Patterns of behaviour that once spared us embarrassment, shame or judgment might now be the source of our pain as adults.

Secret eating once got us through a tough period and now it's the only way we cope.

Intense restrcition offered us control and now it's the reason we overeat.

We can ask ourselves "In what circumstance did this peculiar behaviour once make sense?"

Then, gently, we can begin to coax ourselves towards better solutions here and now.