0:00

That is definitely a baby

0:02

bump. First question, why did you hide

0:04

your pregnancy all this time? So,

0:08

how to take care of skin to avoid stretch marks. Do

0:11

you ever worry about your child's nutrition in

0:13

the womb while being a meat eater? Did

0:16

you change your mind about getting a surrogate?

0:18

How long was labor for your first kiddo?

0:20

Was it super painful? Labor was weirdly quick.

0:22

And I would like to credit hypnobirthing, which

0:25

sounds like the most hippie thing. Hmm.

0:29

Anger and resentment towards partner in

0:31

first trimester. Do doctors get mad

0:33

at your diet while pregnant? Some would,

0:36

but like, screw those guys. What are

0:38

your plans for postpartum rest? Are you

0:40

eating organ meat now for the baby?

0:42

What are some things a new husband

0:44

can do to help his wife during

0:46

our first pregnancy? I hate

0:49

when couples say we're pregnant. One

0:52

of you is pregnant. Are you working out or how

0:54

are you staying the same size except the baby bump?

0:58

I'll tell you guys what I'm doing. Hey

1:04

guys, welcome to my podcast. This

1:07

is a pregnancy Q&A. Take

1:09

a look at this. That

1:19

is definitely a baby bump. I'm

1:21

officially 35 weeks. And

1:25

I'm gonna run through a bunch of questions that you

1:27

guys had, kind of update

1:30

you about why I didn't tell

1:32

anybody and what it's been like and

1:35

how everything is going, what my diet is

1:37

like, et cetera. So let's

1:40

jump right in. First

1:42

question, how

1:44

phenomenal is your baby daddy? He's

1:47

pretty phenomenal. Why

1:50

did you hide your pregnancy all this time? So

1:54

that's a bit of a long story. I

1:58

would say probably the main reason I hid it. it is

2:00

because I wasn't sure

2:02

if it was going to keep. That

2:05

was part of it. I wasn't sure if it was going to keep.

2:08

Two, I don't think pregnant women are taken

2:10

seriously by anybody. I don't even think I

2:12

take pregnant women seriously. And

2:14

I'm running a number of businesses, too

2:17

many. I'll get into that too. And

2:21

negotiating with people, talking to lawyers,

2:23

talking to other business people is

2:25

already difficult enough. I'm already difficult

2:29

to take seriously, I think, because of how I

2:31

look in my blonde hair, etc. So,

2:34

add a pregnant belly on top of that and

2:36

you get someone who is not taken seriously at

2:38

all. And so I didn't want

2:40

people to judge me. So

2:42

that was part of it. As

2:44

for the not taking, last year,

2:47

August 2022, I had a miscarriage. It

2:52

was called a blighted ovum. And

2:55

apparently, it's quite common. I

2:57

had no idea what that

3:00

was like. I'd never heard of it before. It

3:02

wasn't a great experience. I

3:05

got pregnant. I was eight weeks

3:07

pregnant and I went for my first ultrasound. I

3:10

think it might have been nine weeks. I went

3:12

for my first ultrasound and

3:14

Jordan and I got there and

3:16

they're doing the ultrasound and they get

3:19

to the uterus and there is no

3:22

baby. It's just an empty

3:25

sink. And

3:30

I was like, what on

3:33

earth is this evil thing that I'm

3:36

seeing? Because I

3:38

didn't even know that that was possible. So

3:40

what happens with blighted ovums is your

3:42

body miscarries at some point and

3:45

then your body also continues to act

3:48

as if it's pregnant. So your

3:51

uterus expands a little bit. You're

3:53

still flooded with all the hormones. You have

3:55

all the symptoms of pregnancy and

3:58

there's no. embryo

4:00

and then there's no fetus. It's

4:03

messed up and after I went

4:05

through that I talked

4:07

to some family members and it turns

4:09

out that this is fairly common for

4:11

people who've had multiple babies and for

4:13

women to experience and it's pretty horrifying.

4:15

So you

4:18

guys should know about it in case it happens to you.

4:20

It does seem to be weirdly

4:22

common. Miscarriages are actually

4:24

really unfortunately common and they're

4:28

extremely unpleasant, but you're

4:31

not alone if you're experiencing one or

4:33

have experienced them. I

4:35

had a really hard time with that pregnancy. As

4:37

soon as I got pregnant, I felt like I

4:40

was going insane. I was having suicidal thoughts and

4:44

you know people who suffer from depression can

4:46

get intrusive thoughts and so I was having

4:48

these intrusive thoughts that I haven't really had

4:50

on the carnivore diet, which was just like

4:53

violent intrusive thoughts. Very

4:56

unpleasant. I felt very isolated

4:58

and alone even though there wasn't anything in

5:00

my relationship that should have been making me

5:02

feel that way. It was purely hormonal and

5:05

I had a miserable time and I can remember

5:09

praying like God make

5:11

this stop. I can't handle it. And

5:14

then at about eight weeks pregnant, I started to

5:16

feel a little bit more normal and then at

5:18

nine weeks we went for an ultrasound and like

5:20

boom, no baby. So

5:22

I don't know if I went like

5:25

crazy because there was actually something wrong and

5:27

it was my body saying like something's

5:30

wrong, but it

5:34

wasn't a great experience. It wasn't a great experience.

5:37

So that happened. So this

5:39

time when I got pregnant, I didn't

5:43

go crazy. And

5:46

so I didn't believe I was pregnant. So I had

5:48

these pregnancy tests and I was like, there's no way.

5:50

Jordan was like, there's no way. And we kept having

5:52

these positive pregnancy tests. I was like, there's I don't

5:55

feel anything. There's no way. But we

5:57

went to get an ultrasound super early at like six

5:59

weeks instead of waiting. which I'm never going to wait

6:01

again because of the blighted ovum thing that can happen.

6:04

And there was a heartbeat. Everything's going

6:06

smoothly. And then I was,

6:10

as you guys know, I was in between

6:12

houses, you might say, because we'd

6:14

found block mold, among

6:17

other molds and bacterias in the water-damaged

6:19

house I was living in in Miami.

6:21

And so we were living in hotels.

6:24

I didn't have a studio set up. One

6:27

of these questions somewhere, I'll pull it

6:29

up, but was, did

6:32

you take time off because you were

6:34

pregnant? Because I told people

6:36

it was because it was like

6:38

sick from mold. I didn't actually take time

6:40

off at the beginning when I was pregnant. It was because I

6:42

was sick from mold. I didn't feel pregnant

6:44

for a really long time. And I lost quite a

6:46

bit of weight in the mold

6:49

house. And when I called a

6:51

mold house, it wasn't a mold house. You

6:53

couldn't see mold. It was a really nice house.

6:57

It was in the HVACs and behind the

6:59

drywall. And there was no super clean. We

7:01

kept things super clean. There was no evidence

7:03

of mold until

7:06

the very end when I started to

7:08

see it in one spot behind the

7:10

paint. It was like, that's what's screwing

7:13

me up. But

7:16

yeah, I didn't take time off at the

7:18

beginning because I didn't feel pregnant. But what

7:20

did happen pretty early on is I

7:23

got a meat immersion. So we'll keep going. We'll

7:25

keep going for

7:28

some new questions and I'll cover it out soon.

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the rest of this episode. What

8:45

are some things a new husband can do to help his

8:48

wife during our first pregnancy?

8:51

That is a super cute question. I

8:53

hate when couples say we're

8:56

pregnant. That's like

8:58

a pet peeve I have, because you guys are

9:00

both not pregnant. One

9:02

of you is pregnant, and one of you is

9:04

feeling it, and the other one is not feeling it. However,

9:07

that's a very cute question, and I would just say,

9:09

have as

9:12

much patience as you can, because your

9:16

wife is going to be such a

9:19

hormonal disaster at some point, if not

9:21

right away, that she needs somebody

9:23

there who's stable

9:25

and calm and can

9:27

kind of listen to her neurotic thoughts.

9:31

And this goes for my husband and

9:33

my neurotic thoughts. Normally

9:35

I don't worry about things

9:37

unless they're really, really

9:39

serious, and normally

9:42

I don't cry very much. I think

9:44

I cry way less than the average woman,

9:46

like way less. Normally

9:48

I'm doing pretty good, but

9:52

the hormones you get when you're

9:54

pregnant are insane. So now that

9:56

I'm 35 weeks, I've

9:58

been crying every day. 100%

10:01

like this morning. I cried just because I was sad. Why

10:04

am I sad? I've probably been sad for the

10:06

entire third trimester Just

10:08

like sad a little detached kind

10:11

of feels like an alien took over my brain. I don't

10:14

have much of an internal dialogue it's a lot

10:16

harder to work and Hormones

10:19

are crazy right now. Like I've got six

10:21

times as much estrogen and I

10:23

believe progesterone as normal No

10:26

one's taken those for fun. You're like, hey you want

10:28

some extra progesterone by this much?

10:30

Nobody wants that so

10:32

I would say For taking

10:35

care of your wife. Just listen to

10:37

her neurotic concerns about the

10:39

house or work listen,

10:42

tell her you're gonna help her through it and don't

10:45

argue like you would normally argue like

10:47

if you're normally good at negotiating things out and

10:51

Really getting into it. Just kind of

10:53

take it easy because Your

10:56

wife is a hormonal mess and she's growing another

10:58

human and it is hard

11:02

it's hard Kudos

11:05

to like any mom out there because

11:08

it's hard and I know some people enjoy pregnancy

11:10

and some people really don't I'm

11:12

not a person who does but

11:15

what I will say is this pregnancy

11:17

as Much as I'm

11:20

having a harder time now near the

11:22

end and as difficult as aspects were

11:24

it could have been so

11:26

much worse and So

11:28

I'm really thankful for that because when

11:31

I had scarlet that would have been seven

11:33

years ago now. It was Really

11:36

really hard and all my autoimmune symptoms

11:38

came back and I was miserably depressed

11:40

and there are multiple reasons for that

11:43

but This

11:45

is nothing like that. Thank goodness.

11:48

However near the end It's

11:51

been it's a whole it's a thing Hey

11:55

next Are

11:57

you still working and will this change things for your

11:59

dad's company? PS congratulations

12:02

This will change nothing my

12:04

plan for pregnancy was to just work

12:06

the whole time because I Get

12:10

so much dopamine from accomplishing things and

12:12

from moving forward towards goals That

12:15

that's what I like to do and I was like, well,

12:17

I don't really want to take Matt leave. I'm not taking

12:20

Matt leave Maybe I'll have

12:22

to and I've tried to figure out ways to set

12:24

it up if I slowed down But

12:26

then about three weeks ago, so around 32 weeks My

12:30

body was just like You're

12:32

joking. You're kidding yourself And

12:35

so I've been spending a lot more time like

12:37

napping and in bed. I got

12:39

some wicked flu So I was sick for like

12:41

three weeks I've had

12:44

a headache off and on for the last eight days.

12:46

That's been pretty bad

12:49

like enough to stop me from being able

12:51

to see very well and so

12:56

Nothing's changing with my dad's companies

12:58

and with Peterson Academy. Everything's moving

13:00

forward And I'm still

13:02

working but I've definitely Tried

13:06

to identify the main goals that we

13:08

need to accomplish and just focus on

13:11

that and I've tried to limit my

13:14

perfectionism so Normally

13:17

if I see something that's a little bit often like

13:19

ah fix it It's got to

13:21

be at this level and now I'm thinking okay

13:23

Maybe we'll keep it at this level a little

13:25

bit lower No one's

13:27

gonna notice, you know, not everything has to be

13:29

perfect That

13:31

being said that's not a comment on Peterson Academy

13:34

because that's going perfectly but to give you guys

13:36

an example like we've been working on Perfecting

13:39

the courses that are going

13:41

to go in the platform and the

13:43

courses are on the contents unbelievably good but

13:47

I also wanted to make them

13:49

catchy because Like I'm

13:51

not even somebody who listens to podcasts or watches

13:53

video content. Normally I just read Otherwise

13:57

I get distracted. I don't

13:59

know if you'd call it a but we're

14:01

gonna call it ADD for

14:03

now. I don't think it

14:06

qualifies as that but I need

14:08

to stimulation during video content otherwise I

14:10

start thinking about other things so I

14:12

was like I want to make these

14:14

courses visually stimulating and

14:17

better than anything else we've seen

14:19

and so Jordan and I have been like working with

14:21

our production team and working with the editors and going back and

14:23

forth and back and forth and back and forth and

14:25

they are looking sweet I

14:27

haven't seen course

14:31

content that's actually stimulating

14:33

before so we're

14:35

already at that level and

14:37

I want to get this thing out there we had to

14:39

delay our launch was supposed to be in November and we

14:43

had to delay because this

14:46

is such a huge project which

14:50

I vastly underestimated it's

14:54

such a huge project now we're looking for a launch

14:57

of late January and it's

15:01

going swimmingly so things are going well but I

15:03

have had to limit the

15:05

amount I can accomplish to more reasonable

15:07

goals like I'm the type

15:10

of person that likes setting really stupid really

15:13

large goals and then

15:15

giving myself time frames that are not

15:17

achievable just to

15:19

like add some stress to do things

15:21

faster and I've had to dial that

15:23

in so that's

15:26

a long-winded answer to will

15:28

things change but no I'm still overseeing

15:30

things Jordan's overseeing things with me now

15:32

I earned we have teams in

15:34

place that are amazing things are still

15:37

moving forward as planned and I do

15:39

plan on slowing down in January I'm

15:42

due January 7th

15:44

that's key right

15:46

after my birthday my birthday's on the 4th so

15:50

yeah like

15:52

with the sleep deprivation from breastfeeding

15:54

to you breastfeed every three hours

15:56

at the beginning I'm just

15:59

forced to take things

16:01

slower. Fortunately, I work

16:04

from home so I can still

16:06

get things done but it is a

16:08

little bit stressful. I don't really like taking time away

16:10

but it's a baby so

16:14

it's not really time away right. Another

16:18

big thing, what am I

16:20

having? It's like talking about Peterson

16:22

Academy more than the baby which is ridiculous

16:24

but I'm having a

16:26

boy which is

16:29

so exciting because I've got a little

16:31

girl Scarlett she's six and

16:34

I don't have a boy

16:36

so we're gonna have a

16:38

little boy January 7th. Okay

16:40

next.

16:44

Oh so just to cover the mold thing and

16:46

then hopefully we don't cover the mold thing anymore.

16:48

How soon after the mold exposure did you get

16:50

pregnant? Was your body cleansed? So

16:53

I told you guys before

16:55

I got sick enough in that stupid house that

16:57

I was having trouble walking upstairs and

17:00

I thought it was kind of funny I wasn't freaking out about it but I

17:02

was like going halfway up the stairs

17:04

and being like, I can't, I

17:07

need a breather and then

17:09

I'd like chuckle about it and

17:11

at a certain point I was like although this is

17:13

not worth laughing about this is

17:15

actually serious and so we moved out

17:17

of the house literally

17:20

eight weeks later I got pregnant and

17:23

that's after almost

17:25

two years of kind

17:28

of trying and a miscarriage so

17:30

it was like as soon as the mold as

17:33

soon as I was out of that house I got pregnant which

17:36

was crazy I did not expect to get pregnant

17:38

that fast because I

17:40

checked my before I found out it was mold

17:42

I'd done a ton

17:44

of blood work looking at any possible reason

17:46

why I was sick because I've been so

17:48

dialed in with my diet it was like

17:51

why am I suddenly sick again and I

17:53

looked at my hormones and my hormones were

17:55

like premenopausal flat and

17:58

I found that out as at the same

18:00

time as we figured out it was mold. So I

18:03

was like, oh, okay, mold was causing it. I'm

18:05

sure they'll recover, but they recovered quickly,

18:07

obviously, otherwise I wouldn't have been able to get

18:09

pregnant like eight weeks. No,

18:12

I wasn't fully recovered from the mold exposure by

18:14

any means. It was kind of like, oh,

18:17

now I'm gonna have to do the recovery

18:19

and be pregnant at the same time. That

18:21

sounds like a little rough,

18:24

but anyway, it

18:26

worked out. I wasn't fully recovered,

18:28

but I was able to walk upstairs without

18:30

getting out of breath. My eyes weren't red

18:32

anymore. I wasn't congested anymore. I

18:34

started to have more positive emotion. My internal dialogue

18:36

came back. So I was feeling quite a

18:39

bit better just eight weeks out of that house, also

18:42

taking a binder called cholestromine. So

18:46

yeah, very

18:49

soon after mold exposure, I got pregnant, but

18:51

I got out of that house. As

18:53

a working mom, thoughts on studies

18:55

on negative effects of early childcare,

18:57

no heat. Okay,

18:59

this is a great question. There are a lot

19:02

of studies on early daycare,

19:05

having negative outcomes for your kid

19:07

in pretty nasty ways.

19:10

So I'll

19:13

tell you guys what I'm doing and then

19:15

I can tell you my opinions. But what

19:17

I'm doing is I'm getting a

19:20

newborn care specialist for

19:22

night times. So I'll be

19:24

breastfeeding at night anyway, but I'll have

19:27

somebody there who can kind of bring

19:29

me the baby, all breastfeed, and

19:31

then they can take the baby back, calm

19:34

them down, put them back to sleep. I've

19:36

got such a difficult time. I have such

19:38

a difficult time getting to sleep that

19:40

if I didn't have help in that way, I

19:42

wouldn't sleep. And if I didn't

19:45

sleep like that, I wouldn't be able

19:47

to continue with all these projects that

19:50

I'm doing that I want to continue with. So I

19:52

really need to focus on getting as much sleep as I can.

19:55

So we have a newborn care specialist helping and

19:57

I'm going to have a nanny as well.

20:00

So that's two people helping me and

20:02

thank God I can afford

20:04

that at this point because with Scarlett

20:06

I didn't have anybody and It

20:10

was really hard. I started working Pretty

20:14

quickly after I had Scarlett, but when she was six

20:16

months I was full-time working, but I had like the

20:18

baby on me at home and I

20:20

was working so I

20:22

never did daycare and part of the reason

20:24

for that was because I Was

20:27

fortunate enough to be able to afford help

20:29

so was Scarlett I got a nanny

20:34

When she was 11 months old and

20:36

I was still working from home so I was still able

20:38

to breastfeed but it was somebody there that could watch her

20:40

while I was working and That's

20:45

what I I could barely

20:47

afford that like that took almost all my money,

20:49

but That

20:52

I Think that

20:54

that if that's something you can do I think

20:56

that that's a better idea than doing daycare when kids

20:58

are really young Let

21:03

me think That

21:06

that's my opinion and then there's also

21:08

a realm of day care as you

21:10

can look into like sometimes daycare

21:13

is Your neighbor who brings

21:15

over three or four kids and then she's

21:17

taking care of three or four kids. It's

21:19

really homey environment That's different

21:22

than then like 14 kids to

21:26

daycare Resentful daycare workers that don't care

21:28

about your kids and I think that's

21:30

where things get Iffy

21:33

and then I would say if you are gonna

21:35

put your kids in daycare You can also judge

21:37

how it's going like are you dropping

21:39

off your kid and they're screaming? Like

21:42

screaming and are they screaming and

21:44

it's been two weeks and they're still screaming when

21:46

you drop them off Probably that's

21:49

not a great sign Right

21:51

now, maybe they're three and a half and you have

21:53

them in daycare and they're just going bye mom. See

21:55

you later I don't think those are

21:57

the kids that end up with problems. So But

22:00

as a parent, you need to judge

22:02

that and be aware of that and

22:04

try to set up something that doesn't

22:07

traumatize your kids. That's important. So

22:09

for me, I felt like that was getting extra

22:11

help while I was at home. And I was,

22:14

like I said, fortunate enough that I barely

22:16

could afford that, but I could with Scarlett

22:20

and now I can afford more help. Thank

22:22

goodness. So

22:25

I think you have to be aware of the

22:27

negative effects of daycare on kids and

22:32

make sure you don't traumatize your kid, right?

22:35

And I do think that the excuse of like,

22:37

well, that's what I can afford. Like I need

22:40

to drop

22:42

them off at this cheaper daycare where there's

22:44

14 kids when they're eight

22:47

months old, maybe

22:51

figure out something else

22:53

because you don't want

22:55

your kid having trauma forever. So

22:58

maybe don't do that. Like figure

23:00

out something else. And

23:03

I really don't believe that people in general

23:05

don't have options. You

23:07

do have options. You're just not willing to

23:10

pursue those options. I also don't think

23:12

that you should feel guilty though about getting help. And

23:16

I felt really bad even when Scarlett was 11 months

23:19

old and they got a nanny, so other 10 months

23:21

or 11 months old, they got a nanny. And

23:23

I felt bad kidding

23:25

a nanny because my mom

23:27

was a stay at home mom and didn't

23:29

have help. And I

23:32

thought that made me a bad mom. And

23:35

I don't think that anymore at all. I

23:38

think that you need to do

23:40

whatever puts you in a place where you're not

23:43

resentful and you're taking care of yourself so that

23:45

you can take care of your kid. Because

23:48

a resentful parent, especially a

23:50

resentful parent towards their child is one of

23:52

the most toxic things that can happen to

23:54

a kid. So really

23:57

try and plan out your life and figure out how to make this

23:59

work. possible for you and it

24:02

shouldn't be something that breaks

24:05

down your relationship or

24:07

traumatizes your kid. There.

24:12

Apologies if that wasn't as smooth as it

24:14

should have been. I have

24:17

no internal dialogue because my baby

24:19

ate my brain. Okay, next.

24:23

Did you change your mind about getting a surrogate? Okay,

24:27

so I

24:30

did, I didn't talk about this

24:32

either, but I did egg harvesting

24:34

about a year ago, just

24:37

less than a year ago, because I'd

24:39

had this miscarriage and I wasn't

24:42

getting pregnant. Not that we were like really,

24:44

really trying, but we were trying enough and

24:47

I'm 31 and

24:50

I was like, I don't want to be stupid and

24:53

miss out on kids, so

24:55

I'm gonna do egg harvesting. And

24:58

so I did that

25:00

thinking I might

25:02

go the surrogacy route and I talked

25:04

to you guys about that because I

25:06

was also really worried about serious mental

25:08

issues and like dangerous suicidal mental issues

25:11

during pregnancy. So

25:13

have I changed my mind? Well, I mean I'm having a

25:16

baby. Am I gonna

25:19

pursue surrogacy in the future? Possibly,

25:23

because it's still

25:27

pretty hard on

25:29

me and I

25:31

don't want to, like I want to be careful

25:34

with it because like I said, this could be

25:36

much, much, much more difficult, but

25:38

it's quite difficult. I think

25:41

I mentioned I've been sick for the last three

25:44

weeks. I've been in bed

25:46

quite a bit and I've had like a near

25:48

migraine for about eight days and I

25:50

know I'm near the end, but what's

25:53

made it more difficult is I'm

25:55

still on the line diet and

25:58

I've had a meat aversion the

26:01

whole time and so

26:03

I've actually lost weight during the

26:06

pregnancy because the meat aversion was so

26:08

bad. I tried to incorporate other

26:10

foods so just starting with like chicken and

26:12

honey and those gave me

26:14

autoimmune symptoms and the autoimmune symptoms

26:16

are more intolerable than the

26:18

meat aversion so I had to

26:21

pull back from that so it was kind of

26:23

like a force myself to eat and

26:25

probably don't eat as much as I need to eat.

26:28

Now fortunately when you have a baby the baby

26:30

just takes from you so it takes your vitamins

26:35

it like it just it

26:37

just takes everything to grow

26:39

so the baby's fine he's

26:41

like growing just as he

26:43

should but I can tell that I

26:45

haven't gained as much weight as I should. For

26:49

instance all my rings are loose

26:52

which normally your rings don't fit as

26:54

well especially near the end of pregnancy.

26:57

So I really haven't gained any extra weight which is like

26:59

a blessing and a curse because hey

27:01

I'm not going to have anything to lose but the

27:05

reason part of the reason at least that I

27:07

haven't gained as much as I would have liked

27:09

to is because of the meat aversion on an

27:12

all meat diet. Yeah

27:15

so that's the answer to that question. I'm

27:18

not working out. I haven't actually recovered from

27:20

the mold exposure to the point of having

27:22

enough energy to work out. I

27:27

tried to do squats about two months

27:29

ago and was sore for about three weeks

27:32

which is just like an abnormal inflammatory response

27:34

to exercise. It's not because I haven't been

27:36

exercising and then you get extra sore. I

27:38

know what that's like. It's

27:40

a natural inflammatory response. So

27:43

it's not like sore because I was growing muscles it was

27:45

just sore because I'm

27:48

full of cytokines from having an inflammatory

27:50

response to exercise. So I'm not recovered

27:52

enough to do exercise. I'm

27:54

just skinny because I have a meat aversion and I'm on

27:56

a meat diet. That

27:58

being said. I definitely

28:00

credit the diet and keeping my

28:03

autoimmune symptoms under control for

28:05

not being completely nuts

28:07

during this pregnancy and

28:10

making sure my environment is clean. Next.

28:13

Okay, a ton of people asked about giving

28:15

birth and the birth plan, so I'm going

28:17

to cover that. So with

28:20

Scarlet, I gave birth at home

28:22

and that was partly because I

28:25

had a hospital phobia at that point in

28:27

my life and that was after

28:29

I figured out that diet was

28:31

causing most of my issues and that I

28:33

could control my issues through diet and

28:36

that manifested and turned into

28:38

a hospital phobia. So anytime

28:40

I went into a hospital, I would

28:43

have a panic attack and

28:46

I was like, this is not ideal. You know, I'd be

28:48

totally fine. I'd get in a hospital, I'd be like having

28:52

a panic attack and I talked to my dad

28:54

about it and he goes, well, given what you

28:56

went through, that's a completely normal response. I was

28:59

like, well, that doesn't help the panic attacks in

29:01

hospitals. Like what if I have to go to

29:04

the hospital during the pregnancy? Anyway,

29:06

I didn't manage to get that phobia

29:08

under control during Scarlet's pregnancy,

29:11

so I gave birth at home and it

29:14

was really smooth. So

29:17

I've already done it once, so obviously I'm

29:19

planning on doing it again. I

29:23

have midwives instead of doctors. The

29:25

midwives are amazing and I'm

29:27

going to give birth at a tub at home,

29:30

assuming everything goes well. If

29:33

there's some sort of sign that things aren't

29:35

going well, then I'll transfer to a hospital,

29:38

but I don't think that's going to

29:40

happen. Fingers crossed. Here's

29:42

another question. How

29:44

long was labor for your first kiddo? Was it super

29:46

painful and did you get an epidural? I

29:49

didn't get an epidural because I was at home. Labor

29:52

was weirdly quick and I

29:54

would like to credit luck.

30:00

but also some preparation. I

30:02

did hypnobirthing, which sounds like the

30:05

most hippie thing. I don't

30:10

even like talking about it because it just sounds

30:12

so out there. But I spent

30:14

about six weeks learning

30:16

how to calm my body down because I

30:19

was really depressed with scarlet during that

30:21

pregnancy and I was like, got to keep

30:23

my quarters all low. And the reason you

30:25

have to keep your quarters all low is because when

30:28

you go into labor, your oxytocin spikes

30:30

and that starts giving you contractions and

30:33

oxytocin will go up and your contractions will go

30:35

up and that's what puts you into

30:37

labor. If your quarters all

30:39

spikes, it directly counteracts the oxytocin.

30:42

So part of the reason I didn't want to go

30:45

to a hospital was because I knew that if my

30:47

quarters all spiked, my oxytocin would

30:49

lower. That would extend the

30:51

contractions. And if the contractions

30:53

are too slow and you're in the hospital,

30:55

they like to give you something called pitocin,

30:58

which is similar

31:00

to oxytocin, but

31:02

it's not exactly the

31:04

same. And if you give a

31:06

woman pitocin, her contractions are more

31:09

intense and they're more painful and that

31:11

leads to epidurals and then

31:13

epidurals and painful contractions

31:15

and an extended labor can lead

31:17

to something like a C-section. And

31:20

I really wanted to avoid a C-section because who

31:22

knows what role that played in my autoimmunity with

31:26

not passing on the proper microbiome right at

31:28

birth. So

31:32

how long was the labor? It

31:35

was really easy with Scarlet from like it

31:38

started around 11 a.m. till

31:40

like 8 p.m. It was just kind of,

31:43

it feels like a muscle, like 30%

31:45

of a muscle cramp. Do you know how

31:47

painful muscle cramps can get? It was,

31:49

it just feels like your

31:52

uterus is just like tightening and letting go and tightening

31:54

and letting go. So I wouldn't really call it painful.

31:56

It was just kind of interesting. I

31:58

was like, well, this isn't so bad. And then

32:01

it started wrapping up around

32:03

9pm and by 11pm I was

32:05

like, okay, this is getting real.

32:07

Like this is painful. But

32:10

it only got, the whole labor only got to about

32:12

an 8 out of 10 on the

32:14

pain scale. That might have been

32:16

a bit skewed because at the time my

32:19

ankle replacement from having an

32:21

ankle replacement from

32:23

arthritis was installed

32:25

crooked and it was causing me chronic

32:28

pain. So I was already used to

32:30

being in chronic pain so

32:32

having a baby didn't feel like,

32:34

didn't feel wrong like

32:37

a badly placed ankle

32:39

replacement. So the nice

32:42

thing about not getting pitotin and not having

32:44

these abnormally strong contractions is you get a

32:47

break in between the contractions. So even when

32:49

you get to active labor and it's really

32:51

intense it kind of goes like 8

32:55

and then it stays at an 8 but then you

32:57

have like a little bit of time to catch your

32:59

breath before another one hits. It's not

33:02

just like constant pain. An active

33:06

labor for me lasted three hours and

33:08

the midwives who were totally useless for

33:11

my first baby, one of the midwives

33:13

missed it because she was like, you're

33:15

a first time mom, you're gonna have a really long labor. I

33:18

was like, the baby's coming and she was like, no

33:21

it's not and so she missed it. But

33:24

I didn't want her there anyway really so it was

33:27

fine. My mom was there and another

33:29

midwife. When you

33:31

go the midwife route instead of the

33:33

doctor route you get two midwives that

33:35

come to your birth. So

33:38

it wasn't that long for the

33:41

first kid and theoretically it's supposed to be

33:43

shorter for your second kid although it's been

33:45

so long we'll see what happens but I'm

33:48

expecting a snappy labor so we'll see

33:50

what happens. And I wouldn't

33:52

call it super painful. It got to an

33:54

8 and it was very

33:56

intense at the end but it wasn't

33:58

something that was traumatizing. traumatizing or

34:02

well, it wasn't something that was traumatizing. And

34:05

I think if you, oh, and

34:07

then back over to hypnobirthing. Hypnobirthing

34:09

is just this technique that teaches you how to

34:11

stay calm. And I really do believe that if

34:13

you can stay calm and keep your cortisol low,

34:16

your body just does birth. You

34:19

don't have to learn how to do it. It just does it. It's

34:22

kind of like throwing up, not like you

34:24

don't have to learn how to throw up,

34:26

like a nasty comparison,

34:28

but it's kind of like

34:30

that. So I would

34:32

just say suggestions for like other women, you

34:34

don't have to do a home birth. I

34:37

would do a birth wherever you feel calmest.

34:39

So if you feel calmest in a hospital

34:41

and you think, okay, I'm taken care of

34:44

by all these doctors, I can get an

34:46

epidural if I need one and you're going to be

34:48

in your zone in there,

34:51

do that, right? If you're going to try and force a

34:53

home birth and you're going to stress out because you're worried

34:55

about it, that just counteracts the

34:57

purpose of a home birth. So just go

34:59

where you feel safest and give birth there.

35:02

Like a dog giving birth under a porch. That's

35:05

kind of like where I'd like to spend the next,

35:09

what, five weeks, maybe

35:11

less is just, I just want

35:13

to go to a cave. Just

35:15

talk to me in like six weeks.

35:17

I'll arrive out of the cave with

35:19

a baby. Everything will be fine.

35:22

Leave me in a cave for the next month. Oh,

35:24

how to take care of skin to avoid stretch

35:26

marks. These are one of

35:29

those things that I think is genetic. I

35:31

don't have stretch marks. Thank goodness.

35:33

I'm so happy about that. I

35:36

don't even credit diet

35:38

for not giving me stretch

35:40

marks. I actually think some people are just

35:42

more prone to stretch marks and that that's

35:44

a genetic thing. Could be way,

35:47

way off. So

35:49

I don't know much about like creams or anything that help. All

35:52

I know is I don't get them, but

35:56

my mom never got them either and she

35:58

wasn't on any fancy diet. That's

36:02

my answer to that. I

36:04

think it's genetic. That being

36:06

said, not gaining excess weight

36:08

during pregnancy obviously helps your

36:10

skin stretch less. And I'm

36:13

all for doing carnivore or animal-based or

36:15

paleo or keto during pregnancy. I think

36:17

if you have a caregiver that's like,

36:21

yeah, you eat more carbs

36:23

or like follow

36:25

your cravings, then you should get a new caregiver.

36:29

Doctor person. Now

36:31

we're going to go to the diet

36:33

section. Tons of people ask like, what's

36:36

my diet like during pregnancy? Because I

36:38

normally only eat meat. And

36:41

like I said, I'm still only eating meat.

36:44

Would I recommend it for pregnancy? I would

36:47

recommend you do the diet that makes you

36:49

feel the best during pregnancy. So

36:51

unfortunately for me, that is still

36:54

the lion diet. I can't incorporate

36:56

other foods. If

36:58

I could eat anything else

37:00

without getting autoimmune flare-ups and

37:02

by an autoimmune flare-up, I

37:04

mean arthritis, my skin breaks out,

37:06

which I hate badly.

37:09

And I go crazy.

37:11

I get super volatile. I can't think

37:13

I get brain foggy. I get anxious. I

37:15

just want to hide in bed. If

37:18

that didn't happen when I ate other foods, I would

37:20

100% be eating other foods in

37:23

general, but especially during pregnancy. The

37:26

number of times I've cried over not being able

37:28

to eat a cucumber during this

37:30

pregnancy is at least,

37:32

I would say that's happened at least

37:35

15 times. Because of the

37:37

meat aversion during

37:39

the first trimester, all

37:41

I wanted was like cucumbers. And

37:44

it, you know, people should

37:46

be able to eat cucumbers without getting autoimmune

37:48

symptoms, which I still think is

37:50

because I was living in mold for most of my

37:52

life. But time will tell for

37:55

that. But I would say do

37:58

the diet that makes you feel the best. Don't

38:00

just give in to your random cravings for bad

38:02

foods because that does impact your health and it

38:04

does impact the health of your baby. So

38:07

you shouldn't just be loading up on carbs and

38:09

gaining excess weight and not caring

38:11

about your body. But

38:14

by no means do I think that you should be

38:16

only eating beef like me.

38:19

It doesn't even feel like that's what I should

38:21

be doing. Right,

38:23

like the fact

38:26

that I wanted a cucumber so badly is just

38:28

like, it's just some vegetables. It's not that big

38:30

a deal, but alas, I can't

38:33

do that yet. So anyway,

38:36

yes, I've done carnivore throughout the pregnancy. It

38:38

has been difficult. I don't know

38:40

very many pregnant women that actually stuck to

38:42

a very strict carnivore diet throughout pregnancy. Most

38:45

people add in at

38:47

least a variety of meats and

38:50

dairy, eggs, and

38:53

then a lot of people are like, well, I couldn't even do that

38:55

because I had a meat aversion. I went

38:57

back to like a paleo diet. I

39:00

think that makes sense, but I

39:02

couldn't do it, which has made this

39:04

difficult. Any food or

39:07

supplement you recommend for pregnancy, I

39:09

think on any restricted

39:11

diet and any diet,

39:14

just the standard American diet for sure, you

39:16

should be monitoring your vitamins. I

39:19

know now that your vitamin levels

39:22

aren't just from what you

39:24

eat, they're also from your environment. My

39:26

vitamin levels were totally fine for like five

39:29

years, and then I moved into this particularly

39:31

moldy house that made me really sick, and

39:34

a whole bunch of them plummeted. This was

39:36

right before I got pregnant. So fortunately, I

39:38

had started supplementing the really

39:41

deficient vitamins prior to pregnancy.

39:44

So folate, for example, I was

39:46

taking by injection. I'll link

39:48

the injection below. If you

39:50

guys wanna inject folate, I couldn't take the

39:52

oral version because it gave me insomnia for

39:54

who knows why, for

39:57

whatever's wrong with my body. So

39:59

I injected it. got my levels back

40:01

up to normal and then that

40:03

was about eight weeks after we

40:05

moved out of mold and that's when I got pregnant. So

40:08

I would suggest monitoring your

40:10

vitamins and supplementing whatever's low

40:13

and looking at folate specifically

40:15

because at the very beginning folate is

40:17

important for the baby. Are

40:20

you eating organ meat now for the baby? Hell

40:23

no. Hey this diet is hard enough

40:25

with a meat aversion. I don't like

40:27

organs. The idea of

40:30

liver is so nauseating.

40:37

No I'm not eating organs. I still don't really

40:39

believe the whole organ thing. I think if you're

40:41

on a regular diet and you incorporate organs in

40:43

you can get some benefits but I think if you're only

40:45

eating meat I don't

40:49

I haven't seen any definitive

40:51

evidence of adding

40:53

in organs and getting some sort of benefit.

40:55

So I'm not doing it. I also think

40:57

it's weird to desiccate something that you don't

40:59

even want to swallow and then force yourself

41:01

to take it by pill if your

41:03

body is like trying to make you

41:05

spit it out. So that's

41:07

still my opinion. No I'm not eating organs. Having

41:11

any issues with blood sugars during pregnancy

41:13

on carnivore. So they get you so

41:15

when you have a midwife they pretty

41:18

much follow what an OBGYN would do

41:20

although they explain like what certain blood tests

41:23

are for and they let you opt into

41:25

things. But I did keep an eye on my blood

41:27

sugar for like a

41:29

week just to see. It is

41:32

very difficult to get gestational diabetes if

41:34

you only eat meat. If you're not

41:36

having any carbs. Not

41:38

that any mainstream doctor would admit to that but

41:41

how do you get high blood sugar when you only

41:43

eat meat. So no my blood sugar has been about

41:45

83 to 87 for the

41:48

entire pregnancy and

41:50

I have been in ketosis the whole time.

41:53

Do doctors get mad at you your

41:55

diet while pregnant. Some

41:58

would but like. Screw

42:00

those guys. The

42:02

world is made up of people

42:06

who say they know what they're talking about and

42:08

don't. Most people. So

42:11

if you get a doctor that's

42:13

like, well you can't do that for all these reasons,

42:16

do what makes your body the healthiest. Be

42:19

smart, like monitor your vitamins, make sure you're

42:21

not getting a deficiency of some sort. Oh,

42:24

if a doctor's getting mad at you too, get a

42:26

new doctor. I haven't even talked to a doctor. Have

42:29

I talked to a doctor throughout this whole pregnancy? No.

42:34

For the first ultrasound I was in Dubai

42:36

and so then a doctor was

42:38

like an ultrasound technician did the ultrasound and

42:40

then the doctor was like, yes,

42:42

that's a baby. That's the only

42:44

doctor I've talked to. And

42:47

it's going to stay that way, assuming everything goes

42:49

well. Do you ever worry about your

42:51

child's nutrition in the womb while being a meat eater? No.

42:55

I've had like when I was, when I

42:57

had scarlet I was eating salad

43:01

and meat and

43:03

I had so many people freaking out about me only

43:05

eating salad and meat. Freaking

43:07

out. It was really stressful.

43:13

My family wasn't freaking out but everybody

43:15

other than my parents was

43:18

freaking out. Even though I

43:20

was just trying to keep my arthritis under control.

43:22

It was like, those foods give me arthritis. That

43:24

can't be good for the baby. So

43:27

do I worry about the child's nutrition?

43:29

No because babies will take what they need from

43:32

you. So if you're so deficient

43:34

in a vitamin that the baby can't even take

43:36

that vitamin from you, that's when you get a

43:38

problem. So keep an eye on your vitamins. My

43:40

vitamins are good. I have

43:42

been supplementing folate just

43:45

in case. So no, I'm

43:47

not worried about that at all. I

43:50

think that it's, I think the diet I'm on

43:52

is healthier than what most people eat. So

43:55

even though I'd like to expand it and I think it would

43:57

be better. I don't even know where I

43:59

stand with adding. I would really like

44:01

a cucumber so I feel like

44:03

I should have be able to eat a cucumber if

44:06

I really want one but um my body doesn't like

44:08

it yet so we're gonna wait on that. I

44:11

am still using electrolytes I don't

44:14

use them very often but I take

44:16

electrolytes sometimes but I'm really just eating beef

44:18

so like right now

44:21

because the meat aversion is still

44:23

here and unpleasant I'm eating a

44:25

lot of tri-tip for some reason tri-tip

44:27

isn't as nauseating

44:29

as like aged steak

44:32

lamb is completely off the table lamb

44:35

is oh I

44:37

don't know what I'd rather eat liver or lamb but they're

44:39

both pretty low on the list so

44:42

lamb's gone that was way too

44:44

hard. Fish tasted bad

44:46

didn't make me feel very good even chicken kind

44:48

of tasted like fish everything's just tasting like fish

44:50

in a bad way or blueberries

44:53

like I've gone out for steak and I've been like why

44:55

is this steak taste like blueberries and Jordan is like what

44:58

are you talking about like oh meat

45:01

aversion this is so I'm eating

45:03

tri-tip and like here's

45:05

my sexy bag of jerky I love

45:09

jerky but I don't really love jerky pregnant

45:11

but I'm eating it silly to

45:13

eat so diets

45:16

the same I took

45:19

folate as like a

45:21

prenatal and throat pregnancy by injection

45:23

and yes I still include electrolytes

45:25

I haven't changed other than that

45:28

although I did try to because

45:30

the meat aversion was so bad

45:32

and it didn't go well. Okay

45:34

hey we're doing this let's see

45:36

what else oh okay this

45:38

is this is a good one anger and

45:41

resentment towards partner in first trimester

45:43

so I would say try anger and

45:45

resentment towards your partner throughout the entire pregnancy

45:49

I think that's really normal so how

45:51

do you counteract that because

45:54

so from

45:57

like my instance I wanted

46:00

a baby. I love kids and I

46:02

want more kids and I wanted a

46:04

baby and we were both trying to have a baby. So

46:07

why would I get resentful during pregnancy to

46:09

somebody who gave me a baby?

46:12

You can, you do, I have. Now

46:15

I avoid resentment by communicating,

46:17

like over-communicating everything. So if

46:19

I'm ever annoyed about something, I

46:21

don't keep it in my head at all.

46:24

And the reason I know that is because

46:26

I used to do that and that's what

46:28

breeds resentment. So if you're worried

46:30

about something, even if it's stupid, even if it

46:32

sounds stupid to you, I

46:34

would say something like, you know,

46:37

babe, I'm

46:39

extremely hormonal right now and

46:42

I'm really worried about X and

46:45

I might be overly worried about it, but

46:47

I really need help getting through this because I can't handle

46:49

it by myself. So we need to talk about it and

46:52

figure out a plan and then

46:54

you as the man instead

46:57

of saying getting

46:59

irritated or

47:01

being like, that doesn't matter, stop worrying

47:03

about it. Even

47:05

if it doesn't matter and she should stop worrying

47:08

about it, talk her through

47:10

it. Here are the potential solutions.

47:12

Here's what we could do about it. Does any of

47:14

that make you feel better? If you

47:17

guys can keep open communication, then

47:20

you can avoid the anger and resentment. Now

47:24

there's still going to be some anger. So I

47:26

don't have a resentment problem, but

47:28

I've been so angry, especially third trimester,

47:30

like my volatility

47:32

is normally I'm not volatile. I'm

47:34

very volatile right now. I'm

47:37

like yelly when

47:39

I get frustrated about something. And part of

47:41

that is because Jordan's so stubborn.

47:46

He's a formidable partner,

47:49

but it's

47:51

because I'm extremely volatile and I'm being volatile about

47:54

things I wouldn't normally care about, which he can't

47:56

understand because he's not flooded with six times the

47:58

amount of hormones he normally has. So

48:01

you have to just keep communication open. Try not

48:03

to hide thoughts in your head because they don't

48:05

just go away. You don't just bury them and

48:08

they go away. They

48:10

just destroy

48:14

your life and

48:16

breed resentment. So just keep communication

48:18

open and before you have a baby, try

48:21

to make sure your partner is on board

48:24

with walking you through things you're going to

48:26

be angry and stressed out

48:28

about. Because

48:31

pregnant women are crazy. They're

48:34

crazy. Especially near the end. I'm

48:37

crazy right now. It's really annoying.

48:39

I don't really like having a little alien

48:41

take over my brain. It's

48:44

frustrating. I'd like to think about things like I

48:46

normally think about them or think about things logically

48:48

without having this overwhelming

48:51

compassion for everything

48:53

that I wouldn't normally care about. It's

48:56

really frustrating experience. Ideally

48:58

your partner can help walk you through

49:01

ways to fix whatever you're freaking out about

49:03

and not just belittle you for being an

49:06

anxious mess. Did

49:10

you co-sleep with Scarlett and won't you

49:12

or will you for this baby? I

49:14

did co-sleep with Scarlett because I was

49:16

breastfeeding like every two

49:18

and a half hours and it

49:21

was two and a half to three hours and then she breastfeed

49:23

for an hour. I was too tired

49:25

to like move her to a crib. I was like

49:27

it'll be easier if she's right next to me. It

49:30

seems like the more natural thing to do. I'm

49:32

going to co-sleep. I

49:34

am not going to be doing that again because

49:37

I didn't sleep for like a year. She

49:41

didn't learn how to sleep through the night because

49:44

she was with me and could just like reach over

49:46

for the boob whenever. So obviously she's not going to

49:48

sleep through the night. No

49:50

I'm not going to co-sleep. I need to

49:52

sleep or I won't be able to function.

49:56

And I don't like not being able to function so I'm not

49:58

doing that again. part of the reason why

50:00

I'm hiring a newborn care specialist to help with

50:03

the nights for the first three months.

50:07

And then last question. Yeah,

50:09

what are your plans for postpartum rest? I

50:11

have my own business and planning that leave

50:13

is hard. I'm

50:16

having a really hard time with this. I

50:19

know that I'm going to be very sleep-derived

50:23

for the first month at minimum

50:25

plus recovery from childbirth, which is

50:27

a real, real physical

50:29

recovery. So

50:34

what's my plan? I don't have a

50:36

very well thought out plan other than

50:38

really identifying the important goals

50:40

that I want to hit and only focusing on

50:42

those and trying to not to get bombed down

50:45

by the little things, because little things

50:47

can be pushed off. So

50:49

I've separated out the companies. And

50:51

I have my, like, I'm doing

50:53

so many, way too many things

50:55

to add a baby and we

50:58

moved into a new house that's been

51:00

under construction for six months longer than it

51:02

should have been, which

51:04

is a whole nother thing. And

51:07

then I have like my brand, my

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dad's brand to

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manage my podcast to do the fuller

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health supplements, these guys, which

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I'm looking forward to. So

51:22

I can't enjoy these bad boys,

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but you can, and it'll save you if

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52:03

I cannot enjoy the

52:05

rest of this episode and

52:09

Peterson Academy and it's

52:13

too many things for

52:15

somebody who isn't pregnant I finally hit what

52:18

I understand is too many things at the

52:20

same time so yeah

52:23

like I said I've just tried to identify

52:25

exactly what goals I need to focus on

52:27

and move everything else to the side

52:30

for the first four

52:32

to six weeks and then

52:35

I'm hoping I'm gonna be at like I work from

52:37

home so I'll be able to breastfeed I'm

52:39

gonna have help so that they

52:41

can watch the baby but then I can breastfeed

52:43

I can hang out with baby but

52:45

I can like plan meetings and do work when

52:48

baby's sleeping and when someone

52:50

else is entertaining the baby so

52:53

I kind of just plan on doing

52:56

both but definitely slowing

52:58

things down for the first four weeks because

53:00

I need to recover need to focus on

53:03

having the baby and that's what's important I

53:05

guess the last thing I can cover what

53:08

are the pregnancy symptoms for people who haven't

53:10

been pregnant and for

53:14

me it was mainly a meet-a-version I

53:18

can't get comfortable I haven't been comfortable

53:20

in like two

53:22

months I'm waking up twice at

53:24

night to pee because the baby is sitting

53:27

on my bladder I'm sleeping with a pillow

53:29

under my legs or between my legs on

53:31

my side one behind my back

53:33

one under my stomach and a heating pad

53:35

I'm also sitting elevated

53:38

because my nose is so congested

53:40

this pregnancy I've spent six

53:43

months maybe breathing through my mouth and

53:45

that's partly because my allergies have skyrocketed during

53:47

the pregnancy I moved to Arizona where it's

53:49

dusty I have a dust allergy it's like

53:51

I'm gonna be allergic wherever I am but

53:54

I've had to sleep sitting up

53:57

as well what else are the

53:59

symptoms and then And most

54:02

of the symptoms I have are emotional

54:04

and more volatile. I'm angrier. I

54:07

haven't had the positive dopamine

54:10

emotions in,

54:12

I don't

54:16

know, six months, which

54:18

is really like, I'm okay on

54:20

the podcast right now when I'm talking to

54:22

you guys about it, but like it's

54:24

not fun. I'm really looking forward to January

54:26

7th and feeling more like me

54:30

because it's hard on

54:33

my mood. So those

54:37

were my main pregnancy symptoms. They're

54:39

much better than they were when I had

54:42

that miscarriage. It was much worse and

54:45

with scarlet, it was much worse and

54:48

this is much better and I'm really grateful for that,

54:51

but this isn't great mood

54:53

wise. It's

54:55

also frustrating to like get invited to things

54:57

and have to not go because

54:59

my body can't handle it even though my

55:02

brain really wants to. So I didn't go

55:04

to dad's arc convention in London because I

55:06

was like, I'm in

55:08

Arizona. It's just something like

55:10

a nine hour time difference to London. I

55:13

think it was at that point anyway. And

55:16

I was like, I'm not going to be able to do it. I was about 30

55:19

weeks pregnant at that point. It was like, it's just going to

55:21

kill me. I'm going to be miserable. So

55:23

I'm missing things and I'm excited

55:26

for this portion

55:28

to be over. I'm very excited

55:30

to have the baby and the

55:33

suffering right now is worth having the

55:35

baby. For the next month,

55:37

I'm going to be doing one

55:39

or two more interviews and maybe

55:43

my body's kind of been like,

55:45

you're done. Michaela just lay down, stop

55:47

doing stuff. And

55:50

I have one more interview plan that

55:52

I really want to do. And then

55:54

I'm going to do, I think a podcast with

55:56

my mom, a podcast with my dad, probably a

55:58

podcast with both my mom and my dad. dad

56:00

because they've come to stay with us for

56:02

the next month. They're trying the mold treatment and

56:05

yeah, then

56:08

just kind of try and take it easy

56:10

attempt to calm myself down for

56:13

the next month. So thanks for

56:15

listening. Good luck to any other pregnant women

56:17

out there and having

56:19

a baby is totally worth it.

56:22

There's nothing like having a kid. And

56:24

I do believe, like I don't believe that

56:26

you have to be the trad mom. I

56:29

hate that fad. If you

56:31

want to stay home, that's amazing. Do

56:33

that. It's a full time job. Like

56:36

calling it a stay at home mom

56:40

doesn't encompass the like six jobs that you actually

56:42

have as a stay at home mom. So

56:45

if you're able to do that and it fulfills you kudos,

56:48

I think that would be, that would

56:51

be nice, but I'm too, I

56:54

don't know, a disc into dopamine or something to be

56:56

able to do that without getting

56:58

resentful and feeling like I'm missing out

57:00

on accomplishing goals, whatever that means. So

57:05

either way, whether you're the

57:07

type of person, and

57:09

I don't mean to like insult track

57:12

traditional women, cause that's not what I mean at

57:15

all good for them. Seriously.

57:18

I'm more annoyed at the people

57:20

talking down to women if they're not

57:23

doing the traditional female

57:25

role that are kind of in the red

57:27

pilled weird area. Uh,

57:31

that sickens me. Um,

57:34

but I think there's a way to figure out your

57:36

life so that you can attempt

57:41

to do both. I don't think doing both is

57:43

easy. Like you do miss out on, you

57:45

know, if you're going to go to work, you're going to miss out on part of

57:47

your kid's life. So

57:51

you have to balance. It's a

57:53

balancing act as a female and it's hard. So

57:56

good luck to all the women out there and I will talk to

57:58

you guys soon. you