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So the good news is, though, stuck is safe, but

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safe is not where you wanna be, I think. Because when you go on a

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personal development journey, you're trying to find your purpose, you are, by just the

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very nature of trying to do that, Engaging in dangerous

0:17

behavior that's uncertain. There's risk

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involved because you have to take risk. No journey That's worthwhile

0:24

journey starts with no risk. Every what's your favorite story?

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Start yeah. My man. Okay. Good. Yeah. I love it when, like,

0:33

dudes are in the room, they say shit like that, because usually it's like, Bridget

0:36

Jones. Right? There's

0:40

So much risk in Star Wars or in Harry Potter. That's what makes a good

0:44

story. Right? Shitty story. It starts good, gets better, bad

0:47

story. Good story is Rocky. It's there's risk.

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It's scary overcoming things. Bridget Jones, risky.

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Right? Did he leave with my diary? Did he leave again? I don't know. At

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the end. Right? But we have to understand that you're initiating

1:02

riskiness by trying to change your life. That's

1:06

why you have internal conflict. I wanna move forward, but I wanna stay safe.

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Those are conflicting agendas. Who follows? Okay. So our

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our goal is to unpack that more. So before trauma work, it's

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this. The life That I've been living is a small

1:21

and isolated part of reality. That's the experience. After

1:25

trauma work, wow, My life is much larger and more connected than the small universe

1:28

I've come to know. And then what happens is you do it again

1:32

because it's always bigger. And sometimes it's I was in an

1:36

abusive relationship physically. I've upgraded to an emotionally abusive

1:39

relationship, And now I'm in an emotionally

1:43

abusive relationship, and I've upgraded to a passionless relationship with

1:47

no abuse. And then I go from a passionless relationship

1:50

to Awesome. Right? Usually, we don't just make 1 huge leap.

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There's always another level. Right? It's, I'm thinking about starting a

1:57

business, Googling it. Don't know.

2:01

Right? Bought a course. Didn't do it.

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Posted once on Facebook 10 years ago. Said People told me to

2:09

be consistent, but I posted that one time no one bought, so I stopped posting.

2:15

I thought about going live on Instagram every day. Just didn't do it. Whatever it

2:18

is. Right? Finally went live. Okay. Now no one's there.

2:22

There's crickets. Okay. I'm gonna stop. Okay. But I'm a keep going. Now they're there.

2:26

Now they're oh my god. They wanna buy? Ah, clients.

2:29

Ah. Right? Avoidant people are more like, okay.

2:33

I'll get the money, but I don't do I have to deliver this program? I

2:36

don't know why. Anxious people are like, don't pay me, but I won't leave

2:40

you. Right? I'll just do it for free and just get resentful at you later.

2:44

Right? Whatever it is. But it's always a better and better upgraded experience and version

2:48

of that. It's always a larger reality who follows. This makes sense? Super

2:51

important. Okay? Now the good news about healing emotional trauma,

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okay, there are so many modalities.

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Okay? So many. I call them the DVDs.

3:01

CBD, CBT, DBT,

3:05

EMDR. Right? And we just keep going down the alphabet of

3:08

shit. A c t e f t. Which one? E f t.

3:13

Emotional freedom technique or Mastin focused therapy? Which one? I don't know. Depends.

3:17

Right? I got cognitive behavioral therapy. I have somatic intelligence and somatic

3:21

awareness and somatic experiencing. I have neurofeedback, and I have

3:24

biofeedback. Right? I have peer feedback. I have peer reviewed groups.

3:28

I have peer peer feedback. I have trauma informed yoga.

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I have and fill in the blank. Okay? What's the best

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modality? I'm gonna say

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something audacious because I believe it in

3:44

my bones. Okay? I'm gonna show you the data. The key

3:48

difference between people who are thriving financially, spiritually, romantically in their

3:51

health and those who are and stagnated and missing out on life because of automatic

3:55

trauma responses. What do you think it is? Is it c m CBD?

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Is I saw my brain stems in point place. I gotta get my bidirectional communication.

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My hook corpus callosum Needs to be better regulated so I have less black and

4:11

white thinking. Is it my distorted thinking needs to be dysregulated and broken

4:15

up? I gotta feel safe. We got it. Yes. That's true. But what is the thing? There's like, there's a

4:24

core piece that's missing from the whole thing. It's

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embodying your purpose, guys. Okay? If you focus

4:31

on embodying your purpose, all that Shit is rocket fuel. Otherwise, it's high level

4:35

coping. You'll go to a CBT session, you go, yeah. Distorted thing.

4:39

You you, lady. It's a bullshit. I know. Distorted thought. Whatever.

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Right? You'll do some Mastin experiencing, and you'll just be so like, all day long,

4:51

you'll just be like So I'm feeling but you're not doing anything.

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Now the I'm not against these modalities. I am for them in the right context,

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in the right order. Sequence matters.

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Okay? Yes. Safety first. You have to have dyadic safety

5:06

between practitioner and client. But when you're on purpose, you're going in the right

5:09

direction. You can have safety between practitioner and client in a direction that you don't

5:13

belong in. For example, You can have safety in a couple's

5:17

counseling session with someone you're not supposed to be with.

5:21

You could save so much money by divorcing the

5:25

Right now, there's a time and a place. So, yes, you can have practitioner safety

5:29

all day long. Very important. If it's in the wrong That one

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hit. Yeah. Yeah. It's true.

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I'll put you like this. Okay? You can't polish a

5:48

turd. It's a turd. Okay? And by

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the way, you can't no matter how much money you spend, it's still a turd.

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Okay. Who follows? Does it make sense? Okay. So, yes, nervous system. Yes.

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CBT, EMDR, all that type of stuff. Somatics first, cognitive last. Yes. I got all

6:04

those things right in the direction of your purpose, and I'm gonna show you the

6:08

data about why this is true. Okay? But the other thing to understand is the

6:11

good news is it's all about purpose. And then once you go in the right

6:14

direction, Then we bring in the modalities to help you get there faster. Who

6:17

follows? 1st things first. Okay. Good. So

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lots of studies to show this will be the one I start with. Kipp? Purpose

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in life is a key factor associated with better recovery from trauma.

6:30

Right here. Okay? You can Google it. You can look it up. It's

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key. Now how many psychiatrists,

6:37

therapists, coaches, doctors start with, do

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you feel like you're living your purpose or not? Not

6:44

0, not enough. Not enough. That's where

6:48

you start. Yeah. I'll fix my gut health, but am I on purpose? If I'm

6:52

not, I'm still gonna be dysregulated. I'm still gonna have leaky gut because I have

6:54

cortisol problems. I'm on the wrong direction, tolerating some shit that I don't wanna tolerate

6:58

anymore. Who follows? You cannot

7:01

take enough Xanax to calm down from a soul

7:05

sucking job. It's not gonna happen. It's not gonna

7:09

happen. Right? We have to make sure you're oriented in the right direction

7:12

first. Who follows? I know it seems so basic, but it's so basic it's

7:16

missed. Okay?