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have you ever had a moment in your life

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where you had no clue what you were

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habits that didn't support me in the past

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I do a lot better habits that support

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You know, so many people asked me to

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do the solo episodes. where I share

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more of my ideas, my strategies, stories,

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thoughts, mindset. And

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I love doing the interviews where I'm

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connecting with world class

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athletes and icons and leaders and

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and scientists where I can learn from

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people because I'm constantly wanting to learn.

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I wanna learn as much as I can. and apply

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it to my life to improve my life.

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And then I wanna share it with you and I wanna

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help you take your life to the next level

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and achieve greatness in any level

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that looks like for you. And that's what this is

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all about. But so

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many of you keep demanding that I come

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on here share more from me.

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So this is an episode just

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of me talking about the ten habits

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happy people do differently. And as I was

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thinking about this and doing some research and reflecting

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on my own life. I realized I've made a

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lot of mistakes. A lot of mistakes and

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habits that didn't support me in the past

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and now I do a lot better habits

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that support me and just make me a lot

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happier. So I wanted to

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to share these ten habits kinda

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just reflect with you and share a story on each

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one and and dive in. And if you

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have any habits that you think,

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increase your happiness or that you've seen helped

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you over the years. Dan, feel free to share

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with us over on social

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media at Lewis House at greatness

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on Instagram as well, on Twitter

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at Lewis House and all the places you wanna connect

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with me. These are the ten habits

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happy people do differently. Now

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this one is

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that they have a vision and

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life fulfilling goals. They

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have a vision and life

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fulfilling goals that they're working

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towards in the future, but

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they live in the present. Oh,

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okay. Now let me break this down. Have

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you ever had a moment in your life where

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you had no clue what you were supposed to do

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in this world? You had no clue what your goals were.

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You didn't have any goals. you had

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anti goals. You were just like, I'm gonna sit

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here and do nothing. You know, I remember

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after being done playing Arena football,

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I was on my sister's couch, for

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about a year and a half and the first three to

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six months were depressing. I

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had no goals, I had no vision, I

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had no clue what I wanna do with my and

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the lack of vision, the lack of clarity,

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the lack of fulfilling goals.

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When we don't have those, it's actually

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linked to being more depressed. and

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having goals and having a vision

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that you're just working towards is actually

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linked to decreasing anxiety

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and depression. there might be other stresses

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you face, but it's linked to

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decreasing depression. And

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it's when we don't have a

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dream, a goal that

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is fulfilling a vision

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that we see for our life in the future,

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it starts to get pretty dark for us

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in the present. So number

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one,

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habit. You gotta have goals,

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dreams, and a vision for your

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life. And this could be three month

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goal, a six month goal, a five year

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goal. It doesn't matter the length, and we

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can break down later how to really set

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and define and create those goals, but you're just

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gonna have something that you're working towards.

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And and, you know, the paradox,

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I guess, is you wanna be working towards

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something, but be living in the moment.

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Be be appreciative of

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what is actually you're creating in this moment, the

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struggle, the challenges, the the ups and

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downs of the moment. You know, I wanna

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achieve my goals as fast as possible. I

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have zero patients. I don't know if you're

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like me where you want things now.

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and we're we're definitely living in a society where

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we want things now more than

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ever. And

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appreciating what we've created

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today, even if it's not as fast as we want

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it, but just being in the present

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makes us happier. And that's

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one habit. that

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happy people do differently. You know, life is

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a gift, and this moment

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is all we have. So

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embracing the

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moment is key, but having

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clear dreams, goals, and visions

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for the future of where you wanna grow

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into is important as well. Number

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two,

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they create healthy relationships and

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have boundaries in them. So

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how many of you have had a relationship where

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there were zero boundaries. Maybe it's a family

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member that just you feel like they walk all over you

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or they ask you for too much or

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you're you're constantly dropping

6:26

everything at

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your own health just to be

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there for them or a friend

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who always calls you when

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when they've got some challenges or drama in

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their life, but when you need them, they

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aren't showing up, you

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know, business partnerships, things

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like that. relationships.

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You know, when we have this social

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environment that is unhealthy,

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it's really hard to find happiness. with

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those relationships that are unhealthy.

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So happy people

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create healthy relationships and they

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have boundaries in them. I

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have had to learn this the hard way

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many times over the years

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with family, with friends, with

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intimate relationships, you know. It's

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just it's a lesson.

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You gotta learn the hard way, I guess. Unless

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you have the courage. and

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the, you know, the lack of insecurity to

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really create boundaries early

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on. You know, doctor Nicole Lapeira,

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who is on our podcast, recently.

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She talked about the power

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of boundaries and how she had to create boundaries and

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actually kind of break up with her family. She

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kind of like broke up with her parents because

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she felt like she wasn't able to

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have healthy relationship with

7:42

them for thirty plus years.

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then she said, okay, I'm going she's a

7:46

psychologist. And she said, okay, I'm

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going to, you know, recreate

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this relationship with my parents,

7:53

with my family. And and she

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tried for about a year. A year a little

7:57

over a year. She was just like, here's what I wanna

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create.

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Here are the boundaries I'm creating. I I

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wanna have a healthier relationship. So

8:04

she laid out the communication of, like, this is

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what I wanna change and

8:08

in our relationship, and they were unwilling

8:10

to change after I think a a year, year

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and a half. And so she said, okay, I need to

8:14

take a break from this. I need to I I

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love you, but I need to take a break from this because

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it's hurting my mental health. It's hurting

8:20

me physically. and

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it's not healthy for me when I feel like

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all I'm doing is being taken advantage of

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and you're not seeing it from my point of view.

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So creating boundaries in

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all of your relationships so that

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you have healthy relationships. She said once

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she created that boundary, she

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started to feel so much happier in her

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life, so much freer, so much lighter.

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But we've got to create healthy

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relationships get out of toxic ones

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or create boundaries in the relationships

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that we're in right now to have a

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happier life. That's habit number

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two. Number three, this is my

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one of my favorites. They express

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gratitude and appreciation. There

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is you see a shift in people when

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you say that you're

9:06

grateful for them or what you appreciate

9:08

about them. If they are stressed out

9:10

or angry and you look at someone eyes

9:12

and you say, I'm really

9:13

grateful for you. And I really appreciate

9:16

the the hard work and the effort and the

9:18

time and the patience that you're putting into

9:20

this right now. you have no idea how much it

9:22

means to me. So thank you and I really

9:24

appreciate you for all that you

9:26

do. People

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shift when you speak

9:31

appreciation into someone's life,

9:33

they shift. You know, it's

9:35

one of the reasons why I love to acknowledge people on my

9:37

podcast at the end of every episode if this is your

9:39

first time listening. I acknowledge people

9:41

and acknowledge them for

9:43

the gift that I see in them from that,

9:45

you know, thirty to sixty units that we have

9:47

together. And you see a shift in

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people when they feel acknowledged. Another

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thing is just expressing gratitude

9:53

and appreciation for not only

9:55

for other people, but just for

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your day, for your moment. So

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every morning

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I wake up and I express my gratitude

10:02

and every night I go to bed

10:04

and I ask my girlfriend what she's grateful

10:06

for, and we

10:06

share a few minutes of gratitude

10:09

for the day and appreciation for

10:11

each other. And it just

10:12

I don't know. It just takes away a little bit of

10:14

the stress, the anxiety, it makes things less

10:18

worrisome. And I think

10:20

Tony Robbins said something

10:22

like this. I'm not sure if this is the exact quote,

10:24

but he said something like when

10:26

you trade expectations for

10:28

appreciation, you'll live a completely different

10:31

life. And it's so true how often

10:33

have we had these big expectations.

10:36

And, you know, some of them might be justified.

10:38

and not saying, like, just give up all

10:40

expectations in your life. Like, yes, you wanna

10:42

create boundaries, you wanna have clear communication.

10:45

But we set this big expectation that

10:47

wasn't clearly communicated, then we and

10:49

we hold on to it, you know, when

10:51

we just trade it for appreciation and

10:53

understand all human beings doing the best it

10:55

can do. You know, we are

10:57

just happier in general. So

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that's habit number three. express

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gratitude and appreciation. Habit number

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four, that happy people do

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things differently, is they have a

11:07

positive attitude when things go

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bad. This is something

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that earlier in my

11:13

childhood, I didn't have a positive attitude. And

11:15

then through sports, I really learned

11:17

this. as we were, you

11:19

know, I was playing on some great sports

11:21

teams and some bad sports teams. And I learned

11:23

the most in the bad the bad

11:25

teams where we were losing all

11:27

the time. And I learned the most about positive

11:29

attitude when we were down

11:31

twenty points or down three touchdowns.

11:34

Because having a negative attitude

11:36

when things are going bad is not going to

11:38

make things better. I can tell you that.

11:40

Just getting angrier is not going to

11:42

help you, but having a positive attitude

11:45

actually brings you more energy. A

11:47

negative attitude makes you tired.

11:51

So switching the mindset in

11:53

any bad situation. Oh, there's traffic.

11:56

Instead of being angry and pissed

11:58

off, that is gonna make you not

12:00

a happy person. say,

12:02

you know, my friend Chris Lee who's been on the podcast,

12:05

you know, over a dozen times,

12:07

he says in any negative or

12:09

bad situation, just put your hand in the

12:11

air and bring it down and say yes

12:13

and make a fist. He'll say

12:15

say yes anytime something bad

12:17

happens. My girlfriend cheated on

12:19

me. Yes, with a smile.

12:21

I'm thirty minutes late to my

12:23

meeting. Yes, with a smile. Just

12:25

reinforces my business partner

12:27

screw me over. Yes. Whatever it

12:30

is. You know, I failed my

12:32

test. I lost the game. say

12:34

yes with a smile and

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you'll be a happier human

12:38

being. It'll just change

12:40

things in a moment when you shift that

12:43

mentality of, oh, it didn't work

12:45

out or this person did this or this this

12:47

hurt me. I understand there's a time

12:49

and a place for being sad

12:51

and and having those emotions.

12:53

But on a daily basis,

12:55

if you wanna be happier in general,

12:57

having a positive attitude

13:00

is not woo woo or

13:02

weird. This is

13:03

powerful and just

13:05

shifting it to saying, okay, what's

13:07

the perspective here? We're down three touchdowns.

13:09

Yes. I have a lot of work to do. I I get

13:11

to practice more to figure out how to

13:13

become better. Yes. And that's what you

13:15

gotta do. Have a positive attitude when things go

13:17

bad. Okay. Number five, this is

13:19

again something that I think I didn't

13:22

really understand until later

13:24

in life. They volunteer

13:26

their time, they give

13:28

back, they mentor, and they help

13:30

others. Happy people

13:32

volunteer. And I and I I'm

13:34

a testament to this because the last seven years,

13:37

I think almost every year for the last seven

13:39

years, I've gone on a trip.

13:42

to with pencils of promise, which is the

13:44

charity that I support that helps build

13:46

schools and create education

13:48

for kids in developing

13:50

countries that don't

13:52

have physical schools and don't

13:54

have education. And

13:56

every year I go on a trip, And

13:59

it's one

13:59

the

13:59

of the most rewarding things is to be able

14:02

to connect with people that

14:04

are lacking something and you're

14:06

able to give them something. you're able to

14:08

help them further their dreams and

14:10

their goals and their

14:12

vision for their life in the future. When you're

14:14

able to help that for other people will

14:16

have a better life and

14:18

helping them in any way.

14:20

It makes you feel happier. It

14:22

makes you feel better. and

14:25

a happier person when you know that you are

14:27

powerful enough to give

14:29

your time, your energy, your resources

14:31

money, to support another

14:33

person. And and time is a big thing.

14:35

When you when you give time

14:37

is huge. because we can't get that

14:39

back. You can always make more money and resources

14:42

but time. When you're there,

14:44

you connect with someone, and you see them

14:46

grow, it just makes you

14:48

light up. It brings a lot of joy to you. and

14:50

it makes people happier. So that's number

14:52

five, volunteer their time, they get back, they

14:54

mentor, they help others. And every

14:56

time I help, you know, young kids, young

14:58

athletes, I always feel happier. Feel

15:00

like, okay, I made a difference. And

15:02

that's what you can do as well. Number

15:05

six, the workout and

15:07

they are healthy with their nutrition

15:09

and their mental health. You

15:12

know, when you take care of your health, you

15:14

feel proud, you feel more self

15:16

confident. You feel like

15:19

you

15:19

did something for yourself. When you

15:21

neglect your health, when you go

15:23

on you know, drinking ten

15:26

cokes a day, eating

15:28

four candy bars and

15:30

finishing it with a milkshake. You just

15:32

don't feel good. You might feel a

15:34

moment of dopamine

15:36

as the the sugar rushes through your

15:38

veins and then it's gonna crash and you're gonna

15:40

feel on happy and you're getting more of that to

15:42

feel happy. But eating

15:44

healthy and having this healthy lifestyle

15:47

will be a sustained happen and

15:49

it will be less ups and downs of emotional

15:52

crashings. So

15:54

working out

15:55

nutrition and also mental health

15:58

of thoughts, that you have in your mind

15:59

towards yourself are

16:02

very important is number

16:04

six, habit. Have a habit

16:06

of working out and eating healthy. Number

16:09

seven, taking responsibility for their

16:12

actions, thoughts, and life.

16:14

When we are victims of

16:16

our life, of everything that

16:18

happens around us, you know, the

16:20

thoughts, the things that we do, the things that other

16:22

people do around us.

16:24

We are victims and

16:28

don't

16:28

take responsibility or control for those

16:31

things. Then we are much more

16:33

unhappy in our lives.

16:35

And I used to

16:36

take a a lot of give a lot of blame

16:38

to other people. We'll person

16:40

did this or my teacher did this

16:42

or my girlfriend did this

16:44

or whatever. The coach didn't

16:47

play me, you know, whatever it

16:49

is that I was angry about

16:51

or, you know,

16:52

a victim of. I was never

16:54

happy. I was never happy in those moments, and you

16:56

can't you're not gonna be happy being

16:58

a victim. So stop being a victim in your life

17:00

and start taking responsibility for your

17:02

actions, your thoughts,

17:05

your life, You have the

17:07

power. You have

17:08

the control. I'm not saying

17:10

you're you're exactly

17:12

where you wanna be right now. I'm not saying

17:14

you have it harder or easier

17:16

than someone else. I'm just saying you have the

17:18

power to change, to shift, to

17:21

learn something new, to grow, to develop

17:23

a skill. and you can take complete

17:25

responsibility. And when you take complete

17:27

responsibility, you'll be happier. But

17:29

if you always say, well, you

17:31

know, I got in a car accident and

17:33

I broke my leg and it's not

17:35

my fault. It's his person's fault. They

17:37

hit me. It's not fair.

17:39

You're just not gonna be happy with that mentality

17:42

and that mindset. So you need to change that

17:44

habit, the habit of

17:46

responsibility for your actions, your thoughts in

17:48

your life. Number eight.

17:51

And this is a big lesson for

17:53

me, and maybe it is for some of you as

17:55

well. Don't take things personally.

17:57

or there was a book that was called don't

17:59

sweat the small

17:59

stuff. You know, don't

18:01

take things personally. I think that's one of

18:03

the four agreements of another book called

18:05

the four agreements. One of them is

18:08

don't take things personally. Oh,

18:10

how hard is this for you? for

18:14

me, I I swear maybe

18:16

in the last I feel

18:18

like I go in phases of

18:20

this. in my childhood

18:22

and teens, I took everything personally.

18:24

You know, my classmates were out to

18:26

give me my teammates were out to give me my coaches,

18:28

my parents, my siblings,

18:30

you know, everyone. I took

18:33

everything personally and

18:35

needed to defend myself and needed to

18:37

get back at everyone and prove

18:39

everyone wrong. man, that did not

18:41

make me a happy kid. It made me a very

18:43

sad, lonely insecure, jealous

18:46

kid. And I got a

18:48

little better in my twenties, but still

18:50

not that good. In my thirties, I

18:52

got a lot better. I started to

18:54

learn through emotional intelligence

18:56

training it through just reflection,

18:58

through therapies about

19:00

how to let go of

19:04

not taking these up personally. It's just,

19:06

man, it's just not a

19:08

fun life to hold on to

19:12

these things. If someone does something

19:14

to you or someone did

19:16

something you didn't like that they said or someone

19:18

cuts you off in traffic, Don't take

19:20

it personally. You can take all these

19:22

things personally. The years are not gonna be as

19:25

happy. Again, these are habits that

19:27

happy people differently than

19:29

unhappy people. So if you

19:31

wanna stay unhappy, then take everything

19:33

personally. And if you want to be

19:35

happier, then just

19:36

let it go.

19:38

And that is number

19:41

eight, number

19:41

nine. Learn

19:43

to cope with tragedy.

19:45

and let go of regret,

19:47

anger, and resentment. So

19:49

this follows up with not

19:51

taking things personally. Right? learning

19:54

to learning to cope

19:56

with tragedy and learning to

19:58

let go of regret

19:59

anger and resentment of

20:01

for years I held on to

20:03

anger and resentment. It's

20:05

not really much that I

20:07

I

20:07

try to think about this. Is there anything I regret

20:09

and there's not not. There's things I'm

20:11

not proud of. There's things that I'm

20:13

like, oh, that was a stupid mistake and

20:16

that was, you know, I

20:18

guess looking back, I wish I wanted to done certain

20:20

things because they were hurtful or they

20:22

were stupid or

20:24

ignorant or naive or whatever. But

20:26

it's like,

20:26

I also reflects and I'm

20:29

grateful for them and I show appreciation for the

20:31

lessons I learned that that got

20:32

me to where I'm at right now. But

20:35

the anger and resentment thing, man, I held

20:37

on to anger for, you know, for

20:39

those of you that know my story of sexual

20:41

abuse when I was five by a man that I did now.

20:43

And, you know, my my brother was in

20:45

prison for a number of years when I was

20:48

eight. My parents got divorced. I was

20:50

picked

20:50

on and bullied all through

20:53

elementary school, middle school, high school

20:55

for not being able to read and

20:57

write and

20:57

being very poor in academics.

21:01

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21:01

so as a kid, I just took on

21:03

I I held on to this anger and

21:06

resentment.

21:07

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21:08

it just doesn't make me it didn't make me

21:11

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learning to to let go

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And learning to cope with tragedy.

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23:57

different experts and therapists

23:59

specialists come on, talk about dealing

24:02

with extreme pain,

24:05

extreme

24:05

heartache,

24:06

breakups, death, divorce,

24:09

and talk about how to cope with these things. And these

24:11

things take time. I'm not saying

24:13

you should rush your timeline for

24:16

coping with with

24:19

tragedy. These things take

24:20

time. Deaths take

24:23

time to overcome. long

24:25

marriages take time to go through

24:27

a divorce and the breakup. You

24:31

know,

24:31

these things take time.

24:33

and I'm

24:33

completely with you on the

24:36

healing process of big

24:38

tragedy. It's It's

24:41

just

24:41

part of life. Some

24:43

people hold

24:45

on to these things five, ten, twenty

24:48

years later. and it

24:49

makes them unhappy. I'm not saying

24:51

that you can't be sad for a long time, you

24:53

know, when I reflect back on my grandfather

24:56

passing, he's very close to me. It's

24:58

very sad. You know, I think about it

25:00

and it's sad. And

25:02

I have tender moments and I'll

25:04

look at some of his writings and he used to

25:06

write me matters, and I'll read some of those, and I'll

25:08

have moments of sadness and

25:10

joy and emotions. Right?

25:12

It's natural. but

25:14

I don't ruminate on it and fixate on it

25:16

day by day, and I'm not saddened

25:18

by it every moment of my

25:21

waking life. that will make me unhappy. So

25:23

learning how to have

25:25

the memories, have the

25:27

moments in your in your mind

25:29

and reflect on these things. They're beautiful.

25:31

It's part of human nature.

25:33

It's beautiful. But

25:35

allowing them to have power

25:37

and control over your every

25:39

waking moment so that you are paralyzed

25:42

to continue

25:42

to live your life,

25:44

to live in the present, to

25:47

pursue goals, to have a vision like we talked about

25:49

at number one, those things will make you

25:51

unhappy. So learning those strategies

25:53

will help you and letting go of

25:55

regret anger and resentment we'll set you free

25:57

and happier. And number

26:00

ten, do things

26:02

that make you happy and

26:04

eliminate things that don't make you happy. This is

26:06

very basic. Do things that make

26:08

you happy and eliminate things that

26:11

don't. So write a

26:14

list of ten things, twenty

26:16

things, fifty things, a hundred things that

26:18

make you happy, and write a list of

26:20

everything that makes you unhappy.

26:22

And simply just do the list

26:24

that makes you happy. Now, you might say, well,

26:26

I've gotta go to work and that makes me unhappy.

26:29

Well, I would say, know,

26:31

find joy in your work.

26:34

And if it's not where you wanna be, then

26:36

that's one of your goals that you go back to

26:38

number one. and you create a

26:40

fulfilling goal that you wanna work towards.

26:42

Okay? I don't like this job, then my

26:44

goal is to leave this job in six months,

26:46

in six weeks, and two years and one

26:48

year, you've got to get clarity of

26:50

the vision for your future, for what you

26:52

want. But you can also create

26:54

fulfillment and joy within the situations

26:56

that maybe are not the

26:58

best. There have been times in my life

27:00

where I worked jobs that I

27:02

really didn't like. I did things and

27:04

sports that I didn't wanna do.

27:06

but I wanted to play in the big games. You

27:09

know, as I'm willing to put in years

27:11

of training and hours in the gym

27:13

and constantly running

27:15

practices over and over feeling pain over and

27:17

over. For me, I didn't want to

27:19

do those things, but I knew in

27:21

order to achieve my goals and my dreams, I

27:23

had to do them. So

27:25

I made it a positive experience. So wherever you're at in your

27:27

life right now, you can make these challenging

27:30

moments positive ones by changing your attitude,

27:32

by helping other people

27:35

at your career, your work, by giving back,

27:37

by doing other things that bring you joy, and

27:39

then just creating the goals that will fulfill you

27:41

and work towards those.

27:43

do the things that make you happy and

27:46

eliminate the things that don't. All your

27:48

other free time should be focused around how

27:50

can I do more things than make

27:52

me happy. you like taking

27:54

walks, how can I take more walks? If you'd

27:56

like, go to the movies.

27:58

Go see more movies. If you like working

27:59

out, go do more working out. If you like

28:02

dealing with friends. Spend time with friends. We're like travel.

28:04

All these things. Write a

28:06

list.

28:06

away Plan them.

28:08

Put it in

28:09

the calendar.

28:10

create time for it. If you don't create

28:13

time for it, then you're just gonna go back into

28:15

default. So you gotta create

28:17

that habit. Do things that make you

28:19

happy and don't. These

28:21

are the ten habits happy

28:23

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28:49

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28:51

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