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Hey everyone , it's Erin
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Anderson with the Erin Anderson Betrayal
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Trauma Coaching . I
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am super excited that you have tuned
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in . Today . Let's get talking
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about how to heal from betrayal trauma . Welcome
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to the other side of the struggle trauma
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, how to heal it and then how to take it
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and use it to unlock your
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mission and your
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potential and
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to use it to live your very
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best dream life . When
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you're dealing with betrayal trauma , it
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can be hard to know how
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to heal it , how to stop the pain
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and to know what your next steps
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are to take in your own life , and
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these are the questions that we try
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to answer here . Trauma has
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the ability to rob us
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of our joy and identity , which
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is why it's so miserable to
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experience . But
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with the right tools and with the right
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mindset , we can totally
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reclaim that joy and
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even use this trauma to strengthen
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ourselves . So that way
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, trauma does not knock
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us off of our joy
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again . Living your
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dream life should be a non-negotiable
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, but trauma
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tends to try to negotiate
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that with you . And even
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though trauma is not
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something that we will completely ever
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be free of in our life
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, the pain is
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negotiable . This is why
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I created Erin
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Anderson Betrayal Trauma Coaching
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and this podcast is
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because I want my
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listeners , I want my
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clients , to live
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truly live free
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from the prison that trauma
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can put you in . I
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want you to live on
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the other side of the struggle . Hey
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everyone , welcome back to another episode
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of the other side of the struggle . Today
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I wanted to talk to you guys about
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the nice guy . I know
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we've already kind of talked about it right A
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few episodes ago we had
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my good friend , trevor Henniger , come on
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and chat about it and actually I'm going to ask him
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again to be on with
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us very soon to again
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chat about the nice guy Because , as I've
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been learning about this and
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it it's it's a very
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important topic to talk
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about , um , for
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a couple of different reasons . Number one you guys have
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heard me talk about the three different types
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of men . You know that I normally
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see you've got the mild , the medium and the jalap
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right , but
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nice guys
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kind of fall into all of those categories
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and I
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also see a lot of my clients who
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come to me with a husband who has
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the nice guy syndrome and
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the problem with this is it's anything
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but nice . This
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is what is literally going on behind
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closed doors and
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it drives the people around
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them crazy . And the
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other problem with this is everybody
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is always enamored with how nice
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of a guy they are are
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. So when you are reacting to their not so nice moments , everybody around them thinks you're the
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problem , because you're the
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one that's not acting nice . You're
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the one saying something is wrong , something
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is not right , something is not
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nice . He's
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not behaving this way , this is not normal
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for him . Or
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sometimes you
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just end up feeling completely crazy
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because they're
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very good at also mental manipulation
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tactics that are very underhanded
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, very subtle , and you
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don't even realize it's happening . So
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let me give you kind of an example of
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what I'm talking about . Okay , say
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that there's this husband and there's this
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wife , okay , and
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the husband is known
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as a really nice guy , but
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he's into porn and
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he's hid that pornography addiction from
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her For years and years and years
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and years Until . But
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she starts to suspect something's wrong because
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he has these really
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big mood swings at home . He
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gets really really snappy with her and
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then love bombs her and then he snaps
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at her and then he love bombs her and he's
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doing this mental yo-yo with
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her Right , and
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then when she asks him
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, do you possibly
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have a pornography addiction . I mean these . This
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is one of the signs he
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says why on earth would you think that about
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me ? Haven't I been loyal to
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you ? And
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he tends to and he starts
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to talk about all the ways he's been loyal to her
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. Remember last year when I bought
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you all that jewelry ? I was completely thinking
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of you . I'm
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so good to do the dishes for you . And
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he love bomb , love , bomb , love bombs her . And
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then he turns around and
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complains to her about
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how she doesn't do enough , or
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how she's not giving him enough sex , or how she's not doing enough . She's not enough
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, she's not enough . And causing her to
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work herself crazy , trying
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to show her affection
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and her appreciation and take
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care of him and believing
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that she's somehow crazy because
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she doesn't feel
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safe . But she can't
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necessarily explain why
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. That's someone that's
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possibly married to a nice guy , because on
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the outside he's everybody's
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hero . If there's
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ever a time that
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somebody needs something , he's the first
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guy on it . He hears
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about the neighbors down the street who
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got into a car accident . What
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does he do ? He lets them borrow his car . He's
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in the hero mode , right
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, are
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he's in the hero mode , right ? The mom and dad needs somebody to go mow their lawn . Oh , he's gone that
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he's going to go mow their lawn because it's so important for him to
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maintain an
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image but we
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can't maintain images with
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everyone all the time , and
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so at home he
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might do the dishes for
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her once in a while , he might love bomb her with
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jewelry or sweet words , but
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then he's also turning around and
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calling her names . We call this the jekyll
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and the hyde . That's a very big
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symptom with a nice guy . Somebody
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that is nice in
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one instance can totally
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love bomb to get what they want
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and then turn around
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and not
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be so nice later , be
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somebody completely different , and
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it it does . It leaves you feeling pretty crazy
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. Another thing about the nice guys they
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really also are not very
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good at protection . Okay
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, now , this is one thing we , as a
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society in general , need
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men to do more of is
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stand up and actually protect right
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. This is a beautiful , wonderful masculine
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trait that we
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truly do need more of
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, because
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there's so many really , really
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horrible things happening out there , and
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women in general tend to feel very
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, very insecure and very scared for
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their safety . The simple
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act of walking from the grocery store to
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a person's car is
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very different for men and women . For
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a man oftentimes they
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might be kind of aware , but for a
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woman , she's wanting something
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in her hand just in case she gets attacked
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, because
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that's something that is a very real fear
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. Because that's something that
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is a very real fear . Women are usually
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far more targeted as
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assault victims than men
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are , and that's just a statistic
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. We need men to stand up
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and actually protect the
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nice guy because he does
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not want conflict , and
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protection often requires some type of conflict . Because he doesn't want
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the conflict , he will push
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somebody else in front of him to
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do the protection , and oftentimes
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that lands on his partner . Finances
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aren't great , guess what . He
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leaves it all to her to figure it out . Another
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way that this might also show
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up in your relationship with
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a nice guy is if
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, say , you're trying
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to share your emotions with him . You're
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trying to tell him how you actually
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feel about what it is he's done
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and
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he can't hear you . But
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yet when it's his turn to share what
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is happening with him emotionally , you
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have to sit there and listen to him . You
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have to sit there and take in
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everything and change it for
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him . Nice
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guys don't like conflict
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and your emotions are
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one of the things that can create
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that inner conflict in him . So
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he might even acknowledge
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oh yeah , I've done something wrong , but
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it's not because he
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is . He's
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feeling any guilt , but it's because
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he's been caught . He's
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feeling any guilt but it's because he's been caught . See , most people are
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who are mentally healthy , I should say
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will . When they
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realize that their behaviors are not good , will
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turn around and
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, um , actually try
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to change . Try to change
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the things that they're not doing well , things that they're not doing well
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, things that they're not doing right and
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the things that are actually hurting another
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person . But the
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problem with the nice guy is
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this whole facade that they've created
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for themselves , where they have to
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be the nice guy , they have to be
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seen as the nice guy
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. That
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idea , that
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savior complex that they have
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, cannot be challenged
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. But again , like I said before
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, it's not possible to keep
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up an act all
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the time , and so it's usually
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the people that they are the closest to
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, aka
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their wives , that tend
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to see this the most . Now
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, so how do you know if
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you might be married to a nice guy ? Well
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, number one , like I said , people
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think he's just the best guy ever
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, right . Everybody
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around him thinks he's just such a nice
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guy , he's so
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good . But
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you , on the other hand , are like , oh
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yeah , he's got some nice things , but
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, and
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so you have this confusing polarity
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happening . No-transcript
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, you have to take care of
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the finances , you
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have to take care of your own protection , you
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have to protect his best interests , his
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emotions . You
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feel like you have to walk on eggshells around
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him and
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you feel neglected and
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confused and you may even be wondering if it's you . And you feel
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neglected and confused and
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you may even be wondering if
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it's you . Like
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what else is you ? Maybe I'm the narcissist
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? Let me tell you something . If you're asking that question
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, you're not a narcissist . So
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what do you do If
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you were married to someone like this ? What do you do If you were
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married to someone like this ? What do you do ? It
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doesn't necessarily mean that this
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nice guy unfortunately
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there are a lot of them out there but
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that doesn't necessarily mean that
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you have
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to divorce immediately
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. Honestly
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, the best thing you can do when you're
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married to a nice guy
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is set
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boundaries and
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recognize truth . You may
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look like the bad guy and
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people will most likely come
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at you when you're setting
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these boundaries . They
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may call you the narcissist . They
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may say that you're the problem because
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he's such a nice guy and
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you have to be willing to
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realize that . Yeah
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, you might end up having a lot of people
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come after you saying
15:44
not nice things about you , because
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you're finally done and
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you need to be able to if you want
15:53
to keep your marriage intact , because
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you do see a lot of good things and
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oftentimes I think the nice guy isn't necessarily
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aware of that . Somewhere
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in childhood they've learned to
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conflict avoid and
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in order for them to conflict avoid because
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that is like the
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thing that keeps them safe , that that is the
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thing that keeps them safe , that is the thing that
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keeps them alive . They've learned to do this for
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survival . So that
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means that anything
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that you do when you're setting boundaries
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is
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going to make them so
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they're not necessarily always conscious that
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they're doing these things . This
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can be a very subconscious
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thing , but it still
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needs to be addressed , it
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still needs to be dealt with and
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the way to deal with it
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is to , like I said
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, set those boundaries . And
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you
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need to answer that question of am I willing to look like
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the bad guy ? To
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give you an example , I had a client
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whose husband was a nice guy but also
17:23
had a consistent porn addiction , and
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she had told him over and over and over again that the porn addiction was really a problem because
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she had boys at home that had already been exposed to it , because
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he had been so deeply into
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it . He
17:47
had been so deeply into it he wasn't realizing when other men had stalker behaviors
17:50
towards his wife and his children , and
17:52
so the idea of protection was
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completely foreign to him , completely
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foreign to him . He had
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no idea . When his family felt unsafe
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and the behaviors of other
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men that were making them feel
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unsafe , he
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was asleep to it . She
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finally decided that
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she was done . She was done
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with the pornography Not
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with him necessarily she did love him and he had a lot of really
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good qualities but
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she was done with the pornography . So what did she
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do ? She kicked him out , told
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him he had to go sleep at his mom's . Well
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, his
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sister um
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chose to
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call
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the wife a narcissist You're
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such a horrible person . You
21:13
have no idea how to take care of a
21:15
man . You are the
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worst person alive and
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turned around and started telling
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her brother how
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horrible she really was and
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how she was never good
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for him in the first place , and
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my sweet client was the
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one that was consistently there
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for him , consistently
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saving him , consistently
21:51
fighting off the dragon . It
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really hurt my client . Luckily
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, her husband was smart enough to
22:03
realize that a
22:05
lot of what was happening in their marriage
22:07
was due to him , but
22:12
at this point he had been
22:14
such a nice guy for so long
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that anything
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negative that happened as
22:23
a result of his behavior looked
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like it was her fault , his wife's fault
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. At this point she
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came to me and she asked me what do
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I do about this ? This hurts , and
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one of the things we went through is realizing
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that the
22:44
reason why it hurts so bad was
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because it was pointing
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to everything
22:52
she had done for him that was never
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acknowledged . It was pointing
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to the abuse she was
22:59
suffering from him that
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was completely subconscious
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. Completely subconscious , it
23:10
was pointing to everything she had ever done just to try
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to keep things safe and that
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she felt crazy herself
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. It
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was pointing to the fact that , in order for
23:20
her to keep this marriage alive and
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to keep her family intact , she
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had to legitimately
23:43
give up herself
23:45
and her self-identity because
23:48
narcissist , calling her the
23:51
bad guy , telling
23:55
her that she was crazy , telling
23:59
her that something was wrong with her , that
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we
24:04
needed to stay strong to the truth
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. You
24:08
are welcome to think that way if
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it makes you happy . That
24:14
meant distancing herself
24:16
from some people that were
24:19
toxic to her because
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they did not want to get it . They wanted
24:23
to keep the mentality
24:25
and the vision of him being a nice guy
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, but
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the problem was he wasn't happy either
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, and so
24:34
his happiness , his unhappiness
24:36
, was also blamed on her . It's heartbreaking
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to
24:41
say to someone that you love you
24:45
are welcome to believe that if
24:47
that is what makes you happy , but
24:52
it's even more heartbreaking to try
24:54
to prove on a daily basis
24:56
that you're not the bad guy . So what
24:58
did she and her husband do ? I
25:03
talked to her about coming up with the four
25:05
non-negotiables , or
25:07
I should say she
25:09
came up with four non-negotiables . My
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recommendation is at least
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like at most , 10 non-negotiables
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, because men are also creatures
25:19
that need very , very direct instructions
25:23
and they need simplicity
25:26
. I'm not calling them simple creatures
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, by the way , it's just that
25:30
they do need very simple directions
25:32
. Um
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, and so the more
25:37
concise you can make
25:39
these non-negotiables , the better
25:41
it is for them and the
25:43
better it is for you , because they can
25:45
go back and remember these things . She
25:49
set boundaries with him
25:51
. If
25:54
you're going to talk to me this way , I'm leaving
25:56
the room . She
26:01
started a business and she started earning money
26:03
and started doing things that she
26:05
wanted to do with that money . But she refused
26:07
to pay for his things
26:09
. And
26:13
that's such a good thing , too , because
26:15
it taught him that he actually
26:17
could create . He
26:21
could get out there and start doing some
26:23
work . He
26:26
could actually lean into the things that he
26:28
wanted to do in
26:30
his life . He didn't have to deny himself
26:32
the good
26:34
things and
26:37
he started . Instead of being a nice guy
26:39
, avoiding conflict at all costs
26:42
, he started
26:44
being kind . Now
26:52
Teal Swan if you guys follow her on youtube or wherever she's at she talks about this
26:54
too the nice guy versus
26:57
the kind guy . See , kind , they're very gentle with
26:59
the people that they love , but they're not afraid to
27:01
step into conflict , and
27:04
this is why they're also
27:06
great protectors . Set
27:08
some boundaries with the nice
27:10
guy . Boundaries
27:13
that I would suggest are
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don't
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pay for him If
27:21
he's going to have problems financially
27:24
and act like a little boy
27:26
that needs to be taken care of . You
27:30
start creating
27:32
your own money now , before
27:34
you sit there and say I've got kids and I don't have an
27:36
education my
27:38
loves . This is 2024
27:41
. You can make
27:43
five or six figures online
27:45
. There's
27:51
teaching outlets , you can sell things online
27:55
, bookkeeping , virtual assisting
27:57
, goodness
27:59
blogging and
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, yes , sometimes it's going
28:09
to take a little bit of time for some of these things to grow fruit , but
28:17
plant your own seeds of money growth . When
28:22
you realize that you're not
28:24
a part of the finances and you need to be then you need to
28:26
get your own money , and
28:30
that is a boundary that you need to set with him and yourself
28:32
. And the money you make is not to fund him in any way . The
28:35
money you make is to fund your goals , your
28:37
dreams and your life . That
28:41
is what that money is for . That's
28:44
a very strong boundary , and
28:49
the boundary you need to set with yourself is
28:52
that you're going to persevere , you're going to push through
28:54
. That doesn't mean it's going
28:56
to be fixed tomorrow , but
28:58
if you will maintain this , I
29:01
promise you . And
29:03
if you start getting curious about ways you can
29:05
start making money online right
29:07
now , I promise you
29:09
that you will do it . If
29:13
you'd like some extra help with that , please
29:15
schedule a call with me . This is something
29:17
I love also helping women do , because
29:20
it is such a necessary boundary
29:22
, especially when you're
29:24
dealing with a nice guy . Second boundary
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when you're especially when you're dealing with a
29:30
nice guy . Second , he may sabotage things
29:33
that you want him to do , so
29:36
that way he doesn't have to be
29:39
responsible for doing them again . If
29:41
he does things like that , make
29:45
him go do it again . If he wants
29:48
to be treated like a child , treat
29:50
him like a child , somebody
29:52
who has to be told every single step
29:55
. But , most especially , come
29:59
up with your non-negotiables . The
30:02
non-negotiables I have with my husband are
30:04
number one he has
30:06
to have a relationship with God . He
30:09
has to actively pursue a relationship
30:11
with God . Number
30:17
two he
30:21
has to cherish
30:25
me . So
30:29
cherishing you
30:32
is actually one of the things that will cause
30:34
him to stop being
30:36
the nice guy , because
30:38
we want to be protected as
30:41
women , protected as women . We
30:43
want somebody who , when
30:46
they're going to come
30:48
after us , to step
30:51
in and say , no , that's not
30:53
going to happen . Cherishing
30:58
is kind
31:02
, not nice . Number
31:07
three he has to pursue his own goals and his
31:09
interests . He has to have some ambition in his life
31:11
. I
31:14
want him to be happy
31:16
, I want him to have a life , I want him to
31:19
enjoy what it is he's doing he's
31:31
doing . And number four no porn . However , if he does those other three , the porn will naturally
31:33
go away , because it's addressing the root issues
31:35
of a porn addiction . But
31:37
now that I've addressed the non-negotiables
31:39
that I've said with my own husband , there's also non-negotiables
31:41
with myself . That I've said with my own husband , there's
31:45
also
31:47
non-negotiables with myself . Number one I
31:50
don't take anybody's disrespect personally , but
31:52
I respect myself very
31:54
much . That
31:57
means I also respect other people's
31:59
opinions . It
32:01
doesn't necessarily mean they have to be right . Opinions Doesn't
32:07
necessarily mean they
32:09
have to be right , but they
32:15
can have an opinion of me that's not flattering . One
32:21
of the things I'm going to do is I am going to ask OK , well , you know
32:23
, why are they seeing these things ? Is there something about me
32:26
that could possibly be true , that I need to change ? But I don't
32:28
add emotion into
32:30
that question . I
32:34
ask out of pure curiosity
32:36
, because I love truth
32:39
, I love the idea
32:41
that I can do better and
32:44
I do want to do better . But there
32:46
are just some areas that
32:48
I can't do better in and
32:51
if those are the areas that are being judged
32:53
well , that's not on me and
32:59
I need to be okay with other people
33:01
having their experiences
33:03
and having their opinions
33:05
. That's
33:07
okay . One non-negotiable
33:10
for me is
33:12
I will always be my own best friend
33:14
. I will always have my own back . I
33:18
am going to put God first in my
33:20
life and then myself . Put God first in my life and then
33:23
myself , and
33:25
whatever comes from those
33:27
two relationships will benefit
33:29
my husband and my children
33:31
and the people I love . That's
33:37
my number one non-negotiable with myself . And
33:42
because the other non-negotiable I
33:44
have with myself and it kind of goes along with the best
33:47
friend here is I
33:50
will know myself , I
33:53
will know who I am . Anything
33:57
that makes me feel disappointed
34:00
or betrayed
34:02
by myself , that
34:05
is something that I am not going to
34:07
do . I
34:10
can get curious , yes , about how
34:12
I need to improve , because
34:15
I'm still walking on this planet in a skin suit
34:17
. My loves , that means I still have
34:19
improvement to do . God hasn't twinkled
34:21
me off the earth yet , okay
34:23
. But that
34:27
does mean that I am going to have to
34:29
get curious about how I can grow
34:31
more , how I can do better , how
34:34
I can be
34:36
more of who I am , be
34:39
the very best version of myself that I can possibly
34:41
be . But not because
34:44
I want to placate
34:47
someone , it's
34:49
simply because I want to be that loyal to myself
34:51
, because
34:54
a best friend will
34:56
always have your back
34:58
right , and
35:00
having your back means that
35:02
sometimes they're going to have to tell you yeah
35:11
, you kind of mucked that one up . Here's
35:13
the ways you can do better . Here are some things
35:15
you
35:17
can try , because they want to see you succeed . They
35:30
want to see you do the very best possible life that you
35:32
can have . My
35:34
third non-negotiable is that I am a seeker
35:38
of truth . This is very helpful when
35:43
someone tries to manipulate me . I don't take
35:46
anybody's opinion as truth
35:48
until I test it out for myself first
35:50
. See , truth will always
35:52
come back to to a physical
35:55
uh evidence , for
36:00
example . Um
36:02
, I had a client
36:05
the other day that was really struggling
36:07
with their self-esteem and self-worth
36:09
and really had a lot
36:11
of self-talk issues
36:14
. It wasn't necessarily
36:16
his fault either . Bless
36:20
his heart , bless
36:28
his heart . He'd had a very , very rough childhood and had
36:31
a former wife who was also quite toxic to him , and so when
36:33
he's sitting here having a lot of
36:35
this negative self-talk and wondering if
36:38
it's his fault , right , that's actually
36:40
a sign of gaslighting . He's wondering
36:42
if everything is always your fault . I
36:46
had to stop him and
36:51
I said , instead of speeding
36:53
up , let's slow it down and let's ask some questions here . Number
36:59
one do you have a body ? Well
37:02
, yeah , okay
37:20
. Well , god didn't give every one of his children a body . Does that mean
37:22
you're worthy ? Huh , yeah , oh , okay , that's interesting . Number two Do you
37:25
have a life ? Yes , so God also trusted you with a mission and a purpose
37:27
. So
37:32
God thinks you're worthy and he trusts you
37:34
. I
37:40
was able to follow the truth back to the fact that he
37:42
had a body and a life . Truth
37:44
will lead us back to things that we know for sure Always
37:50
, and
37:55
truth will also light a brightness inside of you . It'll bring hope
37:57
, it'll bring joy , it'll
38:00
bring peace and
38:07
it'll help you know yourself in a way that is irrefutable
38:11
, and it will awaken inside of you a sense
38:13
of awe in who you are
38:15
. Truth does
38:17
that , and
38:19
if it's bringing those things to you , then
38:21
you know you can trust it , and
38:33
that's an important
38:36
thing when you yourself have been betrayed by a nice guy or even a nice gal . All
38:38
right , my loves . I hope this was super helpful for you . If it was
38:40
, please and you
38:42
would love more help , please feel free
38:45
to book that call with me . It
38:47
is in the description below and
38:50
, if not go to ErinAndersonTheTraumaCoachcom
38:53
On my webpage
38:56
is booking
38:58
options so
39:03
you can book a call with me . My loves , I would
39:05
love to help you more especially if you're dealing
39:08
with these things , and
39:10
until next time , from
39:13
my heart to your heart , I'll see
39:15
you on the other side . Bye , my loves
39:17
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39:35
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