If you have the experience that your husband/BF/partner doesn’t value you, you probably feel hurt, angry, sad, or all of them in combination.

Feeling unvalued impacts your own self esteem and spills over into the quality of your entire relationship, and you might be questioning yourself, the future of your relationship, and whether there’s something wrong with your partner, your relationship, or yourself.

Feeling unvalued by your partner can show up in a myriad of ways. Perhaps he …

Doesn’t listen to you Doesn’t tell the truthDoesn’t prioritize youGives you the silent treatmentWithdrawsOffers little or no connection and communicationGives romantic or sexual attention to other peopleBelittles you, uses demeaning comments Doesn’t spend time with you and/or your familySpeaks poorly of you in publicIgnores or doesn’t honor your boundariesDoesn’t include your opinions and concernsOffers little or no appreciation, affection, or loving gestures.

And that’s not an exhaustive list.

If this describes you and how you feel about your partner, what can you do?

Our first tendency when we’re not getting what we want in relationship, is to get the other person to change their behavior. In this case, you might find yourself criticizing and nagging at him way more than you like, in an attempt to get the message across that you want something to change.

When we’re unhappy with our partners, we often come at them with lists of rules for how they should behave. Whereas it’s perfectly understandable that you want his behavior to change, this approach will not give you what you want. Even if you’re 100% right about your complaints and all your friends agree with you. If that approach worked, all we needed to do to have perfect partners was to tell them exactly what they’re doing wrong and how they should behave, and we’d be done.

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Check out our newest virtual mini-workshop, How To Stay In Love: 

We love to feel in love. But anger and hurt can take us out of love. How do we stay in love? What keeps us in that in love state? How can we get back to love when angry? 

In this mini-workshop, uncover what produces that “in-love” feeling, and discover how to get back to love when hurt or angry.

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• Deep connection with your partner
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