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derrick thomas we have doctor

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i'm apply for a ,

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to come here is a must

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amongst many invitations

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or my ass com to weed out

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another want to do that over that year my

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god man first of all gotta say congratulations

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you do had

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thirty second anniversary

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with your wife deal in my mj

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here my my my my mom

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how many janitor here in madagascar

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year he added gracie mass so

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awesome man and down

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no fun fact your anniversary is

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on my birthday i have to neither

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okay okay i knew it was

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what we eat i knew was right they have like knows

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smack dab i say i can

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we get those can next year aquarium

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so i just even on that note

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with your relationship with eating in or

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first voice just is remarkable of

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thirty two years extraordinary

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especially today about salute why

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i want to ask you how

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has your relationship with dd influenced

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your character who you are as in there today

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you know we know

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talk and his morning worship and down

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we would you say mirror

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you know so i don't remember our a

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hoodie gentlemen was way

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he was saying to me or you

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can you ever retire my absolutely

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the was like nah you natural retires like

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i will he was like now you know people

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like us who obsess we never retire

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says single people like us

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never retire nice people

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would marry who have accountability

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is if they retire sought

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so you know so it ended he was there yet

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what happens if life if

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you are human without amir you

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know yes you are powerful

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but you're not getting enough sharpen

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their you know and so my marriage is be

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like sharpening me like giddy always

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be lights i we

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the public eighty this is

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deprive eighty you know i saw the

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video never been a cheerleader time more

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like that feel jackson as light and look

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we already know you good i'm i

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want to make you great you know so she's

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always poking holes you know

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she's a professional whole poker

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you know what what with dd on one side

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and see on the other yeah i think that's

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why i've become one of the best to

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do

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you know

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what i do in this feel because i have two people

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that are like costly rubbing up against

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me yeah costly sharpie me

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you know so off password did he has done

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the know oddly enough

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the is also

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you'd be now

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you know some i was asking other day about how i'm

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some magazines like about homeless

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animals i you know what the homeless

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with dd so

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i've never really

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you know as never really bad like always

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felt like i he is

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his arm this is temporary like

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you got you got get out of his abandoned building lights

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this is temporary you got a densely somebody

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and do something and you have to

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because you don't you don't lose dd so

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she's always been that for

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and although the interior

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you know creator has put over me to go hey

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you gotta lose the as if you don't get your stuff

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together so after thirty two years

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as look at it is morning i was like yo i'm

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still attracted to are like

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i'm as i still like being around there

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and call the really messed me up because

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i don't want to be around nobody else because

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i was widowed about alone for like almost

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two years and san diego we

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cooped up in the korea we not really going nowhere

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and our man is amazing

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the still love somebody after

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thirty six years

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you know indian

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i just love but wanna be with

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we fail bill day we still dream

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where you know are we bought the house

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next door to us in michigan so

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we working on that are we working on the church

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renovating we got the house in california

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during the flow is all over again so

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mages just working together whatever

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is is like i could have never

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of view as i don't be on a jury i

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couldn't i could never imagine

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we would a guy here together but i just know by

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myself

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wouldn't have been able to do as i see is matt

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our nobody checked and charlie brown was

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she's my blanket because i yeah

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yeah yeah man as far as i love

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and yeah yeah of course i people can pick

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that up else they really know so

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they say you say something really profound a he says

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she's a professional whole poker yeah right

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so people tend to think like they see

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a great relationship the see a great business a c

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success in a think that you know that

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person just got it they don't really understand

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the tension that you have

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to

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be able to not to survive but

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be able to drive in operate from

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and learn through because we're sees poking

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holes i'm sure is not always com

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now you know

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ah how big after

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so long i would be used to

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but i got a call from

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one of my clients and they were talking about wanted to

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programs a way and it was like yo i'm just

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discourages person talking meets disrespecting

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me

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in our like

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already know what did he is is one of the colleges

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they are not saying what you want

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them to say in your pain

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so you feel like because your pain

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you have the right to tell them how

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to coach and i'm like yo one thousand feel

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you you know that sort of person that i feel you like

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geese deal to this day

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how do i status

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wow everything she says is truthful

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the approach sometimes steel aggravates

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me as late as they are like that you

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know have burglaries like look

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here's the deal i don't i don't

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want to lose

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any of the truth worried

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about harm don't say it like

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i want to be able to concentrate on your

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this is the true fights this is where you have

14:45

some just take the truth it's and so

14:47

sometimes we want to truth packaged a

14:49

certain way you know and so for me and

14:52

little the up to this day i've

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had to have i've gotta learn to gov

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maggie know did his heart you

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nadia will not be the best for you you

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understand when an air traffic controllers

15:03

tell in a pilot some is wrong the

15:05

air traffic control he might get in

15:07

here seen i didn't on a plane enough

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lot a lot but the craton and but the happened at

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ill they're not telling you because they get

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on a plane and near gonna have

15:15

to deal with it did the repercussions get

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telling you because they really want you

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to be safe if they really want the plane

15:22

that flies and get to his destination

15:24

it without any hiccups and so i

15:26

have to remember like a of deities not good known

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staged these my writing a book

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like duties not directly impacted

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by the she loves me so he had at kitchen

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is real but i have to grow

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in which sure and say he what he wants you

15:40

want to cheer leaders can make you feel and

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you're stuck in mediocrity for the rest

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of your life what do you want

15:48

a little tension that

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some bicycle poke holes and make you better

15:54

they make you did knuble walk motivational

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speaking to work in the light in

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the lifestyle

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go in the legacy that goes with that

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bras all day give me feel for

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yeah gimme fear triangle offered me

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feel right as i grew up in detroit

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the and i was a pistol fair and i'll never forget

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a grand larry brown

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you know the it was beef a nickname was like out

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a not philly mommy then i got

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rest in peace corps flip saunders

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who everybody say it was a players

16:24

coach you know like yo everybody

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loved i'm in i'm sure they didn't i'm sure doesn't

16:28

board there's no was a fair we never

16:30

want another championship

16:32

we never went to the finals again but

16:34

i know under this person

16:36

i didn't particularly care for we went

16:38

back to back you know i'm

16:41

it was are you note or at that time

16:43

chauncey billups you know it out

16:45

a some prints hamilton rehab

16:48

lot less while is that group but nominal

16:50

group when they got to culture

16:52

that they've really lot of skates snare

16:55

body was fairly needs they you know

16:57

who my yeah assess assess

16:59

we never made it and so you

17:01

have to ask yourself sometimes what you

17:03

the why we championships or do you

17:06

you won't be is always happy

17:08

a sober i love dd

17:10

we don't have to poke holes every

17:12

day all day cause i'm not working every day all day

17:15

but when i'm writing a book or i'm doing

17:17

a pot whatever am i yelled be i don't even

17:19

know you list item like i don't

17:22

on my face as i sit and listen that

17:24

rae i'm make sure you don't you elevate

17:26

your game so on so yeah

17:28

man is so it is a when

17:30

nominally

17:31

sometimes kids

17:34

you know i'm on a critique

17:38

, but is is

17:40

is from ago indeed he is always since

17:42

i was sixteen as he found the homeless she

17:45

is always have my best interest right

17:47

, right right the anchor you know

17:49

that the anchor in your in your consciousness about

17:51

that because you to say such a great

17:54

analogy to a lot of people want that cheerleader

17:56

yeah right but

17:58

what if we ever cheerleaders really difficult to be

17:59

surely to put a losing team by the way for

18:02

you see you see the attitude

18:04

you see them around go down when things

18:06

got lose their rights versus having

18:08

the cheerleaders for the winning team and

18:10

it sounded absolutely right so mad

18:12

as such a great and now this case

18:15

really you know if you if you really take a

18:17

step back and that's what what she does for years

18:19

like that birzeit viewer of

18:21

days because we tend to want to see things

18:23

through are lame that is

18:25

tunnel vision as yours like why

18:27

don't you get on the same page when the isis

18:30

either to an like you're not with me

18:32

right why are you now we need of stared

18:34

at well as we're trying to go and trying to go

18:36

travel go this particular v and

18:39

we have you know just enough money

18:41

to pay the electric bill into account she's

18:43

like we shouldn't be doing this

18:45

i'm just going to tell he's going to be amazing all the things

18:47

like why you're not with me but she's being

18:49

logic absolutely is seeing the bigger

18:51

perspective but here's the thing and i know you know this

18:54

as well

18:55

once we

18:56

how to satisfy

18:58

her heard need her hurt

19:00

psychological need it

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opens

19:03

the market opens our partner up to start

19:05

to be more than assistant absolute

19:08

a more of a again their phil jackson

19:10

role of like really help you to take these

19:12

to another level of a know his word

19:14

as you were talking i discuss

19:16

i just keep here with dd

19:18

the judge the cited

19:21

the remained good decision maker and i'm a you

19:23

eat you gotta admit while you

19:25

are

19:26

whenever you are he energetic

19:28

you know whenever you are you're not always

19:30

the best decision maker like you're

19:33

just you were homeless at sixty

19:35

does not a good you dropped outta high school

19:38

best not good decision making so

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for me man i had i had myself

19:43

i really had to say yoshi just a better

19:45

decision maker the just

19:47

he teaches our judgment is is better

19:49

than yours you know went to college finished

19:52

on tops past her are in

19:54

clicked first time

19:55

the just a bad decision my credit score a

19:57

fundraiser money in banks teacher

19:59

that makes better just let it go you

20:02

know stop trying to get her on

20:04

your side which is the losing side

20:06

he got me like aegis

20:08

be real you're losing

20:10

but when you let dd take the lead

20:12

you win

20:14

so

20:15

voiced his idea of you have

20:17

to have it your way it's just because is your

20:19

way you know when i'm not really the etti to was

20:22

like joey

20:23

you're on you

20:25

the you're in love with you have a

20:27

fantasy with it's your way

20:30

what if you really sit down and

20:32

and put your way through the chest

20:35

you'd barely like you're not making

20:37

good decisions she's making good

20:39

decisions just handed over to work

20:41

and then let her give you the triangle

20:44

and tell you how to work to try and go

20:47

at it you get update you do to try and or sheath

20:49

because you've got onto my advice to not asking

20:51

the driver's seat has been watching us

20:53

you like ah he did get a couple commercials

20:56

you do have some endorsements you discourse sixty

20:58

some which he lost boston

21:01

and you didn't come here to get endorsements

21:03

you said it's you want to win championships that's

21:06

what away you doing

21:07

i'm talking

21:09

that sucks but you now

21:11

when in this way your credit scores in a six

21:13

hundred you are in yards

21:15

seventh year at college we haven't finished yet it

21:18

you know you talk about the speaking career but

21:20

i don't see where is manifesting and

21:22

as i you know worried take

21:25

a personal turn it over to her let

21:27

her mad at you and it will be now leave me

21:30

like literally managed me

21:31

in terms of my career just managed me as

21:34

a partner you know south

21:36

was a lego brick got rid of my ego there

21:39

is no small services powerful man

21:41

you know again one of those big tennis

21:43

for everybody is you said his earlier

21:45

are you remember that she's are you saw fcs

21:48

your best interests at heart so loaded into put

21:50

this analogy altogether you on the same team we

21:52

are a we tend in those moments attention

21:54

to be like you're not on my team here and

21:57

there's just not the reality allotted time

21:59

so man is bring this to

22:01

this phenomenon new book creative

22:04

while of us as i mentioned the first

22:06

time i sat down at his brief to the first eighty pages

22:08

like in an instant the get course

22:10

i know a lot of your stories being

22:13

around you while these years there

22:15

were pieces there were certain scenarios

22:18

there were certain stories that were fleshed

22:20

out that i i didn't want to miss a second

22:23

the what you owe you here

22:25

they're what why did you decide

22:28

to make that the title of the book

22:29

wow

22:31

a know

22:33

the

22:34

a so and me like you don't you to talk

22:37

about everything that has impacted your

22:39

life

22:40

when people ask me like yo he winded happened

22:43

in a

22:45

lot of people and meet me golf or you was homeless

22:48

lily were high school drop out how you what

22:50

was the switch like how did you go from

22:52

there

22:53

that like okay so let's you say you are where you

22:55

work a you end up getting a job as

22:57

or whatever it's at a restaurant okay makes

22:59

sense why you go from matt

23:01

the desk wow and

23:04

always say to people

23:05

the day i stopped saying

23:08

may i will be so further along

23:10

the road less traveled in my mom many get

23:12

pregnant seventy

23:13

mans you school me up i owe you a key

23:16

and and me you are homeless

23:18

man right you you grew

23:20

up with thirteen other siblings grandma

23:22

a three bedroom house

23:24

you know one bathroom my your why you

23:26

bring me into this my father

23:28

my where were you brown light you just

23:31

have sex with my mom my why would you like

23:33

ya ya brought me into urban city

23:35

id ids debt zip code you brought

23:37

me into you brought me it it is

23:39

terrible reality you

23:41

know like or well what

23:44

and and that com a mindset be

23:47

homeless eat not a trash tears

23:49

like just

23:50

mentally he annoys we

23:52

could talk about the helped like people don't

23:54

talk about read a mental health a

23:56

be homeless

23:58

i like the mental health have

24:00

we have an industry relationships with

24:02

the person and parents you yoda

24:04

bad and building was tough you know the

24:07

the sleeping in you know ten degree

24:09

weather

24:10

ten inches of snow like okay yes

24:12

frost bitten a walking around eighty hour got accusing

24:14

either as my cologne a smell like years

24:17

he where my goals as tough

24:19

the was harbors not talk to your mom

24:21

you know like a person you had

24:23

your first malaysia whether the

24:25

game i'll do one in my life so which is me in my mouth

24:28

it as she got married so as like we

24:30

had a we had an emotional or tip

24:32

like x a chemistry that was honored as world

24:35

you know am for us not to be talking and

24:37

to be beef and

24:38

you like you are cause my mama brad on even

24:40

cause that's not even more sway

24:43

but off cause my mom mile and i was

24:45

at the lowest point of anger it's

24:47

hatred and bitterness

24:49

and i looked at my life and it was like yo

24:51

he you gotta be real bright

24:53

light you laugh home you

24:55

homeless

24:57

you've got your life when you hear look at any rate

25:00

all your mama no more it more it your

25:02

biological find my uk blame besieged

25:05

by brooks you actually are homeless

25:07

likes you got your own life with your here and

25:09

you lose it

25:11

he was doing better at decree look

25:13

at you you not taken a shower you not

25:15

brushing your teeth you stake my

25:17

brother looked little lucky who you are

25:19

and why you brought and once

25:21

and and in in his ship form is a staff

25:24

redone self help books and getting aroused in

25:26

a different people's like yo he is

25:28

your life brown you all you

25:31

you not eight no more yamamoto oh you

25:34

i dig the courts a bot to go oh

25:36

you you abandoned him he seventy

25:39

a t about it to

25:41

use to the courts are jumping to be like

25:44

mom what are you doing

25:46

your irresponsible take your your just

25:48

you grow eat like you make

25:51

your own decisions for yourself as

25:53

so so it was at the point where i was

25:55

like yeah you you are you ruff

25:57

don't a bias all you from his point was whatever

25:59

juri

25:59

goals whatever life you want

26:02

to lives in a part of that was dd to

26:04

the was like is not fair

26:06

to go into a relationship

26:09

where does pursue is

26:11

mutually beneficial

26:13

and

26:14

i want to go commercialism come up

26:16

you'd also like a one account of make myself feel

26:18

good life or did he was still in it's

26:21

i was it help but i was a heard

26:24

no i might have been peer citizen the

26:26

might have been the might have been

26:28

she got a on your credit score and mooching

26:31

off her credit score

26:32

the

26:33

i might be it i will be making a break

26:36

she were get to give me our money

26:38

you go me and i got to a point was i your age

26:41

i see why mama hates you

26:43

even door father didn't write like they went in

26:45

a house together you know he was

26:47

do they had to some extent

26:49

when i would see a marker see why he felt like

26:52

brown like at we didn't bring

26:54

her into his art and take care of fired

26:57

the widow you know so i have something as

26:59

i yell a you just a whole you you

27:01

all her and so you like get your stuff

27:03

together so dress

27:05

maybe bad as listening

27:06

just

27:07

three quick word that shifted everything you

27:09

are you like i stop

27:12

looking outside and

27:14

as to look at in the mirror the four hours

27:16

look at our satellites your mom york

27:18

police officer death arrested meet

27:20

at three o'clock was you pull me over you

27:23

feel me like is all these other people was

27:25

you put my brother's dude like morty

27:27

loss of the eighties wrapper off at

27:29

through a glass but it was always did cause was

27:31

wrong to principles ralph the teacher

27:34

sent me to the principal's difference would a kick

27:36

me out of the repubs goose like your all

27:38

a reason why i'm here

27:40

you know and it was like joey

27:42

oh most of them don't know each other but

27:44

they are no you you to common

27:46

denominator brown

27:48

is all you brussels he was at that

27:50

point where is that you all use everything

27:52

changed so ideas secret to success

27:55

at the greatness of the pie idea obviously

27:57

have it on the wheel and will see was like yo eat

27:59

world need a book

27:59

not just your crew dope

28:02

the world need a book

28:03

well we all and as i years gotta be

28:05

you all you gotta be

28:07

that take full responsibility for your life

28:09

as we have you live

28:11

in his cause you know

28:12

the a lot of challenges

28:14

the tell you this

28:17

i've been a car world countries where don't matter

28:19

which i you wake up

28:20

no matter how talented gifted you are

28:23

a just don't have the opportunity east so

28:25

as light yellow you in a country bro wears

28:27

a lot of maybe trials and

28:29

tribulations that are uniquely you

28:31

know for you

28:33

the even that is not an excuse for

28:35

you not to take advantage these activities

28:37

that exists brass okay that was it was

28:40

i yolks was the one thing to help meet that

28:42

up the

28:43

com and amongst most of us as take

28:45

ownership

28:46

after one message that is not

28:48

black is not mail is

28:50

not rage is not poor is not so sure agnostic

28:53

one mess his dad

28:54

you don't need everybody that are been

28:56

through his you got a full ownership

28:59

and for responsibility for your life data

29:01

get ill effects that one

29:03

right there will relate to relate lot not

29:05

all not all people we go

29:07

get to the billions we start off

29:10

by blame his plan the blame game

29:12

and not taking personal responsibility yeah you

29:14

said it blindly in the book and i've never seen it

29:16

just articulate is so blatantly

29:18

said victimhood is a myself

29:21

the victim who who is a myself

29:23

the you articulated that but then you also

29:26

gave some practical days and we

29:28

can do to start to

29:29

deconstruct their ideal guys

29:32

when we're so last don't want

29:34

to this i'm a victim prospective

29:36

with so many of us are and is not to negate

29:38

the fact that we business started things have happened

29:40

in all the crazy you share that too right

29:43

when we're giving up hour away riven by

29:45

pointing fingers and blame in a world we're

29:48

just we're putting ourselves in a position where we don't

29:50

have the power to change the way so i

29:52

want to talk about somebody steps that you gave

29:54

you said number one you have to

29:56

take ownership of yourself

29:59

the

29:59

very practical can you expand

30:02

upon at a little bit yes i'm just saying

30:04

like okay yes

30:06

you didn't get a great

30:10

my teach you don't like grab your mama used to

30:12

be like yo you got no teach

30:14

you that like you if esa see

30:16

if like would you do it like don't

30:18

know to like every teaches against the like spelling

30:21

sunrise

30:22

when you a victim is always pop

30:25

so i had to ask myself okay yeah

30:27

let's say teachers don't like you the ambrose he got

30:30

real bad when a star like studying history

30:32

as the black history and i'm looking at this little rock

30:35

nine

30:36

i know you got nike is going to a predominantly

30:38

white institution

30:40

where

30:41

the national guards like they gotta

30:43

get escorted every dates with the

30:45

military and dogs to

30:47

their literally gone into a school where these teachers

30:49

don't particularly care for one

30:51

that outgrown people are size spit

30:53

madam calling them all can stop british

30:56

managed to go in and graduated go to college

30:58

to do

30:59

a slightly you may be

31:01

tell me you ain't got like

31:03

they got dot they got police are like

31:06

they've got a real problem

31:08

all your teachers is in the oregon community like

31:10

you date black like you like what works

31:12

committee and what's the problem is like your

31:14

teaches on against you like for rip

31:17

so as i know he brought fess up

31:19

you know study

31:21

you do or above you do have some type

31:23

of learning up disability whatever ideas

31:25

but not to the point that you get worse

31:28

it just means that you may have to read the book

31:30

five thousand some i really want times and

31:32

they get it and i got what he can read it and

31:34

get him off is like know

31:36

if it's x y times this report

31:38

or so i had to take responsibility

31:40

for if you're not going to class you're not paying

31:42

attention

31:43

when you are in class you daydream if you're

31:45

not time when tears you're not me with the

31:47

teachers afterwards or before you

31:49

not be what other for years and know how to study to

31:52

ask in that would have brought you given

31:54

fifty sixty percent were you expecting

31:56

so he is or what to do

31:58

what you to give a hundred

31:59

and it did you fail at one hundred and twenty they

32:02

sound like a sombra i tell students

32:04

his heart attack your when you go to every class

32:07

when you read when

32:09

you take every test when you do every assignments

32:11

i don't even care of you fails a teacher's

32:13

gonna give you add a do this in schools yes

32:15

as teachers to stay and as a look at

32:18

them every class arrays my head of not disrespectful

32:20

to tell me what grade on the get a lie yolks as

32:22

go be real to as lisa c plus be mine

32:25

at least

32:26

like without even didn't want

32:29

his own test is so for me it just me

32:31

what part do you play in your

32:33

own destruction

32:35

oh net oh net part

32:37

don't want your wife you'll get the country

32:40

products and stuff like a say about at every

32:42

is t

32:43

what i'm telling you browse and i start taking full

32:45

ownership full responsibility

32:47

the middle he got consume my control

32:50

i woke up one day bro was like yo

32:52

actually be to believe i'm here

32:55

likes i can't believe i with from that

32:57

to this what is all because

33:00

when you take responsibility as you say

33:02

from the book

33:03

at that point you get a power

33:06

yeah is linda to you

33:07

there's a source

33:09

you know what i'm saying that's like your b i got your back

33:11

your is like when i used to be you aren't going to play ms

33:13

pac-man and i get the banana the

33:15

strawberry that you know they're gonna

33:18

say you start either the joker's and hitting

33:20

the pop ooh ooh ooh they

33:22

running from me it was like when i took

33:24

responsibility everything that once

33:26

was attacking me is now running from

33:28

meat and and everything that i once fear

33:31

i'm chasing it i'm going after

33:33

it now and it was all the power peel

33:36

i didn't realize was ownership

33:38

your responsibility is tomatoes

33:41

a hotel loaded into did it i our d c

33:43

ease video game at home is

33:45

gonna love love love love

33:47

it i so we gotta take ownership

33:50

is number one number to this is like a

33:52

little bit of a period

33:54

was still in a same vein you said number two

33:56

if the own you decision

33:59

the

33:59

your decision so

34:02

so i made my mom own

34:04

hers lie to me

34:08

harrison that are most sources to in

34:10

a person that home me don't

34:12

lie lan

34:14

about my whole life

34:16

and so when i was doing was i was holding

34:19

my mother responsible for her decisions

34:22

i wouldn't want a myself responsible for my decision

34:24

the reality was yes

34:26

your mother lot about your father

34:28

the way you decided to deal with it

34:31

you never dealt with

34:33

that best a real problem real problem

34:35

when she lacked a real problem was you

34:37

acted in haste and ran away from the korean

34:40

and your prior would let you have yourself

34:42

in combat to not you live in a band build

34:44

like door or at that time

34:46

living on the street firms i didn't do a bad

34:48

a bit as to like

34:50

deep into the game when i start relapse

34:52

understand in the homeless gave half of my

34:54

all gates yoga they are that you the light

34:56

beer teach yourself in somebody is a bad abilities

34:59

the detroit hours at that

35:01

time live in a se

35:03

and so for me was like yo

35:05

you made your mom you held out

35:07

to the fire

35:10

the to the whole yourself to defy like usually amount

35:12

of fire and us pilot his book to is

35:14

like your was is

35:16

so easy to be upset with people when they

35:18

do you wrong what you let you

35:20

off the hook when you do you around

35:22

why that okay i was little get saw someone

35:25

told me asked he was go give me opportunity

35:27

fifth grade steel come through

35:29

the and i wake up on time and i miss an opportunity

35:32

and i'm like

35:33

brought you just overslept

35:34

why

35:35

like as a whole me more accountable the new

35:38

because you living your life and trying to do with useful

35:41

do for you this is my

35:43

life and solves my you eat if you

35:45

could start taking ownership

35:46

good decisions that you mates

35:49

why you decided to do that vs

35:51

go

35:53

i denied you say you can we got a counselor

35:56

i did i say your mom peers but can

35:58

we just sit down and talk about

35:59

you did it like what was the purpose a why

36:02

you did it like i have to take ownership

36:04

you act impulsively about

36:07

something and you could win about that

36:09

a whole different way

36:10

and everybody could work together

36:13

the talk about

36:14

where we are and where we can go from here

36:17

but it's days you just cousin

36:19

fold out threatening phone

36:21

you know acting stupid a of course

36:23

ideally of course it was on a sunday

36:26

when everybody's outside curling ran

36:28

is not in the afternoon on a tuesday

36:30

when nobody's it also do in every

36:33

buys outside every by see it is to

36:35

allow drums off for drama

36:37

on display you nicer the got an

36:39

oscar you know it but so i

36:41

just realized he you have to start

36:43

taking ownership

36:44

the your decisions

36:46

because that's the real reason a problem

36:48

not how do i

36:50

see a d v i've realized was

36:53

it a day what

36:55

is it yarrow it was it

36:57

the a bit it was the response that

37:00

would guess morpheus in the event is what is lot

37:02

of it but i did respond to the vet

37:04

in a way i should ask so the outcome in the be

37:07

homeless

37:08

i was like yo he that he our oh boy you've

37:10

gotta switch that not

37:12

control events

37:14

what you can control how you respond to

37:16

events if you take ownership

37:18

the respond different name when

37:20

you give

37:21

our responsibility away yeah

37:23

i love how you broke down

37:25

a kind of looked inside your mouth story mama t

37:28

and

37:30

really looked at from her perspective new have less

37:32

that out enlist in the book itself the

37:35

guys again you had this

37:37

narrative about

37:38

her making this decision not

37:41

taking the time especially in that moment to

37:43

actually understand why she did it and all the opportunities

37:46

who was actually give a you com

37:48

you know i was really about we're at

37:50

right continue to leave at the last

37:52

of it as prop ah saddam my wife

37:54

and my kids are spend more time with her at

37:56

taco were her you know she's such a special human being

37:59

you really

37:59

highlighted her here in a beautiful

38:02

way and the books who had to man us

38:04

an idea because i didn't even realize

38:07

you present the

38:09

him to the world before they get to present themselves

38:12

to work

38:13

and how you do that is pretty and even

38:15

knows who i would identify may

38:17

be as

38:19

the enemies

38:20

the way i present

38:23

them in a book is important because i get to

38:26

i get go first

38:27

the noise was very important for me in the book

38:29

to make sure that we understand that your

38:31

we all got problems but

38:33

there's a reason why we com and man when i look back

38:35

and miles dogs i'm like

38:38

oh i didn't know i didn't understand some stuff

38:40

the mods pretty much road

38:42

you know on the dirt dirt that

38:45

the intro like mom pretty much

38:47

you know had a breakdown where my grandma

38:50

came from with my great grandma in august

38:52

sounds silly i didn't know them my dad

38:54

and i didn't know my grandmother's two acres

38:56

i'm

38:57

that was funny we call and lama

38:59

that he noise

39:00

it's slang for know my

39:03

mom says it i love you just rose

39:05

to radically the note as i on never knew that

39:07

was hard to my grandmother didn't talk a lot my

39:09

she didn't share with us or pass or whatever

39:12

this was the first time i realized

39:14

that my grandmother's

39:15

marbury died giving birth to her

39:18

they're not make sense why my grandmother

39:20

was

39:22

what she probably would have been

39:24

had she been raised by her mom

39:26

and got the thieves that a mother daughter

39:29

you know that chemistry and were so grandma

39:31

was more like

39:32

grandpa he knows your grandma was way

39:35

more protective

39:36

you know make sure we had every day with

39:38

the nurturing part

39:40

you know was it is so when i looked at my grandma

39:42

like oh in our history like sharecroppers

39:45

com and up to detroit

39:47

looking for a job chicago looking for a

39:49

job you know the emancipation proclamation

39:52

yoda stop israel

39:53

and i'm looking now how much people were affected

39:55

by to ya coming up north they

39:57

get that is this your dogs

39:59

it is is this have been up here as

40:02

you know is is got his own issues been

40:04

in a herb it can be living in a projects

40:06

robert taylor is chicago

40:09

herman gardens in detroit so i we really

40:12

were a part of that good times

40:14

like that was our life would our grandmother so

40:16

knock out a whole new level respect for my mom because

40:18

i'm like

40:19

the oldies would you

40:21

like this the gets the more uk

40:23

from and as a result of that

40:25

might this is what you prepare

40:27

me for

40:28

and you allow me to become number one in a world

40:31

because of what you did

40:32

early or you know where you didn't

40:35

the nominal and you know i'll give ddr

40:37

hurt but it's like your mom's was

40:39

the one that started that

40:42

the not gonna be that

40:44

the generations don't get better so

40:46

arm yeah manages felt good to write

40:48

in a way where i could not com a messiah

40:51

that a loop you what would you do a

40:53

doll you as up to you but

40:55

i'm about to loop you introduce

40:58

the world to you and

41:00

your genius in awaited

41:02

you deserved that in the hopefully legacy

41:05

you know she'll take a bad to challenge

41:07

the colonel came i would is recipe with he

41:10

went are you so much you've got a chance

41:12

to take

41:13

is part of it you don't blow it out absolutely

41:15

yeah i mean she's got the game was years

41:18

man or so again

41:20

victim victimhood his mentality

41:23

so , got those first two pieces that therapies

41:25

that you gave was to set a standard

41:28

so that so that's the other

41:30

part of the recipe from breaking out of it

41:33

me to prison we put ourselves in salt

41:35

so for me when i realize was

41:37

you were able to respond to

41:39

your parents in the news way you

41:41

d

41:42

because you didn't have a set standard

41:45

when you don't have standards huge his act any

41:47

kind of way what you have a set of standards

41:50

the standards also become an anchor

41:52

you know so for me as like

41:54

what am i non negotiable com and not because

41:56

my

41:57

argos we're all

42:00

you say may very bad decisions

42:02

being intoxicated and landed him in

42:04

prison

42:05

then i have aunts who also

42:08

this is i didn't have a healthy relationship

42:10

you know where alcohol it a

42:13

was a recreational

42:14

you know savages say that it was

42:16

a recreational

42:18

hi my own father you

42:20

know has his battle with whatever

42:22

drug of his choice for years and

42:24

a my uncle data cirrhosis and on it

42:27

the weapons i decided a very young age

42:29

with that information saw was

42:31

i'm never going to drink or smoke

42:33

it was a some to delight

42:35

a role would drink it i'm like maybe your family

42:37

is not

42:38

maybe york in do it responsibly

42:41

but i just don't see a history

42:43

of response being responsible

42:45

where alcohol and drugs so

42:47

i'm good

42:48

and so that was a standard

42:50

so because that was one of the standards

42:53

that i got is going up in a in a home

42:55

at a have really a lot of personal standards i

42:58

was we my boys that was doorstep

43:00

they should do i was always sober

43:02

that was always able to get out a certain things

43:05

because i was always sold rabbits have a child

43:08

you know out of i i was sober know what

43:10

i'm saying that was another day because of what happened

43:12

to me

43:13

i didn't what i was a version like i

43:15

didn't want to have sex because

43:16

i saw it as may i have sex with

43:18

your left bialy year

43:20

you know i got wasn't in a marriage wasn't

43:22

it

43:24

what he called it a nursery

43:26

we will pick the name together

43:28

we go have a baby shower in

43:30

his own go to church in bless you like i

43:32

didn't have as on my you on goods or sex

43:35

i'm good on you know on alcohol

43:37

and you know substance and so

43:39

i didn't have my old person or other

43:41

stuff that made me go honor

43:43

thy mother my father

43:45

you know like we didn't grow up in church so i when i

43:47

see no on and i modified out known and about

43:49

as one disrespect them but maybe had i had

43:52

a

43:52

principal some standards out of your lights

43:55

it does matter how angry you are are your

43:57

mother or father is your mom's your death

43:59

don't this respect

44:01

so as i got older i start

44:03

realizing my your breast and is are meant

44:05

to hurt you you know

44:07

cats like i want to be free

44:09

the have you real free you have boundaries

44:12

like there's no real biting what our boundaries

44:15

like uses are you not free not

44:18

free you got much of boundaries desk protecting

44:20

your home or protecting your stuff

44:23

they saw realize okay

44:25

he you need to start created standards

44:27

so when

44:29

the aim in aired time is when a dog

44:31

eared com as rises

44:33

stay at his could say lie your bra you you don't

44:36

as hard and you don't get

44:38

to do us harm just because you're us

44:41

you don't because you're meet you

44:43

don't you don't get to destroy us you don't

44:45

get to make decisions as frontier everything down

44:48

that we built up

44:49

i'm a whole you and check there's like our

44:51

whole somebody else and checks to as with those

44:53

dad is do they actually provided

44:56

me with emotional mental

44:58

physical health you know

45:00

i was a vegetarian you

45:02

know for a long time and

45:05

i think it was important because when i was eat meat

45:07

was just me and starts thought

45:09

so been a vegetarian was

45:11

started me introduce a my body to

45:13

vegetable school when you home his brother likes

45:16

it will how to best guy in attack

45:18

is like you know how grocery stores but

45:20

sales on the spot for those

45:22

standards started to

45:24

take me in a crazy

45:26

part also

45:28

the know shine on value started to

45:31

the app allow me to trap myself to other

45:33

people

45:34

you know can do some people like you could make a million

45:36

to name a man my eye

45:38

no of our values and beliefs a lot

45:40

like i bring my wife for ryan

45:42

every my key out on over

45:44

it's also realize

45:47

you get rid of a lot of garbage

45:49

when you have standards you know

45:51

so for me stand as would have thing that the

45:54

allow me to get a victims mentality of

45:56

victors metallic a cheap that victors

45:58

much as cj with a

45:59

the upset when because you know we went to michigan

46:02

state

46:02

a michigan says this but is true

46:05

hail to the bigger picture of face

46:07

i'm not more does it acted as a bus

46:09

the truth is hail to the victim and victim

46:12

you know and so once i got standards

46:15

man from that day for when i just

46:17

yeah just took off

46:18

yeah

46:19

so powerful that a quick break coming

46:21

up will be right back few people

46:23

know that regularly drinking coffee has

46:25

been shown to help prevent cognitive

46:28

decline and reduce the risk

46:30

of developing alzheimer's and parkinson's

46:33

disease

46:34

this attribute referees in the journal

46:36

practical urology is yet another

46:38

reason why into village the

46:42

list of best neuro nutritious

46:44

averages

46:45

another study featured in the journal psychopharmacology

46:49

cover their drinking coffee and a remarkable

46:52

benefits on middle performance the researchers

46:54

found that intelligent coffee intake

46:56

leads to improvements in alertness improve

46:59

reaction ties and enhanced

47:01

performance on cognitive vigilance task

47:04

and task that involve deep

47:06

concentration now ,

47:08

my stressing intelligent coffee

47:10

intake this means acknowledging the true

47:13

you shaped curve of benefits and

47:15

not going ham on

47:17

cathy cathy daily clearly

47:19

shows that some coffee cup

47:21

for today and the

47:24

company caffeine is caffeine

47:26

great adjunct for improve

47:28

mental perform it but going

47:31

too far source to be to diminishing

47:33

returns so wouldn't make sure that we're getting an optimal

47:36

intake coffee and again that

47:38

going on

47:41

now coming along

47:44

has his eyes herbicides rodenticides

47:47

on besides these chemical

47:49

elements are clinically proven to

47:51

destroy our microbial terrain

47:54

the destroying the very microbiome

47:56

that helps to regulate or metabolism

47:58

regulate our new

47:59

system the list goes on and on

48:02

obviously morning he said those things are not coming

48:04

along high quality cost

48:07

of tried spinning

48:09

also what if we can have level the

48:11

longevity in neurological benefits

48:13

of the coffee by combining it with

48:16

another clinically proven nutrients

48:18

source or that's why do every day

48:20

when i have organic coffee combined

48:23

with the duel extracted maternal mushrooms

48:26

force and if we're talking about optimal

48:28

cognitive performance and held of

48:30

our brain the protection of our brain there

48:32

are few nutrient sources like

48:34

lines mean but isn't a mushroom package

48:37

gonna benefit researchers at university

48:39

himalaya on benefit blinds mean as

48:42

neuro protective

48:45

the literally being able to help to defend the

48:47

brain again even traumatic brain

48:49

injuries make , brain help

48:54

so again this combination

48:56

of medicinal much

49:03

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49:29

though this is something i haven't thought about

49:32

ever enjoy you annoy you story the fact

49:34

that she whoop you are maintaining standard

49:37

even when you are homeless

49:39

you know be guys oftentimes there's

49:41

this

49:42

the next you know we see with somebody

49:44

being homeless to

49:46

drug abuse alcohol

49:48

abuse and you already had to standard i'm

49:50

not participating not participating the he had the audacity

49:53

to be this

49:54

great human being and this one facet where

49:56

you're a hearing to your standard

49:59

especially with so

49:59

much darkness around you so much

50:02

the anguish where you could turn to those

50:04

things that you seen in the environment

50:06

that outlet

50:07

and you just decided know this not does not have wire

50:10

is so to talk about the power

50:12

of standards is so remarkable psycho

50:15

you disagree because freedom is now free to

50:17

creating these boundaries for you to operate

50:20

in in the have all the freedom within their

50:22

right versus this thing if you don't have a

50:24

standard just intercepting your life cost

50:26

in there you know so i could definitely identify

50:29

with that seen that in a bomb and around

50:31

me are the only person in my family who chose

50:33

to not participate in was very same things

50:36

are and are always wonder like because

50:38

i was see my my siblings lc my cousins

50:40

just like

50:41

what you got see what's happening legs

50:43

were not gonna be that right right

50:46

so in my mind is like we like we we

50:48

the message zoc but nice it

50:50

takes you have to set the standard

50:52

because even if you play would a thing

50:55

right

50:55

though this brings us to

50:58

the fourth

50:59

for to here in this recipe

51:02

is a big oil the no excuses

51:04

air no excuse as

51:06

so love excuse it's like desire

51:09

to me it up it unlocks

51:12

absolutely love

51:14

nice you but honestly excuses

51:17

are again

51:19

not a human

51:21

you need take responsibility

51:23

the now you're given it oh you give me your power

51:25

way to

51:26

circumstances situation

51:28

the army and so people say to me all the time i

51:30

your brush you know you should be talking

51:32

about bomb bomb bomb bomb bomb you know you

51:34

got platform you know you are he

51:36

is why you not address it

51:38

i'm like yo i'm not addressing

51:42

i'm not address me first and where you want me to address

51:44

because i'm addressing

51:45

now just where you want me to address it it of

51:48

are you not on on on a podcast

51:50

when i'm out in the trenches peripheral

51:52

dressing

51:53

what i would not do is i will not give

51:55

the power

51:57

that our young people have

51:59

to ne

51:59

circumstances situation

52:01

cause if there's a circumstances situation

52:04

that a human created

52:05

they have the power to overcome

52:08

there was a human that created

52:09

raping a human does as a human

52:12

you have works it's you could counter attack

52:14

the attack so for beat him

52:16

excuses

52:18

giving you an hour the making

52:20

your dreams and goals become reality and we can't

52:22

do that

52:23

like a week we had a no fly zone out

52:26

there is a no fly zone is annoys you so

52:28

i'd we cannot make excuses watch because

52:30

excuses create opportunities

52:33

for us not to make app so

52:35

when people say racism from

52:37

but mass effect

52:39

okay he gotta excuse you call

52:41

would have one call it is that will stop me a

52:43

dd from live in a lifestyle was both

52:45

mandelson me from pjs first class

52:47

and it's like oh stop me from dubai or whatever okay

52:50

what my main thing to call them as good as

52:52

his problem don't have never do with me

52:54

and my family my dreams of my goals in about

52:56

stop me idea what legislation put

52:58

together i don't care what you take a bomb it would you say

53:01

about me it does not matter was

53:03

because it has nothing to do with

53:05

this temporary experience called life

53:07

that only get so many years com want to live up to the

53:09

fullest you you you that

53:11

this desk is not will stop me from

53:14

dd we want to live with you want

53:16

to drop would you want to eat

53:17

oh if well food is expensive

53:21

in california i could care less how

53:23

expensive idiots pd what you want to eat

53:25

how often do you want to eat it

53:28

what color do you want to do you want to room

53:30

temperature hot like what your we got

53:32

a temporary experience i'm not a bottle

53:34

okay not we lived to be two thousand maybe

53:37

i could

53:38

i got a hundred years of excuses prominent

53:40

he make to one hundred and if i do

53:42

i guarantee you won't be with the same independence

53:46

the film it's obama hundred i'm not will

53:48

be it right you know to defeat

53:50

the in a false in a fall to i

53:52

might still be able to rush but it's not on the like

53:54

house runway else when he was so so for

53:56

me

53:58

excuses

53:59

the more complicated things

54:02

that are meant to stop you from live in a life

54:04

you want to live

54:05

so not okay we can do excuses

54:08

we're going to execute it because execution

54:10

guarantees he

54:13

be three me up

54:14

it was like he brought it in a speech

54:16

gatos keys yesterday

54:18

one thank you again

54:19

the that execution

54:21

makes the relationship mutual which

54:24

which extends the relationship you're

54:27

gonna have some nutjob about that neutral

54:29

so we bought the extend his boy scouts

54:32

are we going extent that the mutualism

54:34

like mutualism was like you'll see like can be funny

54:36

but you know i take years in two boys like

54:38

i know

54:39

this is in phoenix

54:42

this year houselights one thousand preseason

54:44

thousand preseason you dare dare dare

54:47

i want to enrich be experienced is t

54:49

is happy like let's go

54:51

the had

54:52

had an excuse for why didn't do good

54:54

the a bit he brought

54:56

me to speak

54:58

do walked up to me library

55:01

i'm fifty one years old

55:03

work for years paying for twenty one years

55:06

you like as when you you can take some nasty some

55:08

random dude off stream

55:10

i've never heard of presentation like there every my

55:12

life and i know you were talking to these key is

55:15

pleasant fifty one your ah took notes

55:17

that execution here the will you

55:19

execute like that

55:21

they are

55:23

the that mean

55:24

how dare she be three gave me for my

55:26

book or your camera which are adios

55:29

is i mean i'm gonna get in early enough he's

55:31

like hypotheses states so

55:33

execution gets execution

55:36

excuses

55:39

the result of missed opportunities and

55:41

one thing that we are not

55:43

not gods so we don't know how many

55:45

opportunities we and

55:46

though for me is like excuse

55:49

his arm glorified

55:51

the distractions to make my dreams and goals

55:53

become a reality the

55:55

more come on the cb three chris paul

55:58

wrote the foreword your your book my god

56:00

well maybe but he makes us out right now me

56:02

to pick up a copy oh you

56:04

poor years special brady police assistant

56:06

would step was that please excess of rifle

56:09

is is this is so much that you've given

56:11

to the alibis

56:13

man to the world eating you know there's there's

56:15

so many people you never knows listening you

56:17

never know who's hard to touch

56:19

so this is just are are opportunity

56:22

to poor back into una support this project

56:25

so too is already done here thank you

56:27

know something else so we've got this framework

56:29

here to break out of it victim mentality

56:31

that truly it's it's something

56:34

that puts us in a straight jagger you know

56:36

it inhibits us from creating life that is

56:38

possible for us

56:40

doing that

56:41

when i put portion is critical

56:44

and now we get to their part where

56:47

even in that moment even when you were

56:49

experiencing homelessness

56:51

and still carry

56:54

your standard you still carry beast character

56:56

traits

56:58

that lead to

56:59

the person you are today

57:01

them in you talk about this in the book

57:03

by articulating kiss somebody maybe use okay

57:05

i'm not going to be a victim anymore going to take control

57:07

the my life

57:09

what do i do it my life i don't i'm

57:11

not you will not eric homicidal have

57:13

this talent and you talk about

57:15

activating

57:16

accessing are super power here so

57:19

sad about the yeah so

57:21

i believe that every human

57:24

well into the world with a gift or

57:27

gifts

57:28

whether that

57:30

you are supportive of other people

57:32

you know and

57:34

they can't get to where they

57:37

need to get

57:38

without the type of support you provide for

57:40

them

57:41

whether you are a leader

57:43

you have the ability to help people

57:46

move from one point to the next and

57:48

and i say that we could be was out i'm a leader

57:50

to me of you a pilot you're not getting

57:52

a plane fly yourself

57:54

you get in a plane fly somebody else to detonate

57:57

so real leaders a person to help other

57:59

people get from point a to

57:59

when

58:00

if you're like me like yo you just

58:02

provide fuel energy aspiration

58:05

to the world or if you're like

58:07

one of your many trick or treat your

58:09

strategic you know like you

58:11

have the ability to be analytical

58:13

think things through it make connections

58:16

idols are all gives

58:18

today it will we do sometimes

58:20

and i told my daughter's i couldn't believe my daughter was

58:22

going to this

58:23

data such a strong human

58:25

no but she'd come to me right after graduating

58:28

what or masses was like that

58:29

there will be behind

58:31

there behind

58:33

the highway

58:35

nothing on on on an or not what i'm sorry

58:37

behind who you've

58:39

been on the internet a kid haven't you and

58:42

you've been scrolling through the internet habit

58:45

you and you've looked at this person's

58:47

internet paying this person's profile

58:49

is pro i'll say you're twenty four with a master's

58:51

degree behind who

58:53

i don't know what

58:55

i don't know the world's population with

58:58

a mass like i wouldn't advanced degree that's

59:00

a small number

59:01

you know and you went to michigan state a

59:04

and you were exposed to all those things

59:06

and michigan state and you travel

59:08

the world and in you speak and

59:10

use i'm like yo at lot of get it

59:12

you know and so the thing i would say

59:14

is that everybody has something

59:17

but sometimes you don't know did you have the because you

59:19

looking at your sister and was he has or your

59:21

brother or was yes i wanted to

59:23

go back to the time where people were

59:25

like can i come on you to do this when you're

59:27

in school do you do that or to eat less where your

59:29

friends loved you put it i guess again

59:32

that give can turn into therapists

59:35

i'll get let's leave the money alone because people like

59:38

money manager style

59:39

i was just in milwaukee and you know pulsars

59:42

like i'm sorry minnesota be more lot younger

59:44

you talk to his get its cage how to scale

59:46

do cp three dates and a key it was i yell

59:48

brian a time before the and are you big time bless

59:51

your watch a video can we talk and like let's go

59:54

i i

59:56

i go to bed at night

59:58

the make a bunch of money they added night

1:00:00

hear people say well

1:00:02

you helped me get through cancer like

1:00:05

i had twenty eight chemotherapy

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treatments i had to go through and i

1:00:09

put your stuff in my ear your

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bra last three hundred pounds listen to your style

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the doesn't proud people say stuff like you know man

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i may twelve million dollars last you listen to you all

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you have any they offer letter be lifted the madness

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i do

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that is the day and something

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so many people caught up on monday

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the status and same and whatever

1:00:35

fortunate you get you don't understand

1:00:38

out what makes us go to sleep at night in feel good

1:00:40

about ourselves

1:00:41

is is the value we add another

1:00:43

people's lives devalues in

1:00:45

our own so for me when i spoke

1:00:48

for the first time and realize

1:00:50

yeah

1:00:51

like a happy a light

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years as live oaks

1:00:56

i actually have something that i can contribute

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like you know when i was a kid i'm sure

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maybe you know you as well when you go to answer

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your grandma's and he makes his face given stuff

1:01:05

is monogamy and my young stuff is great brown

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for the hadn't and the brain

1:01:08

i remember get older and going to college

1:01:11

and in common with my family no

1:01:13

i'm a grandma in i could could

1:01:15

like my grandma but you know up a broader

1:01:17

i want to the store in that water i

1:01:20

got to jews and abroad it can

1:01:22

help coming in the house now like you're not

1:01:24

just i'm not the one that's just

1:01:26

how many is no more like yoga

1:01:29

low money or got a wife i got

1:01:31

my grandson and my grandma's love

1:01:33

to see more than she loves to cook my

1:01:35

babies year and a module on bring us up it's

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in a sauna really gabi camps and

1:01:40

i learned to to turkey's aware that everybody

1:01:42

will my turkey every years and what a joy

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it is obsessed common

1:01:46

that jobless all of ya gotta go to do two

1:01:49

parts where am i go to turkey

1:01:51

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1:01:52

it was it eating that i enjoyed anymore

1:01:55

was it being a child

1:01:57

it was contributing to the world

1:01:59

here was a little charged with fifty

1:02:02

or sixty people who absolutely loved

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here and meet present get our to oak

1:02:06

worse as here are a couple hundred

1:02:09

years and loved me to as so you're looking

1:02:11

at now the millions that follow me

1:02:13

brass out the same way with the first speech

1:02:16

ever did was like your this is what i'm

1:02:18

bring it to the table for now yeah you

1:02:20

feel me a sump telling you those of

1:02:22

you listening

1:02:23

the want to be happy you want experience joy

1:02:25

stop wearing a some to the table whatever

1:02:28

that might be for your family what

1:02:30

a school when your community for the church

1:02:33

you start using your gift to help in the

1:02:35

people as in your space

1:02:37

that is the greatest fill in the world filling wanted

1:02:39

and needed feeling a sense of belonging

1:02:42

where's the greatest gift in a world yeah yeah

1:02:45

many gifts so many practical ways to

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access their superpower

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i remember cj saying that

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one of those ways to find your gift is to

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ask yourself what comes easy to you

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as difficult for absolute right what

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comes easy because a lot of hands are gift

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we we negate it because

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it's easy for isis natural to us

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and you know especially

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today when assume was distraction another big part

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of this equation i could do said jane is good

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scrolling on social media

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we get distracted is another

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not is a voice with thousands of other

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voices

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so we don't have that that still time

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to quiet time to really look within ask these

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questions a homeless

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is

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about as all homes was for me

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was alone listening

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to my boys or as and say listen

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and was figuring out what my boys was

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you know versus my boys are you must go over and

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do that was like that's not my voice

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a sailor's go do that

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they're being raised enough to go

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your my boy say said dude as are we not

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bad to go do that and even when

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he got to a point where

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there was someone who was very influential

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in the group

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oh and look out for me in a way to group

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and looked out for me it almost made me feel

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guilty to do

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i had to call on a higher power and praying

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say

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the guy know what to do that

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in

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i don't feel and he's like not

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the powers and you

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they know you could say no

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be okay like your bike a love

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you like you think that you case i know

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this up in a you sort out with that

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was his voice telling meet your

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voices deeper than what you think your voices

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you rely on you as it

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like don't rely on me

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meaning you know some people out what

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i'm a believer abilities you allow god knows

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what i was here to the creator say was

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already created you were a voice

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that are listening

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your voice and be obedient to your

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voice the or like not my goal do

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it i'm still you today

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knowing that crew cause me

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you know periodically likely prada

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you

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we see which he door you an inspirational

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ourselves a big be a home

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this is not as bad as i thought it was

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because he gave me an opportunity here my boys

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and more than the other voices when

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you listen to your voice

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you can't be successful we listen to some miles

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his voice tell you do some stuff

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a d v d matt brown a fifty fifty

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chance of stuff is gone be success

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yeah

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i can't stress this enough is but is also one the

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most challenging things today he you

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know to to be able to look within to

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have time for introspection

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this so important in

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we evolved with it for

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centuries appoint centuries thousands upon

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thousands of years and

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there was no choice but to have time

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with yourself right to be a to listen

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to your own internal voiced today we're

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inundated weird lombardi

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twenty four seven

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the other voices and prospectus

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is so to unplug from that just a little bit

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nor does a little bit was going to tend

1:05:55

to happen is going to be uncomfortable if you're not used

1:05:57

to it you know those feelings or

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things we

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the down kickstarter

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faster up in emerge that is dave

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was to address it you know i know you and the

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guys recently deceiving talking about the

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gps story or

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your show on a pike as make sure to check our secret

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to success podcast by

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the way obliged you know you have you

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have you guys also touched on

1:06:19

is very briefly but i thought it was so powerful

1:06:22

the understanding that anxiety is

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not all bad and we just have this

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negative label for the thing with

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the actually had on had neuroscientist sitting right sitting

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a chair

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i were you are right now

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and doctor windy suzuki

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and the title for book is called good anxiety

1:06:39

all right is she was talking about

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the important biological feedback that

1:06:43

him for anxiety can give him i heard

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a developing the tools to be able

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to

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understand what is inside is trying to tell me

1:06:51

in to operate in a healthy weight vs

1:06:54

we're because you were

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take something to suppress it would

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do something to suppress it will ignore it

1:07:00

entertain me whatever and eventually

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though that these in a car some dysfunction

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whether is your body or your mind like

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she said it

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it it produces

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that he produces you know if you let

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it if you don't suppress it

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this is actually gone take you to another lab get

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here and i welcome

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i don't i don't stress about her adam

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welcome massachusetts i d is here

1:07:24

to help you grow

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the take me to another level so whatever your

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year to do

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when it would have higher view here to help

1:07:31

me grow

1:07:32

i wanna sit now

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enjoyed his relationship in a way that clinton

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tim fifteen years ago

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yes

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our bodies in a mice are intelligent

1:07:43

if you are not broken

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it's just being able to better associate

1:07:47

with yourself and this is the key so

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this brings

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this probably my favorite quote in the book

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the says you can change environments

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but until you change yourself nothing

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will

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every check

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i just have friends that you know

1:08:05

substance abusers

1:08:08

i'll never forget in a in a matter what

1:08:10

city i brought them to

1:08:13

there they will find it

1:08:15

i'm like yo hey

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are you find

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that he could , know

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that you don't even know nobody here who

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did you

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added you

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any just show me his like was not the environment

1:08:30

the environment follows the human

1:08:34

the environment fall of the human is not lie yo

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i'm in this environment but when i leave

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and go to kansas

1:08:40

that's gabi and it was not whatever environment

1:08:42

you were

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an inner city you won't take that

1:08:46

you're gonna go to the next city and accuse and a

1:08:48

close

1:08:49

the rules are com behavior we go

1:08:52

look at what is your gov we look afresh your got

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and so

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for me when i travel a by

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was like know how you know all is good people hey

1:09:02

how you know people to jiggly your wallet your wife you

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t like how do you have you know somebody

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go human beings like are you would people

1:09:08

are not manipulated

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i mean why why do that raises costly

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like pub and you up and pub me i

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why are they a be so jealous like what are your

1:09:16

support each other in a way like to get

1:09:18

that many brands are so support

1:09:20

it's like yo when you become supportive you

1:09:22

are you attract a supportive

1:09:24

when you beat when you become when you become a

1:09:26

person of standards and integrity you attract

1:09:29

the park when you like it's like you're all you're married

1:09:31

all it to john how happy

1:09:34

that you're not are all yachts years

1:09:36

that come out is not a light brown

1:09:38

when you become

1:09:40

the environment supports would you be

1:09:42

calm it brings

1:09:44

the right energy and the right people

1:09:46

in the right human resources and fiscal

1:09:49

resources and

1:09:50

you know our our material resources

1:09:53

like the universe is by yeah oh this is

1:09:55

who you are

1:09:56

so we were going to say we don't set you up for great

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didi [unk]

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the

1:09:59

eaten a certain way inside

1:10:02

we we young arms data

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digit there are no pub to the jade

1:10:06

helm areas so we stayed there

1:10:08

are downtown and you

1:10:10

know did he's doing this certain diet rajar

1:10:13

house is right there

1:10:14

the negate every day and i'm like yo

1:10:16

we going together and i got to kim was a

1:10:18

cottage cheese steak

1:10:20

they got to kill they got to

1:10:22

sam and that i was upset well

1:10:25

done and is phenomenal is four hundred

1:10:27

feet from the

1:10:28

this my you will have any the know it but

1:10:31

i'm even choose the hotel

1:10:33

everything just when when

1:10:35

the when they know i was killed in my system

1:10:37

or what this team what like i don't want to do to cars

1:10:40

master one a nice healthy me

1:10:42

i'm on a roll is right is

1:10:44

right there you know itself did

1:10:46

he wanted to whatever kind of proteins

1:10:49

you out what it was you want to but they had it

1:10:51

and it was she like it was tasty it

1:10:53

also for me is i

1:10:55

when you are

1:10:58

the environment supports

1:11:01

you know who you are but for so long that thought

1:11:03

about as good at my parents' house

1:11:05

i like would be better i was all america

1:11:08

you with you have went with me out of his

1:11:10

house with me everywhere i ,

1:11:12

get away from me up

1:11:15

and as was assailed of real aired thomas

1:11:17

pleased and

1:11:18

i knew it was another eric in near

1:11:20

and i wanted him to emerge and lead

1:11:23

us

1:11:23

the not to trifling as my grandmother would say

1:11:26

the irresponsible in

1:11:28

the victim do i didn't want him

1:11:30

leave us don't was i wanted to restore

1:11:33

lead us at he for finally

1:11:35

emerged in my environment chains

1:11:37

and everyday change once

1:11:39

was he a march like you said i don't

1:11:41

think that there's something that's gonna were

1:11:44

actually happened to you i think that

1:11:46

harrison is insanity

1:11:48

you say you just have it

1:11:50

at nectar demanded by just like you haven't gotten

1:11:53

on one of the court in alignment with everybody

1:11:55

to bring that b at best person

1:11:57

out but i do believe for all of us that

1:12:00

person is inside a while and was waiting

1:12:03

desperately to come out pick me

1:12:05

let me give me the day let me

1:12:07

count on me or hundred tickets to

1:12:10

championships if yes sir you

1:12:12

owe us you do available

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at bookstores everywhere right now

1:12:17

amazon barnes and noble your local

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bookstore support them support

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this incredible human being done to eric thomas

1:12:24

mair he i appreciate you so my mother to mother lessing

1:12:27

to have space yeah i had anti

1:12:29

yeah i'm just ma'am excited see what to do next

1:12:31

match the and i'm excited for us to keep doing stuff

1:12:34

the together you know august

1:12:36

and stuff brewing that i'm

1:12:38

i'm not able to share yet last

1:12:41

august and stuff brewing and i'm going to need

1:12:43

a team the help me are to do

1:12:45

it and what i so appreciate about our