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I you know what gonna do?

2:00

I'm not gonna kinda voice any opinions

2:02

or anything right now. I was gonna

2:04

put this in my own words and, like, write about

2:06

it, but really it's about just

2:09

pushing information out there. So

2:12

Raj here got an

2:14

email from an Iranian comedian

2:17

named Sarah Fatemi. And

2:20

did I say your last name right? Fatemi? It's

2:22

not like a very Italian kind of way to pronounce

2:24

it. Fatimmy? Fatim like,

2:27

Fatima? Fat you know, like, is it Fatimmy?

2:29

Yeah.

2:29

I I think it's Fatimmy, but I

2:31

think let's go with Fatimmy. I

2:33

I should ask her not cold,

2:35

but anyway, comedian

2:37

here in America, who's Iranian, Sarah

2:40

Fatemi, reached out to

2:42

Raj and said, you know, we need to just

2:44

push information out

2:49

about what's going on in Iran, specifically

2:52

about this comedian.

2:54

The only woman comedian in Iran who

2:57

did twenty well, I'm gonna read

2:59

everything she wrote because just

3:02

wanna get it right and I'm gonna just tell

3:04

you facts and as much as you

3:06

can be loud and push

3:08

this stuff out there, it's gonna really

3:10

help the

3:13

people speaking out in Iran who are being punished

3:15

for it. This is from Sarah Fattemi.

3:19

Hi, Raj. I'm an Iranian American standup

3:21

comedian who works with comedians in Iran.

3:23

My acquaintance and first ever female

3:25

standup median in the country, Zayna

3:28

Musavy, has

3:30

been sentenced to two years in

3:32

jail for speaking out at the protests.

3:35

She was recently held in solitary confinement

3:37

for twenty five days. For

3:40

a joke, she made

3:42

about Iran's police brutality. She's

3:45

now in danger of sexual slash

3:47

physical slash psychological torture

3:49

and possibly execution like

3:52

the other eighteen thousand protesters

3:54

currently detained. I

3:57

researched and saw that you were one of

3:59

the producers of Sarah Silverman's

4:01

Kast Given her large platform,

4:03

it would be so beneficial if she could talk

4:05

about it. The only way to help the people

4:07

of Iran is to spread awareness,

4:10

especially when it comes to specific

4:12

people if the Iranian government knows

4:14

that the world is watching. They

4:17

are less likely to inflict harm

4:19

on their detainees and release them.

4:22

We need to be a voice of the people of

4:24

Iran. The world may

4:26

never pay attention to Iran like

4:28

this ever again. Remember,

4:31

I've said before how if

4:35

you Google, like, Iran in the nineteen

4:37

seventies, it's like women in bikinis.

4:39

It's a total hippy culture. This

4:42

is something that happened to Iran.

4:45

And my point being, it

4:48

could happen here. And

4:51

hopefully, it's they're

4:53

starting to maybe

4:57

take a turn to

5:00

get back to being free people

5:02

and not ruled by

5:05

fundamentalist religion.

5:07

Do you see any parallels

5:10

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5:12

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5:14

happen here. It

5:18

happened there. And women are finally

5:21

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5:23

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5:26

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5:28

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out of the ordinary. And

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we're back. So here are some

6:55

relevant facts that Sarah Futemi

6:58

sent to us. Zynab

7:01

Musavy, this is the

7:03

comedian. She

7:05

has an Instagram Gage. They they down,

7:08

but check it

7:10

out. What's

7:10

there? She does you

7:12

won't understand it because it's in

7:15

Marcy? Well, I'm

7:17

actually proud of myself for something I should

7:19

absolutely have known anyway. But

7:22

you can translate what she writes

7:24

and whatever. Zaynaab Musaviv

7:26

is around first ever female standup comedian.

7:29

She hails from the holy city of

7:31

Calm, QOM,

7:34

which is the most religious city in Iran

7:36

and the birth place of the nineteen

7:38

seventy nine Islamic revolution.

7:43

She's been sentenced to two years in jail

7:45

and her only crime was telling

7:47

jokes Though the sentence could

7:49

be lightened in an appeals court.

7:51

She has been banned from television.

7:53

They took her Instagram page and

7:55

she cannot performed standup.

7:58

She was arrested and arrayed in her father's

8:01

home. This revolution that's been

8:03

happening for over three months there is

8:05

not just about the morality police.

8:08

It's hard to get great information as

8:10

to what's happening because of the government

8:12

and media limitations. Over

8:15

eighteen thousand protesters have been

8:17

arrested and are held in harsh

8:19

conditions, including but not limited

8:21

to solitary confinement. Rape,

8:24

beatings, and being drugged to the

8:26

point that once they are released,

8:28

their liver fails and they commit suicide.

8:30

Apparently, that happened. Many

8:32

prominent actors, rappers, and athletes

8:34

have been detained as well for

8:36

supporting the protests. So the

8:38

people there that have platforms of that

8:41

have spoken out have been taken

8:43

in interested. On November

8:45

twenty fifth two thousand twenty two, the

8:47

United Nations held a special session

8:49

on Iran and the majority

8:51

voted on an investigation on the

8:54

Islamic Republic's crimes against

8:56

humanity, but no action

8:58

has yet taken place. What can

9:00

we do to help? Becloud

9:02

about it. Get people with

9:04

platforms to becloud about it. Let the

9:06

Iranian government know that we

9:08

are watching. Whether it be

9:10

on podcasts or

9:12

social media posts or online

9:14

publications, Iran

9:17

I say Iran, Iran, I don't

9:19

know. Iran,

9:22

I am saying Iran, but it could be Iran,

9:24

but I think it's

9:25

Iran. That could be my mother. I

9:27

think I'm, like, ninety percent certain. It's

9:29

Iran. Yeah. Alright. Iran

9:32

baby. Alright. Don't be so light about it.

9:34

This is Syria, Sarah. Iran's

9:37

Iran started executing protesters

9:39

who had been officially sentenced

9:41

to death. Fucking

9:47

shit, spreading awareness about

9:49

those sentenced to death and

9:51

hash tagging their names so that they

9:54

become well known as the best thing we

9:56

can do to help Iranians at this

9:58

time. Interesting. Okay? The

10:00

more we hashtag the names of protesters

10:02

in danger of

10:03

execution, the more likely the

10:05

regime is to spare their life.

10:07

Okay. You

10:09

gotta do

10:09

that. Here are some of the protesters who

10:12

have been officially sentenced and

10:14

are in immediate danger.

10:16

We'll we'll post this.

10:18

So check it out on

10:20

on YouTube if

10:22

you're watching this. I

10:25

will just not do

10:27

well. I'll try to

10:29

say it at too much official.

10:31

T0MT00MAJ

10:35

official is an

10:37

anti regime rapper currently under

10:39

severe torture in prison. So

10:41

that would be hashtag too

10:43

much, Solehi. Saman

10:47

Yasin? Again, I'm

10:49

not sure if I'm saying this right, but it's

10:51

at SAMANYASIN

10:54

org. Anti regime Kurdish

10:57

Iranian rapper currently

10:59

under severe torture in prison,

11:01

we're gonna post all this. I don't

11:03

wanna ruin these names. But

11:06

Dr. Hamid Garehhasanlu

11:08

at Iranian diaspora

11:12

collective has a full list published

11:14

on their page as well. So that's at

11:16

Iranian diaspora collective.

11:19

Here are some Iranian and

11:21

Iranian American English language

11:23

activists and journalists, social media

11:25

accounts for people to stay

11:27

informed. We're gonna post these if you're watching

11:29

on YouTube. It's a lot

11:31

of a lot of addresses.

11:34

You cannot send money to

11:36

Iran due to sanctions and government

11:38

theft. There is the abdomen,

11:41

abdomen center. Again,

11:43

we'll put this up so you can read it

11:45

because I'm just an ugly American

11:47

that may not be saying it correctly. They're

11:50

based in Washington, D. C. Which is

11:52

dedicated to human rights and

11:54

democracy in Iran. It's an

11:56

online library dedicated to the stories

11:58

of individual victims of the

12:00

Islamic Republic's crimes against humanity so

12:02

that once the regime is ousted,

12:05

they'll be properly held

12:07

accountable. We're gonna post everything

12:09

all the addresses

12:11

and all the sites and all the things

12:13

that you need will post

12:16

on our YouTube page and the our

12:18

Apple page in the

12:20

show notes. So look there if you're

12:22

interested in getting involved and I hope that you're

12:24

interested in getting involved. Let's make some

12:25

noise. It

12:27

can you

12:28

believe it? It makes a difference.

12:31

And let's take some calls. Let's

12:33

listen to some v m's

12:35

baby. You

12:38

have been on that scene. Hi,

12:52

Sarah. My question

12:55

for you is more more

12:57

of a story. So today's

12:58

Thanksgiving. I'm

13:01

coming home from my family Thanksgiving and my

13:03

favorite uncle said

13:05

something that was It's fucking

13:09

awful. And I

13:12

didn't know how to respond. Never

13:15

said anything of this sorts around me since

13:17

him being my favorite uncle.

13:19

But he just was telling me

13:21

about how he likes Menards more than Walmart.

13:24

Because it's

13:26

cleaner and he's

13:29

worse. There's not a

13:31

bunch of fat black women

13:34

surrounded by kids. And

13:40

now in hindsight, I can think of a

13:42

million things to say. Respond

13:44

with even, like, I'm always. What would

13:46

Sara say? I would probably be like,

13:48

oh, I'm like, why don't I don't feel

13:50

like seeing that? What is it about

13:51

it? They even

13:52

like, But, of course, I didn't say anything

13:55

because I have such a hard time vocalizing

13:57

my feelings when

13:59

I disagree with somebody.

14:02

And then I

14:03

just said, yeah, it is a lot cleaner.

14:06

And that was it, but

14:08

I just fucking it's it's

14:10

he's my favorite. And now it's hard

14:12

for him to be my

14:12

favorite.

14:15

And,

14:16

obviously, I

14:17

still love so much about him, but that is so

14:19

troubling. And I'm wondering if

14:21

you have ever

14:24

has any of

14:24

your family member ever said something terribly

14:27

racist or

14:29

something like that where you just

14:32

are totally blindsided by it. And

14:35

what is your response?

14:37

And is there anything that I could do now

14:40

after the fact to respond in

14:42

a non weird

14:43

way? I've

14:44

not experienced that with

14:47

me my mother's mother

14:49

was

14:50

was a month her. But besides

14:52

her, right, we're very

14:54

I I don't have that

14:56

within my family, but certainly,

15:00

starting at

15:00

yeah. My first many

15:03

years in the comedy community was

15:05

there was a lot of heartbreaking things

15:08

said by people I admired and

15:13

This is a tough one, like, What would

15:15

Sarah do? WWSDI

15:18

don't

15:21

know. I my, you know, my knee

15:23

jerk reaction is maybe

15:25

I'd say to him, like, holy shit is

15:27

my favorite uncle, racist. And

15:29

then just put it in his court, you know,

15:31

like, oh, no. I

15:35

don't know what I would do. Maybe I would just not

15:37

say anything just like you and

15:39

just think of him differently, which

15:42

is unfortunate? It's

15:46

tough because, you know, you

15:48

know all these wonderful things about

15:50

him that have made him your

15:52

favorite uncle I only

15:54

know that he said this racist

15:56

thing. You know? So it's

15:58

hard for me to go, oh, but,

16:00

you know, the I don't have a context

16:02

to say, oof or

16:05

or or even an idea that he could

16:07

be open to hearing

16:08

you. Say something to him

16:11

about it. You know?

16:15

My guess is he probably wouldn't, you

16:18

know, be like, hey, you're

16:20

right. I'm

16:22

being racist. Maybe

16:26

you're his favorite niece and he'll listen to

16:28

you. I don't know. Maybe if you

16:31

say, you know, when

16:33

you say stuff like that,

16:36

it makes me think of you differently.

16:38

Is this how you

16:41

really think of

16:43

people? Or maybe

16:45

you just love

16:47

the parts of him that you love

16:49

and love him

16:52

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16:54

that you see the world and the way that

16:56

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16:58

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20:00

keep hearing you. I'm not sure if this has been

20:02

addressed since, but I heard on

20:04

an old episode that

20:06

were trying to come up with a word, a a female

20:09

alternative for

20:11

the word, masculine, and

20:15

defe feminized. Is that not --

20:17

Alright. --

20:18

you know the -- Yeah.

20:19

-- the

20:19

female counterpart. I'm not sure. May I

20:22

might be totally off base, but

20:25

Just thought I'd call it in and see

20:27

if that might shock your

20:29

memory in the right

20:29

direction. Thanks. Have a good

20:31

one. I think

20:32

that's probably the most accurate

20:34

word. Oh,

20:36

it just makes me feel

20:39

de feminized.

20:41

Well, so I

20:41

guess I just have to get used to it.

20:43

There's something

20:48

unsatisfying about it. Although the word itself,

20:51

what it means is is

20:53

a feeling that is

20:57

unsatisfying or or a

21:00

feeling of being less

21:02

than of of not being a

21:03

woman, a whole Holy

21:06

a woman. I don't know. Do you feminized?

21:08

Yeah. Alright.

21:12

What else?

21:13

Hi. This is Matt from on Waterloo, Ontario,

21:16

Canada. I've been listening to you

21:18

in my recycling truck during

21:20

the big

21:21

fan. Think you're

21:24

hilarious, and I've always really liked anything you've

21:26

been

21:26

in. I

21:27

just heard you talking about your

21:30

almost fight with Rory.

21:32

And you mentioned the pit bull

21:34

locking jaw

21:35

thing. That's a big pet peeve of

21:38

mine because I have a couple of dogs that

21:40

Gage considered fully breed

21:42

and they're anatomically

21:45

no different. The jaw thing is

21:47

it's And and acting

21:51

out of fear when I talk about that.

21:53

IIII am afraid

21:55

of I have a

21:58

fear around those dogs and

22:00

you're right. And I have friends who have pit bulls and they're

22:02

like babies. They're

22:04

they're they're babies and they're snugly

22:06

and and sweet. And

22:09

Thank you for correcting me.

22:11

Alright. What else?

22:13

Hey, Sara. It's Laurie

22:15

from Scotland again. And

22:18

one of your newer podcasts Kast played

22:20

a voicemail I sent you when I found

22:22

out was about nine weeks pregnant and wasn't sure

22:25

what to do. Shortly after

22:27

I sent you that email, I had what I

22:29

thought was a miscarriage, turned

22:31

out. It was one of

22:33

two babies. And

22:35

when I thought I'd lost the baby,

22:37

I was absolutely devastated

22:40

and heartbroken. And

22:43

relapse it. So when I found out

22:45

I was actually still pregnant

22:47

about a week later after having some blood

22:49

donor scan and decided

22:52

to go through with the pregnancy.

22:55

I have since

22:57

found out I'm having a

22:59

boy. And my new conundrum

23:01

or issue is,

23:03

how do I raise

23:05

a good man? Obviously,

23:08

we talk a lot or you talk a lot on

23:10

your show about toxic

23:13

masculinity and and the impact

23:15

that men have on the world. And

23:17

how to be aware of that. And I was just wondering if any of

23:19

your listeners even have any tips for

23:22

me to ensure that I raise a

23:24

good man. I like

23:26

to think I'm a good person and I can do

23:28

that, but

23:30

I don't know anything about boys clearly.

23:32

So yeah. Any tips on how to put

23:34

a good man into the universe who is

23:37

not toxic

23:37

and, yeah, brings it all.

23:40

Lovely lots. Thanks for everything. Hope your

23:42

operation went well. Bye. Thank

23:43

you. Wow. Thank you so much

23:46

for calling back.

23:50

And congratulations. And

23:52

how would you how can you raise

23:54

a good man?

23:57

You know, I'm childless,

23:59

so fuck me. But if you're

24:01

asking me, here's here's

24:04

my

24:04

opinion. How to raise a good man, I

24:06

guess the same way you would raise

24:08

any

24:09

kid of any gender or no

24:11

gender or whatever the fuck.

24:13

Raise him to be strong

24:17

and to stand up to others and

24:19

to stand up four others

24:21

and to acknowledge and

24:23

examine their own feelings

24:25

and to know that

24:28

they're loved. And

24:30

to be generous and

24:32

to know that they're

24:35

responsible for their own happiness

24:37

and

24:38

that And that

24:40

that's a a sacred and

24:43

an important responsibility. And

24:46

to not fear being wrong and

24:48

to enjoy and understand the

24:50

fruits of of apologizing or

24:53

being sorry.

24:57

Kast raise a good

24:58

kid, a good person. You

25:01

don't have

25:02

to

25:03

put gender

25:04

on it. You know, he's

25:06

gonna be who he is.

25:08

I don't think there's

25:11

a You

25:13

don't wanna overcorrect. He's

25:15

just this new being coming into the

25:17

world. He's just gonna be

25:20

the person you raise him to

25:23

be with the influences that are

25:25

all around

25:25

him. And I think you're gonna

25:28

be

25:28

great. There you

25:31

go. What else? Good luck. Call

25:33

again. Call in ten years. Let me

25:35

know how he's doing.

25:36

Hi, Sarah.

25:36

It's your best friend, Mara. Just

25:39

calling because I'm doing my laundry

25:41

and some old

25:44

episodes of yours, kind of came into my

25:47

feed. And there was one from twenty

25:49

twenty when you're talking about

25:51

energy and how you say

25:53

hi to people that you see on the street who are

25:55

struggling with mental illness. And

25:57

I say I see you. It just made

25:59

me realize what an impact that

26:01

had had on my day to day life. And I wanted to tell you a

26:03

quick story. My during, like,

26:05

the height of lockdown, my

26:08

daughter who was five at

26:10

the time was home with me and it

26:12

was so intense and horrible. And

26:14

we have a neighbor that we've

26:16

had for many years who struggles

26:18

with sees people and talks to herself

26:20

and things like that. And

26:22

she would walk by our house every

26:24

day and when it wasn't locked

26:26

out, we never noticed. But because

26:28

it's locked out. We noticed. In one day,

26:30

my daughter went running outside and

26:32

she waved and she's like, hi, and the

26:35

lady kind of stopped to look at

26:37

her. And and my daughter

26:39

came back inside and was

26:40

like, oh, good. I wanted to make sure she

26:42

saw me. I was like, why? And she said,

26:44

she just looks so sad.

26:46

And,

26:48

like, broke my

26:51

heart. Right. She does look sad. So

26:53

now we always say hi to her, and

26:56

don't think it makes much of difference probably, but

26:58

some days she sees us and

27:00

says hi back. And it's

27:02

just really beautiful.

27:04

I love that story. Thank

27:06

you so much for calling in.

27:09

And I

27:13

believe it matters.

27:14

Even if it

27:16

only matters

27:19

to you, even if it only

27:21

changes how you

27:24

feel and your daughter, and and that you

27:26

got to see your daughter do that.

27:29

But I think that

27:30

when she says high back,

27:33

it's really something. Even if

27:35

she's doing it,

27:36

for you. Even

27:39

if she's taking care of your feelings,

27:41

that's really something. Right?

27:44

Well, I

27:45

love it. I love that stuff. I find

27:47

it fascinating. Alright. What else we got?

27:49

Hi, Sarah. This is Sam calling

27:52

from Chicago. Big

27:54

fan of your podcast and

27:56

listening ever since your first episode. So

28:01

I have a question for you. Do you watch

28:03

John Oliver at all?

28:05

And if so, he did

28:07

a special, I think,

28:10

It was, like, a couple weeks back, maybe three

28:12

or four weeks back about

28:15

one order.

28:15

Oh, yeah. I see that.

28:17

It was a very interesting

28:20

episode about how Law

28:22

Norder is created by Dick

28:24

Wolf and he's a

28:26

very pro cop as a very

28:28

pro cop stance and

28:31

he creates his shows to

28:33

kind of glorify the police

28:36

And I was just wondering if you had

28:39

any thoughts about that or if you've

28:41

ever thought about that shown away. I

28:43

know that law and order is one

28:45

of your favorite shows

28:47

to unwinds. So

28:49

I don't I don't wanna harsh

28:51

harsh your mellow or anything,

28:54

but I was

28:56

just wondering your thoughts about that. Okay. Thanks.

28:58

Bye bye.

29:00

Great question.

29:02

Well,

29:03

yes and no,

29:06

but one of the elements that I

29:08

love about it is that

29:10

I don't always agree with some

29:12

of my favorite characters

29:14

that I love so much.

29:16

You know, Jack McCoy

29:19

for the death penalty, like,

29:21

all the time. You know?

29:23

Sometimes, Ed Green will fudge

29:25

the rules and it fucks up the case for the

29:27

prosecutors. It's It's

29:29

also like super

29:32

soft core, you know. It's

29:34

not it's not gritty law and

29:36

order. It's I

29:38

don't know. I you know, also, what I like on

29:41

TV is not necessarily

29:43

what I like in real life. You know,

29:45

I watch Walking Dead and I'm like,

29:47

get the guns. Yeah.

29:49

You know, like, you know what

29:51

I mean? I I love any

29:53

show about, like, a renegade cop

29:56

or some rogue justice

29:59

citizen. In real life,

30:01

those people are like Kyle Rittenhouse. You know, it's just

30:03

it's very, very different. But

30:06

I I love that stuff. I love Jack

30:08

Ryan, you know, going off on his own

30:10

even though they told him to

30:12

stand down or, you know, shit like that.

30:14

It it doesn't necessarily translate

30:17

in life directly in a way that

30:19

I would ever support.

30:23

But that's the

30:25

fantasy of art. Especially, you know,

30:28

law and order started in ninety

30:30

two. And I love watching those early episodes. They're

30:32

so well done. But

30:35

boy, a lot of them, you know, in many

30:38

ways, don't hold up. In

30:40

in ways that are really interesting

30:43

because they do reflect how things

30:45

have been. They

30:47

don't always, you know, reflect how things

30:49

are. Now the newer ones are, like,

30:51

you can see, like, a lot of

30:53

liberal infusion in

30:55

there. They'll have scenes where the cops

30:57

are disagreeing and discussing things

31:00

that are real cultural discussions,

31:03

you know. Wait.

31:06

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32:46

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32:48

your show regarding

32:51

the checkbox

32:52

Oh, which race you are and how it

32:54

was eliminating the choice

32:56

of Jewish.

32:57

Right. So I learned something I'm

33:00

on the diversity and inclusion team at my company.

33:04

And we don't ask

33:07

about race in

33:09

the Netherlands. And that really goes

33:11

back to World War

33:14

two where people were classifying different

33:16

races, Jewish being one

33:18

of them. And it's funny

33:20

because in an attempt to not

33:22

classify people by race, we

33:24

actually have a really big struggle

33:26

in our diverse and inclusion group

33:29

when we want to show

33:31

KPIs and show that we're actually

33:34

having more diversity

33:36

in our corporation we're really hard

33:38

time proving that because we actually just can't

33:41

count. But you got me thinking about

33:43

that. And, yeah, I just thought it was

33:45

interesting and what your thoughts

33:46

Anyway, love your show and

33:49

keep at it. Thanks.

33:51

Bye. That's really interesting. You know, I mean,

33:54

there are a lot of, like, well intended things

33:56

or or things that you'd maybe

33:58

a place doesn't wanna touch because of

34:01

touchiness. You know,

34:03

I remember that call it was like, yeah, why isn't there

34:05

a Jewish box? And I'm like, Well, if there was a Jewish

34:07

box, I'd be like, why is there a Jewish box? You

34:09

know, it's it's like, you know, a lot of

34:11

people in the in black culture black

34:14

American culture that don't wanna

34:16

fill out sensuses, you know? But,

34:18

senses are important to know

34:20

all that

34:22

stuff. So that you know

34:24

the sum of all of

34:26

your parts, the the parts of all

34:28

of your of your sum, I guess.

34:30

You know, like, what makes up your

34:34

world or what makes

34:36

up your company or, you know, if

34:40

if you're

34:40

No. No. I'm not I don't know

34:42

if I'm even clearer if I'm even thinking clearly, but I think you know what I

34:44

mean. I that there is something to

34:49

having a bead on the

34:51

makeup of your

34:53

world or your country

34:55

or your city or

34:57

your company or to make sure that it's diverse or

34:59

to be able to

35:02

serve the different cultures

35:05

that make up

35:06

where you are, you know? I know, like,

35:08

I always am googling, like,

35:12

how may

35:13

any, you know, what's the ratio of, you know, just because

35:15

I wanna

35:17

know who's

35:19

here and and and

35:21

And are they

35:23

attended to? Are they reflected

35:25

in in society or day? You

35:27

know, and it's some

35:29

Nomo's looking like, how many Jews are in the world? How

35:32

many Jews are in what countries? You know?

35:34

Because I'm fucking such

35:36

a Jew head these

35:38

days. I mean, it really

35:40

never was. I mean,

35:42

yeah. You know, that Sensus

35:44

is particularly. And, you know, I

35:48

think like in doctor's offices, you go, why does the my doctor

35:50

need to know this? And and in a way,

35:52

I'm surprised that there isn't like

35:54

a box for Jewish,

35:56

because, like, if you're going to a doctor, there are

35:58

things like the Brachogene

36:02

that Jews can have that give you, like, breast cancer or some shit.

36:04

I'm probably talking out of my ass. Wait.

36:06

Is that right, Amy? It is

36:08

the

36:08

Bracogene. BRCA.

36:08

That's what you meant. Right?

36:12

Yeah. BRCA So we get tested, but is it a breast

36:14

cancer thing or Yeah,

36:16

it's a breast cancer thing. So,

36:18

right. So, like, when

36:20

I go to get a

36:22

mammogram or whatever, they might check

36:24

for that because I'm

36:26

Jewish, you know. And that's not a

36:28

racist thing or a anti Semitic

36:29

thing, whatever. Alright. What else? Hi, Sarah. This is

36:32

Gage from a small town in

36:34

Illinois. You probably won't

36:36

respond to this one, but

36:40

I'm really flatter to have been mentioning podcasts more than

36:43

once. And I also just wanted to

36:45

say really quickly that how

36:48

sweet the the guy that replied to my my

36:51

call. Anyways,

36:54

looking me

36:56

up on Facebook to whoever you

36:58

are, beautiful human

37:00

being. Anyways, this has nothing to do with

37:04

with but kind of actually so anyways, I think the

37:06

reason why I was offended by her asking

37:08

me that question was because

37:10

I I

37:11

I'm really This is all

37:12

done. Could we stop a second? This

37:15

is the guy

37:17

who has AAA

37:20

girlfriend

37:21

that asked if if while

37:23

he was at work, she could, like, fuck

37:25

a dude in his apartment. Right? And he

37:28

got really

37:29

upset. Right. Sorry. Just hit

37:31

me. That question was because I I

37:33

I'm I'm a really overly

37:36

sensitive person

37:37

And I kinda felt

37:38

like, is that how she sees

37:40

me?

37:40

You know, is that how she

37:42

sees me kinda being, like, slutty and

37:45

kinda careless like that. Is the house she sees

37:48

me? Do I see myself like that?

37:50

Do do people see me like that?

37:52

And I think that the stem and

37:54

the roots is that I was bullied so badly. I never got a chance to

37:56

stand up for myself, so I have this kind

37:58

of repressed aggression and

38:00

resentment towards

38:02

people. Wow. And I don't

38:04

know if that makes

38:06

me overly

38:07

sensitive. I'm Sarah, I'm

38:08

thirty years old, and

38:09

and I just wanna be happy

38:11

I'm trying to of figure out why I am the way

38:14

that I am. And I I think

38:16

kinda being on mute for so

38:17

long, I I been

38:20

so angry and offended, and I don't

38:22

wanna be

38:23

so affected.

38:26

Oh, I'm so glad you

38:27

called back in. I'm what

38:30

what an

38:30

exhausting way to

38:31

live, isn't

38:34

it gay?

38:34

You touched me so deeply right now because

38:36

do you see what you realize? This

38:39

is really

38:42

Gage. Really

38:45

huge. It's so cool to get to

38:48

see it. I just feel like you had

38:50

such a breakthrough here, you

38:52

know, like, You're telling

38:54

yourself you you've been telling and

38:56

this is very human

38:57

nature. You've been telling

39:00

yourself horror

39:02

stories. And

39:03

you're projecting everything

39:05

you judge about yourself,

39:08

one to

39:10

You're manifesting your biggest fears

39:12

by being so angry

39:14

at people who love you

39:17

for what you imagine they are

39:20

thinking? What a

39:22

huge realization?

39:25

You know, this is a

39:28

weird example, and I don't know if you saw

39:30

nine perfect strangers. But

39:33

I watched this limited series,

39:36

nine perfect strangers. And in

39:38

it, there's parents of a son

39:41

who killed

39:42

himself. And they

39:42

go to

39:43

this place where they're the

39:46

the leaders like giving the

39:48

to be helped through this brief.

39:51

And they're they're given shakes

39:54

smoothies every morning. It's like a spa, but

39:56

they she puts drug the,

39:58

like, leader there, puts drugs. That

40:00

she thinks you need and everything. And so

40:02

they're literally on psychedelics. And the mother is

40:06

visited by her

40:07

son, while whilst on

40:09

these psychedelics.

40:11

And the sun says,

40:14

mom, you knew this

40:17

might happen in, and she says, what are you talking about? And

40:19

he says, you know, you you

40:22

read the instructions of

40:24

my

40:25

asthma medicine You even underlined one of the side

40:28

effects was suicide. You underlined

40:30

it. She

40:31

said, what? I

40:33

don't remember that. Says

40:36

you did. And then she

40:38

kind of remembers

40:39

it. And he's being

40:42

really hard on her. And

40:44

I remember my first reaction was

40:46

that, like, why would he even

40:48

know about that? And

40:51

you know what? And then, you know, as I'm real

40:53

as I'm like saying

40:54

that, I go, oh,

40:56

he's not really there. He

40:58

he's dead. He committed suicide. This is

41:00

her mind, having that somewhere in her mind

41:03

that she had done that, and

41:05

then the psychedelic making

41:08

her remember it

41:10

through her son telling her, but this is

41:12

all this is all her telling

41:14

herself this. This is her

41:17

judging

41:18

herself. That she's in this

41:20

psychedelic trip

41:24

projecting onto her

41:26

dead son. Does that is

41:28

that clear? Am I making that clear? So it's it

41:30

is all in her head. So

41:32

much is in our heads. Gauge. This

41:35

is huge. You know, people some

41:38

people live their

41:40

entire lives. Never

41:42

having like a breakthrough like this.

41:44

And you deserve love

41:48

to realize that hopefully this is the lesson you're

41:50

taking. You deserve love.

41:52

You have people who love

41:54

you, especially if you let them

41:58

You will be less judgmental if you

42:00

can stop judging

42:01

yourself. That's a

42:04

guaranty

42:05

fucking tea. It

42:07

is not modest. This

42:09

self loathing.

42:11

It's all encompassing.

42:14

I see this out here in Showbiz in

42:16

Hollywood. It's it's all

42:18

encompassing.

42:21

Gage yourself the respect you give

42:23

any fucking asshole on

42:25

the street. You

42:26

are a weirdo, which

42:29

is what makes like everyone.

42:31

Humans are

42:33

weird. We have ego

42:35

and angst and so

42:38

much

42:38

shit. It's exhausting.

42:39

I heard you have this realization

42:41

that went right into

42:43

my ear holes.

42:45

And it's so

42:46

like it's so exciting.

42:48

Like in cool,

42:51

you know? You

42:54

realized that hating yourself is exhausting and it takes so

42:57

much

42:57

space. As soon as

42:59

that clicks for you,

43:02

You were able to have total

43:05

empathy for your friend who asked to

43:07

use your place to fuck that

43:10

guy. Because you realize it had nothing to do with

43:13

you other than

43:14

she felt close enough to ask

43:17

you to do that. By

43:20

the way, it's fine and even I think right for

43:23

you. To say to her,

43:25

absent fucking lutely

43:26

not, but I love you. You

43:29

know, like, I think

43:31

people don't realize that's an

43:34

option. You can love her to pieces

43:36

and have a

43:37

boundary. And even say it laughingly. Like,

43:39

you know, III became

43:42

friends with this brilliant comedian,

43:44

Ahamed Weinberg, and I really don't think he'd

43:46

mind me saying this. When we

43:48

first met,

43:51

he was, you

43:54

know, like, he was a post

43:56

Gage. You know, he's a brilliant writer, comedian director,

43:58

brilliant. But he was,

44:02

you know, young and struggling and he was a post made

44:04

and he would Airbnb

44:06

his tiny little room

44:08

that he lived in. And

44:11

I remember him calling me and saying, I'm

44:13

I'm Airbnb being my apartment, can I

44:16

sleep on your couch? And I

44:18

said, no,

44:20

absolutely not. But it was fine for him to

44:22

ask. I

44:22

mean, but there's just I'm

44:24

I'm not I don't

44:27

Listen, I used to have comments on my couch

44:29

all the time. I don't do

44:31

that anymore. It's just not part

44:33

of my happiness. But it was I thought it was

44:35

hilarious, you know. And I said

44:38

no fucking way, you know, but I

44:40

love you. And he was

44:42

like, okay. He wasn't

44:44

saying anything about me. This

44:46

was just him in his

44:47

world, in his situation

44:50

asking me a favor.

44:51

That's all it

44:53

is. I was just

44:55

fucking exhilarating for me

44:57

to hearing him

44:58

Put that together. It was cool. I'm I'm

45:01

proud of you gauge and

45:03

I'm happy for you because this

45:05

is gonna be your

45:08

your happiness, your your whole life is gonna change. Anyway,

45:12

please call

45:14

in and let me

45:16

know how it's going,

45:17

you know,

45:18

once this is, like, really in

45:21

practice. Alright.

45:23

What else? Hi,

45:23

Sarah. This is Alex in

45:26

Atlanta. I was just calling because I'm listening

45:28

to you

45:28

talk to Al Frank

45:32

and about. His directs me, he directs me and all the

45:34

gender kind of verbiage language

45:36

matters. And it made me think

45:40

that recently I

45:42

was on a photoshoot. I worked for an

45:45

airline and we were talking about the

45:47

cockpit and how it is no longer

45:49

called the cockpit Cockpits

45:52

That name was just made up. We are now calling it

45:54

a flight deck because there are

45:57

officially women pilots. So not

46:00

really trying to hang out in a cockpit. So I thought you'd find

46:02

that interesting if you haven't already heard it that we

46:04

are now calling in a slight deck.

46:07

So spread the

46:08

word. Alright. Thanks. Hold

46:14

on. Cockpits

46:17

me and like hits

46:19

where Cockpits are? Like,

46:21

oh, you're the peep the people in

46:23

the front of the plane

46:25

plant their Cox

46:28

there and fly the plane. What

46:30

is the edit? Hold on. Can you look

46:32

up the etymology of a

46:35

million

46:35

years, I wouldn't think that that had anything to do with Cox or Pets.

46:37

I just figured it was Apparently,

46:39

it comes from the

46:41

late sixteenth century. Dates

46:44

from the early twentieth century and derives from

46:46

an early eighteenth century nautical

46:48

term, denoting an area

46:51

and after lower deck of a man of

46:54

war where the wounded were

46:56

taken.

46:56

It doesn't have anything to

46:59

do with, like, your cock.

47:01

Not your cock. One's

47:04

cock. Wonder why they changed

47:06

it. I I there's gotta be I'm wondering what

47:08

that is, what the origin of the

47:10

word is.

47:11

Talk pit. I found another thing that

47:13

says, the original meaning was

47:15

literally pit where a

47:17

cock fight

47:18

happens.

47:18

That doesn't make sense either for

47:20

the place where you fly a plane.

47:24

Alright. Flight

47:25

deck, it is. But I yeah. I just I'm

47:28

is the is

47:30

the is there something genuinely

47:33

problematic about it? Or is it just

47:35

the fear of

47:40

hearing cockpits? Okay.

47:42

Flight deck sounds

47:45

fine. I wouldn't I wouldn't

47:47

compare it that change

47:50

to, like, master bedroom and primary bedroom, you

47:52

know, that that's like, ugh. Now

47:54

it seems you

47:56

can't unring

47:58

that bell. Primary bedroom,

48:01

it is.

48:02

Okay. It reminds

48:05

me of that joke.

48:06

What do you call a woman that flies

48:07

a plane? A

48:10

pilot, you

48:13

fucking misogynists,

48:15

You can use it with anything.

48:17

Hi, Sarah. My

48:18

name is Pumpkins. I'm with Tucson Arizona.

48:22

I was wondering if you have any

48:24

fun to watch that you want

48:26

to ask people to get

48:28

to know them a little better. And

48:30

I have one for you

48:34

actually. Okay. I love your show. I love what you're doing. I think you're

48:36

hilarious. I just wanted to put that

48:38

out there. But my question

48:40

for

48:41

you is, to get to know

48:44

you a little

48:44

better is if you had

48:45

a bathtub full of anything and could've

48:47

been doing it,

48:50

What would

48:51

it be? Wow.

48:53

Great question. And

48:56

the answer

48:58

is hot

49:02

water. But

49:03

there you go. Maybe some Gage some

49:06

salt in there.

49:08

Non scented. Love

49:10

it. Did it this morning.

49:12

What

49:13

would be my ice breaker

49:15

questions, I don't you into? What do you

49:17

do? What's your life like? What are

49:19

your passions? Hey, what what

49:21

are you watching? Would

49:25

be a big probably is the most common. Here's a good one.

49:27

How do you wash

49:30

your asshole? Feel

49:32

like, you know, it's different for everyone? Rod, you

49:34

know that question because that was, like, when

49:36

we worked on the Hulu show, I was,

49:38

like, that's something you can ask everyone

49:41

and it's universal. Everybody does it

49:43

and everyone has their own style. And

49:45

then I thought about, like, I don't know, how do

49:47

I wash my ass whole. And then I realized

49:50

I,

49:50

like,

49:50

I like to use

49:51

that Dr. Brunner's liquid soap, which is, you

49:53

know, some lunatic makes, I guess

49:55

Dr. Brunner, and it's,

49:57

like, covered in, like, bible

50:00

stuff

50:01

and everything,

50:01

but man, does this guy make

50:04

soap? I put

50:06

I lather up

50:08

my pubes

50:09

and then

50:10

I take that lather

50:12

and

50:13

I suds up my

50:16

vagina through to the

50:18

asshole area.

50:19

Alright. This is

50:22

the last episode of the year.

50:24

We're gonna take a couple episodes

50:26

off

50:26

because, hey, we deserve it.

50:28

And

50:28

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