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Recently, I had a chance to see the one woman
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show Oh God, a show about abortion,
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written by and starring comedian Alison
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Leeby. In it, she details
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the experience of getting an abortion in her mid
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thirties simply because she doesn't want children,
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and you know who among us. The
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show is smart and a reverend and incredibly
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necessary, and because it's also
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a show about women's choices and sexuality
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and how limited our cultural conversations
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about these issues can be, it's also
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very timely. The show is running
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right now and it has just been extended until
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June thirtieth at the Cherry Lane Theater
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in New York. So if you can make some
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time to see the show, please do. And
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also, let's just normalize talking about abortion
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from luminary. This is the Roxanne
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Gay Agenda, the Bad Feminist podcast
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of your dreams. I am Roxanne Gay,
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your favorite at feminist. On
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a Roxanne Gay Agenda, I talk about
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something that's on my mind, and then I talked with
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someone interesting to find out what's on their
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mind. And on this week's agenda,
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terrible Movies. What
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a transition, I know, I
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know, it's just like, let's go from abortion to bad
1:12
film. It was
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seamless. Honestly, Uh,
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there's this genre of film that can best be
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termed as fucia America. These
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are movies that carefully showcase America's
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military might, making it clear that the armed
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forces are the mightiest in the world. And
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one of the best movies in this genre is
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Battleship. Yes, like the Board Game
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the year was I could not
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resist with some arm twisting from a man
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I was having sex with at the time seeing
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this midnight movie. Everything
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I'm about to tell you about Battleship is true. So
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let me start by saying that they were very
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liberal in their interpretation of the Board
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Game and that was actually the one bright spot.
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The budget for this ship show was two hundred
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million dollars, which wow.
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And so here's some move movies that Battleship
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flagrantly steals from Top
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Gun, Transformers, Pearl
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Harbor, Space Cowboys, Contact,
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Close Encounters of the Third Kind, Independence
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Day, Armageddon, The Hunt for Red October,
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Deep Impact, and many others. The
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producers and writers literally just stitched
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together the best and worst moments and ideas
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from each of these movies, creating what can
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only be termed as a Franken movie. Now
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When Battleship opens, there's some type
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on the screen filling us in on the bullshit premise
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they came up with to actually turn a board
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game into a movie. Suffice
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it to say, aliens are involved. The
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man that you people call Tim Riggins and Eric
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from True Blood are brothers and they're in the Navy.
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One is a good boy and one is a bad boy.
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Now there's some backstory involving Tim
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Riggins or Hopper as they insist on
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calling him, but it doesn't really matter,
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and so we flash forward and Hopper is
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a lieutenant in the Navy and his brother
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Stone Hopper is a commander.
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Yep, opera, just
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let that marinate. They're
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gonna be these naval exercises called
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rim Pack, and a bunch of navy ships are
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involved in. The Japanese and the Malaysians are
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there too. But but before
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the war games, there's a soccer match. This
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is a blatant rip off from Top Gun. But they couldn't
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have it be a volleyball game because that would just be too
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obvious. The US is playing
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Japan and there's all kinds of Pearl
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Harbor subtext, and Rihanna is on the
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American team. She is the
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only woman in the entire navy,
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and let's just get this Rihanna business out
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of the way. She's incredible love fancy products,
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but her acting in this film is not the greatest.
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Her wig is actually a crime.
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She could not deliver a line. It
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was just a mess from beginning to end. But still I
3:43
was into it because Rihanna ted out of tent no notes.
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So the game begins and suddenly some
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geeks at a satellite array notice five
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objects hurtling toward the Earth. One
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of the objects veers toward Hong Kong, which
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is like where all the space objects land
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in the movies. A good part of the
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city is destroyed. The rest of the objects
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land conveniently in the water, is just off
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Hawaii, where the war games are taking place.
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Of course, I mean, thank goodness they
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did not land in some other part of
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the largest ocean in the world. Hopper,
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Rihanna and some random guy getting
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the zippy little boat with a gun, and they go closer
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to investigate, and it scenes
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so absurd it maybe laugh until I cried.
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Hopper jumps out of the boat and starts strolling
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on the alien object, and then he goes to this big
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tower that's like an ugly water feature. And
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even though his friends are saying I wouldn't do that, he
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pushes a button. Crazy
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things start happening, involving c g I
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wearring, sounds, and transformation. I
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am certain that the same
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production and design team that did Transformers
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also did this movie. They borrowed
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the necessary sound effects and graphics they wila
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art. In short order, the aliens
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blow up Eric's ship and that's that Hopper
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is hopping mad. So he goes back to his ship
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and guess what he is now the highest
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ranking officer that the CEO and EXCEL
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were killed in an alien
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shelling, which, of course we
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also learned that the aliens only attack
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if they sense an aggressor. It makes no sense,
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but we're going to go with it. But here's what drives
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me crazy about alien invasion movies.
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Is it really possible that every alien
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species out there is smarter than humans?
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Like? What is with this human self loathing
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that pervades these movies? Just once, I
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would love to see the planet invaded by idiot
5:26
aliens. Anyway, more
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dramatic and implausible things happen. Finally,
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Hoppert pulls his ship together and he grief
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rages, and he looks sweaty and muscily. A
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serious portion of this movie's budget went to
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spritzing the characters down. Also like
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the Rock in the Fast and Furious movies. Out
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on the ocean, they have no radar, but
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they need to see the aliens. What can they
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do? The Japanese captain
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Nagata says he has an idea, a
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way of seeing without seeing, and
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I perked up because I knew whatever nonsense they
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were about to throw at me was going to be amazing, and
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it was. Nagatas is that they
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can use tsunami booies to track
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water displacement. So they log
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into this system and start seeing booies
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pop up on the screen. And then Hopper says, make
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a grid, and we see a grid with red
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dots moving across the grid, indicating
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that the aliens are moving. Friends. It
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was then that I realized that they literally
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made a movie about battleship, as in, not
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just about the actual boat, that's a battleship.
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So I lost it. At this point, I was in tears.
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Captain Negata takes command and he begins
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trying to hit the alien ships. He
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calls out coordinates, and Rhanna, who's now
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some kind of weapons specialist, aims
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the weapons in that direction and they miss, and they
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try again, and Negata was like F four
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and boom, you sank my battleship. The
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only only thing that would have made this movie
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more amazing would have been if they had incorporated
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that line about sinking a battleship, and
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this one regard the filmmakers
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restrained themselves. At
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this point, the movie devolves into pure
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lunacy. Hopper and his crew need a boat
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because theirs has been destroyed, so they
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go to this big commissioned battleship where
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at the beginning of the movie a ceremony was being held
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with Liam Neeson. Hopper's
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comrades are freaking out because the battleship
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is analog their words, and it runs
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on steam and it hasn't been used in like twenty
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years. I know who's
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going to get the ship started. But good
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news, there are these old navy
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dudes who are being honored in that ceremony
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at the beginning of the movie with Liam Neeson, and they
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just happened to be standing on the
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battleship in like various strategic places
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wearing their old navy dungarees. Hopper
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walks up to them and he says, I know you've given a
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lot to your country, and I have no right to ask,
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but will you help us? Why would
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he say that? The old guys are literally
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standing on the ship. The world is about to end.
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Why wouldn't they go into service. It's like
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a waiter at a restaurant saying to a seated
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couple, I know you've eaten in your lifetime,
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and you are here voluntarily, and it's a lot to ask.
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What would you do me the honor of eating in my
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restaurant? Red blooded American
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rock and roll starts blaring the entire
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soundship for Battle fact, in fact, falls
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under the playlist on my iPhone called
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white People Music. The battleship
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being seaworthy is not something that could
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ever be possible. But fine, fine,
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they have like a handful of missiles, as
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if there would ever be live munitions hanging
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around on a decommissioned ship. They set
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sail to save the day with one bomb
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in the use of the sun. God bless
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America the end. But enough
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about battleship. Let me tell you about
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today's guest. You
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have seen her if you've watched Grace and Frankie
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on Netflix for seven seasons,
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or Burning Love or Adult Swim
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or the film's Bride Wars and Asked Backwards,
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both of which she co wrote. You may
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have heard her on the hit podcast How Did This
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Get Made, and which she and her co
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hosts marvel about certain movies that
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somehow make it to the big screen. Or
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you may have heard her on her other podcast,
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A Deep Dive, or in some of her
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voice over work, which is to say, she gets around
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actor, screenwriter and comedian June
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Diane Raphael is all over the place,
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and I, for one, I'm so thankful for that because
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she's incredible. June Diane, thank
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you so much for joining me on the Rock Sand Gay Agenda.
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Roxanne. It's so interesting
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because I never understand why people who
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haven't seen the movies that
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we talked about on How This Get Made listen to
9:20
the podcast until now,
9:23
until today, because I have never seen Battleship,
9:26
and I was riveted. But oh
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my god, listen, I have a way longer
9:31
version of this. You have to see Battleship.
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It is just so bad.
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I didn't know. I didn't
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know until today. I was today years
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old when I learned that
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it's based on the board game. It
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is really at
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the beginning, like you know, you know, when they do all
9:49
the production credits, it is like in
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partnership with Hasbro Studios,
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which fucking id
9:57
like, wow, okay, everybody's got a
9:59
little student you now, mattell as
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Bro Nintendo and that sort
10:03
of like that is it is concerning that
10:06
like these properties, like we're looking to bargains,
10:08
we're looking to emojis, you know,
10:10
never forget the Emoji movie, Like we're really
10:13
looking for stories where we should not be
10:15
looking. What's so interesting about that is
10:18
that there's no shortage of really great storytelling
10:20
or storytellers who can come up with original
10:23
ideas, and yet people are like, oh,
10:25
an emoji movie, like let's do
10:28
that, and it was terrible. And also there was an emoji
10:31
musical which I saw two
10:33
years ago before COVID. It was terrible,
10:36
cute, well intended, but like the
10:38
whole time I was just like, this can't possibly
10:40
be happening. But I wasn't alone. There were like a hundred
10:42
other people in the theater. Wow, it
10:45
was wild. So yeah, I just understood
10:48
something right now listening to you, because I was like,
10:50
Oh, I guess this is I guess
10:52
this might be the experience of some people who listened
10:54
to our podcast. We've never seen them the movie.
10:57
Um, I didn't know. I can't
10:59
believe they did that scene with the coordinates
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they did. They did, and
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it was so funny because the whole time
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I just thought, Oh, they borrowed from the Board
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Game and they're like literally referring to a battleship
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like a destroyer. Then when they
11:12
were like we're going to use the n O A A Booye's,
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I was like, where is this going? And then
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on the screen you see a goddamn
11:20
grid people the board game,
11:23
and it was I was just like wow.
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So my experience of that movie is that Brooklyn Decker
11:28
is a very close friend of mine, so I
11:30
know she's in that pure okay,
11:35
So the only thing I my
11:37
only understanding of the movie is through her
11:40
and her stories of working with Rihanna,
11:42
which are pretty spectacular. I bet
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I've been like three inches away
11:46
from her a few times, and she's
11:49
luminous. Is she just yeah, yeah
11:53
and fun. I'm reporting
11:55
through Brooklyn's experience, but um
11:58
just seems like a the time, I
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agree, and I love that for her because
12:03
so many stars get like chewed
12:05
up and spit out and like they seem
12:07
fucking miserable, but she seasons
12:10
like I'm going to be happy you are not taking
12:12
that for me, And God bless her, God
12:14
bless her, And I really hope she gets
12:16
back into movies. She was good and um
12:20
she was an Oceans eight, which I thought was fun because
12:22
she played this like Hacker. I
12:24
think her character was named a ball, which why
12:26
not? And you know, I
12:28
just thought, oh, you've really groan since
12:31
Battleship, which was just such a
12:33
mess. But like anyone would have been terrible in Battleship,
12:35
it was just that horrifically bad. There was
12:39
was doing her any favor, No, it really
12:41
wasn't. And like she had like five
12:44
different naval duties, like
12:46
she was just sort of meant to be like the woman
12:49
and also like the big name to bring
12:52
people in and to be fair. That is why
12:55
I would never why it so frustrated
12:57
at those characters and those types of movies where
12:59
it's like this woman, uh,
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somehow knows how to do everything,
13:05
like everything there is to do in the world
13:07
and and the most complicated things.
13:10
We can trust that she knows how
13:12
to do it and always rises to the occasion,
13:14
which seems so antithetical to life,
13:16
because there are a lot of times where I'm
13:18
like, the occasion is quite high and
13:20
I am simply not going to rise and
13:23
I will not be there now. I won't.
13:25
And I wish like more movies would
13:27
allow us that capacity to just like
13:30
I do think there's a lot of space between
13:32
like constant crisis, hot mess and
13:34
like constantly having all of the answers
13:36
like where is the middle ground? Where like sometimes my ship is
13:39
together and sometimes it isn't. Oh,
13:41
you can just well you can just take a look at the interior
13:43
of my car to know how I'm doing.
13:46
And I also have to say, do you think women
13:48
in particular, like I'm on such
13:51
a ride with my menstrual cycle. Like the person
13:53
you're seeing today roxand gay, and I'm so excited
13:55
to be here with you. It's it's such a crazy
13:57
honor. The person you're seeing
13:59
today is a very
14:02
different person than the one I
14:04
was three days ago, when I was
14:06
on day two, you know, so it's like those
14:08
are actually quite different. Those are different people
14:11
they are. And I do watch my husband walk
14:13
through the world I'm like, you seem like the same person every
14:15
day. Huh, what's that? Like? What's
14:18
so funny is that I've had my period now for like
14:21
thirty two years, and every
14:23
month I have the exact same set of
14:25
symptoms where I'm like super
14:28
weepy for at least a week, and my
14:30
wife's like, what's wrong? Are you okay?
14:32
And I'm like, I'm fine, it's
14:34
just the world that's coming to an end. And
14:38
then like I'm sore all over
14:41
the place, and then other horrible internal
14:43
things happen, and then I get my period and I'm like,
14:45
oh, right there. And
14:47
it's amazing how even after thirty
14:49
two years of like having all of these
14:51
mood shifts and like physical
14:54
responses, I'm still shocked as ship.
14:57
But my period, it's
14:59
my of how it's like
15:01
we have some kind of period amnesia
15:04
for like two days of the month.
15:06
What freaks me out actually is it sometimes
15:08
I'm like this version of me
15:11
where I am so sensitive to the world
15:13
where I look at my dog and weep,
15:16
you know, when I am angry
15:18
and lash out, like I actually
15:20
think I might be more myself then
15:23
in those days. Yeah,
15:26
that's the that scares me, especially
15:28
when I'm at my weepiest because I'm not.
15:30
I don't cry. I'm not. I mean I do, but I'm
15:32
not like a huge crier. And
15:35
so like on these days where I feel like the
15:37
slightest thing will push me over
15:39
the edge, and to just abject grief
15:42
is so odd, And then I wonder like, huh,
15:45
like is that my truest self or that
15:48
you know how like when you've had a drink or five
15:50
and you're like, this is me, I'm
15:53
really letting myself. I'm
15:57
free now, I'm free. One
16:00
of the things I wanted to ask you about is
16:02
I love that you have this podcast
16:04
that you co host UM about
16:07
Terrible Movies, because I love terrible movies.
16:09
They're one of my favorite favorite things. And
16:12
the way you guys break down these movies, oftentimes
16:15
it really is like, wow, how did this
16:17
get made? You know? I do say
16:19
this on the podcast sometimes, but I'm kind of
16:21
there against
16:25
my will, so I don't know,
16:28
you know, I I do worry
16:30
about the amount of time that it takes to
16:32
watch these movies and truly, what's happening
16:34
to my brain? Like I
16:37
don't know that I enjoy movies anymore
16:39
because I'm so scared of them
16:42
because of how many bad ones I've had to watch.
16:45
I tend to wonder like, is the
16:47
movie industry going to come to an end? Because
16:49
they keep making so many just truly
16:52
bad movies that seem like at
16:54
some point during the development and
16:56
making of the movie someone really thought
16:58
like this is great. My
17:00
husband I co host the podcast with we watched
17:02
a lot of movies together, and there's
17:05
nothing better than watching them
17:07
together and like laughing our little
17:09
asses off, and it
17:12
is just so stupid and fun
17:15
that I do have an appreciation for it. But
17:17
there's a there's a there's so many different categories,
17:20
right because those types of movies that you're
17:22
describing and at battleship in this category
17:24
big budgets, absurd budgets
17:26
like honestly morally reprehensible
17:29
budgets that
17:32
are there's just so much money thrown
17:34
at them and choices
17:36
are being made that are so wrong that
17:39
they're enjoyably bad to
17:41
watch. Unfortunately, with our podcast,
17:44
we've had to more than a few
17:46
times dip our toes into like the painfully
17:49
bad. Are you at all able to enjoy
17:51
any movies or do you always sort of go into
17:53
them now when thinking like, what
17:55
bad can I find in this movie? Well,
17:58
no, I do. I really do love movies.
18:00
I think it's just that I'm um.
18:03
I think anytime you take a hobby
18:05
that you enjoy, that
18:08
you do for fun, which for me and Paul
18:10
and Jason was always like watching Old
18:12
Dogs in the movie theater and then going out to dinner
18:15
together and talking about it, and you
18:17
kind of you monetize it and it becomes
18:19
a job. You
18:22
know that some of the
18:25
joy gets taken away from
18:27
it. So I do I mean going
18:29
to see movies. I've only seen one in
18:31
the theater since COVID, but
18:33
it's my favorite thing in the world. I
18:35
love going to the theater. And I
18:40
was in I was in Cheaper by the
18:42
New Cheaper by the Dozen with Gabrielle Union and
18:45
Zach have a small role in it. Um,
18:48
it's really fun and I'm
18:51
sorry, that's my was that your phone? Yeah,
18:53
it's just my friend door. Who's
18:56
there?
18:59
You can leave it
19:03
next door? Nobody
19:09
someone from doing a guest
19:11
inspection. There's a gas leak somewhere.
19:15
Um, in an hour, someone
19:17
will be available. Thanks.
19:21
That seems sketchy. So Cheaper by
19:23
the Dozen, which I actually can't wait to see because I've seen
19:25
the two previous versions. Yeah,
19:27
I really enjoyed it, but I saw I brought my kids
19:30
and we all went to the premiere of it. There's
19:32
still such just something about having a communal
19:35
experience in the theater that I really
19:37
do believe it is going to stand the test of
19:39
time. There's just nothing like it, especially
19:41
with comedies, like the way that they play in
19:44
a big theater. I agree. You know a
19:46
lot of times people wring their hands.
19:48
I see this in publishing with books are going to
19:50
die because of the books, which paper books
19:52
continue to outsell the books, and
19:55
people worry that the theater experience
19:57
is going to be replaced. And I don't
19:59
think it is, because as much as I enjoy,
20:01
you know, paying fifty dollars for a movie at home the
20:04
theater with the big screen and
20:06
the lights out and just laughing
20:09
with everyone or like having emotions
20:11
with hundred other people,
20:14
that collective experience is so
20:17
irreplaceable. Totally agree. And
20:19
I think there's something to hearing people laugh.
20:23
It is a sacred experience. It's one
20:25
of those rituals, like it feels
20:27
like we're crowding around the fire. There's something that's
20:29
like touch touches something in
20:32
me when I go to the theater. But also when
20:34
you hear other people laugh, I
20:36
think lots of people who are naturally introverted,
20:39
and I actually include myself
20:41
in this. When you're hearing
20:43
other people laugh and you don't have to laugh at
20:45
directly at them next to
20:47
you, or be a part of a social interaction
20:50
where you're given permission
20:52
to have an emotion and like let
20:54
it out, like let it out of your body. That
20:57
is so cool and important
21:00
and can really only happen in that
21:02
setting. I love walking away
21:04
from that experience knowing
21:08
like, oh, I've had this experience
21:10
that I'll never have anywhere else. And I also feel
21:12
the same way with live theater and live
21:14
music, like this collective
21:17
thing. When I saw Beyonce in concert
21:20
and you like look at her strutting on
21:22
stage and she's just incredible,
21:25
Like you absolutely know in that
21:27
moment, wow, like
21:30
this is the only performance that looks exactly
21:32
like this that I am ever going to see?
21:36
Is he back? I keeps
21:38
ringing about again, I
21:41
don't like that. Can
21:48
Ian get gone?
21:52
So I will say that the experience
21:54
that I'm am I regretful
21:57
of it. I don't know, but I had
22:00
both of my parents were passed away, but I think it was right
22:03
after I lost my dad. Yes,
22:05
that my husband had brought me to see
22:08
um Dolly partner at the Hollywood Bowl.
22:11
Dolly so much. I was so
22:14
excited to see her. And
22:16
we got there and I sat down and
22:20
she came out, and just hearing
22:22
her voice talking to us, I
22:25
was like, Oh, it's too much.
22:28
This is I'm actually I'm not
22:31
fit for public consumption right now in
22:33
this stage of my grief, and
22:35
the sound of her is unlocking
22:38
something that I don't think I can
22:40
control. Then
22:43
her first song was Code of Many Colors, and
22:46
I started crying and I could
22:48
not stop. And I said, Paul, now I've
22:50
been looking forward to this for weeks. He said,
22:52
we have to go. We gotta
22:54
get out of here. And he was like, what do you mean
22:57
this is I've never seen Dolly live.
22:59
He's a huge Dolly fan, He's seen her in concert
23:02
at zillion times. He's like, I really want
23:04
to experience this experiences. I said, I'm
23:06
so sorry, I have got to go. And
23:09
we walked out and
23:11
I sat and like I bought a
23:13
T shirt because I was like I gotta get
23:15
I gotta get something here. I bought a T shirt
23:18
and I was like, I'm willing to listen to her from
23:20
outside by
23:23
the concessions for one
23:25
more song, but I can't hear her
23:27
voice. And it was because
23:29
it was too it
23:32
was too much, and the communal experience
23:34
was actually too much on like this space can't hold
23:36
what I'm going through, and I want,
23:39
I do want other people to enjoy this, and they're going to have
23:41
to worry about a woman in
23:44
Rose seventy who's crying
23:46
uncontrolled. Absolutely,
23:49
I get it, you know, whenever I have those moments
23:52
when I'm so completely
23:54
overcome a I'm
23:56
marvel at the just power
23:59
of live performance, but
24:01
also like the cold.
24:07
Hello, oh, it's
24:10
very important. We have a gas person here,
24:13
We have a gast me if you don't
24:17
has to come, Oh
24:20
my god, I am so sorry. I don't know
24:22
what this guy's deal is. There's
24:25
no gas, but I'm just gonna go
24:27
see what he wants because he's like, the fire department's going
24:29
to break down your door, which, what the fuck?
24:32
Take your time. I'm here, I'll
24:35
be right back. No, take your time. I'm
24:37
just saying that here, what
24:40
a Cliffhanger. She never
24:42
comes back. This is literally the last episode
24:44
of the podcast. No updates.
24:59
O
25:05
uh, they called the fire department
25:08
to come and get into the house. So
25:13
anyway, I let con ed in. Of course
25:15
the leak is not from our house, which I knew,
25:21
and I never raised my voice. But these people next
25:23
door they're racist and
25:25
they're rude, and they never talked to Debbie
25:27
the way they talked to me, and so I was
25:29
just like, you assholes,
25:31
I've got you now. Anyway, it's
25:34
taken care of. Yeah,
25:39
we were talking about emotional moments during live
25:41
performance. So, you
25:43
know, June, as a performer, and especially
25:46
someone who can be so comedic
25:48
and sly and sharp,
25:52
you evoke those kinds of emotions and people.
25:54
So how do you try to
25:57
reach audiences when you are on stage,
25:59
when you are on TV or
26:01
in a movie like I would love to know
26:03
more about your process? Oh
26:06
lord, um
26:09
my process? I you
26:13
know, the only thing I know about my process
26:16
is I'm like, oh, if I leave
26:18
and don't feel like I've humiliated
26:21
myself a little bit or embarrassed
26:23
or tried or did the wrong thing, like
26:25
I'm trying to be wrong more often
26:27
now I guess and okay
26:30
with that, Um yeah. And
26:32
honestly, it's because I've watched Lily Tomlin work
26:34
for seven years and I see the
26:37
lack of ego and
26:40
the freedom and I'm like, oh
26:42
man, you know, but
26:44
a part of that for me too is film
26:47
sets, TV sets, they're really male
26:49
dominated, and so I think for actresses
26:52
it's an interesting thing to show up and try
26:54
to be feel free because you've
26:57
got a lot of dudes staring at you holding
26:59
equipment. You know. It's
27:01
not a space that or
27:04
it takes a lot for me to to walk into
27:06
that space and to kind of calibrate
27:08
myself of
27:10
my work on sets. And it's just working on a show
27:12
the other day where I was like, wow, fun
27:15
of the work is creating the space for myself,
27:17
creating the creative parameters.
27:21
And then there's like ten percent of
27:23
acting or like performance,
27:26
you know, and I don't love those numbers,
27:28
but unfortunately for me, like that's what it
27:31
it is. I
27:34
don't know when I watched Lily, who's so outside
27:36
in you know, she's so kind of physical
27:38
and in her body so
27:40
beautifully, that's
27:43
where I want to get to eventually.
27:45
But um yeah,
27:47
that's that's my my process or
27:50
the only thing I really find myself demanding
27:52
of myself is that
27:54
I just take a risk and get
27:56
really comfortable with not doing
27:59
things right. You know. I hear
28:01
that from a lot of women, and I
28:03
see it in myself as well, this idea
28:06
that I just want to be good. I want everyone
28:08
to like me. I want them to think I'm easy to work
28:10
with, and so I try not to. Like when
28:12
I was at an event the other day and the women said, do you have a
28:14
writer? Which I should, and I was like, no, I
28:16
don't, just like you
28:19
should get one, And
28:21
I just thought, the reason I don't, I just like
28:24
do I just need a bottle of water? Is because
28:26
I don't want to seem high maintenance or like expecting
28:28
too much from myself or something like that.
28:30
And then I realized, like why, why,
28:33
like, really do you think anyone is ever going
28:35
to be remembered for being like super low maintenance
28:38
and not caring about themselves enough? Like
28:40
I don't know if that's the way to be remembered.
28:43
And so how do you find how do you
28:45
like overcome your reticence to make space
28:48
for yourself, especially in these really male
28:50
dominated environments, where they do want
28:52
women to like shut up and look. Well,
28:54
I think about how I'll feel on the ride home and
28:58
if I'll feel disappointed that I
29:00
have I had an idea, but I
29:02
didn't want to ask for another take because I knew
29:04
the crew was tired, and I knew, you know,
29:06
they want to move on or whatever the thing is, and you
29:09
know, and and but to be quite honest now or ex
29:11
and I'm like, funk, they're not shooting on film anymore.
29:13
It's digital lights are up there,
29:16
like, but I can
29:18
really like start to get worried about like
29:20
production and how they're all going to feel
29:22
about this. And I'm now
29:25
trying to really think through, well, how will you feel
29:27
when you go home and know that
29:29
you had something else that
29:31
you didn't put out there? And
29:34
and the other thing too is you know, I
29:36
do feel the gift of motherhood
29:38
for me has really been in like
29:41
getting back to just play. Seeing
29:44
the kids play so instinctually and
29:46
freely. I love that, And I
29:48
just want to get
29:51
in trouble. I'm like, oh, I want I want
29:53
someone to tell me like take it down. Don't
29:56
like that's great news
29:58
if I did it wrong? Um, because
30:01
for me and I know, Yeah, you're right. For so many
30:03
women says not amazing that we're I
30:06
find myself so really
30:08
having to unlearn so much of like being
30:10
a good, good girl. And it's interesting,
30:13
like it doesn't matter really how old you
30:15
are, like you can still find yourself
30:18
falling into the trap of being a good girl,
30:20
of forgetting about play. The
30:22
men do it with such ease,
30:25
and everyone around them like allows
30:28
it and enables it, and oftentimes
30:30
it merits like really good things and
30:33
you're like, wow, I love that, and then other times you're like,
30:36
I don't know, maybe not all play
30:38
is good, but it's
30:40
it's interesting how much we have to unlearn
30:43
just to get to a place where we can do
30:45
our jobs well in the ways that
30:47
we think our truest to what we
30:49
want to do, and there's so many barriers
30:52
to that. You've
30:54
been in a lot of films and a
30:56
lot of TV shows. What
30:59
would be an ideal role for you that you have
31:01
not yet done, that you would love someone to write for
31:03
you, or that you would love to write for yourself.
31:06
I don't know. I've been thinking a lot about what
31:08
I want to do next, and
31:11
I do love
31:13
physical comedy. I'm like the Lily
31:15
Tomlins of the world, the seal ball, like
31:18
the big kind of broad physical stuff.
31:20
I just I know that
31:22
that's a space where I'm like, I know I have that in
31:24
me, and there were only a couple of times where I've had
31:26
like the real estate or to actually
31:29
do that. I really
31:33
love exploring that
31:35
type of big, big
31:37
physical comedy. Sometimes
31:39
I think we were we were only reserve that
31:42
for the men to be real like
31:44
idiots and goofballs.
31:47
UM. But I have that part of myself that I know I
31:49
really haven't gotten a chance to share
31:52
on the level that I want to. So
31:54
that's interesting to me, and that there's something about
31:57
Actually I was thinking about when I saw I saw your
32:00
live show Roxham, when you were in l
32:02
A and you had on um
32:05
comedian and writer Ashley
32:08
and Black thank You, and
32:10
she talked about how tired
32:12
she was of that trope of like this woman who
32:15
who who wants to get out life
32:17
and knows what she wants and and she's
32:19
like, no, I actually want to play like kind of a sad
32:21
black woman. And I like,
32:24
I was like, I totally here,
32:26
Like there's such a there's still even
32:29
with all the work that's been done and
32:31
representation all that jazz, there's
32:33
still a pretty narrow scope of humanity
32:36
were allowed to express. And
32:40
you know, I think about that all the time
32:42
because I am always asked
32:44
like, surely things have gotten better, right,
32:46
Like, you know you're doing this, this person is
32:48
doing that, you know, Like, and I'm like, as long
32:50
as you can a name and count
32:53
the people doing things, but
32:55
you have to look at what they're actually doing.
32:58
And a lot of times it's like one
33:00
kind of role for
33:02
women in particular, and I would say for women of color
33:05
even more. You know, there's not
33:07
a lot of space to really just
33:09
show the range of what we have to offer.
33:12
That's why I think I loved I May Destroy You so
33:15
much on HBO with MICHAELA.
33:17
Cole because I
33:19
was like, wow, I've never seen that black woman
33:21
on TV before. That's incredible.
33:24
And I don't want to be able to point out like the
33:26
one or the two or the three, you
33:28
know, I want her to be so many for
33:31
women from all sort of walks
33:33
of life that we don't we're not counting anymore,
33:36
and like it's not even a conversation, but
33:39
it feels far away. Well, and
33:41
then it's like, you know, I always think about my own
33:43
experience and and my own
33:45
mother, who was really the reason why I got into
33:48
comedy because I found her to be so funny. But
33:50
she was a good, a great mom,
33:53
and bad at many things,
33:56
bad honestly bad at many elements of
33:58
caretaking as well, truly,
34:02
and I'm like, oh, it's so much more nuanced,
34:05
and it's so not you know. And
34:07
and she worked outside the home, she was a New York City
34:09
public school teacher, and you
34:11
know, was so good and
34:14
also failed
34:16
left and right at things, and
34:18
you still loved her just as much like
34:20
your Your esteem for your mother is clear.
34:23
Oh, I mean, listen, Rox. And I still feel
34:25
like I wish I could go to a summer camp.
34:27
I always say that's for like a week where
34:29
I could learn some of the basic
34:31
things that I find other people know that
34:34
I looked back onto my childhood and I'm
34:36
like, why didn't, Like I didn't go to a dentist for
34:38
ten years? You know, there were gaps,
34:40
There were gaps, And yet I can
34:42
also absolutely say that I
34:45
had wonderful parents who took incredible
34:48
care of me that I'm forever
34:50
grateful for. So but
34:52
there are gaps, you know, a
34:56
guy. Remember being an adult and seeing someone
34:58
put a napkin on their lap and
35:00
thinking before to eate dinner and thinking
35:02
like, oh, June, like
35:05
that's what people do. Nobody told
35:07
you that just for the tie
35:10
us of my home, Like there was just things that weren't
35:13
related. And yet I know how to love
35:15
and be loved, so I feel like I got everything
35:20
absolutely, you know, I think sometimes
35:22
those are the most important lessons
35:25
when I sometimes think how my
35:27
forty seven and I
35:30
surely don't know how to do x
35:32
y or z um. And then I
35:34
think about what I do know how to do, and
35:37
I will say for me, namely, like my
35:39
mom and my dad, for
35:41
all their faults, love their children passionately.
35:44
They're kind of obsessed with us and
35:48
that sort of you know, some people
35:50
would find it suffocating, but it's actually
35:52
not for us because they
35:55
let us. You know, we live our own lives. We're all adults at
35:57
this point. But you
35:59
know, there's no doubt that were loved,
36:01
and you know, Haitian parents never ever ever
36:03
stopped parenting, so it's
36:05
just like they're still around to like give
36:07
thoughts and opinions like Roxanne, why isn't
36:10
the kitchen clean. Well, why isn't
36:12
it Indeed, so,
36:19
you know, it's interesting to see like
36:21
those gaps and then to be able to you know, I think
36:23
the older I get, the more I'm able to reconcile
36:26
those gaps and just be like, yeah,
36:28
you know, I can fill them in now. It's
36:30
I think there's something he said for there's so much
36:32
emphasis on parenting small children at
36:34
the bulk of our work is a clarit eighteen
36:37
and I don't think there is a lot of like cultural
36:39
conversation around what it is to be parent
36:41
of an adult child. Yeah,
36:44
it's which is a very different thing. You know.
36:47
When I would say when I turned thirty
36:50
five, I mean it's coincidentally that's when I started
36:52
to get my ship together, but that's when
36:55
my parents and I really developed an interesting
36:57
relationship where I
36:59
enjoyed them again after always
37:01
feeling like, stop telling me what to do, stop
37:04
criticizing me all the time. And then it became
37:06
not that we were peers necessarily, but
37:09
there were equitable conversations
37:11
that we were able to have and like
37:13
adult conversations where I was like,
37:15
I can't believe I'm talking about this with my parents.
37:18
Wow, awesome, And
37:22
you know, I do. I wish there was more
37:25
conversation about like what happens
37:28
um
37:30
with adults and
37:33
their parents, because it's not that
37:35
it's easy zero through eighteen, but
37:38
like there's like, you know, you generally
37:40
like keep them alive, make
37:43
them into good people, feed
37:45
them. Yes, I mean, I know it's
37:48
much more complicated than that, and no, but that's
37:50
a big part of it. And but yeah, there's like no books
37:52
written for adults. No, there
37:54
aren't. And there's like a million
37:57
books written for the
37:59
little ones. And you know, I look at my friends
38:01
with kids and I often think, yeah,
38:04
you're also going to need another user manual
38:06
when they're you know, in their twenties
38:09
and thirties and beyond. So
38:12
just to wrap things up, even though I could talk to
38:14
you forever, like what's next
38:16
for you professionally or personally, you
38:19
know, professionally, I don't
38:21
know. And I'm trying to like be okay
38:23
to live in that space. I'm trying to really
38:26
exercise some discernments
38:29
and control. You know,
38:31
this is an industry that's there's such a kind
38:33
of poverty stricken mentality and
38:35
and it's so easy for me to fall into
38:37
that feeling of like there's not enough.
38:40
Take take whatever they give you and be happy
38:42
and all of that stuff. And so
38:45
finances and our family are always sort of like a disease
38:48
of vagueness where we don't
38:50
quite know, you know, what we can afford and
38:52
what we can't afford. So I do
38:54
I say that, but I really definitely have to drill down
38:56
on like how long I can have this feeling for,
38:59
you know, how long? How
39:02
long I can be like is it a week, is
39:04
it a month, is it a year? Like I simply
39:07
don't know. So professionally,
39:09
I'm I'm trying to live in that creative
39:11
space, but also and sort of more
39:14
of an admin way of in terms of my
39:16
life, I do want to try to drill down
39:18
on more of those details and be a little bit
39:20
more of an adult
39:22
in kind of like knowing those
39:25
things which I can easily like
39:27
dissociate from. Um. So
39:30
that's some of my goals. And
39:33
then personally, I'm just really
39:35
committed to throwing
39:38
parties, bringing people together,
39:42
having dance parties. I
39:44
had I'm gonna have a basketball tournament
39:46
at my house on the fourth of July for
39:48
my neighbors. Nice are you going
39:51
to play? Because I know you used to play basketball. Of
39:53
course I'm gonna play Hell, yes, that's
39:55
right. W w n B A okay.
39:57
So, and I want to say something about the w n
39:59
B A be kids. My son is super into sports, and
40:02
my husband's taking to Clippers games and
40:04
and you know, you go to a w NBA
40:07
game and we've seen the Sparks play a few times.
40:10
First of all, I can get great seats, which is the good news
40:12
and bad news, but you can um.
40:15
But they also play the game of basketball
40:18
like they're moving the ball around, They're playing the game
40:20
and it's so not ego driven driven. It's just
40:22
so fascinating to watch because I'm like, oh,
40:24
this is how I actually want him to learn basketball
40:27
by watching these women. And also he
40:30
he said it before I did. He's like, Oh, at the
40:32
w NBA games, they have kids come out
40:34
and dance, but at the NBA
40:36
games they have the women in the in the short
40:38
skirts and stuff. And I
40:41
was like, yeah, yeah,
40:45
hard to he said, why. I'm like
40:47
that said
40:50
so on a personal note, I'm trying. I'm
40:52
like getting back into sports, which I love,
40:55
and playing sports for just
40:57
fun and staying
41:00
like competitive tournaments at
41:03
my home for
41:05
adults. That sounds amazing. I
41:07
gotta say, I mean, of all the things you could have possibly
41:10
said, posting a basketball tournament,
41:12
was not there, and I like being
41:14
surprised. Roxanne. I've like painted
41:16
a core, painted a half court on our
41:18
driveway. June
41:21
Diane Richfield, thank you so much
41:23
for coming on the Roxanne Gay Agenda. I
41:26
couldn't be happier to be here, Roxanne, thank
41:28
you so much. You
41:31
can keep up with me and the podcast on
41:33
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41:35
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41:38
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41:41
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41:43
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41:45
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41:48
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41:50
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41:52
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41:54
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41:57
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