0:05

Here's what's interesting. Okay? Most people here, I think, are aware of

0:09

internal family systems. Yes. So there

0:13

are documented studies of internal family systems impacting

0:16

rheumatoid arthritis outcomes, meaning

0:20

improving. Right? There's a recent study done where they took

0:24

IFS and applied it to rheumatoid arthritis, and the non IFS group

0:27

I'm sorry. The IFS group made more progress than non IFS group.

0:31

That is incredible. Okay? Chills. Total chills. Right?

0:35

What they're learning inside the world of internal family systems then now what I'm

0:39

about to say is more anecdotal than peer reviewed. Okay? But what they're

0:43

learning inside the world of internal family systems from an anecdotal

0:47

perspective at the moment this is not documented studies yet. But what they're

0:50

starting to learn is that parts can

0:55

be a contributing factor to chronic illness.

1:00

Parts can actively be a contributor

1:03

to chronic illness. It's not so much that they hold disease

1:07

as much as they're leveraging

1:11

a chronic illness to protect you or get your attention. Think of

1:15

it that way. Okay. And that's not true for every part, and that's not there's

1:18

no a 100%. Everything here is very nuanced. So what

1:22

we have to realize is that this is a more

1:25

complex problem than take a pill, make it go away

1:29

by a lot. Okay? And whenever we get into trauma work,

1:33

it's super nuanced. So it's not all one way or the other.

1:36

There's a lot of different gradients here. And so I'm talking about

1:40

general principles, like parts can contribute to disease. Now one thing

1:44

I wanna clear up from the very beginning is this, superstition

1:48

nonsense that we give our self disease. Okay? So let me just let me

1:52

just talk about this for one second. Okay? So I have 2 books published with

1:55

Hay House. Louise Hay before she passed was a dear friend. Wayne Dyer was

1:59

a dear friend. And what I can tell you is that a lot of times,

2:03

the new age world and that spiritual world gets

2:06

misinterpreted, and the messaging becomes something

2:10

like this. Are you saying that I chose to have cancer? Are

2:14

you saying that that I chose to have x disease. I gave this

2:17

to myself that my my 2 year old chose to have this

2:21

bad disease. And I just wanna nip that in the bud from the beginning because

2:25

that is not what we're talking about here at all. Okay? We're not saying that

2:28

anybody chose to have this disease because that is

2:32

ridiculous. However, what we are gonna

2:36

start to uncover is that based on adverse

2:39

experiences that you've been through and how your body has

2:43

responded, there are

2:46

areas in your body that may become more

2:50

compromised or easily to, easier

2:54

to become sick because of those adverse

2:57

experiences. And so a lot of times, where a chronic illness

3:01

shows up in your body can be I'm not saying

3:04

is. I'm saying can be, okay, a

3:09

indicator of where a part of

3:12

you is most susceptible and dysregulated.

3:16

Example. Right? We know that not expressing

3:20

our emotions can suppress the immune system. We also know

3:23

that expressing our emotions can suppress, can,

3:27

be beneficial for the immune system. Okay?

3:31

So if we're not expressing our emotions and we're suppressing them, we're

3:35

dissociating from them, that has a negative effect on the immune system. It can

3:39

downregulate the immune system, which means you may become more susceptible to

3:42

things. And that means that you're more susceptible

3:46

to get a chronic illness because you don't have an immunoresponse same as everybody

3:50

else. Okay? And so what chronic illness can show us

3:53

is where are our systems most susceptible

3:59

to pathogens, dysregulation, dysbiosis, and

4:02

then learning how to make them more resilient and

4:06

reinforced. Okay? So this is not that you chose an illness.

4:11

It's more that because of what you've been through or the

4:14

environments that you've been in, the likelihood that your system

4:18

is more susceptible to illness is higher than someone who had not been

4:22

through those things. And those are 2 different it's it's it's nuance, but it's a

4:25

very important understanding to realize that you're not

4:29

choosing it. Con you're like, I'm choosing to have this.

4:32

But what we are saying is it's likely that your system was more

4:36

susceptible. Who follows? This makes sense?

4:39

Okay? And, you know, one of the interesting things about the COVID

4:43

stuff is that this word immunocompromised this has become very well

4:47

publicized. And we talk about immunocompromised.

4:51

Right? We're talking about things that we're talking about people who have,

4:55

compromised immune systems. Right? And what we

4:58

realize is that what has to happen for someone to be

5:02

immunocompromised? Right? Okay. Well, I have a

5:06

autoimmune problem. Okay. Well, how'd that happen?

5:10

Right? If it's just physiology, if it's just the

5:13

body, we have to realize that there's emotion and energy

5:17

there too. Right, so part of immunocompromised

5:21

states can include dysregulated emotional states.

5:25

Who follows? Does it make sense? Okay? And there's a whole field called

5:29

psychoneuroimmunology that was pioneered by doctor Candace Pert that helps

5:33

us understand that as we create more emotional health, a lot more systems

5:36

come on board. And so when we look at functional medicine combined

5:40

with functional coaching, it's a really a beautiful integrated approach to help

5:44

you heal because we're not just dealing with the underlying mechanisms

5:48

in terms of supplements or, you know,

5:52

you know, leaky gut or whatever it might be. We're also

5:55

understanding, is there a part there? Is that part

5:59

contributing to keeping you this way? Why is it doing that, and what happened for

6:03

that part to be that way? And we wanna be able to look at both

6:05

of those perspectives and go, this makes total sense. Right? And I'll give you

6:09

one example. So we had a client. One of the first

6:13

moments I had of really seeing this is this is probably gonna be at

6:17

least 10 years ago at this point. I was working with a client at a

6:20

retreat in Maui, and we were talking about her

6:23

rheumatoid arthritis. And I had this, like,

6:27

intuition based on talking with her. It was it was definitely intuition. I I didn't

6:31

know. But I had this intuition that

6:34

she has this rheumatoid arthritis, which is very real,

6:39

and there's a possibility that there's a part

6:43

of her that doesn't believe that she can be loved if she's not

6:46

sick. Right? Because

6:50

when she's sick, it's, like, creates a certainty that, like, yes.

6:54

They're here. Right? So I just kinda, like,

6:58

casually whispered in her ear in front of everybody and said, you know, do you

7:01

know that you can be loved when you're healthy too? And it was just like

7:05

a intuition. It was just kinda like something I said.

7:08

Right? And she just broke down

7:12

into tears. Right? And she was like, oh my

7:15

god. No. And right? And there was a recognition

7:19

there. And are we saying that that's why she has rheumatoid arthritis?

7:23

Absolutely not. However, if there's a part

7:27

of you that doesn't think that you can be safe, loved,

7:30

or connected without illness, that part

7:34

will not want you to get better, not

7:38

because it doesn't want you to be healthy, but because it wants you to have

7:41

connection. It wants you to have love who falls? Does it make sense?

7:45

Okay? And so we have to start to understand that there is a

7:49

positive intention even in chronic illness.

7:53

There is a positive intention for your system even in

7:56

dysregulation, and we don't want to pathologize,

8:01

meaning make it wrong. We want to start to understand that there's a

8:04

good positive intention for why this is happening. And,

8:08

yeah, it sucks that showing up as a specific chronic illness

8:12

that may be painful. Right? But when we can uncover the positive

8:16

intention along with sort of the medical

8:19

physiology and the medical approach to what's happening inside the

8:23

body, we get a more are a broader perspective. Right?

8:27

And what was interesting, I remember at the last root cause retreat, doctor Messe was

8:30

talking to someone about, you know, what to do to move forward.

8:34

And within a minute or 2 of this person talking,

8:38

you could see this part come up that was like, I've tried everything. This is

8:41

1 more doctor. Tell them what the to do. Right? And she

8:45

was kinda becoming uncoachable, which is okay because she had a protector come

8:48

out. And so I paused. I was like, hey. What's that?

8:53

Right, because, like, Messier is trying to give her, like, this, like, thing like, this

8:56

this idea of, like, what protocols to follow, and this protector part

9:00

emerged. And what was underneath that was no one in

9:04

my life has ever been capable of helping me.

9:08

That goes all the way back to being a parent their parents. Right? And so

9:11

this part's like, great. One more doctor that's not gonna know how to take care

9:15

of me. Right? And so until we, like, honor that part,

9:19

nothing was getting into that individual who follows. This makes

9:22

sense. Right? And so even as we start to go through

9:26

the healing journey, part of that, just like any

9:30

journey we go through to heal, to grow, to change,

9:33

parts will be there to protect us. Right?

9:37

And if you hate your parts or if you're mad at your parts, that's

9:41

another part. Okay? Right? And so we

9:45

wanna start to understand that it's more nuanced and more layered

9:48

than we previously thought. Okay. Who follows? This makes sense?