If I didn't have a clear image of how you would like things to turn out, would uncertainty still bother me? A vision is useful for direction, but it can be distressing if I keep thinking about how it may not come to fruition exactly as I picture it. When it comes to people, this becomes a delicate dance between my expectations of interactions and the (sometimes messy) reality of experience. Oh, and then there are other people and their preferences, quirks, and neuroticism (or lack thereof, the horror!). Will we ever know exactly how people see us? Does it matter? I don't know. What I do know is that there are efficient and inefficient outcomes, but those may not always be ideal. We can't exercise that level of control over the result anyway. I've found it more useful to address my intent. Let's see what you think.