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Hi, I'm Kevin Eikenberry, and I'm here to help you reach your potential as a leader and a human being.

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In today's episode, I'm suggesting you do something

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you may have never thought of before, and that is to mentor yourself.

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Are you ready? Let's get started.

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When we think about mentoring, we usually think about finding someone to mentor us.

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Let me be perfectly clear.

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I believe that we need mentors, other people

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that can provide perspective and all sorts of benefits to us.

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We can have mentors in all different phases of our lives.

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I totally suggest you have them.

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This is a both and conversation, not an either or conversation.

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I am not suggesting that you don't look for and find other mentors.

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I am not encouraging you to be a loner or isolated.

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I am not suggesting that you can do everything on your own.

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None of those things are what I'm saying.

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So what do I mean by mentoring yourself?

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Well, I've got four ideas. The first one is treat yourself better.

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Like if you have a mentor that's been very helpful to you,

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are they encouraging to you? Do they support you? Do they believe in you?

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The answers are yes, yes and yes.

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How much are you supporting? Encouraging and believing in yourself.

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Which little voice are you listening to?

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The one that's. That's saying all the negative stuff or the one that's

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encouraging you, supporting you and believing in you.

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You need to treat yourself better as one way to mentor yourself.

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Second, look for new perspectives.

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One of the things a mentor brings us is a fresh and different perspective.

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So we can we can either read more variety of things

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or find other things to gain access to, to change our perspective.

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Or we can simply do things like, Well, how would a ten year old see this?

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Or how would my grandmother view this?

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Or how would Albert Einstein have thought about this?

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In other words, we can sort of place our gain

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a perspective by putting ourselves in another position.

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Okay. The third thing that we can do is to

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slow yourself or we're going to have to do a cut in for that

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because it says low there. But should be slow. Like it says slow.

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No, it says low. Every place slow.

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So we'll do it. We'll cut in on this third one. Okay.

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When I got there, then I couldn't remember what it was. And when I remembered it, it was just a little.

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I thought it was an intentional pause.

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You know? Yeah.

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Well, shit, I said it just kept going.

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And so we're going to jump. Cut.

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Hopefully I'm in pretty much that. My body's that pretty much the same spot.

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Third suggestion.

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Slow yourself down.

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When we are in the Rapid

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Fire movement of automatically working on things, getting things done,

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operating on autopilot, that's sometimes when we most need a mentor,

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someone to say, Wait a minute, have you thought about this?

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Wait a minute, Have you considered this? Have you thought about this?

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It's often what we ask of a mentor is to help us slow down our thinking,

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move us out of out of reaction and into response.

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So if we want to mentor ourself, we need to slow ourselves down.

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And next, ask yourself more questions.

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Once we decide to slow down, or one of the ways to slow down is to ask ourselves more questions.

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Ask questions that reflect on what we've done before.

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Ask questions about what you're really trying to accomplish.

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Ask yourself more questions to gain more perspective.

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All of those things when we treat ourselves better,

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look for new perspectives. Slow ourselves down and ask ourselves more questions.

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We will be mentoring ourselves.

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And guess what? These are the things good mentors do,

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and these may be things that you help others do as well.

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Now I'm suggesting we do them for ourselves.

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Wednesday and Friday newsletter called Your Remarkable Day.

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Let me close by summarizing with today's remarkable

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reminder We need mentors in our lives.

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One of those mentors can be ourselves.