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Welcome everybody. I am so thrilled to be with you today. My name again, my

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name is Mastin Kipp, and I'm a best selling author, creator of Functional Life Coaching,

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and, the world's 1st and best trauma informed coaching. And we're here to help you

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not just heal the past, But we wanna start to talk about aligning

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with, your purpose in life and helping you unlock your unlimited

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potential. And just an interesting anecdote Before I get started, I did

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a little, you know, it's not, like, exactly scientific, but I did a

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poll on Instagram, today. And

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I asked a question, to my followers. And the question

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was, do you feel like you've been doing a lot of nervous system

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work, A lot of nervous system regulation, a lot of emotional regulation,

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a lot of goal setting, etcetera. And the effort that you're putting

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in Ng. Doesn't equal the results that you're getting.

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And a staggering 79% of people said yes. That is the

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case. And so If that's you, by the way,

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who here is anyone here for that way that, like, I've been putting in all

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this effort, and where are my results? I want my results. I have

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done my breath work. I have done my somatic work. I want to be happy.

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I want the finances. I want the relationship. I want the results of all this

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hard work. That is what we're gonna be talking about. So if you feel like

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you've been doing a lot of personal work, the coaching, the therapy, the energy

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work, the breathing, the business trainings, the

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the the sales trainings, but you still feel like you're stuck, like

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you're not completing your goals, like you're feeling frustrated, or like you're feeling

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guilty, overwhelmed, or unclear. And maybe

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maybe you've been creating a little bit of change. Maybe

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you haven't been able to create lasting change. Maybe you're having a hard

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time trusting yourself. This is what we see a lot. Maybe you're stuck in

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procrastination or perfectionism or distraction,

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or overwhelmed. I know that's a big one today. You're in the right

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place. Now by the time people meet me, usually, I'm not the First person that

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you've met in the personal development space. You maybe you've done some trauma

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work. Maybe you've done some coaching. Maybe you've done some energy work. Maybe

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you know a little bit about trauma. You're not too sure what that is. Maybe

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you don't even know if you have trauma. You think that's just for people who

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are not like you, who know you're just stressed. You don't have trauma. You're just

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stressed. I understand. Maybe you have been thinking

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that, you know, you're just kinda stuck in this person that

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you don't wanna be. And we know some people who, you know, Pre pandemic

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were a certain way, and they haven't been able to get back to the this

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this person they were before. And there's some parts of us maybe we don't want

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back from before the pandemic, But also there's some things that we

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wanna activate and kinda turn on. So wherever you are, like, in your journey, I

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just wanna let you know that you are absolutely in the right place. You

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do not have to stay stuck, And there's a good reason why you have been

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stuck, and the neuroscience lets us know that it's not your fault.

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I want to help you Have more information and to get

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better results and have better implementation. I wanna

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highlight why old models are keeping you stuck, and And I want you to understand

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something. I'm not against practitioners. Okay?

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Every practitioner out there, therapists, coaches, doctors,

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etcetera, mean well, but not many therapists, coaches, or practitioners are

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researchers and have a research focus like we do. And so we're always trying to

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bring the newest latest stuff Singh. To the forefront for

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you to be able to apply it in your life to get better results. So

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this is not because your coach or your therapist is bad. Okay? That's

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not why. It's because They're probably focused on coaching and therapy

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ing, and they're not doing the research like what we're doing, and we're always

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trying to lead on that research. And the other thing is is that what we

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see is the reason why I got the coaching is I just wanted to help

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have something work. I I just want something to work. I I just I just

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wanna be, like, what's the thing I gotta do to make it work? The relationship,

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the money, my body, like, what actually works,

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and what we found is that the models that a lot of these practitioners are

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being taught by the larger institutions need an upgrade. That's really

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the bottom line is that there needs to be an upgrade in the models that

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people are learning. And with us, I have over

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$20,000 working with people, and I meet people when they've done

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lots of work. They've done the retreats. They've done the seminars. They've done the

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therapies, the biohacking, the psychedelics, The meditation, the spiritual

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work, the self healing, but they're still stuck. And here's the thing. I still love

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all that stuff, but there's a way to do it. There's a way to approach

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it where we can get results or we can just keep our wheels spinning. And

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what we don't want is we don't want you to have your wheels spinning anymore.

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We want you to get results. And being stuck is not your fault. So if

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you feel like you're stuck and you're doing all the work, but you're not getting

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the results or they're not happening fast enough, The reason may or may

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not be why you think. What we've seen is that the latest

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neuroscience shows and suggest that you are stuck

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Singh because you are a bad person. No. I'm just

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kidding. I'm just totally kidding. I'm totally kidding. You are stuck because totally just wanna

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see if you're paying attention. Okay? You're stuck because some of you are like, I

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don't know what bastard said. No. I'm kidding. I'm kidding. I'm kidding. You're stuck

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because you have what's called an inflexible nervous system. Okay.

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What that means is your nervous system, and every nervous

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system to a degree is inflexible, has a range of responses it can

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tolerate. If you want more love, if you want more joy, if you want

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more finances, we have to help your nervous system have

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more available responses than are currently available. Singh. Right? If

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you're getting triggered in a relationship but you want healthy love, we

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need more flexible nervous system. If you want

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more financial abundance and you only have a few responses

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to what you're doing to grow or start a business or to get more money

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in your job. Okay? We need to create more nervous system flexibility.

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Singh. If you want to have healthier outcomes in your body and you

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only have a few different responses, we need to create more nervous system

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flexibility. Who falls? This make sense? Singh. Okay? We need

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more available options for what you can do. You are there's an

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inflexibility in your responses, meaning a limited range

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of Fontes. And when we have a limited range of responses, we

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have limited options that become available for us. And we wanna create more options,

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But we have to help the internal shift as well because when the internal shifts

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becomes more flexible, then more becomes available in the world. So we

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move forward When our nervous system feels safe to move forward

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but here's the irony. Everybody's talking about safety today, and

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I think that this is huge. We've been talking about safety, I

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don't know, 15 years. I'm not too sure how long, but for a very long

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period of time. But here's the thing. Safety Does not

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mean there is a lack of challenge, and safety does not

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mean there's a lack of courage, and safety does not

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mean But you won't be scared. Safety means you're safe enough

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to risk because we're here to help you grow.

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Okay? This is not about coddling you.

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This is not about having you feel so safe that

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you have no challenges in your life because that's not what growth

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that's not where growth comes from. Right? When we look at, like, how does muscle

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grow in the body, we have to challenge our muscles and create

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microtrauma, but then we have to have enough safety to be able to recover,

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and it's in the recovery that we're able to get stronger. And guess what? You

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know what's cool about getting stronger, like, in your body and why you have to

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lift more weights over time because it becomes harder to hurt you.

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Isn't that cool? I think it's a cool that's a cool thought. The stronger you

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are in your body, The harder it is to hurt you. Right? Some people can

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get hurt with a 15 pound dumbbell, and some people can get hurt with a

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100 pound dumbbell. Right? Depends on how strong you are. Who follows? This makes sense?

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Singh. Okay? Some people try to do a deadlift where you bend over,

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right, with no weight and their low back goes out and they're 32.

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Some people try to bend over, do a Romanian deadlift with £500, and they're

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52, and they can do it, and they're female. I just saw this, by the

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way, on Instagram. It was trending recently. I think she did, like, £300

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Deadlift in her sixties. I was like, oh my god. That's incredible. Right?

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So this is about strength and flexibility,

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but we need safety to produce that. Safety in this context

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is a lack of a threat, not a lack of a

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traumatizing threat, not the lack of something Threatening or create something

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that you have to do that's courageous. Does that make sense? Are y'all with me

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on this? Are you following? Okay. Because I think what's happened today

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in the world is that there's been an overprioritization of safety,

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and what people think safety means is I shouldn't have to

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be uncomfortable. And uncomfortability and safety are

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not the same thing. There's a degree of uncomfortability that we gotta get into.

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Who falls? Is are you with me on this? This is making sense. Okay? So

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the key is to learn how to create a more flexible nervous

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Just in the presence of challenge. Now if we go back to the the weight

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training analogy for a second, there's some weights that you could go into the gym

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and pick up, and they would challenge you. There's some weights that you could go

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to the gym with and pick up, and they would hurt you. Who falls? This

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makes sense? Right? Be too heavy. Okay? So what we're not saying

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is go take go in your 1st day back at the gym, go

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pick up the heaviest weight you can and just pick it up and and go.

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No. What we're saying is we need to create more flexibility, more strength over

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time through challenge, through flexibility, and through what you're

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gonna be learning here. Because When we have flexibility

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combined with strength, then we have performance. And here's my favorite analogy,

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to kinda ground this for you because emotions are invisible and muscles in the

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body is you can see. Okay? So Tom Brady, it's probably one of the

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greatest athletes and full and certainly the greatest quarterback of all time. And he recently

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retired, I think, around 44 or 45 years old. Now 44 or 45 years old

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in the NFL Is a senior citizen. Okay? Just so we're

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super clear. Okay? Most people retire from the NFL in their early to

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mid thirties. Okay? If not sooner because they get taken out by injury. Does that

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make sense? Right? They're too traumatized to move forward.

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When you look at how did Tom Brady Singh. Hang in

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the NFL for, like, 2 or 3 times longer than the average

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person. It's because he created a flexible and pliable

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body that could take a hit. Singh. Right? So when he took a hit,

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it he wasn't fragile. He wasn't as,

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as as, brittle Singh as other people. And one of the analogies he

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gives around hydration is, you know, if you're not hydrated, your body's kinda

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like beef jerky. Beef jerky is pretty easy to break. If you're

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hydrated, your body's kinda like rib eye where it's, like, a little warm moist. Now

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apologies to the vegans. Okay? But the idea is is that we

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need to have that flexibility to be able to Singh Ford because guess

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what? If you can take a hit and I don't mean, like, a physical abuse

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hit. Okay? Just so we're super clear. I mean, like, Somebody doesn't respond

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to your sales message online. I mean, like, you know what? You didn't quite

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hit the revenue that you wanted to get. Oh, you know what? Your partner said

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something that triggered you. If you're able to Be able to understand

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and have something not impact you the same way, but understand

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its impact on you. Okay? You can navigate things because guess

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what? As you grow, life only becomes more complex.

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You wanna go from 0 to $10,000 a month in revenue. That's

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more complex. You wanna go from $10,000 a month to $100,000 a

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month in revenue? It's more complex. You're single and you start

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dating. Is it more complex? Yes or no? Singh. You better believe

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it. You start dating. Let's say you move in together. More complex?

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Yes or no? Singh. You decide to have a

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child together. More complex? Yes or no? Oh, yeah.

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You buy a house together. More complex? Yes or no? You remodel Put us

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together. Yes or no? Okay.

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Right. Life only becomes more complex. And if you

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maintain The same level of flexibility and strength that you

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have now, you will not be able to handle the complexity and challenge. Who

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follows? Does this make sense? Are y'all with me on this?