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Don't you think it's funny how some
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people date the same type of person
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again and again and
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again ? Well , guess what ? There is
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a reason for that , and in
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this episode , I'm going to be diving into
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all the different ways that you can break the
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patterns in order to
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find a loving partner that
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you can have a healthy relationship with , especially
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if you've had toxic relationships in the past
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, including narcissists , psychopaths
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, sociopaths and basically
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anyone with a very low emotional intelligence
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. This episode
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is going to be rather juicy , so please
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go and get your pen and paper , start writing
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these down , share it with anyone that
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you think could really benefit , because obviously
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you know , relationships are so , so important
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and not everyone is able to
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enjoy that real , honest and genuine
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love that lasts , that they
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truly deserve . So let's
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share that love . So
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please feel free to pause if you need to take
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breaks or anything like
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that , because this is going to be , like I said , a very
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, very deep episode . It might
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be a little bit emotionally charging , but
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trust me on this , you are going
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to learn so many different things that
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can really support you to
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meet the right partner in future and break
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these patterns . So take your
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time . It's not a rush , you
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know , take those notes and we
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are going to have amazing
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things happen on this episode . I
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can just feel it
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. So let's focus
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on the 10 reasons why
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people end up in
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these awful relationship
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patterns . You know where they're attracting partners
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that aren't caring
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, that are emotionally abusive , and how
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you can stop that . Today , childhood
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Now you will be amazed the amount of times that I have someone turn around
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to me and say , hey , but Lily , I've had the most
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amazing childhood . The truth is , you know , you can have a fantastic
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childhood . You know , and still
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have issues that have caused
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bad relationships
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. One of the main
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things that actually causes these
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issues is having a parent or
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two parents that aren't emotionally
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intelligent . So the thing
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is to remember is parents
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. They do the best that they possibly can . So
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this is not a finger pointing exercise
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of your parents . Giving you
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the reason you know is the reason why you've
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entered these terrible relationships . You
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know , this is more about giving you
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the awareness so you can start to unpick
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all these different things so you
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are able to enjoy a fantastic
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relationship . So let's
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go into some of the signs that you
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may have had a parent that had low
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emotional intelligence
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. You may have
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heard something on the lines of you're
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too sensitive , you
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shouldn't be feeling that way . Well
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, it's okay for you . You don't know
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what it's like for me . It's
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these kind of comments that
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devalues a child's
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because they're talking about when you're a child
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devalues a child's
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emotional well-being and
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needs . And
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, if you think about it , childhood
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is very , very interesting
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because there's been research done
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where it shows that whatever
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you go through as a child and you
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couldn't figure out because if you think about
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a child's job , a child's job is to feel
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loved and to feel safe
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well , the thing is
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, when a child is
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feeling unloved , they're going
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to feel unsafe . So
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they're always going to be looking for ways
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to gain that love and
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to fix whatever's going on
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. So if you've got a parent with
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low emotional intelligence
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, they're going to be doing a lot
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of work to try and figure
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out how to get that love . You
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know how to improve that parent's mood , how to make that parent more caring
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, how to get that love . You know how to improve that parent's mood , how to make that parent more
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caring , how to make that parent , you
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know , show them attention . So
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what this does is it actually goes
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into future relationships
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. So of course it's a pattern of going
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into relationships where that
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partner may have very low emotional
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intelligence , so they're going
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through the cycles of trying
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to figure out how to get that partner to love
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them . But the truth is
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, if you are trying to change
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someone or trying to change
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their behavior , then
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you're not in love with
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that person . You haven't fully
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accepted that person for who
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they are . And it's
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not to say that you stay in those relationships
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. You let them go because they are relationships
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that don't serve you . But this
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is where we go into trauma bond territory
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and I've already done an episode on that . So
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please feel free to go and check out the
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trauma bond episode if you're interested in
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learning more about that . So
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that's childhood in a nutshell . Very
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, very quick summary . So
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we're going to go on to number two . Number
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two is no emotional
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validation . So
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this is
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super interesting because we've just gone into childhood
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when you've
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not had a parent that can emotionally
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validate you , you don't get taught
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how to emotionally validate yourself
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, so you will find yourself
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pushing your emotions away . You'll be
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going right . Well , you know , I shouldn't
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be feeling this way . I shouldn't be feeling this way . I
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feel angry or frustrated for feeling angry
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, and you'll try to change
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or push away or numb away
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your emotions , which also
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means that you will seek out partners
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that will also not emotionally validate
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your emotions . So
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what this ends up doing is it will cause you to trust someone else's judgment or someone else's
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emotions or how you should be feeling , and it will make you more reliant and more codependent
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on them . So , for example
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, if you're told , well , you shouldn't feel angry about
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that , you should feel happy about xyz
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, you will start to distrust
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yourself and you will trust your partner
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or your parents judgment a lot
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more . What this can
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lead to and this is what I've seen with
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so many people who have gone through narcissistic
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relationships in particular is
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it will cause you to feel numb , it
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will cause you to feel depressed , it
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will cause you to feel very disconnected
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with life . So even the good stuff
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won't even you know , like you'd normally enjoy
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, wouldn't give you that amazing
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you know that amazing feeling of joy and happiness
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. So it really creates this
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level of disconnect . And
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with those types of relationships , what tends
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to happen is you tend to be absorbed
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by their reality and
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that's where you start trusting their emotions and
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what they're feeling and what you should be feeling in their
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eyes and all these different things . So
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it creates this element of how
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you should see your relationship
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with them . So that's often why
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a lot of narcissistic relationships you end up
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seeing the potential versus
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being able to see the reality . So
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let's move on to number
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three . Number three is looking
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for self-worth
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through service , and
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this is super interesting . So often
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people try to earn that love
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. So , a little bit like we mentioned in childhood
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, you know that child would be constantly
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looking for security through love , for attention
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, through praise , through all these
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different things . So if they're not getting that
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from an emotionally intelligent parent
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, they will be obviously , you know
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, repeating the pattern in adult
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relationships , whether it's friendships , whether it's
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work , whether it's a
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romantic relationship relationship
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. They will be constantly looking for all the different
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ways that they can put everyone else above themselves
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in order for them to feel good and to feel
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needed . And that's the other thing that I tend to see with
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toxic relationships . People are needed versus
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wanted , and this is where
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you end up seeing people
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stuck in the rescuer mode and
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they often have a high level of hypervigilance
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which allows them to know exactly
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what someone else is feeling without
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even having to look at them . You know , have
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a chat with them or anything . Survival
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technique you know survival element that they've had to pick up in order
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to know that they can , you know , earn that love or earn that self-worth
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through other people other than recognizing
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their own self-worth . Number
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four is going
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into putting others before yourself
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. So what tends to happen
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, a little bit like the whole self-worth side of things
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. So what tends to happen a little bit like the
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whole self-worth side of things what tends to happen
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in narcissistic relationships is you are punished for putting yourself
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before them . So if
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you've had a parent with low
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emotional intelligence and you put
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yourself before them
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, they will often make you feel guilty
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and feel bad for doing that
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. And
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again you'll repeat the pattern and go into a relationship
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where they will make you feel bad . You might have friends that make you
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feel bad . You might have a job that makes you
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feel bad for prioritizing yourself
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. The secret is , prioritizing
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yourself is healthy . It
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is so healthy because
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it means other people get the best
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out of you
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. Moving on to number five , so I want to go through these
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so I can tell you different things that you can go ahead and
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do afterwards . So number five
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is traumatic experience or emotionally
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charged experience . These
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things can lead
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to complex PTSD and
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what tends to happen and it's
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very , very sneaky , the way this happens is
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it causes you to isolate
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yourself . It can cause things
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like weight gain , weight loss
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, financial issues , all
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these different things that cause you
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to have a similar heightened
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experience . So
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it can cause you to feel like you're
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running away , like if you sat down
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and just stayed still . You know you
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would struggle to do that because you could feel your
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body go . No , let's do something , let's check the
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phone , let's do this , let's do that and
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it's often your body's fight
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or flight system has been
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activated and it doesn't
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know how to be soothed
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. And when that's the case and
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it's in that firefighting mode , it
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can look for very simple dopamine
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hits to calm down . So
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, for example , weight gain or food can
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create the feeling of safety
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. Being able to
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spend lots of money on different things . It
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can give you that serotonin and dopamine boost
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. So it can cause a
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huge , massive disconnect
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between what you're actually feeling , because
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it's almost like you're constantly putting the
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plaster over the top when actually you
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need surgery . So
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traumatic experiences
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. The reason why these
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are important to be able to identify
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and to be able to heal is
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because you don't really
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control your emotional
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reactions to
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things , and this is where we often talk about
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things like triggers . Triggers
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happen when it's activating
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a heightened emotional experience
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or a past
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traumatic experience and
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when these haven't been fully
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processed , your body's
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not in a state of feeling safe . So
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anything that causes you to feel that
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same emotion again will
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cause you to regress back to
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when that originally happened . So
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it can be very , very interesting when
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you have certain emotional experiences
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or traumatic experiences
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that relate back to childhood , because
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when that is activated , that feeling
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is activated , it can cause people
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to regress back
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to childhood and having the same childhood
13:30
emotions and childhood reactions
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to the present moment
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trigger . So I can
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give you a few different examples of this
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. So one client
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of mine had a huge
13:45
response to abandonment
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. So when she was dating
13:50
and she had people who were like
13:53
, look , I don't think this relationship's for me
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, and when they would leave , she would have
13:57
a huge heightened response
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to that person going . She knew something was
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not right about it . She knew it was
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an over-the-top emotion and
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reaction she was having , but she couldn't kind
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of figure out what was going
14:11
on . And it turned out
14:13
that there was an experience when she was five years
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old . That um that
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was around her parents
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and the feeling of them abandoning
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her , abandoning her caused
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her to have a similar reaction in
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future , in her adult life , when it
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came to um partners leaving
14:32
and deciding that they didn't want to pursue the relationship
14:34
. And together
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we actually worked through that within a session and
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she was able to not go through that
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awful experience and she was able to process
14:44
and re-regulate really quickly when
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it came to any kind of you
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know rejection when it came to dating , because the truth
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is you know dating and I'm
14:52
sure you know you'll never hear this
14:54
from a dating coach but dating you're
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going to get more no's than yes's and that's
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what it's all about . It's not about let's attract
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everyone . It's about attracting the right person
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for a long-term relationship , and
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I think this is one of the reasons why
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you know people nowadays
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. You know so many people are going through a divorce
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and I think the reason is
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is because people are so excited to attract
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just anyone versus
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being able to be very selective
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in the type of partner that they actually attract
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. So , but less
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of that . Let's go into the next part . So
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, number six you fear
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relationships , trusting
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people can be so scary
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. So what
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tends to happen is
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, when you're in that state , you
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tend to find yourself being doing like certain
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things , like over giving when it comes to friendships
15:47
or relationships , because if you
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have the feeling that someone
15:52
you know you owe someone something
15:54
because they've done something nice to
15:56
you , you can feel like they have power or authority
15:58
over you because that was what was made , that's
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what you were led to believe as a child , for example
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. So you
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know , for example , let's say , you had a parent who
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said , right , I
16:10
have done this for you . Right , this
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means you have to do that for me . Well , someone
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being able to give to you in your adulthood may trigger that response . You right , this means you have to do that for me . Well , someone being able to give to you in
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your adulthood may trigger that response
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of oh no , I need to do something back , not
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because you want to , but because you feel obliged
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to . So you
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know , this can cause a fear in actually
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trusting people and building up relationships
16:30
of people . So if you fear
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people and you don't
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feel like relationships are safe
16:37
, you're going to push everyone away . Okay
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, so , number seven , you are
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agreeable ? You don't want to rock
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the boat . You don't want people to judge
16:46
you ? Okay , so
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this one's huge
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. So if you're agreeable
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, you are malleable . This
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one's huge . So if you're agreeable , you are malleable
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. And it's not to say that . You know , if
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you don't agree to everything that you must , you know , make enemies of everyone . No , you can say
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no with respect , you can say no with appropriate boundaries and you can
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do it without losing friends or losing respect
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and all those different things . The
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truth is , the people that
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won't accept your no's are
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the people that don't really care
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about you as a person . So
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you know , if you think about
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if someone turned around to you and said well , actually I disagree
17:26
with what you're saying . I understand
17:28
where you're coming from and I really respect your views
17:30
. I'm not looking to change them , but I just don't . I have
17:32
very different opinion . You know
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that's healthy . It's
17:37
not saying you're going to lose
17:39
love and affection . It's saying
17:41
I understand you , I respect you
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, I just have a very different viewpoint
17:46
and that doesn't mean that you're going to lose
17:48
the friendship or relationship
17:51
that you have . So
17:53
when you have that
17:55
element of being agreeable in you , it
17:58
can be because you experienced
18:00
a form of conditional love
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as a child . I don't
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love you . When you've been naughty or if you've made
18:07
a mistake or you've done something wrong , you
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are going to be punished and you are not
18:11
going to get the love Versus
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you made a . Okay , I understand
18:16
you shouldn't have done that . I still love you anyway
18:19
and that's more of that unconditional
18:21
love and it can help you feel
18:23
more confident
18:25
in being able to actually share your true
18:27
viewpoint versus being agreeable
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. And , of course , if you've got an agreeable
18:32
person , that is perfect
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. Narcissistic fodder Okay
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, if you're looking for , if you think about narcissists they
18:40
love to control , they love
18:42
to be able to manipulate and someone who's
18:44
agreeable is easy to
18:46
manipulate and control , okay
18:49
. Number eight you
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need others to value you so you
18:53
can value yourself . If
18:55
you think about what narcissists does , straight
18:57
away , you know in a relationship is it's
19:00
the love bombing and that can
19:02
feel addictive because you're unable to
19:04
give that to yourself . Number
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nine you don't know what a healthy relationship
19:09
is . If you don't know what a healthy relationship
19:11
is , how do you know when you're not
19:14
in a healthy relationship ? Okay
19:16
, a healthy relationship is
19:18
, you know , being in a
19:21
loving and safe
19:23
relationship where you
19:25
feel connected , where
19:28
and this is one that actually
19:30
the major definitions that I learned
19:32
was that a healthy relationship
19:35
soothes your nervous system
19:37
, whereas an unhealthy
19:39
relationship will activate it . So
19:42
if you're feeling activated , like
19:44
you're treading on eggshells and all those horrible
19:46
emotions the majority of the time in your
19:48
relationship , then
19:51
that shows that that's actually quite a
19:53
toxic relationship versus if you
19:55
feel like your nervous system soothed , or the first thing you toxic relationship versus if you feel like your nervous system's
19:57
soothed , or the first thing you want to do
19:59
when you feel upset is go and hug your partner and
20:01
they can soothe your nervous system . That's
20:03
actually more of a healthy relationship
20:05
. It's not to say that you should rely on your partner
20:08
for emotional regulation , by the way , but
20:10
this is saying that healthy relationships
20:12
soothe and nurture the nervous
20:14
system . Okay , it's about feeling
20:17
safe . It's about feeling loved . It's
20:19
about avoiding that horrible conditional
20:21
love . Okay , number
20:24
10 , okay
20:27
, you don't know what you
20:29
need and how to communicate your
20:31
needs . If you think about
20:33
childhood , one
20:35
of the things that can happen , especially
20:38
with an emotionally , you know
20:40
unintelligent parent , is they
20:42
put their needs before the child's . Okay
20:44
, it's not because they've meant to , it's because
20:47
they just don't have the emotional intelligence to realize
20:49
that that's wrong . So what
20:51
this can do is it
20:53
can cause people to not be aware
20:55
of what they need . So if you're
20:58
unable to know what you need and how can you
21:00
ask for it ? And this
21:02
also dovetails into happiness
21:05
One of the questions I love
21:08
to ask is what makes you happy ? Because
21:11
this gives me an inkling of how
21:13
connected someone is to
21:15
their own needs . So
21:18
if you're unaware of what makes
21:20
you happy right now , this
21:23
can be because you're not connected to
21:25
what you actually need and not
21:27
connected to your emotions , which
21:29
help to navigate you to understand what
21:31
you need . So I'll
21:34
just quickly summarize those 10 points
21:36
You've got childhood be having a parent with
21:38
low emotional intelligence . Two
21:40
is not giving yourself that emotional
21:43
validation . Three , feeling
21:45
the need to use
21:48
service to gain
21:50
self-worth . Four , putting
21:52
others before yourself . 5
21:55
. Traumatic experiences . 6
21:57
. Fearing relationships . 7
22:00
. Being agreeable . 8
22:04
. Needing others to value you so you can
22:06
value yourself . 9
22:08
. Not knowing what a healthy relationship is
22:10
. And 10 . Not knowing your needs
22:12
and how to communicate them . So
22:15
if you've gone through those 10
22:17
points and oh my gosh , there's loads
22:19
there that actually I really
22:21
relate to don't worry , this
22:24
doesn't mean that you're never going to have a healthy
22:26
relationship . What it means now
22:28
is you're aware of these patterns
22:30
, so you're going to be able to have a healthy
22:32
relationship once you put the
22:35
work in to break the pattern . Now
22:37
, one of the things that I have
22:40
done is I've actually created
22:42
a membership called the Love IQ membership
22:45
, and right now you can
22:47
actually access membership for
22:49
seven days for absolutely free , and
22:51
it will help you navigate all these different
22:53
areas . But you
22:55
know , whilst you're listening , we'll go
22:58
through a few different things that can really
23:00
really really help . First
23:03
things first is
23:06
, if you have gone
23:08
through any traumatic experiences , if
23:10
you have symptoms of , you
23:13
know , a lot of weight gain or a lot of weight loss
23:15
or financial issues or anything like that
23:17
, it's going to be really
23:19
, really , really obvious that there's going to
23:21
be a traumatic experience that needs to be healed
23:24
. Okay , what
23:27
I recommend when it comes to
23:29
any trauma is
23:32
I actually recommend a very set
23:35
way of being able to heal them
23:37
, because the thing is , lots
23:39
of people tend to focus on things like counseling
23:41
. Counseling is not going to help
23:43
. It's going to re-traumatize and re-put
23:47
you through those emotions , and that's not what
23:49
you want . It's not to desensitize yourself
23:52
to the emotion . You
23:54
actually want to be able to feel the emotion
23:56
and for your brain to process
23:59
it and to understand why it needed to
24:01
feel safe . Okay , that's
24:03
really , really important . And if there was
24:05
not the opportunity to feel safe , it's being
24:07
able to accept what happened . I
24:11
really do recommend more
24:14
of a hypnotherapy type kind of
24:16
route , and I would recommend someone who
24:18
is aware
24:20
of trauma and how to use hypnotherapy
24:22
to be able to dissolve that trauma
24:25
. And my own personal
24:27
preference when it comes to hypnotherapy and trauma
24:29
is being able to regress to childhood
24:32
. It's one of the most successful
24:34
ways , in my opinion , from
24:36
what I've seen and what I've been able to do with my
24:38
clients . So when
24:40
you use that technique , you can literally
24:43
you know relieve someone of that trauma
24:45
within a session . Basically
24:48
, it's fantastic , it's
24:50
very , very powerful . So
24:53
there's that . But if we're
24:55
going to go down the emotional route , it's
24:57
really important for you to be able
24:59
to feel your emotions and
25:01
accept them . The
25:04
thing that I tend to see the most , that really
25:06
, really causes people a lot of issues
25:08
, is when they reject what they are feeling
25:11
or avoid what they're feeling , and
25:13
that's one of the worst things that you can do . If
25:16
you think about it , your emotions are there for
25:18
a reason they are there to
25:21
be a compass in your life . They
25:23
are your navigation system . So
25:25
if you ignore them , you're ignoring
25:27
all the things that are actually keeping you safe . So
25:31
if you think about your emotions and you
25:33
saw a tiger about a meter away from
25:35
you , what are your emotions going to be
25:37
like ? They're going to be heightened . You're
25:39
going to be set in a mode that's
25:41
going to help you get out of a dangerous
25:44
situation . The thing
25:46
is a similar thing gets activated
25:48
when you're in a toxic relationship , but
25:51
you teach yourself that that's okay
25:53
and you ignore those emotions and you don't
25:55
avoid the . You know the dangerous
25:57
person that you're with . So
26:00
when this happens , you get desensitized
26:03
. So it's really important to be able to reconnect
26:06
with yourself emotionally
26:08
. And the other thing is is being
26:10
able to accept your emotions
26:13
and to also accept that it's okay
26:15
to be vulnerable , because everyone is . It's
26:18
really important to be able to accept that
26:21
and also the beautiful
26:23
things that come out of vulnerability . I
26:25
remember , like seven years ago
26:27
, when I found Brené Brown's work . I
26:29
thought it was absolutely fantastic . It was scary
26:31
, you know , suddenly going into emotions
26:34
and accepting them . You
26:37
know , suddenly going into emotions and accepting them , but it
26:39
was actually something that's really transformational
26:41
when it comes to healing and also changing patterns . So go ahead and do that
26:44
Equally . You
26:46
know , if you want to find out the way that I
26:48
support my clients in a fast way , join
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26:55
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26:57
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26:59
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27:01
get their score and then they go through
27:03
the membership , work through all these different
27:05
areas . So there's training videos , there's audio
27:08
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27:10
you know group zoom calls . There's
27:12
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27:15
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27:17
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27:19
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27:21
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27:25
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27:30
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27:32
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27:34
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27:36
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27:38
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27:41
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27:43
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27:48
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27:51
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27:53
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27:55
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27:57
10 areas are a problem for you
27:59
, if any of those 10 areas are a problem for you , it means
28:01
that you are more likely to go
28:03
into the same type of relationship again . So
28:06
these are the things that I focus on with my
28:09
clients to ensure that they go into not just any relationship
28:11
, but a relationship that's loving , that's real and long-lasting , with
28:13
someone who's actually healthy for them
28:15
to be with . That's
28:17
the important part . If you're
28:20
not with a partner who you don't
28:22
feel completely loved
28:24
and desired by , then
28:27
really rethink what your standards are
28:29
in a relationship , because
28:31
we're not here for a long time , we're not here
28:33
on this earth for a long time , so
28:35
why not experience something that's absolutely
28:38
real , completely loving
28:40
, completely amazing , completely
28:42
wholesome , where you feel
28:45
loved , fulfilled
28:47
and at peace ? So
28:50
if you do want to check out the
28:52
Love IQ membership , go
28:54
ahead to our website . It's lovewithintelligencecom
28:58
. You'll see the love iq membership
29:01
there . Go ahead , join us
29:03
, we'd love to have you there . Or , equally
29:05
, check out in the description um
29:07
of this podcast , wherever you're listening
29:10
to , and you will see the link
29:12
where you can get this um
29:14
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29:16
for seven days for absolutely
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29:21
. Please check it out and hopefully I'll speak
29:24
to you soon . So on
29:26
that note , take care . Thank you
29:28
so much for listening . Share with
29:30
as many people as you can , because it'd be awesome
29:32
to spread the love , and I shall
29:34
see you on the next episode . Bye
29:37
for now .
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