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Hello. How are you? I

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appreciate you, and thank you so much for all that you do for us and

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give us Oh, you're very welcome. Really appreciate it.

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Yeah. So what I kinda wanted

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some support with, I'm in between

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doing lots of different programs with you, like SRB,

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LPA plus, and LPA. And I just really want to support consolidating

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some of that moving forward. So I don't know how to pronounce. I've been working

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for you a year, year and Half. I don't really know. And so I

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can map the progress. Like, my nervous system feels really

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different, my ability to be here

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more present. What resonates me from me

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yesterday, was When you

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were talking about having more

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options with a more flexible Nervous

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system, and I can see that I have more. But I

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just would really like support and exploring

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where those blind spots or a bit of limitations are.

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So I'm doing less avoidance. I'm

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following through more. I'm feeling less overwhelmed. I

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put in a grievance at work. I feel less tired

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Where I feel there's not space or I've not taken up the

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space is that stressed off about working more with

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clients that I'm paid for. So it's like I feel like

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I'm taking up this much space, but I've actually created

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that much space, so it's getting into that extra,

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if that makes sense. Yeah. How how will you know when you're in the

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extra? I kinda feel like, you know, when

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you I'm scared of heights. And when I'm walking on the side of a rock,

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I can feel it, but I can't see it, and I can't

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Enjoy the view. So I'm aware of its existence.

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I just don't feel like I'm embodying it. So how

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I'd know when I was embodying it,

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enjoyably, would be instead of Me feeling my back against the wall

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and kind of teeter tottering like that. I just feel a,

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a relaxedness like your new space. Mhmm.

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My new space. What do you mean? You because you you're no longer with

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your IVC, and you Oh, I see. Yes. We change it up. We change it

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around. Yeah. We keep it up. So okay.

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Okay. Making more sense. So is there anything that you're relaxed about now that

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you used to be tense about? I had an

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amazing time at Christmas. I went to stay with an ex with

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his family that I'd never met. I didn't do any

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hypervigilance. I didn't do any checking in.

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Even though his dad was drinking, There was no anxiety

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going up there. I'd seen my

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family the week before, and there was a little bit of sadness that I didn't

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get spend time with my family and building that relationship.

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But it was very relaxed even With

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his mom was doing some behaviors that were quite manipulative,

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and, normally, I could feel the reaction

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starting. But I was just very centered, so,

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that feel massively different. And I

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wasn't even working. I noticed In

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certain areas, there, there's no longer a need to do my,

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intentional implementations. They're just there.

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Yep. So, like, we're around people. I don't have to think, okay.

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When I'm activated, I'll so those are just

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nice and smooth. Beautiful. Yeah.

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So is it sounds like

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the process of being regulated in an environment like that that dysregulated

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was you became aware. You were stressed and

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tensed about it. You had a process and a practice with coregulation where then you

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did have a repetition of Of implementation intentions. If you don't

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know what that is, we'll get training on that, like, basically right away. I think

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that'll for people who are just joining, that'll really be a powerful training for you.

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And then you start to create new wiring in your nervous system around a very

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what could be really triggering situation. Right?

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So, like, what I'd like to do since we're since you're in SRB

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also is, do you have any metacognition about how you did

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that? Meaning, are you aware of the steps?

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Yeah. So from I I I can't even remember

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which one I started, Petition to claim your power, whatever it was.

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What what start where it the key thing

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I don't mean the I don't mean the the the course progression. I mean, are

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you aware of the when you felt tense

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and then what you did to now feel regulated? That make sense? Like

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like, that process? Right? Are you aware of the steps you

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took to to to be able to shift into a more

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Calm state around something that could used to be more triggering.

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So where I was is I used to get really Overwhelmed

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and and zoned out. And so from each training

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or each call, I just took one thing, and I

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worked On that so first of all, for me, it was

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the somatic breathing, and the butterfly

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stuff. And then Just I realized that,

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you know, when you're in LPA, the beginning of the videos,

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every time I I zoned out And couldn't get back on. I

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just thought, listen to the intro video. That will get

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me started. So I started to take Fitz and team

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Masten. Oh my god. They have my heart. Team Masten just made the

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difference. They're emailing and support as well as you, but

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those Emails from unseen

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people just just filled

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holes in me That helped me so much. And

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so I began to even out. And then

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just hearing and what you were saying in general of,

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like, So up in the groups. And the massive

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shift in me, both of you said it, is that I

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don't have to hold space or responsibility.

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So Jenny in the background answering questions that I would

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normally be hypervigilant about. So All of that

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and my choice helped me to really massively regulate.

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So then just slow just

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Each time and and then finally

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finished course, and then also the

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Just being present of the successes of doing

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modules, but in a way that it became enjoyable

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rather than Pressure. Good girl. Just all the other

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stuff. So it was it was a lot of things, but it was taking one

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thing, just making that change and having the other

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bits And being present. Yes. So take

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take one thing, put it into smaller bits, being present, and bring it into

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coaching. Do you see that? Those 4 things? Yeah. So that's how

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you do success. Oh, okay. Okay? So

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it's important that you know that. Otherwise, it's kinda like, well, how did I get

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here? I don't really know. And then if you have a recipe for

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success, we keep doing it. Okay.

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Does that make sense? Yeah. So now for the next level in business,

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same thing. There's parts where they're going,

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But that's good. They're they're communicating. We just we just

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gave you the how. Yeah. Does that make sense?

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Yeah. Because the how is break into a

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small bit, you know, etcetera, etcetera. That's that

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see, you have a awareness of how you do success, And then you can fit

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in a recipe that you've never made. You could fit in a social media

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post. You could fit in a romantic relationship. Whatever it is

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just fits in. Thank you. It's a part of me going, god, is it that

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easy? It's it's Simple. It's that

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simple. Yeah. It is that simple, but it's

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not easy. I wish it was easy, But we're we're we're here we're

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here to make the hard stuff simpler to do. Mhmm. Does

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that make sense? Yes. Yeah. And I can see the physio

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I mean, there's a major physiological change also. It's just beautiful

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to see, like, you look calmer, Like, you're glowing.

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Like, that you just look it's very I mean, if you go back and watch

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video from you, in the beginning, I think you'll see a difference.

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I think you're I think you're, aging in reverse, Which is really cool.

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You know? Yeah. It's nice to feel yeah. It's nice to

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feel more as I used to feel, so it's really great. Thank

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you, and thank you for all you do. Thank you.