There’s a lot to disagree about in quarantine times. Which rules and recommendations do we follow? How do we interpret them? When we disagree, there’s always a deeper motivation. We share a simple method to discover your deeper motivation.

A common example is blended families where kids go back and forth between houses. In one house, the kids have to take all their clothes off and shower as soon as they enter the house, but in the other house, they don’t. Or in house it’s ok to take walks in the neighborhood, but in the other house, the kids have to stay in the house at all times.

Couples and families end up arguing about how to best interpret the rules and recommendations, and given the generally heightened level of stress, these disagreements can add significantly to the stress and disconnection we feel.

Behind our preferences and interpretations are always a deeper motivation than meets the eye. When someone says, “In my house, everyone strips before they enter the house”, they have a deeper motivation. When you can discover the deeper motivation, you find that you’re not as far apart from your “opponents” as you think, maybe even on the same page. Plus, discovering the deeper motivation makes it ten times easier to find common ground and practical solutions.

We share an easy tool for how to discover these deeper motivations … the So-That Tool.

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