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certain area, don't mean that that's the area

1:01

that need to be fixed. It's another area.

1:04

So I was having, so every morning, y'all know my

1:06

five pillars, and I was doing it in my faith. This

1:09

is Monday. I didn't even know you was gonna talk about

1:11

this. I don't even know if you knew that you was

1:13

gonna talk about this. On Monday, after I did my daily

1:15

devotional, look

1:18

at what I write. Sometimes when we have an

1:20

issue, you can't even get it. Sometimes

1:22

when we have an issue, you can't fix, you

1:24

can't fix the issue. You have to fix everything

1:26

around it. Talk

1:29

about hip and back injuries, and how you

1:31

build up the muscle, and how the doctors

1:34

tried to fix the issue, but couldn't do

1:36

it. Some of y'all need

1:38

functional training in your life. When

1:40

you strengthen the other areas of your life,

1:42

it takes away the pressure from the issue

1:44

area. You

1:48

ready? All

1:50

right. What's

2:03

going on world? Welcome to another edition

2:05

of the secret to success podcast. I'm

2:08

your host CJ joined us always by

2:10

the Bayesian sensation. Mr. Carl Wesley Phillips.

2:12

What's going on y'all? What it do?

2:14

I got a doctor, doctor, the

2:17

good doctor. Hey

2:19

man, I listen first off brother. I

2:21

appreciate you giving me that title doctor

2:23

title. When you sit next

2:25

to a real doctor and then I got, I

2:27

got doctor. What do you mean?

2:29

Real doctor. If you can eat in every

2:31

way possible. I ain't going to let them

2:34

do you like that bro. Put some respect

2:36

on my name. You know what

2:38

I'm saying? Only doctor sitting over here. Listen

2:41

dawg, we got Dr. King in

2:43

here man. And then also Douglas is in the

2:45

building man. Douglas how you feeling? I'm feeling phenomenal.

2:47

You put some socks on for the pot. I thought you

2:49

were going to let the toes rot. What? I'm

2:52

not going to lie, wood but it's cold outside. Yeah.

2:54

So to walk from there to here, I just like

2:56

I got to put some on. Hey man, I got

2:58

to start by saying I don't even know where I'm

3:00

going with this. I was just saying to God last

3:02

night. I was like, yo, I'm grateful.

3:04

Like, you know, we talked about it on the ride

3:06

home. You know, we had, you know, testimonies or whatever.

3:09

And you know, we just heard about her like, I

3:12

hope, you know, people respect and

3:14

understand how hard it is to have

3:18

your content penetrate in

3:20

this climate, in this world that we live in.

3:23

If it's not the foolishness that we

3:25

see just in the community, just the,

3:28

you know, kind of the wild ratchet. If it's

3:30

not the politics, if it's not, you know what

3:32

I mean? Like when you look on, you know,

3:34

what's going to get clicks. You

3:36

know, people say stuff that's like, okay, you trying to

3:39

get people to click. And that's cool. I'm

3:41

like, do your thing. Like we've never been haters.

3:43

Like I, and again, I just want to show

3:45

what our version is like what we, what me

3:47

and my homies are on. Like this is what

3:49

we are. We own generational wealth. We own talking

3:51

about our wives and kids and you know what

3:53

I mean? Those types of things. And we just

3:55

believe that there was people who wanted to be

3:57

on that as well. And when I look across.

4:00

the board I'm like okay cool and I

4:02

mean this Toby's rap career started from

4:04

E and I talking and we was

4:06

like sitting there like oh it's like

4:09

yeah I mean here go the thing

4:11

no it is good music you know what I'm saying

4:13

we needed something yeah we needed something but I'm saying

4:15

it was good music I mean bruh this was when

4:18

Lil Wayne was on his run I'm talking about in

4:20

the middle of his like whatever and you

4:22

know all of that and I was into it

4:24

of course he wasn't like you know he was

4:26

like see I feel you

4:28

the music the beats sound good and stuff like that I'm

4:30

not mad at none of that but

4:33

like nope like where is the and I

4:35

was like oh okay we need to create it we

4:38

literally said all of you remember we were in the

4:40

car and then we were like yo let's just and

4:43

then about a year later we met Toby and

4:45

then when I never forget what he told me

4:47

that was like bruh if you don't like the

4:49

way something going you can sit there and you

4:52

know I'm saying hate on it or you can

4:54

actually do something yourself you know I'm

4:56

saying and I was like okay cool so no complaining

4:58

and now we got Toby to the Grammys you

5:01

know what I'm saying we got Toby and

5:03

Transformers and he talking about his wife and

5:05

kids and got them in the videos and

5:07

ain't acting ridiculous and love his family and

5:10

love God and trying to build generational wealth

5:12

and it's like that's what we're going to

5:14

continue to do but I really just wanted

5:16

to I guess acknowledge one God for getting

5:19

us to this moment that you know we

5:21

can be a blessing to the community and

5:23

we can be examples and pillars because I

5:25

think all of us here understand that we

5:28

are role models that young kids are looking

5:30

to eat you know and asking

5:32

to take pictures and saying that you changed

5:34

my life and all of those things and

5:36

that does come with a responsibility especially in

5:38

the community that hasn't always had the greatest

5:40

representation in the media right there's always

5:42

been the greats among us but when you look on

5:45

TV they don't portray that of us and

5:47

so for us to be able to get

5:49

to where we at and to have E

5:51

walking through you know getting the same

5:54

kind of reception that you

5:56

know what I'm saying some somebody who not

5:58

on the same message gets You

6:00

know, it's just a blessing brand and I

6:02

make people feel comfortable. I noticed

6:04

this and so, you know me I'm always studying.

6:06

I'm always watching that I can't help it. He

6:08

is just the police in me is that you

6:10

know and I Watch

6:13

you without trying to watch you and

6:16

just It's a difference

6:18

right you will see somebody like somebody that's

6:21

on his level or half his celebrity or

6:23

whatever where People's, you

6:25

know might come up to that person, you know Hey, can

6:27

I take a picture with you get out and then that

6:29

person's like, oh, you know, yeah Yeah, you take a picture.

6:31

Come on Evil watch

6:34

people watching him. Yeah, and

6:36

before if he even sees that they like yo,

6:38

that's that's eat But they feel uncomfortable. They don't

6:41

know. I don't know if they watch the podcast

6:43

and her CJ say don't come up to me

6:45

you know Even

6:48

yesterday blackhead blackhead a partner Ma'am

6:52

my man want to come up to y'all but

6:54

he watched the podcast You

6:58

know You

7:00

look like this like don't come up to me. He got

7:02

that look but he's not like that But he got that

7:04

look but he will look at you and

7:07

see that you wanna even and he'll go

7:09

to you Any ask that

7:11

person like hey, man, can we take a picture together?

7:14

So he just take a limit for the record.

7:16

I'm cool with anybody who listens to the podcast

7:19

Coming up to me as long as you in patreon

7:21

Yeah Yeah,

7:23

I need seven at least gotta have for

7:25

the pig, you know saying you need to

7:27

be supportive but no that's that's that's just

7:29

man That's yeah. No, no different level, bro.

7:31

Yeah. No it and again I

7:34

don't think there's a better human on the planet equipped to

7:36

do it. I'm talking about we ain't got no security We

7:38

ain't you know what you secured. Oh, let

7:40

me tell you something Anytime

7:43

i'm with this man, I don't even

7:45

care if i'm on security if i'm on a billboard with

7:48

him I'm security dog. I

7:50

just it's just bro. I'm i'm his i'm

7:52

his uh his thomas i'm his i'm always

7:54

gonna protect, bro I like you without you

7:56

even knowing little fella in

7:59

different colors What's

8:01

my title when we're different countries? I'm the

8:03

minister of what security minister defense

8:05

defense. I got a What

8:09

security man Hold

8:12

on. Hold on before you got here. I was

8:14

the minister of defense Tell

8:17

him remember the airport. I tell the story again if

8:19

you want to yeah, he taught us. Yeah.

8:21

Yeah. Yeah My man was check right FBI was on

8:23

me. Yeah, you know I'm saying the feds was on

8:25

me Yeah, and I ran right up on the fair.

8:27

I Told you bro. Was that

8:29

the first conference? No,

8:33

I feel it was none of those before

8:35

that before that before if you don't want

8:37

before Connecticut I

8:40

feel like it was Candace's

8:43

with us TJ was with us. Oh, yeah

8:47

Yeah, you're right. I was like, I don't see it.

8:49

I could still say that had to go. I had

8:51

to be like 17

8:53

years ago, bro. I'm dead shit. Can we

8:55

wouldn't marry me and Kansas one mirror? So

8:58

yeah, this is my 17 years ago brow For

9:02

those of y'all who don't know I was

9:04

at the airport and it was so dude

9:06

staring up staring like legit like And

9:08

you know me again. I ain't trying to say I was the toughest

9:10

dude in the world. Come on in I

9:13

ain't trying to say I was the toughest dude in the world You

9:16

came through with the hair blowing Don't

9:28

ever walk in here with the soul glow Come

9:34

on Other

9:36

people yeah Hey, you're actually

9:38

a part of the body now Hey,

9:41

you know there's gonna be a lot of

9:43

women. Come on. You know how to cross

9:45

ventilation here and it's like The

9:49

prince just walk looking beautiful

9:52

Gonna get a lot of young people young women calling on

9:55

you back Yeah,

9:58

no, so they yeah long story It was

10:00

like some federal agents or something.

10:02

I don't even know why they was on

10:04

us. We was looking like the most regular

10:07

Scumage you ever seen in your life. I

10:09

should have been but hey, okay Let me

10:11

tell you some bro boys staring at me

10:13

and TJ if y'all don't

10:15

know TJ bigger than more cat All

10:18

right, it's lower body legs Hey,

10:22

I mean we we we neck

10:24

and neck now, come on now, okay, he's just

10:26

a little darker so I

10:30

got a little Okay,

10:33

all right. All right, he tried he tried it though, but

10:35

let me say something I ain't

10:38

wait on nobody else to go. However, I

10:40

went right up to them like do we

10:42

have a problem? I smack taste

10:44

out of both of y'all mom and I'm

10:46

just saying I ain't say I was the

10:48

toughest was my route I don't like the

10:50

gray area. Yeah, like cuz I feel like

10:53

a bro. I always this is my personality, bro

10:55

I would rather be

10:57

on the hunt then getting hunted and

10:59

reactionary. Does that make sense? No question I

11:01

ain't never like I because I get

11:03

nervous when I feel like you in control I

11:06

just want to take control of the situation. So I told

11:08

you I wasn't trying to be tough. I was scared Yeah,

11:10

so when I get scared, I'm straight

11:12

to the action cuz I don't like that's just

11:15

the pilot in me I don't know. Yeah, get

11:17

it over there. We go scrap Even if you

11:19

don't want me just do it cuz I the

11:21

nervousness again. What is worse to get what? You

11:23

know, I'm saying so anyway turned out there

11:26

was some federal agents and that probably not the

11:28

best move But anyway, I used to be the

11:30

minister of defense though I was the one like

11:32

you know saying jump jump bad even with

11:34

TJ rolling with us I was the one

11:36

who was gonna get active, you know, so

11:39

now we got it. Yeah, I'm

11:41

saying this that was seven So I was

11:43

20 24

11:47

Wow, he's a youngster I'm

11:49

sorry. I was still like yeah, you see

11:51

oh, yeah Bucking

11:55

up on let me say still

11:57

lifted strong. Yeah fully. Oh, yeah,

11:59

you know you feel at that age like

12:01

oh yeah no it was your head like that I wish that was

12:07

already I was already made no he didn't

12:09

need that at that oh yeah no yeah

12:11

no no I

12:17

had enough yeah enough yeah the

12:20

car that was enough yeah no no doubt so

12:24

anyway but yeah

12:26

no I was administered defense now I'm

12:28

all is administered defense cuz when we

12:30

were in Columbia wrong wrong oh

12:32

we saw we saw some child trafficking

12:34

yeah no real weird bro yeah I

12:36

don't know what happened but we

12:39

was at them we got a mall it

12:41

at the mall another different mall like way

12:43

out like not in the tourist area it

12:45

was like really in the in

12:47

the hood there you know like taking like the

12:49

movie taken when they be like in like a

12:51

weird bird cuz you know it was one of

12:53

those where we came like from our flight and

12:55

we had the whole day in Rome and

12:58

we was like man we landed but the time changes messed

13:00

up and we were like alright let's just get

13:02

out the hotel where we was

13:04

in this weird mall door it was

13:06

like kind of desolate and we

13:08

were like okay we took over there and

13:11

they had no we didn't know they had no uber pickup

13:13

at the mall so he dropped us there

13:15

but don't have any so we like so it's

13:17

like all of these signs and they're like not

13:20

we can't read them and they like call

13:22

this for a cab and the phone it's like a local

13:25

number so the phone so we out there trying to find

13:27

a cab and we saw some some

13:30

crazy stuff and my man I

13:32

don't know what happened but he was getting a little

13:34

too close and mall went over there sat

13:36

next to he tried to like move over

13:38

by us mall dude was sitting

13:41

it's a bench like 15 feet long

13:45

my man came and sat like not near us but

13:47

close enough to where more than like more came

13:49

and sat directly like side of style with my

13:52

man it was like you got a lot of

13:54

we talk earlier you gotta just let him know

13:56

bro I know he did you got

13:58

another no like all right I'm

14:00

not it was sad, but we were not wise rough

14:03

and I tried to and I try to call the

14:05

authorities Huh? You know I'm saying

14:07

yeah, and I went in the hotel It was a

14:09

hotel right there, and I was like hey y'all need

14:11

to call the police and stuff going

14:13

on I couldn't call the police. I don't even know the part. I

14:16

was 911 in a foreign country and at one point

14:18

I'm gonna come in a car. We was

14:20

in a taxi of oh and the girl tried

14:22

to like like come up in a

14:24

car I mean had young girls. They was like changing

14:26

clothes. I'm not like 13 14 years old, bro Inside

14:29

they was changing outside right there like by the taxi

14:31

stand and my man was like talking to him all

14:34

aggressive And then the girl try to hop in the

14:36

car. They'd had to be 13 14 I

14:39

was at least I caught the police in the hotel. It

14:41

was like ah This

14:43

is different Anyway, I'll be wondering

14:45

why I'd be like bro when they come to going

14:48

out of town some sponsor out the country I'd be

14:50

like brom I said you know what I need I

14:52

need more face

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let's talk about pressure. I

16:59

hit E the other day and I

17:01

was explaining to somebody who called me and was

17:03

like, yo, man,

17:06

I just feel like there was like, I'm not stressed,

17:08

but I just feel like between my company, my

17:14

marriage and stuff, I'm just feeling a lot of

17:16

pressure. And I was

17:18

explaining to that person that you

17:23

literally have to embrace

17:25

pressure if you wanna be

17:27

great. And they were like, yo,

17:29

they were kind of like, okay, like I get what you're

17:32

saying, pressure make dime, you know, bus pipes to make dime,

17:34

I get it. And I was like, no, no, no, think

17:36

about the essence of pressure. If you have pressures because you

17:38

have expectations. And I was like, yo,

17:40

it's a whole lot of people in this world who don't have

17:42

any pressure. So when you look

17:44

at something, I always believe that

17:47

you have to always talk about looking at

17:49

the inverse or the opposite, right? So the

17:51

opposite of not having

17:53

pressure is not having pressure. If

17:56

you have pressures because there's expectations placed upon

17:58

you, right? Like. So I was telling this

18:00

person, the reason you feel pressure is because

18:03

you got a lot of people riding on you. You got

18:05

payroll riding on you, you got a company, you got people,

18:07

you got your wife, you got your kids, you got all

18:09

of this stuff. So you got all of

18:11

these things riding on you. And

18:13

I said, man, the

18:15

opposite of that is ain't nobody,

18:17

you know what I'm saying? Like

18:19

ain't nobody thinking about my man, like, Hey, bro,

18:22

just do your thing. Cause we're not expecting, which

18:24

means you haven't done anything. So I was like,

18:26

yo, you really have to change your relationship with

18:28

pressure because I think we all feel pressure is

18:31

how you, it's the, it's the relationship you

18:33

have with it that dictates how you move.

18:35

So I was saying to the person like,

18:38

bro, like Kobe can't be Kobe.

18:40

If you don't hit the last shot, that's

18:43

pressure. Jordan can be Jordan. If

18:45

you don't hit the last shot, that's like Ronaldo,

18:48

Messi, you know, those are sports figures.

18:51

Like you have to deliver in that pressure

18:53

field moment because most people are

18:55

not ready for that moment. That's what makes you

18:57

separate you and makes you great. So

18:59

that's why I was telling that person like, yo, praise

19:01

God that you got pressure because that's an

19:03

opportunity for you to actually become one of

19:05

the greats. I was like, yo, I don't

19:07

know how many people you in practice, you

19:09

know, the coach do the simulation like you

19:12

down. You ever, I do that sometimes with the kids,

19:14

but like, uh, me and Trey got a laundry batch

19:16

with some socks and I'm like, you

19:18

down by two. It's

19:21

a three pointer. It's one second. I inbound the

19:23

ball. I throw him the socket. He shoot it.

19:25

You know what I'm saying? And it's like

19:28

you're trying to recreate some pressure in his

19:30

mind, right? Because pressure makes you respond

19:33

differently. Right. So you can, I

19:35

don't even, I wish they had a stat that I could go look

19:37

at, right? But

19:39

like, like the free throw percentage, like on the

19:41

road, no question. With one second

19:44

left to go opposing crowd going

19:46

crazy. And you down. Think about

19:48

it. Imagine this. You've

19:50

been doing basketball, playing basketball your

19:52

entire life. You've been shooting free

19:54

throws. You might shoot it at

19:56

an 88% clip, but

19:59

when you put that. pressure on. You saw it in

20:01

the final four. You saw it in the final four cats.

20:04

It's too much, right? Like what happens?

20:06

You start sweating. You start thinking about

20:08

all the things, right? You start thinking

20:10

about what happens if I miss, man,

20:14

let me not leave it short. So all of

20:16

these other things that in a non pressure field

20:18

environment, wouldn't feel your head, feel your head. And

20:21

that's okay because here go the thing. If

20:23

you down one and it's zero seconds and you

20:25

got filed at the buzzer and you got a

20:27

chance to go to the line. My point is

20:30

you have a chance to become legendary and do

20:32

things that most people can't do. And

20:34

so I was saying to this person like, yo, praise

20:37

God for the pressure. Absolutely. You know what I'm saying?

20:39

Like if you feel pressure in your mirror, just probably

20:41

because there's an expectation that

20:43

things should be better. It's

20:46

people who ain't got no pressure in their mirrors. They

20:48

like, bro, we didn't call it, bro. We

20:50

ain't trying to get to that.

20:52

We talked about it last night. It's just our

20:54

marriage is what it is. You know,

20:57

we probably, we might not get no divorce, but we ain't

20:59

finna be in bliss. You know, and so

21:01

I wanted to talk up to each one of y'all

21:03

and get y'all perspective on pressure as

21:05

it relates to anything. You know what I'm saying?

21:07

Like, again, like I think there's pressure you

21:10

have in your health and your finances and

21:12

your marriage. Like I think we all feel those, but

21:14

I just want to know how y'all deal with

21:16

them and how y'all process. Well, you know, I'll say

21:19

for me, um, there was

21:21

a point in my life where pressure created

21:24

anxiety. You know what I'm

21:26

saying? So there was a time when I was like, so

21:30

I'm gonna be real and just say, you know,

21:32

I left the crib when I was 16 years old. So

21:36

I've been familiar with

21:39

pressure, you know, since I was

21:41

a teenager, you know what I'm saying? You live in

21:43

an abandoned buildings, you know, you and

21:45

that type of environment. So I was under pressure, but,

21:48

and I had to deal with the pressure, but I think the

21:50

thing between me now and then was anxiety,

21:54

meaning I would only

21:56

deal with pressure when

21:58

it happened. You feel

22:00

me? So when it

22:02

came like time that,

22:04

oh, it's pressure. Okay, I got to

22:07

deal with this. Whereas

22:09

now I wake up every day

22:11

going, yo, it's going

22:13

to be some pressure that's going to come to you. You

22:16

got to get ready for it. You feel I'm saying? I

22:18

just want to give everybody an example. So

22:20

I went running this morning and

22:23

this is the first time in my life, man, like

22:25

I'm trying to really grow as a human, trying to

22:27

get better. So normally if I

22:29

have to do long distance, I just want

22:31

to run and get it out the way.

22:34

You feel me? So I just get up, get

22:37

dressed and run. That's how

22:39

I used to be with pressure. It's

22:42

just like, I just want to

22:44

get it over with. Like I don't

22:46

want to get it over with no more. I'm

22:48

not interested in getting over with. I want to live in it. I

22:52

want to breathe. You

22:55

know what I'm saying? I want to be

22:57

around it. Because I do understand what it

23:00

does for my life as

23:02

a whole. So this morning I got

23:05

up and was like, yep, I'm going to get in

23:07

the sauna for 30. Right.

23:09

When I get out the sauna, I'm going

23:11

to walk for 10 on the treadmill. Then

23:14

I'm going to run slow on the treadmill

23:16

for about five, six minutes. Then I'm going

23:18

to run moderately fast for about five minutes.

23:20

Then I'm going to come outside and kill

23:22

it. I was never that person. Matter

23:25

of fact, I missed it. I'm sorry. I

23:27

stretch for about 20 minutes. I

23:29

stretch. You feel me? So I'm like, bro,

23:32

I want to enjoy this run. I

23:35

don't want to get it over with. Before,

23:37

I just want to completely different

23:39

mindset. Yeah. Like

23:41

man, the approach to pressure. You

23:43

know what I'm saying? The approach

23:45

to it. So

23:48

I'm just saying that's what I used to be on. I

23:50

just want to, I was told today I got to run

23:52

six miles. So I just want to be

23:54

able to run the six and check six. I'm

23:56

done. Today I was like, no, I

23:58

want my knees to feel great. I was small

24:00

you might think I'm playing well, I

24:03

don't mom the money don't know you right, right? Mom

24:07

was talking to my knees mom. Oh, come on.

24:09

I was talking to my knees. Yeah, I was

24:11

like, they tuned I was like yo y'all y'all

24:14

a perfect shape. Yeah, the muscles the blood pressure

24:17

You you are a great knee. I'm

24:19

gonna need you when I get out here to

24:21

do my thing. I'm me information Wow, no question.

24:23

Hey, when I talk about my ACLs, I talk

24:25

to my knees You

24:28

know What's

24:30

so funny? I told Rochelle the other day. I was

24:32

like, yeah, I went out my knees was hurting a

24:34

little bit These old knees. She's like yo, you better

24:36

be careful. How you talk about your knees She's

24:39

like you better cuz they listening to you and I was

24:41

like, you know what you right? I was like, let me stop so

24:44

bro. I some you know, it was like hey look

24:46

we bought the hit we good I go marathon in

24:48

October. Let's go. I'm like, let's go. You know what?

24:50

It's crazy. You said that I'm

24:53

like, let's go supposed to be doing that. Okay, that's

24:55

what we working to. Okay. Yeah, but I'm not gonna

24:57

run it I'm gonna I'm gonna

24:59

walk it. Okay in fast walk and like

25:01

a light jog. No, you probably catch up

25:03

with me anyway Matter

25:18

no, no, no, it matters Okay,

25:21

it matters. We already won the prize. Yeah. Yeah,

25:23

it matters for me I got a trainer but

25:25

it don't matter. I'm not taking it serious like

25:28

that. But it I

25:30

got a run a sir She's actually doing it with

25:32

me to oh, yeah. Yeah. Okay, so he's really doing

25:34

it just the case. I collapsed my knees

25:38

My feet everything I'm just like yo, we gonna do it.

25:40

But what I'm saying more is this is the first time

25:42

in my life I'm not

25:45

running to finish Mm-hmm.

25:48

I'm running as a part is the process

25:50

when I got out there did my thing,

25:52

right? And so it's the same way

25:54

with pressure now. I remember getting up going. I

25:57

hope I don't have no pressure today I hope don't

25:59

know I hope today is a

26:01

good day. I hope everything go well and God

26:03

was like How's that

26:05

gonna help you? like And

26:09

I want like I don't want this to be mister

26:11

maybe I hopefully I did a decent job of setting

26:13

it up But I'm just telling you right there when

26:15

you pray for there to be no pressure How

26:18

do you exemplify greatness of your your praying

26:20

for no girl? Yeah, you pray for nothing

26:23

to happen for nothing Yeah, nothing

26:25

to happen. Then you wonder why your life

26:27

from this moment and then 365 days

26:29

looks exactly the same Yeah,

26:32

you probably haven't dealt with any pressure

26:34

Yeah, you either ran from it or didn't

26:37

get through it or let it cripple

26:39

you or let it give you anxiety It's

26:41

the getting through the pressure that

26:43

moves the needle Oh, bro, that is

26:45

the and so again just a running

26:47

thing with the pressure now. I'm like

26:49

yo, God I actually need it because

26:51

it's gonna separate me. So

26:53

just an example before, you know you to

26:55

wax deep. I Think

26:59

what makes me a better speaker than most

27:01

people is the pressure That

27:04

I put on myself and that

27:06

is the pressure to deliver to this company. Whatever

27:08

it was They want it. Do you think there's

27:10

more pressure now? Like

27:12

that everybody's like oh my god, he sees

27:15

here He's about to give the greatest speech

27:17

ever or like back in the day pressure

27:19

of being like I need

27:21

to give a fire speech building. Yeah, well, I actually

27:23

feel this I feel like I have to create pressure

27:25

now There is no pressure. I

27:27

feel like now it's like they

27:30

watch so many of my videos. It don't matter

27:32

what I really say It's already over

27:34

in a head. So you may have a pressure.

27:36

Yeah, I'm manufacturing. No, that's you know, hold on

27:39

I was waiting to talk about that now. That's

27:41

why I want to have a higher level. Yeah.

27:43

No, no That's the highest level and that's what

27:45

Jordan and Kobe were doing up Jordan

27:48

was Burt That's why he was staying

27:50

after gambling for shots because he trying

27:52

to manufacture pressure like they

27:54

said brother They said Jordan I sent more of the

27:56

video. They was like bro my man feeding

28:00

that fire of competitiveness, right? He was manufacturing stuff

28:03

to do that. He said, my man came up

28:05

to, you saw that clip I sent you? But

28:07

it was like, it was like, they was in

28:09

the city and it was like a dope boy

28:11

that came up to Michael, was like, let's gamble.

28:14

And he was like, I got a hundred thousand. And

28:16

Michael was like, oh, that's cute. You got a hundred thousand.

28:18

He was like, yeah, he wanted to like, I don't know

28:20

if he wanted to shoot dice or something. He wanted to

28:22

like play some games and like slowly do the money. And

28:24

Mike was like, grabbed the coin and was like, no, no,

28:27

no, let's just flip heads of tails for a hundred thousand.

28:29

You call which one you want. Godly.

28:31

You know what I'm saying? My

28:33

man was like, nah. Can you say that clip? I

28:35

don't think so. But anyway, yeah, Michael was

28:38

like, yeah, what's your flip a coin for a hundred thousand right

28:40

now? I'll let you choose. You want

28:42

heads or tails? I don't care. And my man was like, oh,

28:44

nah, nah, nah. He like backed out of it or whatever. But

28:46

I'm just like, Mike got to the

28:48

point where he was like, bruh, I don't

28:50

want six rings. You know

28:52

what I'm saying? I done sold the most

28:54

shoes. I done made all, like, nah, I

28:57

got a manufacturer pressure. So the greats are

28:59

not even once they make it, they

29:01

not even looking to run from pressure. Now they looking like

29:03

I don't even got no pressure. I'm trying to create it.

29:05

And here you are not where you want to be. Avoid

29:08

pressure. So I just want to

29:10

say this. The first and most

29:13

important distinction is I am creating

29:15

pressure. Not I am pressured

29:19

because a lot of us is external pressure

29:21

and you fit. That's where the anxiety and

29:23

stress come from. Cause everybody think you should

29:25

do this. No, no, no. I'm saying I

29:28

am bringing my own pressure. I started the Colby clip that

29:30

I sent you a couple of days ago. That

29:32

one blew my mind. They say Colby again,

29:34

this is the Colby AI error. So

29:37

he's about to go play Allen Iverson. And

29:39

they said Colby literally had his trainers go

29:41

find 10 cats off the street. The baddest

29:43

ball. You saw it. And they said he would

29:45

align them jokers up at the other end of the floor

29:48

and they come 10 one by

29:50

one to him. His job was to

29:53

defend them, go back down

29:55

score and get back and defend the next

29:57

one. That's the practice he. Created

30:00

for himself because he's like yo, I'm not

30:02

about to go play nobody unless I know

30:05

I'm at my best. He did that in

30:08

Practice. Yeah, but but look at the

30:10

mentality, you know, what's crazy like again?

30:13

Okay, so I was thinking about this yesterday to car

30:15

and I thought about it before but it's like, all

30:17

right cool You got Kobe the

30:19

first one in the gym again. I'm not trying

30:22

to be funny, but it's like Tyra

30:24

Honolulu you I'm

30:28

just saying you should have been the fire. You should have never

30:30

left. Never left. Did you? So,

30:33

okay, so you could talk here's the thing like I'm trying

30:35

to help somebody Can you be Kobe?

30:37

Maybe not Maybe there's some natural gifts that

30:39

Kobe also had that were God given right

30:42

But if he if he with

30:44

those God given gifts felt didn't like to

30:46

be in there and doing that kind of

30:48

stuff Then you and you know,

30:50

you ain't quite as I'm saying What

30:53

more could you get out of life and

30:55

that's why this is so important because your

30:57

mindset and what you're able to accomplish If

30:59

you had a mentality To

31:02

get up and again, I'm not saying I had to

31:04

get around either get it I

31:06

told some my brother they I was telling them yesterday. We

31:09

was riding in the car. I'm not listening

31:12

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31:14

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31:16

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31:18

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31:20

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31:22

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31:25

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31:27

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31:29

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31:31

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31:33

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31:35

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31:37

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31:39

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31:41

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31:43

not terms that I was ever familiar with

31:45

more couldn't believe even when I'm a m

31:47

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31:49

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31:51

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31:54

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31:57

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32:00

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I'm young anything is the crazy thing is Carl

35:52

I was speaking I

35:55

was speaking and didn't know who none of this

35:57

stuff like no bro I remember first time you

35:59

said Les Brown I was like who? was that?

36:01

He was like, Oh, he's a motivational speaker. I

36:03

was like, Okay, I just didn't know. That's why

36:05

I never heard the name. I never

36:07

heard of a motivational speaker, but I didn't

36:09

even I just thought it was just like

36:11

your high school basketball coach. I was saying

36:13

Magic Johnson was the motivation. I thought about

36:16

you. So you're not exposed to it.

36:18

But it's like once you get exposed to it,

36:20

now, how can you adopt this mindset? And no,

36:22

you may not be Kobe. But how much more

36:24

can you pull out of your life if you

36:27

start putting that pressure on yourself and embracing that

36:29

pressure and getting through that pressure, people

36:31

start to look at you different when you become

36:33

a pressure breaker. Yeah. Like people look

36:35

at you different. They're like, Yo, okay. Like, Whoa,

36:38

pressure breaker. Bruh, I'm just saying. Can I speak

36:40

to pressure real quick? This is

36:42

crazy, bro. I'm gonna

36:44

get my phone to Carl in a minute because

36:46

y'all ain't gonna believe I had wrote

36:48

this down. But one

36:51

thing about pressure and this is the thing. So a lot

36:53

of people that's listening to us, they're going

36:55

to be thinking about pressure in terms of a sense

36:57

of like this area I

37:00

feel pressure in. Right. But

37:02

just because you feel pressure in that area

37:04

doesn't mean that's the area that needs to

37:06

be fixed. Right. I

37:09

was on the table with Gersh for years. I

37:12

was going to a doctor, you know, this, I was

37:14

going to the pain treatment center. I

37:17

was going in, my back was having problems. My

37:19

lower back, my L seven, L six, they

37:21

were injecting cortisone

37:25

shots in my

37:27

back for years. I was getting cortisone

37:29

shots in my back. My hip start

37:31

bothering me. They was injecting

37:33

cortisone shots in my hips for

37:36

years. I was getting this. I

37:39

go to Gersh cause this is not, it was,

37:41

it'll make it, it'll relieve the pain. It'll relieve

37:43

the pressure for that very moment

37:45

or for maybe even about a month, but

37:47

then it would always come back. I

37:50

said, I can't live like this no more. That's when I got

37:52

with Gersh Gersh, heard the pod Gersh. And

37:54

then one time bruh Gersh went and

37:57

he put me on his table. I was in Texas. He put me

38:00

on the table and Gersh started messing with

38:02

my feet. I said,

38:04

Gersh, my back hurt. I

38:07

feel pressure in my back, Gersh. Gersh

38:09

was at my feet and he went to

38:11

my, my, my calf and

38:14

then Gersh put his finger in

38:16

my hamstring, instantly relieved

38:18

the pressure. He

38:20

took his finger out my hamstring. My

38:23

back started hurting again. Then

38:25

he went back into the hamstring again

38:27

and went deeper. My back was completely

38:30

fine. I said, what is

38:32

this? Why are you, how is it that I'm not feeling

38:34

the pressure in my back no more and

38:36

you in my hamstring? Gersh

38:38

told me, he said, he said, bro, for

38:41

years, the doctor's been relieving

38:43

the pressure in the wrong place. He

38:45

said, you got pain in your back because

38:48

you have a tightness in

38:50

your hamstrings. He said your

38:52

hamstrings are weak. He said, then he

38:54

went to the goop area. He said your groups are weak. So

38:57

therefore it's causing pressure in your back. So

39:01

all this the

39:03

doctors have been giving me shots in

39:06

the area where I'm feeling the pain, but

39:08

the solution was not in the

39:10

back. The solution was actually in

39:12

my hamstring, strengthening my hamstring. Some

39:15

people are, you feel pressure

39:18

in your marriage and you're

39:20

literally going back and forth arguing with your spouse. And

39:22

it has nothing to do with it. You are literally,

39:25

you're literally going to a therapist. You get

39:27

caught in a shot and it has nothing

39:29

to do

39:33

with you with your marriage. I'm

39:36

all got a BBL. I'm gonna

39:38

say it cause it's gonna bless

39:40

somebody. You literally going, you've been

39:42

going for years. You've been going

39:44

for years getting shots to

39:46

numb the pain. Cause Gersh was like, bro, all he's

39:49

been doing is trying to, that doctor just been numbing

39:51

the pain. I got it. I got it. No,

40:00

he's great. Hey, I'm gonna put you over

40:02

here with the Go

40:12

he going back I'm

40:23

trying to maul it Okay Get

40:27

back to the free apart. Oh, if you think about

40:29

that, yeah that concept, bro Yeah, and I

40:31

mean you you you

40:33

over here feeling pressure in your finances And

40:37

you literally thinking that oh, I need to

40:39

get another job Oh, I need to know

40:41

that's good. But really though the pressure that

40:44

you feeling it's not really your

40:46

finances It's really

40:48

something else the mind It's the fact

40:50

my not mine be affirmation. It could

40:52

be after me. Yeah a firm. Are

40:54

you spending money? It might even be

40:57

your faith life is we so therefore

40:59

your faith life is weak You're not

41:01

doing or taking the steps necessary Wow

41:03

and having that that belief Right

41:05

to actually in it in that a weak

41:08

faith life is is is spilling over

41:10

to your financial life So

41:12

what Gerta showed me was that just because

41:14

you feel the pain in a certain area

41:16

or the pressure in a certain area Don't

41:19

know that the area need to be fixed It's

41:22

another area. So I was having so every morning.

41:24

I know my five pillars and I was doing

41:26

in my faith This is

41:28

Monday. I didn't even know you was gonna

41:30

talk about this I don't even know if you knew that you was

41:32

gonna talk about this on Monday After

41:36

I did my daily devotional look at

41:38

what I write Sometimes when we have

41:40

an issue you can't fix you can't fix

41:42

the issue. You have to fix everything around

41:44

it Whoo

41:46

talk about hip and back injuries and how

41:48

you build up the muscle and how the

41:50

doctors tried to fix the issue But couldn't

41:53

do it some of y'all

41:55

need functional training in your life When

41:57

you strengthen the other areas of your life takes

42:00

away the pressure from the issue area. I

42:02

said my phone, what day is that? Monday.

42:06

Wow. It's 758 AM. I'm not told

42:08

you guys give me the gift of

42:10

vision and putting stuff in my head.

42:12

Brother, the exact. So that was, that

42:15

was on my mind. God put that

42:17

on my mind and in

42:27

my heart, bro, on Monday. Today is

42:29

Saturday. And now we're talking about

42:31

it, bro. Functional training. So now that was,

42:33

that was, that was a Gersh went and

42:36

talked to Hector and what

42:38

Hector does now, Gersh was like, yeah, Ma's having

42:40

problems with his hip, his back. He's feeling the

42:42

pressure in his hip and his back. But

42:44

this is the area Gersh was like, Ma

42:47

is actually flat footed. And

42:49

so therefore his feet are flat. So

42:51

now it's causing his hips.

42:54

It's causing his hips to go in and it's causing.

42:57

And so for years your doctor's just been

42:59

just, just giving you shots, man. So you

43:01

don't feel the pressure, but this is the

43:03

solution. So now we do what's called functional

43:06

training and functional training helps you. It strengthens

43:08

you. It relieves the pressure for everyday living.

43:10

So some of y'all need that functional training

43:13

in your life. Yeah, that's good. That functional

43:15

training is going to leave where your areas

43:17

you're feeling pressure is, is pressure really real?

43:19

If you think about it, so how do

43:21

you identify that area though? Let's put some practicality

43:23

on it. I got you. So for the

43:26

GC group, we did an activity recently where

43:28

again, it takes time to think. We're not

43:30

moving away from that. Never again. We're going

43:32

to talk about thinking, but we made you

43:34

write out and we did seven areas, but

43:36

the five pillars, whatever you want to subscribe

43:38

to the areas of your life, we drew

43:40

a circle and each area of

43:42

that circle, like let's think of a, think

43:44

of a pizza. That's simple. Each area of

43:46

that you grade yourself, all the stuff that

43:48

you talk about, grade yourself in that area.

43:50

And again, we're talking about a circle. So

43:53

I want you to look at the wheel that you have,

43:55

that circle and see how that wheel roll. Think

43:57

about it. You got some areas to add another

43:59

areas or two. But it's a circle. Yeah, yeah

44:02

here that to hear brother. That's a bumpy ride

44:04

So I need you to

44:06

identify like Moss and where's the pain area? All

44:09

right, cuz now you as you grading yourself you

44:11

got to stop thinking be honest not just I

44:13

feel good today So I'm in in

44:15

my health. No, no, no, let's be real. What are

44:17

you eating? What are you as an example? Like are

44:19

you really gushing some deep to me? He's like yo

44:22

all these people lifting away It's like y'all are and

44:24

he ain't saying it like this, but y'all dumb. I

44:26

was like why you said that he's like bruh Functional

44:28

training model said every I reminded me bruh

44:31

when you pick up your child Like

44:33

what muscles are you using to do that

44:35

when you do life activities? He's like that's

44:37

how you train It ain't just trying to

44:39

get strong biceps. You know I'm saying so

44:41

he's like think about the activities You're doing

44:43

anyone we go back. So as you look

44:46

at your health, you're measuring best on all

44:48

these categories So now you can look at

44:50

this full circle, right and see dude. Oh Oh

44:54

this area my spirituality is non-existent That's

44:57

the area that I know is affecting my

44:59

finances. Let me be real It's affecting everything

45:01

else because if I don't hear clearly Everything

45:04

else is affected as an example, but when you start to

45:06

look at that wheel and you can see all these areas

45:09

Oh, yeah, it becomes real clear to you all know

45:11

we got to fix this. Yeah So I

45:13

would say you know as an example in my marriage

45:16

There there were things that I fixed in my marriage that

45:18

had nothing to do with me dealing with Dee Dee But

45:21

Dee Dee definitely as a pilot

45:24

seeing me become more aggressive Me

45:27

more protective me more

45:30

a better decision maker You know

45:32

I'm saying so so this didn't even have to do

45:34

with her, but if somebody is Maybe

45:39

somebody's calling the house, you

45:41

know or somebody's knocking on the door to

45:43

sell something and In an

45:45

area where more before I would kind of feel

45:47

uncomfortable And because I

45:49

felt uncomfortable I kind of backed

45:51

off now she got to go to the door or

45:54

now she got to Say something to

45:56

somebody because I wouldn't say nothing, but it's like yo,

45:58

this is protect. This is affecting our house is

46:00

perfect. So I don't want to say nothing. So

46:03

I realized just taking another level

46:06

of leadership and being

46:08

more intentional

46:10

and deliberate about protecting

46:13

my family versus

46:16

protecting somebody else's feelings. Because here's what

46:18

happens. What I didn't realize was all

46:20

these years when I would be

46:22

like, okay, I don't want to hurt

46:24

they feelings. She's not feeling protected. Or

46:27

my son's not feeling protected. Or my

46:29

daughter's feeling like, Oh, you

46:31

putting them first. And

46:33

then we get leftovers. You know what I'm saying? So you

46:35

go on to speak, or you

46:37

out the house because you got to do something for them.

46:39

But it was my birthday and you wanted my birthday. So

46:41

he was like, you could do it before you could do

46:44

it after but you never told them you could do it

46:46

before you could do it after. So when I start stepping

46:48

up and telling people no, I started

46:50

even seeing the respect of my family for me go

46:52

to another level. You feel what I'm saying? And again,

46:54

getting the respect for them had nothing to do with

46:56

doing nothing for them. But

47:00

the way I started to treat the

47:02

outside world and I started

47:04

setting up boundaries for the outside world,

47:06

they started going like, Oh, okay. It

47:08

relieve the pressure in the family. That's the whole

47:10

point, bro. We were

47:14

talking about marriages and being in bliss

47:16

with your spouse. We were talking about

47:18

things like that. And it's

47:21

like the older you get, you'd be hearing

47:23

guys just like, Oh man, you know, me

47:26

and my wife, we really ain't, you know,

47:28

intimate like that. And a

47:31

lot of times it'd be like, I just

47:35

try to get, I had to get waiting on the same person

47:37

be talking

47:42

though. You know, when you first got

47:44

married, you was 190 pounds. Now you

47:46

bought 300

47:49

pounds to

47:51

90 and it's like,

47:54

it's like the

47:57

problem, the problem in

47:59

your bedroom. It's not

48:01

necessarily the bedroom problem

48:03

that your pressure you having is actually

48:06

well you ain't working out every day.

48:08

You stepping on all kind of toes

48:10

for people now. Hold up. Yeah.

48:13

Yeah. Take a look at your wedding

48:15

photo. Go put. Yeah. Go

48:18

put on that. You gotta admit just I'm

48:20

saying that. She still loves you. Go

48:23

put on that. Love you. But

48:25

it ain't. But what did he say? She she

48:27

ain't fitting that dress though. And

48:29

it's real though. But I and that's why I

48:31

tell people like a lot of times the area

48:34

that you fill in the pressure in is not

48:36

really that's not the problem. How many people have

48:38

gotten divorces and it really wasn't

48:40

because of that spouse. It was because of

48:42

all these other things. Well you say yes

48:45

because you had your wife working too

48:47

hard. Oh she's not. But I want to know

48:49

what my time. No no no no.

48:52

Listen we don't have anybody trying

48:54

to be sensational. But you was

48:57

just saying and I agree you

48:59

say you had a couple of homies who because

49:02

they weren't handling their business financially. Their

49:05

wife was overworked and it stressed

49:08

them out. And

49:10

listen let me put myself in like I

49:13

don't even want to do the whole whatever

49:16

when when we were getting our stuff going and

49:18

my wife was working 80 hours

49:20

corporate life you know coming

49:23

home sleep shower back to work that

49:25

kind of thing. All

49:27

right. When you living

49:29

under that kind of stress it's hard

49:31

to be in bliss. I was feeling good

49:33

because once we start rolling I was like

49:36

hey everything is great. But

49:39

I looked up and I told them last night part

49:41

of my testimony I was like I didn't realize my

49:44

wife was getting burnt out because

49:46

I just got a strong wife and she wasn't trying to say

49:49

nothing but like I was like oh

49:51

OK you burnt out. And

49:53

that's starting to affect the way you move at the

49:55

crib with me and the kids. OK

49:57

cool. So because I

49:59

was. in my business. I was like, congratulations,

50:02

give you two weeks notice. We up

50:04

out of here. And I was able

50:06

to relieve that part of it. So

50:08

tomorrow's point, it may not have been

50:10

what it seemed like it was,

50:13

but it was that my

50:15

wife working. She wanted to be at home with you. She don't

50:17

love you no less. You wanted to be at home with a

50:19

kid. I'm just saying to each

50:21

his own. Obviously every situation is different.

50:24

It might be some people out there like, yo, I

50:26

love working 80 hours a week. And this no question

50:28

motivate me. My wife did not

50:30

enjoy being at work by the time

50:33

I got the kids up and took them to daycare.

50:35

And then by the time I got home, she got

50:37

home, it was past dinner time.

50:39

And it's almost time to put them down. She

50:41

was not happy with that life Monday through Friday.

50:45

So that started to create some pressure

50:47

and stress on her that was unhealthy.

50:50

So I had to remove her from that situation, but

50:52

you're talking about removing her from a six

50:56

figure job, all

50:58

the health benefits and 401ks

51:01

and everything else that come

51:03

with that and just walking away. But

51:05

we were able to do that because of

51:08

the situation that, you know,

51:10

we put ourselves in. But to

51:12

your point yesterday, we was talking and I was like, no,

51:14

I almost saw more like, I don't

51:16

know if people mature enough to handle that because,

51:19

and not to mention, we're going to

51:21

speak from a male perspective on that.

51:23

Right. Like, so

51:25

again, I'll let you say it, but I just wanted

51:28

to preface it by this. Wasn't like, Oh, women should

51:30

be at home. You know what I'm saying?

51:32

I just didn't want it to again. You know how people are.

51:34

You know what I'm

51:37

saying? I didn't want them to be all in

51:39

the comments. Like his wife came home and cooked

51:41

and clean. No, no, no, no. I

51:43

didn't want to, I didn't, I didn't relieve the

51:45

pressure. I didn't relieve the pressure of her life

51:47

in that area. Another area. Okay. Now see, that's

51:52

how we on track now. I

51:54

wanted to say this though. Because

51:57

there's another group out that's struggling

51:59

with what I'm. struggling with. And

52:01

that is, you

52:03

can look at your marriage and see in some

52:06

areas that it is the same. So

52:09

you do wait the same amount you wait in high

52:11

school or college, whatever it is. Didn't nobody gain weight,

52:14

but you're still the same in terms of maturity. Oh,

52:16

for sure. You haven't grown. So

52:18

that's what I meant. Your bank is kind of

52:21

looking the same. Yeah. Well, I'm saying even with

52:23

like, let's say with Dee Dee, Dee Dee always

52:25

been strong. So God was like,

52:27

bruh. So because she always been strong,

52:29

you just gonna let her keep being strong. Like,

52:32

bro, that doesn't even make sense. Like what

52:35

she's going, she's supposed to be strong. If y'all married for 80

52:37

years, she just supposed to

52:39

be strong for the whole 80. That's too

52:41

much pressure. Like now it needs to be

52:43

a Clydesdale. So if she was

52:45

strong in the beginning of the marriage, cause you,

52:47

you know, I was 16, bruh. Yeah. Probably didn't

52:49

mature until Jalen was born. And that mean 25.

52:51

And then it was like, maybe I didn't really,

52:54

you know, it didn't catch up until 2728. And I

52:57

don't remember, but it's like, she

53:00

always credit wise, school

53:02

wise, she always handled her business. So God is like,

53:05

yo, when you going Clydesdale it though. So

53:07

if she could do 10, then

53:09

once you do 10 and then once y'all be

53:11

able to pull 32,000 together, you feel me?

53:14

So I'm saying for me, I was

53:17

screwed up because it was like, yo, you

53:19

are strong and, you,

53:22

you, you, you do do certain things.

53:25

And so now I'm just putting that responsibility on you

53:27

because you strong and that's what you do. And God

53:29

was like, she's still a human just

53:31

because she's strong. Don't mean she's not human.

53:33

Yeah. It doesn't mean that that she's

53:35

not pressured. She just handles the

53:38

pressure. She don't cry

53:40

about the pressure. She don't, she don't talk

53:42

about the pressure in the way you talk

53:44

about pressure. So, so now you

53:46

need to relieve her from her small stuff. This

53:48

morning, Lowe's was coming. She's like, yo, they're going

53:50

to be here between eight to 12. So

53:53

I was like, all right, bam, I'm gonna finish my running and

53:55

everything by eight, bro. As soon as I finished, they pull up

53:57

and I'm like, yo, no, you ain't got to get out the bed.

54:00

You ain't gotta do whatever the woman thing

54:02

where you got to get dressed and

54:04

you got to do all that I was like, I'll take care

54:06

of it was before Bro, if I'm

54:08

working out, yeah, I'm like, oh she go open

54:10

up the door I'm working out and God was

54:12

like that's the part of your

54:15

marriage That has not allowed

54:17

you to be blissful The

54:19

part where you like I'm doing this

54:21

for me so you could do that Yeah,

54:24

like I'm working out. God was like they grow

54:26

stop working out Just because

54:28

you got to do six miles. You ain't got to do all six

54:30

at one time And

54:32

then come back and do two later yeah

54:34

or do four and don't do the two

54:36

later But do your marriage, but I used

54:38

to be to do that. I'm studying my

54:40

Bible. I'm doing a church thing Well, I'm

54:42

doing whatever I'm doing and

54:44

I'll get to you when I get to you You

54:47

know and God was like now you gotta stop doing that

54:49

like she needs to understand I don't care

54:51

what you're doing. You are the priority So

54:54

I'll stop and when I start

54:56

doing that I start even doing

54:58

with my son like yo I don't care who I'm

55:00

talking to bro. I don't care if it's a hundred

55:02

fifty thousand dollar gig I'm like yo do me a

55:04

quick. Give me a minute. This is my son Yeah,

55:06

I used to be like hold on now. I don't

55:08

even play. Hey, this is my son. Yeah, let me

55:10

call Let me get on the other

55:12

line. Let me see if my son is okay

55:15

if he's okay. I'm gonna come back book.

55:17

What's up? I was just

55:19

calling to check on you. You good. Yeah. All

55:21

right. I'm on this business call real quick I'm

55:23

gonna call you back in a minute Ma just

55:25

doing that Yeah Have my son

55:27

at a different level of respect for you

55:30

because for used to be like your dad

55:32

making money He's doing his thing But it's

55:34

like whatever it business is

55:37

it seemed like that must be more important than

55:39

us because anytime he got to do that We

55:42

don't get a call back. We don't get a

55:45

it's like when I'm finishing I'm done then I'll

55:47

hit you and God was like no you got

55:49

to grow up You can still

55:51

be a dope speaker

55:54

and kill the game without having to

55:56

put your family second Like you

55:58

get and I'm just saying bro since I've been

56:00

on that, it just changed everything, bro. Thank

56:22

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