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0:02
Welcome to The Silent Why
0:02
podcast.
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That's my line.
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You're bossy Claire.
0:07
And I'm Chris. And today
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we thought we'd share some
0:11
reflections about our time with
0:11
London, which happened a couple
0:15
of weeks ago, when we went down
0:15
to the capital city, to the
0:18
podcast show, which is the new
0:18
international festival for the
0:22
business of podcasting.
0:23
I think we have to get
0:23
past our sort of Joey from
0:27
Friends, "London, baby!" every
0:27
time we go to London, or do
0:31
something about London, we usually are coming up with "London, baby!"
0:33
I don't know that we ever need to get over that.
0:35
We were there for two
0:35
days. This was an event taking
0:38
place in the Business Design
0:38
Centre, which is in Islington.
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While we're there threw in some
0:42
other London bits, some tourist
0:44
stuff, because we're like, the
0:44
country mouse visiting the town
0:47
mouse, aren't we? And suddenly,
0:47
everything like, our eyes are
0:50
opened wide at the palaces and
0:52
The big city.
0:53
...buildings and all this
0:53
sort of stuff. We went to the
0:56
West End as well took in a show.
0:57
We did very exciting.
0:57
Very fancy.
1:01
It was wedding anniversary fancy.
1:03
It was wedding anniversary fancy.
1:04
17 years!
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Yeah, I know. It's frightening.
1:06
And still in love.
1:06
Yeah.
1:09
When we're not podcasting!
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And as people might be aware, we are podcasters. So we qualified to go to The Podcast
1:12
Show. So we've been podcasting
1:14
for about eight months now, but
1:14
planning for a lot longer than
1:17
that. So I'm gonna say, well
1:17
over a year, I was very keen to
1:21
attend the podcast show when I
1:21
heard that it was happening in
1:23
London, because most of the
1:23
podcast shows that I watch or
1:26
attend virtually, are in the US.
1:26
So I was really keen when I
1:31
heard on PodNews, that there was
1:31
going to be a show in the UK and
1:35
I booked some tickets. And I
1:35
think I sort of reluctantly took
1:39
you along, not reluctant to take
1:39
you, just reluctant to... I
1:43
think you were a little bit
1:43
reluctant to join me.
1:45
Aw! There was a noise
1:45
from my facial expression, as
1:48
you said that, you've said that
1:48
a few times, you've sort of
1:51
insinuated that I was reluctant
1:51
to go with you.
1:54
I think it's because
1:54
generally you show more
1:56
excitement if I bake chocolate
1:56
cake than when I told you we
1:59
were going to The Podcast Show.
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So if I gauge it on that
2:02
reaction, I wouldn't have said
2:02
you were ecstatic about it or as
2:06
excited as I was.
2:06
Yeah, no, I, I need, I
2:06
need time to process these
2:11
things. In fact, when you when
2:11
you raised it with me, you sent
2:15
me a message and said can you
2:15
just book this week off work
2:19
out. I'll talk about why later.
2:19
And I remember then looking at
2:23
my work annual leave to see if I
2:23
had the time. Of course, I did
2:27
have the time. And then thought
2:27
right, what's that? And I jumped
2:31
on onto a very popular internet
2:31
search engine. And...
2:35
You can say Google!
2:36
...looked up that week.
2:36
And sure enough, I was like,
2:39
that's what she's going for a
2:39
podcast festival. So yeah, but I
2:44
jumped in.
2:45
No you did, yep, no you
2:45
did come along.
2:49
What just to carry the
2:49
bags?! Thanks, very much.
2:53
But no, yeah, we will. I
2:53
think by the time it was it was
2:55
upon us, you were excited about
2:55
it. But anyway, we went. And it
3:00
was two days of full on
3:00
conference attending
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Oh so many sessions. And
3:04
you made me take notes.
3:08
Of course I did, I
3:08
couldn't be in all the sessions!
3:10
You threaten me with your
3:10
no one can take as many notes as
3:13
you do. And you said we've got
3:13
to split up to try and make sure
3:17
we cover as much ground as
3:17
possible, and you better take
3:19
notes.
3:19
Yeah.
3:20
Oh, my life haven't
3:20
written that much since school.
3:23
It'll do you good, and you had a new tablet to do it on anyway, so you love that kind of
3:25
stuff!
3:26
Oh fancy pants!
3:28
Yeah, so we did, we did split up a lot, actually, because there were so many
3:29
sessions to get around even a
3:33
tiny sliver of it, we had to
3:33
sort of tag team and then come
3:36
back together again, and then
3:36
split up again. And everything
3:39
started at a different time,
3:39
which was really confusing. So
3:41
you never knew what you were
3:41
missing, or what you're gonna go
3:44
in and out of. Anyway, it was
3:44
very busy, there was over 5000
3:47
people there apparently over the
3:47
two days. So that's encouraging.
3:50
But I thought that because we
3:50
would do this session of just
3:53
feeding back on what we learnt,
3:53
what we took from it, what we
3:56
experienced in London, it would
3:56
be good to do that in a way that
3:59
kind of links it in a little bit
3:59
to our podcast subject, which is
4:02
loss and grief.
4:03
Yeah, that's what you get
4:03
every time you listen,
4:06
generally. In fact, one of our
4:06
good friends John, we saw last
4:09
weekend, said 'Great job, guys.
4:09
I can't listen. It's too
4:12
depressing.' We're like 'Yeah,
4:12
yeah, we understand' to some
4:15
it's a bit too depressing. But
4:15
we try and find, you know, as
4:19
you'll hear, we find the
4:19
positives and the hope and the
4:22
joy.
4:23
My top tip probably just
4:23
to listen to the last 15 or 20
4:26
minutes of any episode.
4:27
Don't say that!
4:30
But that would work
4:31
Do not fast forward to
4:31
the last 15-20 minutes, thank
4:33
you.
4:33
You'd get a much more
4:33
upbeat, general podcast
4:36
listening, but yes, we are aware
4:36
it's not for everybody, our
4:38
subject, but I am aware there's
4:38
a massive need for it still, and
4:43
actually, I've got some stuff to
4:43
feedback from the podcast on
4:45
that subject. But I thought it
4:45
would be good if we could
4:48
roughly link in to our topic of
4:48
loss and grief to keep it
4:52
relevant cuz we don't want to
4:52
throw random stuff on the
4:54
podcast. Let's keep it linked
4:54
in. So all our feedback has to
4:58
be however tentative linked to
4:58
loss or grief. That's your
5:04
challenge, anything you feed
5:04
back, you got to tie it back to
5:06
loss or grief.
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Okay. Good grief.
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Good grief indeed.
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All right. So do you want
5:11
me to go first?
5:13
Yeah, if you look back
5:13
over that week, the whole week,
5:16
all of our experiences, what's
5:16
the thing that stands out the
5:18
most, and then tie it to loss or
5:18
grief.
5:21
So what you said early on
5:21
about, you know, this was our
5:23
first trip to a podcast
5:23
festival, to a show. And there
5:29
was a few people mentioned
5:29
something during that, which was
5:32
really quite obvious. And that's
5:32
this thing called Impostor
5:35
Syndrome. Okay, so I'm sort of
5:35
going in deep at the start.
5:39
Yeah, that's fine.
5:39
That's how we roll, as
5:39
you'll know. And I sort of
5:44
understand that. I don't usually
5:44
feel like an imposter. And I
5:48
didn't really feel like an
5:48
imposter. Others do. But I
5:50
understand more and more, I
5:50
think the older I get, the more
5:53
set in my ways I become. So even
5:53
going to the big city, I think I
5:57
was more aware of, of stuff. So
5:57
I'd almost say, this was like a
6:00
lot of confidence. Like I'm not
6:00
as confident now in my early to
6:04
mid 40s, as I was 20 years ago,
6:04
which no one's going to be
6:06
surprised at. So there we are
6:06
feeling a little bit less
6:11
confident than I normally we're
6:11
in this fairly big world, and
6:14
this podcast show was huge as a
6:14
lot a lot bigger and grander and
6:17
more impressive than many, we're
6:17
imagining, lots of big names
6:21
there, the big sort of traders,
6:21
businesses, talking about the
6:26
spending of millions of pounds.
6:26
And so listening to people talk
6:31
about their podcasts, I think I
6:31
was reassured to a level that
6:34
they were saying similar things
6:34
to what I was, I was
6:38
experiencing myself, even though
6:38
they may have hundreds of
6:41
thousands of people listening to
6:41
their podcast, and they may be
6:44
making tens of thousands of
6:44
pounds or dollars, depending on
6:48
your currency. They still say I
6:48
feel like an imposter. And that
6:52
was quite a common theme. And I
6:52
can understand that because we
6:57
we record this podcast in our
6:57
home in a very familiar
6:59
surrounding where we're very
6:59
comfortable. We know this space
7:02
really well. So to us, you know,
7:02
it's me and you in a room
7:06
chatting and recording it. Yet,
7:06
if somebody's listening to this
7:10
in a car, on a train or
7:10
somewhere else at work, wherever
7:13
it may be, then it may come
7:13
across as being a bit more
7:16
professional than I feel it is.
7:16
I don't know, I'm starting to
7:18
get a bit lost in my ramblings.
7:18
Loss of...
7:22
I'm lost in your
7:22
comments. No, I, I do get the
7:27
imposter thing. I don't know if
7:27
it's because when you own
7:29
something, it's entirely yours.
7:29
So like with writing, I look at
7:32
my books that I've written. And
7:32
admittedly it's not out there or
7:35
published or anything, but I can
7:35
imagine how if that was out
7:38
there, there will be this level
7:38
of 'huh', I got it to a point
7:42
where it's published and people
7:42
want to read it. But I do not
7:44
feel like an author or writer. I
7:44
can't imagine a point when that
7:47
clicks and you suddenly think
7:47
I've done it, I've nailed it, I
7:50
can now put out any books I
7:50
want, and I'm going to be good
7:53
at it. I can see why people
7:53
would constantly be thinking,
7:56
was that a fluke? Have I done
7:56
that one thing that went really
7:59
well, but I can't do it again?
7:59
And I think I did feel about
8:02
that with with the podcast, I
8:02
find it hard to deal to say I'm
8:06
a podcaster because it still
8:06
feels so new. And I know so
8:10
little compared to so many other
8:10
people at conferences like this,
8:14
but at the same time I speak to
8:14
people where I realised I know
8:16
so much compared to others. One
8:16
of the women I heard was on a
8:20
panel with Richard Branson
8:20
coming up soon, and she said I
8:23
still get impostor syndrome,
8:23
like 'what am I doing here?' But
8:26
obviously reached quite a high
8:26
level with what she specialised
8:29
in. So...
8:30
It's a common thing then.
8:30
So how is it something you can
8:33
get over it? Or what does it
8:33
take, without becoming arrogant,
8:37
and having a massive ego, can
8:37
you just be a lovely humble, non
8:42
imposter?
8:43
Yeah, I think you can. I
8:43
think I have heard people, I
8:45
would say it's probably rare to
8:45
have all those qualities, but I
8:48
fully believe you could be
8:48
someone who's very good at what
8:51
they do, and knows they're very
8:51
good at what they do without
8:54
being arrogant and cocky about
8:54
the situation I do believe is
8:58
possible. But I do think it's
8:58
one of those rare things like
9:00
somebody who's incredibly rich,
9:00
but incredibly generous, or you
9:03
know, some of these things that
9:03
they exist, they're just not
9:06
your average reaction to stuff.
9:06
The average reaction to fame and
9:09
success is not humility, but
9:09
there will be people who
9:12
maintain it, or who happen to
9:12
get it in that situation.
9:15
I've gotten to a bit of a
9:15
bad habit because if you with
9:18
Claire and myself making small
9:18
talk with a stranger for the
9:22
first time, when that question
9:22
comes up, 'what do you do?' And
9:25
I got into the habit of looking
9:25
to you with a eager smile on my
9:28
face to see how you answer.
9:29
You have and you just
9:29
throw me right in there. Let's
9:31
see what she's gonna say. Because I want to... And I failed miserably several
9:33
times at the podcast conference.
9:36
I don't think you've, I don't think you've impressed me yet with your confidence.
9:39
I know.
9:40
But I really want you to
9:40
say something like, I'm a writer
9:42
and a podcaster. But instead you
9:42
sort of say 'errrr'
9:46
That's imposter
9:46
syndrome. Like no, no, I can't
9:50
be that. I'm unemployed.
9:53
Yeah, yes. But is that
9:53
because so much of it is linked
9:56
to money?
9:57
Probably yeah.
9:58
If you will, receiving a
9:58
salary for this, would you feel
10:02
released to claim it?
10:03
Yes, because then you
10:03
feel like somebody is validating
10:05
you, someone outside of you is
10:05
saying what you can do and what
10:08
you're capable of doing is worth
10:08
me paying my money to you for.
10:13
Yeah.
10:13
So when nobody's backing
10:13
you up in that when no one's
10:15
published your stuff when
10:15
nobody's said, 'Oh, this is
10:18
amazing' from someone who knows
10:18
what they're doing. I think
10:21
there's something in you that
10:21
just thinks, well, am I? Because
10:24
technically, anyone can do what
10:24
I've done. I mean, maybe not
10:28
everyone could do it, but
10:28
technically, everyone could say
10:30
they've got a book in a drawer
10:30
hasn't been published yet. And
10:32
they've just started their own
10:32
podcast. That's not difficult.
10:35
Whether they could do it well is
10:35
another thing, but everybody
10:37
could do it. So until someone
10:37
comes along, it knows what
10:40
they're talking about and says,
10:40
'I validate you in this, you're
10:43
good at it'. I feel like 'I
10:43
don't know, am I? Am I an
10:47
imposter?' So I can see why,
10:47
however, when people are getting
10:49
paid thousands and millions for
10:49
doing it, and they still feel
10:51
like an impostor. That, to me
10:51
says that it's not that easy to
10:55
shift just because of money. So
10:55
I don't think that's the only
10:57
thing.
10:57
Definitely. And every
10:57
session, pretty much every
10:59
session, I don't think that's
10:59
too much of an exaggeration that
11:02
we were in, and between the two
11:02
of us across those two days of
11:05
the conference in London, we
11:05
must have been our been in
11:11
fifteen sessions?
11:13
A day?
11:14
No no, across the two
11:14
days, oh, I think we did ten
11:16
each day, almost, there must
11:16
been heading twenty sessions
11:18
between us. So in all of those sessions, not
11:19
all of them had sort of a Q&A at
11:23
the end, but those that did,
11:23
you'd have had two common
11:27
questions almost every session,
11:27
which was one, how do I grow my
11:30
audience? And how do I monetize
11:30
my podcast? How can I make money
11:34
from this? Yeah, so the money
11:34
thing is a big deal, isn't it?
11:37
And most of the speakers that
11:37
have been invited to be part of
11:41
the sessions, unsurprisingly,
11:41
were those that have 'made it'
11:45
those that are making lots of
11:45
money, or they are famous in
11:48
their community for it. And
11:48
therefore they have a team of
11:52
people, whether that's six or
11:52
fifteen, that are all helping
11:56
make their podcast product.
11:58
Yeah, I don't think
11:58
people realise quite how many
12:01
people are behind some of the
12:01
best podcasts that people will
12:03
listen to that there's like
12:03
teams of up to twenty people
12:06
behind some podcasts. And that's
12:06
daunting, when it's just us
12:10
doing all our own stuff, we
12:10
don't outsource anything, not
12:13
even social media, the editing,
12:13
everything is done in house,
12:15
which is nice, because we get a
12:15
lot of compliments. That sounds
12:17
professional. So hopefully that
12:17
is the case.
12:20
Yeah, well, I think like
12:20
there was there was one of the
12:22
most popular British podcasts I
12:22
think, is one called Red Handed,
12:26
which is a true crime podcast, a
12:26
couple of friends started that
12:30
up with the two of them. And
12:30
they now have a team of six of
12:33
them? I think five going on six,
12:33
or six going on seven. So they
12:36
imply they're going full time with it, because they're making enough money from it from
12:38
supporters and subscribers. But
12:43
that I find really exciting. I mean, they've been going for about six years, I think we've
12:45
been doing ours for six months
12:48
or give us six years and we'll be millionaires.
12:51
Actually, nobody there
12:51
was a millionaire, even the ones
12:53
with millions ofe and that's
12:53
also something that's quite
12:56
shocking.
12:57
But it's it's I think we
12:57
need to just pause and point out
13:00
as well to you that we're not
13:00
doing this to make money. I
13:04
think that's...
13:05
Well, you might not be!
13:05
Mr I've-Got-A-Job.
13:10
We want to make money
13:10
because we want you to be
13:13
validated to feel like you're
13:13
worth something.
13:16
Yes!
13:16
Because I'm not enough.
13:17
Pay me to make me feel
13:17
good about myself!
13:19
My husband-encouragement,
13:19
it's not enough to make you feel
13:21
worth something. But there are
13:21
costs that we we have with the
13:26
podcasting every month that we
13:26
have to pay for, the use of
13:29
various bits of software and
13:29
recording stuff and hosting it
13:32
so we have costs, it'd be lovely
13:32
to cover those.
13:34
I think one of the
13:34
things about it, the
13:38
monetization thing that was
13:38
interesting was how adverts are
13:41
one of the only short easy ways
13:41
to earn money and cover your
13:45
costs and stuff. So I think that
13:45
is something I'm a lot more open
13:47
to initially I had thought
13:47
putting adverts on the podcast
13:52
would be, like a lot of them
13:52
did, it feels like selling your
13:54
soul to begin with. But if you
13:54
find the right company that you
13:58
endorse personally, and that you
13:58
can really get on board with and
14:01
recommend honestly and
14:01
wholeheartedly. I think there is
14:05
some nice avenues to be had
14:05
through stuff like that. So that
14:08
might be something I'll look at
14:08
further, now I understand it a
14:10
bit more. But one of the things
14:10
I actually had like loss of
14:13
confidence on my list when I was
14:13
thinking through like feedback
14:15
of stuff I'd got from that
14:15
conference and just being
14:18
surprised how unconfident I felt
14:18
in certain situations in
14:22
chatting to people and I don't
14:22
know if that's Covid There might
14:24
be a lot of people feel that way
14:24
when you're suddenly in a room
14:26
with 5,000 people milling around
14:26
you know, when you haven't done
14:29
that for a couple of years is
14:29
daunting for a lot of people and
14:32
I've been out of the workspace
14:32
for a long time so I'm not even
14:34
in big groups at all. So I think
14:34
that was something I noticed but
14:37
I definitely want to build on.
14:39
With that in mind,
14:39
because we before we went you as
14:42
a nice surprise had ordered and
14:42
created some beautiful business
14:46
cards, and then we've got too
14:46
little holders. [laughes] Don't
14:49
swear at me!
14:50
It's because I know what
14:50
you're gonna say!
14:55
No, I was gonna say to
14:55
your credit, you talked about
14:57
loss of confidence and I that's
14:57
where we started with me talking
14:59
about this, but you gave away
14:59
more business cards than I did.
15:02
Yes, I did give away a
15:02
business card! I also had my
15:07
e-business card to hand, not
15:07
that I used it but it was there
15:11
if I needed it.
15:12
To your hand alone.
15:13
Yeah, no, I think to be
15:13
honest, we were so busy with
15:16
stuff, the networking side of
15:16
it, it wasn't a natural, easy
15:20
thing to have done. A lot of
15:20
people think you meeting other
15:22
people they already knew. Unless
15:22
you went and sat next to people
15:25
regularly and then started
15:25
chatting to them, it wasn't the
15:28
networking side of it wasn't as
15:28
easy or as straightforward as
15:32
perhaps imagining, like other
15:32
places I've been to.
15:34
But what also made it I
15:34
think hard in that sense was
15:37
lots of people were with people
15:37
they knew and think certainly
15:41
within the industry, it felt
15:41
like there's a lot of industry
15:43
people there that had met and
15:43
had relationships.
15:46
It's because it was the first one.
15:47
Because they work together.
15:48
First one in the UK. It
15:48
brought people together for the
15:51
first time on English soil in a
15:51
podcasting sense in that way. So
15:55
lots of people like 'oh, we're all going to be in the same room. We're in the same room as
15:57
Spotify and YouTube and Acast
16:00
and Shure' and all these different big names that are in the podcasting world. So it
16:02
became this place to meet and I
16:06
think people who will communicate a lot in the podcasting world via probably
16:08
social media and podcasts and
16:12
chatting and video and audio,
16:12
like kind of stuff suddenly
16:15
could get together in person. So
16:15
I think there was a lot of that
16:17
going on because it was the
16:17
first one. So that made a big
16:20
difference.
16:21
What else did you have on your list?
16:22
Well, one of the things
16:22
I think that that kind of struck
16:24
me most about just the podcast
16:24
bit rather than our time in
16:28
London in general, was about
16:28
how, like both lunch times we
16:33
ended up sitting down to have
16:33
some food, just picking a bench
16:36
somewhere and either having a
16:36
ridiculously overpriced wrap, or
16:41
that time we took cold pizza, we
16:41
snuck it in, because we couldn't
16:44
afford a wrap the second day,
16:44
both times looking back on it,
16:47
we sat next to people or we saw
16:47
somebody who was on their own.
16:51
And not I don't think
16:51
intentional I certainly didn't
16:54
intend it was because you had to
16:54
find space at benches. And we
16:57
happened to find a space both
16:57
days next to somebody who was
17:00
sat on their own or somebody
17:00
that you saw that you knew that
17:02
came over. And I think looking
17:02
back at that, both of those, all
17:07
three of those conversations
17:07
really, were with people that
17:10
instantly connected with our
17:10
podcast topic, even before we
17:14
told them what the podcast topic
17:14
actually was. We spoke to
17:17
someone about childlessness
17:17
actually, we spoke to people
17:20
about childlessness ,about loss
17:20
about like just feeling alone or
17:24
the imposter syndrome. And we
17:24
connected really quickly with
17:27
them. And I think that is just
17:27
how we do it. But looking back,
17:30
I was like, that's fascinating
17:30
that it just reassures me when
17:33
you're talking to people, and
17:33
you're hearing all these talks
17:36
from people who do big podcasts
17:36
that are like comedy, or like I
17:40
went to the one about the guys
17:40
who wrote 'My Dad Wrote A
17:42
Porno', huge podcast, very
17:42
popular, gift of a subject in so
17:46
many ways. I won't go into it.
17:46
But it's just like such an easy
17:49
thing in some ways to sit down
17:49
and develop an idea out of and
17:54
make it something that people
17:54
want to listen to. And you could
17:56
look at ours and think, 'oh,
17:56
gosh, it's a heavy subject to
18:00
try and sell to somebody who's
18:00
sitting next to conference',
18:03
loss, grief, do people really
18:03
want to talk about this? A lot
18:06
of people don't. And like you
18:06
said, we've had people say I
18:09
love the idea, but I just can't
18:09
listen to some of it. It's it's
18:13
heavy. And I think they're
18:13
people who generally wouldn't
18:15
have those conversations in real
18:15
life, either. So you start to
18:18
doubt it a bit. But when I had
18:18
these conversations with people,
18:21
I thought, what are the chances of sitting next to people who will connect with that subject,
18:23
and I think they're probably
18:25
quite high, because everybody
18:25
goes through loss or grief, at
18:29
some point, everybody's got
18:29
something they're carrying, that
18:32
they're struggling with. So I
18:32
think those conversations for me
18:34
were just they were really
18:34
encouraging. They were based
18:36
around loss. And it kind of just
18:36
told me that actually, this is a
18:40
podcast, and it's a subject
18:40
that's needed. It gave me a
18:42
boost and a bit more of an
18:42
encouragement that yeah, it's
18:44
not the easiest sell. And it's
18:44
not something for everybody. But
18:48
there are a lot of people who
18:48
need it and who want to hear it
18:51
and who will get something from
18:51
it, even if it's not now but you
18:54
know, in a few years time when
18:54
they go through something, we
18:56
might be just referring it to a friend who's going through something.
18:59
So how are you relating our lunchtimes with loss?
19:00
Well, all the conversations were about loss. Okay, I thought you were gonna say something like that you'd lost a romantic lunch
19:02
opportunity with your gorgeous
19:10
husband? Over the cold pizza? Yes, that
19:11
was what I was gonna say. That's
19:17
what was coming back round.
19:19
Quiet special connection.
19:21
Quality time at a really
19:21
busy conference, at a crowded
19:24
bench with my husband.
19:25
Yeah, loss of sleep would
19:25
be another one. I mean, we were
19:28
we were staying in this
19:28
wonderful, I mean, you'd found
19:31
this incredible place, there
19:31
can't have been anybody at that
19:34
conference that we're staying
19:34
closer. It's almost like we were
19:36
neighbours to where this
19:36
conference was.
19:39
It was a gem. And I've booked it next year so no trying to nick it, people.
19:42
It was a two room
19:42
apartment, with a lounge kitchen
19:45
dining area and then a bedroom.
19:45
Tiny little place through like a
19:50
terrifying doorway, wasn't it?
19:50
If you imagine a very busy city
19:53
like London or New York
19:53
somewhere, we've just got rows
19:56
of shops and then there's this
19:56
great big iron doorway that's
19:59
just built into the the brick wall.
20:00
Where there's always
20:00
someone hanging around outside
20:02
when you get back.
20:04
We went through this like
20:04
this lock that never opened
20:06
first time, we had to jangle the
20:06
key loads to try and get this
20:10
big old metal door open, and
20:10
then that brought you into this
20:13
little dark hallway that was
20:13
like going back to university
20:16
like a halls of residence that
20:16
needs refurbishment. But then
20:19
you climbed up the stairs into
20:19
this lovely little apartment,
20:22
that was the other side of the
20:22
building from the main road. So
20:24
it was it was quite quiet, and
20:24
then lovely, lovely place. So
20:30
great, booked it for next year.
20:30
So we're obviously, we're both
20:34
getting very excited about next year's conference.
20:35
Excellent.
20:38
But yeah, I think the
20:38
first night was okay, but I
20:41
think I made a couple of
20:41
mistakes, one is two pillows, I
20:44
should have had one. Which I did
20:44
on the third night.
20:47
The ongoing debate everywhere we stay.
20:51
It was two days that were
20:51
just crammed full of noise and
20:54
listening and people and making
20:54
notes and just try and take it
20:58
all in, without much time just
20:58
to stop and process, so I think
21:01
I got into bed and was just my
21:01
head was was wired.
21:04
Even though you were the extrovert wanting to come home and then go out for the evening
21:06
to the cinema or do something
21:08
else.
21:09
Oh, that was day one. Day
21:09
three. I was absolutely
21:12
shattered. Didn't want to go
21:12
out, like, no,
21:14
I was like 'I can't see
21:14
any more people!' It's just so
21:17
busy.
21:17
Yeah. So it took it out
21:17
of me. I think it took me it
21:20
took me 24-48 hours even after I
21:20
got back to recover. And we came
21:23
back on Friday, and Saturday and
21:23
Sunday following that, you know
21:31
we were pretty shattered. Well
21:31
worth it. Lovely place that
21:34
you'd booked, that worked really well.
21:36
And we got to go on the
21:36
new Elizabeth Line the tube that
21:39
opened that week. That was
21:39
exciting.
21:42
Yeah, that was that was
21:42
nice to see a new tube line
21:45
And loss of people
21:45
because when we went on it was
21:48
pretty much completely empty. It
21:48
was amazing.
21:51
Good one. Just an introvert's dream.
21:53
It was. Honestly, if I
21:53
could travel everywhere on that
21:55
tube line that that many people
21:55
on it all the time. I'd just
21:58
live down there. And I'm not a
21:58
fan of being an underground too
22:01
long.
22:01
You think this is
22:01
something we're just making up
22:03
because we're in central London,
22:03
but these are tube stations
22:07
where literally you were filming
22:07
at one stage and I just couldn't
22:10
make a sound because there
22:10
wasn't any noise. There were
22:13
other people there, but it was
22:13
it was vast, and they were sort
22:16
of far far away.
22:16
There was only about five people there.
22:18
The sound of the actual
22:18
tube the carriages was behind
22:21
the screen because then you sort
22:21
of when the train stops the
22:24
doors of the train open behind
22:24
other electric doors that open
22:27
so you go through almost two
22:27
sets of doors to get under. So
22:30
that was shut away. So the noise
22:30
of the actual train tunnels was
22:33
It was air conditioned. was shut away.
22:34
Air conditioned so it was
22:34
cool. Big space, well lit,
22:36
modern.
22:37
And clean, because it
22:37
was brand new. It was just the
22:39
ideal way to travel.
22:40
We did like that, we put
22:40
some videos on social media.
22:42
And then when we went back on the other direction it was packed so we were very lucky
22:44
we got that slot when it was
22:48
empty. Yeah, that's not always
22:48
the case.
22:50
But we experienced packed
22:50
tubes in London, that wasn't
22:53
packed.
22:53
It wasn't as bad as the other packed one.
22:55
I was literally chewing on somebody's armpits and was like, this is the first time in
22:56
two years that I've been this
22:59
close to a stranger.
23:00
It's the only time my
23:00
mind goes to a sort of a 'what
23:03
if I'm stuck here' type place,
23:03
where you're just like
23:06
underground, what feels like
23:06
miles when you go down those
23:09
flippin' escalators are like
23:09
going over a cliff. And then
23:12
you're just crammed in like
23:12
literally like sardines in a
23:15
tin.
23:15
She won't like me telling
23:15
you this but most times in fact,
23:18
every time that we went into
23:18
a... Claire was like; 'is this a
23:22
big one or a small one?' And she
23:22
was referring to the escalator,
23:25
we're about to go down.
23:26
Because I couldn't see you, you were in front of me and you go over the edge and I
23:27
wouldn't have any kind of
23:30
context of whether it was a massive one.
23:31
She wasn't terrified. But if you'd seen us you'd have seen, Claire was hiding, well
23:33
she was positioning herself
23:36
behind me every time we went
23:36
over the edge, like that roller
23:39
coaster she said. So sometimes
23:39
with some of the London tube
23:42
escalators when they go down,
23:42
you go over the edge and then
23:44
suddenly realise 'Oh my word,
23:44
this is a long escalator and you
23:46
can see quite far down!'
23:47
My brain just goes to
23:47
'what if I trip?' 'What if I
23:50
move forward a foot and I can't
23:50
stop myself?' I'm just literally
23:53
going to roll to my death on
23:53
metal stairs in front of
23:56
hundreds of Londoners, it's one
23:56
of the worst ways to go.
24:00
When you say 'roll to your death', do you mean you'll fall a few steps and then just,
24:01
in a heap will just slowly ride
24:05
down?!
24:05
No, no. It's so it looks
24:05
like it's so steep. The reality
24:09
is you'd just hit the next person down, they would hit the next person down and you just
24:11
have this big domino effect. But
24:14
you don't want to be the person
24:14
at the top of that that sent
24:16
everyone else flying. You're not
24:16
going to be popular and I don't
24:19
think people take kindly to...
24:20
Well, to quote Joey from
24:20
Friend's again: 'London, baby!'
24:25
And the first three or
24:25
four tube trips were actually
24:27
really exciting. It was only
24:27
after four, five, six, I was
24:30
like 'this is why I don't live
24:30
in London'. I like it briefly
24:33
but I could not do this from my
24:33
daily commute.
24:36
And I was... she, Claire,
24:36
swore at me and she called me a
24:41
nasty word. Because I was using
24:41
a, I was using my smartwatch,
24:46
which I don't usually wear out,
24:46
I got it mainly for sort of
24:49
sport and activity.
24:49
It's creeping into daily life.
24:51
Well not really but my
24:51
normal standard battery watch
24:56
was out of battery and I was
24:56
waiting for a battery to arrive
24:58
in the post and it didn't arrive
24:58
so I took my smartwatch. And
25:00
then while I was there I thought
25:00
stroke of luck I can just tap my
25:03
watch on the tube payment pad,
25:03
like the contactless pad to get
25:08
through the gate, which worked
25:08
eight out of ten times. But
25:11
there were a few times where it
25:11
didn't work and I was just sort
25:13
of hovering with my wrist...
25:14
Yeah cos I was the wife
25:14
of the person who was stuck the
25:17
other side tapping his watch on the thing!
25:18
And you said, what did
25:18
you call you me? After, I think
25:21
you'd run out of patience I think you called me a 'watch ******!' I was shocked. We can't
25:23
make this podcast explicit, we
25:31
can't put naughty language in it, because we want it in all
25:33
It was just a little bit how you looked. countries.
25:34
Yes. Yes. So, mean!
25:34
Anyway, enough of the tube
25:40
experience.
25:40
It's London! It brings out the bad, it brings out the Londoner in me!
25:43
Well, this is, this is
25:43
our, we haven't been tourists in
25:46
London for a long time. So we
25:46
were giddy with the podcast
25:48
conference, we were shattered
25:48
because of the loss of sleep.
25:50
And it's quite nostalgic
25:50
for me, there's something about
25:52
it, you know, I went to London,
25:52
quite a bit with an Auntie and
25:57
I've been with my parents. And
25:57
so doing things around London as
26:00
a child was something I feel
26:00
like I did quite a bit, I saw so
26:03
many shows and all kinds of
26:03
stuff. There's something really
26:06
lovely and nostalgic about it,
26:06
but the same time I'm aware of
26:09
my age, and the fact that
26:09
suddenly a giant escalator feels
26:14
a little bit scarier than it
26:14
used to! They move so fast
26:18
and...
26:19
Don't take us back to the
26:19
escalator we've moved on!
26:23
Something I do want to
26:23
say. I know for a fact that even
26:25
though I touched the handle of
26:25
the escalator, which I didn't
26:27
want to, it moves faster than
26:27
your feet. And that's
26:30
frightening. Because my hand got
26:30
further and further and further
26:32
forwards. I said to you on point, you probably weren't listening, you were probably
26:34
looking at your watch!
26:36
Ah ok, so the speed of
26:36
the handrail is slightly faster
26:38
than the speed of the escalator itself.
26:40
Yeah.
26:41
Right. Oh, I haven't twigged that. Which is frightening for old
26:42
people when you're going over those big things, and they're
26:44
moving fast. You mentioned show, and the
26:46
nostalga and we went to see a
26:49
show. There's a lot of loss in
26:49
the show that we went to see,
26:52
which is incredible.
26:52
We went to see a show that it's probably based 100% around loss. So many losses.
26:57
Yeah, it feels very 2019
26:57
to say we went to see Hamilton
27:01
on stage.
27:02
We had seen it on
27:02
Disney+, but not, yeah, it was
27:05
the first time in the flesh. So
27:05
we were very excited and a bit
27:08
nervous because having only seen
27:08
the Broadway one on TV, we're
27:10
wondering if it would still live
27:10
up to the the expert heights.
27:13
Particularly as we often
27:13
fall out about I say, right, I'm
27:16
gonna go with really low
27:16
expectations. But whether it
27:19
worked or not, it certainly did,
27:19
was effective, I don't know if
27:22
it did work. But it was a
27:22
brilliant show. It was
27:24
incredible. I was I was so happy
27:24
to have seen it. And it was it
27:28
was far better than I imagined.
27:30
It was really good. It
27:30
was just I think it's one of
27:33
those all around, I mean, we
27:33
love musicals, it's pretty much
27:36
100% musical, and there's hardly
27:36
any speech in it at all. It's
27:39
funny. It's heartbreaking. It's,
27:39
you know, emotional, you get
27:45
tearful, you're laughing.
27:45
There's such a range of
27:48
emotions. It was just absolutely
27:48
brilliant. I loved it. And it to
27:51
me it sealed again, how
27:51
important it is to write and
27:55
have conversations around these
27:55
big topics. I mean, it deals
27:58
with huge areas of loss and
27:58
grief and murder, loss of a
28:02
child and reputations and
28:02
countries at war. There's so
28:07
much going on in it. And they're
28:07
such big topics that to write
28:10
something like that so
28:10
eloquently. I'm just like, super
28:13
jealous of Lin-Manuel's brain, I
28:13
just think, to have a brain that
28:18
works that way. And to produce
28:18
something like that, however
28:21
long it took him. just
28:21
phenomenal. It's well worth
28:24
every every penny it earns. And
28:24
it's just yeah, a brilliant
28:27
piece of art.
28:28
Just to highlight because
28:28
I'm you know, neither of us are
28:32
huge on history expertise. But
28:32
I'm guessing a lot of people
28:35
have learned about the American
28:35
history because of Hamilton.
28:38
I mean, I didn't know about any of that, really.
28:40
So the key figure,
28:40
Alexander Hamilton, just some of
28:42
the losses; immigrant, parent
28:42
died at an early age, found
28:46
himself in America...
28:47
A lot of spoilers here,
28:47
by the way, but it's a history
28:50
story anyway.
28:50
Look at the character of
28:50
Alexander Hamilton as a key
28:53
figure through a war, but then
28:53
on from that, to become this key
29:01
figure in the political setup
29:01
and the Constitution, setting up
29:05
the Constitution in American and
29:05
working with almost like a right
29:08
hand man for Thomas Jefferson,
29:08
no, George Washington, rather.
29:12
I knew we shouldn't have embarked on the history.
29:13
But along the way,
29:13
there's sort of first loves,
29:18
loss of identity, home.
29:18
Grieving. I think one
29:18
of the most powerful things for
29:20
There was a particular song as
29:20
well, that was one of the
29:21
me was just the idea that I said
29:21
to you at the end, it finishes
29:24
with this beautiful song and
29:24
Eliza, his wife is sort of
29:27
saying 'who tells your story?'
29:27
And that it finishes on the
29:30
question, 'who tells your, who's
29:30
going to tell your story?'
29:33
basically, and I just thought
29:33
that for me was quite a lovely
29:37
moment because I felt like
29:37
that's what our podcast is
29:39
about. I think I said to you on
29:39
the way home, 'I love that we
29:43
can do that, we can we can tell
29:43
people's stories', we can be the
29:46
one that actually helps other
29:46
people and gives them a platform
29:49
to tell their story because the
29:49
story of Hamilton is loss and
29:53
sadness and grief and all the
29:53
depressing things people don't
29:56
like to listen to sometimes on
29:56
our podcast, that's what it is
29:59
about, and it's been put forward
29:59
and his way of like to give
30:02
people hope and to give people
30:02
motivation. And I think that's
30:05
what happens generally, when you
30:05
connect with people on their
30:07
probably the tear jerker's or
30:07
the one that makes you the most
30:09
level, a depth of where they are
30:09
with loss and things, it kind
30:12
of, it allows them to feel heard
30:12
and seen, it makes them into
30:15
better people, and it brings
30:15
them forward into the people
30:18
that smile and have joy again,
30:18
and hope again, it's so easy to
30:21
think all we need to do is just
30:21
give people hope and joy and a
30:25
smile, and that will make them
30:25
feel better. But actually, you
30:28
know, the conversations I'm
30:28
chatting to people about, trying
30:31
to make people smile in their
30:31
grief, not the first thing, they
30:34
want to be heard and kind of
30:34
seen first. And then they're
30:37
more open to kind of the next
30:37
step in the journey. So I like
30:41
to think that's how we help
30:41
people along.
30:48
emotional, really related to
30:48
something we've covered quite a
30:53
lot in this podcast was about
30:53
imagination, that several
30:56
episodes, there was this
30:56
recurring theme of individuals
31:00
that we've spoken to saying we
31:00
don't like it when somebody
31:02
says, 'I can't imagine' there's
31:02
this disconnect when you say, 'I
31:05
can't imagine, 'I can't imagine what that's like', even though you're trying to be kind, it
31:07
actually almost has an adverse
31:09
effect. And there was a
31:09
particular song, which was the
31:12
sort of teary moment that you thought this is going to be the one that's going to get to you
31:14
the most Hmm love that song.
31:16
And bring, bring the tears,
31:17
Quiet Uptown.
31:18
And words in that, so
31:18
there's been this, there's been
31:21
a couple of losses that have
31:21
come between the marriage of
31:24
Alexander and Eliza Hamilton.
31:24
And this is the moment where
31:28
she's taking him back, and she's
31:28
forgiving him, and so the song
31:32
sort of punctuates with,
31:32
forgiveness. And then 'can you
31:35
imagine?', like, can you imagine
31:35
what that took, to do that? And
31:39
I just thought, yes, it's nice
31:39
to hear it done that way, rather
31:41
than 'we can't imagine,
31:41
forgiveness'. I thought, yeah,
31:44
that that relates to our
31:44
podcast.
31:47
It does. Yeah. One of the things that's really interesting in that song is they
31:49
say quite a lot; 'they are going
31:53
through the unimaginablet.
31:53
Relating to the loss of a child.
31:57
Yeah.
31:57
Which is something we've
31:57
heard, people don't like. I've
32:04
always been quite a stickler
32:04
for, for words, but in a way
32:07
that every word for me is valid.
32:07
I don't like it when people say,
32:11
'don't use that word', or 'I
32:11
don't use that word', 'I don't
32:14
like that word', because you
32:14
can't just not like a word, a
32:17
word has a meaning, and it's
32:17
there for a reason, you know, in
32:20
my opinion. So to kind of just
32:20
throw out the word imaginable
32:25
and unimaginable, just because
32:25
someone doesn't like it being
32:28
said about that situation, I
32:28
don't really like. So I love
32:32
that at the same time, we can
32:32
have this phrase that we've been
32:35
talking about and discussing, I
32:35
can't imagine that it's not
32:38
always appropriate to use in
32:38
grief, and I get that. But the
32:41
fact that someone also can, in
32:41
kind of song, describe this
32:45
situation, the same situation as
32:45
'they're going through the
32:48
unimaginable' - I love that as
32:48
well. And it's a really good
32:52
example for me of being able to
32:52
take both things, and you can
32:55
hold them both intention. Don't
32:55
throw out one word, because of
32:58
how someone you know, a few
32:58
people feel about it, you can
33:01
still use it in the same
33:01
context. And it'd be really
33:04
beautiful as part of that song.
33:04
So I don't know if that makes
33:07
any sense. But for me, I think
33:07
it's just a lovely way of being
33:10
able to show you know what, this
33:10
is somebody describing this
33:13
grief, and that's how they're phrasing it, and this is someone going through it and saying this
33:15
is how they're describing it,
33:17
and it's completely different.
33:19
Yeah, it's talking about the beauty and power of language, I think and how, you
33:20
know, we shouldn't just limit
33:24
words to one or two uses that
33:24
can be different context.
33:27
Words have so many different meanings.
33:29
So many layers for words.
33:30
So many different different things. Just because you don't like them used in one
33:32
situation, don't throw them out
33:36
across the board.
33:37
Before we become a
33:37
theatre review podcast.
33:40
Yes.
33:41
Any of the elements of
33:41
the few days in London, that are
33:45
worth sharing?
33:46
Yes. One of the things,
33:46
if had to look at that week and
33:50
think about loss, and what jumps
33:50
out to me about our loss
33:53
subject, the main thing would
33:53
have been, so in London, we've
33:57
got a long weekend in the UK,
33:57
Bank Holiday weekend for the
34:00
Queen's Jubilee, which is
34:00
celebrating 70 years of her as a
34:04
monarch. And she's the first
34:04
ever British monarch to do that.
34:07
So it's a big deal. And it's her
34:07
Platinum Jubilee. And in London,
34:12
they've been preparing for this
34:12
for weeks. So when we went to
34:15
look at Buckingham Palace, which
34:15
we wanted to get a glimpse at,
34:17
because we happen to be nearby,
34:17
we couldn't get anywhere near
34:19
it, because they've shut the whole roads around there for about a month to prepare to pull
34:21
these seats up and stadiums. And
34:25
when we stood in Horseguards
34:25
parade, we stopped for a minute
34:28
just to look around because it
34:28
was just quiet with a few
34:31
tourists. And we knew that this
34:31
time in the following week, it
34:33
was going to be packed with
34:33
loads of soldiers and guards and
34:37
regiments all performing and
34:37
part of these big celebrations.
34:40
So I think the thing that hit me
34:40
the most when it came to loss
34:43
was when we were standing on The
34:43
Mall looking down at Buckingham
34:46
Palace and we could just see it
34:46
at the end. And I think I said
34:50
to you, I wonder what the Queen
34:50
thinks when she looks out of a
34:53
window and sees all this
34:53
planning going on for this big
34:56
event, and yet she's facing it
34:56
all without her husband who he
35:00
was married to for 70 years,
35:00
over 70 years, and I think
35:04
that's that, for me was the
35:04
biggest sort of thinking about
35:08
loss. while we're in London,
35:08
what a massive thing to go
35:11
through without a partner that
35:11
you've had, you know, I mean, he
35:14
died at just over a year ago,
35:14
but as we know, that's the kind
35:18
of grief it doesn't go away that
35:18
easily and to be doing all that
35:20
going out there at the age of
35:20
96, facing that on your own
35:24
without that partner there. I'd
35:24
imagine that's a really hard
35:27
thing to go through. So I think
35:27
when I think of loss and grief,
35:29
it was the Queen that I was kind
35:29
of thinking about when when we
35:32
were looking at everything that
35:32
was happening. And you know,
35:35
underneath that nice hat, what,
35:35
what is actually going on in her
35:40
head?
35:40
Oh, yeah, yeah, no one,
35:40
well does anyone know?
35:43
No one will know
35:44
Probably not. Well, if
35:44
somebody from Buckingham Palace
35:47
is listening to this podcast,
35:47
then we would love to invite Her
35:51
Majesty the Queen on as a guest
35:51
of The Silent Way. We'd love to
35:56
speak about the loss of Philip.
35:56
But more chance Lin-Manuel
35:59
Miranda will write a musical
35:59
about you riding a subway
36:02
I think she's gonna remain the
36:02
silent queen. The Silent Q.
36:03
It works. Yeah, okay. Certainly,
36:03
I think going back to London and
36:03
escalator. just being in this vast
36:14
beautiful city, loads of space,
36:17
loads of diversity of spaces,
36:17
Green Park, and big city and
36:22
shops and palaces and whatever
36:22
else. You know, it just gives me
36:26
a fresh perspective of being in
36:26
that world, because it's a very
36:29
different world from where we
36:29
live, and we're only what, two
36:32
and a half hours away on a train.
36:34
And we saw brand new
36:34
flats in the Old War Offices
36:37
that face almost onto
36:37
Horseguard's Parade that were
36:41
selling for £12 million. That is
36:41
a different world!
36:44
You found a price for them? Found them on the website today.
36:46
12 million.
36:49
Can we afford?
36:50
Er no. Well, it depends
36:50
if I monetize the podcast,
36:53
If you buy Claire a
36:53
coffee.com. Yeah, you need to
37:02
set up a website like buy me a London mansion.com.
37:04
Buy me a London flat.com.
37:05
Yeah, just one subscriber
37:05
would be great for that, thank
37:08
you, we'd appreciate that.
37:09
I don't even think I could live in the middle of London.
37:12
Phenomenal money.
37:13
Incredible.
37:17
Recently, though,you may
37:17
have you may have seen story in
37:23
Britain recently of the sort of biggest amount won on the lottery just undoing a scratch
37:25
card. And this couple from the
37:30
same county where we live in
37:30
Gloucestershire actually, have
37:33
won £184 million, £184 million,
37:33
and...
37:39
They could buy one of those!
37:40
Can you imagine speaking
37:40
to them as podcast guests? It'll
37:43
be too early to know what they
37:43
lose as a result of that
37:46
absolute windfall. But anyway,
37:46
that's a different subject for a
37:50
different day.
37:51
But if they're listening, www.buymeacoffee.com/thesilentwhy.
37:54
Well tried. Okay,
37:54
anything else to cover from our
37:58
couple of days?
37:59
I just I really enjoyed
37:59
it. And I would reiterate for
38:02
those that are listening, who
38:02
are going through anything, you
38:05
know, grief-wise loss-wise,
38:05
childlessness, for me it just
38:09
feels really healthy to get away
38:09
to get away from the day-to-day
38:13
life. It just felt healthy., it
38:13
felt diverse, it felt busy it
38:17
gave me...
38:18
It was inspiring wasnt' it?
38:19
It gave me context, but
38:19
it just helped me you know, you
38:22
know, all podcast stuff aside,
38:22
it just helped as a, as a
38:25
childless female who can quite
38:25
often get caught up in the 'this
38:28
is what I don't have', 'I don't
38:28
fit in this box', 'this isn't
38:31
really working out', 'this is
38:31
tricky', whatever. To get away
38:36
and focus on something I really
38:36
enjoy like podcasting and put
38:39
everything else aside and not
38:39
worry about whether stuff for me
38:42
just it feels really healthy in
38:42
the same way we've said about
38:44
holidays in the past, they help
38:44
us process and work through
38:46
things. So I would really
38:46
encourage people; don't get
38:49
stuck in your ways and just sit
38:49
at home with stuff if you're
38:51
struggling with things, get
38:51
away, get some perspective. See
38:53
some other people, even just
38:53
people watching, there's
38:57
something about it that just
38:57
makes you realise you're not
38:59
alone. Other people have got
38:59
their issues, they've got their
39:01
problems, and everything's
39:01
probably not as big as it feels
39:03
when you're in your own four
39:03
walls. So for me, it was just
39:06
really, really healthy.
39:11
That's encouraging. That's why we're clearly going back again next year.
39:14
We should go to more. In fact, there's a podcast conference in America in August.
39:20
We need a few more
39:20
subscribers for that to happen.
39:25
www.buymeacoffee.com/thesilentwhy
39:26
Right. Okay. Well, I
39:26
think we're done on that
39:30
subject, aren't we?
39:31
If you say so.
39:31
We appreciate your
39:31
company. It was a bit different
39:34
this episode, but hopefully you
39:34
found it interesting in some
39:36
And I one thing I do
39:36
just want to point out we've
39:36
way. spoken to a few people and told
39:39
them it's quite hard work
39:41
podcasting together. Nobody
39:41
seems to have realised that we
39:44
often fall out before you record
39:44
these episodes. They say you'd
39:47
never notice. So that's a win.
39:50
We won't speak again for 24 hours after this.
39:52
No, at least.
39:53
Because you called me a 'Watch *******'. [laughes]. Breaking news by the way, well
39:58
it's not breaking news anymore,
40:01
because it's something we discovered about an hour ago, that we've been heard on nearly
40:03
every continent of the world.
40:06
Yes, very exciting.
40:08
Six continents of the
40:08
world, not in Antarctica,
40:11
there's probably just a lot of
40:11
white noise in Antarctica
40:13
Because of the snow?
40:14
Yes. So thank you for
40:14
joining us in this very strange
40:19
episode. Even if you're not in
40:19
Antarctica, we really appreciate
40:23
your support in spreading the
40:23
word, we're especially fond of
40:26
you. And maybe you know someone
40:26
that's gone through a particular
40:30
loss that we've covered so far
40:30
in our mission to explore 101
40:33
different types of loss, maybe
40:33
you know someone whose marriage
40:36
has broken down, or they've lost
40:36
a loved one, or a physical sort
40:40
of body part, a the loss there.
40:40
And you could share with them
40:43
one of the episodes that we've
40:43
done already in the first twenty
40:46
or so that we've done, that'll
40:46
be the biggest way to support us
40:49
really, word of mouth is key for
40:49
us in podcasting.
40:52
I think the conference
40:52
confirmed that, again, it's one
40:54
of THE ways of spreading the
40:54
word for podcasting. So yes,
40:57
please tell other people about
40:57
us. And if you want to see our
41:01
guests, you can actually do that
41:01
on our social media. And I'm
41:04
becoming increasingly aware that
41:04
a lot of people listen to us,
41:07
which is fantastic. But they
41:07
just go to their podcast app,
41:10
open it up, listen, and then
41:10
move on to the next one or
41:12
whatever. If you go to our
41:12
Instagram, Twitter, Facebook,
41:15
LinkedIn, any of those, you'll
41:15
see pictures of the guests that
41:19
we're interviewing, and the
41:19
people we're chatting to.
41:24
Easy to find us on all
41:24
those social media platforms
41:27
just search for The Silent Why.
41:27
Or to be specific
41:30
@thesilentwhypod. We've got
41:30
website as well, all the details
41:34
are on there, www.thesilentwhy.com. So we'll end this episode in
41:36
usual fashion with a lovely
41:39
quote that Claire will read. Now
41:39
this is from Lin-Manuel Miranda,
41:43
the hugely talented guy who
41:43
wrote Hamilton, who has a
41:47
massive brain that Claire's very
41:47
jealous of, is that right?
41:50
I am.
41:51
And when he accepted a
41:51
Tony Award for Hamilton, his
41:54
speech was pretty much a sonnet
41:54
that he'd written for his wife,
41:58
and here's part of that sonnet.
42:00
"We chase the melodies
42:00
that seemed to find us,until
42:03
they're finished songs and start
42:03
to play, when senseless acts of
42:07
tragedy remind us that nothing
42:07
here is promised not one day.
42:12
This show is proof that history
42:12
remembers, we live through times
42:16
when hate and fear seems
42:16
stronger. We rise and fall and
42:20
light from dying embers,
42:20
remembrance is that hope and
42:23
love lasts longer."
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