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LinkedIn Presents. I'm
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Rufus Griskim. And I'm Michael Kovner. And
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this is The Next Big Idea. Today,
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the power of noticing what's
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always there. Hi,
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everyone. How's it going? How are things?
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How's your life? Mine?
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Thanks for asking. Things are
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pretty good, I guess. I've got a
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pretty cool job, a great family. I got
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a new house a few years ago, and
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it's fine. I guess
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if I'm being honest, everything's okay. But
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it's not amazing. Not like it was
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when I first got married, or first
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had a kid, or first bought this
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house. Back then, everything
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was fresh and kind of thrilling.
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Now, I don't know, I guess
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I've just gotten used to things.
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I've habituated, to use the word psychologists
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use. It's a
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pretty common problem, I guess. It's why
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we go on vacation or seek out
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great art to freshen our perspective. Less
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benignly, it might be why some people
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have affairs or do drugs. They've just
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gotten bored with their lives, bored even
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with the things and people they enjoy.
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If we could learn to dishabituate, if
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we could look at our lives with
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fresh eyes, think of the benefits. We
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might appreciate the wonders all around us,
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bring a little joy back into the
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everyday. We could be more creative.
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We might also see the bad things
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around us more clearly, like that messy
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pile in the corner of the office,
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or more importantly, the injustices in our
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society. Dishabituation might be
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a powerful tool for inspiring
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gratitude and sparking change. So
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today, I'm going to talk with someone who's studied. the
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roots of this issue. Tali
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Sharat is a cognitive neuroscientist
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who splits her time between MIT
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and University College London. Tali
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also runs something called the Effective Brain Lab,
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where she and her colleagues try to understand
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the neurological underpinnings of human
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emotion and behavior. It's
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an interdisciplinary approach, one
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that tries to explain, for example, why
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some people are optimists and some are
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pessimists, how our emotions
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impact our decision-making, and why
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some of us are better at persuasion than others. For
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her latest book, Tali teamed up
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with another interdisciplinary thinker, Harvard Law
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professor and bestselling author Cass Sunstein.
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Cass teaches law, but his research interests
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touch on economics, psychology,
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and public policy. He made a splash
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with his 2008 bestseller Nudge, and
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he served for a few years in the Obama
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administration. Their book is called Look
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Again, the power of noticing what
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was always there. The book
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certainly woke me up to the issue, and I'm
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hoping this conversation with Tali is eye-opening for you
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as well. Tali
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Sharat, welcome to the next big idea. Thank
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you for having me. Really glad to have you here. I really
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enjoyed reading your book, Look Again, the power of noticing what
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was always there, and I'm glad to have you on the
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show. I'm really looking forward to
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talking some of these ideas through with you,
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partly because I think I'm personally in a little bit
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of a rut in my life, and
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I think maybe I could
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use some guidance on disabituating. So
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I'm going to use you as my personal
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therapist, if you don't mind. Before
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we get into it, though, I'd love to just hear
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a little bit about your academic
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background and sort of how, what
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sort of your intellectual progress has been that
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has brought you to this set of ideas.
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So I'm in the middle
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between psychology, neuroscience, and some
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behavioral economics as well. So
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that's where I'm coming from. I
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want to understand why people do what they
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do, why they behave in the way they
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behave, believe what they believe, interact
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with the way that they do.
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And to answer those questions, I
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look at clues both from biology
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and physiology, you know, and
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also from social sciences as well. So
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it's really a combination of
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the two. And I think the topic of
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this book exactly is that,
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which is we're looking at a phenomena
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that at the base of it
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is a very biological, physiological phenomena
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habituation. And the
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same principle that we can see in
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different animals, we can see also in
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humans, but we can see that it
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affects things that are very basic, like
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perception, but also it affects things that
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are very complex and large, like social
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movements, right, and daily life
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as well. And how did you
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come to collaborate with Cass Sunstein? We've featured
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a few of his books in the Next
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Big Idea Club, and he is an original
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thinker. How did you two come to
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work together on this? Yeah, so
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we've been actually working together for 10 years already.
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We have articles together and op-eds together, so
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we have more than a decade of working
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together. So that wasn't new. We
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came to work together because when
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my first book came out, The Optimism Bias,
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on the very first day that it came
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out, Cass wrote me an email. We've
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already read the book, like Cass
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does, right, and he
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wrote me just a one-sentence like he often
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does, just saying how much he loved the book. And
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I was like, Kath Bernstein, the offer
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of nudge. And
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it just went from there. So from there, we started
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working together on a
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lot of different projects, and we've done so for
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a decade now. So
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let's turn to talk about habituation.
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And I wonder what brought you
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to this interest in habituation? Yeah.
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Yeah, so in fact, it was one study
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that we conducted that's in the
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book that came out
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in 2016. And
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that study, we showed the people
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habituated to their own dishonesty. What
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we did is we brought people in a lab,
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and they had an opportunity in this task to
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lie. And if they did, they
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would gain more money at the expense of another person.
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Now we never told them to lie. We didn't say
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the word lie, but they could figure out, hey,
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if I lie here, I'm actually gaining more money,
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and my partner is losing, but I'm going to
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gain more. And what was
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interesting is that at the beginning, we found that
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people lied by just a tiny little amount, just
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a few cents. And then the
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next opportunity they had, they lied more. Now it's
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like a dollar, and then more, a few
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dollars, and a few dollars. So
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over time, the amount by which
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they lied escalated. It snowballed. At
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the same time, we recorded their brain activity. And
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what we found was that at
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the beginning when they lied, despite the
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fact that they lied by just a
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little bit, there was strong activity in
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their amygdala, which was important for emotional
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reaction. So it suggested at
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the beginning when they lied, there was strong
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reaction, like a negative emotion, which
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makes sense because people don't ... I
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mean, they think lying is wrong, and they feel bad about it
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usually. But then because of
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something known as emotional habituation, the
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amygdala activity went down and down and down over
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time. They felt less and less bad
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over time. The more they lied, the less
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bad they felt about it because of what's
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known as emotional habituation, which is we have
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less of an emotional ... response to
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something that's repeated again and again. This
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idea of habituation, it's interesting because on
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the one hand it's very common sensical.
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I think we all sort of know we get used
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to things, you know, and that's we
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understand that as part of life. But
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I think by really shining a
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light on it, you're showing the
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many ways we don't really realize
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how it is shaping our lives
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and our behaviors, whether we're taking
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more risks, relying more, or
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failing to appreciate things we have
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in our lives, good or bad. So
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I really appreciated the chance to really take a
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look at that mechanism and appreciated
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that it's also really grounded in brain
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activity, as I understand, and that even
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at the level of cells,
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like I think you show an
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optical illusion where after
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looking at it in a fixed way for a
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while, the color drains out. And I think it's
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because you're some sort
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of retinal fatigue, like something happens in
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your optic nerve where it
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just doesn't fire the same way
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after the first few cycles.
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Is that right? Yeah. So maybe we'll
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quickly define what habituation is. Yeah, that'd help.
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So habituation is our tendency to respond
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less and less and less to things that
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are constant or are frequent or
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change very slowly. Okay. So
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our physiological response is reduced, our
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physiological response is reduced. And so yeah,
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we have this visual illusion that, I
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don't know if listeners could find it
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with a link or something, but basically
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it's a cloud of colors. So
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there's green and yellow and red, it's kind of
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very pretty, with a little fixation
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point in the middle. And what you
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need to do is fixate your eyes on that
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fixation point for about 30 seconds and just don't
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move your eyes at all. And
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what you find is that those colors
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then become gray. And
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if you do it really, really, really well, this
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requires some practice, the gray actually
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becomes gray. white. And the
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reason this happens is because if you're not
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moving your eyes, the same information
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is coming to the same neurons.
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And so this one neuron
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will just get the visual
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input. And after a while,
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it just stops responding because that's what neurons do.
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If they get the same input after a time,
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they just stop responding. Interesting.
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And that's habituation, basically. But the principle
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itself, which is we respond less to
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things and things that are constant, are
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true to this more complex things. And
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this visual illusion
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is a good analogy for life. If
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you think about something that really excited you
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in the past, perhaps you moved into a
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new home, and it was just so wonderful.
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It was full of color. But
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after a while, you've been in your home
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day after day after day after day, you
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can't see the color anymore. Meaning
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the amount of joy that it gives you is not
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as much as it was in the beginning. And that's
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true for a nice home. It's true for an interesting
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job that it still
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may be interesting, but it's not quite exciting as
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it was at the beginning. Or
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a relationship as well.
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We sort of habituate to these good
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things around us, sometimes to quite a
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large degree, that they actually don't bring
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us everyday joy anymore. But also to
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the negative stuff. Maybe
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when you first got your job, there were
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some inefficiencies that bothered you. But over
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time, we get used to those things,
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small things like inefficiencies at work, and
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big things like racism, sexism, cracks in
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our personal relationships. If they have
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been there for a long time, we get used to
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them and then we stop seeing them. And
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as you said, to some extent, some
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of this is intuitive.
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But then there are so many
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things that are not intuitive. So
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let me give you an example of an experiment in
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the book where they ask people, you're about to hear
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a song, a nice song, maybe a song that you
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really like, one of your favorite songs. And they ask
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people, hey, would you like to listen to the song
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beginning to end? No. interruptions? Oh,
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do you think you'd enjoy it more if
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we had interruptions? So we break the song
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every 20 seconds and you know, we stop
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for 10 seconds or so. And
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99% of people say, I don't
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want interruptions. I want to listen
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it from beginning to end. Right? Makes sense.
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That's our intuition. But then when
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they actually did the experiment, what they
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found was that people enjoyed the song
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more with interruptions. Why
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is that? If the song
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goes on from beginning to end, you really
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enjoy it at the beginning. And the joy
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kind of goes down over time. You still enjoy
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it. It's not that you don't enjoy it, but
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the joy goes down over time. But
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if I have an interruption, then
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you have a little break and then
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you dishabituate, like moving your eyes, right?
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You're dishabituating. And then the joy jumps
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back up. And then you
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listen to the next part of the song goes down a
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little bit. I break, disabituate, you
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pop back up. So overall, if I sum
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it all together, the amount of joy that
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you get from having listening to a song
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with breaks is larger, which is super not
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intuitive, right? And it turns out not only
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people enjoyed it more, they were willing to
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pay double to listen to this song in
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concert. They did the
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same with massages. People prefer a massage.
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They say, I want a massage with
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no interruptions, obviously. But then
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in fact, when they measure, they find
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that people enjoy a massage more if
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there are a few interruptions in
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between. So what
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these breaks do, they
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let us dishabituate, right?
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They let us get away from the
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thing that is good, that we enjoy, and
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then come back so we can see it
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again. We can feel it again. Yeah.
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In some ways, you're pointing to the
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problems with habituation, that it sort of
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numbs us to some of the pleasures
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in life. But there
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are limits to it. I mean, there's a reason
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habituation exists. We couldn't live in that state of
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fresh experience every single moment of our lives.
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I was thinking about this in the shower.
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a nice hot shower and I thought, this is nice.
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And I tried to imagine, you know, what if I
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were experiencing the way I did when I first took
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a hot shower or after a week of camping and
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I came and I took a shower and I just
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couldn't believe it, how great it
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was. But I think I
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would probably be psychotic if I were
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taking every shower with that same level
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of intensity and joy, right? So you
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have to habituate. I mean, I'm sure, you know,
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there's a reason why those neurons don't
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keep firing. There's a reason why you
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don't keep being startled by the things
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around you in your house. To function, you
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have to kind of get used to things,
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isn't that right? Yeah.
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So as a rule, if there's something
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that most humans exhibit
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and if there is something that you
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can see in other animals as well,
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that suggests it is adaptive.
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So then the question is, why is habituation adaptive?
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So there's a few reasons. One,
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it goes back to motivation because think
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back to your first entry-level job. You
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probably really enjoyed it. You were really excited about
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it. It was great. Now, if
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you were as excited about this
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entry-level job 10 years later, well,
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you wouldn't be as motivated to get
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that next promotion, right? So it's good
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that we habituate to things because that
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keeps us going. It keeps us wanting
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to do the next thing, to move
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forward, right? And so in
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some respects, that's how our species
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evolved, right?
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Without habituation, we may have not progressed in
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a way that's not possible. Because I would just be
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so satisfied with that shower, I might never get out
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of it. Or I would be, if I
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was just so pleased with everything that
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happened, I might not make any positive
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changes in my life. Right. Exactly. Exactly.
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To get more. And then there's
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the really basic survival issue, which is
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when there's a lot of information coming
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away, if our brain would
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continue processing and responding to all
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the things around you, visual. auditory,
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you wouldn't have resources to
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respond to the next things that coming
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your way. The thing that you may
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actually kill you. So
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you need, the neurons are responding and then they're
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like, okay, I'm still alive. I'm going to quiet
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down now. And now I'm ready for
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the next thing that is coming my way. So
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that's a great thing. And
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the next thing, you said something that was
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actually true. You said something, I'll be psychotic
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or something like that. Right? If
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I didn't, if I didn't have a choice. That is in fact
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true. So problems
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with habituation are
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related to a whole range of
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mental health issues. And
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there could be different types of problems
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with habituation. There could be more
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perceptual habituation, just very
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basic. In schizophrenia, for example,
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people don't habituate as fast
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to just perceptual stimuli.
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But for example, let's go back to depression. We talked about
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that a little bit. So people
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with depression habituate to negative events
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in their life slower. They
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don't bounce back as fast. One
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example is a study conducted at
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the University of Miami by Professor
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Aaron Heller, where he
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had students who just got a grade
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on a really important exam. He
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asked them how they were feeling. And then he
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went back to them every 45 minutes for the rest of the
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day to ask them how they were feeling. And
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what he found is when people got a bad
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grade, everyone felt bad. It didn't matter if you
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had depression symptoms, the history of depression or none
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at all. People felt bad to
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the same extent when they got a fail. The
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difference was how fast they then
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kind of overcome it. Right? So
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people with depression, they continued ruminating
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over this negative event. Right? And
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they kept causing them to feel as bad as
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it did in the beginning for many, many hours.
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So people that did not have a
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history of depression and no history of
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mental health conditions, they tended to kind
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of climb back faster. and eventually just
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go back to their baseline level
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of well-being. Because they habituated
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more quickly to that bad
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news? Exactly. Okay.
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Habituate emotional habituation, right? They're like at the
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beginning, something bad happens, you feel really negative.
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So this goes back a little bit. We
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talked about dishonesty and how like when you're
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dishonest, you feel bad, right? But
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the next time that you're dishonest, not
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as bad. That's emotional habituation. So any
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negative things that happen to you, you
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feel bad about it. But over
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time, that negative feeling kind of
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declines. You respond less, right? I see. So
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that's an interesting example of a way
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habituation can help with happiness in
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a way. But I think you talk about
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happiness a lot early in the book. And
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there's this idea that I could be
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a lot happier than I am right now.
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Especially because I've stopped
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really appreciating some of
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the good things I have. My house, my
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relationship, that I have food in the refrigerator.
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These things are kind of amazing. They're
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wonderful, shockingly wonderful things that
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I have in my life. And
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yet I don't feel that shock.
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I don't feel that excitement day
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to day because I've just gotten used to it. And
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how much richer could my life be? How much more
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joy would I experience if I could bring back some
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of that thrill? Of realizing,
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I'm so blessed to have this house. I'm
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so lucky to have this partner that I
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have. Is that part of what you
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were looking at? The way
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that disabituating could increase a sense
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of happiness and joy. So
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I think the key is really
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this quote from an economist named
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Tiber Skitovsky. And he
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says, pleasure results from incomplete and
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intermittent satisfaction of desires.
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Pleasure results from incomplete and intermittent
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satisfaction of desires. It's not immediately
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obvious because you'd think it would come
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from complete satisfaction of desire. But it
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doesn't. Right. It's like the
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song. It's like in a song. you have to pull away
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and then you have to come back. And just
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like you need to pull away from the song
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or from the massage, you also, it helps to
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pull away just from your life to
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take a break and then come
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back. And then when you do that, and
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it could be because, you know, people may
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go away for business, travel, and then come
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back home, and there's a phenomena which
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we call respracling, which is that, you
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know, after you've been away and then
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you come back home, like things seem
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like they were sparkled suddenly, right?
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And I'll tell you where we got the word from,
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but before that, so there's, after
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we completed the book, we finished the
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book, I found this wonderful quote from
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Jodie Foster, and she describes this experience
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that she has where she went away
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for six months to film somewhere else,
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and then she got back home to
20:47
LA. And she said, I came
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back from somewhere that is amazing and beautiful,
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but you know, you long for really dumb
20:53
things that you've just used to, that six
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months ago, I'm sure I was bored by,
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but right now I'm like, my God, avocados
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are amazing. Or I'm so
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glad I get to go to the gym again. Things
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that six months ago were sort of what I
21:07
was trying to escape from, now everything is amazing,
21:09
right? It's only the avocado is amazing. It's only
21:11
go to the gym is amazing, right? The hot
21:13
shower is amazing. Things
21:15
were sparkle. I don't think
21:17
it lasts very long, but it
21:20
lasts for a little bit, right, when you do
21:22
that. And we actually got
21:24
the word resparkling from another actress. So
21:26
all these, okay, so it's another Hollywood
21:28
actress. That may like sound like, oh,
21:30
it's only these Hollywood actresses, they come
21:32
back to the wonderful home and then
21:34
they get sparkled. But I do think
21:36
in this instance, both Jodie Foster and
21:38
Julia Roberts, which I'll tell you about
21:40
in a second, they actually describe a
21:43
very like humane, regular
21:46
experience, right? And so
21:49
this word resparkling was from an
21:51
interview with Julia Roberts where she was describing
21:53
her normal life and her normal life is
21:55
like, she gets up, she makes breakfast with
21:57
the kids, she takes them to school. goes
22:00
back. Maybe she goes on a
22:02
bike ride with her husband. They have lunch. She
22:04
picks up the kids. Your regular kind
22:06
of day. And she says, well, if I
22:08
had to do this every, every single day, it will
22:10
probably be boring, but I don't. I go away and
22:12
I come back. And so there's like pixie
22:15
dust all over it, right? So her well
22:17
seems to her very modern day in regular
22:20
words seems so wonderful because she doesn't do
22:22
it all the time. I mean, I think
22:24
these lessons from Hollywood, by the way, are
22:26
perfectly appropriate. I mean, they wouldn't
22:28
be good actors if they weren't also sensitive
22:31
human beings, you know, be aware of what
22:34
they're experiencing and share it like that. So
22:37
that's right. I mean, I definitely feel it when
22:39
I'm away, you know, and I get back, I'm
22:41
away now, I'm getting back tomorrow. And I was
22:43
like, I can't wait. And probably
22:46
that's, that's why we take vacations in the
22:48
first place. That's, you know, sort of the
22:50
idea of getting away from it all has
22:52
been around for a while. But I wonder,
22:54
have you also looked at ways we
22:56
can resparkle without having to physically
22:59
go somewhere else for a
23:01
few months and come back? Like, are there
23:03
techniques or practices one can do in life?
23:06
I know some people do a gratitude journal
23:08
where they just try to focus on their
23:10
appreciation of things around them. Are there any
23:12
things we can do without going away that
23:14
could resparkle our lives? Yeah, so there's
23:17
two things. One is still this idea of
23:19
breaks. But maybe take your
23:21
breaks while you're still where you are.
23:23
So for example, one of
23:25
the times that I had COVID, I had
23:27
to go down to the basement for a
23:29
few days, right? So my family wouldn't wouldn't
23:32
get it for me. And first of all,
23:34
I found that being in the basement was
23:36
actually kind of like an exciting experience. It's
23:38
like going camping. Although I do, I do
23:40
have a shower with hot water down there.
23:43
And then when I finally after
23:45
a few days got to bed, go back
23:47
up to the ground level, I was like,
23:49
Oh, this is amazing, right? This is so
23:51
great. And then there's another
23:53
thing, which is this one we took
23:55
from Lori Santos. And she kind
23:57
of in one of her talks, she describes how You
24:00
could just close your eyes and imagine
24:02
not having all of these things, right?
24:04
Imagine not having your home. Imagine not
24:06
having your job. Imagine not having your
24:08
loved ones. And then, you
24:10
know, try and imagine it with vividness and details.
24:12
And when you open your eyes, then thanks for
24:15
sparkle again. So I think
24:17
that is true. Now the other
24:19
different, it's related, but a different approach
24:23
is diversifying your life,
24:25
shaking things up, making
24:27
changes. And the reason
24:29
is that when you think about what
24:32
makes a good life, usually
24:34
people mention being
24:36
happy, right? When you ask me what's a good life,
24:38
it'd be like, oh, I want to be happy. I want
24:40
to feel joy. I don't want to be sad. And
24:43
it's not only happiness that people care about. People
24:45
always also say, well, I want my life to
24:47
have meaning. I want to have purpose. And
24:50
that makes sense. But the problem is
24:52
that often the things that give
24:55
you a feeling of happiness and purpose tend
24:57
to do so less and less over time
24:59
because of habituation. So even if
25:01
you're a cancer
25:04
researcher, maybe at the beginning or for many
25:06
years, there's kind of a sense of purpose.
25:08
And maybe there still is, but it probably
25:10
has reduced to some
25:13
extent. And your research now kind of
25:15
feels a little bit more routine. But
25:17
there's this first component that
25:20
can actually counter the impact
25:22
of habituation on happiness and meaning. And
25:25
that is variety. If you
25:27
diversify your life, and people who do, people
25:29
who lead more diverse lives, such as they
25:31
live in different places, they interact with diverse
25:33
people, they work in different projects,
25:36
they tend to have a more
25:38
psychological rich life. And
25:41
what variety does, it basically
25:44
causes you to dishabituate, right? You're
25:47
moving yourself from one environment to another
25:49
environment. So you're basically disabituating constantly. And
25:52
by moving yourself, perhaps from environment to
25:54
another one or from taking a course
25:56
in something that
25:58
is not something that's really important. The you'd usually do
26:01
re you're putting yourself in a in a
26:03
state of learning. You. Need to learn
26:05
if it's a course the Odyssey need to learn. But even
26:07
if it's a new environment, you need to learn one of
26:09
the rules when of the hierarchy. Here, mates
26:11
and. Learning is a state
26:13
the people zili enjoy being
26:15
in. Subsidies. Show the people
26:18
really good joy from seeing them self
26:20
learning progressing. Once said he showed that
26:22
people aren't They had to do a
26:24
task and they got some money as
26:26
they did well and they were happy
26:28
when they got money. but they were
26:30
actually happier when they learned something new.
26:33
About the task person. So learning
26:35
actually gives us more joy. The material
26:37
things, material things we have between two
26:39
over times but learning we don't have
26:41
situate because learning is scenes and we
26:43
time between the chains. So diversify your
26:46
life rates, shake things up. They can
26:48
be small, he could be on gonna
26:50
comey to toward using a different route
26:52
day or he can be like well
26:54
maybe there's a new skill that I
26:56
can learn or a new course that
26:59
I can take you know outside of
27:01
work. Or a new friends.
27:03
I could make a new friend via
27:05
new kind of friend. You know, it's
27:07
the type of person I haven't spent
27:09
much time with before or going to
27:11
add new coffee shops other than the
27:13
one I usually go to. So trying
27:15
to build a lot of diversity? eat
27:17
even into your routine. Even if you're
27:20
not changing your life that much, you
27:22
can still find ways to spirits in
27:24
the in and little ways like that.
27:26
That makes us. And interestingly not only
27:28
does that enhance your will been enjoy
27:31
this city silly also enhances your creativity
27:33
And so there's say showing that even
27:35
small changes in your environment like a
27:37
work in your office for a little
27:39
bit than you go work in a
27:41
coffee shop. A you go walk in,
27:44
think about the problems and come back.
27:47
From Bees changes say so actually
27:49
enhance your ability to come up
27:51
with creative solutions. Run if is
27:53
your ten, your environment and than
27:55
your brain kind of. This is
27:57
more open to the new information
27:59
that. coming more likely
28:01
to take information from different places. Now,
28:04
studies show the enhancement in creativity
28:06
only lasts for six minutes every
28:08
time you change on average. But
28:12
you know, those six minutes could be the six minutes
28:15
that you come up with the next big idea. Six
28:18
minutes is a lot of time actually. A lot can happen
28:20
in six minutes. I don't know
28:22
if you have any interest in or have studied
28:25
at all the topic of meditation
28:28
practices, but I know from my
28:30
own interest in that that there
28:32
are some practices that are about
28:34
cultivating a beginner's mind. And
28:37
it's specifically the idea of training yourself
28:39
to look at things in
28:41
a fresh way so that when you
28:44
come out of your meditation, you can
28:46
appreciate what's going on around you in a way that
28:48
you might not have.
28:50
So there are these practices
28:53
of disabituation, I think, that maybe people
28:55
could look into. And interestingly,
28:57
I mean, we talked a little bit about people
29:01
who don't habituate much. A
29:04
lot of them, I mean, it's not a lot,
29:06
but people who habituate slower, we talked about how
29:08
the fact that that's related to mental health problems,
29:10
but on the good side, people
29:12
who habituate slower are also more
29:14
creative. And it's not necessarily the same
29:16
people. It's not the people with mental health are more creative.
29:19
But they found, you know, on one hand,
29:22
slow habituators have
29:24
some of them may have mental health problems. On
29:27
the other hand, slow habituators are also more creative. And
29:30
I think the reason is when you habituate
29:32
slowly, that means that there's more bits of
29:35
information in your mind kind of flowing around
29:37
like a soup, right? Bits
29:39
of visual imagery and sound and
29:41
bits of information. And that could be
29:44
really distracting because they continue being there.
29:46
It's not habituated. So they go
29:48
around in your brain and it can be distracting.
29:51
And on the other hand, it
29:53
also means that there will be these
29:55
unexpected combination of
29:57
bits of information and idea that will collide.
30:00
Right. Right. And then
30:02
come up with this new creative idea. Yeah. If
30:05
I've quickly habituated to the sound of birds
30:08
in the park or something, I literally won't
30:10
hear them when I'm going for a walk.
30:13
But if my habituations were slowly, I hear
30:15
them, so I'll continue to have that bird
30:17
song in my head, and that might butt
30:20
up against some other sensory experience, and that
30:22
might lead to a creative idea. Yeah,
30:24
that makes a lot of sense. You have a
30:26
richer environment if you're not just
30:28
habituated to everything. Related
30:31
to this idea of taking breaks, you did some
30:33
research on vacations and travel
30:36
and how there might be
30:38
a benefit to taking more short
30:40
vacations rather than fewer, longer ones.
30:44
Can you explain that? This was some
30:46
work that I did for a large
30:48
tourism company. I
30:50
helped them with their project, and they wanted to know
30:53
when are people happiest on vacation and
30:55
what makes them the happiest. So
30:58
first of all, we found that people were
31:00
happiest 43 hours into a vacation. So
31:02
43 hours gave them the time to kind of
31:04
settle in and focus on fun. And
31:07
from that 43 hours, they
31:10
joy started going down slowly, slowly, slowly,
31:12
slowly. Now, it's not that they weren't
31:14
happy on day 8, 7, 6, 5, right? But
31:17
they weren't as happy as they were on day
31:19
two. The second interesting
31:22
thing was that when we asked them, hey, what
31:24
was the best part of your vacation, there
31:26
was one word that they used more than any
31:28
other word, and it was the
31:31
word first. The first
31:33
view of the ocean, the first cocktail that
31:35
I had, the first Sun Castle that I
31:37
built, the second view of the ocean
31:39
was quite good, but it wasn't as good as the
31:41
first. And the second and third and fourth and even
31:43
fifth cocktail was quite good, but it wasn't as good
31:45
as the first because first are
31:48
kind of novel and exciting, right? Right.
31:51
So you experience these things again and again. There
31:53
is this habituation, this emotional habituation,
31:56
which makes them a little bit less so. like
32:00
always from this could be that it
32:02
might actually be the case
32:04
that you would get more joy from several
32:06
vacations that are shorter, right? So get more of
32:08
those 43 hours in, more first,
32:12
right? I should take a lot of two-day
32:14
vacations, do things for the first time,
32:16
and then don't do them again, and then wait a
32:18
while and do another two-day vacation to do something for
32:20
the first time, right? And come back.
32:22
Yeah, that makes sense. You need more than two days,
32:24
yeah. But I want to maximize it. If the peak
32:26
enjoyment is at 43 hours, I'd want to get there
32:28
and have it. Yeah, but... Yeah,
32:31
I know what you mean. All right.
32:33
So I'll see if I can take
32:36
more short vacations. And then another big
32:38
topic that relates to habituation is relationships.
32:40
So let's get some relationship advice from
32:42
you because I think one of the most common
32:45
problems you hear about in
32:47
marriage or long-term relationships is
32:49
a sense of staleness,
32:52
that you no longer see your partner with
32:54
the same enthusiasm as
32:57
you did when you first met. This
32:59
can cause, I'm sure, big problems in
33:02
long-term relationships. What
33:04
are some ideas about
33:06
disabituating your long-term relationship?
33:09
So for advice on that, we actually quote
33:12
Esther Perel. What she
33:14
recommends really fits nicely with all
33:16
the theories in this book because
33:19
basically what she says is that when
33:21
she surveyed people and she wanted to
33:23
know what time are you
33:26
most attracted to your partner, she found
33:28
that there were two answers that were
33:30
most common. The first answer was, when
33:33
I was away and I came back. So
33:35
this is like the break, you come back,
33:37
things were sparkle. And the second
33:40
thing that she heard was, when
33:43
my partner is in a novel
33:45
situation that I haven't seen them
33:47
before, maybe they're talking to strangers,
33:50
maybe they're up on a stage. And
33:53
that is like the shake it
33:55
up idea. They diversify, right? So
33:58
she's basically describing the
34:01
two ways to create
34:03
this habituation, which is
34:05
take breaks and changes,
34:07
diversification. And she's saying, well,
34:09
it turns out that when people do that, they
34:12
become more attracted to their long-term partners. So,
34:15
on the one hand, you might, you know,
34:17
take a weekend away from your partner. On
34:19
the other hand, you might take a weekend
34:21
away with your partner, but doing something unusual,
34:23
something different, so that you see your partner
34:25
in a new light. Yeah. And this
34:27
does not mean at all that routines are
34:30
not good, right? I mean, I'm sure couples
34:32
have these kind of things that they tend
34:34
to like to do once a year or
34:36
like whatever. And yeah, that's great.
34:39
It's not one or the other. It's
34:41
just that I think a lot of times we tend
34:43
to do more of
34:45
this routine and habit, right,
34:48
and don't. Because the diversification
34:50
is what requires more effort. So,
34:52
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code podcast. So
36:33
we've mostly been talking about the process
36:36
of habituating to positive things,
36:39
you know, the good things in our life that we
36:42
stop seeing as good. But you
36:44
talk a lot about also the issues
36:46
around habituating to negative things. You gave
36:48
the example of lying and how small
36:51
lies can easily turn into
36:53
bigger lies. Stealing, you
36:55
know, that people are willing
36:58
to cheat a little bit at
37:00
first, and then they get used to
37:02
it, and they'll cheat more, and they'll steal more.
37:04
Tell me, you actually have a quote from Bernie
37:06
Madoff that made that pretty visible. Yeah,
37:09
so he says, it starts
37:11
out with you taking a little bit, maybe
37:13
a few hundred, a few thousand, you get
37:16
comfortable with that. And before you know it,
37:18
it snowballs into something big. I
37:20
think this quote is important for a few
37:22
reasons. One, it displays exactly what I told
37:25
you about earlier about the experiment that we
37:27
did, right? But even if you take the
37:29
average Joe, and you put them in a
37:32
situation where they could lie for their own
37:34
benefit at the expense of another person, they
37:37
do A, on average, and B, they start
37:39
by just a little bit, and then they,
37:41
you know, it snowballs exactly like he says.
37:43
But I think what's interesting here, and what
37:46
he says, is he says that you
37:48
get comfortable with that. And
37:50
I think what that means to me is that
37:53
he wasn't comfortable with that to begin
37:55
with, right? So this is not like a psychopath
37:57
who just never had any emotion. never
38:00
had any guilt, was always comfortable with lying
38:02
and taking money from people. It sounds like
38:04
what he's saying is that he was not
38:07
comfortable with it in the beginning, but the
38:09
more he did it, he became comfortable with
38:11
that. And this is, of course, an extreme
38:14
example, but I think a lot of
38:16
these extreme examples are probably
38:18
these type of cases, right? Whether it's
38:21
Elizabeth Holmes or... I don't think these
38:23
are... I mean, I don't know them
38:25
particularly, but I don't think these are
38:27
necessarily psychopaths, that they got themselves in
38:29
this situation and it
38:32
just kind of became a
38:34
habit and not a good habit and
38:36
one that reduced their guilt
38:39
and negative feelings. Yeah. No,
38:41
I'm sure we'd find a similar pattern in a lot of
38:45
behaviors, a lot of criminal behaviors, a lot of things
38:47
we might call evil, violent people
38:49
or serial killers, kind of
38:51
getting away with small things
38:54
can escalate. And
38:56
I think your advice when it relates to this is
38:58
nip it in the bud. You
39:02
want to disobituate, you want to notice when
39:04
you've said a lie or someone has said
39:06
a lie, a small lie, a white lie,
39:09
and call it out and
39:11
make sure that it's noticed so that
39:14
it doesn't just become a pattern. Yeah.
39:17
So whether it is interacting with your
39:19
children or interacting with people in work,
39:22
I think often if the
39:24
lie is really small, we just let it
39:26
go. But I think the idea
39:28
here is that those small lies
39:30
can actually snowball. So it's better actually
39:32
to call it out, right? If kids
39:35
call that dishonest behavior out, if
39:38
it's at work, someone may
39:40
just take a little bit
39:42
off, a few more dollars extra on
39:44
expenses or something, which doesn't seem
39:46
that consequential. But in
39:48
fact, it's better to call out these
39:51
small acts because by doing
39:53
that, you're potentially stopping the larger ones as
39:55
well. And this
39:57
kind of plays out on a social level
39:59
as well. personal level, right? I
40:01
mean, you talk about we've in
40:04
some ways as a
40:06
culture can get habituated to racism
40:08
or sexism, climate
40:11
change, you know, these things which sort of,
40:13
you know, if we were really looking at
40:15
them and fully experiencing them,
40:17
we might be outraged, but we've sort of
40:19
forgotten to get outraged because they've just there's
40:22
something pervasive or kind of background
40:25
about them. I think
40:27
about this, you know, with news stories, you know,
40:29
the first time you hear about a school shooting,
40:31
for example, you're completely upset and
40:33
outraged. The first time, you know,
40:36
when a war begins, it's like the most shocking
40:38
and upsetting thing. And then if
40:41
the newspaper is filled with a day
40:44
after day, your own response goes down.
40:46
And there's something
40:48
disempowering about that. There's something awful
40:50
about that, because to make change
40:52
and to live in the world we kind of want
40:54
to live in, sometimes we need to be outraged, we
40:56
need to feel that same sense
40:59
of drama around the thing
41:01
that we've just sort of slowly gotten used
41:03
to. So I wonder if you have any
41:05
ideas of how we can get outraged again
41:07
at the things that are outrageous. Yeah,
41:10
so we do talk about this a lot in the book.
41:12
There's, and we go, you know,
41:14
as far back as World War Two and
41:16
Nazi Germany, and there's actually quite a lot
41:18
of documentation of people who were living there
41:21
at the time. And what
41:23
they're describing is exactly this very,
41:26
like, gradual change. I mean, there's a
41:28
few quotes that we have in the
41:30
book that are taken from other
41:33
books about people describing, citizens
41:35
who, well, they are describing their experience. And this one
41:38
German citizen, he says, each step
41:41
was so small, so inconsequential, so
41:44
well explained, or on occasion, so regretted,
41:46
that people could no more see it
41:48
developing from day to day than a
41:50
farm on his fields sees the corn
41:52
growing one day it is over his
41:54
head. And that's about things changing. But a
41:56
lot of things also are horrific, and they're
41:58
not changing. They're just fine. It's even
42:00
more difficult for us to see and
42:03
detect, right, whether it's racism and sexism
42:05
that have been there for so, so,
42:07
so long that we aren't able to
42:09
see it. And yeah, so your
42:11
question is, what can we do with that? Well, and
42:13
just quickly, I'll say that some people are
42:15
better than others at that,
42:18
right? There are people who just
42:20
feel the same sense of shock and
42:22
outrage at a higher level
42:24
and are able, maybe those people are activists or
42:27
I think you
42:29
call them disabituation entrepreneurs to their people
42:31
who are just good at calling out
42:33
the things that are going on and
42:35
noticing them. Those people
42:37
are important for making social change
42:39
and maybe we could all learn
42:42
that a little bit ourselves. And
42:45
what can you do? I think
42:47
the, and we call disabituation entrepreneurs,
42:49
these are people who A, notice,
42:52
and B, call it out
42:54
or do things to get other people
42:56
to disabituate. And
42:58
that requires making things very
43:01
apparent. And so, for example, let me give
43:03
you an example of someone who's not famous.
43:05
There's a lot of famous examples
43:07
that you can think of, Malali
43:09
Sisi and a lot of
43:12
other individuals, but this is kind
43:14
of just more of an everyday
43:16
example. It's a professor at
43:18
Princeton. Her name is Yael Neeves. And
43:20
what she noticed is that
43:22
there's discrimination, gender discrimination in
43:24
academia. And one of the
43:27
consequences of this is that if you
43:29
go to a conference, there's usually an
43:31
imbalance between female and male speakers, the
43:33
more male speakers and female speakers. And
43:35
that is true even if in the field maybe
43:38
there's equal female and male individuals in
43:40
that field. So what she did is
43:42
she made this website and on
43:44
the website she lists all the conferences in her
43:46
specific field in neuroscience, but you can do it
43:49
in anything else. So in her field she has
43:51
all those conferences. Next to each name
43:53
of the conference is the ratio
43:55
of female and male speakers in that specific
43:57
conference. So let's say female to male
43:59
in this. conferences one to five. And
44:01
next to it, she puts the ratio of
44:04
females to males in that field at
44:06
large. So maybe the ratio is two
44:08
to three at large, but in the conference the
44:10
speakers are one to five. So then it makes
44:12
it really clear. And she does something very
44:14
important. She puts the names of
44:16
the organizers next to that. So
44:20
now there's accountability. And
44:23
no one wants their name next to
44:25
data suggests that they are doing something
44:27
that's discriminatory. And so that
44:29
has a huge impact. It had a really large
44:31
impact and people started changing their ways. That's a
44:34
great idea. I think that's just one example.
44:36
It's very creative. It's very
44:38
impactful as well. Yeah. And it's
44:41
based on data. It's just making
44:43
something visible. It's not necessarily
44:46
accusatory. Like it's
44:48
not necessarily saying you are a bad person because you
44:50
did this. You can draw your
44:52
own conclusions. I'm just presenting this data. I
44:54
think that probably makes people more receptive to
44:57
taking it in so that they're not defensive.
44:59
They're like, oh, I'd
45:01
rather not have my name next to
45:03
an imbalanced panel like that. Interesting.
45:06
So this idea of being
45:08
a disabituation entrepreneur, it does seem like it
45:10
plays out at multiple levels. On
45:13
the social level, we can call
45:15
out injustice where we see it. In
45:17
our personal lives, I
45:20
think we can call out
45:22
the small lies. I was thinking about how
45:24
we can help our friends. When
45:26
we see someone who's kind of stuck
45:29
in a rut or they've become used
45:31
to something, one of
45:33
the ways we can help them diversify is
45:36
by having conversations with them. We can give
45:38
them another perspective on their situation. And just
45:40
that kind of interaction with people in our
45:42
lives, we can sort of provide a little
45:44
disabituation for them, help them see things that
45:46
are going on in their life that they
45:48
might not be able to see because they've
45:50
just gotten, they've just started accepting it. And
45:54
then there's also an organizational level. As you
45:56
say, I think at work, there
45:58
are so many practices. that
46:00
happen inside of organizations that
46:02
are either not efficient or not fair
46:04
or otherwise suboptimal
46:08
that everyone's just gotten used
46:10
to. It's just the way it works. And
46:12
if we can train ourselves to notice those
46:14
things and call them out, we will be
46:17
valuable members of that organization. Is that
46:19
right? Yeah. And one
46:22
idea of how to notice things is what
46:24
we call, we take it from Stuart Mill,
46:26
John Stuart Mill, experiments in living. And so
46:28
the idea is that we don't, we can't
46:30
really know what is good for us in
46:32
our life or what is good for our
46:34
society if things are always
46:37
the same, right? We need
46:39
to do experiments, just like we need to do
46:41
experiments in science to figure out what the truth
46:43
is. We also need to do experiments in living,
46:45
try different things to see what is actually good
46:47
and what is not so good. And how do
46:49
we do these experiments in living? Well, one
46:51
way to do it is actually to expose
46:54
yourself to different cultures, right? You might go
46:56
visit in different places, live in different places,
46:58
and you can't experiment in living yourself
47:01
in every possibility because life
47:03
is just not long enough. But
47:05
you can also learn from a
47:07
diverse group of people about their
47:10
experience in their living from
47:12
both art, film, poetry, books,
47:14
and so on. Experiments in living
47:16
is a great phrase and a great sort
47:18
of way to think about the projects here, right?
47:21
That we can, if
47:23
we can keep our minds open in
47:25
a scientific way to what's
47:27
happening around us and
47:30
test out different versions
47:32
of our life, we can
47:34
get around this problem of
47:36
habituation and live a richer,
47:38
fuller life. I'm
47:41
on board. Yeah. Sign me up. That's right.
47:43
Because you
47:46
learn from the failures, right? You get
47:48
information from the failures. Well,
47:50
I want to thank you and
47:52
Cass for being such great disabituation
47:54
entrepreneurs for us, your readers,
47:57
the research and background that you
47:59
and me have brought to this have put
48:01
a fresh spin on some of
48:03
these ideas and really helped me as a
48:06
reader with my own experiments
48:08
in living. Thank you
48:10
for having me. It was a real pleasure. Tali
48:18
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49:08
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