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soothing techniques. Right, okay. You know, but she's really a
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brave baby anyway, so I didn't think I'd have any
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problems. And then like I was looking at one video
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and someone in the comment
2:09
was like, this is barbaric, it's
2:12
just as bad as FGM. Ah.
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And I was like, a reach,
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a little bit. Oh, wow. Yeah, but
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yeah, some people are proper, like proper
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against it. They feel like it's like
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the equivalent of circumcision
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as well. So
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that's bad. Yeah, but yeah, some people are really good,
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so they think it's like mutilation. And
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I don't know that I agree with that. I can't
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like, like, obviously, like, do what you want with your
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own children. But yeah, no, I was always planning on
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pissing their ears early. Like, it was just always going
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to be a thing, innit? But
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they said why, like why? They think
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it's like mutilation of the body. Like,
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that's what they equate it to, mutilation of the body. And
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I'm just like, well, I just think earrings are pretty. I
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don't know. It's just some girls. Oh, yeah, it's just
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some girls. It's never been that deep to me. All
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I call you should let them make their own decisions
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about putting holes in their body. They can just not
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fill it up. But yeah, exactly. But you
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can just, they can close, you know, if
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she decides to never wear earrings again. I never
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really wear earrings. I've had my ears pierced since
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I was three months old. I
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just, I don't wear earrings. I just don't.
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But I don't feel like my mum abused me. Yeah,
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I've got no deep, strong feelings about
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getting the child's ears pierced. Yeah. Circumcised
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in the child. I honestly think those are things
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I'm going to do. Yeah, 100%. I'm definitely, like
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if I have a son one day, I'm definitely
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going to do it. Yeah. And I've never thought,
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I don't know, maybe I make them, I've never
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thought that deeply into either of those things, nor
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do I equate it to mutilation of the body
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in any way, shape or form. And also, like,
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I don't really love how much opinions people have
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on people doing things for their kids. Yeah, it's
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obviously, I've done things for their kids, but I
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want to say to your child. And a
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lot of these, um, critics and a
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lot of these, um, views are often
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people who don't, who negate
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people's culture, who live and they're just
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like, oh no, right and right. This is how we
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think, this is how everyone else should think. It
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was really fascinating article recently.
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And it's always been, I don't, there's
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a thing called Ila in Yoruba. And
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it's just when they like, when you're a baby, they just kind
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of mark your face. It's like they talk of a blade, like
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literally they cut your face, travel mark. And I'm like, I can't
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think of English words. But
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they put travel marks on your face sort of thing.
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And the article is just talking about how it's kind
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of like, it's not really done anymore. And it's the
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culture. And it's really, really fascinating because some
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people feel like it is like mutation and it's called
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to you, whatever. Where some people think it's like a
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form of beauty and it is something you do culturally.
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And the article was so interesting because
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I, yeah, I don't see
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many people who travel marks anymore. I mean, I
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know either, I guess. Yeah. But I
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was just like, yeah, fascinating. Yeah, no, it
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is really, it's really. It was a really
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fascinating thing. And there was this woman on
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it who like, she's got travel marks. And
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she was like, it's never bothered me because I'm pretty. Yeah.
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You know what? Yeah, exactly. Talk
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your shit through it. Yeah. Yeah.
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Yeah. But that is fascinating. Yeah, very fascinating.
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It was funny because when I was looking
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around for places, it was
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just like, I must've come across one like tattoo
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shop. Yeah. So I called them up
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because they did piercings. Yeah. And then- So
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I definitely did babies. Yeah, literally I called them up and
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I rang them up here and then like, literally it was
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like, brr brr brr. Then it was like, come on, life
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is amazing. This is what
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I love this about. And I was like, oh my God.
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He said, no, no, no, no. And
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I was like, you alright? And I was like, yeah. So,
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do you guys be piercing? And he was like,
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yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. We did. I
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was like, oh fantastic. I was like, well, basically- You did piercing on
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babies. He was like, oh no. He was like, we don't even use a gun,
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but he's a needle. I was like, all right, goodbye. And
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then needles. Yeah, I was like, no. I just
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want a good old fashioned gun. Thank you very
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much. Take it to plan. Take it to fucking
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test. Take it
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to fucking test. Also, should
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have expensive earpiece in our music. Should have been
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piece of it. Yeah, they've closed up though. I
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was waiting for someone to know, it's like why
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is it not pissed anymore? So basically I
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took her to get them pierced and
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then she was absolutely fine, she cried because
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of the shock and then she was fine, fine,
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fine. The next day she was like, she
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wasn't really, she was crying a lot so I
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thought it might have been the earring. So
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I took them out and then
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they just closed straight away. But it wasn't
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the earrings. So she's going back.
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But I'm going to give her some time.
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I'm going to give her some time. I'm
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going to wait till she's six months and then take her back
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so that it's just in game. Let her get over the two
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months of her lifetime. Yeah exactly, like it just happened. I will
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be taking her back. How much did you spend on it? Not
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a lot, well, it was
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like £20. Right, what I paid for my ears?
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Six steep crig it cost me. Is it? And
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then I had to buy a real gold earring so my ear wouldn't like...
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No, no, no, no. I thought the reason why
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it might be expensive because they pierced it with
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a fully gold earring because that's probably
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what I paid for. I thought I paid about £90 all together. Oh,
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yeah, it's because of the earring. Yeah,
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and I thought it was still a good old
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kennel or something. Yeah, because, yeah, it's
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the earring. Yeah, because I pierced my second ear, what, last
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year to use that? Mm-hmm.
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But yeah, that was a gun. They didn't hurt that. The
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gun didn't hurt at all. Yeah, no, the gun, yeah.
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It's like a little thingy. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Not compared
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to my fucking nipple pierced knuckles. Yeah, because it feels
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like they do that slowly. Oh, Audrey. It's
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a pain that, even as you just did that,
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I felt it in my... I can feel it
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in my nipple. Yeah, look, I went, they would be tempted to
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do both. Oh. I had to do
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one of them. It's OK. It's OK.
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You've got the other... They don't use a gun. They
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use a needle, don't they? They don't use a straight
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through it. Like,
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just straight, like,
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straight through it. How's the feeling in the nipple? As
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in with the nipple? The sensation. Oh, I
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love it. Yeah, yeah. The only
7:54
thing is at all, like, because I use African sponges,
7:56
I use conchon soup, so sometimes it gets cough and
7:58
you just feel it. It's like,
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that pace. Yeah, I couldn't imagine. I
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didn't imagine. That's not, it is all good. Yeah,
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little piggies and sexiest fucks, man. Yeah, it's all
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good. So all there's a nice little surprise. Sometimes
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I forget it's there. But anyway,
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so you know me, you know how
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I love love. And not
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just in the kind of like, t-shirt
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surface level of it, right? Like one day I genuinely
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wanna go study it. Like I didn't like the
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science of it. I really wanna be
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like a scientific love expert.
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Yeah. You can create that. Like
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become a thing. I don't know if that's the wrong or anything.
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But I genuinely wanna go do some kind of
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master's or, I have to say PMD, but
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that's the one. PhD? What
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does that sound for? It's a
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historical department. I'm like, I'm absolutely in
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the eye. I don't know. That is not what it stands
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for. I feel like doctorate at the end, but I don't
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know what the P and the H stands for. I don't
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know what PhD sounds, but let me say it.
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PhD meaning, PhD
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means doctorate of philosophy. Oh.
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Why didn't I do D? Yeah, why? Yeah.
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Interesting. So that's my philosophy. Anyway, so
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I'm really fascinated by just like the
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master's of it, the science of it.
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I don't think it's such, I don't think it's
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purely such just a, oh, how
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funny, really funny. Anyway, so
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in that, every so often, I was just researching things,
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right? Cause you know me, I love collecting information. You
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sure do. So I was just like researching it, blah,
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blah, blah, blah, and I come across this research recently
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that mentioned, and I was talking about psychopath
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and narcissist. And
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it was saying narcissists and psychopaths are the best at
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feed dating. That they are always
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the most successful. They get the most numbers,
9:35
they get the most feedback from it. That
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they always like, they clean up.
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Like they make a
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killing them actually. And
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it's cause like they wouldn't lie. They wouldn't be here with
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the fuck you want them to be for. Like they wouldn't
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interact. They like, you know, and they're confident. And they do
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blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Anyway, on my
9:55
search of the park of bullshit, it
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got me to wondering, she's a Carrie. I
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just got off going so sorry. It
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got me to wondering, have you ever met
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Gnasty? I don't think I
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have. Do you know what? Because
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the word gets thrown around so loosely now,
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I actually don't think I know
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what the true definition is. Do you know what I mean?
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When I hear the word Gnasty or Gnark
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as some people like to refer to them as, I
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just think of someone that is just really,
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really self-absorbed, loves
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themselves. On the
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more problematic side, someone who is manipulative
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and that's just
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what I think. So I don't
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think I have. I don't think
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I've met a proper one that would be diagnosed
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with it. Because I think people are really quick
10:49
to call their exes, their partner's friends, and they're
10:51
slightly hypnotic and narcissist. And I think as much
10:54
as my exes have not been great, they're just
10:56
assholes. It's a bit of
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a, it's not a nice plan. But I
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don't think I'll flat out be like, that man is a narcissist. Because
11:03
apparently a narcissist is like a personality disorder, it's
11:06
a mental health condition in which people have
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an unreasonable, high sense of their own
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importance. Right, okay. But
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I'm also fascinated in when does it
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become unreasonable? Yeah, like
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when does loving yourself go too fast? I
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mean, I feel like when it trickles down into how you treat other people, because
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I don't think you can ever love yourself
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too much. Like, okay. Yeah,
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I mean, yeah, I don't think you can. I
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think so long as you're not weaponizing it or
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using it to down others
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or using it to your, using others for your own
11:38
advantage and taking advantage of people,
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then yeah, like, I think it's a good thing.
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I think it's a good thing. If
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you're using others for your own advantage and taking
11:47
advantage of people, then yeah, like,
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that's self love in it. But I feel like
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the narcissism side of things is when it does
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spill over into your relationships with other people and
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how you treat them and what you try and
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get out of, get out of said relationship.
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and said individuals. So yeah, that's just like my
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take on it. But have I met one? I don't think
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I have. Not a true one. I
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don't think I have. Because it's not a mental disorder that you have
12:09
to be diagnosed with, right? And I would love a doctor
12:11
to be like, okay, at what point do we
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diagnose a person with a narcissist? Yeah, yeah, yeah. What
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do you have to do? What is it that they've
12:17
done? What are they repeated things that it's like, okay,
12:19
called this person is a narcissist. And apparently once you're
12:21
a narcissist, you can, like, you're always going to be
12:24
a narcissist. Like there is no form
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of that. You can't change. You can't unlearn
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it. You can't set up eyes that you
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can't take a pill for it. Apparently a
12:32
narcissist are like lifelong narcissists. Yeah.
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Well, I guess you, I guess
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once you've identified it, then maybe
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it's manageable as opposed to like fully
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cure it. If it's like something that's innate,
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if it's something that's innate within
12:46
someone, then yeah, I guess you'd never be able to
12:48
do it. But you might, you know, through therapy and
12:50
stuff like that, you might find tools to manage
12:53
it and you know, but that's yeah, that's
12:55
kind of much. I was even listening
12:57
to Paul Banff and then he was saying that like, there
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are no red flags, apart from people who are
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psychopath narcissists. There was two other things, but at
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this dark triad things of people, he's like, apart
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from that, there's no red flags and things. And
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I thought, I don't know if I believe that. I don't get it. Like, do you know
13:12
how that's a red flag? That's a red flag.
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Apparently the only red flags, the narcissist, psychopaths, Those
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are pretty big flags. Those are more than flags. Those
13:18
are big banners. Two other things, I can't remember what
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the other two were, but I was like, everything else is
13:23
not a red flag. It's just something that can be worked
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on. So I can be like, we're talking about something that
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can be dealt with, but it's not a red flag. It'll
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be interesting to know what the other two are. People, because
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we do find the time around. So I would
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love to meet someone that's been diagnosed with it.
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When I said them, I would, yeah, I would
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love to meet someone that's like self self diagnosed.
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No, as an adult who said you are a
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narcissist. What do you do? What are you like?
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Like, yeah, I will be, I
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don't want to be post friends with you. Yeah. I
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don't know. I don't know. I
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was going to say, I've done it in one who I would diagnose
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as a narcissist. I
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don't think I do. I don't think I do. I don't think
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I do not. No, not to that
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point. Not to the point that I think it's a gate.
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I think some of it's like they know how other people
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feel. And sometimes they go, sometimes they don't. I
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imagine us, it just doesn't give a fuck. Yeah, yeah.
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It's just me and me only, other vibes. Yeah.
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Yeah. I don't think I've ever met one, but I'll
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first say about the fact that how much they clean
14:17
up when it comes to dating. But I can imagine
14:19
us this shows you the greatest of times initially because
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it empowers them and makes them feel good. It makes
14:24
them be like, yeah, I'm the man and the woman.
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Interestingly, I barely hear women being described as masters.
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What do you think? I've never heard a woman
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being described as a master. As in from a
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man. As in from a man. From anyone. From
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anyone. Have you? No, I feel like I have,
14:38
you know. Really? Yeah, yeah, yeah. I've never heard
14:40
a woman describe this. I feel like I have
14:42
heard of women, like people. But again, it's that thing
14:44
of... Is it just women that like to look good?
14:47
It's that thing of throwing the time around loosely. Do you
14:49
know what I mean? But I've
14:51
definitely heard of women being described
14:53
that way. Yeah, definitely. Yeah,
14:55
yeah, yeah, definitely. Hmm. Yeah,
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I've actually never heard it. And I'm trying to think of what
15:01
qualities those people possess. Yeah,
15:04
it's just people that are very
15:06
like self-obsessed, vain. But
15:09
to the point of like, you have no
15:11
consideration. Like, you're so engrossed with your
15:13
own self and your own life. And
15:16
I think sometimes it's like beyond looks as
15:18
well. It's just like your self-importance is more
15:20
important than anyone else's. I don't know what
15:22
the description says. So it's like being completely
15:25
consumed in their world, their problem. They come
15:27
first, not giving a fuck about what's going
15:29
on around them. But it's had no other advice
15:31
here, sort of. Yeah. Like for years, we've gone like,
15:33
we're going to... I want to talk about this later.
15:35
But there was a bit... There's one thing about us,
15:37
I'm going to tell you about documentary. There's
15:40
a documentary in Netflix called The Greatest Night in Pop. And
15:43
we'll talk about it more later. But when I was watching it,
15:45
my thing was like, oh, we used to be a country.
15:47
Like, we used to be a country. We
15:51
used to be a world. We used to be a world
15:53
where there was some huge, like,
15:56
something going on in part of the
15:58
world and people gathered together. and
16:00
raise money, raise funds and go help it.
16:02
They used to be, they used to be
16:04
genocide or they used to be wars and would all
16:06
be like, alliance people were like, this is wrong. Like
16:08
this shouldn't be happening. Let's stop this. There was no
16:11
like, oh, but the alternative, we used to be a
16:13
world. We used to be a world. We used to
16:15
be a world. And in fact
16:18
then we were brought up to be like, we
16:20
are the world that we are all one people.
16:22
We will have to consider each other. And I
16:24
think the narrative of how we navigate life slowly
16:26
changed. So right now it's like, you
16:28
and only you matter. Yeah, I do think there
16:30
has been a turning point of that. And I think it's come
16:33
along with the mental health. Yeah. With
16:36
advising discussions about mental health.
16:38
And I think that people have conflated that with,
16:42
yeah, of course, like, put
16:44
yourself first and think about, you know, yourself and
16:46
your mental health. But I do think along the
16:49
way, that kind of idea
16:51
of me, me, me has been conflated with, with
16:55
the mental health movement. Just not being their people. Exactly. And
16:57
it's that we had a conversation a little while ago as well
17:00
when it was like, if my friend's going through something, I'm not
17:02
going to be like, actually, I'm going to
17:04
catch. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Oh, that's bad
17:06
friendship. That's not a real, that's not,
17:09
that doesn't feel real to me. Like, I can't even
17:11
imagine that. I don't know. Maybe it's just our
17:13
friendship stuff. I just can't imagine anybody
17:16
being like, not
17:18
right now. Not right. Everyone's
17:22
fucking having a laugh. Yeah. I can't
17:24
imagine that. Oh, my friend just keeps dumping everything on me. Yeah.
17:28
I don't know. Like, we do
17:30
hear that though, because we get dilemmas
17:32
like that. Yeah, we do. But I 100%
17:34
think it's to do with the mental health thing.
17:36
I think people, there's like with everything, there's always
17:38
people that take things the wrong way,
17:41
or they take it to the extreme. And
17:43
yeah, men's like with the mental health movement,
17:45
we do want to pyrometise that and, you
17:47
know, put yourself first. But
17:49
not, I don't think it needs to be at
17:51
the expense of our friendships and, you know, being
17:53
a community in the village. Like, I don't think it
17:56
needs to be either or. I don't know if there's
17:58
a time ending, but hey, once I start studying. I'll
18:00
find out. But I think there is a
18:02
massive link to this huge fixation of self-love
18:04
and self and self and only your importance
18:06
and the rise of people that we call
18:08
narcissists. Yeah, 100%. You taught
18:10
them this. You taught them that only them matters. You
18:12
taught them that only their feelings matter. You taught them
18:14
that everything revolves around them. You taught them that there's
18:17
no lack of community. You taught them that like, hey,
18:19
if it's not good for you, just don't do it.
18:21
It doesn't matter what the community thinks. Why would they
18:23
not be fucking narcissists? That's what I'm saying. I do
18:25
think there's like a subsection of people that hold
18:28
onto certain things and take it the wrong way.
18:30
Like with anything, it depends on who gets
18:33
their hands on it. And I do think that
18:36
when we're having these conversations about that, those people that
18:38
are going to take it to the extreme and be like,
18:41
well, that means that, yeah, fuck off if my friend's
18:43
having a problem. Well, I come first and I'm not
18:45
going to allow you to dump on
18:47
me. And all of those kinds of like talking points that people
18:49
have, I think it's the people that they've
18:51
conflated it. They've gotten it wrong. There is
18:53
a world where you can put your mental health
18:55
first and be very aware of it and be very
18:58
conscious, but not be an asshole or do all of
19:00
that stuff with your mental health and still be a
19:02
village and still be there for people. But yeah, some
19:04
people just go to the left. I
19:06
see that. I'll be like, oh yeah, my friend
19:08
is just always coming to me with problems.
19:11
I'm just like, what's the point of being
19:13
a friend? What's the point then? Also
19:15
with fucking TikTok, someone will say, oh,
19:18
they got assaulted. They'll
19:20
be like, story time. No,
19:23
but that's really foul when people do that.
19:25
That is not, I'm sorry, that's narcissism. Because
19:27
they should have never given us the most. That's
19:31
the most tricky thing in their life.
19:33
You said story time. Yeah. I might,
19:36
I might joke to you. Or when
19:38
people don't even, it's not even the
19:40
same story. So sometimes they'll use like a
19:43
really triggering, moving situation
19:45
or whatever, and they'll stitch it with,
19:47
actually, but I want to talk about this. Like,
19:50
click, I'm sorry, that's low down and dirty. But
19:53
I'm like, it's not everyday shit. So
19:55
cheaply, strangers, people don't need to know
19:57
this most traumatic thing that's happened to
19:59
you. I think in years to come people are going
20:01
to watch things and be in deep with Greta and
20:07
how much they're going to be shared. They're going to be deep.
20:09
I still feel it about old episodes. Like fuck
20:11
man that was a close for share. Yeah,
20:13
yeah, yeah. ABC Tuesdays. This
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20:29
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Tax Act did things over, maybe Tax Act
20:57
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21:06
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21:14
about old episodes. Every so often I sit in my house and I think about
21:16
things with looking like an old episode. And I'm like,
21:18
I think I took quite my point. You
21:20
know what? Sometimes I think about it. You
21:23
know what? Sometimes I think that. I
21:25
think, oh my god, someone's gonna. They're
21:28
gonna bring it up and they're gonna try and use
21:30
it for like, counsellors or whatever. But with no context.
21:32
Because of the fact that that was 20. One
21:35
time. And they think this feels a fucking idiot. Yeah, yeah,
21:37
yeah. I didn't think I'd fixate my thoughts enough. And
21:39
it actually keeps me up at night to be like, actually
21:41
this is what I mean. And I want to say
21:43
that because I want to bring up a topic that we spoke about a
21:45
couple of months ago now. And
21:48
it was a couple of past book boys. Past book boys.
21:51
And you know, and it was like, no, they're
21:53
wrong. They're disgusting. And they're fat. They're not thinking
21:55
about past book boys. I'm
21:58
like. thought,
22:01
hey, actually, you guys
22:03
are still wrong. I believe I'm still right. Let me tell
22:05
you why. What was your taste? What are
22:08
they doing wrong? But I didn't
22:10
have the Oh, my brain wasn't working out there. I went
22:13
to say, okay, so in
22:15
America, right? Women date up, right? They want to date up.
22:17
They want to say that we talk about how to have
22:20
a program. And you believe in it. Yeah, you should want
22:22
to date up. You have you have had your right to have
22:24
this desire, blah, blah, blah, blah. If those men in
22:26
America, in England, wherever they are, that's
22:29
not their playing field. They're poor, they're not they're
22:31
not seen as much. They're not seen as
22:33
attractive. They don't see as anything that they can give
22:35
women in that country. Why can't they go to another
22:37
country where the woman thinks they're loaded? They're seen as
22:39
attractive and they can offer them something and they can
22:41
play in the game. And I know there is I
22:44
know people take things to fun and make it and
22:46
they take advantage of blah, blah, blah. But if what
22:48
I have, oh, God,
22:51
my head is getting hot. She's having fun. I
22:55
can't believe I'm having fun. Like,
22:58
if I get you by your way, and
23:00
my CV in this job doesn't match up,
23:03
would I take my CV somewhere else? Yeah. So
23:06
if my skills in America are poor
23:09
and fat and ugly and broke, I
23:11
can't afford your shit. In Colombia, in
23:14
Ghana, in Nigeria, I'm
23:16
earning in the US. I could offer you
23:19
a passport. And also, why are we not
23:24
seeing these women also dating up? We're
23:27
seeing them being used taking advantage of, but are they
23:29
also not just dating up? No, do
23:31
you know what it is? Because what you're saying in
23:33
essence, in essence, the idea of passport is not wrong.
23:35
Do you know what I mean? Because we say it
23:37
to women, like even now we're saying to women, if
23:39
you can't find your part of the
23:41
game, go elsewhere. And I know
23:44
quite a few women actually that have found
23:46
partners in other parts of the world, like
23:48
black women that always fall down
23:50
that they would date black men only. And
23:52
they're finding people in all parts of the world,
23:54
you know, North Africa, you know, Asia, whatever. People
23:57
are leaving this thing. People are leaving this fight. I'm
24:00
in love. No need, no need. The
24:02
past was his, yeah. What's wrong with that? And
24:05
inherently there's nothing wrong with it. Yeah. The
24:07
issue with passport, bros, is first of all,
24:10
the way in which they're speaking about the women. That's
24:12
what I have the issue with. And the
24:14
fact that they were making it known that
24:18
they want to date down because these
24:20
women, they
24:22
lack the awareness to make certain decisions. And
24:27
they were like mansplaining. And they were ultimately
24:29
saying on camera that they're going to certain parts
24:31
of the world to take advantage of women. I feel
24:33
like that's where it becomes, because of the power, of
24:36
course the power dynamic would mean that. In
24:39
essence the power dynamic would mean that
24:41
that is what's happening. But they were
24:43
saying it on camera in really smarmy,
24:45
misogynistic ways that personally make me feel
24:47
uncomfortable. If the conversation was to know
24:49
what, exactly what women are saying,
24:52
I've tried. I've tried. I can't find anybody
24:54
that loves me for me. My fact in this
24:56
country doesn't match. I can't offer the women in
24:59
this country what they want. I've tried. I've
25:01
dated from all different pools. And when
25:03
I went to Brazil, when I went to
25:05
Ghana, wherever, I found that women gravitated towards
25:08
me. I wouldn't actually have a problem with
25:10
that. But it's the things that they're saying
25:12
alongside it and how they're sexualizing these women
25:14
and how they're shaming them and how they're
25:16
filming them and embarrassing them. It's
25:19
all the trinkets that come with it that make
25:21
it problematic. But going elsewhere
25:23
in the world to find love, which is essentially what
25:25
it is, there's nothing wrong with that. Because I haven't
25:27
seen the show. Let me clarify that. I have
25:29
not seen the show. I just hear people calling
25:32
every man who's realized that my stats don't work. They're going
25:34
to live a country, a passport boy. And the thing is,
25:36
they're probably not. I'm sure in every movement. I want
25:38
to find love in this country. I'm not enough. Exactly.
25:40
In every movement, there's good and bad. And
25:42
unfortunately, there's shitty people who always get the
25:44
platform. But this is different because they platform
25:46
themselves. No one asked them. If
25:48
you were going to date internationally and do whatever
25:51
and you're managing a business call, it's
25:53
when you come on TikTok and you
25:55
see these women, they look visibly uncomfortable.
25:57
And they're making these highly inappropriate sexual
25:59
jokes. folks talking about their penis
26:01
sizes and like, you know, making these
26:04
women feel like, I don't know, just
26:06
they're doing the most mid thing and
26:08
expecting like them to worship. Like it's
26:10
all it's really, really weird. But it's
26:12
a mid view. Yes,
26:16
however, I'm not trying to project my standards,
26:19
but it's for me, it's the more the
26:21
way they're presenting it. Like that's just what
26:23
gives me the ick and makes me feel very uncomfortable.
26:25
Maybe if I watch the videos, I feel it right. I
26:28
just think someone's stats doesn't work in a certain country.
26:31
If it's not my playing field, let me go outside and play anyway.
26:33
Yeah, because you can say the same thing about, and I'm
26:35
not trying to liken people to jobs, but like jobs,
26:37
isn't it? Like literally you could go elsewhere and have
26:39
the career of your dreams that you maybe you've been
26:42
trying to do it here for years and it hasn't
26:44
worked out for you. But yeah, it's
26:46
that angle. But inherently, it's not wrong. It's
26:48
not wrong. Like it's actually quite proactive.
26:50
I don't know. I mean, it's quite proactive.
26:52
Yeah, it's not matching up
26:54
with this UK thing. Also, the places they
26:56
target, they know that women are, I
27:00
don't know what the word is, victimized
27:08
or they're in lower class. So
27:10
they're, because they're not going to
27:12
places where women are equal as
27:14
well. Yeah. So I feel like
27:16
that in itself is a little bit problematic. That's,
27:19
yeah, that's that's for me. I'm also kind of
27:21
thinking about a seemingly these women are idiots and
27:23
they're just like what managed to come and swooping
27:25
their feet away. No, because some of them be
27:27
playing the game and they also have their agendas.
27:29
And I think that maybe, maybe it's a good, it's
27:32
a good match. Do you know what I mean? And maybe
27:34
in their, maybe in their
27:36
world, they're sitting there laughing amongst their friends. Do
27:38
you know what I mean? Exactly. And
27:41
I watched something on that. It
27:44
wasn't necessarily called, it wasn't called passport, but
27:46
it was about that sort of thing where I think
27:49
this guy was, he was from America and
27:51
he'd gone to the Dominican Republic.
27:55
And he's been talking to this woman online for
27:57
ages. And then when he went
27:59
there, he went there. with the mentality of like, well, she
28:01
hasn't got any standards, she hasn't got any expectations. But
28:04
she had her agenda with him. So
28:06
by the time they met up and they collided,
28:08
it was a massive clash because she thought she
28:10
was going to get taken to the Four Seasons.
28:12
He was staying in some dingy motel room someplace.
28:15
She can't come in still before, man. Exactly. And
28:18
she thought he was coming with a bag and he was
28:20
going to whisk him off her feet and he thought he
28:22
was going there to be worshipped. So when they met, all
28:24
they did was argue. And then they realized they
28:26
had nothing in common. So it's not
28:29
always a seamless thing. But
28:31
yeah, that's a bit different. But the passport, very specifically,
28:33
the reason people don't fuck with them is because of
28:35
the way they speak about women. And they also denigrate
28:37
women from the Western world. And it's just like, bro,
28:40
if you haven't been successful in love, please go and
28:42
do what you need to do to find that. While
28:44
you're shitting on us saying that we're too independent, we're
28:46
too this, like we're not willing to be, we're not
28:48
willing to submit and all of these things. And it's
28:50
just like, hmm, I don't know. No
28:53
one's going to have this conversation. I'm not going to have it
28:55
either. We're
28:58
too close to the sun and it's hyper-independent. What do you mean?
29:01
There's something dangerous about it. It's okay. It's
29:04
okay. I don't have the... Okay, okay. Get your
29:06
thoughts on this one another time. I just
29:08
remember I'm someone who's very independent. But
29:10
I'm not like... Yeah. But
29:12
I don't have the sense of not here. Yeah,
29:14
here. You haven't... Yeah, I
29:16
need to think if I think we're too close to the sun with
29:18
it, man. I think we've... Yeah. I
29:21
think there's a difference. And I know you don't want to lament on it and
29:23
elaborate and we will talk about it another day. But
29:26
I do think there's a
29:28
difference between hyper-ind... Like,
29:32
yeah, I don't... Yeah, hyper-independence is definitely
29:35
a thing, but I'm also not here for submission.
29:37
No, no, it's not submission things. Do you
29:39
know how when... There's a episode that came out in
29:41
Valentine's Day and I was like... Because I feel this
29:43
deep now. I want to be chatting shit. I'm always
29:46
embarrassed by my wants for romantic love.
29:48
It's like, that's such a cliché. You've got so many
29:50
things in your life. And there are many other things that
29:52
you don't have. I don't have a bathtub yet. And
29:55
I don't sit home thinking, God! God, what is
29:57
that? That's a good account. But often I think about
29:59
it. with a romantic partner. I
30:01
did. So it's
30:03
like, why I've sat
30:05
down and thought, why does this feel so uncomfortable? Why am I
30:08
so embarrassed by this one for it? And I think it's because
30:10
I've ridden so close to this idea that I don't even want
30:12
to get in when I'm good, that I'm forgetting that innately, we
30:14
all want a companionship. That's exactly what I was going to say.
30:16
What we've convinced ourselves that we
30:18
don't need it. We don't need it. Yeah. And I think, and do
30:20
you know what, I think it's kind of similar to the idea
30:22
of monogamy. I think that there are some
30:25
people that can actually exist
30:28
solo and they never need that
30:30
one true love or that
30:33
romantic love. And they will be just fine
30:35
and they will sincerely, genuinely be happy. And
30:37
there are some people that crave that innate
30:39
feeling of the companionship. I think it's exactly
30:41
the same thing. And I think the reason
30:43
why it's different to the BAFTA thing is
30:46
because maybe for you, it is an innate
30:48
desire that you want. Because
30:50
I do think that at the same time, we have
30:52
kind of like romanticized the idea of like being alone.
30:55
And I love that for the people
30:57
that that can apply to, but I do think that
30:59
like, not everybody can be that way. I don't think.
31:02
I don't think that we don't
31:04
need anyone. Yeah. I don't need anyone. Yeah.
31:07
I think people are finding community and especially
31:10
women are finding community amongst other women
31:12
amongst their friends, amongst their family. And
31:14
they've kind of said to themselves, like,
31:16
I don't need that side. Like, so you're
31:18
not completely alone. But I can't speak to
31:21
romantic life. I can't say whether it's like
31:24
companionship in that sense. Because you can have like
31:27
a long term friend that you live with. Do
31:29
you know what I mean? And like, you won't be
31:31
lonely in that sense. But romantic,
31:33
I don't know. I don't know if that's an
31:35
innate desire for us to be partnered. Like that
31:37
one I can't speak to. Do you think it's
31:39
an innate desire for you? Yeah, it is. It's an
31:42
innate desire for me. It's definitely for me. And I
31:44
think many of us who feel like it's an innate
31:46
desire for us will deny it because it sounds kicky.
31:48
Yeah, yeah, yeah. It sounds like, oh, you're just a
31:50
little girl who just wants love. I think denying
31:53
yourself a bit in this idea to
31:55
prove that it's okay. Because obviously, like
31:57
you're gonna have to make whatever you're going through okay. Yeah.
32:00
Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Like, Hey, this is a this is
32:02
a life I have at the moment. It's going
32:04
to be OK. But I just, yeah,
32:06
I'll think about it some more. Yeah.
32:09
It's definitely something to think about. So answer your
32:11
question. Me definitely. Yeah. And
32:13
therefore, knowing that about myself, why am I embarrassed that
32:15
I want it? Why am I being
32:17
like, and I just be happy because the pendulum,
32:20
I always talk about this pendulum, everything I just
32:22
for like it goes in such extremes, because
32:24
now the conversation about like
32:26
creating village among other
32:29
women, among like the
32:31
kind of like the downplaying of romantic relationships
32:33
and almost kind of snide like sneering
32:36
at people that want it. It's gone so far
32:38
for others. But it's almost like it's like you're
32:40
shamed. Yeah. Say it kind of thing.
32:42
Whereas actually, no, like both can exist. There can
32:44
be people that want it. You shouldn't be shamed
32:47
for that. And there can be people that don't
32:49
need it so much. And they shouldn't be shamed
32:51
either. It's like the thing about motherhood as well.
32:53
It's really annoying like this whole child
32:55
free versus childless conversation
32:58
that people have. And it's like,
33:01
I love that that conversation is now
33:03
coming to the forefront because not every
33:05
woman is maternal. Not every woman should
33:07
or wants to have children. Like every woman that says she
33:09
doesn't want kids, you should let her not have kids. And I
33:11
think that that should be completely
33:13
normal. It shouldn't be a thing where like someone
33:15
says they don't want kids. Oh, you change your
33:17
mind. Yeah. You have your answers. That woman has
33:20
she said what she said and
33:22
you accept it and you keep it moving. But
33:24
now there is kind of like a
33:26
wave of like people don't say things
33:28
without bringing the other side into it because
33:31
people are having those conversations and kind of shaming mum.
33:33
And I see all the time on Twitter where people
33:35
are like, how
33:37
do you guys feel about the fact that you've got to go pick up
33:39
your kids and I can have a lay in like you still
33:41
I see things like that a lot. And I'm just like, for
33:44
the most part, people that have had children, they
33:46
probably wanted to like, you know, I know like,
33:48
yeah, I know parents complain a lot and stuff like
33:51
that. And trust me, there's a lot to complain about.
33:53
But it doesn't need to be. I find it
33:56
interesting about people who are in relationships as well.
33:58
I think some people, some people in
34:00
relationships and they counted down to them being special.
34:04
You're not. I think it's almost insane
34:06
to not accept that love is a
34:08
game of luck. You can't shame other
34:11
people because you happen to be lucky
34:13
in it. Exactly. It's not because you're
34:15
better than a person who doesn't have
34:17
it. People with bad characters, I
34:19
found the love of their life. Murderous.
34:22
Nasty people. Horrible, sick, people
34:26
are in a relationship. Ultimately, anybody can be in
34:28
a relationship, but if it's not the kind of
34:33
relationship you want,
34:35
then it's not the flex that you think it is on.
34:37
It really, really isn't. Literally, anybody.
34:40
Tomorrow, if you decided to want to
34:42
be in a relationship, you could. I
34:44
wonder, is everyone going to be brave enough to sit down
34:47
with men who have the desire for companions and
34:50
say to them, you can want it.
34:53
You can say out loud that you want it. It's
34:55
okay that you want it.
34:57
It's okay that you've got everything. You
34:59
bought yourself a house. You've done it. You're not fulfilled.
35:02
You can admit that. Maybe it's
35:04
me. Maybe it is you. Maybe
35:06
it is you because it absolutely is.
35:08
I don't know when we became, like
35:10
you always say, we used to be
35:12
a country. We
35:15
used to be a world. Everyone has to
35:17
be so cool that now you can't even
35:19
admit that you want love. Like, damn, you're
35:21
too cool for love. Don't be too cool,
35:23
bro. I want that chick here, but not
35:25
for me. Exactly.
35:28
I want someone that's embarrassed to tell their boys
35:30
what they do to it. Exactly.
35:33
You say, keep that shit for themselves. It's
35:36
a boy who's cool. You mustn't be you. You're a bum. No.
35:41
Because that's how I feel. Nobody
35:43
can see the sex that I think is right. Yeah.
35:47
Stand up. But you know who does
35:49
stand up when it comes to their man? Monique. I've
35:55
never met a woman so many times.
35:57
And do you know what? I'm a daddy. I
36:00
mean, women calling their... It's a bit much.
36:02
I can't answer. Like... I
36:04
mean, it's not... I mean, whatever. The thing is,
36:07
I don't... OK. In
36:09
the bedroom, cool. Really? I kind of see
36:11
it. Really? It's
36:14
not a bit of me, but in the bedroom,
36:16
I get it. But she refers to him
36:18
like that on a normal Wednesday. Who started...?
36:20
No, no, sorry. What
36:25
is the beginning of women... Because I know
36:27
it's not interested. Why did
36:29
women first start calling men daddies? Like, who
36:31
started that? What is the origin of women
36:33
calling men daddies? Because daddy has always been
36:36
my father. It's been fathers, right? So, yeah.
36:38
So, it's become a thing that is now...
36:40
Who sexualized it? Who? That's
36:42
the word. Who sexualized the word daddy? Who? Who?
36:46
Who? And why? How
36:48
did it come about? Was it deeply hidden? Maybe
36:50
I think it's a deeply hidden. But you know, like, do we have like a...?
36:52
Because anybody's calling me mummy. Do we have an African version? We've
36:55
got papa. Papa. I don't think
36:58
that's sexual. I think it is. It's not it. I'm
37:00
trying to think if we have something in... Yeah, anyway. No. But
37:03
yeah, that woman loves her daddy. She loves
37:05
her man. Like, she... Like, she... In interviews,
37:07
because they do... And it's so funny, it's not funny, but
37:09
D.L. Heagley refers to... Like, he was like, oh, you and
37:12
your daddy get up and do these greasy videos. And it
37:14
made me really happy. And I'm like, oh, I'm sorry. I'm
37:16
sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry.
37:19
I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm
37:21
sorry. I'm sorry. I'm
37:23
sorry. I am sorry. I'm sorry.
37:26
I'm sorry. But I'm sorry. I'm
37:29
sorry. I'm sorry. But I'm sorry. I'm
37:31
sorry. I'm sorry. I'm
37:33
sorry. But you don't have any videos. But
37:36
tell them to list up. People don't know Manique. So
37:38
Manique is an actress and comedian. She's a black actress
37:40
and comedian and she's done loads of stuff. She's
37:43
been in The Parkers. She
37:45
was in Muisha. She played Mary in Precious. She's done
37:47
loads of like, respectfully, like straight DVD movies. That
37:51
wasn't even shared, like it's true. I'm not
37:53
sure. It's just like my paper
37:55
films. Like shit. Fat girls. I
37:57
feel like I'm sad a bit but I haven't seen it. That's
37:59
what fat girls. She worked, is it in the pile?
38:03
No, it's not as in pH. Oh my
38:05
God! I don't know, why is that so
38:07
funny?! Oh my
38:09
God! I don't
38:12
know, why is that so
38:14
funny?! Oh my God! Oh
38:17
my God! I don't
38:20
know what ever. It's so
38:22
funny, please.
38:25
Sorry, I don't know why that is so funny, please. Sorry,
38:35
I don't know why I'm laughing so hard. I can't get it
38:37
together. Oh my God, why
38:39
is that so funny? Okay. Back
38:42
to pH. It
38:44
is my next main
38:46
character, and she works
38:48
in department school, right? But
38:52
there's never anything they can wear because... I'm
38:57
so laughing at the pH! I think it's on this
38:59
side. Oh my God! And there's nothing they can wear
39:01
because it's like the department school only does that for a
39:03
certain time. So she's going
39:05
to be a fashion designer and creates a fat
39:07
girl. Oh okay. Oh my God, it's a fat
39:09
girl. Oh okay. And then she
39:11
falls in love at some point in it. Oh yeah, yeah.
39:13
It's such a massive man. Oh my God, it's such
39:16
a massive man. It's such a massive
39:18
man. That sounds like strange to me. What even did
39:20
you do? I watched it so many times. I'm really
39:22
worried. I'm so curious. I'm pretty sure it's on Disney.
39:24
Oh my God. Also seen on Fat Girls. On Fat
39:26
Girls. I think she's in Snakes and the Break. She's
39:28
in loads of black, your favorite black films and stuff.
39:31
Always Christmas on the front. So
39:33
lately she had won an Oscar for her role in Precious, and lately she's been
39:35
fighting the
39:40
good fight. We've talked about it in previous
39:42
episodes, but she's been fighting the good
39:44
fight for black
39:47
women to get equal pay in Hollywood. And
39:50
recently she, and her husband
39:52
is her manager, and he comes everywhere
39:54
with her. Yeah. Like everywhere. Like
39:57
every interview she does, he's there. He's by her side.
39:59
And she's like, But it is, I
40:01
do invite it, and something that she said recently, because
40:03
she did the club chaise interview, and that's just gone
40:05
viral, and she was out in everybody, she was
40:07
still talking about Tyler Perry and Oprah Winfrey, like
40:09
she's really got it in for them people, like
40:11
she's fighting the good fight. And she
40:14
talked about it, and she said that, you
40:16
know, it's a sad day when people, you
40:18
know what I just thought, Tyler Perry's out
40:20
there giving, having Megan money,
40:22
but it's not, do you know, that
40:25
is a fucking good point.
40:29
He's not giving her that money. He
40:31
can't now. He can't because if
40:33
he gives it to her now, it's going to vindicate her. And
40:36
it's also owed money by proxy. It's not
40:38
like, yeah, yeah, yeah. You know what
40:40
I mean? It's by like, oh, because you said
40:42
this, you should, yeah, yeah. Not because, not factual,
40:44
anything factual. Yeah, exactly, exactly. Yeah, so
40:46
she's been fighting the good fight, and she recently talked
40:48
about it in the club, and she said, you know,
40:50
it's not going to be a good fight. It's not
40:52
going to be a good fight. It's not going to
40:55
be a good fight. It's not going to be a good fight. And
40:57
then she talked about it in the club show,
40:59
she interviewed her husband, and she was like, you
41:01
know, she gets flogged a lot, because it's really
41:03
like, divided. Some people feel like her
41:06
husband is a big part of the
41:08
reason why she keeps on running into these issues. And
41:10
they just feel like, no, he is your main
41:13
hater, like he is your main problem. And then,
41:15
but she's very defensive of her relationship. I suppose she
41:17
would be, she's been married for a really long time.
41:19
And she's just like, no, he stands by me, like
41:21
that's my daddy kind of thing. Like, it's
41:24
a dark day when everybody can't
41:27
just be happy for the fact that there's like, this is black
41:29
love and this is like strong black love. She made a very valid
41:31
point. She did make very, very valid points.
41:33
But she's also made a comment on the
41:35
same interview that he raised her. And
41:39
there's a lot of that language going around lately. I had
41:41
my mad lady mad when I was going. Yeah, it's giving
41:43
that, it's like, being
41:45
raised by your husband, like your husband being
41:47
your daddy, like, I don't want
41:49
to live in a world where we can flake the two.
41:51
Like, your husband is your husband. And
41:54
I know it's not literally, but it's really
41:56
weird. I don't like
41:58
us sexualizing the father daughter. relationship. Like we meet,
42:00
it's just weird. Like I just, I don't want to put
42:02
them in the same room. The whole raised thing, I
42:04
think my understanding of it
42:06
when she said it was that, like I
42:08
think there is, because she's like, was saying
42:10
how she did my three times already. She
42:13
was very like, I'm independent. I've got money. I'm
42:15
happy with it. She said she was a ho for
42:18
a bit as well. Yeah, so she was a
42:20
friendly pussy. She said friendly. She said she had
42:22
a friendly pussy. So I thought the raised thing
42:24
as the like, I
42:27
think there was something in being in a good relationship
42:29
and being with someone who kind of teaches you things
42:31
about yourself. So maybe the word
42:33
is not raised, right? Not just like
42:35
it's more like together we became, I
42:37
became a bit of version of me.
42:39
I don't know. Like I don't know
42:41
if it's like, because I can say
42:43
being around you, you raised me. I
42:46
can, do you know what I mean? I can say being around
42:48
certain people in my life that I feel like they have brought
42:51
a better side of me. And it's not, I don't
42:53
mean raised as if to say that you're taking a
42:55
job that my mum didn't do because my mum raised
42:57
me amazingly. But there's also being in your life being
43:00
around you that you, you brought a different version of
43:02
me. You made me see that in a different way
43:04
that is also being raised. I
43:06
don't think you ever stop growing, ever stop
43:08
learning. Yeah, definitely. I think that's what it is. I don't
43:10
want to take it to be like, I mean, I
43:13
don't believe anybody should be calling their husband's daddy. I
43:15
genuinely called my father, daddy.
43:19
Same. There's something, there's
43:21
something very like obedient about
43:24
that as well. Do you know what I
43:26
mean? Yeah, I just don't know why a guy
43:28
would like to be called. Yeah, I
43:30
don't, I don't get it. Like in all
43:32
honesty, I honestly don't get it. I'm not
43:34
really here for people's partners being their manager, unless the
43:36
back person knows what the fuck it is that they're
43:38
doing. Yeah. Yeah, I agree with that. I feel like,
43:42
okay, you want to bring your people in, but your
43:44
boy from down the road, he can't just be head
43:46
of security. They have to know what they're doing. He's
43:48
just a couple of people. It doesn't mean that he's
43:50
got what it takes to be security. Your boy that
43:52
made a phone call for you one time doesn't mean
43:54
he's going to be your PR like hire people that
43:56
I don't know what Monique's husband's qualifications are in that
43:59
field. I don't know. who managed before from what
44:01
she said in the interview. They were friends and she
44:03
never mentioned him. Who are your
44:05
other clients? And I was hoping about other
44:07
clients, but even if he's gonna be your manager,
44:09
right? Elise has an agent somewhere else, a PR
44:11
somewhere else, but Monique's pilot feels that he's doing
44:14
everything. And I'm not convinced by that world until
44:16
I see men start letting women be there, everything,
44:18
I don't see a successful man. I start, yeah, my
44:20
woman's my manager friend. No, never. You are
44:22
the wife for the most part, which is completely fair,
44:24
and the professionals do what they need to do, not
44:26
that they don't have women on their team, but the
44:29
wife, I can't think of an example.
44:31
The only thing I know for sure, I think Michelle manages
44:33
Marvin. Do you not? Oh,
44:36
does she? I didn't know that. I'm pretty sure for sure.
44:38
Yeah, yeah, yeah, I'm pretty sure they announced it recently. But
44:40
I feel like if the person knows what you're doing and
44:42
they have your best interest at heart, sure,
44:44
whatever. I'm just not necessarily always convinced
44:46
by it, and by interviews, it doesn't always
44:48
seem like he knows
44:50
what he's doing fully, but I
44:53
like Monique. It makes me very personal. I
44:55
do, I like Monique. I like that
44:57
she's a true setting. that
44:59
I thought was fucking brilliant. Obviously
45:02
the whole thing with Tawashi, Tawashi being coming
45:04
out, being like, hey, we're not getting treated fairly. This
45:07
happened in kind of purple. Which I probably believe all
45:09
of that. Y'all, the day
45:11
the big Oprah exposure comes
45:14
up, fam. I
45:16
mean, I have my thoughts on how, but I can't get
45:19
into it because- They didn't double dare me to
45:21
speak badly about April. I will always
45:23
just quote what other people said. I don't know how I've
45:25
never met her. I've never met her a day in my life.
45:28
I'm not that dumb. I don't
45:31
know a thing about Oprah, apart from she's banging
45:33
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46:40
teacher. But who isn't? They all are.
46:43
I saw a baguette in the Olympic. Oh, people
46:45
are so dumb, because there was a picture of Jada
46:48
Pinkett Smith, and
46:50
she was just like, she
46:52
was wearing baguette ties at everyone, but then they thought it was a
46:54
fact I won an Olympic. That's what I was
46:56
saying. And then someone
46:58
wrote in the comments, leave them people's
47:00
diabetes medication alone. But no, no, literally, it's
47:02
actually on dryer B-team. I was like, everyone
47:05
is bagging at Osempic. And there was a
47:07
thing in the news, because Osempic is so
47:09
new as a way to use the weight
47:11
loss. And it's making people feel all the time.
47:13
There's a woman that was like, she just like, she keeps
47:15
kissing. She's got permanent diarrhea now. Do you remember when Kekane
47:18
West was exposing Kim Kardashian, she said she shits
47:20
more than the average person. He
47:22
sure did, he put out that text. Just saying. But
47:26
yeah, more so I say that
47:28
for the Osempic. So as you
47:30
come up with the whole kind of pepper being
47:32
like, hey, we're treated really badly, we have to drive
47:34
ourselves to say blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah,
47:36
blah, blah. And obviously everybody was like, oh,
47:38
poor SoaRgy. And also when you watch the interview,
47:41
oh my God, SoaRgy looks so down stricken.
47:43
She doesn't like to sound bad. I've never
47:45
seen SoaRgy in that interview. She
47:48
looks so down, she looks so up there. She
47:50
looks broken. And I think she looks broken by an industry
47:52
that she loves being a part of so much but it's
47:54
just not being kind to her. And it's just like, what
47:57
do you want me to do? I'm at the peak of
47:59
my career. judgment is made. You
48:02
think I'm a richer person than what I'm getting paid with this
48:04
money and I'm still not and it makes no sense. Anyway, so
48:07
while Monique has made that complaint
48:09
years ago, and nobody listened to
48:11
Monique, they were just saying Monique, she was like running her mouth shut
48:13
up Monique, whatever, whatever, whatever. So there
48:15
was Shannon, Shannon
48:18
was asked, I'd be like, Hey, why
48:20
do you think everyone's taking thrashes more
48:22
seriously than they're taking yours? And
48:25
she said a point and I thought it was
48:27
fucking brilliant in fact, because she wasn't downstripping by
48:29
it, because she wasn't sat there
48:31
crying, because she was, she didn't
48:33
allow it to villainize her. People only listen
48:35
to villains, to victims. She
48:37
didn't sit here being like, I'm a
48:40
victim to the situation. I'm so sad.
48:42
I'm so upset. So that garners emotions
48:44
from people, but it doesn't mean someone
48:46
that doesn't, that's not like that. She's
48:48
like because I sat there strongly, I
48:50
didn't cry. My husband was next to
48:52
me. I looked supportive. I looked strong.
48:54
I'm still saying facts to you, but you're not hearing
48:56
it because I'm not downstripping by it. You're not hearing it
48:58
because I'm not crying about it. You're not hearing it because
49:01
I didn't do a fucking bled about it. I
49:09
wasn't going to react. I was just going to let the
49:11
cameras keep rolling. If you
49:14
dare not
49:19
cry about something, if you dare be like, yeah, this is a
49:21
problem, but I'm not going to let it break me. People
49:24
don't sympathize with you. They don't. Yeah. It's
49:26
like you have to be broken. People to
49:28
listen to you or sympathize with you. And it's
49:31
bullshit. It is bullshit. Like having this bullshit
49:33
on the audiences part, but then you needed
49:35
Saraji to be so broken to take in what
49:37
she was saying. When other people have been saying
49:39
it for years, but because they had support around
49:42
them, but because they wasn't crying, because they were
49:44
still like put together and didn't
49:46
look down, it wasn't believable. A hundred
49:48
percent. And she even said that. I thought that
49:50
was a great point. It was a brilliant point. And
49:52
also she said that like that's not to take away
49:54
from the experience. That's just how she chose it. Like
49:56
it's a shame that she had to get that point to be able
49:58
to. come out with her truth,
50:01
do you know what I mean? But literally
50:03
they were saying the exact same thing. The exact same
50:05
thing. And what I really appreciated about what Monique said
50:08
was so valid as well, because she was like, the
50:10
reason she has to sit up straight, look
50:12
into the camera, be direct, and withhold
50:15
the tears is because she wants other, the
50:17
young women that are coming up behind her
50:19
to see that version of her. She doesn't
50:21
want that documented, seeing her that broken.
50:23
And it's fact, it's like, you shouldn't
50:25
have to see someone at their absolute
50:27
downtrodden to humanize them. And even
50:29
still then, as black women, you're still not.
50:32
That's the thing. It's like, and that's the thing. It doesn't
50:34
matter whether you're Monique, it doesn't matter
50:37
whether your approach is tarragie. When
50:39
people don't humanize you, they just don't humanize you. They
50:41
just don't hear you, yeah. And it's just despicable either
50:43
way. But yeah, that was such a valid point. You
50:46
wanna have that point where I'm like, yes, that's exactly
50:48
what it is, you know? Because it's almost like if you're like,
50:50
you dare to not let this break you. Why not? It's
50:53
exactly. Exactly, because it's like, yeah, I think it's
50:55
exactly that I feel like people negate like the
50:57
seriousness of what you're saying, because you're saying it
50:59
makes it less true. Yeah. When
51:02
actually, you told us to bring the facts. Which is it
51:04
then? Why if some people don't wanna perform that
51:06
for you guys? And I'm not centralizing performing. I mean,
51:09
what if some people feel safe enough but
51:11
you guys shouldn't see me like that? I don't see the,
51:13
like, there is something movement, it doesn't mean they're not emotional,
51:15
doesn't mean they're not vulnerable. Just talk to you though. But
51:18
the thing is, I feel like even if she had done
51:20
that, people are so committed sometimes to who they
51:23
wanna believe and who they don't wanna believe. But I honestly
51:25
think it wouldn't have mattered if she had done that. You
51:27
didn't want to believe it because you don't want Monique to
51:29
have those things because of your internalized bias. It's that's just
51:32
what it boils down to. So, you
51:34
know, she's better off saying
51:36
it with conviction because at least that imprint is there. At least
51:38
she has that. At least she has that, you know? Can
51:40
I be down? If I came here crying, broken, people would
51:42
ask us. Yeah, and then this is not exactly, exactly
51:45
because then what's left? And
51:47
then wealth. Where do you go after that? Yeah. Because
51:50
to let people see you in such a vulnerable state is
51:52
not easy. It's
51:54
not easy at all. Like it's not easy at all. It's
51:56
easy, it's easy. And just talk. Yeah. But
51:59
then work into conditions. mad. Like when she
52:01
was talking about the whole almost Christmas
52:03
situation and the Will Packer situation, one thing about
52:05
Minnie, because her story has never changed. And not
52:07
to say that sometimes stories can't be shaky or
52:09
whatever, because people's memories are different or whatever. But
52:12
her thought has been consistent. And she said that
52:14
as well. She was like, truth tellers always have
52:16
receipts. Timelines, receipts, proofs.
52:18
Sorry, that's from Real Housewives of
52:20
Salt Lake Sea. Anyway, like she,
52:23
she says that she's always kept her
52:25
receipt. Like she knows, she knows what
52:27
she's talking about. And like her story
52:29
has been so consistent. And it's just,
52:32
I don't know, man. I really hope she
52:34
gets her her Jews. But yeah, Tyler Perry
52:36
is not paying that man because if there
52:38
was a time that he was going to pay, I
52:40
think it would have been if this didn't go public. He's
52:42
not paying that shit. But now he can't now. He's like,
52:45
he can't now. He can't now. Tyler Perry didn't hear anything.
52:47
And she probably had the recordings
52:49
and everything of him admitting that it was all a lie.
52:51
And like, yo,
52:54
that's someone going around, talking shit about you. It's not
52:56
easy. It's not easy. It's not
52:59
easy. Your name is not easy. It's not
53:02
easy at all. Like, what kind of
53:04
reputations do you have? The vein of
53:06
things I fucking hate. More
53:08
and more everyday couple of content makes me
53:10
fucking sick. I've never
53:12
been a fan. I hate it. So I
53:15
said it the other day, I said, I get that shit out my face. I'm
53:17
like, you love love. I love love. I just hate it when you
53:21
got set up a tripod and perform it and perform it.
53:23
Yeah, yeah, that's not organic. What the
53:25
fuck? It was a video that pushed me
53:28
over. So the concept of the video
53:30
was this man
53:32
is dating when she's dated a name before now
53:34
she's dating you. So basically he was he got
53:36
out of the car and went around
53:39
to go open a door for him. I should already
53:41
come out. She's not used to it. So
53:43
what would happen to make that happen was
53:45
he set up his camera, went
53:50
back into the car and shot it, make sure the
53:52
thing was recording. Then said to her, so when I
53:54
get out, these are about 10,000. Yeah. And then everyone's
53:56
saying, oh, God. And
54:00
it's not because... But we all have been fucking friends. It's not
54:02
because that's completely contrived. Because there's
54:04
no world in which you would naturally just be in
54:06
that moment with you being filmed. Why would it be
54:08
filmed? Because you're like, so there's no way. Yeah,
54:11
yeah, no. People need to allow it. I hate it.
54:13
I actually hate it so much. And also, do you not think I'm stupid? This
54:16
pregnant woman and there was a husband
54:18
looking after her and they were saying, oh, wow.
54:28
I think I've seen that couple. Isn't the couple
54:30
that have like eight kids or something? Yeah.
54:33
And they do the most. He'll be like filming
54:35
her, holding her hair back while she pukes. And
54:37
I swear he even put her underwear on. There
54:40
was one way she was like, yeah, heavily pregnant and
54:42
he helped her put her underwear on. And
54:45
I was just like, so you have to go get the
54:47
pan. Why is it being filmed? You have to set up the camera. You have
54:49
to do all of that. It's not... And we
54:51
all lost the fucking plot. Yeah. Why are your tender,
54:53
private moments being filmed? And
54:57
it's like we used to live in a world where people would just maybe tweet it
54:59
or like, talk about it. You would just text it or you'd do whatever. I
55:02
hate content. No one gives a
55:05
shit anymore. Really about pictures, everyone's making real. Everyone's doing it.
55:07
And you're like, we're going to be like, oh. Yeah. Hmm.
55:10
And I feel like the. we're
55:13
just going to be like, oh. I hate
55:15
content. No one
55:17
gives a shit anymore. Really about pictures. Everyone's making real.
55:23
my sleep and I'm like, let me go for Instagram. And with something like that. I
55:25
guess it was all about you. I'm just like, why is that on
55:27
a picture of you? I'm like, why is that? I'm like, why is that?
55:29
I'm like, why is that? I'm like, why is that? I'm like, why is
55:31
that? Why is that on a picture of you at church? And why is Beanie
55:33
man playing in the background? This makes you know. It's
55:36
so annoying. Suddenly
55:39
you're getting into the in
56:00
Kiss FM, you're getting music. I don't
56:02
want to hear that. Like it's so,
56:04
it always scares me. I don't think
56:06
I'll ever get used to the fact that
56:08
people have music on their pictures anymore because I'm innocently
56:11
scrolling and suddenly I'm just. They just hear music, yeah.
56:13
It's such an old school thing to do as well.
56:15
It's not so like having my mum walk on my
56:17
place. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, they're very hated. Proper, they
56:19
can remove that function. But yeah, I just don't think
56:22
I should see intimate moments with couples. I love that
56:24
it happens. I love that women and men and everyone
56:26
gets to be loved in the way that they feel
56:28
deserving or they want to be. But why are you
56:30
filming this, love? Yeah, I feel like talk about it
56:32
in an organic way. Yeah, like we should hear these
56:35
things, but I think this is something weird because we
56:37
know the setup in it. So it's not necessarily
56:39
the act that's cringe. I
56:42
think it's the setup that's cringe.
56:44
Do you know what I mean? And then you just do it
56:47
once and do it twice. Because you never have it the first
56:49
time. There's no way you'll get it the first time. And there's
56:51
no way you have just cameras everywhere. You
56:53
have GoPros everywhere in your house picking up everything that
56:55
you go back and do it. You are setting it
56:57
up, okay? And
57:00
it's not a bit of me either. I've never been
57:02
into couple content. It does nothing for
57:04
me. Even with the stuff that we know it's like they're
57:06
sat in front of the camera maybe doing Q and A's or whatever.
57:09
I've just never. Same, and it's someone who genuinely loves
57:11
couples and love, love, I love when people are happy
57:13
in that way. I mean, it's not... It's
57:16
never been a bit of me. I
57:19
don't know that performance is what it is.
57:21
I'm really weird. None of it seems organic
57:23
to me anymore. Even music
57:25
videos are more organic. Like...
57:29
Yeah, maybe because I'm someone who gets the
57:31
privilege to see people be loved in real
57:33
life. Maybe. Like
57:35
in my everyday life experiences, I see many
57:37
of... I see black love every day in my
57:39
life. Like, you know what I mean? I have
57:42
this experience. I get to see women be treated
57:44
amazingly. I get to see people in love and
57:47
it's kind and it's tender. So maybe I don't need
57:49
it. Maybe if you're someone who doesn't get to see
57:51
it, this is how you feel it. Yeah,
57:54
for like it exists. I don't need it.
57:56
I'm like, shit out my fucking face. Yeah, it's
57:58
not a bit of me. It's not because I'm a hate... because it's
58:00
shit. People keep it scrolling. Contrived,
58:02
set up, shit acting and shit writing. They didn't
58:04
write that shit. That makes it make sense now. Get the
58:06
fuck out of me. The one where he's holding a head that
58:09
washes vomit in. I don't want to see, like,
58:11
I don't want us to lose privacy.
58:14
Like, please. Like, privacy is just mad. We
58:17
must not see it. And I'm not mad at snippets here
58:20
or there. Like, by all means, like, do your... No, nothing. Come
58:22
follow me for the days. Like, all of that stuff is cute.
58:24
But I don't need to see you puking. I don't need
58:26
to see your husband putting your drawers on. If
58:29
you're puking and your husband's helping, what the
58:31
fuck else should he do? The thing is, if you're really puking,
58:34
though, if you're really puking, do you want anyone
58:36
to see you? Because I know I look fucking
58:38
ugly when I poop. When I was pregnant, I
58:40
had H.G. What's H.G.? Um,
58:43
a hyper something. I can never say
58:45
what it stands for. But it's basically
58:47
where you have constant sickness. And
58:49
there was one day that I vomited so much, I ended
58:52
up in hospital, and I forgot to tell this when
58:54
I was telling my pregnancy thing. I
58:56
burst blood vessels in both my eyes. I
58:58
remember that. I remember that picture. Because
59:00
my eyes were blood shocks. I puked up so much. I
59:02
don't want people... I would never want anyone to see me
59:05
because the way I looked, yeah, my eyes were like that
59:07
man whose eyes pop out of his head. It's
59:09
not cute. Like, there's no cute way to throw up.
59:11
Like, no, no. Those
59:13
intimate moments, please. Because soon
59:15
we'll be seeing you as not shitting. Of course.
59:17
That's next. And oh my God, I couldn't reach my
59:20
husband. I came to wipe it. Exactly, came to wipe.
59:22
Yeah. Yeah, please. You're saving
59:24
some things. Anyway, what else is going on,
59:26
honey? You want to talk
59:28
about the documentary. I did, I did. I actually want to talk
59:30
about it in more detail. So the greatest night in pop is
59:32
a documentary Netflix, and it's about the night that they made We
59:34
Are The World. So We Are
59:36
The World was a song made for, it wasn't for Live Aid, was
59:39
it? Was it for, no. It was for... Live
59:41
Aid was for... We Are
59:43
The World. What was it, what the charity was for We Are
59:45
The World? What charity was We Are The World for? We
59:49
Are The World... I think something about...
59:51
It was definitely about Africa. Was it Haiti? I
59:54
want to say Uganda for some reason. It
59:58
was just for USA for Africa. So it was just,
1:00:00
I think it was just helping, yeah, just
1:00:03
helping us with us. Basically,
1:00:05
so the whole concept of it was nobody,
1:00:07
all these like mega superstar made a song
1:00:10
together and at the time it was like
1:00:12
Michael Jackson, Diana Ross, Lionel Richie. Okay, go
1:00:14
for it baby. So we've
1:00:17
got a list of all the people who are involved in the
1:00:19
song. We have Lionel Richie,
1:00:21
Stevie Wonder, Paul Simon,
1:00:23
Kenny Rogers, James
1:00:26
Ingram, Tina Turner, Billy Joel, Michael
1:00:28
D Jackson, Diana Ross,
1:00:30
Dionne Warwick, Willie Nelson,
1:00:32
Bruce Fink Springsteen, Steve
1:00:35
Perry, Darryl Hall, Huey
1:00:37
Lewis, Cindy Lauper, John
1:00:39
Oates, Quincy Jones produced it, Latoya
1:00:42
Jackson, Bob Dylan, Harry
1:00:44
Belafonte, Dan Aykroyd, well I didn't know
1:00:46
he sang, Ray Charles,
1:00:48
Bette Midler, Jeff Osborne, Lindsay
1:00:50
Buckingham and the list Marlon
1:00:53
Jackson, Randy Jackson, T-Tay Jackson,
1:00:55
Bill Gibson, Chris Hughes, Sheila
1:00:57
E, Bob Geldof, Smokey
1:01:00
Robinson and there's more people, there's
1:01:02
more of the main ones. So before we start
1:01:04
that, Harry Belafonte sang one of my favourite songs
1:01:06
ever. I don't think it's his originally, it's called
1:01:08
Malaika. That goes Malaika,
1:01:11
and like a panda, Malaika, my angel, I
1:01:13
love you, my angel. But there
1:01:15
is, I don't know if it's just Nigerian
1:01:17
gospel song that goes, my lifetime, I will
1:01:19
give God my lifetime, it's the exact same
1:01:21
tune. He probably got it from there. No,
1:01:24
no, no. We stole it
1:01:26
and changed it. Oh! Because
1:01:30
it sounds like, what came first?
1:01:33
My lifetime or Malaika, which Malaika
1:01:35
means my angel. But it's
1:01:37
like really old Kenyan, it's not even like a
1:01:39
Bolivante song, it's an old Kenyan song that was
1:01:41
made in 1934 or something and Harry sang it
1:01:44
and then the Nigerian Christians
1:01:46
changed it to my lifetime, I will
1:01:48
give God my lifetime. Malaika,
1:01:53
Malaika, which is such a beautiful song. Anyway, that's
1:01:55
not the point of this. Anyway, all of those
1:01:57
people came together, we recorded it in one night.
1:02:01
And they were like the boat shoot. No, no,
1:02:03
no. When I saw that boat hubby,
1:02:05
I was convinced it was like Photoshop.
1:02:07
I was like, there was no way they
1:02:09
got all of these amazing women together on
1:02:12
the same day. The
1:02:14
PA's must have been, their heads must have been thin. No, people's
1:02:16
heads must have been thin. And
1:02:18
all of them were from different countries, different countries. Everyone's
1:02:20
got their own glam, everyone's got their own stylists. I
1:02:23
need to know what studio that was done in Bria. I
1:02:25
just didn't know the logistics of
1:02:27
that day. So it was kind of
1:02:29
like the boat hubba, but at this time, bigger.
1:02:32
Yeah, yeah, yeah. And the whole aspect, the vision of
1:02:34
it was then to make a song to help our
1:02:36
Africa. So Harry Belavelle and Sade come to be like,
1:02:38
Live Aid did happen first. And
1:02:40
they were like, hey, we keep getting like, white people
1:02:42
to help black people, but we don't
1:02:44
have black people, black people. What can
1:02:46
we do? So Lionel Richie and Michael
1:02:48
Jackson, they wrote the song together. Like
1:02:50
Quincy Jones is a fucking legend. Yeah,
1:02:53
he is. That man's legend. He's a
1:02:55
musical genius, Arquins. So you watch.
1:02:59
I don't even know. Also,
1:03:01
the Whitney film shows that he doesn't even like win. And
1:03:05
the instance that in the Whitney film, the tea
1:03:07
is what I'm saying. I think
1:03:09
it was him anyway, because he writes with Whitney, right? Quincy?
1:03:12
I'm not sure he is. But he was about to
1:03:14
write with Whitney. Why don't you just know
1:03:16
this off-head? Oh, God,
1:03:19
well, it's a point if you have you in the room. Anyway,
1:03:21
it might not be Quincy, but I'm pretty sure it's Whitney. So
1:03:25
Michael Jackson and Lionel Richie write this song right. And
1:03:27
in the documentary, you actually see them go to the
1:03:29
places of writing the song. It's Delano Richie there as
1:03:31
well, talking about the places that Lionel Richie now. That
1:03:33
man is on Tommy Watt. That man
1:03:35
has an age. Yeah, because... I was
1:03:37
trying to think if he looks young now, if he looks old
1:03:39
then. If he looks old then. He looks younger now than
1:03:42
he did then. He is pulled, honey.
1:03:44
Thanks for the power. That man is both old.
1:03:46
That man is stretched and pulled. He is... Lionel
1:03:51
is... He is tucked and
1:03:53
plucked and buttholered. Everything is... No, that
1:03:55
man is... That man is... That
1:03:58
man is... I've got
1:04:00
a line now! That's enough man! You didn't look
1:04:02
up to see him and know he looked older
1:04:04
then! He had some lines then!
1:04:07
So anyway, so they write their songs together
1:04:09
and watching the artistry now people that make
1:04:11
music Then people that have that innate talent
1:04:14
It is insane to watch Like,
1:04:16
for them to have something come
1:04:18
out of absolutely nothing from
1:04:20
nowhere Like you see them go They're
1:04:24
like, oh yeah Yeah And then it sounds good I
1:04:27
do worse to it No Right, I better not You
1:04:30
see the whole thing! That's talent though
1:04:32
And it's like, wow! And
1:04:35
Michael Jackson smashed that I can't even realise that you
1:04:37
knew that You knew the whole thing right? You know
1:04:39
that it'll make a difference And then you have all
1:04:41
the most fascinating bit about it was that you have
1:04:43
all of these massive names in one room like
1:04:46
Bob Dylan There
1:04:50
was something about being really good in your field
1:04:52
and then being around everybody where oh you're not
1:04:55
the best Yeah Like,
1:04:58
I tell people to be
1:05:01
around people they're better than more
1:05:03
because honestly it brings that you're like, oh wow
1:05:06
Makes you want to work If
1:05:08
the whole documentary Bob Dylan just looks so like
1:05:10
he looks so uncomfortable Yeah, he looks
1:05:12
so uncomfortable She didn't know there was
1:05:14
something racial there as well Like,
1:05:18
what these niggas tell you Do you want to know the truth? When
1:05:20
I was watching The Safety of My House What?
1:05:23
The exact words I said is it's fascinating to me we're
1:05:25
white people about black people who are better than them It's
1:05:29
interesting In something that they run but in something where in
1:05:31
the outside world he probably, I don't know I'm sure maybe
1:05:33
I assume he probably has sold more records than them he
1:05:35
probably like as in terms of like support he probably saw
1:05:38
it more better than in the outside world When it
1:05:40
comes to the actual crop of the talent and
1:05:43
that you're in the room with them and it's not just a matter
1:05:45
about his wine your message is actually who can sink
1:05:47
in now It is fast because I've seen it happen
1:05:50
in work meetings where this
1:05:52
person is held as the manager and they're around
1:05:54
the junior black girl who you know is such
1:05:56
shit and you see them crumble they're like almost
1:05:58
angry about it And
1:06:00
then suddenly it's like this thing of like
1:06:03
trying to humble you. Yeah. Kind of. Or
1:06:05
just reduce you or over talk you
1:06:07
or tell you like, Oh, actually
1:06:09
that thing's like they'll give you some job. Like, oh, can
1:06:11
you go pick up that thing in the photocopier now?
1:06:13
Like, no, get up. Now,
1:06:16
when we just get out, we just get out of the house.
1:06:19
Don't undermine me. Or you say a point, no
1:06:21
one has the money. And then repeat your point. Yeah, yeah,
1:06:23
yeah, exactly. Then bring it up later. Yeah. No, no,
1:06:25
I just said that five minutes ago. I didn't see
1:06:27
it, but that's what it felt like when I was
1:06:29
watching Bob Dylan. But that documentary was fascinating.
1:06:32
Yeah, it was really, really good. It really, really
1:06:34
was. That's what we should be documenting. Yeah, exactly.
1:06:36
This is exactly these are the sadistic moments that
1:06:38
I actually want to see that I care about,
1:06:40
not I don't want to see you vomiting. And
1:06:42
then the other day, we're saying Diana Ross stayed late. And then she
1:06:45
cried because she didn't want the night to end because it was
1:06:47
so lovely. It was a beautiful moment. And then I shouted, we
1:06:49
used to be a country. We used to be a country.
1:06:51
And the thing is, another thing I was thinking about
1:06:53
that documentary is imagine being an artist of that
1:06:55
time and not being invited. I know. Prince
1:06:58
wasn't there, was he? No, he didn't
1:07:00
reply to emails. Yeah, Prince was very bougie.
1:07:02
Madonna wasn't there. Hey, I wonder if she
1:07:04
was invited. Yeah, I wonder. Yeah, I want
1:07:06
maybe some people just couldn't make it. Because
1:07:08
if it's one night, then yeah, that might
1:07:10
be. And they did an exam night as
1:07:13
well, didn't they? Yeah. So if it's one
1:07:15
night, I can imagine a lot of people just maybe
1:07:17
couldn't make it. But the ones that weren't
1:07:19
asked, because if I know I've been asked, then it's
1:07:21
like I couldn't make it. At least I know I've
1:07:23
got an invite. And I thought that I saw everyone coming
1:07:25
together for the world. Why can't I
1:07:27
be of the world? I like the world. I'm of
1:07:29
the world. I'm of the people. I
1:07:33
want to make a better place for you and me.
1:07:35
Yeah, exactly. Exactly. They made a banger. I could banger.
1:07:37
What? Is there a first to it, though? We
1:07:39
are the world. We are the children.
1:07:42
We are the ones that make a
1:07:44
brighter day for the start giving. We
1:07:47
are the children. We
1:07:49
are the children. It's
1:07:52
true, we make a better day just you
1:07:54
and me. But there's like
1:07:56
some video that went
1:07:58
viral ages ago. It wasn't in. I went to the military,
1:08:00
yeah, I went to the listening unit at a tune and Michael was just
1:08:02
like... I think it
1:08:04
was, I can't remember who it was,
1:08:07
but it was some rock singer. And
1:08:10
he just, there were some things that... There were
1:08:12
some things that would just matter. And
1:08:14
then Michael was just like... And
1:08:18
he just paused and he was just like... And
1:08:21
then when Cindy Lop was like, yeah, yeah, yeah! And
1:08:24
Michael was like... Oh,
1:08:27
you have to do all that! And
1:08:32
the thing about Michael is he's so particular.
1:08:35
And obviously even as a songwriter and
1:08:37
a producer, whatever, you still have to
1:08:39
let people have their flex. Like, how
1:08:41
many different versions of artists there are.
1:08:44
When it's your own stuff, you can tell people just a little lower.
1:08:46
Do you know what I mean? But when
1:08:48
it's like, bare people, it's just like... You
1:08:51
have to accept it. The
1:08:53
look he gave in that video is what I literally... When
1:08:56
I knew I had a bad character, I was like, when I go to church, and
1:08:59
the choir starts singing, I don't think you're going to see how
1:09:01
much that means in a day. Yeah, some people... My
1:09:04
face would be like, when
1:09:08
have we been affixed this? I think, can you
1:09:10
sing better? We have expectations of you being
1:09:12
actually talented. You know? Take me to the pivot.
1:09:14
But yeah, that documentary was... I
1:09:17
just love watching talent and people do their thing. I
1:09:19
love music documentaries. I just love them.
1:09:22
And I don't know what, I have a little bit obsessed with the 80s. I
1:09:24
know I was born then, but I was still a child then,
1:09:26
so I didn't get to experience it. But I
1:09:29
just love it. It's just so interesting
1:09:31
to me. The crack epidemic. I think they seemed
1:09:33
more like, this is wrong and this is wrong.
1:09:35
I think now we... We're seeing
1:09:37
very... In the world now, we're seeing very wrong things. We
1:09:40
used to be a world. We used to be a
1:09:42
world. We used to be a country. We're seeing
1:09:44
very wrong things and somehow
1:09:46
justifying. What's justification?
1:09:48
And there were many of the things
1:09:50
that we're seeing like, let's call
1:09:52
this fate, this fate, this is genocide. Like,
1:09:55
this is wrong. And I don't know. We're
1:09:57
children there, but it's these documentaries that we
1:09:59
watched. that they were all unison, something like
1:10:01
that. That's the one. Let's fix that. Let's
1:10:03
get together and at least try and do something
1:10:05
or just bring awareness to it. Yeah, no, definitely. What
1:10:07
was the UK song? Oh.
1:10:10
Oh, Christmas. I would have to give you
1:10:12
fucking. It was Bob Dylan, not Bob Dylan. Do you
1:10:14
say hello, it's Christmas time. We will. We
1:10:16
will. We will. We
1:10:19
will. We will. We will. Christmas time.
1:10:21
What does it mean? Christmas time.
1:10:23
Christmas time. Something about the children in Africa,
1:10:25
even though it's Christmas. Oh, there was something
1:10:27
there. Google the lyrics. There was something that was
1:10:30
problematic. What's the better song? We are the world
1:10:32
of Christmas. We are the world. Yeah,
1:10:34
the world. Musically, I just think it's a better song. Yeah, we
1:10:36
are the world of Christmas. Yeah. Yeah. That
1:10:38
did a lot as well for Live Age. That just pays a lot
1:10:41
of money for the family. Because
1:10:43
I remember years later, okay. I
1:10:45
think it's, do they know it's Christmas? No, it goes. And
1:10:47
there won't be snow in Africa this Christmas
1:10:49
time. And there won't be snow in Africa. There
1:10:54
is never snow in Africa. Yeah, exactly. That's
1:10:56
only misleading. So what the fuck are you
1:10:58
talking about? That's only misleading. It's a good
1:11:00
story Africa. Exactly. And
1:11:02
there won't
1:11:05
be snow in Africa this Christmas time. The greatest
1:11:07
gift they'll get this year is life. Do you remember?
1:11:10
The greatest gift they'll get this year is life. Well, that
1:11:13
is one of the greatest gifts there is. Where
1:11:17
nothing ever grows. No, okay.
1:11:19
Where nothing ever grows. Feed
1:11:22
the world. Feed the world. Let them know.
1:11:24
Yeah, that one's the greatest gift. Let
1:11:26
them know. Yeah, that one and there
1:11:29
won't be no snow in Africa this Christmas time.
1:11:31
There's never really fucking snow in Africa. Yeah, definitely
1:11:33
misleading. What are you talking about? We
1:11:35
would never afford snow. We were just never
1:11:38
going to get it ever then. The
1:11:40
part of the world we're in. But the
1:11:42
intention is, I will give them that. I
1:11:44
know now we break things down and it's
1:11:46
like problematic and stuff. They do one
1:11:49
recently. A bit collaborative. They did one recently. There was
1:11:51
one that Beyonce was in as well, right? And it
1:11:53
was like everyone, Usher, Christina, Eglara. And
1:11:55
they did that Marvin Gaye song. Oh my God. It
1:11:58
was like, I can't tell. No. So it was right
1:12:00
at the tip of my head. Sorry,
1:12:03
I spoke. Sorry. I
1:12:05
hope you didn't do that to me. I fucking
1:12:08
hate it. I'm so sorry. It
1:12:12
was Usher, Beyonce. That
1:12:14
was probably the most recent one I can remember. It was
1:12:16
Usher, Beyonce. Ah, who else
1:12:19
was in it? It was a Marvin Gaye song that
1:12:21
they covered. Was it? Yeah.
1:12:24
What thing was that for? I can't remember what
1:12:26
the cause was. Was it for some sort of
1:12:29
war? Something. Oh
1:12:31
my God. I couldn't read it because I can see them
1:12:33
performing there. I think and I think Jennifer Hudson was there
1:12:35
as well. Hmm. So
1:12:38
I'm thinking of something completely different. What are you thinking about? But
1:12:40
no, I am thinking of the song. Oh,
1:12:44
that's really going to piss me off. I'm going
1:12:46
to leave. Yeah, it's not as
1:12:48
if people get in it and then it just keeps on leaving
1:12:50
my head. When? Help us.
1:12:55
And Justin Timberlake was on it. Yeah. Yeah.
1:12:57
I can't remember for the life. I don't
1:12:59
even know what the search charity song. Yeah.
1:13:03
And black eye peas. They're people on it. What
1:13:06
the fuck was it? That must be someone we've heard. That's
1:13:09
probably the most recent collab. What's
1:13:11
my British one? Most
1:13:13
recent. Didn't they do another Christmas one
1:13:15
recently? Like there was free the world. We do.
1:13:18
Yeah, they do. Yeah, yeah, yeah. She got two babes with all of
1:13:20
them. Yeah, yeah, yeah. There was a free the world. Let's
1:13:22
go again free the world. Oh my God. That's
1:13:24
actually going to bother me the one with Usher. And yeah, I
1:13:27
don't know if it's actually a song that came out and they just
1:13:29
performed at our concert. No, the
1:13:31
one I'm thinking of I remember the video was like
1:13:33
a black background and it was just upplay shots and
1:13:35
everybody was in it. It was probably
1:13:37
just easy for everyone to just film their bit and they
1:13:39
just edited it together. Yeah,
1:13:42
I can't remember. Oh my God. If
1:13:44
it comes to me, Marvin Gaye is,
1:13:46
yeah, sorry. We'll have to edit this
1:13:48
part. Sorry, we have to find this out. At least I
1:13:51
know. So you can cut all of this. I
1:13:54
know exactly what it is. What is it? What's
1:13:56
going On? What's going on? What's
1:13:58
going on? When
1:14:01
I say it again by worry pokemon Elizabeth
1:14:03
and yet I've been. but I've been busted.
1:14:06
I'm in the casino. I could never I'm
1:14:08
in business. I p. And they
1:14:10
had the thing with a cat. Saturday a. Disease
1:14:13
and he kept my psyche the off disengage
1:14:15
yes as hey now it's an it's an
1:14:17
apology mine up. With it's see past the.
1:14:20
Name the world to be fucking nice and safe and
1:14:22
sound and I can have any with the have anybody
1:14:24
see it was. Some. Of that going on around.
1:14:26
Well, yes, and there's a lot going on.
1:14:29
Strike. Yep. To
1:14:31
believe. It is
1:14:33
Alice and time. I dismiss. I. Mentioned
1:14:38
the onset yonsei of course. Is
1:14:41
no way, no how. He. Should
1:14:43
be Wednesday and the other. Yeah out
1:14:45
have ordered the Psni saw. That say
1:14:48
again say. I.
1:14:50
Was have. Some. Theater.
1:14:53
The. First one to that's a great. So. I
1:14:56
guess is a diplomatic let that
1:14:58
man is a smooth center and
1:15:00
the in the world gets his
1:15:02
listen. I went overseas to cancels know
1:15:04
she's not to say. Is it's. Like
1:15:08
imports. Of. Trying to
1:15:10
think it would be dicing. Had actually those it
1:15:12
had nothing to even remember. Mmm. Widely
1:15:14
brilliant. You'd be good. At
1:15:17
it gets sick line up. While.
1:15:20
Want them to have a bit a song? We have been
1:15:22
hesitant. they're not. They shouldn't be there as well. We'd have.
1:15:25
To. Be they should a shadow of a good way
1:15:27
should see there just isn't that what the people that
1:15:29
I was. Lucky that way of a well
1:15:31
lit. I said you could prove him in
1:15:33
a can be Basically I saw the can
1:15:36
do kinda that that see that this assisted.
1:15:42
Physical. Any sound and things you'd like to
1:15:45
leave the people then we were before we
1:15:47
leave today. I think I'm Alice is in
1:15:49
fact yeah Phillippe We. went around
1:15:51
the houses and the be my thoughts
1:15:53
about some really really to fix. My.
1:15:56
Nights Everything A my nights I was super
1:15:58
bow I have spoken about yes. I
1:16:00
didn't have any notes. She's
1:16:03
unrepaired. However, unrepaired.
1:16:06
Yeah, no. You all get to
1:16:08
go? I feel like I got everything off my big
1:16:11
double D chest. Sorry,
1:16:19
that was me. Okay.
1:16:24
Wow. Oh, gosh. And those of us
1:16:26
who don't have big double D chests. I'm
1:16:29
out. It's the girl Toni T. Just
1:16:32
call me Audrey. Bye. Peace.
1:16:35
This episode is what she brought to the front. Ayo.
1:16:38
Bye. That's
1:16:41
Wetch's one, not our one. That's
1:16:44
my favourite Wetch song. I'd have Wetch on
1:16:46
it as well. Of course, Wetch. Oh
1:16:48
my God. Have you listened to... No,
1:16:51
that's not the song I'm talking about. Years
1:16:53
ago, I interviewed Wetch. Sorry, I'm just going to carry on
1:16:55
with it. Then we can end. I
1:16:58
interviewed Wetch, he was the guy when I was
1:17:00
working at Bufi. And I promised,
1:17:02
and they made him promise, they were going to perform
1:17:04
this song about Wetch, and it's called Something. And
1:17:06
I'm just me for making him do it. It
1:17:09
took longer than I thought I would. Because I just faced you the
1:17:11
next few years. But I just
1:17:13
want us to revisit your promise that you made to me
1:17:15
that you performed something Wetch would do that for me.
1:17:18
You gave me something I can feel. And
1:17:20
so I'm very grateful. Thank you very
1:17:22
much, Wetch. Bye. See you in
1:17:24
the next episode. Bye.
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