual life. And the

38:06

goals of my life are how

38:08

many followers I can get on TikTok

38:10

or TikTok or TikTok

38:14

or how many people I can get on Facebook, and I think I'm

38:16

having a life on them. I'm gonna confront them. I'm gonna tell

38:18

you right now. And here's my

38:20

significant moment.

38:22

I told them what I think. And all

38:24

of that aggression is bottled up

38:26

because I have no relationships with anybody

38:30

And I called, look at all the followers I got. Yeah. No. Followers.

38:32

That is a that that

38:35

is a virtual reality,

38:40

lie. That is not real

38:42

life. I love movies,

38:44

by the way, we just went to see

38:46

Top gun was good.

38:51

But some people live

38:53

in a in a virtual excitement because they

38:56

have no real

38:58

life. And it's

39:00

time. I have one minute to give you the

39:02

solution. Think about

39:05

that

39:05

for a good

39:07

timing and a message. Psalm

39:10

sixty 85A father to the far less and a

39:12

judge of widows is God, who's

39:14

in his holy habitation. I believe that we're

39:16

in a Malachi 456 moment.

39:20

Yes. Nalikai spoke over time. He

39:22

said this. He said, I'm

39:24

gonna send a lie to the

39:26

prophet.

39:27

And he's gonna gonna before the

39:29

great and coming. Great and

39:32

terrible day of the Lord. He's gonna restore

39:34

the hearts of fathers, to sons and

39:36

daughters, hearts of sons and daughters

39:38

of fathers. Listen, I believe that

39:40

the the stage is

39:42

set for the moment for

39:44

the Elijah

39:46

or Moses or Joshua,

39:48

whichever one you like.

39:50

Gideon, I believe that the stage is

39:52

set for a move

39:54

of God. I believe that I just described

39:56

to you the backdrop in

39:58

which the spirit of

39:59

Elijah is now coming onto

40:02

the church. Isn't it

40:04

funny that it's a prophetic movement

40:06

that is restoring fatherhood?

40:08

It is the prophets that

40:11

actually carry the spirit of reconciliation, not the

40:13

spirit of judgment in

40:16

this new covenant

40:18

culture that we live in. And it's time

40:20

for us to rise up and

40:22

say two things. That's enough.

40:27

with love, as much love and patience

40:29

as we can muster in

40:31

Jesus Christ, but with much truth as

40:33

we can find in the scripture and

40:36

say, that's enough. That

40:38

stops here. And secondly,

40:40

here's a solution. You

40:42

love need follows. I love that

40:44

Mary and Joseph lost Jesus for three days. It's one

40:47

of the pothuniest passages in

40:49

the entire bible. Mary

40:52

gave birth to the son of God, then go ahead and find him

40:55

for three days. I

40:56

think it's a funny story, but

41:00

Here's what I get out of that story. It takes the village. That

41:02

Jesus wasn't just raised by Joseph

41:04

and Mary. He was raised by a

41:07

village. It was common for for

41:09

Jesus to be gone for a couple of days with

41:11

other relatives, with other friends because it takes

41:14

the village. I'd like to propose that we need

41:16

to leave the global the

41:18

global orphanage and we need to

41:20

become the village of

41:22

mothers and fathers. Would you

41:24

stand, please?

41:28

Can you

41:31

put your hand

41:35

on your heart? Just

41:39

pray this prayer,

41:42

Lord. Help me

41:44

to help me to be be

41:46

that village, a part of that village, taught

41:48

me to be part of the solution

41:51

for all the

41:53

mothers and fathers who are

41:56

absent from society for

41:58

all the sons and

41:59

daughters who are looking to be

42:02

loved, and they

42:04

feel invisible. and yet their musical

42:06

geniuses. Lord, let me

42:08

be the vehicle that

42:10

introduces them to the

42:12

heavenly father.

42:14

and gives them a reason to live

42:16

in Jesus' name. Amen.

42:18

God bless you. Thanks so much

42:20

for listening to my podcast.

42:22

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42:25

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42:29

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