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So he was showing me his calendar and I was looking

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at it and then I was like, why some days

0:04

have this little, like heart, like logo

0:06

like this little, it's not even an emoji.

0:09

It's actually like the black heart that you like, you type

0:11

out like the old school kind. Yeah. And then he was like,

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oh,

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so I planned my itinerary according to

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like, how much, how tired we

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would be. I was like, I, I got

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it her ovulation cycle. Hello.

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It's Gerald Kim and Maya right here on another

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episode of The Naked Truth and

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welcome in today. We have got a very, very interesting

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topic. I think I'm actually a little

0:37

bit shy to be part of very

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shy,

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shy. Ok. I don't know who came up with

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this topic, but when we saw it, everyone was excited to jump

0:45

on it. Not me specifically. But

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anyways, these are things that we don't really discuss with.

0:49

You live on radio, but it's topics

0:51

that I guess everyone's thinking about. Just don't

0:54

really dare to talk about it. Today's question

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is how do you hinder

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to your partner that

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you want to get it? On. You want to

1:03

spice things up in the bedroom?

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You go first. I don't have to say anything. The

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married couple should go. Ok,

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I'll go first guys, I'll just put it out and

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then I'll tell you what Gerald does.

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So this is where, you know, we share people

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how we hint is it? Yes, I

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don't hint. You just do it. Put in the calendar.

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Ok? You

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tell me

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why now I'm so interested.

1:32

No, no, I'll tell you

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later. Ok. So how I would do

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it back in the day?

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I don't do it anymore. How old are you in

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the day? When things were still

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young and spicy right now. Married

1:43

life is quite chill one. But

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I usually would put on some music. I would

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dim the lights and I

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wouldn't put candles. It's a hazard.

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I also don't have the time for rose petals. But

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sometimes, you know, if you're taking a bath

2:00

or something, dim the lights, have some

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music on, have some bubbly, no

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aromatherapy. I'm not like a sensory kind of person.

2:07

I'm very visual. So yours

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would be, the lights are important

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lights. I don't like bright white lights.

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I think that I feel very insecure

2:18

because you can see everything. Do you turn my

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pores? Do you turn the lights off the

2:22

first time you guys do it or do you keep

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it on? I

2:25

don't need to answer. It

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depends on how drunk I am. Yeah.

2:31

But its music and it's lighting,

2:34

that kind of sets the mood.

2:36

Yeah. Ok. Now I'll tell you a

2:37

story. Very interesting. Ok.

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Well, I'll say for me first because I don't really do

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anything. Like, you know, when you cuddle

2:45

in bed, like you're the big spoon in the little, I

2:47

don't do these things.

2:49

You don't cuddle your wife. What's wrong?

2:52

Ok. Before you sound like a bad

2:54

husband.

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So, you know, when you cuddle the big spoon and the little

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spoon, are you the little or the big, the little spoon?

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Then you, then you

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just kind of like what

3:05

stop? I shouldn't

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be sharing these things.

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Then you just kind of like get closer like,

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you know, like you push your back against.

3:15

So yeah, like, you know, you just want to

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cle OK. But anyways

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for Gerald, this is what he does. OK?

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So there was one time he was showing me his itinerary,

3:27

don't say like

3:29

this. So we were, he

3:32

was going to Japan. I think we were gonna, our trip

3:34

was gonna overlap. So we were trying to look at dates

3:36

that, you know, we could meet and hang out, right? Oh my

3:38

gosh. So he was showing me his calendar

3:40

and I was looking at it and then I was like why

3:42

some days have this little like hard

3:45

like logo like this little,

3:47

it's not even an emoji, OK? It's actually the

3:49

black heart that you like you type out like the old

3:51

school kind. Yeah. And I was like, what's this little heart

3:53

icon? And then he was like, oh, so,

3:56

like I put my calendar, like, you know, when

3:58

we want to, like, you know, like in, yeah,

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so I planned my itinerary according

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to like, how much, how tired

4:05

we would be. I was like, I

4:08

know her ovulation

4:11

because you, I was like, what do you mean you

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plan these things? Like, you know, sometimes you're like in the mood

4:15

or something, you plan down to the calendar.

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So yeah, I also thought it was cycle, ruin

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the

4:21

mood. It's like, ok, now I have

4:23

a heart. Now let's get to it. So

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initially she didn't understand. I didn't want to say

4:27

like I didn't want to tell her what the heart meant.

4:30

Not, not her as a not him but my wife,

4:32

right? So

4:33

you don't want to tell your wife what it meant. So I

4:35

plan in a way where ok, today this day

4:37

we're not going to shop a lot. We're not gonna walk

4:39

too much. Why don't let me shop

4:41

today? We wake up later because my wife

4:43

loves to just go

4:46

for a holiday, you know, and she not

4:48

contributing to the planning. She loves

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to just be surprised and I always bring

4:52

her to different places. So I plan a way where some days

4:54

are gonna be like, ok, we're gonna hike. Ok,

4:56

I'm just kidding. We're not gonna hike by the house, we're gonna take

4:58

like long train trips and

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it's gonna be a little bit boring and therefore on

5:03

those days hot, I

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feel like, wow, your sex must be so

5:07

vigorous, man. The fact that you

5:09

have to, you, I

5:13

mean, many different

5:15

ways to have sex. You know? I

5:19

only know one way. Oh,

5:23

my God. What are you talking

5:25

about? How many ways? What do you mean? I don't want

5:27

to scarred for life. So,

5:31

so, yeah, I, well, Kim

5:34

thought it was quite cute.

5:36

I, I mean, I thought it was

5:38

interesting but I don't know about cute because

5:40

I just thought it was so interesting

5:42

to have it all planned out. So when

5:45

found out when she found out what the heart

5:47

was and she's like, oh, you thought about

5:49

it? So she was ok, you've

5:51

planned it all. How do you initiate

5:54

when I put the hearts? Right? If you see

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on my calendar, my go, right. There are many

5:58

hearts. It's not all the time. It's just,

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it's a possibility. You don't need to know. I'm

6:02

not, I'm trying to tell him, don't think I'm a wars

6:04

or something and I

6:07

never thought, I never said what

6:09

in the

6:09

world I want to participate in

6:12

now. I don't even want to ask you anymore. How do you initiate,

6:15

how do you initiate it? How do you

6:17

hint to her? Because obviously she knows it's going to

6:19

happen? Do you just stand there? And

6:21

be like, ok, I bat

6:24

very early. Wow.

6:26

I'm going to a routine right now. Then she knows

6:28

that, you know, there's a reason why I, because usually I like

6:30

to know when I'm back in the hotel, I like to

6:32

just, like, delay my phone,

6:35

you know, like just, just watch

6:37

Netflix. So as soon as she sees you in the shower,

6:40

she knows it's going to happen and she's like, ok. Oh

6:43

my gosh. So

6:46

that's how you initiate hint.

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Then she'll know and then, and then when

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she sees that, you know, like, like I'm in the shower

6:53

early, she'll be like today, I'm too tired. I'm like, OK,

6:56

OK, so I respect there's

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no candles, there's no rose petals. You're

7:02

in Japan. Very hard to get candles

7:05

in the hotel room because you only have

7:07

it in Japan, not in Singapore. It only

7:09

when you go to. It's very romantic in Japan.

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Why are you so silent?

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I don't know what to say. I got nothing to

7:16

conscious on a cruise as well. Oh my gosh.

7:19

Yeah, Jenny was on a cruise.

7:21

This is going public. That's

7:24

quite cute.

7:25

No, the naked truth, right?

7:26

OK. Ned

7:31

telling all his stories

7:32

that cruise, I already calculated her ovation.

7:35

You know, we were planning for

7:37

a baby. Right? Yes. Yes. Yes.

7:39

So I guess, yeah, you've learned a little bit more

7:41

about us how we all initiate or

7:43

how our partners initiate some

7:45

more subtle explicit

7:48

than

7:48

we need to dig more into Kim's life. She's

7:50

very closed up.

7:55

It's just that there's nothing happening in my life. I'm

7:57

a very shy person. So I would never, let's talk

7:59

about the times when it happened,

8:01

I would never initiate anything super

8:03

explicitly because I'm just naturally

8:06

quite shy. So you

8:07

wait for the person to initiate. How

8:09

would he initiate?

8:12

I've uh uh

8:14

I don't know if it happens. It, is

8:15

there like a hint? Is there like a uh

8:18

you wanna? That

8:22

voice is so scary.

8:25

I really hope

8:26

not run for the hills and

8:29

behind the

8:30

tree. I think it's just a feeling

8:32

like, you know, if you feel it, you feel it and it happens.

8:35

So it's all unplanned.

8:37

Yeah. It's all just very organic.

8:39

Wow. Sounds very Namaste.

8:42

Sounds like a fruit. I

8:44

don't know. So shy.

8:48

Nothing happening now. So

8:50

don't talk about it. And

8:53

married life for you right now. Married life

8:55

is any hinting or

8:57

is it like it's routine, I

8:59

think? Wow. Routine. Not

9:02

quite. It's more like

9:04

what Kim says, it's like the cuddling now. It's

9:06

more subtle. You

9:09

know, it's not as obvious

9:11

or obscure as before,

9:14

which is more exciting before after marriage. I

9:17

say it's different because we were also

9:19

in very different stages of our lives, right? We

9:21

were very young back then, very wild

9:23

and now it's a more stable, loving,

9:25

romantic, you know, I know

9:27

what I mean. Yeah. You feel me Yes. Yes.

9:30

Yes. Right now it's like

9:32

after you have the first baby. Ok.

9:34

Do I'm ready? No, I'm just kidding. I'm

9:37

never having, no, no, I'm just kidding. But, but, but,

9:39

yeah, I'm very happy with one child. So next

9:41

time, you know, when I have like a relative who ask, when's the

9:44

next one coming, I'm going to just say I close shop

9:46

already. Snap

9:48

you. No. No, no. As in, you don't

9:50

have to make a baby, right? Yeah.

9:52

I mean, if you're happy with one then just have one. You,

9:55

you take care, you want to pay for the school fees. If

9:58

they say no, then

9:59

don't have you made for me. Anyway, it's time for us

10:01

to go when

10:04

auntie asked me. But anyway, I

10:08

do not want you ask me ever

10:10

again if I say that you see

10:11

that's true. Just don't say that. But anyways,

10:14

yeah. Ok. We'll see you guys for the next episode.

10:16

Let us know if you have anything

10:18

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10:21

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10:23

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10:25

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10:27

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10:28

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10:30

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10:35

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10:37

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10:43

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10:45

again for the next episode of The Truth.